Archive through April 16, 2003
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Archive through April 16, 2003
Julieboo | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 10:04 am     Make them sweep out the fireplace!  |
Denecee | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 10:51 am     Lol Julieboo! Hey Lizadee, go ahead and ask. I raised my husband's daughter from the time she was 4, so I might be able to help. |
Lizadee | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 11:06 am     Denecee I think there is a huge difference between raising them and having them every once in awhile and I know my DH doesn't have any trouble w/his step kids (my kids) My kids are not angels but they do know what RESPECT is Julieboo I don't have a fireplace how about the attic ! |
Wargod | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 12:07 pm     Sorry, Liz, don't have step kids, though I was one. My step dad raised us, but I know for a fact that if we had not shown respect we'd have been picking ourselves up off the floor and mom was not a big believer in spankings! |
Mygetaway | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 12:11 pm     Liza.. I've been there too. Two of my SK's live with us, and the third went to live with Mom about a year ago. The SD here at home is going to be 16 in May. Her only chore is the kitchen, and making dinner. (Besides her room of course, and everyone does their own laundry) Because of my condition it's very hard for me to do cooking, etc. So now she tells us that because she does these things, she feels SHE is the "head of household." (and my take is that I am the person to ignore in the other room.) As soon as Dad goes out the door to work her attitude changes. She has no respect for me. The little "white" lies are what ticks me off the most. I'll ask her if something is done and she'll say yes, because she knows I probably won't get the chance to check it out. I could go on for pages.. but I think you get the drift. So believe me, you are not alone. (And we do have some good times, but for the last year or so it has progressively gotten worse) When the other girl comes home on weekends, she is usually ok with us, but there are fights between the kids. When she first started coming back, she tried to act like she had never lived with us before and knew nothing about where things were kept, etc. THAT was pretty funny. She's going to be 15 in July. All I can say is Hang in there baby...  |
Lizadee | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 12:22 pm     Thanks Mygetaway I wish I could getaway when he comes over He is 10 and going on 2 he is just a lil sh$$ and I have told his dad that Even my DD who is 13 doesn't come home when he is there she stays at her dads (he won't let me) LOL I wish I could have some place to stay I told my DH that I am not putting up with his crap this summer I will get a divorce first I try to find things to do and get out of the house when he is there I even go to bed at 8:00 sometimes just so I don't have to see him I am sick of DH sticking up for him oohh he's just 10 plz I have heard this since he was 7 |
Halfunit | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 02:53 pm     Calling all Greenthumbs: Last year, my yard was reseeded and I had a pretty nice lawn:
Well, due to lack of rainfall and not watering the lawn, the last I had to cut my grass was the 4th of July. I thought it went dormant and/or died. This spring, I was happy to see green stuff coming up, but I am not happy now.
My entire lawn looks as if it is covered in PARSLEY.
What is this stuff ?? I weeded and feeded yesterday, and I am going to spread grass seed out on Sunday after the expected rain, but I would love to know if anyone knows what this stuff is!!!!! |
Moondance | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 02:57 pm     The Units are growing special plants Marrriiiiwonnaaaa J/K I have no idea what that is! |
Grannyg | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 03:15 pm     Hey, Half, you may have an unexpected cash flow!! |
Mware | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 03:15 pm     Half - Did you reseed the lawn yourself, or did you hire a contractor? If someone else did it, you may be able to get recourse in court for faulty work. I've heard of similar cases where the court ordered the contractor to either fix the lawn, or they would garnish his wages. ...insert rim shot here...  |
Halfunit | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 03:28 pm     Mware - da da dum. The reseeding was done on the side by a coworker who does landscaping on the side. I barely paid anything, and I'd never go back to him (he has since taken another job elsewhere). I don't mind starting over, but I really really want to know what this is !!! |
Lobster | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 03:45 pm     Half, is there a greenhouse near you? Or a garden store that isn't Home Depot but privately owned? People who run those things usually know a lot about plants. Whereas, at Home Depot you might not find someone who knows a lot. Take a clipping to one of those places, and they should be able to tell you what it is. Your other option is to take a clipping to the herb section of your grocery store and compare it to the curly parsley. LOL |
Rissa | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 03:46 pm     Halfunit, it looks beautifull!!! LOLOL Square off that section of lawn and stick a fence around it. It really does look like parsley, or maybe cilantro....have you tried crushing some to smell? My first thought was creeping charlie which is a pain in the hindquarters to get rid of, but that has purple flowers and yours looks like a clover type whitish bloom is popping up. I would take a handfull to your local garden centre and see if they can identify it. You will probably have to rake it all up to get down to the ground and THEN: 1) if it's a popular weed, then a weed n'feed should work. 2) if it's something more exotic or actually turns out to be parsley.. you may have to use a kill-everything product and start over. You will never find a weed and feed that targets herbs. I agree with Mware that you should at least ask the guy who reseeded, he might repair it to maintain good customer service. |
