Archive through January 21, 2002
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Moondance | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:10 pm     Well you know I am grinning ear to ear... hmmmm your sister and you I think I remember talking about this! |
Grooch | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:14 pm     Congratulations, Lisa! You know, they say things happen in threes. So I wonder who the third person is going to be. |
Admin | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:20 pm     Yes, I would like to congratulate Enbwife too. (I'm enb btw). She is doing very well and her personality has not changed as much as some people warned. |
Buttercup | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:38 pm     Congratulations to you too, Admin/Enb/Neil!!! Buttercup goes looking for a baby related icon among the cliparts..... Hint, hint
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Enbwife | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:42 pm     Thanks ENB! How nice of you to say that. Grooch, my best friend is pregnant too (6 weeks ahead of me) and my closest friend at work is pregnant (4 weeks ahead of me) so it's all around me. It's lots of fun! Moon - you're right... we've had many discussions. It's really neat how this happened to my sis and I at the same time. One week apart is really incredible!!! They say things happen for a reason and now it's all beginning to make sense to me. |
Car54 | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 01:58 pm     Cool- will that be enbjr? Right in the middle of BB3- we can all celebrate! Wow- your baby is going to have lots of little pals! |
Tess | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 02:15 pm     Congratulations Lisa and Neil!!! <Tess runs out to start working on some baby colors.....> |
Jenhavins | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 02:18 pm     Congrats Lisa and Neil! |
Dahli | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 02:36 pm     It was back in the winter of 77. I was a brand new mom sharing a room with a three timer. Fascinated, I watched her feed her baby at arms length (being a nursing mom this position was not an option for me) After promptly dumping him on the bed, she informed me I'd better not be holding my baby too much or show her too much affection or I'd spoil her good. I have never forgotten this, watching that helpless infant lying on the bed crying for his mother who stood like stone at the window, convinced that this was best, especially since her other two were now in foster care, taken away cuz she couldn't handle them. Somehow they got spoiled - hard to handle and disrespectful She had to be even tougher with this one so it wouldn't happen again. The tragedy of this situation repeats daily, ignoring, insulting, neglecting, misunderstanding and failing the most valuable people we'll know. It also vividly illustrates the fact that we can never be overqualified for parenting. Most of what passes for parenting goes under the heading of I'm doing the best I can or the equally frightening 'The best I know how' Doing the best you know how with no training, education or experience is not good enough for your mechanic, doctor or cab driver. This method just doesn't cut it anywhere and yet daily newborns are delivered to people who will go home to do the best they know how. Most people want to be good parents; they want to raise wonderful, happy children. They want to be part of a loving supportive family unit, but they don't know how. You can't order it from the catalogue, the stores don't carry it and heaven forbid the media or the schools should concentrate in this area. So until we as a society realize it is at least as important for a child to have competent and qualified parenting as it is to have a valid fishing license or 24 hour shopping, it's up to us as individuals to learn. Those nine months are not just for the development of an infant; it's an excellent time for developing a parent. There are probably as many things to unlearn as learn, since we are not the first generation without good skills. So much of it comes from common sense; if we want our children to be great people, treat them like great people. If we want considerate, compassionate, well-adjusted kids with that all-important self-esteem, treat them considerately respectfully and compassionately. Hear their fears, don't add to them... Listen to their feelings, don't deny them. Help them love what's special and different about themselves and to accept the same in others. If you want them to be polite, use your manners at home, don't save them for strangers. If you want them to be able to deal with the real world someday then give them the ability from day one to trust themselves, their own abilities and judgment by trusting in you. Feeling safe, secure and accepted, our children will be able to make decisions that are healthy ones because they know they are worthwhile and important and so is everyone else. To feel accepted and valued, while understanding guidelines and boundaries is one way for them to find a safe place to 'be' We must respect their specialness; never take advantage of our size and power, the cost of that is very high (short term gain for long term pain.) To mean what we say and say what we mean, to be fair and honest, to apologize when we are wrong, and admit our mistakes and strive to grow and improve and let them do the same. To serve as an example and guide with love and acceptance for ourselves and others would be a wonderful start. So at this most exciting time effort is key! Go out and pick up a book or ten... one of the best is P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training) Hit