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Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 05:18 pm     Creampuff (and anyone else who might be feeling ignored) First - I'm sorry if I've ignored you, but I also hope you are sorry that you ignored me... because chances are you have. I've been a prolific poster here in years past and a frequent one this year... and yet I don't recall you ever personally responding to one of MY posts - is this because you are ignoring me? Because they aren't interesting? Because you don't read them? I'm betting not. I'm betting you have in fact read some of my posts... perhaps agreed with them - or perhaps didn't but didn't have the time to post a rebuttal. For someone narcissitic like myself - one of the most interesting parts of this board are seeing responses to my posts ... (and embarrasingly I will admit when I write a 'good one' - I will re-read my post a few times... and refresh often to see any responses...) I couldn't begin to count the # of times I've made a post and it got no responses... but that certainly doesn't mean it wasn't read. Or that I was ignored. I've read thousands of posts here that I didn't personally respond too!!! So here's what I am trying to get across - how many of MY posts did you respond to personally? Not many if any... but that doesn't mean you didn't read them!!! Doesn't mean you didn't possibly enjoy them. Did it??? I don't feel that you ignored me - and I also hope you realize that I didn't ignore you. I hope you understand that it's that case with everyone here. We all have a few posters we tend to respond too... (I think) at least I know I do tend to respond to a few posters more than most... but that's because of a history we've built up over time.. and NOT because they are 'more special' I can guarantee you one thing - if for 3 days we all posted somewhere as 'poster A1" "poster A2" and so on - you'd find out that it would still end up the exact same!!! I rarely read the name of the poster unless there's a reason for me to do so, and yet I find out (when readint thier name to post their name in the heading of my post as I did this one...) that it's yet again that same poster. (I didn't choose to respond because so-and-so was the poster.... ) I responded because that posters remarks tend to make me want to respond for whatever reason, that season. I guess what I am trying to say is 'it's not you!" It really isn't... *I* could feel ignored here as well - so could most... and frankly most of us are - and that would include the trolls since this board is better than any I have EVER been on at not feeding trolls. So being 'ignored' here isn't a 'bad thing' - I hope you see that you do it to me (and many others) as well.. because there's not enough time in a day to respond to most posts... (besides the fact that most the time they are past tense when you are reading them lol) What I'd like anyone who feels they are being ignored to do is take a look at a random thread here right now... and think about how many times YOU personally have responded to the first 10 names you see in that thread. See?? Were you ignoring them??? NO? Well they weren't ignoring you either... it's just a very busy board and we can only respond to X amount of posts and so we all at times, or often (and in some cases always) feel ignored. But you really aren't - I may not know your name but I do know your posts.... I hope that you can understand what I'm trying to get across here, if not I can explain it in a few other ways. I am right though. Ironically the more you post the less you feel ignored but it's NOT because an individual post gets more responses, it's just that you've done so many that some DO get responses so therefore you feel you ARE being read. LOL. When I was in the top 5 posters list - 80% of my posts were 'ignored' (as you'd think of it - ie no one responded) but yet I felt less ignored because there were always responses somewhere. Sooooooooo post 500 posts, 50 will get responses and you won't feel "as ignored" Instead of posting 30 and 3 getting responses. See? HUGS** |
Woodpecke® | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 05:20 pm     Damn Whit, you type faster than I do. Ha! |
Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 05:22 pm     Hunt and peck.... at it's finest darlin |
Creampuff | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 06:03 pm     Thank you Whit! A big part of what you said is true and your comments and your having taken time to voice them is appreciated. In retrospect, I was thinking of the times I have made what I thought was an insightful post, possibly something pertinent to a particular situation at hand, and in checking back I'd see where no mention was made of what I said but further on, down the line, a more known poster virtually said the same thing and others were discussing something I had said earlier, to no avail. Not to be argumentative here, but that refutes the 'poster A1' and 'poster A2' theory. If I failed to respond to you, or others, perhaps that was due, I'm fairly sure, to a "what's the use" attitude which may or may not have been directly in retaliation to you, Whit. Forgive me for not remembering. I certainly am aware that each and every post is not going to be flooded with responses and rightly so. Guess I stand admonished. I do feel better getting my thoughts off my chest though! Again, thanks! Have a good evening. |
