Archive through April 10, 2002
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Archive through April 10, 2002
Juju2bigdog | Thursday, March 21, 2002 - 07:36 pm     I was going to post here about a miracle, but I see Donut already predicted it not long after I posted about ruining the rayon dress. Here is what the very wise Donut said: "juju-sometimes when you wreck rayon you can iron it out." So, I just took the tiny, stiff as a board thing and hung it on a door and forgot about it for a few days while the memory faded. Well, as it dried, it started softening back up. And tonight I started ironing it. Danged if it isn't getting bigger by the second. It might actually be okay!!! The light isn't very good in here at night, so I'll finish it up and try it on tomorrow. No sense scorching it now that it is coming back to life. That is absolutely bizarre. Obviously I have never washed non-washable rayon before and Donut has! Does this mean I don't have to buy Grooch a dishwasher?
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Twiggyish | Thursday, March 21, 2002 - 07:53 pm     I've ironed rayon and it does work. Glad there is hope for it. |
Merlin | Thursday, March 21, 2002 - 08:06 pm     I'm trying to picture Juju ironing.....it doesn't happen |
Tksoard | Thursday, March 21, 2002 - 08:34 pm     Well, in Buffalo Valley Tenn. it is now 24 degrees and going down to 21 with 25 mph winds. And I moved from Mich for this??? 10 years ago today, I slipped on ice and broke my tibia and fibula. I had a cast up to my hip for 3 months and a walking cast for 9 more. What was so strange about it was that I had lived in Mich for 37 years, and never hurt myself when I fell. We moved to Tenn in July of "91 and my hubby couldn't find a job, so we went back to Mich in March for a few months since he still had his job up there. It was like in the few winter months in Tenn with no snow, I forgot how to walk on ice. Now, 10 years later, my mom said that they are having snow today, just like then. I told her to stay in the house. I'm very superstitious when it comes to accident anniversarys.  |
Juju2bigdog | Thursday, March 21, 2002 - 10:51 pm     Merlin, I made up the whole thing. I also don't have a black dress. I only wear plaid flanned shirts. and boots. and carry a knife in my teeth.
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Tess | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 12:21 am     What do you do with the knife when you're eating your cocktail wienies?  |
Schoolmarm | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 05:43 am     ARGGG...my poor flowerbulbs. It had been so nice and they were almost ready to bloom. BUT yesterday the wind whipped in with horizontal rain that turned into snow within 30 minutes. This morning it is 10 degrees, and I'm afraid my garden is a goner. BLECH. |
Twiggyish | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 06:06 am     Tess, we need to check Miss Manners..LOL |
Babyruth | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 03:49 pm     Tksoard, where in Mich are you from???? I'm in the A2 area. Tess, I think you carefully lick off the knife and stick it back in your boot! But Miss Manners would be the authority of course..... |
Weinermr | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 03:51 pm     You shouldn't say knife and wienie in the same sentence. |
Tksoard | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 04:29 pm     BR, I was born and raised in Paw Paw (wine country) and later in Kalamazoo. Where is A2? Sorry, should I know that, being from Mich?  |
Buttercup | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 04:43 pm     I know, I know--it's Ann Arbor! I got my first degree from U of M. Go blue!
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Babyruth | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 05:46 pm     Paw Paw! We've stopped at the wine shop off I-94 on the way to Chicago many times. Buttercup!! When was this and what was your degree in and how long did you live here and all that????? |
Urgrace | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 06:02 pm     Hey Tk, what is the name of that restaurant on the north side of PawPaw that everybody goes to? We always liked eating there when circling our way back home from places up and down the coastline. Butter, my brother graduated U of M too! Grrr Hissss he had a 4.0 gpa .... |
Tksoard | Friday, March 22, 2002 - 07:59 pm     Babyruth, I should have known it was Ann Arbor. It's like 2 Paw's. You must have gone to St. Julians Winery. I grew up just 3 blocks from there. I have never been on a tour there, and I never drank wine. I had no business taking up space in that town if I wasn't going to take advantage of it, right? Were you born in Ann Arbor? I have been to the U of M Hospital there many times. They have the most fantastic Eye surgeons there. Dr. Monte DelMonte for one. Really that is his name. And Dr. Sieving for another. They made the diagnosis when everyone else was giving me steriod shots in the eye, and then saying it was "all in my head". They saved my vision, and I will always be grateful to them. Gracie, Do you mean LaCantina? That is the really famous Italian resturant in town across from Maple Lake. You can sit on the patio, and watch the dam water. I've heard people from CA talk about the place. I went home for my birthday 2 years ago and the family took me there for my Birthday Pizza. It was the worse pizza I ever had. I really didn't see what people saw in the food. The owners live just down the road from me (well, in Paw Paw, everyone lived down the road from everyone. Very small town) and I went to school with their son (a real hunka hunka Italian man!!). If that wasn't the place Gracie, sorry for dragging it out. Give me another hint.  |
