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Tksoard

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:38 pm Click here to edit this post

I wonder if anyone out there can help me. My sisters cat BJ died last year and she had her cremated. I went to Mich for a visit in Sept. and she still had her in the styrofoam box. I want to get her a nice resting place for BJ. I looked for an urn, but they are so expensive. Would an attractive wooden box with her picture on it and BJ engraved be good? or does it have to have a lining for the box. The ashes or in a baggy, but does anyone know anything about this? I'd appreciate any feedback. My vet doesn't know.

Willi

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:46 pm Click here to edit this post

Moondance & Flint,

Thanks so much. The "Rites of Passage" & "Rainbow Bridge" helped Lauren a lot...She said, "That's true."

So it must be...

:)

Moondance

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:47 pm Click here to edit this post

Tks... My Mom's dog Bandit died last year and she too had him cremated. His ashes are in a plastic like bag and kept in an engraved tin box that I gave her... it is special that she has it and it is very sweet of you to do that for your sister:)

Moondance

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:49 pm Click here to edit this post

Your welcome Willi... anything to help that cute & wonderful spirit of hers :)

Flint

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:51 pm Click here to edit this post

You can buy wooden urns from funeral homes. They don't coast near as much as the stone or metal urns, but are still very tastefully made. Your best bet would be to check out with a funeral home, or two, in your area.

Alternatively, if you would rather use a box of some sort, maybe check out a craft show, or kiosk at a mall. A nice looking box or chest would be good too. You should use a lining of some sort in the box, even though it won't be opened. At the very least, have the ashes in a plastic bag, then put them in the box.

Tksoard

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 04:58 pm Click here to edit this post

Moondance and Flint. Thanks for the help. I just didn't know if there was a good reason for the lining, but I guess if the ashes are in a baggy, that's as good as a lining. Thanks for your help.

Spamgirl

Wednesday, December 13, 2000 - 07:31 pm Click here to edit this post

Thanks all for your condolences... and sorry to all others who have lost their pets...

Flint

Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 05:12 pm Click here to edit this post

A friend of mine sent me an email with another pet related anecdote/story. She has had a lot of pets over the years, and been through the pain of loss. I thought it was fitting to put it here.

*****

Thought this might be for a few of us pet lovers:


A good friend passed this on to me...only pet lovers, particularly dog
lovers, would appreciate this. But, it pertains to all God's creatures...and
I'm sure if you are an animal lover, it doesn't really matter what kind of
pet you have...this fits all those wonderful beasties.


A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying the
scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead. He remembered
dying, and that his faithful dog had been dead for many years. He wondered
where the road was leading them.

After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the
road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill, it was broken by
a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight. When he was standing before it, he
saw a magnificent gate in the arch made from mother of pearl, and the street
that led to the gate made from pure gold.

He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at
a desk to one side. When he was close enough, he called out, "Excuse me,
where are we?"

"This is heaven, sir," the man answered.

"Wow! Would you happen to have some water? We have traveled far," the man
said. "Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water. The man
gestured, and the gate began to open.

"Can my friend," gesturing toward his dog, "come in, too?" the traveler
asked. "Sir, but we don't accept pets."

The man thought a moment, remembering all the years this dog
remained loyal to him and then turned back toward the road and continued the
way he had been going.

After another long walk he came to a plain dirt road which led through a Farm
gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence.

As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree
"Excuse me!" he called to the reader. "Do you have any water? We have
traveled far."

"Yes, sure, there's a pump over there." The man pointed to a place
that couldn't be seen from outside the gate. "Come on in and help yourself."
"How about my friend here?" the traveler gestured to his dog. They went
through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with
a bowl beside it. The traveler filled the bowl and took a long drink himself,
then he gave some to the dog.

When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was
standing by the tree waiting for them. "What do you call this place?" the
traveler asked.

"This is heaven," was the answer.

"Well, that's confusing," the traveler said. "The man down the road said that
was heaven, too."

"Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates?
Nope.
That's hell."

"Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?"

"No. We're just happy that they screen out the folks who'd leave their best
friends behind in exchange for material things."

"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to
you when you have forgotten the words.

