Archive through April 11, 2001
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Archive through April 11, 2001
Twiggyish | Sunday, April 08, 2001 - 04:19 pm   I don't know. It seems to depend on the couple. I have known some who have made it successful. |
Tukuul | Sunday, April 08, 2001 - 04:23 pm   It seems to me that words can be prejudged just as well as someone's looks, but that's not an issue worth pressing. LOL! |
Lafatme | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 01:22 am   kearie and i live 1400 mi apart but we have managed to arrange trips in order to spend time together. i'll be heading up to spokane in a few weeks to meet her mom and to learn a little about her environment, she has become familiar with mine. in order for it to work one of has to move. she's agreed to move here this summer with her daughter, who is here with her right now. it's a major concession on their part to uproot themselves in order to be with me, and one that is appreciated by me. i owe them both and hope i can repay them for the sacrifice they're making. it is gonna work out, trust me. |
Twiggyish | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 06:06 am   I am so happy for you! |
Starr | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 08:49 am   I have a good friend who met her husband on the net. They talked with each other online for two years, then met each other when he was on a business trip. They hit it off, then after another year of long distance dating they got married and she moved to his city. They have now been married 3 years and are still in love. So I guess it does work. |
Digilady | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 08:58 am   Starr, I have friends who met on an ancient bulletin board (what TVCH used to be, about 10 years ago!) They have an adorable kid and are the perfect couple. |
Fruitbat | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 10:47 am   Laf and Kearie....I love that this happened right under our noses. Again..very cool, indeed. |
Moondance | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 04:19 pm   MsBat... I had the pleasure of meeting them last month and they make a cute couple. |
Lalavoom | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 06:24 pm   If you meet online with the intention of "getting it on" I think you should be "available" IRL. Not married. Particularly if you are married with children. So in that kind of situation I think it is a bad idea. Anybody else............... go.................be merry or something |
Starr | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:51 am   Digilady - I always thought it was unique with my friend, but it seems to be more and more common. |
Flint | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:54 am   Interesting point Lala. It reminds me of another story from my days on Ancient Anguish, the LPMud. There was a couple that I knew, they were acqaintances of mine. The husband wasn't happy with the marriage, and was "sniffing" around. The last time he cheated on her before they broke up, he went on a camping trip to meet and spend time with his, hmmm what is a politically correct term other than mistress. Oh well, I can't think of any so I guess I could just say stupid person that knew he was married, and decided to get involved anyway. Anyway, he actually brought his kids on this "outing"! Of course, the couple is now divorced, and she has custody. It takes all kinds to make the internet go around. People who bring their kids into it, like that, don't just have a screw loose, their whole mind must be loose. |
Kearie | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 12:51 pm   Lalavoom~~~there was no intention what-so-ever to meet someone on-line. I spent a great deal of time online. My husband works 10 hours a day, comes home and sleeps. We had no social life, no intamacy and very little conversation. He and my daughter have never really gotten along. Dennis is 14 years older than her and tries to be very strict. He has unrealistic ideas of how a teenage girl behaves and should behave. When a man comes into a girls life when she is 14, he can't expect to instantly become 'daddy' Dennis joined my daughters and my family...not the other way around. He doesn't fit. Where he is willing to do anything for me, he does nothing for my daughter...and she knows this. Dennis knows ALL about my relationship withn Laf and has given me his blessing. Dennis wants me to be happy. He looks forward to being free of responsibility again. Dennis resents me for my mental illness, which he was aware of 2 months after we met. He thought he could deal with it, but found he couldn't. Dennis is a great guy with plenty to offer a woman, but I'm not that woman. I need more attention than he can give. I need more time than he can give. My daughter needs a "male role model" who is not so critical and treats her with positives rather than negatives. Laf is that man. Sorry if this offends some, but I need to be happy, my daughter needs to be accepted. Laf is the person who can give what we need. Dennis has accepted this and has given us his blessing. A divorce between Dennis and I will also give Dennis the chance to have kids of his own, meet someone without a mental illness, and give him a chance to find a healthy relationship that he doesn't resent. How can this be wrong? |
