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Bigfan | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 11:27 am     Sia, I would just like to beg you to rethink your actions. Can $15.00 really steal the goodtimes that you've shared with your kids, the movies, the books or the friends you've made in giving of yourself and money for that library? Yesterday you may have meet the one crabapple of the library, or the low man on the totom pole that couldn't help you out. Maybe you could ask for someone that is charge and move somewhere else up the ladder of people that could deside your case. If not, please just blow the $15.00 off and continue the goodtimes with your kids. And, the next time they ask for a donation pass it by and tell yourself that you've already given. I hope this comes off in the love that it was sent. I would never want to offend you in anyway. It's just that life is to short and unfun enough to let it steal this place from you. |
Karuuna | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 11:27 am     <Karuuna sneaks in and sets all the watches of all the on-timers ten minutes back; and all the watches of all her buddy perpetually late-folks ten minutes ahead...> |
Pamy | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 11:34 am     Sia, I would contact someone higher up at the library and tell them what you wrote above, tell them it is not the money, it was the principal of the whole thing. They should be able to give you a credit or something, especially if you have never been late before.
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Llkoolaid | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 11:48 am     I am always early, I detest waiting for people who are always late and I refuse to wait for them. I agree with what Moondance said about it being like you think your time is more important than others. My mother always asks me to drive her places and when I would go to pick her up at an agreed time she would just start to get ready. I mean a shower and her hair the whole thing. So I started coming late thinking she would be ready when I got there. That didn't work, when I complained she said she doesn't like to wait around and wants to go out the door the minute she is fresh and clean. I fixed her. I arrived one day and she was just getting ready so I said sorry I don't have time to wait you will have to get a cab. I did this a few times to her. She was mad as hell at me but she got over it. Now when she calls for a drive I tell her to call when she is ready and then I go and get her. She just lives 2 streets over so it only takes me a minute. One of my daughters was always keeping us late in the morning when we were leaving for school. So I set the time that I could drop everyone off without anyone being late and said if you are not ready then you will be the only one to suffer from it. A few walks to school and late slips soon got her out the door and in the car on time. I really hate it when people are late as you can see but I learned that I had to change and stop waiting for them. No more stress about it for me. |
Buttercup | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 01:09 pm     LOL Llkool, I can relate to what you are saying. When I worked in San Francisco, but lived closer to San Jose, I used to have a gruelling commute between 1 1/2 to 3 hours one way every day. Occasionally I would plan to meet with some friends for dinner somewhere along the way. Considering that I was able to plan with the same traffic they were commuting in, it drove me nuts when one or more continually were late. Especially since it was at the end of a long day and I still had to drive home after dinner. Eventually I realized that I had to make the change first, and after a few months (okay, more like a year ) I finally politely said that I would wait up to 15-20 minutes, and then I would leave. I don't think I ever had to leave even once, because miraculously, they managed to get there within the time-frame after that. My friends know that I mean what I say I guess they also valued the time we had together as well Generally I am not a stickler for people being on time unless there are other things I could be doing, or if I have plans afterwards. I am creative enough and can always find something to occupy myself with. Shocking as it might be to some, I even talk to strangers who potentially of course could be very very bad people But I digress... Well, wait. There is one thing that does bother me now that I am back in school. That is people who come late to class and end up disturbing the lecture regardless of how quiet they try to be. For some reason I don't mind when the professor is late Before I get off my soap box, I will add that sometimes things happen and people can't help being late. That, to me, is where the advantage of having a cell phone comes in (different topic, I know). I think it's the pattern of lateness that generally bothers some people. Buttercup notices Karuuna's sneakyness and gives her a time-out
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Wcv63 | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 01:36 pm     I'm always early. In fact I'm chronically early and I'm anal about it. I, like others in this thread, am cursed by a DH who meanders, loiters, and malingers when it comes to leaving the house to go somewhere. It drives me nuts. I hate to be late. HATE it. Little story for ya. Before we got married my stbdh and I were assisting his parents in setting up the lodge for the rehersal party which was to be later that night. I was rushing because I had a meeting at work for 2:00pm with the "big" bosses to determine the future of business where I worked. I got a flat tire. My stbdh (soon to be-dh) took his time fixing it. Then I had to go drop him off. He was making me nuts with requests to stop here or stop there. I finally blew up at him telling him that "this is my job and it's really important to me and the way you're acting is completely disregarding my feelings...etc...etc.." Anyway, when I walked into work it turns out that there was a surprise shower for me (no meeting) and that my stbdh had instructions to stall me so that I wouldn't be early as is my habit. I felt terrible for blowing up him and since then I hardly ever give him grief about being late. However, I am not so good about returning library books and video tapes on time. I've managed to make that free local once in order to renew and talked my way out of a couple of fines. Right now I have about 20 library books (between myself and the kids) that were all due on 6/15. I've passed the library at least 4 times since then. Sigh. Don't know what my deal is there. |
Oregonfire | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 01:46 pm     I don't like when video stores make videos due back before noon or they're late. The other video store I go to just wants them back in X number of days by closing time. The whole noon thing trips me up; returning videos is that last thing on my mind in the morning. |
