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Lostintheglades | Tuesday, November 18, 2003 - 02:34 pm     Just checking in...I'm still here. The craving are subsiding...now if I could just get rid of all those conditioned responses I've developed I'd be okay. Had a rough day again with DD#1. God I hate having adult kids....it was so much easier when we could just give them a time out and take the TV away from them. Oh wait...I already did this in the vent thread didn't I Lumbele? WTG Dilli...and congrats on the baby! |
Lumbele | Tuesday, November 18, 2003 - 02:46 pm     That's okay, Lost. Sometimes it takes a few rants to get rid of that adult kids frustration.LOL |
Maris | Tuesday, November 18, 2003 - 03:02 pm     Good Job Lost. Keep it up. I think with kids it is just different issues at different ages. When they were infants it was why arent they rolling over, all the other babies are rolling over. In kindergarten it was why doesnt my kid nap, everyone else naps. Second grade, why cant he stop talking and be more serious. I am heading into the teen years which means every question is answered with a smart remark and the look that says, you have no clue what life is all about. |
Sisalou | Tuesday, November 18, 2003 - 03:17 pm     Congratulations Dilli! Two years is a big milestone. Hooray for Lost! You are doing good! I had another nightmare that I was smoking again. Thats the 3rd one I've had. I am always so disappointed until I wake up. I'll have 6 months on Nov. 20th. |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 03:33 am     Oh God Sis....so the nightmares continue after that long? Right now my nightmares occur when I'm awake. |
Tashakinz | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 07:04 am     lol - I'm 10 months in and still have night terrors... |
Llkoolaid | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 07:59 am     Lost, feel free to rant away, that is what we are here for, just to listen to you and encourage you. I have adult children, sometimes it sucks, time out just doesn't cut it anymore, I want the darn timeout. So glad to hear that the urges are getting less, they will go almost 100% very soon, they don't go away completely ever, but they do get so tiny and so very infrequent that they are not really noticed. About a year from now you may be doing something and all of a sudden go "Wow, I just got the urge for a smoke, Isn't that the weirdest thing" that's it, it will be over, nothing more than that and you wondering where the heck it came from. Actually they will be that easy to get over in a few weeks. What are the conditioned responses you are talking about. Maybe we can help you find things to replace them with. I found a bottle of water handy really helped most situations. You keep it up , you are gonna make it and soon you will be paying it forward here with the rest of us quitters. What a wonderful feeling it is when someone comes on here and you start telling them what helped you. I think it was at about that time that I realized,"Hey I did it." Up until then my mind had me at I am quitting, after that it was I quit. There is a big difference in the way you think about it. So remember how I suggested that you get your head in a place where you were going to do it. Well it is time to take it a step further and get your head to the place where you have succeeded. I don't explain things very well and tend to take a long time to make a point so I am sorry but what I am trying to say is"Think of yourself as having quit smoking not someone who is quitting. " Do you know what I mean. Oh, and thanks for the birthday greeting in my folder. |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 08:29 am     Thanks LL...conditioned responses... 1. You get in the car and light up a cigarette. 2. You eat a meal and light up a cigarette. 3. You talk on the phone and light up a cigarette. 4. You sit down to read the paper and light up a cigarette. I could go on...but you get the idea. Right now I'm still chewing on plastic straws. It's that oral fixation thingy. This has really been a bad week...check out my latest post in the vent thread. I cried a river last night. I didn't smoke but I think my family thought I was losing it. Recent events have made some past events rear their ugly heads. My DH and I have been through so much together in the last 25 years and we've survived all of it but I just keep thinking that we've had our share and I'm tired of trying to avoid all these damn curve balls. I'll probably be fine tomorrow but gees...a person can only take so much. |
Llkoolaid | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 10:30 am     Wow, you really are having a sucky week. Just remember smoking won't make you feel better, just the opposite. for the conditioned responses why not try: 1.The car: bring cold water 2. After a meal: take a short walk 3. The phone:Limit your calls, or put a scratch pad and some colored pencils and doodle while talking. 4.The Paper: Try drinking something or raw veggies, or try moving the place you read the paper to one that you didn't normally smoke in. Keep em coming, I'll think of something.lol |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 11:10 am     hehe....thanks LL...you really are good at this. I'm sure that anyone who has never smoked and quit wouldn't have a clue what I'm talking about nor why it would be so hard. I never really noticed before how many daily activities I did that included a cigarette in hand. Yeah...It's been a bad one. I had a rotten month back in September but at least that was just a once a week thing....This time they seem to be happening all at once. |
Llkoolaid | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 11:48 am     The reason you never really noticed how much cigarettes were in hand is because if you noticed when you smoked you wouldn't do it half as much. That is part of the problem, how many times in the past have you looked at a half empty package of cigarettes and think "where the heck did they go, did I drop some under the car seat or in my purse, I just know I didn't smoke that many". Most of the cigarettes we smoked we didn;t even notice. So if we didn't really notice them then why are they so hard to give up. Because we are addicted to nicotine, which will soon be out of your body and you will soon stop having that empty feeling like something is missing that I know you are experiencing right now. That's why all the food, it passes. All the crap you are going through is not so great but use it to prove to yourself that since you are getting through this stuff without cigarettes, they really didn't give you anything anyway. They don't make the insurance scammer any less of an , they don't take stress away, they just don't do anything good. The nicotine leaving your body causes an empty feeling, so everytime you feel it try thinking of it as "Great, that damm nicotine will soon be gone" Hang in there. |
