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Denecee

Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 01:32 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Llkoolaid, I'm so sorry and hope things get better soon.

Sisalou

Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 04:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Maris makes a very good suggestion about a support group. I wish I could help you, just know that my prayers are with you.

Llkoolaid

Saturday, December 20, 2003 - 08:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hi guys, thanks for the support, my friends spirits are good, so that is a positive, but I have had more crap come my way. My husbands uncle just had a stoke and there is some permanent brain damage, he is in bad shape.

My 18 year old daughter who had the surgery this fall just dropped out of university, told us she was transfering but it now seems that her boyfriend just wanted to move home so she left for him. They were home 3 days wanted to live with us, we said no, she could but he couldn't so they found an apartment, she got her old job back full time that she had while she was in highschool and the plan was that she would get back in to the local university in the fall. We just helped her get out of her lease in Fredricton which we had to sign because she is only 18 and then we signed another for her here and guess what the little puke of a boyfriend did. He dumped her less than 2 hours after telling us he loved the apartment and planning where they would put everything. He goes home to his parents calls her up and dumps her. She is devastated, and depressed, hasn't eaten in days. He told her he has been lying to her for a month and a half and that he just wanted to get home and his parents refused to go and move him. He used her and he used us. We know it is for the best and that he is a loser but it sure is hard dealing with her right now. Now she is spilling her guts and telling us how it really was with him, apparantly when her student loan money ran out she was the one to get a job while attending university full time. He only got a job a month ago and she worked twice as many hours as him, he called in sick at least twice a week. She did all the cleaning and cooking, all the money was spent on him and he started telling her she could do stuff like wear makeup, go to a tanning bed , eat salt, and he tried to talk her into having a baby. Control freak or what. She keeps telling us stuff and I am getting madder and madder at her for being such a sucker. She sure wasn't raised that way. She has no self esteem left and he has a new nintendo system, stereo, a $5oo. golden retriever, all thanks to her student loan. She lied to us and covered up what was going on. She is now at home and not in school, this girl graduated with a 94.6 average from highschool and she didn't even write her exams because he was home "sick" and didn't want her to leave him. Instead of going to write her exams she went to the grocery store and got orange juice and soup for him and rented a game for him to lay around and play because he was sick. Do I sound angry.

Maris, I don't need a support group as much as I need a f'in gun right now. I have reached the end of my rope, and just don't know if I can take it much more. If I was reading this I wouldn't believe it, I would think this woman is sick and just wants attention but I swear on a stack of bibles this is all true. If My husbands uncle doesn't make it that will be 8 relatives we have lost this year and my daughters life totally screwed up. I guess I should be thankful that she was smart enough not to let him talk her into getting pregnant but we have to deal with what it is that made her let herself be used like this.


I am so sorry for using this thread like this and I have to say I treasure the support you guys give me. please hang in there with the quitting, I am so happy that you guys are doing it and so thankful that you are getting support.

Thanks again for all your support.

Now that was a rant and boy it feels good.

Landi

Saturday, December 20, 2003 - 09:10 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
ll... you've been our support... let us be yours too! big hugs to you.

Tater

Saturday, December 20, 2003 - 09:34 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
{{{LL}}}

Juju2bigdog

Saturday, December 20, 2003 - 10:54 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, you go ahead and rant, get it out of your system, because you SURE have been through it. All I could think of when I was reading about your daughter, however, was THANK GOD the creep dumped her. I mean, when you think about it, she actually got off pretty easy. She isn't pregnant. She can still get back into school. She is probably relatively healthy if she starts eating again. She isn't addicted to drugs. She has PARENTS who love her. She is SAFE. If she learned a big lesson, not to EVER let a man do that to her again, then she is already way ahead in life.

And, hey! Through all this, you still haven't gone back to your old false friend, LL. (smoking) So, you hang in there, because there have to be brighter days ahead.


Llkoolaid

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 09:48 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks Landi.

Juju, you are so right, Thank God he dumped her and Thank God she was smart enough not to let him talk her into getting pregnant.

She is doing better, she sat down to breakfast with us and she took the promise ring he gave her off her left hand and put it on her right hand, as she did it she said to us " This was his promise to me, now it is my promise to myself to put myself first from now on. She is healing and I know she will be fine. It was a hard an expensive lessons for her but probably will be better off having it in the long run.

P.S. I still want to string the little f'er up by the balls. lol

Maris

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 10:07 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LL many of us in our youth have been really stupid at least once in our choices. I cringe when I look back at some of the losers I got involved with. Now what I would do is escort her to the bathroom and ceremonially take that ring off her right finger and flush it down the toilet. Out of sight out of mind, is my motto.

Hang in there.

Mocha

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 10:17 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I would pawn it. And I would kick that you know what's you know what.

Maris

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 10:26 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I doubt that loser spent enough money on the ring to pawn it, thinking cracker jack myself.

Mocha

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 10:45 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Lol Maris but even if I only got a dollar I would pawn it.

Llkoolaid

Sunday, December 21, 2003 - 08:05 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
She probably gave him the money for it anyway.


How is everyone doing with the quitting, right now can be very stressful so just remember how far you have come and that it will all be over in a few days.

Halfunit

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 05:58 am EditMoveDeleteIP
693 hours. (I think - it's getting more difficult for me to do the math, lol.)

PS - Ll, I have plenty of firearms. Which kind would you like to try?

