Game II and Reality
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Game II and Reality
Guruchaz | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 07:39 am  I look around outside at what exactly has been accomplished in here on an emotional level and wonder if any of it was strong enough to stick? When I say stick, I mean strong enough to draw lasting friendships and not "five minute" ones. Who knows in the grand scheme of life if any of this really mattered? Some may not have cared in the first place, some may have cared and now find they don't, and others may still care. That can only be answered on an individual basis and based on individual perceptions and feelings. I cringe to think everyone here is just going through the motions. How do you all feel now that the game is over? Do the individuals that remain still make a difference or are they all just another "internet pit stop" for momentary amusement? |
Azriel | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 09:31 am  ~hugs Guru~ There was a lot of emotion for us in the game. It was just amusement and entertainment for most of the people here and that's not a bad thing. That was the intent of the game from it's inception. I don't quite understand what you mean by people here just going through the motions. I look around and see a core group of people that really care about this board and the people on it. I see people like Nos and Sis, to name a few, working hard to continue 'amusing' us. I hope that the friendships I made are strong enough to survive when I can't be around the board as much because I have to work longer hours or have things here in my immediate lil world (like a vacation to Europe) that draw my time away. I think this is just the ebb and flow of life that you are experiencing now. To paraquote George's famous words, 'You need to go with the flow' |
Lancecrossfire | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 05:20 pm  Guru, et al For me, Game I and Game II provided pretty much what I expected in terms of real life. In close, intense situations in real life I would expect that some people really do keep in contact for long periods of time, some intend to, although when removed from the situation, lose some level of feeling with that removal. And there are those that say they will because it's the nice thing to say. Some will also say nothing of the sort, and not keep in contact. In saying that, others may well have experienced something completely different for the situations they've been in--I'm just going from what I've personally gone through or witnessed first hand. I can tell you that there are still people I'm in contact with as a result of game I. That would include players and watchers. The amount of contact ranges from once ever couple of months to pretty darned regular. Even with those ebb and flows Az mentions there can be that in the contact as well. Luke is a prime example of that. After leaving for vacation over Thanksgiving, I hadn't heard from him. He hadn't been on the board at all. He's back now, and I've sent him a message and he's sent one back to me. From Game II I found some new connections. I don't know how long they will last, although I hope for some time to come--only that time will tell me and them how that is going. To answer you last question Guru, I can only speak for myself and am happy to do so. I've been here since close to the very beginning. I enjoy the people and the feel of the place--the environment, if you will that Neil has set up. I plan on being here for as long as I've got a computer connection and this place exists. I know I'm not just going through the motions, and feel that there are a number of people who aren't either (at least as best as I can tell from various levels of interaction). You mention the "big scheme" of things Guru--I guess that is for each of us to define what exactly that might mean. I know that in my ideas of what big scheme is, there has been a difference. I believe this place has given me some chances to become a better person, and I hope I've taken advantage of those chances. To me, that is big scheme. I've also met some great folks either in person, over the phone, email, or just posts. I consider that big scheme. I hope I was able to address what you were get at--and I agree with you completely--it is indeed an individual thing. To quote one of those I consider to be a very good person and was able to learn a lot more about because of the games, "just my two cents worth". |
Noslonna | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 11:11 pm  Nice Lance I love the posters on this board. (E would say, "Nos you love everyone!") lol I don't post much about myself really, except for short little anecdotes occasionally, but I read everything and check in all the time to see what is going on. I have become very fond of very many posters here. Unfortunately for me, I am not a big email fan... years ago it started reminding me of writing REAL snail mail! but I do answer eventually. Occasionally I even send one! I have sustained many online friendships over the years (not just on TVCH) and I believe they can be real and lasting. I needed an outlet that summer when I found BB online. I was fascinated, as so many of us were. It led me to to this board and I have never gotten over the love affair! Lance, I had to smile about the 2 cents worth. I think Flint and Lala would agree that friendships can start online... and who knows where they will lead! (they are gonna kill me i just know it!) To all you that have given me so much, without even knowing it, I thank you!  |
Digilady | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 11:17 pm  Flint and LALA???? Spill! ROFLMAOWMP This is a veritable hot bed of match making, this board. (Pun intended) |
Noslonna | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 11:45 pm  I am dead now fer sure!  |
Willi | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 05:46 am  I came to this board during Big Brother last summer. It was a great diversion for me. From there, I popped in sporadically until the end of Game 1. I began posting regularly sometime after Game 1 ended and even on the days I don't post, I almost always "check in" to make sure you're all ok. It is comforting knowing that this wonderful mixed group of people exists. To answer Guru: For me, I truly do care about the people here. Some I have gotten to know better than others but I still hope to get to know many of you better through time. I know that when I am not able to post for one reason or another or am out of town, I truly miss TVCH. I am always mindful that we are all "real" people here and
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Willi | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 05:56 am  ............... So real in fact that they have to leap out of their chairs to run down the driveway to give their daughter her forgotten library book!