Djgirl | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 12:40 pm     LL I'll be emailing you as my support coach in January - my quit date is January 20th! |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 12:58 pm     Go Djgirl!!!! Lol LL...I always knew how many cigarettes I smoked by looking at my ashtray...I can honestly say though the worst was when I was working. I'd just light them up and let them burn there. It is really nice though not having to run to the store at the last minute because I need those darn sticks. |
Landi | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 01:32 pm     okay... tomorrow is my big quit day. i decided i wasn't going to live another year being addicted to this piece of junk! i can't exercise... cuz i can't breathe. i'm fat.. cuz i can't exercise... it's a damn circle that has to be stopped now. i'm gonna try my darndest this time. as god is my witness! |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 02:18 pm     Aww....Lani.....You can do it!!! And this is the best support group you'll find anywhere!!! |
Llkoolaid | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 04:21 pm     DJgirl, I'll be here ready and waiting for you and Juju will be back then too and she is a huge help. Lost, you are really getting there, already to help Djgirl. You ARE doing it. Landi, good for you and I see by your post that you are ahead of the game, you realize that it is a vicious cycle and you set a quit date. What I would like to see you thinking is I WILL DO IT THIS TIME not I will try my hardest. Get it in your head that you are going to be successful. You can do this and we will be here for you whenever you want to unload or brag about your successes, what ever you need just let us know and we will try to be here with all the encouragement we can give. I will check in several times a day to read your posts. Good for you, you are giving yourself the best gift you will ever recieve. |
Lostintheglades | Wednesday, November 19, 2003 - 05:23 pm     I think the best part about the support group here Landi is the fact that there's no one here who hasn't been there so you don't get that Cynical attitude that comes from some people (like my daughters). It always help to have people that can honestly say "I know how you feel" and know that most us have tried to quit at least once before and not been successful. For me that was real important because I felt like, if I slipped I wouldn't feel so bad. |
Djgirl | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 08:55 am     Here's an update (LL will understand it!) that I heard on the news this week. Right now, I'm paying $8.15/pack for my cigs... multiply that by two since both DBf & I smoke, that's 16.30/pack (we're sad aren't we?!) Now, our new Premiere Dalton McGuinty (SP?) is intending to raise the cost of a carton an additional $15.00 which translates to $1.88/pack additional plus taxes..... I have a feeling my quit date will be moved up although I want to enjoy my vacation in January, not worry about being the beached whale on the beach from not smoking... |
Sisalou | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 10:00 am     Hooray for ME!!!! Today is my 6th month anniversary! Hooray for Landi and Lost too! I would also like to thank Ll for being such a great support person for everyone. You are the best. (and juju) Dj, you have come to the right place girl!! |
Wargod | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 10:21 am     YAY SIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations on your awesome accomplishment! Lost, I'm sorry its been such a sucky week for you, but a good thing to come out of all of it is showing you that no matter what life throws in your way, you can get through it without smoking. You are doing an incredible job! Landi, how are you doing today? DJ...youch! |
Landi | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 12:24 pm     first chance to post today, my satellite internet connection is down and i'm on the lousy 28.8 dialup. but .... I DID NOT have a cigarette. i have my patch on. when i had to take the dog for it's potty break... I DID NOT have a cigarette. but i do have to say, i have had a whole container of belgian chocolate pudding from trader joe's! so now i'm 14 hours smoke free... do i want one... not really... just feel like my hands are useless appendages on my body when i'm doing things i usually do with a cigarette in hand. i'll give an update closer to closing time. i have to work bingo tonight (pray they don't send me in the smoking room though!) love to my support group! landi |
Lostintheglades | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 01:20 pm     WTG Landi! Sounds like you're doing good. I still have my DH smoking around me but then he does smoke outside so I'm not having to breathe it. I know what you mean about the free hands. Right now that is still the weirdest part for me which is why I've taken up chewing on a straw. LMOA...I must look like a real idgit. |
Djgirl | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 02:16 pm     Way to go Landi & Lost you guys are my heroes... as well as all the members in this thread!!! |
Landi | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 02:22 pm     well here it is 2 hours later, i'm lucky it's my b-day, i'm stuffing my face with cake instead of cigarettes. also i chewed the eraser off of 2 pencils. my dh isn't quitting. i've never gotten him to stop. and he REALLY needs to. hopefully, when i'm skinny and can run a marathon he'll get the hint. especially when all the hunky men look MY WAY! i'll be making my way into the "want to lose weight" thread soon! thanks for all of the encouragement guys! i'll keep ya posted! |
Lostintheglades | Thursday, November 20, 2003 - 02:54 pm     That's great Landi. I think my DH isn't quitting because the last time we quit together and then I'm the one who started back so he did too. He did not have as hard of a time quitting as me so I think rather than put himself through that again only to have me smoke again he's waiting to see if I really stay with it this time. Then I'm pretty sure he'll quit again. He also quit drinking about 2 years ago which was really more important to me than his smoking and I'm so proud of him for that. Happy Birthday Landi...enjoy the cake and when we've kicked this oral fixation thing I'll meet ya in the "want to lose weight thread". Did I mention yet today how much all of you have meant to me these past few weeks!! You're the best. |
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