Archive through April 05, 2002
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Archive through April 05, 2002
Xxlt | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 03:49 pm     saw an article on manners and rudeness in the LA TIMES yesterday. apparently society is short on manners and long on rudeness..... first is cell phones in a supermarket, "Ah, no, just low fat....." "Garlic in regular, but no low fat." "seven seasons, wishbone, hidden valley" "no big bottle, just 8 ouncers" you say, 'Excuse me.....' and they get totally pissed off that you have to get them to move their baskets from the middle of the aisle........ mom told me to be respectful to people and hold a door open.......FOR GOD'S SAKE at least acknowledge the person holding the door......it has nothing to do with sex, age, or looks...... nothing is more bothersome than a women who says, 'I can open my own door!' Suv's.....think about dinosaurs for a second...... giant bodies and small brains, and look what happened to them............. my bumpersticker says, small penis, no boobs? buy an suv! |
Goatgirl | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 04:28 pm     just saw this on msn - maybe the same article? http://www.msnbc.com/news/733453.asp?pne=msn |
Whoami | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 04:43 pm     Re: Opening doors. Have you ever come up to a double glass door, and head for the door on your right. It swings towards you, so you have to take a step forward to grab the door handle, then a step back to open the door. As you're stepping back, someone is coming from the other side. Instead of going to the door on their right (the one on your left), they barge through the door you just opened, nearly knocking you backwards in the process. That happens to me ALL THE TIME!!!! Men, women, anyone. It just doesn't matter. I think I have "Doorman" tatooed across my forehead or something. And of course, no "thank you," (If they misinterpreted and thought I opened the door for them), no nothing. Grrrrr...... |
Weinermr | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 05:22 pm     MEN WHO THINK THEY HAVE MANNERS My pet peeve (one of many) is the man who holds the door open for the woman walking in behind him, and then lets the door slam in the face of the man right behind her. Bah!!!! If you have manners, you will hold the door open for anyone, not just for someone you want to "impress". The whole process reminds me of the chimps in the jungle. |
Xxlt | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 05:24 pm     goat.... same subject, different article! who.... yes all the time, some times i'll lean in a bit and whisper "you're welcome!" to them...... sometimes they'll say something like "oops, thank you.."....or just motor on........ somtimes you'll get a whole conga line go thru before you know it!!!! |
Xxlt | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 05:36 pm     weinermr.. in a perfect world the second gentleman will take the door from the first, say thank you, and repeat the process sometimes the 'second man in' takes advantage of the first gent... (a real guy lets the women go in first, not behind him! if your scenario is correct the SECOND guy should be have manners and get the door for the gal!) |
Juju2bigdog | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 06:06 pm     Uhhhhhh ... we're still talking doors here, right? Not something kinky? Right? |
Weinermr | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 06:11 pm     I think it's about doors Juju. In any case don't become unhinged. |
Juju2bigdog | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 08:17 pm     Well, I just didn't want to be the only one Pushing on the Pull door, Weinermr, so to speak. |
Oregonfire | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 08:49 pm     My pet peeve is when a man stakes his entire philosophy of equality between the sexes on his ability (or inability) to open doors for women. Chivalry isn't dead, but in a world where women still make .75 cents on every dollar of a man's salary, who opens the door for whom is pretty much beside the point to me. (Comments not directed at anyone in particular. Getting off my soapbox--a touchy subject for me--lost a very good potential boyfriend over it.) |
Nightcrawler | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 09:08 pm     Do you all live in biger city's?? I live in a small town in south Iowa and I don't see much of this door thing here. but we have about 5000 in are town and we see the same people all day long. so maybe that why? what I hate is the way people drive. I-35 go's right throu are town and people from out of state cut u off all the time!!! and I'm a vol.fireman and we have to drive to the firehouse to get the fire trucks and most people will not get out of the way even when I have my blue lights on and head lights flashing. It could be ther house I'm trying to get too??? It has gotten better after 9-11 some. we are ruder now I think? |
Whoami | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 09:41 pm     Xxlt, "somtimes you'll get a whole conga line go thru before you know it!!!!" LOL!! So true! |
