Archive through July 08, 2001
The ClubHouse: Archive: Can you fall in love on the net?:
Archive through July 08, 2001
Mishamisha | Sunday, April 15, 2001 - 07:01 am   I know what you speak of, and it's a Thong! |
Whit4you | Sunday, May 06, 2001 - 03:22 am   Falling in love on the net? Of course you can! Just ask Lance.. he loves me..! Dontcha Lance |
Whit4you | Tuesday, June 12, 2001 - 12:34 am   still waiting for an answer Lance |
Lancecrossfire | Tuesday, June 12, 2001 - 12:59 am   Haha. I think you are special--love would be another issue. Love for me takes meeting the person and getting to know them face to face. |
Whit4you | Wednesday, June 13, 2001 - 04:14 pm   Lance doesn't luv me <heavy sigh> after all the time I spent supporting you in the game... making your fan site and everything... <sob> Well at least he thinks I'm special |
Lancecrossfire | Wednesday, June 13, 2001 - 04:24 pm   Yes I do think you are special Whit, and for a lot of reasons other than the support you gave me in Game I. Or maybe we have a different definition of luv/love. LOL Most of my definitions end up being a bit off the beaten path compared to a lot of people. |
Flint | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 11:26 am   A friend of mine overseas is, to me, a good example of someone trying to hard on the net to find love. She keeps finding these real winner's, falling "in love", getting hurt, getting single, getting over it (to a point), and going through the same cycle all over again. Yes, she has just started the cycle again. One of the things that is frustrating is when you watch a friend do something like this to themself over and over again, and being powerless to do anything to help them. It just reinforces my views. You need to meet and know them "in real life" in order to "know" them. Even then, that is no guarantee that you won't end up with a psycho hosebeast, or the perfect person for you. Love is a crap shoot at times, and the least you can do is try and make sure the odds favour you and not the house. As always, that is just ... My 2 cents. |
Whit4you | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 11:54 am   Perhaps Flint - but I don't think it has to do with "the net" - I think it has to do with her poor choices. I know soooooo many women who pick one loser after another "live" - now they just happen to have a computer to aid them in that process |
Flint | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 12:08 pm   I won't argue with that Whit. (Although I should, your cheque still hasn't cleared.) The net just makes it all that much easier for people (not just women) to find losers on the net, and off. But the thread was about finding it on the net. |
Grod | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 01:05 pm   Whitmore and Flint, I agree with both your opinions. I've run across more "derainged" people on the net than in real life. The net should be seen as a fun place and not a source for love. |
Flint | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 01:06 pm   How does that song go? o/~ I was looking for love in all the wrong places...o/~ |
Whit4you | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 02:00 pm   Well - I've met over 120 of my online friends live - and all were great people.... As I said some people are "jerk" magnets - online or offline. Folks just like to blame the net when someone has a bad experience, rather then blame themselves and their choices, soooo you hear alot more of the "net horror" stories then you do the "real life ones" - since folks can't say "It's because he was a live person" when they met them "live" LOL |
Flint | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 02:57 pm   *Flint notics the cheque has cleared the bank.* I agree again Whit. It isn't even just the jerk magnets (or those who are attracted to the a-hole gene in people), you tend to gravitate towards the type of people online that you do offline. It is just easier to blame it all on "the net". Without airing any of my dirty (or clean) laundry, I can say I have met good and bad people on the net. I have, in the past, gotten involved with people I met online. Some were good, some were not. Just like in "real life". Claiming that it is just the net is a convenient cop out for people. Love IRL is just as much of a crap shoot as on the net. Or on the phone. or with a pen pal. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. For my part, I firmly believe that you do need to be with someone IRL (not necessarily in the "biblical" sence) and spend time getting to know them before you can really know if you are "in love" "in lust" "in like" or "in trouble". As always, just ... My 2 cents. |
Whit4you | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 05:57 pm   Well you never *truly* know someone till you divorce them - |
Grooch | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 06:03 pm   lol! |
Misslibra | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 06:11 pm   Whit, how true that is! LOL  |
Flint | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 10:13 pm   I have never been married (almost once, but that is a whole nother story) so I have never been divorced. So, I guess that means I have never really known someone. ;) |
Whit4you | Friday, July 06, 2001 - 11:06 pm   Flint, be glad ... be very very glad |
Echo | Saturday, July 07, 2001 - 06:51 am   How true Whit...lol...you really know them then. |
Schoolmarm | Saturday, July 07, 2001 - 07:38 am   And you learn a whole new level of HATE! <schoolmarm is really a loving, caring gal who would NEVER dream of backing over her ex with a SUV!> But after ten years or so, it all just fades away! |
Flint | Saturday, July 07, 2001 - 12:34 pm   I can do without a new level of hate, hell with any level of hate. It wastes too much time. Of course I had to learn that one the hard way too. I don't think i can agree with the having to be divorced to know them. I say it takes time, and yeah even difficult, maybe even traumatic times, but not just divorce. Maybe living with the in-laws. Or moving acorss country, he!! to another country, and living with them for a while. But I digress, and you started it first.  |
Whit4you | Saturday, July 07, 2001 - 01:19 pm   Flint it's sort of a joke but to most who've been divorced it really does ring true. You can spend 5 or 10 yeras with someone - but to learn the mean / evil / hateful or dark side of them usually takes till you divorce them. The line I am sure should read "you usually never truely know all sides of a person until you divorce them" ...uh but it's not quite as funny that way LOL |
Perma_Smile | Sunday, July 08, 2001 - 08:44 am   Very Interesting! HI AM NEW TODAY. I love the divorce comment, very funny. This is my line...Love is BLIND but marriage is the real eye opener!!! |
Flint | Sunday, July 08, 2001 - 08:51 am   Be glad I never married? divorced? both? ;) Seeing how little freedom my married friends have lately, or give themselves, it isn;t always the spouse that holds them back, I am kind of glad I never married. |
Schoolmarm | Sunday, July 08, 2001 - 09:54 am   Oh, Flint.... I've got very few regrets in life...glad I was married, and now glad I am divorced even though I didn't want to divorce. Getting a little tired of being single, but right now it would be hard to give anyone or anything any quality time. Gotta get this PhD finished! We all live and learn, and in hindsight we are shaped by our good and bad relationships. Where else would I get one of my dating rules "Never date a guy nicknamed Booger". I did it with two different boogers, and it was a disaster both times. ;-) Still shopping for love...on line and off! |
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