No one listens to each other.
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Allietex

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:02 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Have you noticed when the hgs are talking to each other they never seem to listen to the other one. They are so self absorbed that their threads of conversation seem almost disjointed. Even while talking about the game, it seems that when one person says something the other responds with how it will affect them. For example when Gerry was trying to present his ideas to Jason, Jason did not seem to really be listening to the words and their meanings. I know Gerry is not the best conversationalist alive, but Jason made no attempt to ask questions to clarify things. I have seen this over and over again and wonder if that is why there is so much misunderstaning in the house. I have friends and family members like that and they drive me crazy. I get the feeling when I am talking to them that they are not really listening, they are just waiting for a pause in the convesation so they can say something. When I talk to someone I try to listen thoughtfully to what the other says and the react in a thoughtful manner. I just don't see that in any of these people. I am not sure if I am making myself clear. (and I complain about them Ha Ha). Have any of you noticed this trait in this house?

Wcv63

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:27 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Allie...perhaps they are using these type of listening skills as diversionary tactics. It seems to me that the houseguests have developed "defensive walls" when it comes to interacting with each other. No one except Roddy has been able to penetrate these defenses with an definitive success.

Toolhound

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:28 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I remember Chiara saying she really did not know Lisa that well because Lisa did not tell many stories about herself or her family. It was no wonder she was trying to be polite and wait her turn to tell a story. With the rest of them all talking about them selves she never had a chance. Also I think we will find out that a lot of the stories Roddy is telling are made up as he goes along. Trying to be like Will.

Maris

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:30 am EditMoveDeleteIP
I think Jason was listening but at the same time he was very uncomfortable. On the one hand he knows he wants Gerry gone and on the other hand he wants to be polite and listen to his ideas for the veto. He reminded me of the little engine that could. It was like he was putting his hands over his ears saying to himself I am sticking to my plan, I am sticking to my plan, I am sticking to my plan. (I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.

Roddy doesnt listen to people but he is more often than not just shutting them down so that they become defensive with him. Classic case is Jason telling Roddy that he is manipulative and Roddy immediately interrupting him "Jay, you knucklehead, I trust you". What does that have to do with Jasons statement about Roddy manipulating him?

Marcellas is basically a self absorbed person who likes to listen to himself and to draw attention to himself (his one hour diary sessions versus everyone elses 14 minute sessions). He is not interested in forming relationships in that house. He is looking for fame and notoriety.

Amy is a female version of Marcellas, she wants attention and is used to being indulged.

Gerry, just likes to listen to himself.

Danni, is used to being listened to and obeyed. Of all the HGs she listens to others the most because she files away the information. She has a very good handle on how to read people because she listens to them.

Lisa is the listener and because of that doesnt leave much of an impression on people.

Wcv63

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:36 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Very impressive observations Maris. I'd like to say that your description of Jason was very effective! However, I believe that usually Jason does do a lot of listening but in this instance I agree with your take.

Lurknomore

Sunday, August 25, 2002 - 11:43 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Maris I agree too.

And you mentioned a phrase Roddy has used to several HG's that ticks me off each and every time...._____you knucklehead, I trust you, I am your friend, I care about you...fill in the self serving bonding phrase.

All meant to make said HG feel like they really matter to Roddy. Oh he just gives me goosebumps when he does that. Each time they seem to buy it, and each time I'm looking around here for a barf bag. Hey there is a thought. I should whip up some nice barf bags with a TVCH logo and BB3 logo, for us all to keep at the ready at our puters. I'm sure we all could use em. Neil, a board fundraiser perhaps??? hehehhehehehe :)