Archive through November 10, 2003
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Archive through November 10, 2003
Sasman | Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 08:09 am     aww, the big head was loosing the battle with the little guy for awhile, but I have to go with the little-lady-to-be on this one Still. How about a little itsy bitsy bikini? She was afraid to come out of the locker She was as nervous as she could be She was afraid to come out of the locker She was afraid that somebody would see One, two, three, four, tell the people what she wore It was an itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini That she wore for the first time today. An itsy bitsy teentie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini So in the locker she wanted to stay. Two, three, four, stick around we'll tell you more She was afraid to come out in the open And so a blanket around she wore She was afraid to come out in the open And so she sat bundled up on the shore Two, three, four, tell the people what she wore It was an itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini That she wore for the first time today. An itsy bitsy teentie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini So in the blanket she wanted to stay. Two, three, four, stick around we'll tell you more Now she is afraid to come out of the water And I wonder what she's gonna do Now she is afraid to come out of the water And the poor little girl's turning blue Two, three, four, tell the people what she wore It was an itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini That she wore for the first time today. An itsy bitsy teentie weenie yellow polka-dot bikini So in the water she wanted to stay. From the locker to the blanket From the blanket to the shore From the shore to the water Yes there isn't any more.
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Gidget | Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 01:43 pm     Any chance of finding Stilllurking an appealing best man. Let her take her best shot so to speak. Can't you all hear her pain? She is crying out for a fix up. |
Gidget | Wednesday, October 29, 2003 - 04:48 pm     The top ten myths of marriage By David Popenoe for Discovery Channel The most recent U.S. Census figures confirm what most everyone already knows — divorce rates, indeed, are on the rise. With nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, many couples are starting to re-evaluate their relationships. 1. Myth: Marriage benefits men much more than women. Fact: Contrary to earlier and widely publicized reports, recent research finds men and women to benefit about equally from marriage, although in different ways. Both men and women live longer, happier, healthier and wealthier lives when they are married. Husbands typically gain greater health benefits, while wives gain greater financial advantages. 2. Myth: Having children typically brings a married couple closer together and increases marital happiness. Fact: Many studies have shown that the arrival of the first baby commonly has the effect of pushing the mother and father farther apart, and bringing stress to the marriage. However, couples with children have a slightly lower rate of divorce than childless couples. 3. Myth: The keys to long-term marital success are good luck and romantic love. Fact: Rather than luck and love, the most common reasons couples give for their long-term marital success are commitment and companionship. They define their marriage as a creation that has taken hard work, dedication and commitment (to each other and to the institution of marriage). The happiest couples are friends who share lives and are compatible in interests and values. 4. Myth: The more educated a woman becomes, the lower her chances of getting married. Fact: A recent study based on marriage rates in the mid-1990s concluded that today's women college graduates are more likely to marry than their non-college peers, despite their older age at first marriage. This is a change from the past, when women with more education were less likely to marry. 5. Myth: Couples who live together before marriage, and are thus able to test how well suited they are for each other, have more satisfying and longer-lasting marriages than couples who do not. Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have less satisfying marriages and a considerably higher chance of eventually breaking up. One reason is that people who cohabit may be more skittish of commitment and more likely to call it quits when problems arise. But in addition, the very act of living together may lead to attitudes that make happy marriages more difficult. The findings of one recent study, for example, suggest "there may be less motivation for cohabiting partners to develop their conflict resolution and support skills." (One important exception: Cohabiting couples who are already planning to marry each other in the near future have just as good a chance at staying together as couples who don't live together before marriage). 6. Myth: People can't be expected to stay in a marriage for a lifetime as they did in the past because we live so much longer today. Fact: Unless our comparison goes back a hundred years, there is no basis for this belief. The enormous increase in longevity is due mainly to a steep reduction in infant mortality. And while adults today can expect to live a little longer than their grandparents, they also marry at a later age. The life span of a typical, divorce-free marriage, therefore, has not changed much in the past 50 years. Also, many couples call it quits long before they get to a significant anniversary: Half of all divorces take place by the seventh year of a marriage. 7. Myth: Marrying puts a woman at greater risk of domestic violence than if she remains single. Fact: Contrary to the proposition that for men "a marriage license is a hitting license," a large body of research shows that being unmarried — and especially living with a man outside of marriage — is associated with a considerably higher risk of domestic violence for women. One reason for this finding is that married women may significantly underreport domestic violence. Further, women are less likely to marry and more likely to divorce a man who is violent. Yet it is probably also the case that married men are less likely to commit domestic violence because they are more invested in their wives' well-being, and more integrated into the extended family and community. These social forces seem to help check men's violent behavior. 8. Myth: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex, than single people. Fact: According to a large-scale national study, married people have both more and better sex than do their unmarried ounterparts. Not only do they have sex more often but they enjoy it more, both physically and emotionally. 9. Myth: Cohabitation is just like marriage, but without "the piece of paper." Fact: Cohabitation typically does not bring the benefits — in physical health, wealth and emotional wellbeing — that marriage does. In terms of these benefits, cohabitants in the United States more closely resemble singles than married couples. This is due, in part, to the fact that cohabitants tend not to be as committed as married couples, and they are more oriented toward their own personal autonomy and less to the well-being of their partner. 10. Myth: Because of the high divorce rate, which weeds out the unhappy marriages, people who stay married have happier marriages than people did in the past when everyone stuck it out, no matter how bad the marriage. Fact: According to what people have reported in several large national surveys, the general level of happiness in marriages has not increased and probably has declined slightly. Some studies have found in recent marriages, compared to those of 20 or 30 years ago, significantly more work-related stress, more marital conflict and less marital interaction. Copyright 2002 by David Popenoe, the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University, New Brunswick, N.J. David Popenoe is professor of sociology at Rutgers University, where he is also co-director of the National Marriage Project and former social and behavioral sciences dean. |
Cindori | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 05:33 am     Thanks, Gidget!!! Number 8 certainly makes me feel I'm doing the right thing by marrying my Sasman! |
Sasman | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 06:09 am     awwww my little Cin, you're makin' me blush!!!!!! but i did enjoy last night!!! |
Cindori | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 06:13 am     Sssshhhh, Sin! We don't want Dadven to know we've . . er . . jumped the gun!  |
Sasman | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 06:45 am     here's a preview of what will be taking place during the week long celebration.
