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Enbwife | Saturday, January 11, 2003 - 08:28 am     Isn't that great Banana!!! Nate just started liking his carriage stroller so we go on great long walks. I feel so free suddenly! We're lucky here because we have tons of stuff for moms and tots to do together. My sis and I are joining an exercise class soon, and taking the kids swimming. It's a blast! We're also re-joining Weight Watchers next week (we're both lifetime members) to get motivated to get this weight off!!! I feel so gross with so much extra weight on my little frame! Nate has slept by himself through the night for over a week so I'm really happy. Usually it's not an issue anymore for him to go to sleep by himself. Last night he went down at 9:45 pm with no noise at all and we didn't hear a peep until 9:00 am this morning... heaven! I still get up 3 times a night to check him but I feel well rested. I bought a fleece, sleeping bag blanket for him which his arms go through and it zips up so he actually wears it. That way if he moves it moves with him. He seems to really like it so that has solved my blanket problems. Anyway, life is good! |
Lizadee | Tuesday, January 14, 2003 - 10:56 am     I have a question now I know my kids are far apart in age. Butt I need some help my memory is failing Can someone tell me when do molars come in ? My oldest is 19 my middle is 13 and my baby is 18 mos.so it has been awhile My Bubbus is getting up alot in the middle of the night and I am going insane Can someone plz.tell me if they think its his molars |
Wcv63 | Wednesday, January 15, 2003 - 09:18 am     I was going to put this in the joke thread but then thought that since it was apropos to the subject of raising children that it fit here better. I received this in my email this morning: The First Parent To those of us who have children in our lives, whether they are our own, grandchildren, nieces and nephews, or whatever, here is something to make you laugh. (Remember, this is a laugh!) Whenever your children are out of control, you can take comfort from the thought that even God's omnipotence did not extend to His own children. After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve (his children). The first thing he said was, "Don't!" "Don't what?" Adam replied. "Don't eat the forbidden fruit," God said. "Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit? Hey, Eve. . . we have forbidden fruit!" "No way!" "Yes, way!" "Do NOT eat the fruit!" said God. "Why?" "Because I am your Father and I said so!" God replied, (wondering why he hadn't stopped creation after elephants). A few minutes later, God saw His children having an apple break and was He ticked! "Didn't I tell you not to eat the fruit?" our first parent, God, asked. "Uh huh," Adam replied. "Then why did you?" said the Father. "I don't know," said Eve. "She started it!" Adam said, "Did not!" "Did too!" "DID NOT! Having had it with the two of them, God's punishment was that Adam and Eve should have children of their own. Thus, the pattern was set and it has never changed! But there is assurance in this story. If you have persistently and lovingly tried to give children wisdom and they haven't taken it, don't be hard on yourself. If God had trouble raising children, what makes you think it would be a piece of cake for you? Advice for the day: If you have a lot of tension and you get a headache, do what it says on the aspirin bottle: "Take two Aspirin" and "Keep away from children." You spend the first 2 years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next 16 years telling them to sit down and shut-up. Grandchildren are God's reward to you for not killing your children. Mothers of teens know why some animals eat their young. Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said. The main purpose of holding children's parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own. We child proofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in! Be nice to your kids. Someday, they'll choose your nursing home. Author Unknown |
Wargod | Wednesday, January 15, 2003 - 10:29 am     Thanks for the laugh Wcv and so nice to see you back again!!! |
Bananaclip | Wednesday, January 15, 2003 - 12:06 pm     Caden just learned how to sit up without support. I think he'll be a late crawler though which is fine with me! I like him immobile for now. Enb, that is so great that Nate is sleeping like that. Tell him to come over here and teach Caden that trick! |
Danzdol | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 01:08 pm     Banana that is awesome! Dylan still doesn't sit unassisted! and he makes all the intentions in the world to crawl but moves less then an inch and then gets frustrated and cries. So cute. |
