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Tess

Thursday, July 04, 2002 - 11:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, I've been reading about your dilemna this week but didn't post because you got such good advice. I'm so glad you bit the bullet and followed through on that advice as hard as it was for you. Everyone is going to be so much happier in the long run. Who knows--now that you've taken this step, maybe they will stop taking advantage of you in other areas. Or maybe you can make them stop! Good luck and doesn't it feel great? :)

Yankee, yuck. Sorry you had to miss both holidays this week. :(

Urgrace

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 12:49 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, good for you. Now hang in there and don't let them bamboozle you and try to get around your new rules. They will try. You will be proud of yourself for following through, and they will begin to recognize it.

Yankee, I got today off - sorta - had to clean the house, cook, feed the animals, and host the dinner inside that replaced the barbecue outside due to the weather.

We finally got some very much needed rain, but after seven days of downpour we are getting way too much. The parade and fireworks were postponed until Saturday (when I will be at work), and it is raining AGAIN.

Christina

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 03:23 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Good for you LL. I am just like you. Just be patient. I used to think, that I had to be a b...H to get people to treat me the way I wanted to be treated. No was never in my vocabulary. In the past few months, I have realised, since I stood up to a few of my annoyees. That this was the only way. I felt horrible for some reason(Guilt). I think it is because we grow up, always being told to be good to others. To me this always meant, dont worry about yourself. WRONG! In the long run, it will all pay off. They will remember that you do have limits. The line has been drawn and you drew it. Good for you. You are going to feel better about the whole situation, cuz they have been told. Now if they cross the line, for your own good, let them now. For some reason...you give some people an inch, they think they are the ruler. hehe

Llkoolaid

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 04:45 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks Christina, and glad to see you are back.

Micknrc

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 05:24 am EditMoveDeleteIP
WTG, LLkool! It sounds like you did the best you could to handle the situation with grace. I'm with Car--I probably wouldn't be able to take such a high road. I would've messed it up by being all emotional and blowing my stack and then they would've seen a REAL b****!

Webkitty

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 06:26 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, I haven't posted to your delemma because of all the other good advice you were getting But is sounds like you worked through the problem in a thoughtful and mature way, I'm proud of you!

Webkitty

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 06:28 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Yankee, sorry you had to work on BOTH holidays

(hope you at least made lots of money)

Grooch

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 06:43 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Ll, you are not a b*tch and you are actually doing your family a favor, even if they don't realize it.

Owning a pool is a huge responsibility. And it is one that I do not want so I will never have a pool on my property until my nieces are so much older.

No matter what the age the children are, they need to be supervised and watched like a hawk when they are in or around the pool area. All it takes is one little mistake and a child can drown.

I remember when I was around 10, I had an aunt that had a pool birthday party. There were a lot of people there and all their kids were in the pool. A lot of people were watching. I was in the deep end when I noticed a 2 year old boy was starting to drown. I was calling out but no one heard me above all the chatter. I started swimming towards him to get him out. I am not the best swimmer and I had just taken a pair of fins off my feet, so I felt slow as molasses getting to him. It felt like a nightmare unfolding in slo-mo. Luckily, I pulled him out and he was fine. But the adults never seemed to realize that this kid almost drowned.

Tommy Lee is currently being sued because he threw a birthday party for his son and a kid drowned in his pool. He had hired a lifeguard to be on duty and he made sure that each kid had a parent or a chaperone watching each individual kid. But one still died. What else could he have done to prevent it?

So my point is, is that you are not being a b*tch. You are being a responsible adult. If they are to lazy to watch their own kid in a pool than they shouldn't be allowed over.

If you are getting grief over this, imagine what kind of grief you will forever get if an accident does happens.

Stand firm for the kids' sakes.

Webkitty

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 06:50 am EditMoveDeleteIP
What Gooch said.
Down here in Florida they take these things very seriously. (not that other places don't)

The news is full of kids drowning in pools.
You are doing the ONLY responsible thing, LL. Don't feel bad. Kids saftey first.

Wink

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 07:59 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LlKool being able to say NO with conviction and without regret was one of my biggest life lessons. Congratulations.

Abbynormal

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 09:18 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, I'm also proud of you! Sounds like you handled it with grace and style.

Llkoolaid

Friday, July 05, 2002 - 03:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks guys, you are right, I know I am doing the right thing, but it was hard. My sister actually called a little while ago and apoligized. So I feel a lot better about it, but I hope she follows through. Anyway thanks for the support.

Sometimes I would just like to drain the darn thing, but we love it. The responsibility is enormous. Everytime we leave we are always double checking to make sure both gates are locked and there are no chairs or anything left out that kids in the neighbourhood can pull over and climb on.

Car54

Tuesday, July 09, 2002 - 05:26 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Ok, I have never griped here but I am mad and I don't even know who or what I am mad at and that makes me madder.

At work, we do need to dress semi-professionally but not formally, and I might be called on to work in our stores at any time so I try to look decent at work just in case.

I have been really busy the past couple of months and summer kind of crept up on me and I found I had virtually no summer work clothes. I went to a mall a couple of weekends ago to shop for clothes.