Schoolmarm | Wednesday, April 03, 2002 - 11:08 pm     Nightcrawler...people from bigger towns/cities don't apparently know what the blue lights are for. I actually had to yell at the young college kids this fall to get out of the way when the sirens go off. We are one block from the firestation and there are about three to five crew members who tear up our street and whiz up the alley to get to the firehouse. There the silly neighbors were, blocking the street. SIGH. I hate it that we have to rely on our volunteers for rescue squad and fire, as I'm used to living in bigger places with a paid staff. I'm VERY grateful for these men and women who answer calls at ALL hours...and VERY quickly. I wish that drivers would give them the right of way they need! |
Kathi25 | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 06:56 am     Nightcrawler and School? These blue lights are on personal vehicles of the volunteer firemen? And you are talking about the route from home to the fire station before you are even in the fire truck? I would have to say I would more than likely not have a clue to get out of your way either. Out here in Southern CA you just get the red lights of the fire engine and the firemen 'live' at the station during their shift. Very interesting to me. |
Whowhere | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 07:48 am     Fortunately, I've not come across many people that are blantanly rude where I now live. Before I moved here, I lived somewhere where you couldn't even drive down the street without getting flipped off 4 times before you reached your destination. I think it all depends on where you live. As far as getting out of the way for flashing lights, we have several volunteer fire departments around here. They drive in regular cars with a single flashing red light on top. I tend to yield to any vehicle with a flashing light(s), with the exception of maybe tow trucks. In this article, I find it interesting that 41% of the people polled admitted they were sometimes part of the problem themselves. http://abcnews.go.com/sections/us/DailyNews/rudeness020403.html |
Urgrace | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 01:47 pm     It is rude and dangerous for people to not be aware of their surroundings during driving. There are plenty of people around here who do not even try get out of the way of emergency vehicles and block their path. Recently, I found out that there are many places across this great nation of ours where people DO NOT pull over and stop for an oncoming funeral procession. It has always been the courteous thing to do where I have lived. The procession is led by police (here it is usually two motorcycles) with their lights flashing as they stop in intersections to allow the funeral procession to drive without stopping to the cemetary. The cars in the procession all have their headlights on,too. My biggest peeves are when others break into the line of cars pretending to be mourners, or just fly by without a care in the world. Having to go to a funeral is bad enough! |
Tksoard | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 02:15 pm     I hate to say it, but Chicago is the worst for funeral procession weaver birds. When I went to my grandma's funeral many years ago, there were not only people breaking through the line, but weaving in and out to get past everyone. Really Rude!! I was brought up in a small town, and if there was a funeral procession, you pulled over to the side of the road, going BOTH ways, out of respect. I know in big cities that would be impossible, but it is a nice gesture.  |
Nightcrawler | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 02:37 pm     I guess I should have explained the blue lights I was talking about. You're right Kathi in Iowa the vol. Firemen can have blue lights on there car/truck to let other people know to pull over and let them by. In other states they use red or green lights. Also in Iowa ambulance vol. use white lights not many people know that. On my truck I have a set of blue lights like police car would have and my headlights flash. and people still won't get over. It's one thing if you don't see me coming, but what really gets me is when someone looks in their mirror and sees me and still won't get over. I guess if you were not from a town that has a vol. fire department you would not know what we were doing?? So just pull over if you see flashing lights and your in southern Iowa. Urgrace You are right people that can't take 2 minutes out of their day to show some respect to the dead and their family...that's just not right!!!!!!!! |
Bookworm | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 02:46 pm     A couple things I told my sister when she was learning to drive was to (1) pull over and stop with your headlights on for a funeral procession and (2) pull to the side of the road when you see flashing lights coming your way from either direction. These topics aren't usually covered in Driver's Education but I think they are important rules of driving also. |
Schoolmarm | Thursday, April 04, 2002 - 07:06 pm     In our town the firemen and rescue squad volunteers have blue lights on their trucks or cars. The fire chief has a bar of red lights and a siren on his personal truck (a pick up, not the fire truck). Most small towns have volunteer fire departments. About the funeral processions. It's hard to tell that it's a funeral procession from behind. And what do you do on the interstate? I usually pull over, but I'm in the minority here. I also think that we need to adopt the European custom of pulling over to the slow lane when a faster car is behind you. In Europe they flash their lights at you and I think that it's a law that you have to yeild to them. |