the library, attend workshops talk to people, observe the way children are treated, change it, improve it. They are so powerless they can't We can't tolerate abuse, ignorance or neglect anywhere we find it. Let's stop treating just the symptoms of a sick society; we can't afford it any more Why not work on prevention...? The analogy I like to use, is, what if instead of teaching everyone to drive a car, we just let them have at it?....then dealt with the ensuing mess by opening more auto body shops, replanting dead and damaged trees and lamp posts, burying victims, but never looking at the cause. Can you imagine how ridiculous it would be if we just shook our heads in amazement at the devastation and utter waste but continued the same way? That seems backwards to me ;-) MY CONGRATS and BEST WISHES TO YOU AT THIS SPECIAL TIME |
Lancecrossfire | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 03:23 pm     Excellent post Dahli! |
Soeur | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 04:14 pm     Congratulations Neil and Lisa. You are going to have a wonderful year. Enjoy! <insert babyclipart here> hint, hint |
Tksoard | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 04:29 pm     I am SO happy for you, Neil and Lisa!! WOW!! A new house and now a baby for one of the new bedrooms!! By the way, how many bedrooms DO you have to fill?!?!?!?! CONGRATULATIONS!!!  |
Wargod | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 05:45 pm     CONGRATULATIONS DANZDOL,LISA, AND NEIL!!!!!!!! What exciting news for all of you! I will offer one piece of advice for all new parents to be, and that is to keep your sweet, innocent child away from any produce that can be turned into a pojectile object. Trust me on this, I know! Oh, and laugh......this is the funnest time of all. They grow up so quickly. |
Twiggyish | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 07:10 pm     YIPPPPEEEEEEEEEEEE!! Oh I am so happy for ya'all!! ((((Lisa and Neil))))) My best parenting advice is to love your child. I completely agree with Dahli. Don't worry about spoiling your child. Hug them LOTS!! Oh and get a rocking chair (advice given above, too) There is nothing like gently rocking your baby. The experts also recommend singing. Even if you can't in tune, a baby responds to your soothing singing voice. |
Urgrace | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 08:20 pm     Congratulations and best wishes to all of you new parents to be! Here is some good advise from a plaque I keep on my wall: Children Learn What They Live If a child lives with criticism, He learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, He learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, He learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, He learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, He learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, He learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, He learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, He learns justice. If a child lives with security, He learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, He learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, He learns to find love in the world. |
Twiggyish | Thursday, January 17, 2002 - 08:32 pm     Urgrace, exactly! |
Willi | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 05:52 am     Congrats Neil & Lisa! My twin sister & I had babies months apart...It was (and still is) special sharing that! Enjoy this special time...What a wonderful journey awaits you both.
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Admin | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 08:06 am     Okay, okay...new cliparts! For all you fans of the King! When you really want to SMACK someone One for you pregnant ladies and that's my  |
Gail | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 08:22 am     Thanks Neil! Those are cute!!! |
Nancy | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 09:01 am     As long as someone doesnt say that just had a or we might have to the person  |
Enbwife | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 10:14 am     Thank you Urgrace and Dahli for your excellent posts. Dahli, I was very touched by what you wrote and completely agree. I believe you cannot hold or love a baby enough in it’s young life (or ever for that matter). I’ve also done nothing but read since I found out I was pregnant. I’ve sent your posts to my pregnant friends.  |
Urgrace | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 12:04 pm     Thank you for the clipart, Neil! I  ! However, has left the building ! Don't make me come over there and you! <hehehe just kidding - here's your smack > Just my worth! Enbwife (Lisa), this is a wonderful time. Relax and enjoy every ripple, nudge,& kick !! |
Dahli | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 12:23 pm     That's terrific Enbwife - another great book I really enjoyed was 'The Mother's Almanac' talk about funny!! since a sense of humour is a big part of enjoying the process... 'every ripple nudge and kick' and as well if I may, suggest reading as much as you can about pre/post natal nutrition and breast feeding - can't recommend that highly enough! I'm so excited for you guys (and a little green with envy...) |
Egbok | Friday, January 18, 2002 - 08:42 pm     I send my good wishes to Danzdol, Enb & Enbwife on their exciting news! It will be a pure love at first sight - you'll never experience such an intense love as the love for your child. It's awesome. Congratulations. |
Enbwife | Monday, January 21, 2002 - 09:43 am     Thanks! Can't wait!!! |
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