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Ddr1135

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:03 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Kailie asked this question in the Ask Any Question Thread and I thought it would be appropriate to start a thread on this in honor of Valentine's Day....

If you are married, what kind of location did you get married at? If not, where would you like to be married? (Church, outdoors, beach, etc)?

I got married in a very small church with only 8 people in attendance (immediate family only). That's how I wanted it and wouldn't change a thing. Reception was at my mother's house with about 50 close friends and relatives in attendance. To this day I still think I had the prettiest wedding cake I've ever seen!

Squaredsc

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:13 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
good idea ddr, that's my girl. anyhoo, dh and i got married at the courthouse. i was 5 mos pregnant. the skirt i couldn't zip up all the way(it fit fine the week before when i bought it) but had a long whispy blouse over it. the bouquet was as big as my head. dh was late. i was hormonal. my hair was awful. but we had a beautiful and delicious wedding cake.

if i had it to do over i would want to get married on an island somewhere.

Texannie

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
On March 10th this year, my dh and I will celebrate #19. We were married in our church with all the pomp and circumstances. We each had 5 attendants. The reception was in my parent's home. We had strolling violinist on the upstairs balcony and buffets of food set up under canopys around the pool. We had about 400 guests. It really was the most fantastic evening. At about 11, we changed clothes so the photographer and old people could leave and then ended up staying till about 2 AM partying with all of our friends. We still talk about how much fun it was all the years later.

Ddr1135

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:16 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hey Texannie, my son's birthday is March 10th!!!

Tashakinz

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:26 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hubby and I wanted to go to Jamaica and get married on the beach. No fuss, no muss, just us. We figured we'd grab another vacationing couple to be witnesses. My mom and my godmother basically threatened to kill me/disown me if I followed through with that plan. We ended up in church with 200 people in attendance. Of course, hubby & I still had to pay for it...but that's another story.

While we had a good time in the end, it would take more than all of my fingers & toes to count the number of headaches doing it the "right" (their word not mine) way caused. If you haven't married yet and you want the beach or something else non-traditional - DO IT. Don't let yourself be browbeaten into something you don't want.

I plan to ask hubby for that trip for our tenth anniversary.

Lucy

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:29 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I got married in the same church as my Mom and Dad did 30 years earlier. We were married on a warm evening in late September. My sister was the maid of honor and my brother-in-law was the best man. My hubby and I each had a best friend in the wedding, too. We had about 125 guests, made up of family, friends, and people from work (we worked at the same company). After the ceremony we had our reception in the banquet room of our local swim club. My sister gave me some great advice before the wedding. She said, "Enjoy your day, and be sure to stop and smell the roses." I took her advice and enjoyed every minute of my special day.

Lucy

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hey Texannie, 19 years coming up for me, too. Congrats to you!!!

Suitsmefine

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Oh Wow Texannie ours are close....March 19th Dh and I will celebrate our 15th wedding Anniversary! Anyway...We were married in the church My Father was pastoring at the time, My Father and Mother gave me away ( doesn't that phrase sound awful? LOL) and My Brother Married Us.We had mostly family and a few friends....We did the white dress, Black tuxes etc..It might have been small but it was magical to me!

Kaili

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I'm so glad you started this thread- I asked the question and the answer Marysafan gave was just beautiful. I thought about making a thread...haha...the Valentines Day connection didn't even cross my mind.

I asked originally cause my cousin is planning his wedding- the original plan was for a resort in Mexico but not a lot of people were really into it (too expensive for families with children especially). Now they are planning to get married in Vegas which is such a huge switch.

I'm not married and i don't know where I would want to for sure- I just know I would want to be outside and near water.

Twiggyish

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 01:52 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
October 11, 1980 hubby and I were married. Our wedding was in a very pretty church in Ft. Lauderdale. Our reception was at Bonaventure Country Club in western Broward County. It was a beautiful ceremony with candlelight. We had the a huge buffet style dinner with everything on the menu (it seemed), including caviar. It would have been a perfect day...but..at the end of the evening, we were very surprised to find our car had been totally trashed by our "friends". (they were crazy!!) They had butter on the door handles, rice in every crevice inside the car, shaving cream (which damaged the paint), various and sundry unmentionable items inside, and lots of cans trailing about 20 feet behind. To make matters worse, they threw firecrackers over our heads. It really was a wonderful day despite the car, though. We just laughed, waved good-bye and drove directly to a car wash!

Texannie

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 02:01 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Lots of March annys!
Suitsmefine..I didn't have the minister say give away either. I had the minister say "who blesses this marriage".
Twiggy..we had our car sitting out front and center, secretly wanting them to do something. Guess our friends thought it was a decoy since it was so obvious that they didn't do a thing to it. We always felt a little cheated, but after hearing your story, guess we weren't! LOL

Pamy

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 07:00 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My husband proposed 9 days before we were going to Vegas so we decided to get married in one of those drive thru things. My friends heard about it and 14 of them decided they would go, so then we decided we better do it in a chapel. I planned a wedding in less than 9 days and it was beautiful!!! It was 10-10-98
We had our reception back home in CA in Feb 99, it was a vegas themed party. We all wore costumes and got married again in front of everyone. I was a showgirl, Elvis walked my down the aisle, cig girl was my maid of honor, DH was Don King, his best man was a boxer and Liberace married us. He was hysterical! Since we were getting married again I told my DH I would need another ring! We had my mom and dads wedding rings melted together and created the most beautiful ring(my mom and dad had both passed away before I met my DH)Now I have 2 great wedding rings that are so special to me.WE hired a company that brought all the vegas games and dealers and everyone gambled with fake money that was turned in for raffle tix and then we raffled off cool prizes. Everyone said it was the best wedding/party they ever went to.

