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Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:04 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I won't say names, but someone mentioned her tendency to lateness in another thread, and said "that's a whole other thread!.."

SO....now it is a whole other thread:

Are you always late, early or right on time?


me--ALWAYS late. incurable.
except usually on time for job interviews.
and weddings. i take that back. only my wedding.

Karuuna

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:19 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
rofl, Donut.

I'm always late. At least 5 minutes, and maybe up to 15 or 20. My friends have started to "pad" meeting times for me, to get me there on time. When I arrive at board meetings, they say "K's here, we can start now."

I can try to rationalize, but you know, I really have no excuse. I set my watch 5 minutes fast, my car clock 10 minutes fast, and my alarm clock 20 minutes fast. But I know they are all fast, so it doesn't help.

I'm hopeless. Is there a 12-step group for this? And, um, what time does the meeting start?

Bookworm

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:20 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Okay, I used to be early to things. Then I got married. NC is late to most everything (not our wedding tho) and therefore now I am late to most things too.

During the school year I get to work about 15 to 20 minutes early. That way I can get myself organized before the kiddos arrive.

Kaili

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:20 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Depends on where I'm going and how much I care but I'm usually right on time or a few minutes early for stuff...
I would be on time but as I'm going out the door I'm always forgetting stuff or deciding I need to do silly stuff like unloading the dishwasher right that second, etc.

Bookworm

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:21 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Kar, our alarm clock is 20 minutes fast and my car clock is 5 minutes fast. It doesn't help NC any tho.

Max

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:23 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Oh, my! I thought you were seeing if someone might be pregnant! LOL

Glad that's not the subject! :)

I'm usually early or at best, on time. Drives me crazy when people are perpetually late. Some psychologists say being perpetually late is a passive-aggressive act showing that you have control. To me, it just says that the late person thinks they are more important than everyone else who is stuck waiting for them.

My practice at work is to start meetings I hold on time. If someone is late, too bad, they'll just have to catch up.

One place I worked fined people who arrived to meetings late. Not unreasonable when you consider that you might have a room of 10 or more engineers sitting and twiddling their thumbs waiting for one person to show up. That's time/money/productivity lost for the company.

Anyway, all this is, of course, my opinion. Your results vary! :)

Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:28 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Kar, didnt take you long to sense the arrival of this thread! You were only 15 minutes late!
rofl, re the meeting time for the 12 step group..
I guess if you arrive on time, they kick you out for being a fraud...

btw: watch- 5 min fast
alarm- 35 min fast
neither help

Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:32 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
max, i dont think i am important, i am just time-challenged..

i wonder if early risers/early to bedders
vs. late risers/late to bedders, correlate with this

i rate late in bedtime, rising time and being late

Sia

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:33 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Always late, especially when getting ready to attend a social function. I'd really rather stay home and think I can weasel out of it if I procrastinate--but it never works. I'm just late and then embarrassed because I'm unprepared!!

Karuuna

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:33 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Max, I don't think I'm passive-aggressive, just too darn busy. But I do agree that keeping folks waiting is rude. :)

I actually don't mind if meetings start without me. I really don't like them, so I think I show up late because I'd just as soon miss part of them.

Kaili

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I've shut my eyes while moving my alarm clock ahead so I wouldn't know how far ahead it is. Although I'm usually on time I hate waking up! I keep an alarm set in the living room so I have to get out of bed and walk to turn it off.

Karuuna

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
donut - me too. I like to stay up late and sleep late.

And I'm way over-committed, that's part of it. So I'm always trying to get just one more thing done before I go on to the next. I'm learning to just say no to that one more thing. See, I'm already a recovering late-aholic.

Sia

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
LOL, I'm ALWAYS LATE!! When I began my post in answer to Donut's new topic, I was going to be the FIRST to answer! When I finally finished with my other open windows, I ended up way down the list!! Always late, never early. That's me!