I am not a small person and even when the weather is hot I like to wear something to cover my upper arms, etc, so I usually wear a shirt-type jacket. I have a good selection of plain, tank type knit dresses to wear underneath.

I went to 2 department stores and several specialty clothing stores and finally bought one nice blouse....not anything special...just a nice color and fit. And paid $59.00!!! This kills me because when I have time I sew and I know I can make it for under $10, but I just don't have the time right now.

Tonight I was at Target for something, and just for the heck of it looked at their clothing, and found only ONE blouse to chose from and didn't particularly like it...it was kind of frumpy and not particularly well made...for $24.00

Then as I walked away I walked past the MENS department and they had 2 racks of the prettiest rayon over-shirts...beautiful small dark kind of retro prints... tons of colors... (most of my dresses are black, brown, navy...dark colors).

These shirts were beautifully made, finished seams inside, full cut, longer and a better fit than the womans blouse I didn't like. AND they were $19.99!

I bought 3 shirts, much nicer than the one I bought 2 weeks ago and they cost me the same as 1 woman's blouse. They have pockets, more detail, shell buttons.

I don't know why this makes me mad but it does.
I feel dumb for spending the money 2 weeks ago and dumb for not realizing the price discrepancies. Oh well, Sucker!

Karuuna

Tuesday, July 09, 2002 - 07:11 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
How frustrating, Car! I buy men's clothing frequently, because I'm tall and thin, and the only way to get women's clothes that fit is to pay exorbitant prices thru specialty catalogs. I've always been flabbergasted by both the price difference, and the ability to buy special sizes at no extra charge. Harrumph!

Kaili

Tuesday, July 09, 2002 - 07:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I've always just assumed men's clothes are cheaper (and better made) because women are expected/assumed to shop more than men. I have been having a hard time finding shorts this year because they're all either pleated (yuck) or so short that I woudn't waer them anyway!

Car54

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 04:03 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks Karuuna and Kaili. I guess that is what made me mad... that everyone knows the pricing isn't fair and it still happens.

I guess I should be glad I found a bargain, huh?

I don't shop a lot for clothes and the shop where I bought the blouse is a regular place...I like their things, they always fit me, and I like the service, but I really felt the price was high to begin with, and then to see something much nicer and a third the price just makes me mad a how unequal things are!

Ok, I am over it now. Going to hit another Target tonight to see if they have any more styles.

Gail

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 04:32 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I usually buy men's shirts and clothes. Women's shirts are not long enough for me to tuck in and the arms are usually too short. Plus, I like the colors and prints better.

Car54

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 07:06 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I checked my receipt last night...I bought a LOT of stuff last night, and guess what! The shirts were not only cheaper, but on top of that they were on SALE!!!!! I got them for 14.99 instead of 19.99. So the women's blouse was FOUR times the price! <Gettin mad again here!>

Kaili

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 08:02 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I went into some store at the mall one day and I asked the sales girl why their jeans were $70 (what makes them so special when you can get good jeans for $20-30)...I think it was the Buckle....anyway, she basically said that they carry unusual sizes and that people of those sizes have to pay more. Simple as that. As if it costs more to make one size than the other (yeah a tiny bit more or less fabric- what would that be, 2 cents?).

I cannot get jeans unless the store carries "short" or "ankle" because to get my normal size in regular length means I have pants leg covering my feet! I'm just not a tall person! But those don't cost more- they're just more difficult to find! Forget me buying pants at Target- can't happen- too long!

Car54- congrats on the find- I go straight to the sales/clearance rack whenever I walk into any store!

Bob2112

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 08:44 am EditMoveDeleteIP
bob Car? Do you know where I could get a good deal on some square pants? :)

Kaili

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 09:18 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Now this isn't completely a gripe, but I think it's dumb and I don't want to start a new thread for it. That woman on southwest airlines who jokingly asked the flight attendant if the pilots were sober- was she really a "security threat" who needed to be removed from the plane? Her being removed and put on an American Airlines flight meant taht everyone on that flight had t wait for them to dig around and remove her checked baggage if she had any.

I think it's ridiculous! She didn't threaten anyone! Lighten up a bit!

Weinermr

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 11:09 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Bob, to find a good deal on square pants, check out the 1970's.

Car54

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 11:36 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Kaili, in this case the cheaper items had more and better quality fabric, better workmanship...everything. Just were men's instead of womens.


Weiner, I really do love you, you know. Ya cheered me up, not mad anymore.

Wargod

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 01:32 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Kalli, talking about short shorts, about a month ago I went shopping for summer clothes for my kids...my three year old daughter was so hard to find clothes for. I have no clue why clothing designers seem to think that toddler girls need to dress like teenagers! She's three, I don't want her bottom hanging out and I really dont like the shirts that come halfway up her ribcage and our backless! I really want her to dress like a little girl, not like a 16 year old!

For jeans, I have a hard time finding them to fit because I have short legs. So no matter what type I buy, I almost always have to fold them under at the ankles.

Bob2112

Wednesday, July 10, 2002 - 01:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks, Weiner. :)

Where ya been hiding?