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Cfan | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 03:44 pm  I just read this topic started by Xenia. It's really interesting. It's funny coming across it because I recently have become friends with someone I met on-line. Not from this site but from the Fox news forum. Anyways, I'm excited because I'm going to fly to Louisiana to meet her for the first time in a couple of weeks. I live in Kentucky. We often wished we could sit and have a cup of coffee together. Now it looks like we'll be able to do that! I really see her friendship as one that will last. Because I've been able to be myself and express my views without fear of ridicule. It's great. She didn't even make fun of me for getting addicted to Big Brother. Now that's a friend! :0) |
Enb | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 05:45 pm  I made friends online years ago, even before the internet, on discussion boards just like this (hence my interest in the online community thing.. ). I still know some of these people today, it's really kind of neat. Don't let any criticism or ridicule get in your way, but don't be suprised if you find things aren't as rosy once you meet her either. It's easy to take things the wrong way via letters and messaging, but it's a great way to communicate I think too. |
Enbwife | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 05:46 pm  I'd like to hear others stories too about this kind of thing. This is my first involvement with discussion boards and I find it totally fascinating. I find that I now look for people regularly, and feel happy when I notice they've posted. It's really weird because I don't even know these people. I felt like I became quite close to the angels during the BBFC missions. It was kind of cool really. Any other stories? |
Wcv63 | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 06:06 pm  My first experience with the online community was back in 1993 with local BBS's, local Bulletin Boards with no real time chat. In my area there were probably about 10 that I frequented regularly and started to feel like I knew the people posting. One of the boards called The Ugly Truth (loved the crowd there) had picnics and I got to meet a lot of the people. What an eye opener. People were nothing like I had pictured. There really was the microcosm of society represented from the computer nerd the Harley dude. I didn't maintain friendships with anyone because life got in the way but it sure was an interesting experience. |
Leap | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 08:07 pm  Okay, I will spill - I married a man I met online. We met thru Yahoo personals and lived in the same city. We both had tried the personal thing before with very little success. I met some okay people and some very crazy people. When I met my now husband, he was exactly as described - which was a first. I will share more if you are interested. |
Cfan | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 08:37 pm  Hi Enb, <<don't be suprised if you find things aren't as rosy once you meet her either.>> Don't worry, I won't. I'm pretty realistic about things like this. I love meeting new people. I'm just excited to finally get to talk to her without having to worry about typing. If you are interested, I'll let you know how it went. I visit her the weekend of the 20th. (couple of weeks) Although this is my first time meeting friends on-line, I have met some of my husbands friends. He's a huge sports fan. We went to an away game once and met with someone he chatted with in Arizona. We are from Louisville,Ky. It was so much fun! His wife and I got along great. They showed us around Phoenix and we had a fun night together. That was a great experience. Another one was pretty bad. Fellow sports fan again, of course. We met them at a tailgating party. Supposedly other people from the chat board were going to be there but it ended up being just us. My husband was disappointed. Felt bad for him. The host was someone I just could not relate to. So I just sat there and ate chicken wings hoping we could just get up and leave. UGH! Leap, What a great story! I would like to hear more. :0) |
Riviere76 | Monday, October 09, 2000 - 11:42 pm  The Game Players' discussion was diverse on this topic, as much as ours are! Sure, I have lots of online only pals for various things. Email only pals, chat only pals, gaming online only pals, BB msg only pals, IRC only pals, yet many are cross referenced as we do more things online together. Some I have met in person several times, or swap snailmail gifts with, phone calls, and so forth. Some kindly let me show their pix on my homepage and vice versa. The pc has made this a smaller planet with so many opportunities to meet people, even if it never gets to a meet offline stage! I was chatting a lot while live feed watching BB at the AOL rooms and 'met' a gal chatting who lives just 10 miles away, near my age, which made us 2 IL residents over 35 who really couldn't take any more of George Boswell or the Rockford hype, and we had a ball. I was using BBSs' when I got my first home pc in '87, then joined TSN (Sierra)in '91 where I met one of my husbands. He was down in Texas, I lived in Alaska, we got to know each other in online chats, emails, letters, calls for a year. I think it's almost easier to get to know someone for real that way, their inner self, that is, providing they're honest, than awkward early dates in person. In person, first impressions can be too oriented on looks, social gaffes, stilted conversation, etc.. Give me a writer any day! I celebrate my 7th wedding anniversary with him Oct 15, and who says these online things never work?? Love the BBFC TVCH site, but I regret the Players have alias names and aren't being real, it's a big enough distraction even to them trying to figure out their real names. I know who they are, and it still distracts me reading posts, have to look at my list to remember. I'd have liked seeing those real folks play by their real names and never will hold their past BB posts against them, but it'd be more interesting by far seeing their personalities interact together as simply themselves. I'm sure some know IDs and it helps them, others seem like they were handed a role in a play and just aren't all they could be.. I've always been Riviere and most sites lucky enough to use my real name or a number with it. Real people don't need a bunch of fake IDs and how can my pals find me if I hide behind a silly nickname? |
Taikogirl | Tuesday, October 10, 2000 - 12:36 am  I met my hubby online. Didn't go lookin' for a relationship, but the relationship found me. We've been together for 6 wonderful years. I've also met some really .... "interesting" folks as well. I never really met anyone scary off line... thank goodness. |
Katie | Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 07:13 pm  I lived in the midwest and right after my divorce I posted on a board for a penpal. I was looking for women were divorced or getting divorced to talk with. I made it very clear I was only looking for a simple pen pal and nothing more. I got 12 answers. 4 were men wanting cybersex, so they were immediately out, 4 were looking for a relationship so they were gone after I explained nicely to them that wasn't what I wanted. That left me with 4 nice guys who were willing to be pen pals. One guy even wrote to me " I accept your conditions for surrender" He made me laugh. These guys lived all over the country and did all kinds of jobs. One was a cardiologist from the east coast, one was a cowboy from Texas, one was an engineer from California and the last one was former IRS investigator. I wrote to all of them with different frequency. In time I lost track of all but one of them. Maybe because that one interested me more then all of the other combined. A couple of months after we started writing he got an 800# so I could call him free and we started talking on the phone. He never called me because he didn't want my number because he wanted me to feel totally safe. After 6 months I gave him the number anyway and we both started talking nearly every night. We got closer and closer and we were by then much more then just penpals. A year after we met by email I flew to where he lived and we met. We have never exchanged picture or descriptions but when I got off of the plane I knew just where he was at the gate and he knew me! How??? I spent a couple of weeks there and it was great. About 6 months later I went back there and spent another couple of weeks and I decided that when my divorce was done I would move there. I know I had to get away from my soon to be ex and that would be perfect. 9 months later when my divorce was final I moved there and I have lived there every since. He and I are best friends plus more. He is my soulmate, my twin soul. It is strange because I only posted that one time and only on a spur of the moment impulse and he didn't read the pen pal area very often but only a couple of times a year. GO S |
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