Urgrace | Tuesday, April 09, 2002 - 10:47 pm     Today there was an email for me from a bowling buddy "D". I hurridly opened it expecting the usual. She was supposed to take the state trip with me and paid her money for it, but a few weeks ago backed out leaving me, as captain, short notice to find a replacement for the team. I assured her that I would do my best to find someone, and thought we were on good terms. About two weeks ago, another buddy "C" and I found a lady "B" who graciously accepted. I got the paper work filled out and sent in the details. "C" got a check from "B" for the bowling, but "C" had "B" put MY name on the check instead of "D", then "C" gives ME the check. Why, I don't know. "B" could have just sent the check directly to "D". So I ended up with the check, and now the check is in my purse and I haven't even been to the bank to deposit it, so I keep forgetting to write another check to reimburse "D". Yes, this is an oversight on my part which I should have taken care of right away. But when I received an email from "D" today, I was shocked, embarrassed and then angry. She attacked me about dragging my feet to get it to her, and unfairly accused me of having the check for five weeks which is not true since we only just found "B" a couple weeks ago, AND "D" would have had to forfeit her $ if we had not found someone to take her place. My first thought was catty and I thought about counterattacking and writing her back, 'Yeah I am about as reliable as YOU are!' so she would know how it hurt. Then of course I became angry with myself for even thinking that way and for letting the situation happen in the first place. Needless to say, we will probably never even be on speaking terms after this. A nice reminder would have jogged my memory of the check, and I suppose she is angry that she 'had' to remind me. Not a good situation for pleasant relationships. I didn't do it on purpose, and I am usually reliable. Funny how some people can make potshots at others so easily, but no one else wants the responsibilities of captain because of all the paperwork, legwork, extra expense, time consuming phone calls, shopping for uniforms, making reservations and even chauffering sometimes hundres of miles. I have been responsible and taken care of all the details for several years. I have not written her back yet, because I still don't want to say something to hurt her just because she hurt me. Aaarrrrgggggghhhh! Grrrrrr! Hissssss! Sigh... Now, I am just sad and had to vent........ |
Moondance | Tuesday, April 09, 2002 - 11:56 pm     (((Urgrace))) |
Christina | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 03:55 am     hey Urgrace, dont worry, be happy . I know how those feeling can get the better of a person. Be strong and real smart back. |
Twiggyish | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 05:39 am     She isn't worth your time or effort. It's probably just as well that she didn't make the trip. Could you imagine having her along? |
Juju2bigdog | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 08:32 am     Bummer, Urgrace. I didn't read others replies yet. I expect people will be offering suggested replies as I am about to. May I suggest something unemotional and to the point, like, "Sorry. I forgot to deposit B's check. It is still in my purse. I will take care of it. I just want you to know the tone of your e-mail very much hurt my feelings." It is polite, to the point, but lets her know she acted badly. |
Wink | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 08:45 am     Urgrace I think you said it best yourself: >>A nice reminder would have jogged my memory of the check,<<< and then what Juju said. |
Webkitty | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 09:48 am     {{{URGRACE}}} Did she say why she was cancelling in the first place? My immediate thought when I read your post was that she might be having money problems,just a thought.....I don't know how much the check was for but she sounded kinda desperate to get it back, I'm just saying....... I agree that she could have (and SHOULD have) given you a nice e-mail reminder, regardless of the reason. Hang in there kid-0  |
Rabbit | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 11:10 am     Urgrace, your friend undoubtedly took your slight oversight, dwelled on it in her mind and let her emotions betray her into overreacting. I would respond “graciously”: Dear D, I am so sorry for the oversight. I had not even gotten around to depositing B’s check. I suspect by the tone of your email that you are upset with me, but please accept my sincere apology for my careless oversight. Your Friend Always, Grace. This approach has several advantages. It can save a friendship while making D feel like a heel. Then in a couple of years you can make her a Rabbit’s Special Birthday cake. Now, I buy my special candles from Krupp Munitions, their fuses … er …wicks are much more dependable, My friend W.E. Coyote buys his from ACME but frankly his results are seldom satisfactory. |
Buttercup | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 11:29 am     Urgrace, I really feel for you... Sometimes friends or buddies aren't who we thought they were. You know what her issue is, though it could turn out that she really is mad about something/somebody else and taking it out on you I have somebody who I thought was a good friend stop talking to me without explaining what the problem is, or if there is something I've said or done. I have asked, but only gotten evasive or sarcastic comments back. Now there is just silence. There is nothing else I can do if the person won't talk. I guess I shouldn't be posting this in this thread since I am not angry, just very sad. My feelings are hurt, and I am beginning to think that perhaps this person wasn't a true friend to begin with  |
Labmouse | Wednesday, April 10, 2002 - 01:30 pm     Okay, here is my contrarian view. I have been in situations like this too many times. People don't forget when they are owed money. It is truly amazing how things escape the memory when it goes the other way. Many times I have had people owe me small sums of money. The amount was negligiable in their financial world, but in my world, it seemed like everything (I was poor). Many times I needed this money to make my rent payment, and many times I needed this money for my next meal. Shouldn't I be bitter that someone could so cavaliarly forget to pay me back, when it affected the way I lived? I would stress out to the max about this money. Yes, one could say, "Why didn't you just ask for the money?" Simple answer here: Since I was owed the money, I did not feel it was my responsibilty to go ask for repayment. Why should I feel the shame or embarassment of seeking out the money? I felt that the person owing me the money was the person who should be embarassed. Yet, they never seemed to be. There were many people who never paid me back, and never mentioned the fact that they owed me money. Should I just assume that these memory lapses were just a coincidence? I don't think so. Sometimes people are financially desperate, and they may not act like you would expect them to act. They may not ask for the money, even though they should. When they finally ask for the money, it may not be in a pleasant manner. Sometimes acculmulated stress makes one forget the social graces. Sorry if I went against the grain here, but I had to respond with the other side of the coin. It needed representing. |
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