Topic # 4 - Sexual Advantages

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Cybil Sheppard has a new talk show, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". She needs some help with the discussion for her next show and thought you folks were the best source around. Here's the topic....discuss!

What is the greatest sexual advantage women have over men...and vice versa? Feel free to demonstrate, if you'd like. :)

Former BB houseguest Karen Fowler will be a guest on Cybil's new show in a few weeks. Just a bit-o-trivia!

Roger_Ramjet

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 05:55 pm Click here to edit this post
Women over men---in general (note that there are exceptions) men are owned by "it" and women know it. Look what men do in order to get sex--give money, give gifts, give power--actaully, men won't give their power away, so I take that one back. They will leave a loving relationship for it!

For Men over women, let me think more on that one.

Moondance

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 06:44 pm Click here to edit this post
Men and women ... two different breeds!

I embrace the difference and I believe there is a big difference physically and emotionally. It doesn't make either one right or wrong just different.

As a woman, I feel sex to me is more of an emotional bond. Men in general have an easier time to draw the line between sex and emotions. Doesn't mean a woman isn't capable of casual sex or a man is capable of sexual emotions, just in general I feel this is the case.

Women (myself) are at an advantage as far as organisms are concerned! I am thrilled that I can have multiple organisms and can recover and go back for more with in minutes! :) but men in general have one to three in a session and they are spent … I have meet some that were capable of more but this is rare. (I would love to be proved wrong.)

I think it's been too long for me to judge!

I may add to this later when I give my eyes a break!

Zebulon

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:35 pm Click here to edit this post
I believe the greatest sexual advantage women have over men is the intensity of their emotion.

You've already seen examples of magnified emotion in the Virtual House and elsewhere on a negative level. When a woman takes that emotion and applies it in a positive direction in a sexual relationship, she creates mutual passion and has the ability to manipulate a man's whole being...and willingly so.


As for men:

Well, first of all, I believe all men should definitely take it upon themselves to privately read some sexual self-help books like "The New Male Sexuality" by Bernie Zilbergeld, "Joy of Sex", and "How To Satisfy A Woman Every Time" by Naura Hayden...just to name a few. The sooner, the better. We simply just don't start out with strong emotional intimacy and this is very important to a woman...both before AND after.

Ok, with all that said, the greatest sexual advantage a man has over a woman is probably the ability to be in a state of perpetual arousal. LOL!

I'd like to hear from the women on what their views are in regard to men's greatest sexual advantage. I'm open to their insight.

Talisker

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:36 pm Click here to edit this post
I don’t know if one sex has an advantage over the other or not but, when it comes to having sex, it seems like the pressure is more on the man to “perform.” I mean, if the guy isn’t in to it (so to speak), nothing is going to happen. A limp dick pretty much ends the party. Maybe women do have an advantage whe you think about it. Even if they are not really in the mood, they are still able to let their partner have a good time. (I think that depends on the depth of the relationship BTW).

I would like to think about this some more and possibly post more later.


Roger: "For Men over Women" - is that how you prefer it??

Zebulon

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:40 pm Click here to edit this post
Moondance,

I think we're both on the same wavelength regarding emotion.

I was wondering what you perceive men's greatest sexual advantages to be?

Roger_Ramjet

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:42 pm Click here to edit this post
Tali--I was referring to men's advantage over women--the second portion of the question. Since you asked though, I have no problem answering your question.

No, I don't prefer man over woman. Prefer the woman on top.

Zebulon

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:49 pm Click here to edit this post
<A limp dick pretty much ends the party.>

Talisker,

That sentence made me laugh (LOL), but I think a man can do a lot of things to keep a woman aroused and still "in the party" if there is stress or performance issues.

Let me also add, there's more a man can do with his penis to arouse her than just shoving it in...to put it bluntly. (no pun intended)

Moondance

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:58 pm Click here to edit this post
Zeb ... the advantage is a disadvantage also!... It is all right to draw the line of emotion and sex sometimes but I feel it is more of a disadvantage most of the time ... I am so trying to come up with a clear advantage. ...