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Stilllurking | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 07:30 am     Oh Dear Sis, I am so Happy for you and SAS! BTW, did I mention that Dad told me that you are his favorite AND he's kept his platinum card empty so he can finance your dream wedding? Well its true, so don't you fret. Also, anytime you want to visit Dadven's favorite daughter Stills Island, you are more then welcome to, free of charge, of course, for as long as you like! Now, can we please talk about that dress issue? |
Stilllurking | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 07:35 am     Gidget, It's not my pain, it's Advens pain, bringing up all those things about me and such. I think he's embarrassed to have a spinster for a daughter! Oh, it hurts so to be the black sheep of the family. |
Cindori | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 07:40 am     Yes, dear Still, I believe you mentioned the platinum card. I am, however, still contemplating the dress color . . . until I see how well you do at throwing the bridal shower and bachelorette party! I don't think I can bear to visit Dadven's favorite daughter Still's Island. The pain is too great. I really must have my own. |
Stilllurking | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 08:44 am     Well Gidget and Tabby, I dug my self a little hole w/ my kid sister so we need to come up w/ some fabulous plans for Cin's Bridal Shower and Bachelorette parties. Not to worry though Dad is giving us his Platinum card, so the sky is the limit. So any Ideas or thoughts on what we should do will be greatly appreciated. Do you think we should have a Surprise Bachelorette Party? I know how much Cin likes to run things but maybe a surprise party will be good for her. Anyhow, I'm open to all and any suggestions and help. It must be fabulous or Cin is going to make me wear a Brown or puke (I mean puce) colored dress!! HELP!!! |
Sasman | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 08:51 am     Uh Cin darling - people are looking at me a little weirdly this morning. Don't know what the problem is so I took this self-photo.... btw, thanks for the wild night.... can't remember when I did so many crazy things....
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Sweetbabygirl | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 08:59 am     You've got me spinning right round, right round, round baby! Looks just like the lead singer, lol!! |
Cindori | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 09:14 am     Sin, I particularly enjoyed the edible portion of the evening . . . who knew you could do THAT with jello-shots? |
Sasman | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 10:06 am     I'll have to show you what can be done with dental floss!!! |
Cindori | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 10:19 am     Well then I'll have to show YOU something special, too. Let's see, I'll need a feather, some whipped cream, silk scarves, a ham, and a rocking chair. |
Gidget | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 01:02 pm     They're actually making me earn my salary today. I will contact the bridal party later tonight. |
Gidget | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 04:27 pm     Hi bridal party. Come to my home thread so we can plan. Everyone else stay OUT. We want it to be a surprise. |
Squaredsc | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 04:32 pm     gidget, plz make sure that you send dadven a detailed invoice for the expenses. he's very excited about the upcoming nuptials and loves to be kept informed of the most minute detail. thx. |
Adven | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 05:18 pm     Thanks, Square. I can always count on you. Gidget, I think what Square is trying to say is that the discussion of money is pretty tacky when the happiness of two people is at stake. I must admit, I have often looked to the wallet first, but when the happiness of my daughters is in the balance, I spare no expense. Unfortunately, I'm male, and, therefore, something of a moron, so my suggestion would be to go to Square with anything regarding the wedding. She'll protest from time to time, but I happen to know there's nothing she enjoys more than planning a good marriage. Just take her telling you to go pound sand with a grain of salt and you'll be fine. |
Squaredsc | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 05:21 pm     see adven, you are showing that sensitive side again that we all love. gidget you go ahead and come to me with anything and everything and i will discuss all of the lil details with adven who i know loves to be kept in the loop in these kinda things. |
Gidget | Thursday, October 30, 2003 - 05:22 pm     I always get what I want, Adven. May as well surrendor now and save yourself hours of negotiation It may not be too bad. But then I haven't seen the guest list yet. |
Tabbyking | Friday, October 31, 2003 - 09:38 am     "what the conception! i'm a bridesmaid!!" thanks, cyndori! for your wedding gift, i sent scads of rain to southern california, warm jackets to a shelter, and prayers to all our tvch friends who need them for all sorts of reasons. |
Tabbyking | Friday, October 31, 2003 - 09:40 am     uh, gidget, did what you read state if the sex (number 8)had to be with your spouse for the 'more and better' part? |
Cindori | Monday, November 10, 2003 - 06:32 am     OK, here are my attendants: Maid of Honor - Stilllurking Bridesmaids - Gidget, Tabbyking, Miss_Wings, Ohbrother. Sas, do you have yours chosen? |
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