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Mindyrama | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 09:59 am   Micknrc..I know where you are coming from. I'm from Upstate NY and we are not that different from you city folks..We have this cynical humor/ loud-insult-behavior that is often misunderstood. I am currently living in Houston, TX and I've had people tell me they think I have permanent PMS..*sigh* they just don't get it. We are a funny bunch of people! My bitchy humor/cynicism/sarcasm is lost on these southern folk. My friends and I were just discussing this today (via e-mail), we all live elsewhere and really miss each other. |
Whoami | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 10:21 am   I live in CO, I wonder where I got my cynical sense of humor? The furthest east any family member came from is OK! Our family always picks on each other. My sister's partner is still getting used to this, and sometime's gets a bit hurt by our remarks. We have to remind her we only pick on people we like, and point out a brother-in-law that we never pick on . |
Kep421 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 10:31 am   Hey, I got a question.... If that's the way some people talk to people they love and care deeply about, just what in the world do they say to someone they don't like? Jeez!! I hate to think about it.... |
Car54 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 11:17 am   Kep---jinx! My family does that- one of my uncles once told me, Of course I can pick on you- you are MY family! My mom was always one to be very outspoken- I would wear something new, and she would immediately say-"I don't like you in that dress"- and I said exactly that to her- "Would you say that to a stranger? Probably not-and you are supposed to LIKE me!" |
Crazydog | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 11:40 am   I agree Car, I've found that people sometimes tend to treat the ones they care about most deeply the worst. I know I'm guilty of doing that sometimes to my parents, and they sometimes say, "do you talk to people at work like the way you do to us?" It always makes me feel bad. On the other hand, my best friend occassionally acts like a complete jerk to me, and I put up with it because it's my best friend. Bottom line, I think these kinds of behavior happen because people take each other for granted. That's definitely what I see in Frank and Margarita. The person who is being taken for granted accepts it either because they have to (family) or because they don't want to lose the relationship (friends). |
Car54 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 11:47 am   Crazydog, don't get me wrong, my mom was a great person, it was just that in her family everybody did it! There motto was- nobody from outside the family could ever say anything about their kids, but THEY sure could! I was the only grandchild who didn't grow up in the town where they lived, so when we visited, it was always hard for me to take! |
Whoami | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 11:54 am   Well, in our family we don't pick on how a person's dress looks or anything. We pick on silly things we've done, like saying something that came out sounding stupid, not getting a joke, tripping in public, or something like that. So it's more of a light-hearted humor thing. We're very quick to pick up on these kinds of actions. We love to tease each other. Of course, I call myself stupid and stuff all the time. Like, at work, if I make a mistake I'll say things like, "you idiot!" One day, I did something stupid while at my computer and exclaimed "Stupid!" just as a co-worker walked by. He stopped in his tracks, looked at me and hollered back, "Idiot!" I said, "oh no! I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to myself!" He said, "I know, I thought I'd just help you out!" I guess I was known for calling myself names! |
Meme9 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 12:43 pm   LOL Whoami...the co-worker story sure put on smile on my face.. |
Ophiliasgrandma | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 12:49 pm   I can't imagine being that disrespectful sounding to people I love. It just not the way it's done way out west here in Oregon. We like to show our love for one another in loving ways with loving words. Well, anyway, it works for me. |
Kep421 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 02:24 pm   Jinx back atcha Car, I can't believe you actually used my stranger line!!! I've always said to my children or other family members when they said something not nice "would you say that to a stranger?". I done it so much through the years that it is now somewhat of a family joke. I understand and actually even appreciate a good ribbing or good natured banter between friends and family members, and I think humor in all its forms can bond people as close as love can. But at the same time, I've always tried to encourage my children to try other expressions of affection. My 24 yr old son and I have a continuous conversation where he will make comments about me being an old baby boomer stuck in the past and I will counter with comments about him being a genX'er stuck only on himself. These are good natured conversations and I have even caught strangers smiling at us when we "get into it" in public. And my favorite pet name for my husband is "i-dot", which is a little short idiot. We won't go into his pet names for me.... But we also tell each other at times that we do appreciate each other, and why. We don't let our "pet names" convey all our feelings. And I think that is what is most important. I guess there really isn't any harm done as long as the recipient of the put down feels loved and cherished while they are being trashed.... And thats what I think the problem is with Frank and Margarita...she doesn't feel cherished, heck she doesn't even feel respected by Frank. He shouldn't use those kinds of "terms of endearment" if they affect her that way. BTW, I hope Frank & Margarita win this race!!!! |
Car54 | Friday, November 30, 2001 - 03:12 pm   You know what I was wondering about Kevin and Drew= The pace of the race is so fast- and everyone else is starting to look pretty scruffy-but their heads were perfectly shaved every day right to the end! Wonder how they managed? |
Neko | Saturday, December 01, 2001 - 01:25 pm   I wondered that too.... |
Spygirl | Saturday, December 01, 2001 - 02:13 pm   Remember that they wore hats a great deal of the time. And I'm sure they showered and shaved at each pit stop, which wouldn't be terribly long in between. In the last couple of episodes, the players have gone from one pit stop to the next in the same day. Just a thought. |
Hippyt | Saturday, December 01, 2001 - 08:50 pm   Mindy,I live in Houston,You're talking to the wrong "folks!" And,We Houstonians consider ourselves "city folks" too,we are after all the fourth largest city in the nation. Watch the generalizing there my friend! |
Tbear | Saturday, December 01, 2001 - 11:47 pm   I feel that when you are calling yourself stupid, are timid, don't go for what you want, have low self-esteem...these family jokes can be the reason. They are digsat family members in the form of a joke. I find the best & truly innocent jokes are about things in our everyday lives that we all do, but don't mention outloud. Not a joke at one person in particular and at their expense. Perhaps, if you have a very strong, connected, truly unconditional loving family, then these jokes are possibly withstood & not too hurtful since the family can accept their faults and strengths, knowing that they are completely accepted. This is very rare I would think, if at all possible. It makes sense to me that the Brother-In-Law mentioned in one message is uncomfortable with this and may never be completely ok with it. |
Mindyrama | Wednesday, December 05, 2001 - 10:41 am   Hippyt, I hate to make assumptions, but you being so defensive about Houstonians leads me to believe you are a native?? If that is the case, then you really don't know what it is like to be an 'outsider' here. I find Houston to be a very welcoming friendly city. I like it here, but having said that I have noticed that many people take me the wrong way. And I actually had one native Houstonian e-mail me about the generalization I made above, he was trying to explain to me why people here take me the wrong way. I did not say you weren't 'city folks'. I was saying that upstate NYers (country bumkins)can be similar in some ways to the people in NYC. I was not putting Houston down..this also happened to me when I lived in Holland. It was a country filled with laid back folk and here I was the neurotic NYer. Course most people in upstate NY think I'm from the city, but that's neither here nor there. I wasn't saying that people from Houston have no sense of humor, just that they are a kindler gentler folk compared to the northern east coasters (humor-wise). Course get them behind the wheel of a car, and you will see a whole other side, but I won't go there. I would like to add that of course I know there are many exceptions to the rule, and I have encountered some of these exceptions. |
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