Kaili

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 07:18 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Pamy- that sounds like fun. Maybe I should suggest something similar to my cousin for his reception. I don't know if they'll all you like you seemed to- but that sounds like a good time.

Marysafan

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 07:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I have always thought our story was bit unique due to the circumstances surrounding our wedding. I apologize for the length.

I met hubby through my boyfriend and introduced him to my best friend. We double dated for over a year during which time he drove me crazy. He was always picking on me for something and never passed up an opportunity to get my goat.

It was the height of the Vietnam war, and he joined the Navy. He and my best friend decided to go their separate ways. When he come home from boot camp in November 1968, he came to see me. We went out "for a coke" and I didn't get home until 4:00am. I was only 18 and my parents were not pleased. At one point that night...he kissed me and I knew right then that he was "the one". We had 4 more dates before he had to leave.

We wrote letters everyday for the next month, then he came home for two weeks at Christmas. He asked me to marry him...I accepted...and his mother went ballistic. The whole town was shocked.

He returned to San Diego and we continued to write daily letters and he would call on Sunday nights for 1/2 an hour. The long distance rates were much more expensive then. I worked the night shift at the hospital while continuing to live at home.

He wouldn't get leave to come home again until at least August...by March we realized that we could end our mutual misery if I would fly out to San Diego to marry him. I talked to my Dad first ...he gave me his blessing and told me that he could see that I was miserable and that if it would make me happy...then I should go...my mother was not so gracious...but accepted it eventually....she had no choice...my mind was made up. My mother and my grandmother made my wedding gown and I bought a one way ticket to go on May 1st.

There would have been much conflict...our mothers never did get along. We both come from fairly large families so a large wedding would have been mandatory...which is something neither of us wanted. So getting married in San Diego seemed like the perfect solution (It was).

Everyone was there to see me off the morning I left...his family and mine...so I was shocked when I landed and learned that while I was in the air...our weddings plans fell apart.

Hubby was informed that in California in 1969, the male had to be 21 ...he was only 20 1/2. He needed parental consent. When he called his parents, his mother declined consent citing that if the State of California said he wasn't old enough...then he wasn't old enough. Hubby said..."I have never asked you for anything in my life...the only thing I am asking you for now is your blessing if you can't give me that...then you can go to He**." He was a good son and had never so much as "sassed" his parents before. So much for getting on May 3rd, everyone wanted me to get on a plane and fly home at once!

Hubby said to me, "You loved me enough to give up everything and fly out here to marry me...do you love me enough to stay." I stayed.

We tried everything we could, finally we went to Tijuana and got married in Mexico in July, but the Navy didn't recognize it so we waited until hubby turned 21 in November and then went to see the Navy Chaplin. He asked hubby for his address, hubby gave him the address of our apartment...then he asked me for my address...oops...BUSTED! Living togther wasn't done in those days. So then we explained the whole story...telling the Chaplin that we just wanted to be together for whatever time we had.

Fortunately, he agreed to marry us. Every one who came to the wedding knew how much we just wanted to be married. We were so happy to finally be "allowed" to be married. There wasn't a dry eye in the place...and I got to wear my dress.

My mother-in-law sent matching sweaters for hubby's 21st birthday...a sign that she was beginning to accept the marriage. Later she apologized to me, saying that she just didn't know. She didn't know me or how much I loved her son...or how much he loved me...but we had shown her that we were in for the long haul and were willing to work together to solve our problems. She and I became very close.

Hubby and I bonded during those early days. It was us against the whole world and we learned that we could depend on each other and trust each other. So if I had to do all over again...I would in a heartbeat. We had a solid foundation that would serve us well.

Pamy

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 07:26 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Kali..we just had a simple wedding in Vegas but you can have any kind of wedding you can imagine there. Vegas is a great place to get married!!
The reception was less than a 'real' reception would have been. The company that did the party was very reasonable for all the service they provide. We used them again for our house warming party( we can never have just a 'little'party LOL)

Pamy

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 07:55 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Great story, Mary!!!

Heyltslori

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 08:48 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Amazing and beautiful story Mary!

