Fabnsab | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 12:41 am     I am going to be 30 in January. I have planned surprise parties for both of my sisters when they turned 30 and I know that noone is planning a party for me. I don't mind- I am the party person in the family- but here is what I need your opinions on... Is it weird and self-important to throw your own party? I love parties so much and I am always looking for an excuse to throw one and my 30th seems perfect but I don't know if it would be weird to throw it myself. I am not out for gifts, just hors d'oeuvres! lol. Before you say,"how do you know noone is planning a party?" I just know. My sisters and husband don't think that way. I am truly not upset about that because that has always been my role. I just don't know. My husband thinks its weird and I think I might too but I don't know. Any thoughts? Be honest. I would rather know how it would be perceived than people getting the invitation and thinking I am angling for things. |
Whoami | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 01:03 am     A former co-worker threw herself a 40th bash. Why not? Just advertise it as a turning another decade type thing, and specify on your invitations that you prefer no gifts. |
Wargod | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 01:11 am     If I celebrated my birthday, wanted a party, and knew no one was going to throw one for me, I'd throw it myself. Of course, we all know I'm on the weird train anyways, but hey, it's fun. Seriously though, if you want to celebrate your birthday with friends and family, I see nothing wrong with throwing your own party. Your family and friends probably know that you're the party planner and will know that if you want a party you have to do it yourself. I know if I was invited to a party a friend was throwing for themselves, I wouldn't think they were hinting for gifts and wouldn't think it was weird. |
Ohbrother | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 01:25 am     Go for it and have lots of FUN........ |
Tater | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 01:45 am     Throw caution to the wind. Do it for yourself! You never will regret it. I did the same for my 25th. It seems as if everybody thought somebody else was gonna do it. Well, it was one of the best birthdays I've had! GO FOR IT!!! |
Schoolmarm | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 03:19 am     I have always planned my own birthday celebrations. If I don't do it, nobody would. Have a blast! (And NO, it's not strange to plan your own party....just pretend that you are single or don't have any family around!) |
Shefly | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 04:45 am     Go for it and have fun! Why not make it a 70's thing since it's your big 3-0 Have a great one! Bec |
Squaredsc | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 04:59 am     go for it fab!! i haven't had a bday party since i got married and left home. besides who better than you to know what kind of party you want. |
Reiki | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 05:38 am     I say go for it Fab. I am the party planner in my family also. If I had planned my 30th birthday party it would have been much different. It's not that I didn't appreciate the thought people had gone to, but they planned the kind of party they'd like, not the kind I'd like. It was so not me that I refused to let anyone give me a 40th birthday party. I made myself scarce that weekend so no one would even be tempted. Throw your own party Fab. Throw yourself the most fab party you've ever put together. Celebrate you like no one else can. And then come here and tell us all about it. |
Texannie | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 05:41 am     My dh and I did our 30th and 40th parties! They were great fun. We are working on his 50th now! Another friend is turning 50 in January and invited his friends to join him on a cruise (we pay) and we are going. So obviously, we don't think it's odd! LOL |
Secretsmile | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 05:45 am     Inviting people you care about to celebrate something with you is never wrong! Life's too short and you should take every opportunity to share good times with those you care about. Give yourself the party girl! |
Max | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 06:12 am     Go for it! I have a friend who just turned 48 and he's already busy planning his own 50th bash. I'm sure half the city will be there -- this guy can't go ANYWHERE in this town without running into SOMEONE he knows! It's your day and you can party if you want to! |
Bigd | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 06:28 am     Absolutely! Besides, since you are married, you AND YOUR HUSBAND will technically be hosting, what's wrong with your husband throwing a party for you??? Could he pull off a party without your assistance?, probably not, so you could just assist the whole thing! I am the party planner in my family and I would do it for myself. As a matter of fact, I am already planning my 50th party which is still 3 years away! |
Ladytex | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 06:33 am     Go for it and have a blast!! |
Daydreamer | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 06:40 am     I think it's a great idea. I know of people that have planned these types of parties for themselves. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all! |
Lumbele | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 08:23 am     Let 'er rip! There are some cultures where it is expected for the birthday girl/boy to host a party. When we first heard about the North American way of someone else going to that trouble, we were envious. By the time the party started the honoured person would be pooped from all the preparations. So, if you are willing to organise it, then by all means, make your wish come true. After all, it's your birthday! Just remember to also organise yourself some rest, so you can enjoy the festivities. |
Midlifer | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 08:24 am     Ditto everybody. |
Sisalou | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 08:39 am     Fab - I don't think its weird at all. Have a great birthday celebration, you deserve it! |
Egbok | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 08:39 am     Fab, throw yourself a party!! How often do you turn 30? Let me tell you that I'll be turning 50 in January and I'm pretty sure no one is throwing me a party....so I'll putting a little gathering together myself (definitely no gifts expected). I just love being surrounded by family and friends and I'm like you...I'm the family glue who pulls everyone together and we all have such fun seeing how much the kidlets have grown and what everyone is doing these days...almost like a TVCH gathering! LOL!! So go for it Fab and you won't have any regrets, only a beautiful memory of when you turned 30! |
Midlifer | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 09:30 am     Egbok, happy birthday, a little early! I turned 50 this past January, and I'm lovin' it, especially since my 2 kids are out of the house and on their own! Yay! My hubby enjoys it, too! |
Eliz87 | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 10:12 am     I think it's wonderful to throw yourself a party. Everything will be just the way you want it. |
Jagger | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 10:59 am     Sounds pretty unamious, go ahead and throw that wild party. My brother has a party for himself every year, although some years he is the only one who shows up. I'm not much for the parties myself so I would never do it, but than I would never throw a birthday party for anyone else. |
Whoami | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 11:07 am     Eggie, you certainly could pass for a very 30-ish looking 50! WOW! |
Pixie | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 06:27 pm     Plan away!! I threw my own 30th and 40th parties. I'm the party planner in my circle of family and firends. I too am always looking for a reason to gather with loved ones and visit. Have a GREAT time! |
Pamy | Friday, October 24, 2003 - 07:01 pm     I say throw together a great party!! Since you are the party thrower they prolly figure they couldn't do a party as well as you. |