Archive through November 12, 2002
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Archive through November 12, 2002
Aussiedeb | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:05 pm     Hi gang, Well its been a horrible weekend for us. We lost our net access and digital cable as we didnt pay the bill..hmmm food or tv... I chose food. On saturday I went to college to work 4hrs and when I got home hubby wasnt looking right. I found a suicide note and asked how he planned to do that. He got a paper out with the whole plan on it. I called a friend from college and she came down here. We took him to the local hospital to be sedated for the nite so we could drive him to Dayton sunday morning. We went to the VA ER and they admitted him to the psych ward there. He got so depressed about the financial situation that he thought the only way out was to make it look like he had an accident and then I would get insurance money and could take care of the bills and have money left over. I am heading down there shortly here (2hr each way drive) with his mom. Our local VA office gave me gas vouchers to use so I can afford to go see him. We dont know how long he will be there but it will be at least a week, I will know more later on when I see him. I switched back to dial up so I had net access and some contact with people, plus I need it for college too. He had gone to work the previous week for 2 out of 4 days and went to work thurs night and fri night he went and they drove him home at 3.30am. He did try to work on Saturday but was still suicidal so got driven home at 8pm. Its been hectic, I informed his department chair at college about he will not be in college the rest of the semester now. I am still going to college and have an exam tomorrow (psych exam at that) which I havent studied for yet, plus I do public speaking class and have to write a speech, but that one is easy for me. I will update more later when I get home. Deb |
Weinermr | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:12 pm     {{{{{Aussiedeb}}}}} I understand how you are feeling right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care Deb. |
Wargod | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:16 pm     {{{{{Deb}}}}} Deb, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your hubby. Please take care and stay strong. We'll be here when you are back to talk. |
Draheid | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:21 pm     {{{{{{{{{{Aussiedeb}}}}}}}}}} Deb, We are here when you need us. Our thoughts are still with you as you go through these times. Please know that we are here for you, if there is anything that we can do. I have copied your message over into the Need A Hug thread as well. I hope you don't mind. |
Nimtu | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:27 pm     {{{{{Aussiedeb}}}} My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. |
Babyruth | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:28 pm     (((((((Deb)))))))) Thank you for sharing what's going on. We are always here for you and we care. Please let us know if we can help in any way. |
Juju2bigdog | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:38 pm     {{{{{{Aussiedeb}}}}}} Netzero still has free dialup internet. It is only 10 hours a month, but it might get you by. Juno allegedly has free internet, but you can never get on it. Netzero and Juno combined, although I think they still keep both trade names separate. Their pay dialup is only $9.95 a month. I have had Juno for five years and am very happy with it, especially the e-mail. You can still have free Juno e-mail that works very well. Okay, that is very disjointed. If you need a reliable free e-mail, get free Juno. If you need a small amount of free internet, get free Netzero. If you can afford the $9.95 a month, get Juno for the internet and the e-mail. Keep the free Netzero for emergencies. Good luck, and I hope things get better for you soon. |
Goddessatlaw | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:43 pm     Deb: I have drafted and then erased several messages to you regarding your current difficulties. Many of the things I would like to say to you would cross the bounds of providing legal advice, which I cannot do outside of the confines of the states in which I am licensed to practice, and Ohio is not one. I am so sorry, but these are the rules I must live by regardless of how pure the motives. Please let me just say that I know how difficult it is when you are left as the one who must boostrap and deal, regardless of your own personal need for assistance. I am so sorry this has happened to you. The VA should provide services designed to guide you through your legal rights and entitlements as the wife of an infirm veteran. It should also provide you a listing of services which may be able to assist you with financial support, for example the quagmire of social security disability. The county in which you live should have a VA office with a liaison assigned to assist you with this. They are often more helpful than the state or federal liason programs, and may have some more localized options for assistance (less bureaucratic, too). It is your type of situation for which these offices and programs are designed to help, so please don't shy from asking them for assistance. My best to you, Deb, and I hope I've been at least some small measure of assistance. |
Pamy | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 12:55 pm     {{{Aussiedeb}}} Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please keep us posted, there are a lot of us here that are here for you |
Lancecrossfire | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 01:42 pm     AussieDeb, my thoughst are with you and your husband. So sorry about the recent turn of events. Tell your hubby we are all pulling for him. I wrote you a couple of days ago using the email address in your profile. If you have access to it and get a moment to read your mail, it will be there for you. If you have another address for email and you can get a second to get it to me, my address is gregg.bartel-bailey@pnl.gov Hugs to you Deb |
Whoami | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 01:43 pm     {{{{Deb and DH}}}} |
Car54 | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 01:47 pm     Deb, I am so sorry you and your husband are going through such a difficult time. I am amazed at how strong you have been through all this. Please take care and know you are in our thoughts. |
Mware | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:00 pm     Aussiedeb - Hoping that things take a turn for the good really soon for you. We're all pulling for you! |
Ginger1218 | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:22 pm     I am so sorry for you. I hope things get better. I am praying for you. |
Grannyg | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:27 pm     Deb, I so hoped that hubby going back to work was a GOOD sign. I am so sorry that things didn't go well. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you need someone to just listen my email address is in my profile. I really hope things take a turn up for you. Hugs, Hugs, Hugs............ Granny |
Heyltslori | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:29 pm     {{{{{Aussiedeb}}}}}} |
Meggieprice | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:36 pm     Aussiedeb- I wish I could help you in some way. At least know you have loads of support and love here to draw on. |
Whit4you | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:36 pm     Deb - I know net access is the least of your issues right now but having friends and a place to vent and get your mind off things is good - so sign up for AOL for their free 1750 hours! Your hubby's situation is very serious I think and hopefully they won't be having him get out in a week - unless the doc's truely beleive he's safe. I know all this must be extremely stressful to you as well - try to do whatever it takes to eliminate some uneeded stresses in your life right now and remember "Don't take on anything new" |
Vixeninvegas | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 02:40 pm     Adding my thoughts & prayers to you Deb - you are sure overdue for a break - I'm hoping its near by. I know its an over used saying but it always gives me the courage to go on "God doesn't give you more than he knows you can handle" - He sure much have a ton of faith in you It seems unfair sometimes - please know we are all here if you want to talk. |
Lumbele | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 03:37 pm     (((((((Aussiedeb))))))) |
Kstme | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 04:04 pm     Deb SUPER BIG ((((HUGS)))) You're an amazing person. I'm praying for you and hubby. |
Scootersmom | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 04:16 pm     Aussiedeb, my thoughts are with you also. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. (((Deb))) Take care and know that everyone here is thinking of you and your husband. |
Willsfan | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 04:20 pm     {{{{Aussiedeb}}}} Sending good vibes your way. |
Halfunit | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 06:17 pm     Buckeye {{{hugs}}} |
Alegria | Tuesday, November 12, 2002 - 06:56 pm     Take care of yourself and (if possible) rest. You will get through this, at some point you will look back and this will all be a distant memory, put one foot in front of the other and move towards that day. Good luck with your exam. |
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