There is the control issue but that could go both ways ... man or woman.

uurrggg... I will get back to you! :)

Talisker

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:02 pm Click here to edit this post
Zeb - I agree there are plenty of other things a man can do. What I meant was sometimes, if a man is having a problem - the stress of not being about to have an erection will cause him to get even more stressed out. Sometimes, this feeling can carry over to the next time.

Men put so much pressure on themselves - and maybe that gives them a disadvantage. In my experiences, it seems that if a woman doesn't get pleasure from having sex, men blame themselves.

It isn't their fault, but they still feel like the responsibility is theirs. So, in that respect, I feel like it is a disadvantage for men. On the other hand . . a man who has a bit of experience and knows just the right things to do can definitely have the upper hand.

In that case . . nobody has the advantage . . everyone is a winner!

Talisker

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:03 pm Click here to edit this post
Roger: I was just teasing - couldn't resist!

Roger_Ramjet

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:08 pm Click here to edit this post
I know you were---just wanted to let you know that sometimes when you ask a question and you really don't want the answer, you may get it anyway! LOL

Talisker

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:11 pm Click here to edit this post
LOL!! Roger - I wouldn't have asked the question if I didn't want to know!

Zebulon

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:13 pm Click here to edit this post
Talisker, I get your point.


Moondance, that's a tough assessment to make isn't it? There has to be some sort of sexual advantage for men, don't you think? It can't all be one-sided in a balanced universe.

Arreal

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:28 pm Click here to edit this post
I also agree that women have the ability to bring the act of sex to a different level than men. Women express emotion so much more than men in everyway. We were biologically created that way. This emotion and ability to express it almost gives her control over how much sexual intensity there is in the sex. A passionate, expressive woman can highten a mans experience.

I think men have the upper hand over women because they do get aroused more easily. Men are often stimulated by the vision of sight. Women are more often in need of emotional and physical stimulation to be aroused.

The topic of impotence, the man who got me the hottest and gave me the most orgasism was an impotent man (dibeties related) The passion in his eyes, his touch was the most arousing thing I'd ever seen. funny how he was still always in the mood. :)

Vykin

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:53 pm Click here to edit this post
Women have only one advantage over men. That is, they can give birth to children. Other than that which is a physical issue, women have no advantage over men and vice versa.
Women or Men "think" at times they have the advantage, but thats a matter of power struggle. i.e. A woman can try show a man she has an advantage over him; A man can try show a woman he has advantage over her.
The reality is, you are only disadvantaged if you allow yourself to be.

Moondance

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 08:55 pm Click here to edit this post
I am determined to find it, Zeb! It's only fair! :)

Xenia

Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 11:17 pm Click here to edit this post
I think the advantage women have over men is that they are raised to believe it is socially acceptable, and expected, for them to be vulnerable and expressive and emotional. This is advantageous for women on so many levels. For example, it gives women a chance to deal with their internal struggles much more openly and freely.

The advantage men have over women is that their social expectations are higher. Because men are expected to have more and succeed more than women, women's abilities are underestimated and often overshadowed while the opportunities afforded to men are more plentiful. And their goals and ambitions are taken much more seriously.

Himay10ns

Thursday, October 12, 2000 - 11:58 am Click here to edit this post
I have to agree with Moon regarding men's advantage over women. In my experience, I find that men are capable of separating sex and emotion. Men can "enjoy" casual sex and feel it is a positive experience as long as they are physically satisfied. I, on the other hand, do not enjoy casual sex and find it difficult to climax if there is no emotional foundation to the relationship. I would go as far as to say that, for me, casual sex is a "performance without feeling". I get the feeling that I have given up a part of my sexual soul without getting any sense of emotional nurturing in return. I don't have sex to feel sexy or loved....I can feel sexy and loved without a partner.

The biggest advantage that I have over a man is that I KNOW my own body.