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Caged | Thursday, November 09, 2000 - 09:43 pm   Dilligaf~ Thank you for taking time out of your grieving to wish me well. Thanks to ALL of you for your prayers and concerns. I came home from work tonight and for the first time in 15 years, no Mickey to greet me. My family said he was like clockwork. I am done work at 9pm and at exactly at that time, Mickey would be at the door waiting for me. If I went out after work, he would sit there until I came home! How do you make it through without that unconditional love? My only consolation is that, as you said Dilli, he is free of pain. Unfortunately, that doesn't help my selfishness. The truth is, I have not felt a pain like this since my dad died in 96. At least I know that my dad has his best friend once again! As I asked before, everyone tell their little furry pals that you love them. Afterall, they show us everyday how much they love us. My prayers are with everyone who has been through this or faces it in the near future. God Bless All! God Bless You, my Mickey! I love you and miss you so! |
Guruchaz | Thursday, November 09, 2000 - 10:42 pm   I lost a pet once, but I found it 45 minutes later. |
Pooh66 | Thursday, November 09, 2000 - 10:58 pm   To caged you can't tell your heart how to feel, it has a mind of its own, no matter what you tell it. Just as in any situation. To Dilligaf, my heart goes out to you. I had a cat for 18yrs, came home from vacation to find out he was sick, & when I took him to the vet she said it was kidney problems, happens to alot of cats. There wasn't very much they could do, especially since he was 18yrs, I think we did the best thing for him by putting him down so that he wouldn't hurt anymore. That was about 6 or 7 yrs ago. It takes ALOT of time but it eases. I promise! |
Caged | Thursday, November 09, 2000 - 11:08 pm   Guruchaz~ I don't know if you are trying to be funny or lighten the situation, but I must tell you,you would be lucky if this is true. I can't get Mickey back. Dilligaf can't get Levi back. Just to let you know again, if you think you are funny, YOUR NOT. If you took the time to read the above, you would see people are hurting. Maybe you don't understand that, but if you don't, I would appreciate if you would keep your comments to yourself. Take a look back and realize what your comment sounds like to grieving families. You wouldn't like it either. A pet is suppose to be not just an animal, but a part of your family. Mickey was to me. As Levi was to his family. All I ask, just think before you type. |
Pooh66 | Thursday, November 09, 2000 - 11:19 pm   You know Guruchaz, caged is absolutly right. My grieving may be done but I still remember the pain. I can understand where all these people are coming from. If you don't understand it then keep your comments to yourself. Noone needs any rude comments like that when they're hurting!! |
Digilady | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 06:01 am   Shit, {{{ Pickle }}}. I'm so sorry. Felt like we all knew him. Caged, also. Tincture of time. Thinking of you both! |
Guruchaz | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 09:44 am   What rude comment and do you think you're the only people to have lost pets? |
Mishamisha | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 10:15 am   First, Guru. This is the first and only time I'll use that clipart. Stay out of this thread. Next, Dili, Caged...I saw this thread before but couldn't bear to read it. Now I'm trying to get ready for work and I have tears streaming down my face. I lost my Zena a few weeks ago. I can only thank God that it was fast. Words can't describe it. Shit, there I go again with the tears. Anyway, my condolences to all who've had losses, recent or not it still tugs on the heartstrings. |
Max | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 10:21 am   Guru, Some folks don't seem to have appreciated the sarcasm in your post, "I lost a pet once, but I found it 45 minutes later." Personally, I found it refreshing to have something make me laugh in this thread after so many heart-wrenching stories. Losing a pet is a sad thing and most folks have dealt with it at least once along the road of life. Interjecting a little levity, IMHO, amidst the sadness is not a bad thing. But then, I'm the kind of person who believes that jokes are the most necessary amidst pain. |
Mishamisha | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 10:30 am   I usually sense sarcasm when I see it. Guru's post was just plain insensitive. Maybe if it had been a part of an actual sharing of a loss it would've been taken differently. Too late now. |
Guruchaz | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 10:46 am   My post had to be adjusted because I am unable to allow people to have any thread to talk about subjects I don't like. I did not have proper self-control and posted a bit of flamebait. |
Nant | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 11:30 am   Cage, last night after reading your posts in this thread, I went out in the dark and pouring rain to my local pet store to pick up treats. My dear animals very rarely get treats, but they seemed to know something was up because they were all over the bag. Treats were passed out to them in the name of your Mickey. He made my two, a stray and two adoptees all have a very enjoyable evening. Again, our best wishes go out to you. |
Guruchaz | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 01:56 pm   Back atcha and I mean that in the most positive way.
