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Cathie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 12:01 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
While making plans for my daughter's May wedding I mentioned to some online friends that we were selecting the cakes for the wedding and several were surprised at the plural use of cake(s). It is customary here to have a traditional white tiered brides cake and a (usually chocolate) sinfully rich groom's cake. Apparently, it isn't a tradition in other parts of the country, so here's a survey to satisfy my curiosity:

Are groom's cakes popular in your area? Feel free to add a description, etc. Where are you?

I'll start with:

Yes - chocolate, garnised with chocolate covered strawberries

N Texas

Eliz87

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 12:05 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
No - we're in Ohio. They sure sound good though!

Ddr1135

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 12:23 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Cathie, in my area of South Louisiana, we have always had a grooms cake.

Here, the groom's cake is starting to have "star quality" sometimes even surpassing the bride's cake.

Recent ones I've seen: Cake tower decorated with chocolate dipped strawberries; a whole table decorated with different chocolate delicacies; groom's cake with golf theme w/white chocolate golf balls layed out on a artificial grass tablecloth; groom who loves to hunt - table decorated with trees sitting on camoflage tablecloth etc.

My best friend is a event designer who does really high priced weddings. He did the wedding for the Blue Dog Artist, George Rodrigue, a few years back. Groom's cake: Two Blue Dog paintings.

Ginger1218

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 12:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
New York City, no, I have never heard of it.

Twiggyish

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 12:40 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Nope not in this area. I have heard of them, but we don't usually have them at weddings.

Daydreamer

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 01:13 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I've heard of them but I've never been to a wedding that had them.

Julieboo

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 01:16 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I've been to lotsa weddings here in Chicago and suburbs and have not seen any groom cakes. (Did see one though in Steel Magnolias.)

Max

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 01:30 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Not so much in Oregon or California, although I think it's occasionally done (mostly by folks who have moved here from other places). :)

Texannie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 02:11 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Must be a Southern thang. Didn't know it wasn't the norm! LOL A think we had one, I don't remember. They are normally chocolate.

Cathie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 03:15 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Sounds like it is a more regional thing, but I'm all for anything that gives me a reason to eat chocolate :) :) :)

I found a bit of history on the groom's cake:

http://www.usabride.com/wedplan/a_groomcake.html

Cathie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 03:22 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Here's a sample of a really sinful groom's cake

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Twinkie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 03:47 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I've never seen it in FL or NY.

Reader234

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 04:00 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I have to vote no and yes... I'm up here in a Chicago area, but, I did have a groom's cake at my wedding (In Northwest IN, and no one knew it was a groom's cake, they thought since I invited my 5th grade class, it was for them... my relatives are from Texas, so the groom's cake is a tradition in my family (Grayson County north of Dallas Texas!!)

Whoami

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 04:07 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
It just seems wrong for the groom to get chocolate!

Schoolmarm

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 04:34 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My mother was a professional cake decorator in Illinois (originally from Iowa)....no grooms cakes here.

My brother got married in Wyoming and had a German chocolate groom's cake in the shape of a pine tree. Appropriate as the bride AND groom worked for the forest service.

I live in Western Pennsylvania and have only played for a couple of weddings here. None of them had groom's cakes either.

Twiggyish

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:13 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I don't think we're southern here in Florida..LOL

Cathie

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:22 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
So far it looks like mostly those with Texas/Louisiana roots are responding positively...interesting! Schoolmarm, was your brother's wife from Wyoming?

Squaredsc

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:24 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
yes there have been grooms cakes at a few of the weddings i have attended and im in maryland.

Tishala

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:28 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Ms Squared, are they southern folks? Maybe that's it.

I hae never seen one--or even heard of it--but I have been mostly to Jewish weddings, which have their own kinds of craziness.

Twiggyish

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I did some searching and found this link on cakes:

http://groups.msn.com/FoodiesCorner/weddingcakes.msnw

There are many variations!!

Azriel

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 07:55 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I'm from Texas and have lived a long time in Louisiana. There is always a groom's cake and it's usually chocolate. Most of them have a theme. A lot that I've seen have a ball and chain on them, others have fishing, hunting, golfing - whatever the groom is in to.

I've never been to a wedding where there wasn't a groom's cake. I thought it was a standard everywhere.

Tabbyking

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 08:03 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
well, Azriel sure fits the TX/LA rule!

Sia

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 10:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
In Ohio there are groom's cakes at all the weddings I attend. It seems to be chocolate frequently, but it's always the groom's favorite type of cake. At my cousin's wedding last month, it was a carrot cake and it was delicious.

I've been married for eight years. This was the first marriage for myself and for my husband. DH requested a chocolate cake, which my mother baked and which she decorated with a ceramic reproduction of DH's golden retriever. She also added photos of my DH and his beloved dog. That's going the extra mile, isn't it?

My mom's only sister, a former professional cake decorator, came out of retirement to do our wedding cake. It was special, very nice, and delicious.

Sia

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 10:39 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
The wedding cake itself can be chocolate, or some of its layers can be chocolate. If one is worried about "impropriety," certainly the cake can be white chocolate--as can the frosting. Martha Stewart *a-haacckkk--insider trading*) featured a white chocolate wedding cake on her show once.

Abby7

Saturday, October 11, 2003 - 10:55 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
IMO, "What is appropriate" for a wedding had nothing to do with what is customary.

Like I said, that is IMO. The most memorable (memorable to me meaning beautiful/personal/not cookie-cutter/customary) weddings/receptions I have been to have NOTHING to do with "what is customary".

This is YOUR wedding....who/what can decide what is right (customary) or not? Only YOU, IMO, should decide what is right for YOUR wedding.

Personal STYLE, NOT custom is what is important IMO.

Again, I emphasize IMO.