Archive through January 21, 2001

The ClubHouse: The Game II - Mysterious Puzzler: Discussions/Challenges: *~Memories~*: Archive through January 21, 2001

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 09:59 am Click here to edit this post

My brother sent me this link and it brought back lots of good memories. Drive-in Theater

When I was a kid people still actually went to the drive-in theater. They had $1 a carload night at my local drive-in. My parents would put us all in our jammies and load all 6 of us kids in the station wagon and head off for a family night at the movies.

When I was a teenager they changed it to $1 a person on $1 night. We actually stuffed people in the trunk of the car so we could get more in for free.

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 10:37 am Click here to edit this post

Miller Outdoor Theater in Houston, which went by the nickname, 'The Hill', was another place I liked to hang out as a teenager. It was a large amphitheater built at the bottom of a large grass covered hill. They put on free concerts and plays. Two of the plays I remember seeing there were 'South Pacific' and 'Romeo and Juliet'.

People brought blankets, lawn chairs and coolers and stretched out up the hill. You could sit back all comfie and watch a great show with your family for free.

It was also a great place for teenagers to hang out. My girlfriends and I would get all dressed up in our hiphugger jeans and halter tops (I kept my halter tops at my best friends house I wasn't allowed to go without a bra, but what daddy didn't know, didn't hurt him) My girlfriends and I would cruise the hill looking for groups of cute guys.

I, of course, was the bravest of the bunch. When we spotted a group of cute guys they would tell me, 'GET EM!' I would run up to the cutest one and throw my arms around him saying, 'David, David, I didn't know you would be here tonight!'
Then I would step back from the surprised guy and say ' OH MY GOSH! I'm so embarrassed. I thought you were my cousin, David. You look just like him!' The guy usually laughed and then you could stand there and talk to the guys like you knew them. That scam worked soooo good!

Hmmm...it might still work

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:03 am Click here to edit this post

and you looked so innocent in the hot tub. How are men ever going to be able to distinguish?

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:10 am Click here to edit this post

LOL! Sorry if I disallusioned you, Merlin. I'm full of surprises. My favorite song, by the way is, 'Born to Be Wild'

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:26 am Click here to edit this post

What's really strange, Merlin, is that I would run up and hug a stranger, but I would NEVER call a boy that I knew. Everyone knew that ladies did not call young men, after all.

I wouldn't let my daughters call boys either. They thought I was the biggest drag. They whined,'But moooooommmmmm, ALL the girls call boys.'

Hmmmph...my girls DON'T! Now if you want to run up to a complete stranger and hug them....

Guruchaz

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:46 am Click here to edit this post

Oh, like that's safer.

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:51 am Click here to edit this post

Okay, I'm not understanding the logic behind your thinking. How is one acceptable and the other not acceptable?
I have always been confused about the meaning and/or styles of how women flirt. I have never been sure of what the message is behind the flirting and how to distinguish what is what.
Please understand that I am not implying anything is wrong, just that men may not understand what is actually going on. I have noticed our intelligence in this matter has been debatable at times.
Maybe some of the other players in the game can add their perceptions to this topic.
I would think that women would have the same question about the way that men flirt and what it means. Does anyone?

Newamush

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:54 am Click here to edit this post

Boy that does bring back memories.

With my Mom being a single parent, it was the cheapest (and best) nights out we had. The Sunrise Drive-In on Long Island. My mom would pack my, my sister and brother into the station wagon and off we'd go.

It was usually two to three films showing at a time and would keep us entertained for hours. My mom would pull in backwards so we could lay on the blankets we set out in the back of the wagon and all curl up together and watch. I think I remember seeing the first three "Planet of the Apes" in one night at that show.

That theatre was torn down many, many years ago, but I still remember the great times when I go past the spot now (its a mall, yeah progress).

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 11:56 am Click here to edit this post

I'm not saying that my running up to strangers was acceptable, but it was fun :) I wouldn't have told my daughters to do it for sure.

What don't you understand about flirting? Ask and I will attempt to answer. Give me a situation, so I'll understand what you want to know.