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Rollerboy | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 08:05 am  Hey Guru, hope you're having a better day today. Your post sounded a little bleak and a touch too introspective. I've been here since the beginning also and have always had a good time. What exactly are you looking to get out of this site? I don't really know you, but I always enjoy reading what you have to say and you seem to be the kind of person I would enjoy sitting on the front porch and chewing the fat with (if we were Eskimos ). |
Lancecrossfire | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 08:24 am  Nos starts a new business--Secrets-R-Us. LMAO! |
Willi | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 09:09 am  LOL Lance! |
Digilady | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 09:49 am  She'd be outta business in the first 20 minutes, rofl! We love ya, Nossie. You're one of a kind. |
Guruchaz | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 11:45 am  Rollerboy, I suppose I'm having personal issues that I need to personally deal with. It's a combination of things spanning more than 3 years that I really don't care to go in detail on. As cryptic as it is, I'm trying to sort out who is really who and what is really what (which seems ironic in itself). |
Lancecrossfire | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 01:00 pm  Guru, it seems to a big extent dependent upon your trust level of any given person. If someone tells you that what they are showing is real, and anything they do or say supports it, yet you don't trust they are--well then you won't believe it. I don't know how easy you give your trust, or under what circumstances you can feel confident in others. It seems those things will have a big say in your ability to say who is really who (at least on this board). For those that you don't interact with others than posts, I guess all you have to go by is their words and what others say. (the later may or may not be accurate!) Hope you are able to come to some resolution with the things you are dealing with. I don't know to what extent Game II affected your views of me. I'm more than happy to listen to anything you want to say, or answer whatever questions you might have. That was not one of those "polite offers". I don't make such offers. I make genuine offers or I don't make them at all. |
Bearcatuc | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 01:45 pm  Guru, I found this board about a month into BB. Back then I only read the live feeds. When BB ended I started reading the other threads and got hooked into following Game I. Since then, I check for messages at least 3 times a day. I love this board. I don't post a whole lot (not much of a talker), but I love to read all the posts. I think we have a great online community on this board. |
Rollerboy | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 02:59 pm  Thanks for the info Guru and I can respect your zone of privacy. You just sounded down and I felt the need to try, in my own small way, to brighten your day. If you ever do want to share anything, or need a sympathetic ear, my e-mail add is in the user profiles section. With me, what you see is what you get, and I'm as real as real can be. |
Moondance | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 03:16 pm  Hang in there Guru... it's not called "growing pains" for nothing |
Moondance | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 03:20 pm  Not to get too Astro crazy on you but you are heading into the end of your Saturn return (between the age of 27-29) so it might feel like there are life lessons slamming you but it will out pan out soon. |
Willi | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 03:57 pm  Guru, You keep your chin up hun & I'd "chew the fat" with ya any day of the week as well. Moon is right...Growing pains are painful but you'll come out on the other side...Really.
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Ocean_Islands | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 07:53 pm  Sometimes you just have to stand up, walk out the door, and partake of life. . . whatever it brings. |
Lancecrossfire | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 07:57 pm  OI, hadn't seen much of you lately---glad to have you back posting. |
Ocean_Islands | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 08:08 pm  I try to take my own advice. |
Noslonna | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 11:05 pm  |
Guruchaz | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 07:50 am  It's good to hear everyone's views on this. I had a 2nd revelation yesterday afternoon which helped to alleviate some of the negativity. On top of that, it takes a while for some things that certain individuals tell me to sink in. In less extreme current events, I think better choices would have been made and situations would have turned out better. I made some wrong choices in more ways than one when communicating with certain people here and it's left me wondering what the future holds. One way communication isn't usually a good sign. Lance, don't worry. My views of you have only improved and not to say they were actually bad to begin with. I just wasn't listening very well here. I heard only myself. |
Lancecrossfire | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 09:19 am  Rollerboy, as far as what you see is what you get, I believe that 100%. OI, if we all took the advice of following our own advice, this planet would be one hell of a better place. We all seem to be able to give out advice a lot easier than we can follow it! LOL Guru, glad things are coming to you that are helping you figure things out. One way communications is indeed something to take note of. It could be a sign of something if it occurs over a long period of time. I think there are those here that still hold two way communications with you. It's possible what you are searching or can be found in those--at least in part. Just a thought. |
Digilady | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 10:14 am  Hmmm. One-way communication... Maybe it's just me, but when I find myself in that situation, I quit communicating. Perhaps because, in my case, I have a lot of aquaintances from newsgroups. The occasional one winds up spamming my email with spiritual stuff, really bad jokes, etc. She has this group of people she sends this stuff to, including her family. Me, I don't want it and have told her so on several occasions. Finally I stopped returning any messages she sends. (The bad news: it hasn't stopped her! LOL) But that has worked for me in the past, when someone has worked my nerves. This isn't to say that you are getting on anyone's nerves, only that one-way communication is generally a sign to drop that individual off your email list. If they don't do you the courtesy of responding to you, who needs em? But that's just my opinion. |
Lancecrossfire | Saturday, March 24, 2001 - 02:12 pm  Guru, just checking to see if things are getting any better for you?? I know you'd never give up trying...hope life's pieces are fitting a bit better today. |
Guruchaz | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 07:40 pm  Thanks Lance. I'm doing great and just had to sort some things out and questions and concerns I had. |
Juju2bigdog | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 11:41 pm  Hang on, Gu. I'll get back as fast as I can. Try to keep the fires burning without me.
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Rollerboy | Monday, March 26, 2001 - 07:42 am  Glad to hear you're feeling better Guru. |
Wink | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 09:33 am  Guru the transformation you have gone thru over the past couple of months is really a gift to yourself. As an observer it has been a treat to see you open yourself up, not only to so many new experiences, but also to those of us on the board who have had a kind of superficial back and forth sarcasm fest with you. Moon and Willi are right. Growing pains are "painful" but oh so fulfilling and enlightening. Hopefully we never stop learning and growing and this is an extremely interesting place to do it. You roh. |
Guruchaz | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 06:57 pm  Sarcasm Fest? Sarcasm Fest? We don't need no stinking Sarcasm Fest at the TVCH. Ok, maybe just a little.   |
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