Archive through January 25, 2003
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Archive through January 25, 2003
Halfunit | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:20 pm     Now don't leave me hanging here Zmom... Wasn't something mentioned previously about cowboy boots??? |
Rogue | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:26 pm     Are we gonna get into this "touching" routine again? <giggles to self, pass the bottle> |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:26 pm     theme of the super bowl halftime: "Woman's Impact on Culture" |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:27 pm     hey watch that Rogue. My daddy told me about you boys in uniforms. |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:28 pm     ;-) - btw, please know i am teasing. i am a happily inlove woman with someone that i have known since i was a teen. "girl's they want to have fun." |
Rogue | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:41 pm     LOL, Cyn, no prob! You'd have to read back about 1 1/2 weeks ago to catch zMom and Half in "action", lol. Oh, and us boys in uniform....sends shivers, doesn't it, lol. |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:42 pm     woman... shhhh... our guys are cool, well at least the responses that i have read posted as of late in the thread that i never read before until i was told not to look in it. anyway, shhh.. don't want them to know i was checkin it out, since Zmom is still, ughh.. drunk. i think, the posts of the last four anyway are such a step forward and these people deserve a good person to share their life. it is awesome that they are discussing emotions. encourage them. in the meantime, before the miricle happens, i'm starting another round of martinis... |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 08:46 pm     burrr... |
Halfunit | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:05 pm     wonders what's up over there with the "hints" talk.... I mean, if I hand you a trash bag, I don't want you to go sled riding on it.... sheesh! |
Rogue | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:08 pm     LOL, are you sure? |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:20 pm     hey, Twinkie, about your no tv on friday nights... don't worry the girls are finially getting the spots that only their brothers were given. the statistics are showing what demo is spending what. and things are changin' rapidly, cause this is America and our dollar is a big part of our vote. Woman have had access, of course, to positions here and there, but now they are able to implement more their own ideas without having to take on the persona of a man. am i making sense? i have to agree with something that someone said in one of the answer to question posts: On of the BIGGEST advancement in our life was woman and all related to our rights as people. Girl Power! |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:22 pm     burp. ooops. excuse me. |
Cyn | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:36 pm     anyway, give either sex enough space to play and too much power and they're bound to mess it up. woman and men are different, but equal. hey chics and occasional dude visitor, i have really been drinking, and i will now take leave before i start farting. later gators... |
Northstar | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 09:53 pm     Dang. I head out to the library and come back to a mess. <stoke the fire, cover the zombies with blankets, wipe down the bar and sweep up the cookie crumbs> There..ready for the next go around. <sneaks off to peek in on the guys> |
Zachsmom | Friday, January 24, 2003 - 10:20 pm     I have hurt someone who I care about and admire very much on this board. I don't like the fact that I did this. I am not going to justify my behavior by making excuses..because there are none..I just know that I don't like the fact that my words hurt someone else, and hurt them deeply. I apologize for my behavior and I will not be particpating in this thread anymore. I just hope the the person that I hurt can forgive me. |
Cyn | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 12:22 am     ZMom, I know. It’s awful. And I was such a big instigator of it. I didn't realize the depth of the other thread until 8:52 PM. I had literally never opened it before, because the title didn't interest me. I didn't open it cause I was thinking the thread was about guys. I didn't open it, because it just didn't say "hey, come inside and see what you think." I started reading about it through the posts that I read referring to it in here starting tonight after my first martini that was drank in one swig and the first in a year or more - not that this is an excuse. But, I thought that they were behaving badly like us. Not that this excuses my behavior now that I see that stereotyping the guys hurts them. But, I was completely sincere when I typed immediately after reading inside of the other thread at 8:52 PM the following: "I think, the posts of the last four anyway are such a step forward and these people deserve a good person to share their life. It is awesome that they are discussing emotions. Encourage them." I would say this about a man or a woman. This is why I did not use a gender noun when making that statement. I still have only read 7-9 of the posts. I found those to be very interesting and obviously insightful. I think we should not be seperate. But will respect the last post that told me to stay out. Lance said we were welcome. But I think people should always be alloted their space. But it is terrible how I did not consider how these types of jokes would hurt a man. What I realize is that I was exploiting men and instead of liberating me - it pushed me backwards. The guys must feel like crap. Wow. Never considered this before. I am sorry. I am drunk. It is not fun. Drunks are stupid. I am drunk. ...too drunk to.... DKs |
