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Himay10ns

Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 04:07 pm Click here to edit this post
Last year, I purchased three small books titled "If", "If2" and "If3". They are written by Evelyn McFarlane and James Saywell and they are simply questions that begin with "If". These books are great to use in groups to get discussions going and they are perfect for deep one-on-one conversations. I highly recommend these three books and I thought I would jot down some of the questions so we can learn a few things about each other that are a bit bizarre. I realize it's hard to get to all the topics in here, so just answer these at your leisure.

1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?

4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be?

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?

8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of?

10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?

12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?

13. If you were given a yacht today, what would you name it?

14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?

16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?

Ok, I'll stop. Have fun!

Moondance

Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 05:18 pm Click here to edit this post
May ... always a subject to make ya think :)

"If 'ifs' were dollars we would all be rich"

Here is part of my list... I 'll do it in parts

4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?
I want to start a Rescue Ranch ... It would be a sanctuary for abandoned and abused animals ... it would also be a camp throughout the year for inner city/under-previledged children. They come to the Ranch for 2 weeks through out the year ... they would learn to care for animals and just have fun! My Mom (a special Ed/2nd grade teacher) and I have made the plans - even named the buildings ... we don't have the funds or location yet but we wanted to but it into motion ... you never know!

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be? Judgments

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of? The perfume Poison ... can't explain it but I really don't like it!

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?
I don't know ... he never showed up!

14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?
Computer discussion boards :) j/k... I don't drink enough water.

Arreal

Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 05:45 pm Click here to edit this post
#2 I would have liked to have been a healthy child. One without severe asthma.

#3 My name would be Kearie :)

#4 I would be Moon's partner.

#6 I would want to see my daughter's wedding.

#9 dog farts

#14 smoking

#15 buying a boyfriend a car on my credit card.
(really dumb.)

Roger_Ramjet

Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 10:08 pm Click here to edit this post
1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?
To be perfect

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?
nothing--it was decent


3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?
Opus



4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?
To show kids respect has to be earned--and can be earned

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be? That humans can't reach perfection.



6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?
The worst mistake I will ever make.


7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?
Brain--Gingas Kahn


8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?

Fear of being wrong

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of?
The smell of human flesh burning.


10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?

Modern Photography--Damn this guy can capture the human condition on film!

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?
I haven't been on a bad date.


12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?
Somone else getting to keep theirs.


13. If you were given a yacht today, what would you name it?
Today is would name it "Sold", because tomorrow it would be.


14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?
Scratching my feet.

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?
humm?


16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?
In space--I've never been there.

Moondance

Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 10:15 pm Click here to edit this post
That was fun Roger...

Vykin

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 12:49 am Click here to edit this post
Roger thanx I just copied your layout and am stealing it for my answers!

1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?
To die before my son

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?
An incident I observed when I was 5 years old.
(it wasn't an abuse incident, but a traumatic one
I will keep private)

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?

I'm comfortable with my first name


4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?
Substance Abuse: Mission would be to legal charge individuals around a substance abuser who contribute. i.e. Friends/Family of an Alcoholic who are aware of the problem and provide the person with alcohol could be charged with illegal contributing to the abuse of the Individual who is addicted. If say the alcoholic died, criminal charges of contribution to death would be applicable.

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be? I'm not quite sure what you mean,
If I could not know, one thing I know, what would it be? The worst mistake I've made in my life


6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?
The happiest day of my son's life

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?
Same as Roger Brain on (oh what the heck) on
God's body (if there is a god)

8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?

Death before I was ready to die

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of?

The smell of human rotting flesh

10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?
Life Magazine - caption: Its All Optics

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?
Don't recall any worst dates.


12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?
My child

13. If you were given a yacht today, what would you name it?
Rogers answer:
"Today is would name it "Sold", because tomorrow it would be." I can't think of a better answer
than the one Roger posted!


14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?

Smoking

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?
humm?
Every purchase I made on my First
Credit Card (it was an American Express)
before I realized its time to snip it.
16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?
In the ocean. For me thats where life begins

Himay10ns

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 08:01 am Click here to edit this post
2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be? I would like for parents to have argued in front of my sister and I. They always kept their disagreements to themselves. So I grew up believing that in a perfect relationship, you don't fight. When I have problems in a relationship, I just assume it's over because I never learned that you can fight and still be loved.

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?
My real name is Lucy and I have to admit I hated it as a child and was teased unmercifully. But now I love it because it's a name you don't hear very often.

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select? I'd like to see my own wedding day.

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?I'd like to be Nicole Kidman's vagina.

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of? The smell of necrosing wounds.

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it? I once had a guy ask me to dinner. When we got to the restaurant, he asked for a basket of crackers, a bowl of ranch dressing and some jalepeno peppers. He unwrapped all the crackers, and dipped them in ranch dressing and topped them with a pepper. He called it the "poor man's appetizer".

12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be? It would be to save the life of a family member.

14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing? Smoking.

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be? It would have to be the car I'm driving now. I went through a bit of a midlife crisis 4 years ago and purchased an expensive sports car. I absolutely hate it now and wish I was driving something more sensible.

Roger_Ramjet

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 10:08 am Click here to edit this post
May--what is your car? And should I ask about that mid-life crisis??

Himay10ns

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 10:34 am Click here to edit this post
Roger, I drive a champagne Nissan 240SX Coupe, loaded!

