Who do you support?

The ClubHouse: General Discussions - Jan -Apr. 2001: January: Who do you support?

Spamgirl

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 07:55 am Click here to edit this post

Your spouse/significant other gets into a fight with your family - who do you support? (Support doesn't mean that you're saying they're RIGHT, but they are the person you stick with through it all)

Flint

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:07 am Click here to edit this post

Hard question Spammie. It is hard to support someone without giving them the impression you think they are right. If I thought they were wrong, I would say so.

Your spouse/SO is the person you go home with, and is also family. Being in a relationship means a commitment to be there with them through the good and bad times. So, i would be there to support them, but not to tell them something I thought was wrong, was right. It is also easier to be there as an intermediary if you give them the support they deserve, that way the situation may be resolved quicker.

The nature of the argument would also play a role. While I would support my SO, unless it was something very heinous, I wouldn't cut off contact with my family. Just as I would be there for her, and give support to her, she would have to understand that it is family. Just ...

My disjointed 2 cents.

BTW, you are evil for making me think after last night. ;)

Mishamisha

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:16 am Click here to edit this post

(If you need any extra "support" after last night, you know where to find me.)

Elitist

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:20 am Click here to edit this post

Seems like I should have stayed in chat longer last night. Seems Flint has stolen all the women.

Spamgirl

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:31 am Click here to edit this post

rofl, we still love you eli.. but flint knows how to shake his booty

Mishamisha

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:32 am Click here to edit this post

And I think I hear those Loonies and Twoonies jingling!

Enbwife

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:33 am Click here to edit this post

My spouse had a falling out with my sister and her husband a few years ago, and I supported him. I felt that my sister/brother in law were totally out of line, and I completely agreed with my husband. In the end, we didn't speak to them for almost 6 months. It was a really difficult time for the whole family (especially my parents), but I felt strongly about the situation to completely support my spouse. Finally, my sister admitted she was in the wrong (she definitely was) and we are all the best of friends now.

I agree with Flint... if my spouse had been in the wrong, I certainly would have told him so, however, it's difficult because you do have to go home with that person, and it is your family... tough call...

Spamgirl

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 08:35 am Click here to edit this post

I'd always support jay, and he'd always support me... but really, our families suck anyways

Soeur

Saturday, January 06, 2001 - 09:05 am Click here to edit this post

This is a good question. While I am blessed with the loyal support of a wonderful husband that quality is something I dread ever taking for granted. Most horrible of all would be for him to go along with me in a situation where I am in the wrong. In family situations it is almost impossible to be objective as the hurts can run so deep. Then I really rely on him to show me the bigger picture and not let me get away with pointing fingers or acting in a way that would make the problem worse. He is such a kind man that he has never made an enemy or lost a friend. So, I am very lucky to have a guy like him on my side.

Enbwife

Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 08:11 am Click here to edit this post

Spam - did you guys work this out? Just wondering...

Mishamisha

Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 08:18 am Click here to edit this post

From Spamgirl: Work what out? It was just a question ;)

sorry, she can't answer for herself, she just got sequestered in game II