Why Do Women Do This?
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TV ClubHouse: ARCHIVES: Big Brother USA 2003 General Discussions Part 1: Why Do Women Do This?
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Spunky

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 10:50 am EditMoveDeleteIP
What...
that's generalizing a bit... not all women do what these <MK> ones do...

What555456

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 11:57 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I did not say ALL women. Of course, there are those who do not.

But generally when we see this type of reaction on any of these types of shows it is from women. They seem to be unable to separate personal relationships from competitive relationships.

I am not sure I buy the idea that this phenomenon is only because of who AS chooses for the show. We see this on too many other of these unscripted competitive shows.

I should also say this personalizing of relationships and interaction is also noticed by men when dealing with women in the work place. (Again, not all of them, but enough of them that it is noticed). Two men can have a knock down, drag out fight over some business deal, yell at each other complete with expletives hurled at each other and two hours later go out for a beer and watch Monday Night Football. I

If such a fight happens with a woman, though, many, many times she takes it very personally, as if it were aimed at her as a person and not just at her professionally. She will hold on to it for days and, in several instances I have seen, never really gets over it.

Being a man, I just do not understand acting as if everything is a personal relationship to be developed or falling apart. And I certainly do not understand women in an obviously one-on-one competitive situation such as BB who make what should be strategic decisions based on personal and often romantic or romance-spurned feelings rather than intelligent strategy.

Widowswalk

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 01:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I think this thread bares out what I was trying to say if you read up. I rest my case. Some people need to relax and have a drink or something.

Squaredsc

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 02:28 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
well with costa handing out bellini's thats all we've been doing.

Costacat

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 02:46 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Who me? (Looking as innocent as a cat can!)

Widowswalk

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 03:28 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
By the way, I am far from young. I made my observations on a life time of encountering angry women and I don't mean relatives. It will always be a mystery to me.

Marymary

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 11:55 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I'm sorry but, IMO, it's not likely that every woman in this big world with all these people is unhappy and angry except for one! I've read somewhere that the world we perceive comes from inside ourselves NOT the outside. That sure seemed to ring true. I certainly don't mean anything by that...just food for thought. And just my opinion.

Widowswalk

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 01:23 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I didn't say I was the only woman who felt this way, I'm sure there are other women who feel this way, I've just never met any. More food for thought.

Marymary

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 02:54 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Uncle, Widowswalk, UNCLE! :)

Auntiemike

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 03:51 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I love it when people have the ability to appreciate qualities and values in others, to share in a friendship, be they male or female.

I think this house, as well as other BB houses have a representation of all different types of people who make up our world. Some are more real to some of us than others; and some years more so than others. We can see characteristics of these people in probably all of the people we encounter in our lifetime.

The difference is that we can choose to spend more time with them and develop a relationship or we can move on. In this house they are "forced" to have a relationship of some sort, until the person is booted out. They are also in a fishbowl and their reactions are more exaggerated than they might be in real life. Outside of the house there may be friends and family who can help them diffuse the explosive behavior we see them have in the house.

Hope this rambling makes sense. After all, I am an older observer, but one with plenty of life experiences (quite a variety, actually) behind me.

Those belinnis sound good...I've sidled up to the bar and hope there is one for me this afternoon. Could use the refreshment. :-)

Widowswalk

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 04:01 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Very good Auntie, I'm older too. You are very wise

Twiggyish

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 04:03 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I think you make sense Auntie. I also think there's a lot of negativity in the house, which is making it even worse.

Puzzled

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 05:10 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I agree, too, Auntie--that is one hellacious environment they've got in the house.

As to women being angry, I'd venture a guess that there's just as many angry men as women walking this earth

Squaredsc

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 07:08 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
maybe they have pms.

Cliotheleo

Monday, August 11, 2003 - 10:39 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Puzzled, I agree. The only difference is that men use REAL guns and bombs instead of the back-stabbing knives that we women carry.

Puzzled

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 07:13 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Good point, Clio--I'd rather have someone make fun of my nose than break it.

Bohawkins

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 07:52 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Ah... women

Of all the humour variations on the familiar saying that have floated around (like "can't shoot 'em") ...

Here is my favorite:

Women...
can't live with 'em.
(and then after the appropriate pause)
can't live with 'em.

Cliotheleo

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 07:53 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Puzzled, I dunno, I think I'd almost rather take the REAL weapons. Those back-stabbing knives can be PAINFUL!

What555456

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 08:41 am EditMoveDeleteIP
To add a bit of a humorous spin to this....

I have three sons, 25, 20 and 15. (No daughters). As they have all reached an age where they are interacting with young women on a more personal level (and usually after they have made some typical adolescent-male misstep with a girl they are interested in) each has asked me one or more times something along the lines of.."Dad, why do girls act like that? I just don't understand."

I have often wondered how many parents of girls get a similar question from their daughters about the boys in their lives.

As you can see by the question I started this all with, I have no real answer -- I am still wondering myself!

Spunky

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 09:00 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Well, they (these women) may be self-destructing... however, think again! There is Jun who, no matter how much those dudes hate women, with a few words changed their minds again and had them all decide to evict Nate anyway. Just a few words by Jun and they were all back to square one..Nate out.
Robert was as convinced as Justin was after all the begging by Nate, but here comes the "woman" who shut them all up again. She rules the dudes.

So think again...

Beruthiel

Tuesday, August 12, 2003 - 10:03 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Old quotation: The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.