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Zules
Member
08-21-2000
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 12:56 pm
Right now I wish Weinermr would come back here and tell us all what offended him so that we wouldn't be going on speculation. {{{{Weinermr}}}}
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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:04 pm
Weinermr, I try not to make generalized negative comments, but if I have, I hope that you realize that I would never want to offend anybody, especially a person (male or female) as warm, kind, helpful and intelligent as you. I always find your posts helpful and think you are an all around wonderful person. So, I hope that you will take it up with whoever has been offensive and clear the air, and not deprive the people who enjoy your presence.
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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:05 pm
And Yankee, I am sure you looked very cute in between those hot celebrities.
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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:07 pm
right now I realized, Oops I forgot to say right now to the above two posts
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:12 pm
((Weiner))
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Kaykay
Member
01-21-2004
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:16 pm
Right now I hope I didn't offend anyone. I know I'm new to the board and I REALLY don't want to rock the boat. Sorry to all I have offended 
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:18 pm
Right now, I am not really liking everyone feeling so guilty for something we don't even know if we did.
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:23 pm
right now, karuuna, it doesn't appear to be just posts in the last 24 hours, so reading back through them wouldn't have helped you much. weiner stated the last few 'months', he's been more of a lurker... which means there has been an ongoing problem. i also 'felt' it reading some posts in many different threads over the weeks/months. sometimes i would start to type something back about how negative things sounded or how i felt someone might be totally overreacting to a trivial thing a mate had done...then i'd end up not posting them after previewing them. just not worth the fight! but i do understand where (i think, and i could be wrong) weiner is coming from, because i am not a male and i HAVE noticed some 'meanness' toward males in general. i realize there are a lot more female posters than male on tvch, but i don't see the males posting mean stories or trivialities about their ladies or ladies in general. most of the men seem to be very complimentary toward their women, as a matter of fact. i have often read a sasman or weiner post and thought how wonderful and understanding they are (and proud) of their wives. when weiner posted about hair color, i knew it was from being in the know about his weinermrs, and i thought that was pretty neat! i remember sasman posting pics of his lovely wife when she guested on a show where she talked about organizing things. i haven't seen a man post about his wife not taking down an ironing board or hanging her pantyhose over the shower rod! so i am putting myself in a man's shoes and i can see where there are posts that aren't so nice about our menfolk. sure, little things bother us--and i'm sure little things bother men, too; i just don't see the same pettiness from our men who post. JMO
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:24 pm
right now, i don't feel 'guilty'. i feel sad for a member who i really care about!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 1:33 pm
Right now I'm ditto'g Tabbyk's last post.
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Grannyg
Member
05-28-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 2:11 pm
Right now I'm ditto'g Mocha post.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 2:19 pm
Right Now I'm ditto'g TK, Mocha and Granny's posts.
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Karuuna
Member
08-31-2000
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 2:34 pm
Tabby, thanks for your post, and I agree that at times there seems to be a theme here that takes on a tone that is derogatory to men. I personally have posted in response to *specific* items that I felt went over the top. I have also noted previously on this board that I often share Weinermr's dismay at these kinds of posts as well. And I suppose I would here as well, if I had any clue what specific posts he's referring to, and most horrific to me is the thought that it might be something I said. At the same time, I believe that some of that stuff is likely just 'venting", and while it may be insenstive, and/or offensive to some, I'm not sure that there is anyone on this board who has never offended someone else. Myself included, and I'm likely doing it right now. As I said, many times I find things offensive here, or in poor taste, or hurtful, as well. I'm also just saying that I personally find that generalized venting about a situation is often not very helpful, any more than generalized posts about how awful (insert a group of people) are. It's like dropping bombs on a country. You get an awful lot of collateral damage to innocent bystanders, and unintended hurt feelings. Perhaps it is better to be daring enough to be specific, either publicly or privately, rather than risk all that "friendly fire" fallout?
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 2:51 pm
I don't think stating specifics publically is a good idea. All that would do is lead to a war of sorts, with people taking sides. I think if anything needs to be addressed it should be privately. Those who are truly concerned if they have inadvertently said something offensive could say so privately as well through PM. Maybe for the time being, we should just take Weiner's post as an eye opener to our own posts. I do however feel like its much more healthy to vent, including if a DH is just really irritating you for the day. Sometimes just posting about being frustrated about your DH habits might help the poster see how silly the frustration is. Or just release that little bit of steam that needs to be released. Lord knows that for the most part the ladies here still love their DH's no matter how many silly annoying habits they may have (and vice versa) Perhaps just a centralized thread for venting about DH's, (or SO's) where people like Weiner won't need to go. You know, like many of us here don't go to the News and Views. Of course, threads like that can get out of hand too. I just feel like we need to continue keeping this a place to come when we need support (like in venting) without having to walk on eggshells. I don't know. I guess in the long run there are no easy answers. I really respect Weiner for having the courage to come out and say something that maybe other men on this board may have felt. He really put himself out there.
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Ddr
Member
08-19-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:07 pm
Who, well said. I was married to someone who I still love to this day, but his level of emotional expression is extremly reserved. I find it very enlightening and refreshing to encounter a man like Weiner who is willing to share these emotions with us. Thanks and 
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:08 pm
right now, i got out my oscar mayer weiner whistle and tried to play a cheerful little ditty on it, but it didn't work! every note sounded exactly the same right soon, i will take dd out to play golf. my 'weekly freebie' and her 'once-a-month gets to go as my guest' freebie. right tomorrow, back to being behind the counter!
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:12 pm
right now, i ate a chocolate rabbit's ears off. right now, i'm wishing i had given up "picking my belly button for lent", rather than chocolate. because now i cheated and i can't put those ears back. whoever heard of getting a chocolate easter gopher in their easter basket? well, that's what it looks like now. only one thing to do. eat it all.
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Ddr
Member
08-19-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:22 pm
Right now I'm wondering if Tabby has seen the chocolate rabbit with the loooooooong ears? It's like 12 inches high with 8 inches of it being the ears. That's the one I want!
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Rabbit
Member
08-12-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:27 pm
AAAAAccccckkkkkkk !!!!! Just sayin'
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Lucy
Member
10-08-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:29 pm

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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:30 pm
right now, tabby hawks up a hair ball. rabbit, there you be!! i'll bet rabbit would greatly promote the idea of the chocolate easter gopher... 'gofigger'. LOL that's pretty smart to have a chocolate rabbit with loooooong ears, because that's always the part i eat first. with 8 inch ears, i might leave a little chocolate for someone else!
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:31 pm
right now, i think my saliva shorted out my keyboard. now, if ya'll will scroll down to where you don't see the chocolate rabbit's ears, imagine if you will the chocolate easter gopher. do you think it would go over well? i can see everyone's favorite first part to nibble being the little buck teeth LOL
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:36 pm
Right now I'm waving to Rabbit, ltns.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:40 pm
right now, i thought mine looked kinda like the chocolate easter guinea pig. did you know chocolate easter guinea pigs have a hole on the top of their heads?
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Egbok
Member
07-13-2000
| Wednesday, April 07, 2004 - 3:42 pm
Well look who came out of his hutch, although I shouldn't be surprised. Afterall, it's Rabbit's time of year!
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