Moondance | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 01:05 pm   Nothing is right or wrong KK... This is your life and situation and the ones that need to validate your decision and be happy is you and Laf... I wish you two all the best! |
Grooch | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 03:00 pm   Kearie, I don't think what Lalavoom posted applies to you at all, or that she meant it to apply to you. I'll tell you an internet story that I think is what she was refering to. My cousin lives in Silcon Valley and works in the compter business. Through her job, she met someone over the internet that she got along with really great. She is single (never married)in her 40's and he said he was single. He lived in NYC. They emailed each other and talked on the phone all the time. Well, last summer she came to NY to visit her sister who lives in the Hamptons on Long Island, where this guy had a summer home also. While she was out there, he would come out on the weekends and stay at his house, while his wife stayed in the City to work. They spent a few weekends "dating" before he finally told her the truth that he was married. And the scumbag still wanted to continue seeing her! She had no clue that he was married and she was devastated. Her sister spent time with him too, and was shocked also. Some people are very good liars. He was just using her and who knows how many other women. I can't speak for Lalavoom, but this is the kind of story I thought she was talking about. As to you and Laf, I truly wish you the best, it is such a nice story how you met and that it is having a happy ending and I hope it works out. One day I'll have to post how I met my husband. When it comes to affairs of the heart, I don't think anyone has the right to judge. I post a lot of gossip on the survivor board, but I won't on the Tina and her husband gossip, because I don't feel it's fair or serves any purpose. But the story about Keith and Michael dating the same woman, that's a different story. OK, I'm digressing to much now. I better go back to the survivor board. |
Moondance | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 03:34 pm   Oh Grooch... do tell BTW... Keith dates women?... and nothing is wrong with that... I just wasn't sure what team is was on. |
Noslonna | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 04:42 pm   I can not speak for Lala either but I know I brought my kids up to have at least a couple moral values. If you are married you are NOT available. Sugar coat it all you want... give excuses of why it is ok to screw your family and others. If you want to be playing around don't try and sell it as ok just cause it is sooooo romantic that you met on an internet board. Flirt and play within some decent boundaries... if you want to go outside them why expect and get acceptance for that? |
Merlin | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 05:50 pm   So what are the decent boundaries if you are married? |
Mishamisha | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:03 pm   You've been in chat with me before. Aren't I decent?  |
Noslonna | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 01:18 am   I didnt expect you to know Merlin, since you are not married... but then again neither am I really... but I have been and know the devastation that affairs can cause in a family. I do not think you have to be married to know what the boundaries are. |
Lafatme | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 01:27 am   hon, thank you for the kind words. i love you completely and intend to spend the rest of my life being the best husband and stepfather i can be. nothing is more important to me than you and arreal. but you know that. nos, no offense, but your acceptance or rejection is completely irrelevant. all the people involved have accepted it, i don't see how it requires yours. sorry. i'm not trying to be mean but anyone here can choose to accept or not, it doesn't really matter. our friends and families are behind us, those that aren't have that right too. |
Noslonna | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 01:41 am   I wasn't addressing you laf. I was making a general comment. Don't be so paranoid if you are so sure of your pure true love. |
Twiggyish | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 06:35 am   I am happy for you and Kearie, Laf. For myself, I would not ever step over the line. My husband and I are married almost 21 years and in our case, it would be a great breach of trust. People who know me, know I love to tease, etc.. in chat, but that is it with me. period. I have some guys friends and I will go into chat with them, but they know their limits. To each his/her own. |
Lalavoom | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 08:51 am   Gag me with a spoon Laf |
Kearie | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 11:45 am   Wishing I could Lala, or at least tie up your hands so you keep your immature comments to yourself. |
Fruitbat | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 12:02 pm   Dang, Grooch, what about Tina and her husband? Where can we go to read it if you don't want to repeat it here. Never heard about Keith and Michael and the same woman either. |
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