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 12:01 pm Click here to edit this post

New, what was it like on a hot summer night? In Houston that meant sweat and HUGE mosquitos. My dad used to buy this stinkyass coil thing at the concession stand that you lit up and it filled the car with smoke. ~cough~ Yeah, I understood why the mosquitos stayed away.

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 12:07 pm Click here to edit this post

okay, let's approach this as if you were advising your son.

why would a woman flirt with a man?
I assume there are different reasons.
Speaking from your own experience and what you have observed of others, give me guidance in how to differentiate the reasons.

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 12:49 pm Click here to edit this post

Keep in mind I am not the spokesperson of all females.

I think a woman generally flirts with a man for one of several reasons.

1)She wants a person to notice her and start some interaction with that person.

2)She likes the feeling of power that she gets from being able to draw the attention of men.

3)She wants the feeling of approval and desire or the excitement of attracting a man.

I'm sure these three don't cover the full range of reasons. I think they are the main ones and I don't think they are any different than the reasons a man flirts with a woman.

I am mystified that men can't tell the difference.
It seems pretty clear to me. If a woman flirts with you and seems genuinely interested in YOU then she is probably doing it for the first reason.

:)

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 12:55 pm Click here to edit this post

and seems genuinely interested in YOU


This is the part difficult to distinguish for men I think. How can we tell if it is genuine or just wanting approval or acknowledgement of them being desirable?

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 01:13 pm Click here to edit this post

Is it totally sexual based flirting, naughty and fun? See #3

Is it totally about HER and how much you adore her and worship the ground she walks on? see #2

Does it go beyond sexual and lead to real conversations about YOU and your feelings? see #1

Just a few examples :)

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 01:21 pm Click here to edit this post

Really, Merlin if you understand why men flirt then woman aren't that hard to understand. I don't take every man that flirts with me serious.

Spamgirl

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 01:43 pm Click here to edit this post

Er, going back to the drive in thing...

Even tho I'm the age of your kids, I used to go to the drive-in... it was so sexy, being in a car... watching a romantic movie... popcorn... butter... I always thought it was such an aphrodesiac...

Never went single, tho... 'cuz I can't drive ;)

Merlin - why does a woman flirt with a man? 'Cuz she can...

I know of a person who, although married, is a lesbian (long story)... she still flirts with men... why? 'Cuz she can... because it's fun...

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 01:46 pm Click here to edit this post

See #2, Spam power muhahahaha

Spamgirl

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:08 pm Click here to edit this post

ROFL

absolutely... that's my kinda flirting!

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:19 pm Click here to edit this post

maybe Spam's answer of because it's fun,
are the ones that are difficult to determine for men.

We think it is because of #1,
and it turns out to be a #2,
and then you begin to wonder about your assessment.

Then you begin to think all the flirting is #2 or #3 because you weren't correct.

Okay, I am admitting to having made a few mistakes and couldn't tell a #1 from a #2 or #3.

Do women have the same problem with men flirting?


Uhhh, Spam, are you coming out?

Spamgirl

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:21 pm Click here to edit this post

Well, when *I* flirt, it's obvious it doesn't mean anything... 'cuz I'm married

Spamgirl

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:22 pm Click here to edit this post

Yes Merlin... I'm coming out of the closet... and saying that... I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU! ;)

Azriel

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:22 pm Click here to edit this post

Merlin, how long does this flirting go on before you find out? That might be your problem. Flirting that starts as #1 can turn into #3 if a woman thinks you aren't really interested in anything deeper than #3.

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:35 pm Click here to edit this post

I just knew there was something I was missing.

There is a time limit factor involved?

Can you give me more information on this?

Spamgirl

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:39 pm Click here to edit this post

Actually, I came out of the closet holding hands with Joni!

ROFL

wink wink Joni

Merlin

Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:46 pm Click here to edit this post

and a few people in here think guru has been different.
I think he has been very consistent, considering who I could use as a comparison. Maybe I'm hallucinating.