Whowhere | Friday, April 05, 2002 - 05:22 am     Here's a story that I thought would be appropriate to share since we're talking about flashing lights. This is a true event that actually happened to the daughter of one of my dearest friends - not just another one of those Internet stories that are passed on and on. Lauren is a 19 year old sophomore in college, and this incident happened to her during the Christmas/New Year's holiday break: It was about 1 PM in the afternoon, on the Saturday before New Year's. Lauren was driving from home (Winchester, VA), on her way to visit a friend in Warrenton. She was on Route 50 East, traveling towards Middleburg. Route 50 East is a main road (55 mph, two lanes of travel on each side of a big median), but is somewhat secluded, known for it's big horse farms and beautiful country estates. Shortly after she left Winchester, Lauren found she was actually following behind a state police car. She was going just over 65 mph, since that was his speed. After about fifteen minutes of quiet travel, an unmarked police car pulled up behind her and turned his flashers on. My friend and her husband have four children (now high school and college age) and have always told them never to pull over for an unmarked car on the side of the road, but rather, to wait until they get to a place where they can safely pull completely off the road - and where there are people - like a gas station, etc. So even though there was a marked police car in front of her, Lauren actually remembered her parent's advice, and promptly called #77 on her cell phone to tell the dispatcher that she would not pull over right away. She proceeded to tell the dispatcher that there were two police cars - an unmarked one behind her, and a marked one in front of her. The dispatcher checked to confirm that there were two police cars where she was. There wasn't, and the dispatcher connected Lauren to the policeman in front of her. He told her to keep driving, remain calm, and that back-up was on the way. Ten minutes later, four police cars surrounded her and the unmarked car behind her. When they came to a stop, the policeman she had been following went to her side, and the others pulled the guy from his car, tackled him to the ground and handcuffed him. He was identified as a convicted rapist, and was wanted for other crimes as well. I never knew that bit of advice. Especially for a woman alone in a car, you should NEVER pull over for an unmarked car in a secluded area. In fact, even a marked car after dark should follow you to a populated area. Apparently, police will respect your right to keep going to a "safe" place. You obviously need to make some signals that you acknowledge them (i.e. put your hazard lights on) and call #77 if you can, like Lauren did. I am so thankful that my friend was able to tell us this scary story while sitting at our book club meeting, rather than hearing it from her at her house as we were consoling her because something tragic had occurred! Thank God Lauren listened to her parents! She was shaken up, but otherwise fine. Awareness is everything! |
Juju2bigdog | Friday, April 05, 2002 - 10:21 am     Sounds like an urban legend, so I went here: Snopes Urban Legends - Search on "police car." I agree with Snopes that parts of the above story are a little flaky. Like, what rapist is going to try to make a score with a marked police car clearly visible? But the overall message is not too bad. |
Urgrace | Friday, April 05, 2002 - 01:46 pm     Concerning the funeral procession, I was talking about 'oncoming' traffic or traffic that turns into the funeral procession with full knowledge of it. Even if a person unknowingly pulls into the line of cars, they should pull over once they see the police at the intersections! It's not that hard to figure out. Schoolmarm - in my experience it is the law to drive in the right lane and use the left lane for passing only. Therefore if someone is going slow (or the speed limit in Texas!!) they would automatically be in the right lane leaving the left open for passing. Texans don't even know it is a law and often get pulled over when they venture out into other states! There is a sweet dear 80 year old lady I know who would not stop for a police car one day on her way to work and kept driving til she got there. The officer pulled his revolver on her and was totally incensed by her not stopping and gave her a lecture and a huge ticket. The same week some guy from a car waved at her that she had a flat tire and hollered at her to stop. She did! There was no flat tire, and she is extremely lucky the guy found it inopportune to harm her or rob her! <Who - All you have to dial is # 7 7 ? I never knew that.> |
Misslibra | Friday, April 05, 2002 - 02:28 pm     This thread is about peeves right ? Ok here is one of my peeves. There this guy on Tv who has a show called the O'Reilly Factor, who claims it's a no spin zone , when all the guy does is spin, his show is about spinning. Why do I watch the show you might ask ? Well I have a really good answer, I like throwing things at the TV.  |
Car54 | Friday, April 05, 2002 - 02:33 pm     MissL, that O'Reilly guy is one BIG peeve. |
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