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Froggiegirl621
Member
02-14-2003
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 12:42 pm
Our date is Oct. 22, 2005...20 months away! Good Lord help me! My cousin is getting married Oct. 9 of this year and she doesn't have too much planning done yet either. Everyone thinks I'm nuts for wanting to book things so far in advance. I'm just afraid if I wait too long things will be booked and I'll have to settle on another venue, photographer, etc. And I refuse to settle. I know what I want and where I want it! My FI thinks the same as Colossus. MEN! They have no clue. Well, GAL, my thoughts are with you during your planning process. Good luck!
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Froggiegirl621
Member
02-14-2003
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 12:43 pm
sorry for hijacking the right now thread..oops!
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Not1worry
Member
07-30-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 1:42 pm
Right now I want to tell Froggie and GAL to hang in there. It will be worth a little compromise and gritted teeth to smooth out the details. We put our foot down and had OUR wedding OUR way and went to the courthouse. No family, no friends. (We were on leave from our duty station in Italy) We felt like since my husband's family could not take time from work or afford to come from MI to FL, then we shouldn't have anyone. We ended up upsetting everyone. If I had to do it again, I would have just bought the in-laws plane tickets so everyone could have been present. I had no idea how hurt my parents were until I had my daughter and started imagining her wedding. They've forgiven us, but I know they are still hurt, 10 years later.
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Fluff
Member
07-25-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 1:55 pm
Righ now, I don't understand why I always have a hard time finding this thread when it's right in my face. I'm always searching the list. 
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:03 pm
i think the dollar dance is horrid. my children will not have one at their weddings. when we go to a wedding, we are already giving a minimum of 50 dollars to people we don't know real well, to a few hundred for family members, etc. we usually have new clothes on, have paid travel expenses to get to the wedding, arranged for overnight sitters for the kids when they were small or not invited...weddings cost the guests a lot of money, too! therefore, i think it's totally vulgar to 'ask' for more money. the next time i go to a wedding with a money dance, i am going to go to the gift table and pick my card and cash back up and let my husband 're-gift' when he dances with the bride. 
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Hippyt
Member
09-10-2001
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:18 pm
meow
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:20 pm
meow back!
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Kaykay
Member
01-21-2004
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:21 pm
Right now I agree with Tabbyking. I went to a wedding that was 3 hours away, we had to stay over, it was a cash bar and they did not one BUT TWO dollar dances. To boot - they were tring to raise money to buy a keg for the wedding party - talk about nightmare. Oh, did I mention the wedding was in a barn and I was 6 months pregnant. 
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:36 pm
kaykay, the barn can't be as bad as this: all i can think of is one of my sister's weddings (her 4th or 5th) in the backwoods of oregon with a pit toilet and illegal cabins; and carrots and noodles for food. my car broke down (turns out someone had filled it with diesel) and i had all our camping stuff in it to go to lake almanor on our way back home, it was towed back to ashland, and we had to hitchhike the rest of the way to the wedding--just me and my kids who were small, as husband stayed home in california, where the minister was named 'wing' (wing nut, i called him), i stepped in the hem of my skirt stepping over a large rock and basically dropped skirt on everyone (the female equivalent of dropping trou), half the guests did mushrooms or something, i ate one tic tac for my meal because the lousy food was also enough to feed only half of the number of people there, i chipped my front tooth trying to open dramamine on the way back to ashland, the service station would not take an out of state check (we were about 40 miles from the border), i could not get cash because there were major fires in oregon and the ATM's were all down, the service station would not let me use MY credit card without my husband's permission, and the car mechanic took me for a ride to make sure my car was working well and told me about lawnmowing in the nude. GAL, how's your wedding looking in comparison? 
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:43 pm
Right now I am wondering what a dollar dance is? I did not care one way or the other if I had a wedding cake but it seemed to be something of importance to my MIL. I told her that if she would feel better knowing that there was a wedding cake...all the power to her. I had a wedding cake. 