Halfunit | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 04:15 pm     No greenhouses in this area, but I am going north Friday to see my mom and there are some up there. I shall take samples with me. No flowers coming from this stuff (oh, wouldn't that be lovely?), and it does have a silvery tint to it. And no distinct aroma that I can tell. I ripped some up and it smelled like grass, lol. I think I will give the weed 'n feed a few days to see what happens. I have another friend who owns his own landscaping company (they do the lawncare where I work). I just may ask him if he knows wtf this is. I look out my front door and it looks like the top of a piece of broccoli. So weird. At least it's green! |
Whoami | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 04:42 pm     I'll try to get my mom in here in a few minutes to look at the pics. She's a retired botanist. |
Squaredsc | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 04:43 pm     1/2, puff puff pass. lol. i know nothing about gardening. i don't even mow the lawn. lizadee, your stepson has already taken over your house. he has already run off your daughter and now you are almost out of the house. he has the control now. if you want control back over your home, kick him straight in his a**. and if your dh says anything then kick his a** too. but if this behavior has been going on for 3 years it may be too late. i tell my own children all the time, im the parent and you are the child, if you don't like it then get the **** out and you leave only with the stuff you bought. |
Marysafan | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 04:55 pm     Halfunit, I showed hubby your lawn and he said ..."those are weeds". He said your grass probably died last summer, and the weeds which need very little water and will soak up any available moisture took over. He says you probably will need to dig it all up and start over. He is not professional by any stretch of the imagination..but he does know a little about this stuff. |
Whoami | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 04:59 pm     Boy, I have to agree with Squaredsc on this one Lizadee. Not only has your DH given control to the SS, YOU have, by hiding out when he's around. He knows darn well what he is doing, and the more he wins each confrontation, the more he will act out. I would suggest standing up to him. You let him know he is in YOUR house, he will respect you, and you ARE NOT going away. You need to come up with a plan on what you will do with him when he disrespects you. Just telling him it is unacceptable won't work. He'll just look at you with a "yeah, right" and keep on doing his own thing. Can you take things away from him? Or seclude him in a room? Somehow, someway of course, you need DH to not only support you in this, but to not intervene when you are laying down the rules to the SS. I don't know how of course. I'd say for sure though, do not tell him "it's either me or him DH. Choose now." Any parent pushed into that corner will choose his/her child (as it usually should be). I really feel for you. I hope it works out. But you are the one who has to start turning it around, by standing your ground. Perhaps you can take a few "privledges" away from the DH, if he chooses not to support you?  |
Squaredsc | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:02 pm     backhand him in the mouth when he disrespects you. |
Halfunit | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:12 pm     (Grabs "item" from Square...) Weeds, eh? Well, I guess I should be grateful they aren't dandelions! Anxiously awaiting news from ExBotanistWhoMom... Lizadee - I dispised my stepmother when my father remarried when I was 12. One day, she cleared her calender and spent the entire day with me. Not my sister, or her children, just me. It made the biggest difference in the world. (She and my father later divorced, but that's another story...) With it being Spring Break time, is it possible for you to take a day and do something with SS that he would enjoy? I don't know what 10 year old boys like outside of the house (zoo, aquarium, etc.), but perhaps it would give the two of you a chance to talk and enjoy each other without anyone else around...? |
Grooch | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:18 pm     Lizdee, two words. Boarding School. Or..... Military School or.... Sleepaway camp Take your pick. |
Grooch | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:19 pm     Halfunit, the quickest way to get rid of your weeds is to try growing them on purpose. Nothing ever lives when you are trying to grow it. And I bet that d@mn grass will try to sneak back in. Don't let it! ;) |
Moondance | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:23 pm     Maybe Gail will lend you her goat! |
Whoami | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 05:48 pm     Sorry Half, but Mom isn't sure specifically what kind of green critter that is. She did say it looked like some sort of flowering ground cover. So even if it isn't sprouting flowers yet, it may! |
Maesin | Wednesday, April 16, 2003 - 08:37 pm     Does anyone know of a really good place to find low price international airline tickets? Has anyone ever used Priceline.com? I have tried most of the major web sites: orbitz, expedia, travelocity and many of the actual airline sites. I would go to a travel agent, but they haven't been able to help me very much. I live in Vegas and for some reason it's very cheap to get here but not so cheap to get out. Go figure! I would appreciate any info anyone has to offer. Thank you so much!
PS. Halfunit, I think your lawn looks very lush! I know that's not what you were going for though. Good luck figuring out what that is, I know I am now curious also! |
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