Wargod | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 01:39 pm     I don't mean to scare you ladies, but neither of my kids crawled....ever! They sat up, they rolled across the floor...no attempts whatsoever to crawl. Caleb got up and walked holding onto the couch...Kota got up and literally ran across the room, LOL. You guys are getting into the fun and interesting stage now. Babies start to move around and they get to explore their world...it's so much fun to watch and be a part of. |
Danzdol | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 01:43 pm     well WAR, Dylan loves to roll wherever he needs to go.........he attempts to crawl but is not successful yet or like you said, he might not at all! When you try to make him sit unassisted, his chest touches the floor.....they are sooo flexible! |
Wargod | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 02:03 pm     LOL, I remember that position! I've been watching the neighbors with their baby out front. They usually take him out about the time I wait on the school bus. He's just started to walk and its so cute. He takes a few steps, falls, rolls a couple times, gets back up, and starts all over. Then I see my 6 year old trudging down the street with his buddies and I think how fast they grow up! I really miss having a baby, but I enjoy my kids now so much since they play back and show you new things all the time. Still, I feel the days of my baby climbing up in my lap to cuddle with me are slowly coming to an end, and I know how much I'm going to miss that! |
Bananaclip | Thursday, January 16, 2003 - 02:21 pm     I think Caden will skip the crawling part then. Danzdol, it's crazy how different babies are. My neighbor has a 3 month old that is attempting to crawl more than Caden does! It's so funny. |
Enbwife | Friday, January 17, 2003 - 06:53 am     Big week for little Nate. He turned 5 months on Monday. He cut his first tooth which he is doing very well with. We moved him to his big car-seat which he absolutely loves! He was too cramped in his little one. I gave him rice cereal for the first time yesterday and he lapped it up faster than I could get the spoon in his mouth! He can sit now unassisted and he's still sleeping through the night (11 hours)!!! Woo hoo!!! Life is good! As far as molars go Lizadee - I looked in my book and all it says is they're last to come in... does anyone know? I joined WW last night and have 35-45 1bs to lose... How sad! But I did it before, I can do it again!!! |
Yuhuru | Friday, January 17, 2003 - 11:39 am     Hi you guys, I need prayer and many fingers crossed. Breastfeeding isn't going well...AGAIN! I'm trying to stick with it, but I'm having flashbacks to when I turned insane when it wasn't working out with my son. I had to stop for a couple of days due to some medication I was taking, but I put her back to the breast today and the latch is still not right. Been back to the hospital twice to see the lactation specialist. I haven't lost hope yet. I figured some TVCH positive energy could get me over the hump |
Julieboo | Friday, January 17, 2003 - 04:27 pm     Good luck Yu! It's great that you are working with the lactation specialist. That should help. Breastfeeding was the ONLY thing I didn't have a problem with, so I can't give too much advice. Just good luck and good wishes to you! |
Twiggyish | Friday, January 17, 2003 - 04:32 pm     Yu, I've got the positive thoughts going your way! |
Enbwife | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 09:56 am     Yuhuru - I went through hell breastfeeding Nate. I was on antibiotics 3 times, at the hospital lactation consultant's 3 times, to a private consultant once for $200, and finally used gentian violet as a last resort. After 5 months, it's much better. Nate's latch was poor and I had yeast so the combination of both was excrutiating. If he'd taken a bottle, I would have quit for sure... now I'm really glad I perservered. Hang in there and keep trying but don't beat yourself up if you just can't do it. Lizadee - I found info on molars. The lower front teeth typically come in between 6-10 months, the first molar between 14-18 months and the second molar between 23-31 months. The upper front teeth start around 8-12 months, first molar 13-19 months and second molar 25-33 months. That's what my first year calendar says but of course this is just average ages. |
Yuhuru | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 10:05 am     Enbwife, Thanks so much for the encouragement. I'm just starting to feel like a 2 time loser. I only nursed my son for five weeks because he was an "inefficient" nurser. With my daughter we've had to keep her off the breast so much so soon. She's been cup fed, spoon fed, medicine dropper fed, bottle fed, etc. We've been to the lactation nurse twice and she's only a week old. I'v tried multiple positions and still no good latch. It even hurts now when I pump. In my mind I've quit so many times. I admire your perserverence. I'll try to plug into your will because I think I've lost my own. My son will probably grow up to be a breast implant surgeon or a lactation consultant-he's seen my breasts more now than he did when he was nursing |