Kaili

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:37 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I go to bed late, wake up at reasonable times without the alarm (usually around 8 or 9 on weekends) but I can make myself get to where I need to go on time. Except one of my jobs (the one I hate)- they don't say anything if you're late so sometimes I let myself be late.

Moondance

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:43 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Someone wise once said if you are late it is a sign of disrespect. It is egotistical to think everyone else must be on your schedule because that is what you are doing if late ... expecting people to abide by your time not theirs ... needless to say I try not to be late. Most of the time :) I am on time. (unusual for LA... LOL)

One of my clients said he can set his watch by me because I am always on time:)

Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 08:45 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
so far my poll has revealed a correlation of late people with irreverent clip art faces...donut

Oregonfire

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 09:40 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I was ALWAYS a few minutes late to teach my 8:30 a.m. class in a city 45 miles away this past quarter. I just could NOT help it; it was out of my realm of ability to do anything about it. For any other class, I have always been on time.

I had another job where we had to be there at 8 a.m. for a week, 9 a.m. for any other week. I was always late during the 8 a.m. week. My body and brain just don't respond to clocks at that hour.

In other areas in my life, I am usually punctual within a few minutes, if that isn't a contradiction in terms! However, I don't think it's my right to be habitually late, and wouldn't keep a friend waiting alone in a public place, the worst offense in my opinion. I had a friend who used to do that all the time and it made me furious.

Wargod

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 09:40 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I am always on time. Set the alarm clock half an hour ahead in the mornings (it does work for me, since I'm usually so groggy in the morning I can't figure out what time it really is, lol.)

My sister is ALWAYS late. And never just 5or 10 minutes, but closer to hours late. If she says she'll be there at 7, she means 10! Drives me insane!

Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:00 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
oregon, did you see Friends last week when ross couldnt ever make it across town to teach his class on time?

Pamy

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I am famous for being late!!! I have all my clocks set 15 min ahead to try and help me but I seem to spend more time trying to minus the 15 to find out the actual time!!!
They used to always say my mom and I would be late to our own funeral, so my mom and I had said that whoever died first would have the casket wheeled in after the funeral started(we are known for our wild humor and practical jokes, the Lucy in us, I guess) My mom died in 1997 and I was devasted, I remember crying and looking up(to Heaven)saying ' Mom, I just can't do that now'. The day of the funeral the director came in and said there was a problem and wouldn't be able to have my Mom ready for burial until 3 days later,he felt really bad and had a hard time telling me, so imagine his shock when I started laughing.

Oregonfire

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:24 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Donut, I saw part of it and it gave me nightmares! It's not like you can just show up, get your coffee, and check your e-mail in your cubicle. No, you have to show up and be Tony Robbins, motivational English teacher who's got it all together for the next 50 minutes. Plus hundreds of graded papers and revisons for everyone. Terrible at 8 a.m. I cried the last day of class IN CLASS because the pressure of being perfect was just getting to be way too much. Students' jaws were on the floor.

(Hello--Can you say "Get OUT of teaching!"? Hey, I'm working on it!)

Bob2112

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:36 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I thought this thread started at 11:00 PM and that I would be early. Traffic was terrible on the information super highway, so I even allowed extra time.
Usually right on time for things I want to do, and about 5 minutes late for the less interesting things.
All my clocks are set correct because when I tried to set them ahead, I mentally adjusted for the difference.
bob

Donut

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:37 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
((((oregon))))
i have been trying to get you to quit and just offer us an online course. we will behave and there will be no early class and we will accept pass fail as a grade..do you get the summer off? i had my last day at school today! woohoo! (except for the going broke part)
btw sorry to make you relive a nightmare.:(

Max

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:47 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Pamy, I love that story. You and your mom must have had an awesome relationship. :)

Oregonfire

Thursday, June 20, 2002 - 10:47 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
That's okay, Donut--I'm already teaching an online course, so only the plants will be witness to any odd crying jags! BTW, you should check into online teaching yourself, as online courses seem to not be subject to summer hiatus.


Pamy, I found your story to be very touching and sweet. I'm glad a light moment could be found during such a stressful time.