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Goddess146

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:14 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
=Roddy does not want to be with Kiki immediately after he gets out. He wants to spend time with his parents and then alone.
=Roddy wants "alone time" in the house.
=Roddy does not want a BB "date" with Chiara.
=Roddy is speaking in terms of "if" we are together outside of the house.
=Roddy does not want to discuss Chiara with people out side of the house.
=Roddy has not been going to bed with Chiara. He waits until she is asleep at night.

Pay attention girl. This romance is all in your head.

Duncan

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
And he does not want to be known as "Chiara's boyfriend", or have people come up to him in the grocery store and ask "How's Chiara?"

I still don't think she gets it.

Grannygrunt

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Goddess, you are so totally right. Why can't she see that. You know every girl knows when she is getting the brush off. Do you think she just doesn't want to or is she really that dense????

Earthmother

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I was just thinking the exact same thing..He is breaking it off girl. If he goes he wants to do his thing and if he stays he doesn't want any crap when he starts to play Amy.

Duchess

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:17 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Oh.My.God.!!! I'm watching it too. Chiara is on denial but you can tell she's hurting. Roddy is dumping her for sure. I kinda feel sorry for her.

Maris

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:19 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
he is cold. He never even expressed so much as a thank you to her for telling people to vote her out.

Spree17

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:19 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
R--How long before you go back to work?

Ch-I don't have a job! You mean before I find a new one?

what happened to her job? Was it only trashy people that worked there?

Twiggyish

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:21 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
He makes her think there is something. That's what's so sad.

Some people might say it's all in the game, but I don't think he needs to play with her like that.

Screeminmeemie

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:24 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I saw him physically recoil from her in the bedroom when she was ranting and calling Amy obscene names. You could see the shocked expression on his face. It's interesting to watch their body language when they are talking to each other.

Duchess

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:24 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Sorry, in my excitement, i made an error....She is in denial.

Kapow

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Now he is playing Amy... A quintessential ladies man. Chia should be able to read the signs - certainly she has been dumped before. While I feel sorry for her, as she will be hurt....bear in mind, it IS a game. She played him some, too. He just won.

Zachsmom

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:25 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Yes he did maris..he said that's very sweet and commendable for you to do that.. I heard it with my own two ears!

Spunky

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:28 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
He's been trying to do that for the last 2 weeks. Now he knows she'll be gone and all he has to do now is stop and smell the roses.

Chiara can't be saved now, even using the POV is useless, all it does is making more enemies for Gerry and Amy.

Angelbleu

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:30 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Yes Zachsmom...he FINALLY said it...sure took him long enough though!!

Hermione69

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:30 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I'm torn here with feeling sorry for her and feeling like she set herself up. Pretty much all of us know how it feels to be dumped, no matter the context. On the other hand, no one should come into BB looking for romance or getting caught up in one. How would you ever know what was real and what was part of the game? I've been wanting her gone for a loooooong time, but would also kind of like to see what she's like without Roddy. Lisa's head cleared up without Eric, maybe Chiara would also get some sense. Chiara also reminds me of a woman I used to room with who always needed a man and would do anything for her object of affection's attention. When there was no such man around, I always enjoyed my roommate's company so much more. Who know? With the man Chiara is trying to impress gone, we could see a totally different side of her!

Surini

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:34 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I hate his "slick" move telling her that he doesn't think she's over Ashe yet. Good excuse for letting her know he doesn't want to be involved with her anymore, and making it look like it's her fault....he drives me insane when he does that!!

Twiggyish

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:34 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
He didn't have to make her believe there was a relationship. That's why I think he's gone too far. It's almost sadistic on his part.
He could have influenced her in any number of ways.

Goddess146

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:46 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I can not help but compare him to Survivor's Colby. Colby could have played several women as part of his strategy. They were begging for his attention. I politely declined them all ("I am not a Hersey Bar").

It is sad that Roddy does not have even a small part of the good character of Colby.

Inkydinkyspider

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:48 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I think he knows their time together is going to end soon and realizes that she is not a girl to take home to Mother! As a Mother I would be very upset to find that <> standing on my front porch!

P.S. and I wish BB would turn off her mike when she eats cause all that smacking is making me feel sick!
007

What555456

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:48 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
One of the things many of you women do not understand, I think, is that men have a very hard time knowing how to break up with a woman. Perhaps they shouldn't, but they do. (Keep in mind, most of us melt once a woman starts crying and will give her almost anything! <g>)

Often, when there is a quick intense relationship, it is the woman who pushes that intensity, thinking/hoping there is something real there. The guy panics and begins to back off -- because he is not seeing the romance of the relationship as the woman does, but see it more from a man's practical eyes. (Talking quick intense relationships here, not long term ones where the feelings deepen with time).

So, the guy has to figure out a way to break it off while not making it too painful. Hence, you get things like what Roddy is doing. Awkward, yes. But he is trying to ease her into seeing that there is nothing for the future. He does not want to say that he does not want her -- that he thinks would be too painful. So, out comes the excuses like he needs to spend time with his parents, he needs time alone, he has lots to do, etc. etc. etc.

I am right now watching my 18 yo son figure this out, trying to nicely end a relationship he has had with a very nice young girl now that he is moving away to college and she remains in high school. He is handling it much like Roddy, very indirectly, not wanting to hurt her, but wanting it to end. It is very hard for him right now -- but it is a lesson he needs to learn. Dad is simply watching from the sidelines, ready to step in with some advice if he might hurt her too badly.

Perhaps Roddy is not handling this in the best way. Perhaps he should just say "Look, Chiara, it was nice but now its over." But I don't think he wants to hurt her, even while he wants to put an end to it and not let her live in some fantasy world. What he is doing is typically male and, having been in that situation, I understand how he is handling it.

Dee723

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:50 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Inky I agree with you. As a mother too I'd be horrified if my son dated someone like that. She has zero class.

Squidvicious

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:52 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Roddy is just being like any typical man. He thinks, "Maybe if I give her the cold shoulder she'll get the hint."

and Chiara is being like the typical woman: "Maybe if I'm really sweet and nice to him he'll know how much I care and love me!"

BLEAH. Chiara needs to get real and Roddy needs to be a real man and say, "look. I don't like you." of course, then he wouldn't have someone to manipulate.

hell, one of 'em is leaving; why would it matter now? Now is the time, Rod!

Goddess146

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:52 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Very insightfull of you What. If men just realized how damn painful that slow withdrawal really is to their victim. :-(

Goddess146

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:54 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Squid, Rod is worried about his public image. He realizes that people will recognize him. He does not want people to see him as the player he is.

Hippyt

Sunday, August 18, 2002 - 06:55 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
InkyDinky,I even heard him say that exact phrse on a live feed once weeks ago! "She's not the girl you take home to Mom."