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Zelda | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 02:14 pm   Misha... I am sorry that you experienced this ... my heart goes to all of you that have lost a dear one ... just ignore what's his name... I find it great that people here find it cathartic to post and like many of us, we want to support you in this. |
Caged | Saturday, November 11, 2000 - 12:33 am   Nant~Thank you for your concerns and well wishes. I am sure your furry friends appreciated it. I am glad that you took that extra minute for them. They are definately worth it! No matter what anyone says. Thanks to all of you that took the time for kind words in my time of grief. At least I know that there are some kind people in this world. Zelda~Thanks for the birthchart! I am so glad I finally was able to share the picture of Mickey with you. Take care! |
Zelda | Saturday, November 11, 2000 - 02:02 pm   BYW... Mickey has the sweetest face!!!!! A perfect Angel |
Ångel_Of_Music | Sunday, November 12, 2000 - 09:43 am   I almost lost my dear cocker spaniel, Amanda, two weeks ago. I felt like my half of my heart was gone. She was rushed to the vet by my mother on Sweetest Day. Amanda was breathing very heavily and my mother was completely scared out of her mind. They live in Indiana and I in Ohio, and the weekend my fiance and I were going to home but because of the holiday we stayed in Ohio. He gave me the phone on Sunday afternoon and it was my mother who sounded very distraught. She told me that Amanda went to the vet on Saturday and by that night she had a temperature of 107 degrees and was breathing so heavily that she was turning blue. The vet put her on oxygen and after a consultation with some other doctors Amanda was rushed to Purdue Vet Hospital to be evaluated. My mother and sister had to drive two hours in the car with her on oxygen. When my mother was telling me this I couldn't breathe myself. I almost went into a complete panic attack. They had Amanda in an oxygen cage and were evaluating her. She had a semi-tracheotomy and was finally resting. The next week and a half was horrible for me. I felt like I was a world away from her and I didn't even get to say goodbye if something happened to her. This dog is A LOT like me. You know they say that animals are like their owners well she is like me. It was hard enough moving to Ohio without her but she was a family dog. I couldn't take her away from my parents. So, after a week they said she a laryngeal disease where skin was blocking her breathing area. They would have to operate and remove it so she could breath again. The decision was my mother's at this point. She asked me what to do and I said please don't let her go. I talked to some of my co-workers about my dilemma. I tried to hide it but my boss could tell I was upset. He thought I was tired and I that was true but also upset. He was so sweet and so was one of the other attorney's as well as everyone else in my office. They supported my decision and said that they doctors wouldn't have suggested the operation if they didn't feel good about it. The operation was very expensive and my father was hesitant about it. He was afraid she wouldn't be the same dog. My mother went ahead and did it anyways. She did develop a complication of pneumonia from the operation but they have her on strong antibotics and each day she is getting better. I saw her last weekend and I cried so hard. Those tears of joy were for the my baby dog. She is panting a little harder nowadays, but she's still here and I KNOW we made the right decision. The fact that I almost lost her killed me. I feel for those who have lost their pets. I did lose a cat to cancer and even though it was really my sister's cat it still hurt badly. You never realize how close you are to an animal until they are sick. I love that dog with all of my heart and I will be seeing her on Thanksgiving. I thank the lord above for letting her live. She still has a long road ahead of her to getting well, but she even wagged her tail when she saw me and that told me that she was coming back little by little. |
Enbwife | Sunday, November 12, 2000 - 10:06 am   Losing a pet is very difficult. I've been through it 4 times with my family's dogs. My dog, Chloe, is 8 years old, and is now totally blind. She has real difficulty getting up and down the steps to our house, and now doesn't want to go for walks because she's scared. We have to really watch her now because she'll walk into things all the time. It's quite sad. Her breed does not have a long life span (Chinese Shar Pei - wrinkle dog) so she's considered quite old. When do you know when a good time to have them put down is? I'm not sure. She seems pretty miserable these days.... |
Caged | Sunday, November 12, 2000 - 06:37 pm   Angel_of~ I am so happy for you that Amanda is doing well. I said a prayer to my little Mickey to keep an eye on her for you! LOL I will truly keep her and your family in my prayers. Enbwife~Your question is the most difficult one ever when it comes to pets. Mickey was taken to the vet about 3 months ago, and we were told then to put him down. We were told he had throat cancer but was in no pain. He also had arthritis and cateracts. We decided to take him home. Our vet said that was fine, but "enjoy him", because it wouldn't be long. Of course, as you know, this past wednesday we made the decision. He could not stand on his back legs and his breathing was very labored. When we arrived a the vet's office, he had no idea we were coming. Friday morning we received a card in the mail from the Dr., I would like to share it with you. "It is with deep and profound shared sadness that I write you to express our humble and sincere sympathy over the loss of your long time four legged family member and wonderful companion, your beloved Mickey. No one outside of your family knows how very much you loved and cared for him, and how very hard you tried (and succeeded!) to maintain his good quality of life. I remember how you told me how important it was to you that he would not suffer as he lived his final years as your furry companion. To this end, I feel you did the right thing to make the decision to prevent the soon-to-be and very real suffering and at the right time. Without question, I do feel you made the right, and quite frankly, only remaining humane decision. I realize it is little consolation, but I feel that you are wonderful pet owners. You gave Mickey all the love in the world. I only hope you will remember him for all the good times rather than focus on the events surrounding his demise." Sincerely, Dr. Ken Kimmel I just wanted to share this you and let you know that whenever you have to make the decision, know in your heart it is the right one. |
