Self-disclosure

The ClubHouse: The Game II - Mysterious Puzzler: Discussions/Challenges: Self-disclosure

Azriel

Friday, January 19, 2001 - 07:18 pm Click here to edit this post

Self-disclosure Test

I thought this was an interesting test I guess I'm too friendly to strangers, but I NEVER take candy from them, I swear!


My scores :

Family - 81
When dealing with your family, you are able to open up and share your most intimate thoughts and feelings. Although there may be certain parts of your life that you prefer to keep to yourself, you generally feel comfortable enough with your family to self disclose. You feel that they accept you for who you are, and are therefore able to be yourself. You're one of the lucky ones, for being close to your family can be a solid support that keeps you going during the trying periods of life.

Friends - 76

Your results show that you let the floodgates open and share with your pals, no (or few) holds barred. You have reached a level of comfort, trust and closeness that allows you to show even your vulnerable side. The ability to self-disclose is a great tool in any relationship, and will certainly keep the lines of communication flowing between you and the people that matter most to you. If your openness is reciprocated, it should lead to deeper and deeper levels of friendship. Bravo!

Acquaintances - 62

When it comes to minor relationships in your life, like people you've met once or twice at a party or a co-worker you bump into at the photocopier from time to time, you are able to have a friendly conversation. You share a bit about yourself, but don't go on and on about very personal detail. This is a healthy, balanced approach, which allows you to meet new people and let them get to know you without overwhelming them from the start. It should also prevent others thinking that you are distant or unapproachable. As long as you are able to open up more when relationships develop to a higher level, you're on the right track!

Strangers - 72

While not dishing all the dirt on your life, you self-disclose some information to strangers, perhaps when you feel comfortable and unthreatened. Yours is a balanced attitude. Even at that, it could be useful to take a look at the situations in which you self-disclose, and make sure you are not taking any potentially harmful risks. Telling someone in a movie line, for example, the name of the director when you hear him/her asking a friend is probably harmless. However, chatting it up with a stranger in the bar about where you live and work, for example, is potentially risky.

All friendships start out as two strangers getting to know each other. There is nothing wrong with opening up to an individual you feel you have something in common with. If you feel this stranger is someone you could be friends with by all means, get to know each other. Sharing personal information with strangers can be fine as long as you use careful judgment and learn to trust to your instincts.

Spamgirl

Friday, January 19, 2001 - 07:35 pm Click here to edit this post

Hey Az, everyone's in chat!

Family - 77
As above

Friends - 100
Your results show that you let the floodgates open and share with your pals, no (or few) holds barred. You have reached a level of comfort, trust and closeness that allows you to show even your vulnerable side. The ability to self-disclose is a great tool in any relationship, and will certainly keep the lines of communication flowing between you and the people that matter most to you. If your openness is reciprocated, it should lead to deeper and deeper levels of friendship. Bravo!

Acquaintences - 70
As above

Strangers - 54
As above

Guruchaz

Friday, January 19, 2001 - 11:46 pm Click here to edit this post

Overall: 57

In general, your score on the test suggests that, although you may occasionally self-disclose, you tend to avoid sharing too much personal information with other people. You are more likely to open up if someone asks about your thoughts and feelings, if s/he shows interest, or if you know it's a "safe" area to discuss. You might have a tendency to bottle up emotions, which could prove to be unhealthy for you and your relationships. True, self-disclosure can be overdone, but in your case, that's not much of a concern.

Family: 61
Friends: 69
Aquaintances:46
Strangers: 53

Guruchaz

Friday, January 19, 2001 - 11:48 pm Click here to edit this post

Odd how Strangers turned out to be a higher score than Aquaintances.

Misslibra

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 01:48 am Click here to edit this post

Self Disclosure Index
Your score = 49


Family 46

Self-disclosing to family members
When dealing with your family, you share some personal thoughts/information but hold back in other areas.


Friends 59

Self-disclosing to friends
The results of your test indicate that you sometimes open up and talk about your thoughts and feelings with your friends, but are holding back somewhat.


Acquaintances 46

Self-disclosing to acquaintances
When it comes to minor relationships in your life, like people you've met once or twice at a party or a co-worker you bump into at the photocopier from time to time, you are able to have a friendly conversation. You share a bit about yourself, but don't go on and on about very personal detail. This is a healthy, balanced approach, which allows you to meet new people and let them get to know you without overwhelming them from the start. It should also prevent others thinking that you are distant or unapproachable. As long as you are able to open up more when relationships develop to a higher level, you're on the right track!