Sabbatia

Friday, February 14, 2003 - 10:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Our story starts out with the superbowl. The hubby won a $1000 pot and I won $500....so we bought my rings with that. My BIL is a preacher in MN, and we live in TX so we thought it would be good to get him to do it for us. BTW, we worked together and had to keep it a secret. MN had a two week waiting period and you had to be there to get the license...so that was out. BUT, my BIL's brother had a church in Iowa. There was also a two week waiting period there, but they did it by mail for us. So we ended up getting married my the BIL in a small church in Sac county Iowa in a town called Schaller or something like that. For our wedding, we only had six adults there including us and four or five kids there. We did have a nice reception when we got back. The place held 75 people and we far exceeded that. OH and it was another March wedding. March 21, 1992

Goddessatlaw

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 08:12 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I love hearing all these stories. My parents were married in a very old, ornate, and relatively small German Catholic church. My brothers and sisters and I were baptized there, and all of our family celebrations were held there, including my grandparents' renewal of their marriage vows. My mom's family had attended church there since they immigrated to the States in the 1860's. All of my youthful visualizations of my wedding day had this church as the centerpiece - it represented home, tradition and continuity to me. This church burned to the ground in the early 1980's. I haven't had a visual conception of what my wedding would be like, or where it would take place, since then even when I was engaged. It was like losing a member of the family - irreplaceable and incomparable.

Ladytex

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 08:38 am EditMoveDeleteIP
DH and I were married in Italy at the JP, and I don't know what was said because it was all in Italian ... lol ... I just know it was legal!

Ophiliasgrandma

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 09:50 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Wedding chapel, just us, minister and his wife in Carson City, Nevada. Working on year 26. First 15 years together pretty hard, but time and effort and a lot of praying has a way of smoothing out the bumps.

Jewels

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 12:45 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I love wedding stories. My husband and I were married in August of 98 on a Sternwheeler boat on the Willamette River that runs through Portland. It was an absolutely beautiful day. We met for pictures in the late afternoon, it was about 102 degrees and we had the city of Portland in the backdrop, but it was so hot, I thought I was just going to melt. A little girl walked by while we were taking pictures and saw us and asked her dad if I was Cinderella, she came over and gave me a hug, it was so cute.

We boarded the boat at 6:00 in the evening along with about 90 of our closest friends and family. We didn't want a huge wedding, just the people that meant the most to us. Having the wedding on the boat, we didn't have to worry about any of the details, they took care of everything from the food and flowers to the music. Although I did have a family friend do more flowers than were provided. We were married by the boat captain.

We set off on the river at 6:30, once the boat started moving it cooled down tremendously, thank goodness. We were married about 10 minutes into the cruise and from there on we were able to just enjoy ourselves and our friends and family for the next two hours. The food was great (so I heard, I never ate). The weather was beautiful into the evening. The views were amazing. We had an open bar and everyone really enjoyed themselves. The best part was that we had such a great time. I can't think about it without smiling. It was the perfect day.

The cruise ended by going in front of downtown Portland and a beautiful view of all the city lights. It was perfect. I didn't want to get off the boat.

The next day we had a reception for 200 people at our house. We BBQ'd salmon and chicken. It was a lot of fun. That night we left for 9 days in Jamaica.

I would totally recommend getting married on the water. Just make sure you do it in warm weather where people can be outside on the decks and enjoy themselves. It was perfect.

Djgirl5235

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 01:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
What beautiful stories - everyone!!! Mary - yours brought tears to my eyes... just beautiful!!!

I have yet to get married, but it's coming up on the horizon within the next couple of years or so.

My mom & dad divorced 13 years ago, and both found others to share their lives with, one a bit sooner (okay, they overlapped) than the other but that's a different story altogether... My mom met this wonderful man who was 13 years her junior and 30 at the time. I was 16 when they met and my brother 14, and I don't know how my step-dad did it, but he handled us better than if we were his own. We both love him very much. They decided to have a very small ceremony with just my stepdad's parents, my mom & my stepdad and my brother as the best man and me as the maid of honour. It was a beautiful ceremony held in the backyard of the minister overlooking a lake. My step-dad's parents had to be there because my brother (17 2 weeks shy of his 18th birthday) wasn't old enough to sign the register for it to be legal, otherwise it would have just been the four of us. We had dinner at a cute place in my hometown with my parent's siblings and their spouses and then had a kick-ass party after with all of their friends and the rest of our families. It was a lot of fun for everyone.

I would like to do the same as they did as it was so intimate, but since my bf's parents have both passed away, he wants to have the whole shebang with our friends and family that are around so it looks like it's going to be a big todo... I'll remember to stop and smell the roses though!!!

Yuhuru

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 01:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My DH and I were married in September of 1996 in Jamaica near a beautiful waterfall. It was absolutely beautiful. I had no worries. It was a beautiful day. Our first dance was to Endless Love. I do it exactly the same wat if given another chance. It was quite peaceful and romantic.

There were 5 other people in attendance: The minister, the videographer, the photographer, resort wedding planner, and a waiter, but it was like we were the only 2 people on earth.

We had a small reception at our home a couple of weeks after we returned.

Twiggyish

Saturday, February 15, 2003 - 04:31 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
These all sound soo pretty. Yu, your wedding was dreamy!


Here's a site about weddings which didn't turn out quite right! This site is good for quite a few chuckles!!

http://www.etiquettehell.com/wedindex.htm

By the way, I submitted a story about a wedding I attended about 10 years ago..LOL