* Discussion Topic 2: Making Things Happen or Being Strung Along By Events
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* Discussion Topic 2: Making Things Happen or Being Strung Along By Events
Tukuul | Monday, November 06, 2000 - 01:41 pm  Most people just go through life being in certain stressful situations that they just deal with, wanting things they never get, making more excuses than taking action, and just going through the motions dealing with whatever comes at them on a day to day basis while constantly wishing things were different. Why do you think most people put themselves through this without doing anything about it? What situations in your life could be improved if you took initiative to make a change? What action would you take? |
Soeur | Monday, November 06, 2000 - 02:11 pm  Good thread. My responses are as follows... <Most people just go through life being in certain stressful situations that they just deal with> Is there another option? We gotta deal with it. <wanting things they never get> It really does depends on what the things are. Some process of evaluation and discernment should occur to figure out what really matters to us and then to proceed from there. <making more excuses than taking action> Okay. I do that. Sometimes because I don't care that much. Hey, if something really matters then nothing stops me from working the problem, Houston. <just going through the motions dealing with whatever comes at them on a day to day basis while constantly wishing things were different> That is called being on automatic pilot (best done with the help of medication to mask the feelings of despair and frustration caused by the sense of pointlessness and treadmill quality to living that way) Why do you think most people put themselves through this without doing anything about it? Fear. Lack of confidence and deep seated insecurity. Laziness, a good computer, immaturity, lack of self-examination. What situations in your life could be improved if you took initiative to make a change? What action would you take? Being someone who likes to choose the toughest path and endured the masochistic scourge of obsessive self-examination in my youth I am now pretty grounded and have good coping skills for dealing with lifes challenges and opportunities. At times the aforementioned process was not pretty and I am glad that we go some ways but once but I would not have missed a minute of the ride. To anyone struggling out there who would like some free advice I would suggest developing a very sincere and serious relationship with virtues like honesty and to cultivate a strong sense of integrity in dealing with other people and the world (no matter what the cost). |
Sandyc | Monday, November 06, 2000 - 09:13 pm  This is a good topic. I wish I wasn't so tired and it wasn't so late here so I could really sort out my thoughts. Off the top, I believe that people depend on other people too much. Thinking someone else will make them happy, love them, depend on them, support them, believe in them, etc. Ultimately we want someone to blame. We blame our state of affairs on anyone who happens to be involved or just passing by. We want someone else to make those changes for us. We give them the responsibility of being in charge of our feelings. 'You make me mad, you make me happy' We don't realize we have complete control of our own feelings. We choose how we feel. How can we admit that. What would society be like if we all took responsibility for ourselves? I'm trippin'. I better go to bed. |
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