*****

Guruchaz

Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 08:23 pm Click here to edit this post

Ok, so this thread grows on you after a while. I'm really starting to see the positive aspects of it. In fact, it will probably now be the first one I read everytime I pop in.

My condolences to those that have lost a close loved one.

Caged

Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 09:46 pm Click here to edit this post

Hey guys! I've been so busy lately that I didn't even get to witness the "freeze"! Spam~sorry to hear about your fish. As I believe it was Moon, said, a pet is a pet! Guru~ We knew you would come around! Thank you for your condolences. Tk~we just got Mickey's ashes back last week. They came in the plastic bag and that was in a little, I guess I would call it a "treasure box". It looks like a little treasure chest but it is made of a material that won't deteriorate. My cousin works at a vet and she said that most vet's have little cedar boxes for them. I hope that helps a little.

Spamgirl

Monday, January 01, 2001 - 12:02 pm Click here to edit this post

On the fishy note, my best friend just got me a new tank, and I'm getting some new fish... this time they will live!

(As she said: "this one comes with an air pump, so the fish won't die" ROFL)

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:02 pm Click here to edit this post

At the risk of hearing a get over it from guru...I just have to post I had to put one of my cats to sleep tonight...This cat was not quite 6 yrs old(6 in march)..and my "baby"..I have two cats..One who was six last october(just prior to my mom and i going to las vegas)..and one in may of the following year..just After my mom passed away unexpectedly...

Anyway..I had NOOO idea my cat was sick at all..Until tonight when i got home from work..She normally greets me at the door but did not..I went upstairs to the bathroom..and THen heard this god awful help me mom type of cry...when i went out of the bathroom my cat(midnite) was sprwaled across the landing..verrry lifeless..i picked her up held her(she cried that pitiful cry a few times..a put her down..she Fell over..could not support her weight...quick trip to the vets...tests..etc ..she had cancer..soo extensive nothing would really have helped..in her intestines--spread to liver--and lungs...again no signs up to today that anything was wrong..

I am in shock...her sister..is now laying at my feet in shock too...

Digilady

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:33 pm Click here to edit this post

Nancy - I'm so sorry. Not a thing you can do when it's cancer... I lost one of my putties 2 years ago to same.

You hang on to your other little girl, you'll get through it together.

{{{ Nancy }}}

:(

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:35 pm Click here to edit this post

thanks digi--and condolences on the lose of your friend too...

Soeur

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:40 pm Click here to edit this post

Very sorry to hear your news Nancy. You have had a rough night.

Twiggyish

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:44 pm Click here to edit this post

awwww my condolences Nancy.

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:44 pm Click here to edit this post

yes--i have--my only salvation was my vet is open until 8 on tuesdays..so i could get her in..i dont know what i would have done had i had to wait until tomorrow..the doctor said she might have died at any minute..she was sooo dehydrated(how does that happen so fast!) and her liver has 0 clotting/blood had zero clotting factor....

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:48 pm Click here to edit this post

thanks twiggy...thanks souer...i still half expect her to jump up on my bed at night like she used tooo ;-(

Ocean_Islands

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:51 pm Click here to edit this post

I'm sorry about your loss.

A good friend here in Boston just lost a cat who had been around 16 years! And that's a long time!

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 06:59 pm Click here to edit this post

thanks oi---my last cats lived to be 13 and 14...so its a shock she really was verrry young...and of all my cats these two are the only two i've every kept strictly indoors...so its not the environment on this one...even boston weather LOL...

Mlady

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 07:01 pm Click here to edit this post

I'm so sorry Nancy. Loosing a pet can be so devastating. As a pet lover, I can empathasize with you. Thoughts are with you hon...

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 07:03 pm Click here to edit this post

thanks mlady...Like i told Moon awhile ago..having no children of my own the cats are/were my babies... and to see one go so unexpectedly is sad ;-(

Lancecrossfire

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 07:35 pm Click here to edit this post

Nancy--so sorry for the bad news of your kitty.:(

Leap

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 07:36 pm Click here to edit this post

I am so sorry, Nancy. Pets give such unconditional love. My thoughts are with you.

Nancy091158

Tuesday, February 13, 2001 - 07:38 pm Click here to edit this post

thanks lance thanks leapp..and leap i owe you an email re boston..but my mind is elswwhere right now ;-(