Crossfire | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 06:14 pm     I'm as much a TVCH fan as the next person, but Cream does have a point on that one. I've had that happen to me, and that is a little annoying. |
Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 06:38 pm     Cream... sweet response TY "I'd see where no mention was made of what I said but further on, down the line, a more known poster virtually said the same thing and others were discussing something I had said earlier" See - you made someone else think about what you'd said ... post someting similiar and a convo ensued about it.... I am glad you saw - or understood what I was trying to get across. I'm the first to admit that some may feel ignored here since, I myself have many times (but I don't take it personally and that I guess is what I'm trying to get across - it's not personal.. you didn't choose to ignore ME as a person.. just only had the time to respond to X amount of posts.. and mine weren't among them) Back when I 'lived-and-breathed" TVCH (was too addicted) I went out of my way to respond to the names *I* didn't recognize. (Instead of similiar posts by those I did) But that's because of who *I* am (Founder of CM) You (and please this isn't about you but anyone feeling LIKE you feel) to my recollection have never responded to any of my posts prior to this and visa versa... but that doesn't mean you didn't read mine and visa versa. There is a thread - called "A fact or two about you" ... last XMas I took the time to respond psersonally to many of the posters in that thread. Several (made me tear up) were touched to know that someone had actually read their individual thoughts and posts via my personal XMas msg's to them. The thing is - I know that most who post to that thread (the reading is the fun part NOT the posting lol) read everyone else's and THAT"s why they choose to share their own facts.. to 'do their share' - but few had the time to devote 40+ hours to make a special note to each and every person. So I'll say it again (I think you got it.. but maybe many of the otehrs reading didn't quite...) Think about any 10 random fellow posters here.. and how 'special' you made them feel.. how many times you 'ignored' (didn't personally respond) to their posts. Were you ignoring them? Naa.. but most of us have limited time to respond. Oh and as far as my "Poster A1" deal - I'm very confident about this I really am. I've mentioned before I'm founder of a chan of 400+ peeps (5 of the couples who met there got married) We DID this (just for fun on a lark) Girl IIIII Girl IIIII Girl IIIII ....... small L's and upercase I's looked identical... so we had 15+ combinations. LOL. Anyhow - what I was trying to say and I can only speak for myself and not for others - most the time I'm writing my response IN my head while reading a post... when I choose to respond ... it's only when I'm typing my response that I even KNOW who wrote the post I'm responding too (cause I like to 'personalize it' with their name at the top alot) Anyhow - my bottom line - all those who do feel ignored. Just stop and think of all those (pick any random thread .. count how many times YOU personally responded to any of thsoe posters) Just know it's NOT personal. It really isn't. The things I took personal my first 6 months here were a few posters bashing me for my posting style. They I guess figured out they can't change me and decided to ignore me (thank you) or accept me for who I am (someone who types my thoughts as they come out not some anal-retentive English teacher) LOL. The deal: Feel like you are being ignored here? We all do. There are 300 active posters - a few hundred other posters. How many have YOU responded too? Are you intentionally ignoring the rest? Do you think they are intentionally ignoring you? They aren't. HUG* |
Bob2112 | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 06:40 pm     The more you respond to other posters, the more they will respond to you. Everyone was new at one point. Taking a "what's the use" attitude is certainly not going to get more people to notice you. Everyone like to get noticed. I seldom post in the BB threads and almost all my posts are ignored. In other areas, a single post can start a sing along or a deadpool with 1000's of posts in a few days. Doesn't matter to me. I play my role here the way I like to and it suits me well. Crossfire: You may find it a little annoying, but we all know you keep on posting regardless and that's why you are more often responded to than ignored. <...knows that Whitney always reads his posts...> |
Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 06:42 pm     <--never reads Bob's posts ... evvvvvver dammit (see that's one biggy to getting others to respond... if that does matter and to me it does so I understand. Say something to somone IN particular - non flame-wise) |
Pamy | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:05 pm     Creampuff...I felt like that when I started in the BB area. During the off season I explored more of the board where I met more posters, we all have fun posting/chatting together. The other areas are not as crazy as BB and a lot of fun. YOu will find the kindest, funniest people. I hope you stick around and try the General Discussion area, I am sure by this time next year you will feel like you are part of the elite group. (not that there is one, but you will feel like it! lol) |
Bob2112 | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:07 pm     <...not reading Pamy's post...> |
Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:08 pm     Cream - and anyone else reading this - I started a thread about solutoins to the majority (and I think most of us have felt ignored more often than not..) So please join that thtead and post solutions - any viable ones I'm going to turn into something that will help us all in the future...) So anyone who's felt ignored - who 'could do better' than the rest at not making OTHERS feel ignored plese offer up some ideas.. solutions. There ARE some - and we have tried some ... let's come up with more of them. Link to the thread.... (Come on if you've felt ignored and felt that it was wrong.. you gotta have at least one possible suggestion... might not work but it can't hurt to suggest it we can tweak it ya know?) Seriously this is tough .. and I'm 99% sure most of us would never want to make you (or me) feel ignored.. but it's part of this... any ideas you have to help (even if they need some tweaking... could benefit us all.. and those after you who feel you are ignoring them...) SUGGEST!!!! -> IGNORED?? <--ignoring BOB till he meets me for lunch... |
Reiki | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:28 pm     Who is Bob? We have a Bob? I AM a member of an elite clique. Its called TVCH. I am a big time board lurker. I read almost everything, but comment very rarely. Why? A lot of the time someone has already said what I was thinking more eloquently than I could. Sometimes I just don't think my opinion is worth sharing. Sometimes I type things out and that is enough to get it out of my system so I don't post it. This may be the reason I have rarely (if ever) been moderated. In some areas I only post if I feel I have something to contribute to the conversation. I don't think that the number of posts makes a person any more or less a member of this board. Have some board members formed friendships that are closer than others? Sure. Its the nature of any community to seek out people you feel something in common with. For my part, I feel a bond with every member of this board. I worry about one when he is ill. I celebrate with one on the birth of a child. I laugh at a joke that one told. I think about something she said that I didn't know before. You can all ignore this post if you want. I won't mind at all. |
Whit4you | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:31 pm     Reiki - no it's really a consipracy - but don't take it personal hun |
Woodpecke® | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:39 pm     Reiki, after reading your post a couple of times, I'm positive you should be posting much more than you have. Thanks for writing that. |
Hamsterlady | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:41 pm     Reiki rules! |
Bonzacat | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:43 pm     Reiki, that was, well... beautiful! |
Woodpecke® | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:46 pm     My eyes are misty and my body is all shivering. I'm such a wimp. |
Bonzacat | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:48 pm     ((((( Wood! ))))) |
Creampuff | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:53 pm     Good to know that some of you understood the point(s) I was trying to make. Not to sound contrite, I don't believe I am lacking in communication skills/technique nor in recognizing the human behavior aspects of this matter. My background is such that I understand those factors. I am a mature person who has been around a while and felt a specific need to comment! No instructions needed!! Don't misunderstand, your opinions were welcome and appreciated. Whit, I will check out IGNORED. I do have to run now as I need to go visit a relative in the hospital. Another time? Maybe. 'Nite! |
Pamy | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:56 pm     psst hey Creampuff...I think you have just joined the elite group! We had an opening, we evicted BOB!!! |
Hamsterlady | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 07:57 pm     Good Night Fake Forum. And take care. |
Bob2112 | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 08:01 pm     <...runs off to reduce Pamy's Deadpool score...> |
Pamy | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 08:04 pm     LOL! Aye,You better not or you will have a bunch of chatting wenches after your scurvy butt!! |
Bob2112 | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 08:05 pm     Arrrrrgh!!!
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Squaredsc | Thursday, September 25, 2003 - 08:57 pm     uh chatting wench, where were you tonite? |
Pamy | Friday, September 26, 2003 - 06:13 am     I missed you too Ms.Square!! I will see ya tonite!! |
Creampuff | Friday, September 26, 2003 - 08:32 am     Thank you to all who discussed this issue. I got home too late last night to come back to TVCH. I read all these posts this AM, plus the ones at the other thread started by Whit. It was very nice of you all to take your time to address the concern that I (and a number of others as well) voiced. Reading the viewpoints of others gave me a bit more of a handle on the matter. I must admit that I have some pressing matters going on in my life these days so it could be I am looking negatively at things that ordinarily would not phase me! Please know that if I didn't think this was a fantastic board I would probably not have said anything, just exited quietly. I shall plan to continue. Thanks again! |
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