Fanny | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 01:45 am     if any of "our" guys dare to venture in here again, here's my message: thanks for all that you contribute to this board and to the lives of those who surround you in real life. It's acknowledged, and appreciated. I'm posting this in here instead of in "there" out of respect for your feelings. |
Twinkie | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 03:55 am     I just feel bad that we have to walk on eggs instead of being ourselves and just having fun. I haven't said anything in here that i haven't said to hubby and he's knows its a joke and jokes right back. I'm sure that since most of the mods are guys this will get modded but I really don't care. If this turns out to be a place that we can't have fun then I don't want to come back here. So much for the girl's thread. We were just having fun. Not tiptoeing around the male ego. |
Twinkie | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 03:56 am     Let's see how long that post last. |
Twinkie | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 05:34 am     . |
Resortgirl | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 05:56 am     Hi Twinkie! I know that this thread was just for fun! But I guess it hurt one of our guys. I don't know what the answer is. I agree we shouldn't have to tiptoe, but I think that if what we are saying hurts someone, even unintentionally then we should at least validate their feelings and respect them. You have always been a fun poster for me to read, so don't leave... I luvs ya!! |
Spygirl | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 06:32 am     I happen to err on the side with the guys, girls. I have thought for a while that this place has a lot of females who have the potential to be male-bashers...even in jest. I am not comfortable with that and don't engage in it -- even in fun. To me, there is nothing, and I mean nothing funny about stereotyping, disrespecting, or making fun of others. For those who feel comfortable doing that with your spouses and boyfriends, feel free, but on an anonymous Internet message board like this, we just do not have the rapport established with the men of the board to be able to poke harsh fun and it not be hurtful. Think of this...what if we were isolating the overweight people of the board and "poking fun"...how well would that go over? Not at all. What about we pick out all the people over 50 and do over the hill jokes in an entire thread? No. And it isn't anymore okay or funny when it is making fun of men. Twinkie, I understand you feel you don't want to walk on egg shells, but respect isn't about that at all, and there is a bigger picture being missed here. Some of the things said on this board about men are anything but respectful. I am not directing that at you, Twinks, because if you want to know the truth, I have read approximately 2 pages of archives in this thread. After I saw the direction things were headed in, I posted to TRY to slow down the train and get this thread back on topic, but I was barely acknowledged for my post and then things continued to snowball. I didn't return to this thread until I read the other one this morning and I've still only read the previous 5-6 posts on this page alone. So, I have no idea who said what, but after reading Wienermr's post, I have a good idea of what was so upsetting, I just don't care to know who said it. So anyway, I am just concerned that since we women outnumber the men about 10:1, that we have (and always have had) the "We're-the-better-gender" attitude on this board. It is a pack mentality that I have observed. If those types of characteristics make up who someone is and they feel they can't post openly here....wow, I wouldn't even know what to say to that to be quite honest. The bad thing about my post is that I am going to be gone literally ALL day and part of the evening, so I will not be able to come back and talk more about this issue. I am not posting to start more of a war, but I see this as an opportunity to FINALLY raise concerns I've had about some things that go on on the board. We are a family and we should be able to discuss this, even if there isn't a soul on this board who agrees with me -- no matter. We are an equal sex, and as women we've despised being regarded as the lesser sex for generations, but the answer is not to swing to the other extreme and put men down, simply because we want them to know what it feels like. The answer is so not that at all. As a side note, Twinkie, I am not sure why you think most moderators are male. Whether or not that is true, your belief that it is is most curious to me. That indicates to me you feel you have been unfairly moderated in the past and that you feel it is because a male mod can't moderate fairly. I think that is a rather sad thing to think because in truth, the moderators of this board are fair, both male and female. I hate to see you build up resentment for the moderators that you appear to be building because that can really create a not-so-fun experience for you here if you believe "they" are against you. I just want you to know I feel the mods are an incredibly fair group of people. |
Squaredsc | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 06:45 am     what? did i miss something? i am totally lost now and it looks like this fun thread was taken the wrong way. well i guess this is dead now. |
Twiggyish | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 06:48 am     I'm really bummed because this whole thing has gotten out of control. (Note to self..don't start any thread that says GUY or GIRL for that matter) |
Twinkie | Saturday, January 25, 2003 - 07:29 am     I'm wondering how my saying my hubby doesn't know how to wash dishes right got turned into something so obnoxious? |
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