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Arreal

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:46 am Click here to edit this post
Hi Xenia...

Have you had your daily dose of cookies today? I have some to share with you. :)

Luke...what kind of life supports was he on, if you don't mind sharing.

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:46 am Click here to edit this post
Xenia! Kewl... now its you, me, May, and ArReal... Wanna do each other's hair and makeup? Hehehehehehehe! :)

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:48 am Click here to edit this post
Himay: I just caught your above post: I asked Roger about not getting involved because of his response to me in regard to Gail.

Mantastic wasn't the only one who said derogatory things about my photo. So did Giblets. And both times no one jumped in to say anything. Thus, I concluded everyone thought those comments were acceptable.

(Granted, posts fly by around here and it's hard to catch everything. Also Giblets has said he was joking.)

I also wondered why Roger thought it was inappropriate to bring up family (something that has nothing to do with game) but, seemed to me at that moment, didn't mind my appearance being insulted.

In my defense, I simply asked Gail if the thing she said about her mother was a lie. I always wondered if that had been something made up to bring more drama to her "outing" within the game.

And to clarify to Giblets: My comments about your father were in retaliation for the comment you made about my photo.

But as far as I'm concerned that stuff is all in the past. I don't have my shit in a knot over anything at this moment...

cont...

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:52 am Click here to edit this post
Hi Arreal... well, he has suffered from diabetes for I don't know how many years... I believe his leg was also amputated. He was in bed with his mother on Sunday afternoon, when all of a sudden his mom realized that he was completely unresponsive and drooling. They called the ambulance, and they were able to revive him, but placed him on a heart-lung machine.
My friend spent all yesterday at the hospital, and, together with some friends from church, our pastor, and other family members, they decided to remove him from life support. It took 20 minutes.
Last night I was getting flooded with phone calls from everyone at church--we've selected music, gathered together a choir...I think a bunch of us will spend this evening at my friend's house. Everyone was there last night, but she lives an hour away from me, and so I wasn't able to drive down after last nite's chat. It will be quite a Filipino funeral, which means that there will be services for the next 9 days following the funeral at my friend's house. There are a lot of cultural traditions that we follow after the death of a loved one.

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:53 am Click here to edit this post
Luke, you are a hoot! :)

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:54 am Click here to edit this post
Oooo, bad timing on that post. The "hoot" comment was on your post above about doing hair and makeup, LOL.

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 10:57 am Click here to edit this post
Hehehe... i know May... that's what I liked about chatting last nite... no confusion as to what we were talking about! :)

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:01 am Click here to edit this post
To give info about your two queries:

1) tell me about people crushing your spirit....

That would be a long and involved story. But I will say this. I got into working as a phone sex operator thinking I could handle it and separate myself from the f-cked up energy of the callers. I couldn't. The year and a half I spent doing it, I took just under 2000 calls and it deeply affected me. The job didn't crush me spirit, but it definitely eroded it.

2) tell me why (aside from the obvious) you have such strong feelings about never dating a married man.

When I was 4, my father went away to work and had an affair. He got the other woman pregnant. My parents' marriage was bad even before the affair so it wasn't a surprise he left us for his new family. Of course my mom hated his guts. I never saw him again and grew up dysfunctional because of it all.

That's part of the reason. The other reason is because there was this married guy who really wanted to sleep with me and I kept turning him down. He has this theory that there's some karmic law that states when you are in a life-changing situation you will, at various times in your life be forced into every role in that situation. This is your destiny.

So, according to him, I had been already been the abandoned child, now I would go on to become the woman the married man had an affair with then eventually become the married woman whose husband cheats. Does that make sense?

Even though he was probably full of shit, what he said really freaked me out and I am determined not to be part of that sort of love triangle EVER.

Arreal

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:01 am Click here to edit this post
I'm glad your friend has you Luke.

Will you do My hair and make-up? Would love to see what you could do with this mess of mine.

sorry my response was so slow. I had to reboot. Grrrrrrr.... Anyone wanna trade? hehehe

sorry if the dilli-dough thing bugged ya May.

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:04 am Click here to edit this post
Luke: Are there any traditions that continue after the funeral? Anything family and friends must do, say, over the next year?

I think traditions and rituals are so important when it comes to death. I think it makes it easier to deal with grief.

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:05 am Click here to edit this post
"Dilli-dough'???

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:06 am Click here to edit this post
Wow....thank you so much for sharing that. It's nice to see people allowing themselves to become vulnerable in here. Xenia, I just want you to know you are probably one of the deepest people I have ever come in contact with. And I'm not blowing sunshine up your ass. Because of you, I've actually been searching my own soul to find out where my passions lie. And I'm determined to find out what a mercury retrograde is.

Arreal

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:08 am Click here to edit this post
good for you Xenia. Stay stronge hon.

I bet it was really hard to seperate the two. I can't imagine having a job like that. It would be very tough.

Cookie or rice krispie treat?

I've always wanted a rubber room, not a padded one. You know, put me in a straight jacket and let me bounce off the walls. Doesn't that sound like fun? :)

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:08 am Click here to edit this post
Yes, Dilligaf---->Dillipickle---->Dilli-do. The amazing transformation of my username.

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:12 am Click here to edit this post
"So, according to him, I had been already been the abandoned child, now I would go on to become the woman the married man had an affair with then eventually become the married woman whose husband cheats."

Xenia....don't ever believe that line of crap. YOU have the ability to stop that train wreck of dysfunction. I don't see you playing the role of "victim" very well. That's where thick skin and a brain make all the difference in the world.