Squaredsc | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 10:11 am     yuhuru, good luck. i didn't even try breastfeeding. both my kids are bottle babies, and so was i. but i hope it works out for you. unfortunately i can't offer any advice. |
Sia | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 10:42 am     Yuhuru, I'm laughing at your prediction that your son will grow up to be a plastic surgeon specializing in breast implants! Get yourself completely comfortable because breast-feeding when you're uncomfy isn't possible. I suggest you lie down on your bed with soothing music playing softly and have your burping pads and things you might need within reach. Is anyone helping you at home in these first couple of weeks? My mom wouldn't let me give up on breastfeeding, and she really helped me so much. Baby should be clean, dry and in comfy clothes (like you are in your comfy pjs or nightie) and be gentle and slow in your movements with her, talking quietly and with a positive outlook. Think success! Envision yourself successfully breastfeeding; don't picture yourself giving up! To breastfeed comfortably when I knew it was going to be a long session--and when I wanted my baby to stay asleep afterward, I did it while lying diagonally on my bed (I had the baby right in the center of the bed, where s/he wouldn't roll off as the baby got mobile). I offered the breast closest to the mattress to the baby, supporting my upper body with that arm--sort of propped up on my elbow--with that hand under the breast. The other hand and arm are free to move so you can reposition the baby as needed or wipe her little mouth, etc. I hope this helps, Yuhuru. My son (now 6) was what is called a "lazy nurser," and he had trouble latching on and then trouble staying awake while breastfeeding. He would go right to sleep and not get a lot to eat, it seemed to me. We made it through and I breastfed him for ten months. My daughter was easier to work with, and I breastfed her for 15 months. Oh, I miss those days. Makes me wish I had a little newborn! Congratulations. Can't wait to see your little precious bundle! |
Yuhuru | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 02:50 pm     Thanks Sia, I'll try to lie down. I was relunctant because I had a c-section and my incision has been tender. However, my son has pretty much abused that area with his all of a sudden need to be in my lap now that his sister has arrived. I also have trouble keeping me baby awake. So I had been nursing her in a onesie or naked, but yesterday her foot turned blue and I freaked out. I usually change her diaper, etc before nursing. I think if I could cut her arms off and put her neck in a brace I'd have an easier time OR if I could grow two more arms. We usually do a lil' better when he helps get her on, but he's got older child duty this weekend. I think you're right about seeing myself successfully breastfeeding. My dh and I agree that the only reason I think about quitting is because I have a alternative. What if there wasn't an alternative? I'll be honest and give TMI. I'm actually having the same problem now than I did before and I'm beginning to wonder if my nipples just are too big. Sounds odd I know, but my baby opens wide and from the outside the position looks right, but she seems only to suck on one side. And that side bleeds. |
Sia | Saturday, January 18, 2003 - 08:41 pm     Yuhuru, it is hard to tough it out, but the nipples will toughen up. You can let your older child cuddle YOU from behind if he insists on being part of the action while you're trying to breastfeed. This is what I did with my two-year-old son while breastfeeding my newborn daughter; he'd cuddle up behind my back and invariably fall asleep! The hardest thing about allowing the older child to be with you while you breastfeed is that when you try to sneak away from the bed, you may wake up the bigger child! I can't tell you how many times the baby would fall asleep nursing, my son would drop off, then I'd nod off, too. Twenty minutes to half an hour of sleep would really leave me feeling better, so then I'd sneak out of the bed and carry the baby to her crib, leaving my son to continue napping. Breastfeeding is often difficult, Yuhuru, and there is formula as an alternative, and no one will judge you if you choose to use that to feed your baby; you do whatever works for you. There are many advantages and disadvantages to both methods of feeding, and I'm sure you've already thought through most of those reasons. Keep me posted. I wish you the best of luck with this. |