Juju2bigdog

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 08:18 am EditMoveDeleteIP
LL, I was thinking about your daughter after I first read your post night before last. Then I went to bed and forgot to come post the next day. I think it likely the boyfriend will try to get back with your daughter. Consider that his parents did not want him to come home. There is a reason for that, which is quite obvious to all here. (hate to get modded in the smoking thread, LOL, so won't call him names; you know what the names are) So they will soon kick him out. What will be his alternatives then? Get a job? Not gonna do it. He will go back to where his needs are all taken care of, the old girlfriend. I hope she is strong enough to weather it. But she might want to be prepared with a plan for how she is going to proceed when he tries it.

Yay, Halfunit!!!! You are doing, great, Half. Hey, did you see Walgreens has a sale on Commit lozenges this week? I presume their sales are nationwide. And what is with the Walgreenization of America anyway? But I digress. Yay Halfunit!

Halfunit

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 09:23 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Walgreens? What the heck is that???

LOL, I know what it is, but just to give you an idea of how podunk I am, look at how far a Walgreens is from me. I am in Dover, at the bottom of the map. At least now I know there are 4 in the Greater Canton area.

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I wonder if the sale is good for online purchases...???

Grannie

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 09:50 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Half, you stinker. I came running in here to help you with your question and you already have a map of the Walgreens in your not so immediate area.............................geesh.

Llkoolaid

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 12:56 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Juju, thanks for the thoughts, I am already preparing her for that, in fact almost exactly told her what you said. She has been also told by her father that the only thing he is getting if he steps foot on our doorstep is a punch in the mouth and I told her it wouldn't happen that I would get him first. She has been told that he is no longer welcome here but I did prepare her with a lot of the garbage he is going to use to get her back, like he was confused and his family talked him into it, basically that he wouldn't take responsibility for it and that he would probably use tears. She is doing better each day and now at the point where she is getting angry so that is good and healthy next step is to get her to realize that he isn't worth the energy it takes being angry and to just put him in the past.

Whooohooo half
and Landi, told me in chat how well she is doing so you guys are doing great, Hang in there, you have basically made it but cigarettes are tricky and the key now is not to let yourself think you have it beat and let yourself have just one with a drink or something. Remember it only takes one puff to get you back where you started. Everytime I restarted smoking it was always the same thing, I figured I had it licked and that I would try one just to prove it to my self, then about a week later I would have another and then I would make a deal with myself and have one a day. It usually took about 2-3 weeks to get me back to a pack a day, all the time convincing myself that I could stop whenever I wanted. I swear cigerettes are the evilist drug out there.

Halfunit

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 06:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks Ll, Juju, and everyone else for the encouragement!!

The good thing is I no longer drink alcohol... haven't in almost 7 years or so... ever since I met Unit. He is always packing heat, so he doesn't drink, and since he doesn't, I don't. We aren't anti-booze, just choose not to. But I DO know how a smoke and a beer go hand in hand! Been there, done that!

My weakness was/is coffee. I don't drink a lot, just a cup to a cup and a half in the morning. But I noticed the first morning I quit smoking that I couldn't have coffee and not CRAVE a cigarette. I nixed the coffee for 3 ½ weeks, only starting back with it last week. I'm doing good too. I don't associate the cigarette with coffee any more, and my brain thanks me for getting back with my moderate intake of caffeine, lol. I don't drink anything else other than water during the day, so I figure I'm ok.

It's nice knowing I'm past 4 weeks now. I feel like it's a milestone. I have 2 more weeks to go before reducing the amount of 4mg lozenges I use in a day. Then I think I go 2 or 4 weeks like that, and then a couple of weeks with the 2mg.

And Juju, I went to Wal-Mart tonight. They didn't have Commit "on sale", but they did have 84 lozenges for the price of 72 .

Sisalou

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 08:02 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Yay Half and Landi!!!

Yesterday was my 7 month anniversary. Yay me!

Juju2bigdog

Monday, December 22, 2003 - 08:13 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Well, Half, probably too late now, but did you think of switching to tea? You still get the hot caffeine, but it might have been enough of a break to not trigger the smoking reaction.

Halfunit

Saturday, December 27, 2003 - 08:34 am EditMoveDeleteIP
4 weeks
5 days
23 hours
34 minutes

(I think that's right. Maybe I should have waited until noon, my time, tomorrow to just say FIVE WEEKS!)


YAY SISALOU !!!!!!!!

Juju - yeah, it is too late, but tea would do the same for me also. I know it's a mind thing because my grandma would make me tea at 10 years old and I never craved a smoke .

I am good with coffee and tea now though, thank goodness. I'm just glad that I only have a mug of the juice in the morning, and that I love water as much as I do. I have a water cooler and go through 15 gallons in two weeks. Not diabetic either, just have always loved water.

How's everyone else doing?

Juju2bigdog

Saturday, December 27, 2003 - 01:56 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Yay Sisalou!!!

Yay Halfunit!!!

Llkoolaid

Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 02:51 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Just popping in to see how everyone is doing today. Guess you guys are doing great which is just what I expected. Whoo hooo

Juju2bigdog

Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:53 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Everything is cool here, LL. How are you and your friend holding up? Your daughter still doing okay, eating again?

Llkoolaid

Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 06:57 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Things are getting better at home, daughter doing much better. My friend is having surgery early in the new year. Her spirits are up and she is trying very hard to be positive.

Happy New Years everyone.