Pooh66 | Monday, November 13, 2000 - 09:18 pm   enbwife~caged is again right. It is the hardest thing to decide. As caged said, know that in your heart its right, not what anyone else thinks. |
Backhome | Monday, November 13, 2000 - 09:28 pm   I confess I've been a lurker on this thread empathizing with you all and bawling my eyes out every time I read your messages. To all of you -- my heartfelt sympathies. I'm glad to know there are fellow animal lovers out there. Sometimes here where I live, it feels as though we are a distinct minority in a world populated with people to whom a dog or cat (or any other animal for that matter) is "just a dumb animal". Enbwife Over the years, I've had to make the decision to put down six four-legged family members -- five for age-related illnesses and one for severe behavioral problems that I was not equipped to deal with (and no rehab resources available). The decision never gets easier. The only thing I can tell you is that if you are cognizant of your animal as an individual with its own distinct personality and make sure you listen to what they are telling you and not what your heart says, you will always know when the time is right. All five of my 4LF (four-legged friends) have told me in one way or another that the quality of life that they were enduring was not what they wished to continue. Just look into her eyes and listen to what Chloe is saying on a day-to-day basis -- I'm sure she will tell you when she's ready. The only thing you have to be cautious of is that your friend doesn't try and hang on just to please you. Let them know that its OK for them to let go. Sometimes they don't want to leave us anymore than we want them to go, but if we tell them it's OK they do understand. My current senior citizen is a 16 year old cat with chronic renal failure and about once a month I think "this is it" when he quits eating. But then he bounces back. Our highs are getting lower and the lows are getting longer and I know it's only a matter of time before he won't start eating again. My problem is that we are going on a two-week vacation the end of January and if he is still hanging on by then, I'm afraid that our being gone will put him over the edge. I'm afraid that just before we leave, I'll be faced with the decision of do I put him down now even though he's doing OK or do I board him at the vets and hope he doesn't get critical and have to be put down when I'm not there. Guess we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. Gotta go -- have a large black Lab insistently pushing my elbow, guess he thinks I've cried enough tonight !! Forgive me for the length of this post. See you all later -- |
Caged | Monday, November 13, 2000 - 09:38 pm   Backhome~ You said that perfectly. They do let you know. Good luck with all of your little friends. I am really glad you understand what we are saying here. As you can read, some do not. I think we just need to use that negativity to help make us stronger. We know what our four legged friends mean to us as much as they know how much we care! |
Guruchaz | Tuesday, November 14, 2000 - 11:08 am   Hi. I'm new to the board and I want to make friends. By the way, my pet died today and I'm depressed.
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Grneyedladye | Tuesday, November 14, 2000 - 11:17 am   I don't get to post here much. But, since it is getting so close to Thanksgiving, I feel I have to share this with all of you. 5yrs ago we had a doberman that was my daughters pride and joy.(She was 15yrs old.) Our family could tell she wasn't doing very well the closer it was getting to Thanksgiving. My dog (Keisha) always went into my daughters room to (put her to bed) My daughter could not sleep without knowing Keisha was laying on the floor next to her. The night of Thanksgiving she went into my daughters room and of course put her to sleep and then on her way out she collapsed. My husband & I ran to her and picked her up and layed her down in the living room and then all of a sudden she stopped breathing. We were totally freaked out. I hit her in the area of her heart and then she started breathing again, only to look up at us and kiss our hands and then she was gone. We cried for hours and hours. (My daughter still did not know what had happened b/c it was in the wee hours of the morning and she was still asleep. My husband & I got a shovel and went into the backyard and started digging on the HARD ground. After the hole was big enough we buried her w/her blanket. It was the hardest thing knowing in the morning I would have to tell my daughter that Keisha had passed away, and as I suspected she went crazy crying for "Her Keisha". For the last 5yrs she has asked us for a puppy (She is now a 15yr old Teenager) Finally this Christmas we are getting her a puppy. I also have a Maltese that is 14yrs old and I am very afraid that we may be loosing him before long. (His name is Samson and he is My white fluff of fur) I love my Samson as well as I loved Keisha. It does hurt to loose someone so close to our family. We rescued both dogs from abusive homes and made them a wonderful loving home. In the May3rd Tornado in Oklahoma City, we lost our home. I wasn't about to move anywhere else b/c Keisha was buried in our backyard and we just couldn't leave her! We just built back and "Our Keisha" is still buried close to us in the backyard as well as in our hearts. When my Samson passes away he will also be buried right next to Keisha. We had a funeral for her and we will for our Samson. The place Keisha is buried has a wonderful flower garden growing right where she is buried. This really hurts talking about Keisha and knowing that I wont have my Samson much longer. |
Zelda | Tuesday, November 14, 2000 - 11:52 am   Grneyed... One of my kitties is named Samson and he sends his love and prayers to your Doggie Samson. |
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