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:52 pm
Uh, right now I got no gripes, Tabby - if I get my way, we'll be married in a spectacular historic chapel on a windswept hill outside of Lincoln, Illinois and have the reception at the mansion. My new requirements, which I will announce loudly to anyone who challenges me: it will be elegant, it will be intimate, and drinks are on me. The last one's the big one - if I can't treat my friends and family to drinks on my wedding day, I don't want to have a formal wedding at all. Since my mother's (huge) family was raised in the booze industry, well - the bartab will exceed all other costs combined. And that's fine with me. Here's the chapel I'm thinking of - one of our governors was Abe Lincoln's friend and married to the daughter of the guy this chapel was built for. When he died, the flag that draped Lincoln's casket was taken out of the state archives and draped his coffin during the services in this chapel. Robert Todd Lincoln was in attendance. The chapel seats around 75, and has a spectacular stained glass window over the altar - perfect for a dusk, candlelight ceremony. Also, it's on historic Route 66, a theme near and dear to Colossus' heart:

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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:55 pm
spit, the bride dances for money. males have to pay her to dance with them. she has a satin or other purse they slip money into. she dances with a guy for 20 seconds or so and someone pays to cut in. totally vulgar. makes me think of a 'w#ore dance'. sorry, just not acceptable to me! other guests have also voiced their displeasure or disgust to us, but you are made to feel you have to participate. totally classless, tacky, whatever you want to call it!
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:55 pm
Right now I'll explain to Spitfire: a dollar dance is when people attending the reception line up with dollar(s) in hand and give them to the bride or groom as they dance with them. It's a way of making a little money for the bride and groom, but I've always viewed it more as a means to an end of everyone who wants to getting to dance with the happy couple. Nonetheless, we won't be having one - we'll find another way to make sure everyone gets their dance.
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 2:57 pm
now, i would pay to see colossus get his kicks on route 66! that chapel is the coolest! i also agree about an open bar, at least for beer and wine, if you don't go whole hog on it.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:00 pm
Right now, I am saying that chapel is beautiful!
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:01 pm
if i had to go to a wedding where i knew they would be having a money dance, i think i would make up little fliers that said, "i already gave at the money dance" to put inside the wedding card, rather than sticking money inside! LOL either that, or have monopoly money on me for hubby to pay the bride.
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:01 pm
Right now....thanks for clearing that up. It does not really sound like something I would like to do either but everyone has different opinions about things. That sounds to me like something that should be done at a buck & doe or jack & jill...whatever you call it. I have always felt that the wedding is the time for the bride and groom to thank everyone for their generosity and support over their (bride & groom) individual lifetimes. JMO
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Calamity
Member
10-18-2001
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:02 pm
Right now I wanted to congratulate GAL on your engagement! I must have missed it when you announced the happy news. I think your wedding plans sound beautiful! On another note, I also deeply dislike dollar dances (4 d's in a row!). It's just so charming to see the bride act like a taxi dancer. Cough.
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:04 pm
hell, the groom sounds beautiful! he must take after his cyber-mom..... me!
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:08 pm
LOL, Tabby - yes, he is in more ways than one. Thanks, Calamity. We got engaged late October of last year, which is why we're shooting for October of this year for the wedding. That, and I always wanted a fall wedding.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:11 pm
Right now I am wondering what a buck and a doe or jack and jill are??? feeling so very sheltered right now too!
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:16 pm
you'd best get jumping, GAL; a friend's daughter is getting married may 1 and they had 7 or 8 months to plan it. they arranged the place right away and there were two other couples to take it if they couldn't! they first wanted may 8 and it was booked. if they hadn't taken may 1, it would have been months later. dh and i got married in nevada and then had a big party at our house in san jose 6 weeks later. we did all the cooking (a real pig roast--we put two pigs, a huge roast and two turkeys underground with the banana leaves, chicken wire, quarter cord of oak, etc.) and had everything imagineable to drink. it was so much fun! we had to get permission from the fire department to burn 1/4 cord of oak at one time, so they would know not to bring the fire trucks out! we even got a few firemen who showed up to have dinner with us!
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:17 pm
Right now I will tell Texannie that it is a party that is put on by the wedding party. People buy tickets to get in, play games & win prizes, buy booze etc., dance and have fun. They are very popular around here. I really enjoy buck and doe's because people that go usually tend to go knowing they will spend money and have fun trying to win prizes. All the money that is made is donated to the bride and groom to help pay for things.
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:17 pm
tex, glad you asked, because i don't know, either, but didn't want to seem sheltered..LOL
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 3:18 pm
Uhhh, K - I'll tell you something, but promise please everyone will post til it archives so Colossus doesn't see it. Otherwise, I'll be in big shit.
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