7 Truths About Female Orgasm

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Misslibra

Friday, January 26, 2001 - 02:36 pm Click here to edit this post

Sorry about the delay to 3#. The Gator had me in a decompression chamber ... feeling much better now.

Truth 3#


Our Partners Need Pointers On What
Turns Us On. What may have sent our mate's previous partner flying across the room from pleasure (although such images of our lover's past sexual encounters do horrific things to the esteem and therefore, in general, should not be conjured) may do nothing for us. Such is the nature of the unpredictable female erogenous zone.



Does your partner know how to trigger the big O?


Our job is threefold: First, we must realize that such differences are perfectly normal; second, we must educate our mates about the variances in female anatomy and orgasmic propensity if they don't already know; and third, we must explain and even (eek!) demonstrate what turns us on.

If you are bold, the direct approach, during or before the act of making love, is the most effective. Tell your partner outright, "I want to show you how I come." Then try to cast aside all modesty and get on with the show.

After your private showing, the transition from self-stimulation to partner participation can be somewhat tricky. Some sex therapists suggest trying this technique: First hold your partner's hand and guide his finger until you have an orgasm. Next time, guide his finger until you're close to orgasm, then let go and have him bring you to climax alone. Finally, let him go the whole way without your assistance.

As you're showing your partner the ropes, keep the lines of communication open, advises Bethany, 26: "Guys have no way of knowing if what they're doing is right, so it's up to us to let them know." With that in mind, keep talking while you're making love, telling your partner gently, so as not to seem demanding or critical, "That's not good now; do more of what you were doing before," or whatever it is that triggers your orgasm.

If you're so shy about expressing your sexual desires that the idea of putting on such a brazen demonstration is enough to make you want to run to a nunnery, try warming up to the conversation slowly, suggests Elena, 23. "One way to approach the subject is to ask your partner what he likes, and then tell him what turns you on. It can be awkward to say what you like, but if you can't talk about it with your partner, the sex might not ever improve," she says.

A final word of caution: Be very clear when describing what you need. If you're too subtle, your partner won't get it.

Misslibra

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 08:46 pm Click here to edit this post

Truth 4#


Intercourse, Alone, Doesn't Cut It (At Least, for Most of Us). For many of us, foreplay is the real play when it comes to making love. Intercourse on its own is often more of a pleasant afterthought or an erotic prelude to what really gets us going, which, more often than not, is manual stimulation or oral sex. In fact, according to some estimates, close to half of all sexually active women don't have orgasms regularly through intercourse.


Truth 5#


Not All Orgasms Have the Same Oomph. Orgasms can be as varied as good wines. Some spark a quick flutter that doesn't stray far from the source, like a crisp sauvignon blanc on the tip of the tongue. Others ignite a full-body experience with a long, luscious finish, similar to an aged cabernet. However, one type of orgasm should never be considered more desirable than the other, especially because we just don't have a choice on which one will come. If stronger orgasms are valued more than the flightier ones, performance anxiety and frustration to achieve them will surely contaminate our enjoyment of whatever does end up coming.


Truth 6#


The Mind Has More Verve Than a Vibrator You're probably well aware of the mind's uncanny role as gatekeeper to sexual release. A big part of our mental capacity to encourage or withhold those desirable pelvic rumblings revolves around trust.


TRUTH 7#
Orgasms Aren't Proof of Good Sex. Some women might wildly disagree, but the rest of us often find the tender caresses, the naked bonding, and the undivided attention that precedes or follows a hearty romp just as pleasurable as those spine-tapping pelvic throbs. Some men, too, might not be able to comprehend this female concept of passionate lovemaking, but that's their problem.

Sex therapist Dr. Dennis Sugrue, clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Michigan Medical School and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists explains a common dynamic: "The male ego often gets bruised if their partners don't have an orgasm.


The issue gets even more complicated if a woman feels as though something is wrong with her if she doesn't climax. Truth is, it's not that common for women to have orgasms during intercourse. Lovemaking needs to be broadened to a fuller experience, not just limited to penetration."

Orgasms, however, are important to achieve with your partner on a somewhat frequent basis. After all, your mate is the only one who gets to see this completely sexual and vulnerable surrender, and sharing your orgasms with the person you love is a spiritual thing. Don't shortchange yourself if you're not getting them. It can be easy to convince yourself that orgasms don't matter in the big scheme of your relationship because it takes you so long to come and you can just masturbate alone later, but when you do that, you're denying yourself a truly unique and soulful connection with your partner.

Juju2bigdog

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 05:48 am Click here to edit this post

Oh, just great, MsL, now with number 5 you're going to turn Merlin into an alcoholic. We're just gonna pack him up and send him up there to you.

Elitist

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 06:59 am Click here to edit this post

OK, since I finally understand it, I am certain I have had a female orgasm.

Juju2bigdog

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 07:25 am Click here to edit this post

<Juju2bigdog spanks Elitist who barks like a fox and prances off>

Elitist

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 07:29 am Click here to edit this post

Come out and fight like a woman.

Azriel

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 07:50 am Click here to edit this post

OoooOooo! FIGHT IN THE ORGASM THREAD!

~gets some popcorn~

Guruchaz

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 10:18 am Click here to edit this post

This is all so "Jerry Springer".

Ocean_Islands

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 10:41 am Click here to edit this post

Now, Miss Libra, let's test your knowledge. Please post the seven truths about male orgasm.

Guruchaz

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 10:53 am Click here to edit this post

I don't think there's that many for us. uh huh huh

Ocean_Islands

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 11:10 am Click here to edit this post

I know but I want to hear her try.

Juju2bigdog

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 11:23 am Click here to edit this post

Well, dang, I thought I posted something earlier about it not being a good idea for Elitist to fight me since all I know how to do is kill. and then I went over and put an explanation in the personals thread. guess either I didn't post it, or those dang censors got it. Poop.



<Juju2bigdog improvises a water balloon out of MsLibra's expensive french tickler condoms and lobs it at Elitist>

Elitist

Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 01:57 pm Click here to edit this post

LOL Juju, I know you are just talk.

Besides, Andy Kaufmann proved that any male can take any female on one on one in wrestling. And Bobby Riggs proved with Billy Jean King that any man can take on...well maybe that isn't such a good example.