Moondance | Friday, January 26, 2001 - 12:24 pm  Thank you Leapso! Willie you are the best for giving us all the opportunity to express ourselves in this thread ... you were brave enough to start ... thank you! Thanks Norc! That does give me hope ... that's all we as a family have now but nothing was going to happen until he had no one left... Losing his job, wife and the rest of the family obviously didn't work so I pray he has enough strength in his spirit to do the right thing. I am soooo glad your situation turned out! |
Tukuul | Friday, January 26, 2001 - 06:39 pm  Moon, I just read your post above and I'm sorry that it came to that. Maybe some "tough love" will help him open his eyes. One can only do so much and then the ball is in the other person's court. |
Moondance | Friday, January 26, 2001 - 07:15 pm  Thanks for the words Tuk... yes we had no choice unless we wanted to continue the abuse for another 20 years... I can only pray now |
Ducky | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 12:17 pm  Last September I was faced with having to leave my husband of 11 years or stay and continue to take his verbal abuse. He retired and the more the days past the more he would drink. I would talk to him and explain how I felt. He was getting to be very mean and I wanted so much to make things better for are family. We have a five year old son together and he just adores his Dad but I was tired of my son hearing us argue all the time. So the day we were going to spend together as a family and go to the rodeo he had been drinking. To make a long story short it got ugly and for the first time he hit me. I was so shocked that he could do this to me but I was not going to ruin the day for our son (who had been outside playing and did not witness what had happened) I had promised him we would go to the rodeo so we did just me and our son. I then had to decide if my husband was going to continue drinking then me and our son would leave. We did not go home after the rodeo we stayed with family. I think the thought of us moving out and my husband losing both of us set him straight along with allot of prayers and a visit from are pastor we both were able to talk to each other and get things out in the open. It helped us so much just to have a third party in the room as we were talking to each other to but things in perspective. I'm happy to say he has not had a drink since that day and are family has peace and happiness once again. |
Moondance | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 12:24 pm  Oh Ducky!!! Thank you so much for that post... and thank you for coming out of lurking to do so! It gives me hope |
Soeur | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 12:36 pm  Wonderful to read about that Ducky. Your husband is a lucky man. |
Resortgirl | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 02:53 pm  That is awesome Ducky. Your love and patience helped turn your husbands life around. What a wonderful gift for your child. Many people would have given up and walked away when the going got tough. You had the courage to remove yourself from a dangerous situation but yet helped your husband help himself! Bravo. I am sending My prayers for you and your family! |
Ducky | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 04:10 pm  Just had to come and share a little about myself. As you all have really opened up alot since I have been lurking it only seemed fair to share a story. Thank's for reading my words. |
Lancecrossfire | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 04:12 pm  Ducky, thanks for sharing this about yourself. I agree with Soeur that your husband it a lucky man. Go to see extra effort work out for people. |
Hostess1 | Sunday, January 28, 2001 - 04:21 pm  Just for the record, gang: Azriel's prize is awarded tonight. Madame Ducky (lurker extroidinaire) is making an appearance in Player's chat, as Az's prize. Think! they'll get a glimpse from a lurker... Should be interesting! Ducky, you're an interesting lady. And a strong one. So glad you came out of lurkerdom to share that, and look forward to seeing you in chat! |
Willi | Monday, January 29, 2001 - 04:51 pm  Thanks for sharing that Ducky. I am so glad that things have worked out for your family.
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