Bb42c | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:11 pm     Guys You are taking the comment too seriously. "Thick" or "Big" legs is a compliment that many black men pay to women when they think their legs are pretty. It is not meant as "fat" legs. So your legs can be very toned and muscular, and the comment will be "You have some big legs" or "You have some thick legs". I know because the first time some black men told me I had big legs, I thought I had been insulted. My black girlfriend laughed and informed me that was a compliment. Big legs meant pretty legs. After that, whenever I got that compliment I just laughed because of how I originally took it as an insult. |
Buggles | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:23 pm     I agree that people are taking Ali's reply way too seriously. My take... I don't think Nate intended it as a compliment exactly (safe to say he doesn't think like a black guy LOL) but he's just matter of fact about the body the way many guys who are heavily into fitness are. Ali was probably slightly embarrassed, but she kept her cool & simply wanted to say 'hey dude, some guys like em'... and it's true - many black men do. |
Trinity63 | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:23 pm     I dunno about you all -- but I was called "Thunder Thighs" for years. So thick legs or big legs, would not be a big deal to me |
Misslibra | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:23 pm     Bb42 is right about it being a compliment. Most Black Men like Women with some meat on their bones.
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Mpls | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:25 pm     The problem I had with the Ali statement is using Black and "boy" in the same sentence. I just have a problem still with the word "boy" as relates to a Black male. Dude or guys or "the brothers wouldn't have bothered me. Secondly, I loves me some thick legs and thighs on a woman. I just don't like Ali's. |
Diacritical | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:34 pm     Ali's legs are not that thick. Her head though.... now there's something "thick." |
Sisalou | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:34 pm     Well, I think it sounds like a compliment. Most of my life my dad would tell that my legs were so skinny that I looked like a killdee standing in a pair of shotgun shells! And as far as butts go I just have a crack at the end of my back! {maybe in my next life} |
Seamonkey | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:46 pm     It might have been better if she has said black guys "appreciate" those attributes in her. I think Ali refers to all male friends as "boys" and isn't astute enough to get that it could be an issue. But, unfortunately I think she's learned that Nate is upset that Ali has talked about her variety of men, racial/ethnic and Nate is put off by that, so this was also a way at digging at Nate about that issue. Now today Ali once again went into a big monolog about how she's gained weight, etc etc for the entertainment of Jun.. and you know darn well Ali is well aware that Jun has body image issues, and I'm sure Ali is delighted to have someone more "fluffy" in the house and she knows darn well she isn't fat but loves saying it around Jun. meow |
Seamonkey | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:47 pm     Mpls.. probably you love you some thick legs on women who don't also have think heads?? |
Redhalo | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 03:58 pm     I don't like Ali but I didn't take her comment as racist. I think when you have African Amer. friends or acquaintenances you know this to be true. And by the way, isn't dream boat Donnie AA or at least bi-racial? So....she probably knows first hand. The first time the comment was directed at me I was offended until I realized it really was meant as a compliment. African Amer. and Hispanic men as a rule, like their women thicker. Thank goodness for my Hispanic man...since my legs are pretty darn thick. |
Cangaroo | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 04:26 pm     Well, somewhere way back when Nathan had said he liked women with more meat on them...that he didn't like them skinny, so I think his comment wasn't meant in a mean way. Besides, what's wrong with liking them non-skinny? At least he's not perpetuating that stereotype that all women have to look like they came from a death camp to be considered beautiful. In many cultures, the bigger the better because it shows wealth...only the poor are skinny because they're, well, poor! |
Squaredsc | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 06:51 pm     well ive always wanted thick legs like most of my sistahs have but it wasn't in the cards for me. now the bootay, as they say, baby got back.  |
Ricki23 | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 07:05 pm     This reminded me of a pickup line I got. A black guy told me that the song "Baby Got Back" was written for me! Made me laugh anyways. I don't really think Nate meant it as a compliment. Was it said after he started to get annoyed with her? |
Kearie | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 07:45 pm     I wonder what it's like to walk and NOT have your thighs rub together. hmmmm |
Misslibra | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 07:48 pm     Kearie, from what I remember it was a nice feeling. LOL |
Cliotheleo | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 07:54 pm     I think it's safe to say that MOST men like women with meat on their bones it's just that non-caucasian men TEND to be more open about it. |
Twiggyish | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 07:54 pm     ROFL!! |
Suitsmefine | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:03 pm     What?????? Not everyones thighs rub together when they walk????? |
Cliotheleo | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:03 pm     And the theme song of the evening, "In Those Jeans" by Ginuwine Looking good plenty tight Tell me is there any more room for me In those jeans Pretty thick like I like it Tell me is there any more room for me In those jeans You got that thunder And it only makes me wonder how it feels To get up in those jeans Oh those jeans
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Tobor7 | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:04 pm     If a camera puts 10 pounds on you, then how many cameras are on Ali? |
Lovedana | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:09 pm     No offense, but I agreed with Nathan's comment. It came across as rude the way he said it, but the truth often hurts. Alison is a thick girl and has thick legs. (I'm not saying it's a bad thing to be thick. I'm just saying it was true, in my opinion.) They played the clip so we thought it was a sudden comment. I'm not sure if it was really an uncalled for comment at that moment or if it related to the discussion/chat. I don't know about the 'Black guys' response Alison gave. She was probably hurt, as suggested by Ryn, so she gave the wisecrack... Actually, no ... I meant to say that she was probably embarrassed and gave the quickest response she could think of. P.S. By "thick", I don't mean fat. |
Tobor7 | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:11 pm     Thick vs. Thin. Fat vs. Skinny. When I was a kid I had to wear a "husky" sized jacket, but I knew it really was a "fat" sized jacket. |
Squaredsc | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:25 pm     clio i love that song. |
Lovedana | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:27 pm     Thick to me means big boned with some fat but not like obese. Basically, it means plump to me. It is often used to imply fat. However,in the context Nathan used it, I thought it just meant having a big frame and extra fat but not excessive. Sorry if I haven't articulated my thoughts. :o |
Cliotheleo | Friday, August 15, 2003 - 08:58 pm     Square, I hate that song, can't turn the radio fast enough. But the only other one I could think of was "I like 'em thick, small waist with the big ol' hips......" and I wanted to sound cool and name something more recent. So are you impressed or what? Beyonce Knowles............. "thickness" personafied. |