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:13 am Click here to edit this post
You guys crack me up!!!

Allright Arreal, since you INSISTING, I'll have a Rice Krispie Treat.

HiMay: Thank you for your openness. :) Hang on a sec and I'll find the definition of a Mercury retrograde.

Then I must be off.

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:14 am Click here to edit this post
Well, this is what we did for my father. The day of the funeral begins 9 days of prayer in the home of the deceased. On the 9th day, there's supposed to be a big gathering of all the family members and after the prayers, you have a big feast... There's another thing that is sometimes done at this feast (we didn't do it, but my dad's relatives did it in the Philippines for him) -- you're supposed to set a place at the table for the deceased person, and fill the plate with food. Nobody touches it until everyone is done, and then the kids are supposed to all eat from the plate to have a long life.
For my dad, we repeated these 9 days of prayer and the feast at the end on the 1 year anniversary of his death.

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:21 am Click here to edit this post
Mercury Retrogrades:

This is an astrological thing. Three times a year, the planet Mercury (the planet that rules my sign, Virgo) appears to move backward for three weeks at a time.

This is what I found at: http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html

"On October 18, 2000, Mercury turns retrograde again, sending communications, missed appointments, mail and the www into a general snarlup! This awkward period lasts for three weeks or so, until November 8. It finally straightens out on Nov 24, bringing things back to normal. Mercury turns retrograde three times a year, as a rule, but the effects of each period differ, according to the sign in which it happens"

"In general, Mercury rules thinking and perception, processing and disseminating information and all means of communication, commerce and transportation. By extension, Mercury rules people who work in these areas, especially people who work with their minds or their wits: writers and orators, commentators and critics, gossips and spin doctors, tricksters and thieves.
Mercury retrograde gives rise to personal misunderstandings; flawed, disrupted, or delayed communications, negotiations and trade; glitches and breakdowns with phones, computers, cars, buses, and trains. And all of these problems usually arise because some crucial piece of information, or component, has gone astray, or awry.

When Mercury is retrograde, everyone's thinking is more introspective and we tend to think about issues and concerns which relate to the sign involved. With Mercury retrograde in Scorpio, people with this sign prominent in their charts will be especially prone to such introspection. There is little choice but to reconsider one's personal views and opinions about life. There is, however, an opportunity to gain insight into one's own ego.

Mercury in Scorpio activates the investigative intellect. The intensity of Scorpio indicates obsessiveness, so it can mean jealous protection of ideas, and in some individuals, a tendency for great secrecy. Knowledge is power, so do not become too stubborn under this influence, or you will be tripped up by the tendency for confusion. The emotional element sharpens the instincts, but with Mercury retro, you can be deceived as to your ability to read between the lines. Methods and motivation for learning, communication and transportation are subject to problems under this aspect. It brings travel snafus and missed appointments of all kinds. Documents can go astray. Be sure to carry a diary and refer to it often."

Basically, it's a time when things have a tendency to go seriously wrong.

Moon knows way more about this stuff than I do.

Roger_Ramjet

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:22 am Click here to edit this post
Folks---Hi!!

I wrote adecent note, went to post it and my computer locked up---been awhile getting back into here. Damn that pisses me off!!!

I don't have tine to recreate it---sorry.

I'll try to get back to all of you in a bit.

Luke, I didn't blow up! hahahhaaaaa

May, I didn't leave till jusr after 4:00--I kept checking in while getting ready for this morning's chemical check/treatment. So sorry I just missed getting to talk to you.

Everyone else--stuff ot say when I return

Xenia

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:24 am Click here to edit this post
Thanks for sharing that with us, Luke. I really do believe doing that kind of stuff makes death a more beautiful rather sad occurance. Take care and prayers to your friend. :)

I'm outta here for awhile.

Thanks for taking an interest in me Himay.

And thanks for being you Arreal.

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:34 am Click here to edit this post
You're welcome Xenia. And thanks for that explanation of the mercury retrograde. I can see where you might be a bit concerned. I learn something new every day!

Hi Roger! I saw that your last post was about 4:14 this morning. I missed you by about 10 minutes!! Oh well, thank you so much for trying. We've had a good morning. I learned some very interesting things about Xenia and Luke has been around most of the morning. ArReal just joined us but she's still fighting the computer demons!

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:40 am Click here to edit this post
Hey Roger! You know what? ever since that first bad experience you had with posting, whenever I need to post a message of more than 3 or 4 lines, i always open my notepad and just write there... then copy and paste... Notepad doesn't crash like my Internet Explorer does! I lost a long one once, and I was pretty pissed... So I vowed not to make the same mistake again! Just a thought...

How are you today? I slept soooo well last night (sorry if I bugged you guys with my snoring... I'm the loudest when I sleep really soundly)

Himay10ns

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:43 am Click here to edit this post
I'm getting ready to head to a 2:00 meeting. Should be a long one! :( I'll try and poke my head in around 4 to see what's going on. Have a good afternoon....

Luke

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 11:44 am Click here to edit this post
Have a great day, May! :)

Roger_Ramjet

Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 12:18 pm Click here to edit this post
Luke-it was only going to be 3 lines!!! LOL!

Then I thought one thing, that made me think of another, and all of a sudden I had one of my usual messages! Oh well--my fault for letting the message grow like that!

Gotta run to do more with chemicals--although his time not doing things where they could explode--just looking at those to see if there are any that might! Gtteing some award too.

Sorry I can't stay!