Interracial Dating
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Ladytex | Monday, August 04, 2003 - 01:35 pm     dang, SBG and Squared ... now I have that song stuck in my head ... sigh ... |
Sia | Monday, August 04, 2003 - 03:27 pm     Gosh, I need to get out more: I've never heard that song before!! {{{Biloxibelle}}} you truly can learn as much about people based on what they don't say as you can from what they do say. I hope you'll have the opportunity one day soon to speak to the woman who made the scene backstage and say something that will let her know that she's a closed-minded bigot. I wish your "friends" had spoken up to her, but some people are non-confrontational. Well, you're a strong person; I'm sure you'll weed out more folks as you go along. Sad that it's the case today, but there are still lots of people who hold onto old-fashioned racial prejudice. |
Tishala | Monday, August 04, 2003 - 04:20 pm     SBG, I wish I could say I was surprized about what you have said, but I'm not. I found Philadelphia--my hometown--and Boston to be particularly verbose in their opinions about interracial dating. I dated more than a couple African American men in Philadelphia (oh yeah; and in L.A. too) and I knew that I would hear it when I went to South Philadelphia (where I was an *n* lover) and when I was in West Philadelphia (where I was something else. LOL). Lots of this, I think, has to do with the Northeast and its more "evolved" racial politics...because the north never had slavery, they think they are immune to racism. But the fact is that the south, in lots of ways, is much more evolved in terms of racial politics now--even if it took hundreds and thousands of Emmitt Tills to get to that point. But at least people in the south live near people of other races. In the north, they have the Italian section, the Polish section, the Jewish section, the Latino section, the Black section and there is de facto segregation in a way tht seems to me to be more virulent than it is in the south. So I guess I think it's at least partly regional, even if I know it's a real national problem. But I think it manifests itself differently in, say, Philly or Baltimore or Boston (where there are also large enclaves of ethnic whites) than it does other places. Here in L.A., people at least have the good manners to pretend they don't notice or care. Even if they DO care, the pretense is enough for me. |
Pamy | Monday, August 04, 2003 - 07:07 pm     I think those other ladies were almost as bad as the racist lady. I am also wondering if the 'friend' you called told you the whole story. I say screw them all. I have this picture of all 3 of them huddled whispering bad things, then when you confront one she comes up with the story on how she wanted to talk to you. PFFFFFTTT. I am so glad I live in a place that is accepting of all kinds of people and doesn't judge by looks alone. If those ladies were true friends and not 'closet' racists they would have told that lady to go to Hell!!! |
Biloxibelle | Saturday, August 09, 2003 - 10:04 pm     Hi everyone, I want to thank you for the kind words. Lots of updates since my last post. First on the day I posted the director called me to be sure we were going to be at the wrap party this weekend (i'm sure she had a heads up from my "friend" since all the info was sent out in writing on the last day) My son worked to hard and was to good for us to miss the wrap party so I told her of course we would be there. I could tell she was waiting for me to say more but I didn't care too. Fast forward to tonight. We went to the wrap party and all was fine until I decided I needed to say something to the lady who made the fuss. Before I had two words out of my mouth she told me "i know what you want you to say I am here to tell you that you are wrong and you will never change my mind, How while this will never be right and how can you ever "make a black child be white". Excuse me who is trying to make her white, we just love her for who she is. From that point I swear all I heard was BLAH,BLAH,BLAH. I did not want to raise my voice because this night belonged to the actors not me. So my last sentence to her was "I pity you because all you see is color and that is preventing you from knowing an amazing person (meaning my grandbaby) and people (meaning anyone else she discounted due to color.) At which point she raised her voice to the point you could hear a pin drop and told me I swear to this "Hitler was an amazing person also but that don't mean I want to know him!" What does that mean! and that was my reply a big "WHAT?" We left and it became very clear to me I was having a battle to wits with an unarmed person. I told squared in chat that I will make a members folder and post a picture of this darling baby tomorrow when my hubby gets home and shows me how. Again thank you for all the kind words of support. |
Juju2bigdog | Saturday, August 09, 2003 - 10:53 pm     ((((Biloxibelle)))) |
Kstme | Saturday, August 09, 2003 - 11:43 pm     Geez, Biloxibelle! Small minded people living in their small minded worlds. I am so sorry you have had to endure this type of bad behavior. This lady is hardly worth the time of day, is she? |
Squaredsc | Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 10:33 am     belle handled this situation in a very mature way. of course i told her in chat that i wouldn't have. i would've either decker her or went for my weapons or both. again belle, im sorry you had to go thru that. would've been hell up in harlem cause i would've let that place out and probably gotten arrested but i would feel very good about it. |
Pamy | Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 11:09 am     Belle...your comeback to that ignorant woman was perfect and so very true. There are so many things I want to say about that <M> but I know it will get modded. Thankfully there are more people in the world like Belle than like that racist <M>!! |
Costacat | Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 11:54 am     Hi SBG. I'm Caucasian, and I've dated African American men. AFAIK, interracial couples have never gotten much notice here in So Cal. Well, OK, the one time I went with Ray (a very BIG man) to Las Vegas and the two of us went wandering around the Venetian, we did atract some attention. HE says it's cause of me. I say it's cause of him. HE says it was all the men looking at me. I disagreed, naturally! But I think two tall people attracted attention, rather than two people of different colors. <grin> Color, race, sexual preference. It doesn't (shouldn't) matter. What matters is whether those two people are happy. No one, NO ONE, has the right to decide for anyone else who he or she can date/marry/associate with. NO ONE!! |
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