Relationship advice from Uncle Robert!
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Tishala

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 02:33 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I'm not a big Robert fan, I have to admit, but I'm sure that a camera could have recorded me at one point or another (maybe even recently) saying "love is bullsh!t" or phrases like that. I'm also sure I have said some of the following things about men: "they are all dogs" "they are liars" "they are pigs" "they aren't worth the trouble". And on and on. Not only that, but I have heard them on Oprah! So I'm not too upset about Robert saying anything like that, nor do I think it will rub off on J3, all of whom have probably heard others utter sentiments like that in their lives, too.

Costacat

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 02:41 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Tish, there's a world o' difference between saying something "at one point or another" and saying something constantly and repetitively. I can excuse someone saying something once. But not over and over again. What's that saying about once burned and shame on me?

And since Robert is, presumably, the elder, I *am* worried about how the other two in his alliance perceive him. Do they look up to him? Do they think his attitude is "cool"? Do they wanna emulate him? I sincerely hope the answer to all is a resounding NO, but...

Tishala

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 03:02 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
You're right, Costa, but the fact is that I have said ALL those things and MORE! And I don't think of myself as toxic or anything. I think, like the women on Sex and the City, that I express my frustration about romantic relationships. Many of us have said those things, and we have said them with varying degrees of gusto over many years. To me, it's a non-issue. Look, if Oprah can say those things or provide a forum for them, they are perfectly mainstream. Nobody is hearing something they haven't heard before and they can either accept or reject his opinion.

Misslibra

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 03:15 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Tishala, if you were on Big Brother and saying the things We have heard Robert say repeatedly. we would have a thread called "Relationship advice from Aunt Tishala". Or one similar And we would be sitting here talking about you instead of Robert. :)

My point being you may say those things yourself from time to time but your not saying those things on live feeds 24/7. So there is no comparison between you doing it and Robert doing it because we aren't hearing you 24/7 saying these things over and over again. Big difference.

Costacat

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 06:56 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Right Miss. Tish, you missed my "over and over again" point.

And honestly, if I heard anyone -- male or female -- constantly denigrating someone or something, I'd definitely be thinking toxic. I prefer to avoid excessive negativity, as negativity only breeds itself.

Xarph

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 07:04 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Uncle Xarph's Relationship advice:

Find a strong, smart, and capable woman. Make an unconditional commitment to her for life. Treat her with love and caring respect. Tell her that you love her but always back it up with action.

Cricket

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 07:58 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hmm, funny and smart, Xarph. Your wife is very lucky.

Wendo

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Dang Xarph, are you single???!!!

Zachsmom

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:19 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Wendo- isn't it a pisser that all the men like that are taken?

Crossfire

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:24 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I don't think good guys are all that rare, it's just that guys like Robert tend to get in the way, and seem to attract a disproportionate amount of attention.

It's really annoying from the male perspective as well.

Zachsmom

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Crossfire..I haven't had a date in 5 years..lol good guys are (at least in my neck of the woods) very rare!

Lovedana

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Xarph, I wish we had many men like you who practiced exactly your advice. Can I steal you? LOL! Seriously, it would be nice if I could find men with that point of view who weren't taken!!! You're a good man.

Lancecrossfire

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:29 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Well, there you go! Love, caring and respect!! Xarph, I applaud you!! I think that's what everyone should receive from their partner, no matter which gender. I'm wondering if Robert would recognize any of those 3 if they walked up and bit him in the butt.

Xarph

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:32 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Sorry ladies. I am totally devoted to my wife of 30+ years. It is nice to know that old fashioned values have not gone out of fashion.

Puzzled

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 08:42 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Been married 41 years. DH is great. Yes, sure, we've had our fights and disagreements, but here we are, friends forever.

I doubt that Robert will ever have such a relationship.

Costacat

Sunday, August 10, 2003 - 10:32 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Hmm... maybe I should shut up and not add anything to this thread. Except: three words... boink buddy! bellinis!

<BIG grin>

Seriously, good men are hard to find. (And a hard man... oh wait, not here! <snicker>) I live in a largely gay neighborhood. We had our annual City Fest street festival today. What's so depressing (for a straight woman) is how many GORGEOUS men in my 'hood don't look at me like "that". <sigh>

Just heard... 100,000 people at our little street festival. Started 20 years ago as a little ol' block party to celebrate the hanging of the Hillcrest sign. Yikes!