Sia | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 04:58 pm     Bigfan and Pamy, thanks so much for your thoughtful answers. You're absolutely right, BF, if I'd just blown it off (like I usually do) and told the woman that I'd deal with the late fee the next trip, chances are that I'd have had at least one-third of the fee waived by one of the librarians with whom I'm friends. It isn't that I don't want to support the library, it's the idea that I hate to WASTE money. When I spend money, I want something to hold in my hand when I walk away. This is why I can't stand to gamble, play arcade games (for quarters or tokens) or spend very much on a meal in a restaurant! (Don't spend too much time analyzing that last part of my statement, LOL!) The girl just caught me on a difficult day and I reacted badly. I was standing there, hip aching more than usual, uncomfy pants, with swollen feet (usually not a problem, but I'd taken my bp meds late), blood pressure so high it was pounding noticeably, too hot from being in the car (at least in the mid-80s and humid), tired and embarrassed at the way my kids were carrying on loudly in the library. Now, don't get me wrong. I wasn't rude. I was terse, but not rude. I was just aggravated and had had my fill. Today I went back to take the rest of the books I have outstanding--only to find out that the woman who rooked me for $15 yesterday took back an interlibrary-loan book from me yesterday and failed to take it off my card!!! Today she said that she can't take the book off my account until the book is FOUND. She remembered taking it from me; she said she checked it in as a VIDEO and sent it to the next patron requesting it, but has to leave it on my account and that I have to remember to RENEW IT periodically to keep from being charged LATE FEES! ARRRGGGHHH!! I call that incompetence! My kids DO love the library, and especially the children's librarian, who is just the nicest woman in the world. They were crushed today when I told them we wouldn't be completing the summer reading program there. (Worse yet, no videos today!) There is another library the same distance from me in the opposite direction than I usually travel for groceries, etc. I can change my habits and just abandon the one library and town and travel the other way to shop in a village that is just a few miles farther than I currently travel. Pamy, I did ask for the director of the library, but he was at lunch. I was impatient and wanted to resolve the issue, but probably partly wanted to prove to the snobby woman that I DID have $15 in my wallet! Sometimes people just rub me the wrong way and, ultimately, I'm the one who pays for it. I'm still steamed about this. I want my money back!! And I feel I want to tell the director the way my returned book was mishandled and "lost." I've returned several items that didn't get scanned back in; I've had to locate them in the stacks myself to prove that I returned them! Would it be witchy to complain? |
Bigfan | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 09:07 pm     Sia, Your not acting like a biscuit to complain. The library is a "public" library, which means, your part owner! Complaining and acting ugly are two different things. If you go back to the library and talk to someone that is above the person who helped you and tell them what happened, I'm sure you will get some satifation. I like you am not one who likes to spend my money on nothing. I even refuse to buy ice tea at a 1.50 a glass, give me water with lemon please! One of my big speeches is: "Life is a lesson". I guess this lesson would be, next time don't forget to return your movies!! My other big speech is: "Adulthood is not all the much fun". Keep life fun and this will be one of those stories that your kids with laugh with you about when their older!! |
Pamy | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 09:38 pm     Sia, the last part of your fiasco at the Library pissed me off too!!! Now you should really go to the director and go off about her(the person that screwed up your check-in)incompentence and their stupid rule of you having to pay for her incompentence!!!! I have officially started my June PMS and if I knew which Library I would go do it for ya!!!!!
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Donut | Saturday, June 22, 2002 - 09:41 pm     donut comes in to give karuuna a smile... sia, this is a good one for the gripe thread! but we might as well go with it here... I wouldve been just as livid as you, and i have had some really angering dealings with customer service lately ( it seems to be going shockingly down hill) including one where chairs fell on my hub and the mgr didnt give a hoot, to refrain from worse language and refused to adjust the chairs so they would not fall again and kill a little old lady,,,, but anyways about your situation... i hate to see you allow someone who has caused you grief be given the power to further affect your life in a negative way. You and your children obviously have received a lot of pleasure from the library and you shouldnt allow the actions of one incompetent crabass to continue to wield the power to make your life more miserable. You should definitely speak to someone higher up, and let them know of all your donations, volunteering etc,and what a bad day you were having and let them know of all the times you have overlooked THEIR mistakes, and ask to be afforded the same break that you have given them by giving you a break on the fine. It is actually even possible that the person who charged you was also having a bad day. Maybe she has had a few instances of messing up and was yelled at and afraid of losing her job and trying to do everything,as in charging you the fees, by the book because she was afraid of getting in trouble... Anyways, i hope you get it worked out to your satisfaction.. |
Nightcrawler | Monday, June 24, 2002 - 06:16 pm     I'M NEVER ON TIME ANYWERE you can is this by how late I got this posted I'm about 10-15 or some times 20 minits late evrywere. I don't do it to make the ontime people made or the early people really mad thats just me the rest of my famly is aways early so I don't know why I'm aways late bookie allways tells me to be there 20 min. befor the real time she want me there and sometimes I make it on time I was early to my weding I new Book would have killed me if I was late!! |
Weinermr | Monday, June 24, 2002 - 06:30 pm     Nightcrawler, You may be late, but you have a healthy respect for your wife's feelings, and that makes you OK in my Book.  |
Nightcrawler | Monday, June 24, 2002 - 08:02 pm     thanks Weinermr I try too make bookie happy |
Wargod | Monday, June 24, 2002 - 08:11 pm     <wargod thinks that NC might be very, very smart by not ticking the wife off!> |
Sia | Monday, June 24, 2002 - 08:27 pm     Donut, you made me remember something that may be significant: I think it was the same girl who "forgot" to scan in a video that I KNEW I'd returned a couple of months ago. I'd dropped it into the night-deposit slot before the library opened, and by the time the kids and I had finished our errands that morning the movie was on the shelf but STILL on my card as checked-out to me. Hmmmm. . . I AM seeing a pattern here. That isn't the only instance of this same problem, either. They scan a bar code on each item with a wand like the ones used at a department store and "charge" all items to your library card, which looks like a credit card and bears a magnetic bar code strip on the back of it. Technology, BAH! This isn't a case of screwed-up software or a computer glitch; it's simple human error/incompetence. (My husband would say the girl is "over-employed." I say maybe she has passive/aggressive tendencies.) |
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