It wasn't really a true mid life crisis. I was driving a paid for Honda Accord at the time and I felt like it was a "family" car. I was getting depressed about not being married, so I impulsively bought my little sports car. It's the most impractical thing I own! I can't even fit my groceries in the trunk. And don't even think about putting someone in the backseat!! LOL

Roger_Ramjet

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 10:57 am Click here to edit this post
Did you read my post for favorite material item??? LOL! I can fit groceries in the trunk pretty well. The backseat--I know what you mean by that!!! I can't get my hand between my seat and the back seat--of course I have the seat a mile back--I like streching out when I drive. hahahahaaa

I didn't even bother to put down what I bought brand new last year!! It was enough to talk about my conflict with it--and I don't even have a kitchen table

Xenia

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 11:02 am Click here to edit this post
Ok...I'll try this one.

Good topic, too Himay!!!

1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?

--To live in NYC

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?

--That I grew up on a farm

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?

--Alexandra

4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?

--A charity for children who have died from neglect or abuse. The money would go toward paying for funerals and burials and memorials.

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be?

--The very sick sexual fantasies that go through the minds of many men.

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?

--The day I meet the guy I have a long term relationship with.

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?

--The right leg of an Olympic sprinter.

8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?

--Being abandoned.

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of?

--Shit.

10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?

--Magazine: WIRED Caption: The women who single-handedly changed the Web and how she did it

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?

--It was with the last guy I had sex with. The date didn't last long. We went back to my place and had the worst sex I have ever had in my life.

12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?

--To give my vital organs to someone who really needed them.

13. If you were given a yacht today, what would you name it?

--Sacred

14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?

--Procrastinating

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?

--Clothing from eBay.

16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?

--The North Saskatchewan River

Moondance

Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 02:31 pm Click here to edit this post
Finished the rest of my list
1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?
My family and I would have good health always

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?
Bring my Dad back or maybe I could have convinced him to stop smoking

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?
I love my name and my Native American name.

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?
That special moment when I have met the 'one'

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?
Lucile Ball's Brain

8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?
Abandonment

10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?
Esquire Magazine ... how she conquered Hollywood

12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?
My loved ones!

13. If you were given a yacht today, what would you name it?
Sage

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?
???

16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?
The Appalachian Mountains ... Cherokee Country

Luke

Friday, October 20, 2000 - 02:03 pm Click here to edit this post
1. If you were granted one wish, what would it be?
To be able to conceive and bear a child.

2. If you could, in retrospect, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?
Growing up in an environment and a society that treats homosexuality in a positive way. I would so much have loved to be as out and proud as I am right now back when I was in elementary school and junior high and high school.

3. If you could have chosen your first name, other than your current one, what would it be?
Luke.

4. If you were going to initiate a new charity, what would be its mission and who would it benefit?
Gay youth--to support them in their coming out, to fight gay bashing in schools (physical and verbal, from students and faculty), and to provide better education on gay issues in society.

5. If you could "unknow" one thing you know, what would it be?
All the corruptions of organized religion (especially my own).

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?
My death. I think that the knowledge of the circumstances of my death, as well as my situation in life when I die, would affect the way I live the rest of my life more than anything else.

7. If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be, and on whose body?
Ben Affleck's eyes--so that I could stare at Matt Damon all day long! :)

8. If you had to name your single worst fear, what would it be?
Losing someone to death before being able to say that I love them.

9. If you had to eliminate one odor from the earth, which one would you get rid of?
I'm an extremely olfactory person... I seriously have wondered if my sense of smell is even more precise than even my sense of sight or hearing! And the worst--the one that sends me up the wall worse than fingernails on a chalkboard, would be skunk. That smell stays with me for hours on end, and leaves a lingering dizziness with me for the rest of the day.

10. If you could be on the cover of any magazine next month, which magazine would you want it to be, and what would the caption say?
The Advocate--Second gay man to win a Reality Game....

11. If you had to recall the worst date you've ever been on, which one was it?
All the dates I went on with girls before I came out... It was unfair to them and to me to make believe I was straight...

12. If you had to sacrifice your own life for one thing, what would it be?
Hardest to answer... I'd sacrifice my life for a lot of things. Loved ones, my principles, gay rights-- too hard to narrow it down to one.

14. If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?
Twitching my left big toe. It's a nervous tick, I guess, and I can go through the sole of a good pair of shoes in about 3 months.

15. If you had to name the dumbest purchase you've ever made, which would it be?
An 8-track tape player.

16. If you were cremated, where would you want your ashes scattered?
On the rose gardens at Santa Clara University (if they allowed it)... a lot of memories took place there... A WHOLE LOT....

Moondance

Friday, October 20, 2000 - 02:09 pm Click here to edit this post
Great answers but my fav was:

6. If you could foresee a single day of your future in its entirety, what date would you select?
My death. I think that the knowledge of the circumstances of my death, as well as my situation in life when I die, would affect the way I live the rest of my life more than anything else.

How profound

Luke

Friday, October 20, 2000 - 02:13 pm Click here to edit this post
Thanks, Moon...

But my favorite is the one about looking at Matt Damon all day long! :)

Moondance

Friday, October 20, 2000 - 02:14 pm Click here to edit this post
He is a cutie!!!!!!