Differences between Bachelor and Bachelorette
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Differences between Bachelor and Bachelorette
Fabnsab | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 10:09 pm     I thought this would be a good place to air our "men are from mars, women from venus" reasons why this show is so different from the "Bachelor." The one thing I have noticed is after two episodes, I still don't know the majority of the guys names. I think it's because of the suits or something because by this time in the bachelor, I know all the girls names. Anyone else have any analysis regarding differences? |
Fruitbat | Friday, January 17, 2003 - 06:16 am     That has happened with me, as well. There are more visual markers with women. Hair and clothing styles vary greatly. The different tone in the house with a group of men vs women is glaring. The men are having a good time with each other, are upbeat and generally more relaxed. The group of women seemed tense for the most part and often catty. So far I am enjoying the Bachelorette more. That may be, in part, due to knowing Trista. |
Mlt | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 06:18 pm     This isn't a difference - yet. But what I've been wondering about comes later. I didn't see the second Bachelor. But I did see the first. If I recall correctly, when it was down to three women, Alex was given a card to give to each of the women on their dates - inviting them to stay the night in some luxurious room together. I'm really curious to see if that will happen here. |
Weenerlobo | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 09:52 pm     I posted this over in the last show's thread and thought I'd plop it in here too, since you created this thread! "Ya know what I noticed in comparison to The Bachelor? And this is purely a man/woman thing. On The Bachelor the women were always asking about Aaron and delving into his personality etc. He would have to usually ask a girl what her tastes and views were in order to find out about her. On The Bachelorette, the guys are constantly yammering on about themselves and rarely ask Trista what she likes and dislikes. Now I don't mean this in any judgmental way at all; it's purely observational. I just think it's funny to watch the differences between how men operate and how women operate. What's even funnier is that before I could mention this to my d.h., he says, "I would just tell her exactly how I am and if she liked it, great, and if not, then there ya go," which made me laugh so hard that I had to explain what I was just thinking!" |
Mack | Monday, January 20, 2003 - 08:38 am     I think what we're really seeing the difference between male and female approaches to dating and mating. Since the female birth rate has slightly exceeded the male rate over the past 20+ years there are actually more "eligible" females than males. It also seems to differ slightly from locale to locale. For instance, here in the DC area it is "reported" that females looking for spouses outnumber males by 6-1. My point is that we're seeing a fairly typical male attitude brought on by years of being able to pick from a wide selection. Even though it's a controlled environment, and there's only one lady, the male behavior hasn't change, at least not yet. Don't be surprised to see the "male bounding" drop to the wayside once the group is smaller. At first it was just a "frat party" and only minor mentions of competition but that will change as the remaining guys are focused more on Trista. If one or two of them really starts to get strong feelings about her then you'll see them start to defend their turf. |
Tabbyking | Monday, January 20, 2003 - 09:13 am     i didn't see any of the bachelor and probably wouldn't admit to anyone over the age of 14 that i watch bachelorette (lol) but, these guys don't seem as backstabbing as women might be. (other than several of them jumping in and taking her away from group sittings, which they had to do to get a moment to try and sell themselves to trista.) the drinking turned into what i can only describe as 'fraternity house', with the guys putting jack out on the lawn a la 'meatballs', and the one dork pretending to eat the pony food. (why was there pony food? to make fun of brook? were there horses around? even if it was dog food, isn't trista allergic to ALL animals?) at their ages, most of these guys should be past the 'binge drinking, practical joking' bit--especially since they don't really know each other. i could see brothers, or guys who have known each other for years, being comfortable enough to act as they did, but in front of strangers you are competing with? yet, trista, for all her 'disgusted' expression, still gave bob a rose. is she picking him to help make the show interesting? (i know i sit home and yell at her to not pick bob, for heaven's sake, don't pick bob!!) she can't really like him if she thought what he did (two things, in my book--1)putting jack outside to start with and then, 2) saying it was up to jack if he wanted trista to know, and then telling trista right off the bat himself...) was so immature and awful. then i scream, "don't pick russ! for heaven's sake, don't pick that weasel!" then there is the 'rumor' of trista already knowing russ. so did the producers set all this up? have her pick him to make out with to get our dander (ACHOOOO! sorry trista! forgot about your allergies! lol) up? it seems to me the few who asked trista about her wants and dreams are gone. editing may play a big part in this, however! i wonder, too, if it's so obvious to those guys left that she has pretty much narrowed it down to her favorite one or two, that they are talking more about themselves--rather than asking about her--to try and remain in the limelight of her attention. from what i pick up from trista, she will be loyal to the person she chooses, if he wants to be the choosee. but she lost a few points with me when she herself let alex stay in touch with her after he chose amanda on the bachelor. i hope she doesn't go behind the back of whomever she chooses, and write and call back and forth with bachelor #2! what goes around, comes around. i would expect, as mack said, that once there are a couple who feel really strongly about trista, and the rose ceremonies approach, there might be some turf skirmishes. let's see if these guys try to build themselves up in trista's eyes by showing her their good qualities, or if they resort to trying to look better by making another one of the guys look bad. will this be like political office candidates' commercials and debates?! do they try to sell their own good points or do they find dirt on their opponent?! did the gals on 'the bachelor' try to build themselves up, or did they badmouth the other ladies? |
Guminherhair | Monday, January 20, 2003 - 08:13 pm     In defense of Bob regarding the telling on Jack issue: Let's not forget that we don't know what hand editing played in how the dishing appeared to go down. I recall Jack saying that he had no problem with Trista knowing about the bad boy games. I'm not sure they showed who Jack was saying this to (I mostly listen to TV while I knit, glancing up occasionally) but in fairness to Bob, I think Jack implied permission to tell. I like Bob. |
Tabbyking | Monday, January 20, 2003 - 09:19 pm     that's okay gumin...i don't like bob. but if we all liked the same guys, there wouldn't be as much fun in watching or discussing this show! there is just something that really bothers me about him and it must be that he reminds me of someone from my past. it was instant and total and i can't get rid of it! bob is the one who said he wouldn't tell, but would leave it up to jack,whether jack said it was okay or not. again, it's cool that we don't all like the same people. |
Lauram | Wednesday, January 22, 2003 - 05:40 pm     These guys seem tobe enjoying their time together. And enjoying the experience they are having. Hey, they have fun with Trista but I don't see any of them as really falling hard for her. Whereas in The Bachelor, the girls fell for the guy early on and they were determined to put their best forward. |
Tabbyking | Wednesday, January 22, 2003 - 06:12 pm     well, anytime you get a bunch of guys together, whether they be 21 or 51, it has the potential for turning into a fraternity party! |
Llkoolaid | Sunday, January 26, 2003 - 04:15 pm     I don't see any differances at all. I see the men acting just as the women did. I think the men keep things to themselves more but I just watch their facial expressions and they seem to go through the same turmoil that the women did during the rose ceremony. So far I have seen the men gossiping, (about the braclet)manipulating,(Rob, talking about the kind of women who could see through a guy like Russ) whining (Brooke and how he didnt get enough time with her) tattling ( Bob about Jack). They might do it with a laugh and make jokes but it is still there. I am waiting for the nut case to come out, I thought Brooke was gonna be the man but he left too early. Anyway I just don't see much of a differance in the way they are reacting except that men can get away with it more than women. |
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