Archive through January 22, 2002

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Aussiedeb

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 10:37 am Click here to edit this post
Sunshinemiss...Im sorry for the loss of your dad...I lost mine on his 78th birthday in September after a long battle with prostate and bone cancer....the worst part is that I live in the US now and he died in Australia, and due to the tragic events of 9/11 i was unable to fly home for the funeral...My doctor referred me to a grief therapist, and it worked out ok...

Here is a poem/prayer that was sent to me when my dad passed away and thought you could use this..i had it read at his funeral....

God looked around his Garden and found an empty place.
He then looked down upon his earth and saw your loving face.
He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest.
His Garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering, he knew you were in pain.
And knew that you would never get well on earth again.
He saw your path was difficult, he closed you tired eyes,
He whispered to you "Peace be Thine" and gave you wings to fly.
When we saw you sleeping so calm and free of pain,
We would not wish you back to earth to suffer once again.
You've left us precious memories, your love will be our guide,
You live on through your children, you're always by our side.
It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone.
For part of us went with you on the day God called you home.


Hope this helps
Deb

Car54

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 10:49 am Click here to edit this post
Sunshinemiss, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful dad.
I have been through this with both parents, and as others have said, you have to give yourself permission to do what you feel in the moment. If you feel sad, let it be that way. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Jewels

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 11:09 am Click here to edit this post
Sunshinemiss, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sunshinemiss

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 02:58 pm Click here to edit this post
Thank you all so much. I feel like I need to be strong and it is a relief to come here and read your kind words and just be sad, a child of 42 missing her Daddy.

Unfortunately I come from a very dysfunctional family, and aside from my stepmom I have been the only sibling that came to be with my Dad during his illness. That part was o.k., as you say everyone deals with grief and loss differently but now I am starting to deal with the phone calls from my brother and sister and the first word out of my brothers mouth were "when is the reading of the will?". Not a word about Dad, a question about his passing or coming to the memorial service. I try not to be angry, as this is not a time to deal with old wounds, but I am having a really hard time with all this.

Deb, that is a lovely poem, I would like to read it at my dad's memorial service if you don't mind.

Bless you all for your support and kind thoughts.

Urgrace

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 03:43 pm Click here to edit this post
You must be a wonderful person who usually has sunshine to spread around for others, and I hope and pray that the people here have helped you feel better after your loss. My condolensces and good wishes go with you. Deb's poem is beautiful.

Aussiedeb

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 04:08 pm Click here to edit this post
Sunshinemiss...That would be wonderful if you would read that...My hubby added some graphics to the poem and had it framed professionally for me and it sits on a table with a candle and a jar of aussie vegemite(which was dads favorite). We also made one each for my brother and my mom...
I just thought it would be appropriate for you in this time of grief...That is sad about your brothers words...Feel free to email me if you want to chat..i do have yahoo and icq and msn as well...
Take Care
Deb

Magikearth

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 05:58 pm Click here to edit this post
((((((Sunshinemiss))))))),
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.As others have said, there is no time limit for mourning.
You're a very kind, sweet (not to mention charming and witty!) person.It comes through every time you post!Those around you are very lucky! I'm sure that your Dad knew how much you loved him. Hold onto that thought.Your Dad's Spirit will live on through you and your son.
I wish you Peaceful and Comforting thoughts.

Deb,Thank you for posting that poem.It is very touching.

Magikearth

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 06:12 pm Click here to edit this post
Sunshine,Did your Dad nickname you "Sunshinemiss" after a song?
I think I remember reading that in the "Where did your username come from?" thread.
He used to sing you a song about California that went,"California,here I come.."
I thought that was really sweet:)

Sunshinemiss

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 06:49 pm Click here to edit this post
Yes Magik it was actually a family joke because he slightly mixed up the lyrics, but I never minded. How kind of you to remember, that is a happy thought on a day with few happy thoughts.

Thank you all so much, I cannot tell you how much comfort you have brought to me today. I know my Dad is in a better place, but I can't help my selfish thoughts to wish he was still here with me.

Wargod

Tuesday, January 15, 2002 - 08:47 pm Click here to edit this post
Sunshinemiss, I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose some one in that way, but to have to guide your child through it is even harder. It's been over a year since my step dad passed, and my son will still come to me in tears. Breaks my heart.

Grooch

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 09:25 am Click here to edit this post
To the auditors at my company. This is for you.

Sunshinemiss

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 03:05 pm Click here to edit this post
Grooch, what happened?

Juju2bigdog

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 05:22 pm Click here to edit this post
Uh oh, I hope not another party. Or another gift to buy?

Grooch

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 06:33 pm Click here to edit this post
I wrote a whole long post explaining, but then the main auditor (b*tch) walked in and I had to erase it.

I was going to start a thread yesterday because of her. I would go start it right now, but my husband just walked in. Maybe later.

