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The TVClubHouse: Archives: 2004 January - Arpil: SPOUSE OR SO OBJECT TO YOUR TVCH TIME?: Archive through January 12, 2004 users admin

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Rosie

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 9:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Just wondering what your significant others or spouses are doing while you are on the board and how they feel about your spending your time here.

Ruiner

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 9:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My bf could care less. We usually have both our computers up at the same time. He's usually playing games, sometimes I'll join in. Playing games involves 'hanging out' with friends cyberly.

Since we've gotten laptops, now set up in the living room, we're always on line with something or another...meanwhile the house suffers..LOL!!!

Herckleperckle

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 10:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hey, Rosie, I see you're still awake.

First, yes, my dh thinks it's more than a little silly. But more importantly, he realizes that if I see this site as a benefit, then it is my choice and not his.

At first, he would tell me he thought this was all this is a big waste of time. I also detected a bit of jealousy.

But he has calmed down considerably because I am completely open to him looking over my shoulder when I am at this site. I have shared humorous messages (think Adven's posts) and he has laughed in spite of himself. Although he doesn't fully understand the whole deal still, he has stopped fussing about it.

I stand my ground when I believe in something. And I stood my ground throughout our initial rough patch about his concern with me communicating with people I don't really 'know' and spending too much time online.

I'm happy to say that he is respectful of my choices because we've discussed and resolved all of his (unfounded and exaggerated) concerns.

Whoami

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 10:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Herck, your DH needs to come to a Gathering. He'll probably end up joining the board!

Eliz87

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 10:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
No, he doesn't object at all. He doesn't understand why I enjoy the Games area so much though. Just not his bag.

I do try to be considerate and spend time on it only right before bed and in the morning just to pop in to answer the Trivial Pursuit questions. Sometimes I'll pop in in the afternoon to see if there's anything new (but that's just if nothing else is going on and I don't take too long).

EDITED TO ADD: And if he WERE upset, I would be very disappointed in him. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I feel like this is one of my main connections to the outside world!! Also, there's just so many nice people here that I would think twice about HIM if he didn't want me hanging out here. (Of course I've explained to him that there's no cybering here or anything like that -- which I love and so does he I suppose!)

Herckleperckle

Sunday, January 11, 2004 - 11:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks, Who. Actually, I asked him to come with me to the Mystic Gathering in Oct. He agreed! (For now, anyway!) I just KNOW he'll be pleasantly surprised.

Wargod

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 12:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Eliz, I'm so with you on the stay at home mom thing! When I first found chat at TVCH, MOW was working a swing shift. I was working days, so I'd get off work, pick the kids up, come home, and 99% of the time had no adults to talk to til he got home after midnight. Early evenings weren't so bad, but once the kids went to bed, I'd have 4 or 5 hours to myself. He was just glad I found a way to keep myself occupied while he was at work, lol.

Once I quit work, I realized I didn't count on what exactly that meant. Gone was the 8 hours a day that I was away from home, surrounded by other adults I could talk and laugh with. It's kind of hard to go visit my friends who work all day while I'm getting kids off to school, helping with homework, etc. TVCH keeps me sane. While MOW's at work, and I'm at home, I have adults to chat with and I feel like I have some contact with the outside world! Very important to me now.

He understands that and has never had any objection to me spending my time here. He's been involved with almost all of my TVCH meetings, and after the last one signed up for his own account here though he rarely posts.

Urgrace

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 1:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My DH knows that reality tv is what brought me to tvch, so at first he thought I was nuts - for the shows and the boards. It's just not his 'thing'. If he took the geek test he would get a -0 score. (well maybe that is a bit of an exaggeration) It would shock me to see him at a computer.

He has read threads with me and does more often now than before, and he knows I've read something very funny when I burst out laughing. He never questioned my sanity when I invited Moondance to my house, then Buttercup, then we met more people on vacations and in our area. He also recognizes tvch names.

This year we sat down and discussed when and in which parts of the country we would take vacation this year, keeping the tvch gatherings dates in mind!

Texannie

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 7:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
He gets very amused when I talk about my friends, but he could really care less.

Jagger

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 7:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm on here because I have no W/SO to occupy my time so until such time as I do I will continue to hang out here. My roommate keeps commenting to me that I must be on a porn sight to spend so much time on the computer, that pretty much tells me where he spends his time on the computer.

Resortgirl

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 7:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My hubby and kids used to tease me, they would laugh at me because I usually had a funny "smirk" on my face as I read the messages. Now after meeting so many wonderful people from here, they are really happy that I have so many friends here.

Halfunit

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 8:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I think Unit thought I was slightly cracked at first, but then I took him on a couple of roadtrips. Then it was the TVCHers who thought I was cracked!

That was all it took for him to realize what a great group of people visit here. (It also helped that we met on AOL 7 years ago, so he knows that there are decent people behind screen names. )

I do limit my online time when he is home though, which is a BIG reason why I haven't been posting in the evenings as much. As soon as he's back to work, it's back to the keyboard for me, lol.


Hermione69

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 8:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Viggo and Orlando don't like it that I spend so much time here. They think it is bad enough that they have to share me with each other.

Mamie316

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 9:11 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My husband doesn't care in the least. He and my kids actually help me sometimes when I'm in the game room. I think they are just glad I finally found a sight that I enjoy so much. I leave them alone this way!!

Lumbele

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 9:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My worse half couldn't care less about my time at TVCH. We now share the computer room (after graduating to 2 'puters). So when he hears me LOL he asks what's so funny. DH thinks you're all nuts, but nice kinda nuts.
He also contributes to my Trivia answers and I don't give him enough credit for that help. We wouldn't want the competition to know that we are not quite as brainy as we might seem - or not.LOL
Now if only I could get him interested in watching some reality TV shows. Those he is thoroughly disgusted with. Well, at least I got DS interested in TAR. Babysteps!

Tess

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 9:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
taking notes

Juju2bigdog

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 10:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
------> Lumbele

Lumbele

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 11:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Ok, Ok, you two. He does give me wrong answers, too, you know.

Sillycalimomma

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 11:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
He could care less that I am here, just throws a fit because I only use the laptop. Between him and the DD it is a miracle I find any time to get to TVCH at all!

Kristylovesbb

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 11:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Well hubby has come a long way with my computer time. He used to really resent it. I am a stay at home wife and I need to communicate with people so he finally accepted it.

Now the parrots, that is a different story. They get mad as heck and hate me being on the computer so much. They don't even like me being on the telephone!LOL

While typing this I realized I have too many bosses! Hey, maybe that is why I don't get paid cause I don't listen to any of them.

Hippyt

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 12:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My Hubby doesn't mind at all. He has his own computer. He likes hearing the stories from the people here. And he likes reality tv too. As a matter of fact,he is going to the Las Vegas meeting in the summer to meet a lot of fellow TVCHer's.

Tess

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 12:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lumbele, I don't care if you ask the whole family for answers (I would if I were playing) but no googling or use of other reference materials. which I KNOW you are not using.

Hippyt

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 12:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh,I'm a stay at home mom too,and sometimes this is the only place that keeps me from falling over the edge of insanity! :)

Reiki

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 1:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I ask mom for help with the answers to some of the trivia questions from her era. She knew immediately that Perry Como had been a barber.

Tess

Monday, January 12, 2004 - 1:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Reiki, I would be hurt if Mom didn't help out with Trivia. :) Wonder how she likes the new version? We'll be going back to the old one when Juju gets home...her being an old folk and all.