Yuhuru | Sunday, January 19, 2003 - 07:55 am     Thanks Sia, you've been really sweet. The bottom line for me is that this is something that I want to do. I enjoy it. I really don't have any hang ups about formula or others opinions. I just hate that I can't seem to get it right again. I really need to work on my attitude. Maybe if I cme at it from a more positive positive I'll have better luck. |
Enbwife | Sunday, January 19, 2003 - 10:08 am     Please don't feel like a loser Yuhuru. Before I had Nate, I thought breastfeeding would be the most natural thing and I was telling everyone how I was going to do it, etc. Little did I know that there's absolutely nothing natural about it! Now that things are going so well for us, I'm so glad I perservered. A few of my friends had a horrible time too at the beginning and switched to formula and all the babies are doing great! Good luck and know that you have all the support in the world here on this board. This topic has kept me going many, many times in the past 5 months. Nate used to fall asleep nursing all the time so I would take him off, sit him on my lap and burp him to try to get him to wake up (I can see his little head flopping as I type). If that didn't work, I'd take him upstairs and change his diaper to try to wake him. That usually worked. What I'm going through now is feelings of total sadness that my little, tiny baby is growing up so fast!!! He's like a little boy all of a sudden - eating food, sitting alone, using a highchair, playing with his toys!!! Now I can definitely see why people have more than one child. |
Jewels | Sunday, January 19, 2003 - 03:32 pm     Yuhuru, a positive attitude and knowing that the pain isn't going to last forever is definitely going to help you get through this tough time. I won't preach here, but I am pro-breastfeeding and just remember you are doing one of the best things you can possibly do for your baby and for yourself. If she is gaining weight when you go in for her next appt. then she is doing okay. It is awful at first, I remember feeling like I was being cut with razor blades and would just cry and cry. It does get better!! Doesn't it feel weird to say "my daughter"? The first week or two I kept calling her by my son's name! Enbwife, just wait until they want to start doing everything themselves...pouring juice, getting food out of the refrigerator...enjoy this baby time!  |
Yuhuru | Sunday, January 19, 2003 - 04:32 pm     Thanks guys! Enb, definitely enjoy every minute. It goes by so fast. My son is absolutely amazing. I miss him as a baby all the time, but we have a lot of fun together now too. Watching him write his alphabet is so cool. And listening to him form sentences is so cute. One of my favorite things he says is "last morning" instead of yesterday. It's great to get to start all over again. Jewels, it is weird saying my daughter. My dh has been calling her him quite a bit I wish the pain was all that I have to deal with. I can handle pain itself. But the pain is a big indicator along with the condition and shape of my nipples that we have not been able to get the latch right. I'm psychologically beat down. I've pumped all day and put off putting her on because I'm afraid it won't work again. I struggled and struggled with my son for weeks and had to stop with him prematurely. It left me in an unhealty place mentally, and I've vowed not to go there again. I have not given up yet, but I know the longer we go on like this the more difficult it will be to succeed. |
Sia | Sunday, January 19, 2003 - 05:07 pm     Yuhuru, I think it's great that you want to breastfeed. I certainly believe it is the best way to feed a baby. Oh, I remember something the "lactation specialist" (one of the LPNs in the hospital) told me to do to toughen up my nipples: she told me to PINCH them hard and to roll them between my fingertips. I thought I would pee the bed when she told me that, and then I think I DID pee on the bed-pad when I later explained that to my dear husband, who stood in the doorway of the hospital room slack-jawed. He said, "You never let ME touch them!!" I thought you'd get a laugh out of that. Well, don't try it; it just hurts like crap and doesn't help the situation a bit! Your baby girl has to learn, just like you do (all over again), and it sounds like you're really giving it a concerted effort. I think it's great and I believe you'll be just fine. Like Jewels said, if the baby is gaining, she's getting enough milk. Your doctor will advise you; you're not alone in this! I found an old diskette and can't resist posting an OLD pic of my first baby:
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