Babyruth

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 07:59 pm Click here to edit this post
PSSSST! Tomorrow is Weinermr's birthday--Pass it on!

Juju2bigdog

Friday, January 18, 2002 - 09:40 pm Click here to edit this post
Start a thread, Grooch. You have way more than enough material for one. You can put your amazing otherworldy south Florida news stories in there too!

Grooch

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 09:47 am Click here to edit this post
This is the type of thing that will make a person nuts.

My boss just walked into my office 5 minutes ago and said, "We're having a meeting tomorrow at 3 to discuss some things, make sure you can make it."

I asked, "Who is included in this "we"?"

Boss: I don't know.

Me: What's the meeting about?

Boss: I can't tell you that.

Me: Can you tell me where it is going to be?

Boss: I don't know where.

Me: Is it going to be good news or bad news?

Boss: A little of both.

Me: Is it going to be a company wide meeting.

Boss: No, there's one on Friday.

And then he walks out of the office.


Argh! Why tell me nothing about something the day before. I know it can't be good if he refused to tell me absolutely nothing except for the time.

Twiggyish

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 10:13 am Click here to edit this post
Grooch, I've been there and it drives me crazy, too.
Look on the bright side, he did say there was good news. (Maybe your boss is leaving)

Grooch

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 10:16 am Click here to edit this post
I like my boss. It's the rest of management that irritates me.

(I can tell this is some upper management top secret thing.)

Pcakes2

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 10:22 am Click here to edit this post
Grooch, For your own sanity and safety, please use the link below!

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You're too good of a person to deal with that crap!

Oregonfire

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 11:18 am Click here to edit this post
Grooch, it all sounds very Kafkaesque. In "The Trial," Joseph K is dragged out of his bed one morning by the authorities and hauled off to jail. Throughout the entire novel, including his trial, Joseph, and the reader, never find out what crime he had committed, only that he is somehow guilty. Does any of this sound familiar? The only comfort I can offer in the short term is to indulge in the absurdity of it all.

That, and you have the beginnings of an excellent screenplay a la "Dilbert," about the innate ridiculousness of the corporate world.

Car54

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 12:13 pm Click here to edit this post
Oh, Grooch, I have been through this kind of thing THREE times. In my experience the good/bad news can be open to interpretation.

It is the kind of thing where I wish they would just call you in and tell you. Telling you a day ahead so you can go crazy is cruel!

Hang in there.

Max

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 01:09 pm Click here to edit this post
Grooch,
I've been on both sides of this equation and neither of them is fun. As the employee, you KNOW something bad is coming, you're just not sure if it's effects you or your friends or both. Sometimes you're proved wrong and the "bad" is something that doesn't seem negative to you at all.

On the boss side of things, this is NO picnic! You're told by senior management that you have to deliver the news at a specified time to everyone. The only way to make that happen is to tell everyone the day before to be at the meeting. Problem is, you can't say anything else. Everyone immediately assumes the news is terrible (and at least part of it probably is), so you effectively kill any productivity from your staff between the time you announce the meeting and when the meeting is actually held. In fact, things can actually get much worse than if you just sprang the news on them, but you didn't have any choice in the matter.

Then, there's the "fun" task of determining which of your employees will feel the brunt of the bad news. If it involves layoffs, you've got to decide who goes and who stays. If layoffs have been anticipated because business has obviously been 'off' lately, then you have to gamble that the folks you ask to stay haven't already been looking for work and deciding to leave anyway. The risk exists that you could be laying off half the staff and then find that the other half quits anyway.

No matter which side you're on, it's no picnic. Your boss probably has been experiencing indigestion over this for at least a couple of days without being able to say anything.

As Car said, hang in there. We'll keep our fingers crossed for you! :)

Car54

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 01:33 pm Click here to edit this post
Max, you put it very well. The good news is that you are in the pre-meeting meeting. Usually that can be a good sign- AND you don't have to wait til Friday! :)

The worst one of these I ever went through, they had the meeting in a restaurant!-I think, thinking no one would mis-behave in public! (didn't happen!)

Jbean

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 - 06:42 pm Click here to edit this post
grooch, hey i can relate to your stuff too. after we came back to work that monday after our thanksgiving break my boss tells me that he needs to talk to me after our departmental staff meeting. so i try not to worry. well, he tells me that by the beginning of the year that either me or the receptionist...also my closest friend at work will have to be cut because of overhead costs being cut. so basically he's telling me that i need to look for a new job or help the receptionsist look for one. you know, NO BIG DEAL! well, to make a long story short, the receptionist transferred to another plant, so now i am doing her job, plus mine, plus another assistant that left back in may that they both of us had been splitting responsibilities! and today my boss had the nerve to get onto me for being behind on stuff! AAUGGGH! i am at my wits end! looking for a new job as we speak. so hopefully your "meeting" won't be as sh***y as mine was. let us know! we'll be thinking of you.