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Whit4you

Thursday, November 28, 2002 - 10:30 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Enb - just get a bigger bed :) Nuttin sweeter then sleeping with yer little one there to cuddle with and man it goes by sooooooo fast. I started having my son sleep in his crib at night when he was about 6 months but I usually ended up bringing him to my bed when I went to sleep cause snugglin with him was so wonderful - and I know he had better dreams when he was safe and content next to mom - cause he'd have those little happy sighs. He was about 11 months when I actually let him sleep in his crib the whole night lol. But if you really want him to move out on his own - poor widdle thing - try putting his crib smack dab up against your side of the bed the first few weeks when he starts to awake or those pre-wakeup fuss's you can rub his tummy or hum quietly etc... it's also easy to just reach over and grab him and put him next to you so you don't have to get in 'full wake up mode'
then as the next few weeks progress just move the crib a bit more and more - and then finally to where you want it to be. Also when you are getting ready for bed - put whatever shirt you were wearing right next to him in the crib it'll comfort him.

Alegria

Thursday, November 28, 2002 - 07:48 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
You'll sleep a lot better if you share a bed. He'll move out eventually and you need the rest. In any case, use the books as a reference and then go with what works best for you. There is no one right or wrong way to do any of this. Good luck.

Enbwife

Saturday, November 30, 2002 - 09:30 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Thanks guys. Night # 2 was worse than the first night believe it or not, so needless to say, the little guy is back in bed with us. :) I just couldn't take it anymore. What we've agreed to do is give it a few weeks, put him to sleep for naps in his crib when we're home in the day so he gets used to it (worked great this a.m.) and try again when he's a little older. I hate the thought of letting him cry, but from what I hear it's very effective in only a couple of nights. We're just not into the family bed... our bed is not big enough and none of us sleep very well with nate in there with us. He's such a loud, wiggly sleeper. To answer the questions above, I'm going to get the oceans crib thing for his crib and put on a fan for white noise when he's in there. I think the silence is too loud for him. I'm also going to put my shirt in there and hope that helps him. Anyway, I'll keep you all posted on how it goes. :)

Bananaclip

Monday, December 02, 2002 - 12:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Enb, some people put a blanket in the dryer for a few minutes first and then lay the baby down so it'll be warm.

Danzdol

Monday, December 02, 2002 - 02:04 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
ENB:

Have you seen the book" Secretss of the baby whisperer" by Tracy Hogg????????????..... It has a different approach to the "let them cry" option..it's more of a "try over and over technique". I am dead tired today (8 hour flight back and I have to go work now )but I will see if I can find the section and post it for you tomorrow.

She has a great view of what kids like and dislike. I tried some on Dylan and it worked.

Sia

Monday, December 02, 2002 - 05:05 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Enbwife, I don't know if I would put a shirt or fluffy blanket in the crib at the age your baby is just yet; he's still young enough that experts warn of bedding that is too fluffy and bunchy being a danger to tiny babies. In fact, most experts now say to take even stuffed animals out of the crib when the baby is in it and use tight-fitting fitted sheets and one comfort rather than a pile of thinner blankets that can get pulled up around the baby's face.

I'm just worried for his safety. Hugs to you and hubby and your sweet boy!

Enbwife

Monday, December 09, 2002 - 08:25 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Hey guys - I've been putting Nate in his crib for naps every day I'm here and it's going well. He lasts anywhere from 30 - 60 minutes which is a great improvement. He's still in our bed at night and I'm doing more research on whether to let him cry it out. I think we'll probably go with the Ferber method - go in every 5 minutes to let him know we're here but not pick him up, leave then go in at 10 minutes, then 15 until he falls asleep. I just can't imagine putting him in his crib and letting him cry without going to him. Especially since up till now, we've always responded to him immediately when he's cried. It just seems like it's one extreme to the other and very unfair for him. The Ferber method will probably take a bit longer than the letting him cry, however, I just feel more comfortable with it.... Anyway we're working on naps first.

Today is Nate's 4 month shots so I'm not looking forward to that.

I went to a private lactation consultant for 2 hours on Friday to seek her advice on my problems with feeding. She was excellent and money well worth spent!!! I'm now using Gentian Violet on my nipples which is a messy purple dye that should kill the yeast. She showed me a better latching technique and explained a lot to me that I was never told before. Right now I'm in pain but hopefully this new approach will begin to work for me.

Any news from the very new moms yet??? :)

Wargod

Monday, December 09, 2002 - 10:18 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Lisa, we still use the Ferber method with Dakota and she's four, LOL. Do not let that turn you off of it. Dakota has spent the last year or so sleeping either on my bedroom floor or her brothers because there was a slight problem with her bedroom. It's been a nightmare getting her back into her room since she's so used to sleeping with someone else. For us we do it a little different because she's older. We do thirty minutes at a time, the hope being that she will eventually put herself to sleep. Sometimes I have to go in several times to sit with her, sometimes I go in after the first thirty minutes and shes sound asleep. I know its not exactly the same thing you do with an infant, but the Ferber method is where I got the idea with her.