Strangers 44

Self-disclosing to strangers
While not dishing all the dirt on your life, you self-disclose some information to strangers, perhaps when you feel comfortable and unthreatened. Yours is a balanced attitude. Even at that, it could be useful to take a look at the situations in which you self-disclose, and make sure you are not taking any potentially harmful risks. Telling someone in a movie line, for example, the name of the director when you hear him/her asking a friend is probably harmless. However, chatting it up with a stranger in the bar about where you live and work, for example, is potentially risky.

All friendships start out as two strangers stranger is someone you could be friends with by all means, get to know each other. Sharing personal information with strangers can be fine as long as you use careful judgment and learn to trust to your instincts.

Joni

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 03:20 am Click here to edit this post

:::squints at the screen to see the test:: well my score was an 81. It pretty much told me that I tell anyone everything.. Yup that's me..

Azriel

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 08:01 am Click here to edit this post

Guru, I think alot of times with a stranger we think, I'll never see them again so who cares what they think about me.

Ocean_Islands

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 08:55 am Click here to edit this post

Overall 57. Hey Guru, sound familiar?

Miss Libra whats up with your score that seems pretty low.

Newamush

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 09:12 am Click here to edit this post

Overall: 66 See Guru

Family: 63 See MissLibra

Friends: 86 See Spam

Acquaintances: 60 See MissLibra

Strangers: 52 See MissLibra

Great minds, huh, ML. Interesting quiz. Thanks, Az.

Juju2bigdog

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 09:45 am Click here to edit this post

Okay, only took this one because Newamush said it is interesting. Otherwise, I don't get much of a kick out of these things. I did none of them on the outside board (apologizes to Moon). Or if I did, I forgot about it.

Overall: 44

family: 27

friends: 49

acquaintances: 50

strangers: 50

LOL. Wanna bet Juju gets the lowest score?

<Juju2bigdog whips back into bat cave>

Guruchaz

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 10:06 am Click here to edit this post

That's what I was thinking too, Az.

Guruchaz

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 10:07 am Click here to edit this post

OI, ML has already shared that she is a very private person. Her score makes sense.

Merlin

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 03:34 pm Click here to edit this post

This is my result on this test, disclosure index is 71.
Family 94
Friends 80
Acquaintences 60
Strangers 50

In general, your score on the test suggests that, although you may occasionally self-disclose, you tend to avoid sharing too much personal information with other people. You are more likely to open up if someone asks about your thoughts and feelings, if s/he shows interest, or if you know it's “safe” area to discuss.

When dealing with your family, you are able to open up and share your most intimate thoughts and feelings. Although there may be certain parts of your life that you prefer to keep to yourself, you generally feel comfortable enough with your family to self disclose.

Your results show that you let the floodgates open and share with your pals, no (or few) holds barred. You have reached a level of comfort, trust and closeness that allows you to show even your vulnerable side. You feel that they accept you for who you are, and are therefore able to be yourself.

When it comes to minor relationships in your life, like people you've met once or twice at a party or a co-worker you bump into at the photocopier from time to time, you are able to have a friendly conversation. You share a bit about yourself, but don't go on and on about very personal detail.

While not dishing all the dirt on your life, you self-disclose some information to strangers, perhaps when you feel comfortable and unthreatened.

This test was accurate for how I perceive that I am willing and my tendency to self disclose.

It seems like only Elitist is left to take the test. How about it Elit?

Azriel

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 04:02 pm Click here to edit this post

Merlin, you scored highest with family. Your family must be close :)

Merlin

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 04:49 pm Click here to edit this post

Yes, Azriel, I feel that my family is close.

I am more open than the rest of my siblings. I have not always been that way. It is something that has come about in the last ten years or so, with a big difference in the last three years. I have found that being open has made it easier for them to understand me and when I reveal the warts and ugly spots they continue to love me.

With my daughters, I am trying to encourage them to be open with me. Some are, others aren't. Two of the younger ones are very open. They will come to me about the boys in their lives and keep me up to date with what is going on.
Many times during the day I will get a call and one of them is all worked up and I hear *Dad, you are not going to believe what that jerk has done now*.
After they give me the story, they will ask for my advice. Then I get to give them information on how boys think. Having had experience of being a jerk allows me to give a pretty good insight.

Azriel

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 04:53 pm Click here to edit this post

Awww, we all have our jerky moments. It's sweet that your daughters are so close to you :)

Guruchaz

Saturday, January 27, 2001 - 05:52 pm Click here to edit this post

Merlin, that last sentence pretty much sums up my stay here at the TVCH.