Enbwife

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 08:12 am EditMoveDeleteIP
That's why I want to do it early so that hopefully he'll learn how to put himself back to sleep at this very young age and it won't be an issue later in his life... Who would have thought that you would have to teach a child how to sleep? I thought it would have been the most natural thing for them to do!!! Little did I know! :)

Wargod

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 11:09 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Hehe, I'm 28 and still have trouble putting myself to sleep. I expected one of them to have sleeping problems since I do, but dang, whn I do start to get to sleep she wakes up, LOL.

How's it going with Nate? Is he getting into some kind of sleeping patern in his own room? Is he giving you a chance to rest?

Twiggyish

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 01:50 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Lisa, Dr. Spock used to advocate that method called the Ferber method. IT WORKS!! I did that with my daughter. However, I didn't start using it until about 10 months. When they are very young, they are still crying with a need. Whereas, when they get older, they like to cry to hear their voice and it gets easy attention. Is it possible that he is hungry? Maybe you can ask the Dr about adding a bit of baby cereal. Some babies instantly start sleeping better with full tummies.

Bakerygirl

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 01:51 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My baby, who is 11 weeks old has always slept in his bassinet right next to our bed. The past few weeks he has started sleeping through the night. Usually 6 hours and last night he slept 8 hours straight. My husband said he woke up once and whined a minute but feel back to sleep. It is so nice. It helps have the bassinet close to the bed.. To get him to sleep at night i rub his stomach or head and usually it makes us both fall asleep. We will probably upgrade him to the crib soon which is across the hall so hopefully that will work out just as good. If they are not suppose to sleep with a blanket, how are you suppose to keep them warm at night? I always worry about him getting too cold. Also does anyone know when they should be moved to a crib. I heard 3 months but not sure why that is. It looks like he wont out grow the bassinet for a long time, eventhough he is a pretty big baby. I can't beleive i havent noticed this sight until now, must have been blind.

Bananaclip

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 01:56 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Three months is tops for a bassinette, they do outgrow them. When they get bigger they can knock them over with rolling and sitting up and such.

Some babies can use the bassinette longer but it gets really cramped. When they get older they start to move out of the fetal position and like to stretch.

Bookworm

Thursday, December 12, 2002 - 05:08 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I put Wiggle in a blanket sleeper and stick an undershirt and socks on him if it is really cold. Or sometimes he wears a sweat suit with socks and an undershirt. His room tends to stay pretty warm. He is almost 16 months old now, and while I try to cover him up sometimes, he always kicks the blanket off right away. So I dress him warmly for bed.

Enbwife

Sunday, December 15, 2002 - 11:40 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Wargod - it's going well. I now put Nate in his crib for his naps in the day, so when he wakes up he's in there. It's working out well. His naps have become a bit longer (45-60 minutes vs the previous 30 minutes).

Twiggy - I've heard great things about Ferber. Nate only eats once in the night now and wakes barely at all when he's in bed with us... I think it's the body warmth that he likes. He's still in our bed at night but I believe we'll be trying to change that very soon.

Bakerygirl - I envy you. Nate hated his bassinet from day 1. Your baby sounds like my sister's who has never had sleep problems. She will close her eyes and go to sleep pretty much anywhere. Nate doesn't know how to sleep unless someone is rocking him or feeding him. If those things are not there he cries and cries when he needs to sleep - it's so sad. We need to teach him how to put himself to sleep without the use of something else. I dread it!

As far as keeping babies warm, I too put an undershirt under Nate's sleeper and make sure he has socks on if the sleeper has no feet. I put a blanket on him up to his underarms. He always puts his arms/hands out but I know his body is warm. He kicks off his blanket when he wakes up usually.

We bought Nate a Jolly Jumper (in a frame) for Christmas and he loves it. He's always wanted to stand from the age of 2 months (he has very strong legs), so the jumper is a wonderful way for him to use his legs and get exercise without us having to hold him. It's such fun to see him so happy in it. He laughs daily now and is blowing rasberries with his mouth. He is absolutely adorable! :)

Bookworm

Sunday, December 15, 2002 - 05:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
awwww, you should post a picture of him in his jumper lisa.

Enbwife

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 08:48 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Here he is:

Nate

Wargod

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 09:01 am EditMoveDeleteIP
He's getting so big! He's also extremely adorable!

Car54

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 10:14 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Wow, is he cute or what. He looks like such a happy boy!

Zachsmom

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 10:15 am EditMoveDeleteIP
ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh how precious!!! I WANT ONE!!!!

wait..I had one..hold them close..they grow too fast!!!!

Kady

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 11:57 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Awwwwww!! Just look at that cute little smile he is giving ME. :)

Moondance

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 12:10 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
That smile makes me smile! What a cutie!

Bakerygirl

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 12:22 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I can't figure out how to post pics on here.. So if anyone wants to see my cutie, its on my profile.. I'll update it often or if someone wants to tell me how to post pictures on here.. I am terrible at this stuff...Thanks!

Draheid

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 12:31 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Bakerygirl: It's quite simple, really. Place a 'tag' into your message like this: \image{mypicture} and when you 'Preview/Post the message, you'll temporarily see this image: 1,blank

Once you post the message, you should be prompted for the file to upload. Click on the 'Browse' button to find the picture file, double-click on the picture file, then click the 'Upload' button to complete the process.

Bakerygirl

Tuesday, December 17, 2002 - 12:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
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