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Izzywhat

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 01:20 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

For some reason, I tend to be a very quiet person.

Sassylady

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 01:54 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Ahhh my first time looking in here.

My Dad who died when I was a young teen use to always tell me:
"Be careful how you treat people on your way up, because you may run into these same people on your way down." hmmm. Dani could have used this advice
Another gem my father told me was "never act/live beyond your means and keep people guessing about your $$$ status...This way if you ever go broke people will never notice."

And the third and most important was: "Always be a lady!"
Matter of fact, he told me this as he was dying.
I hope I have lived by his words. However, he didn't mention that I could not be a Sassylady

Katlady53

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 01:58 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Tester, I was being facetious when I said I didn't understand the inkwell admonition. :)

Bernie

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 02:06 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
One of the sayings I remember best from my elders is: Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me, in response to me being upset at being teased, or bullied, by some kid or another. It made me feel marginally better at the time, but of course it's an absolute load of BS, because words can cut like a knife and lacerate your heart into shreds.
The other saying I best recall is: If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything, which sort of connects to my first saying, in a roundabout way. They're both about not hurting others, with what comes out of your mouth, and that takes me to the last one: Don't start speaking until your brain is in gear/Think before you speak...very good advice for everyone, but especially for me, since I was famous in my family for being chatty cathy!
Love this thread :-)

Bernie

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 04:38 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My motto: Able to stop a thread with a single post...to my chagrin. :-(

Alteredartist

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 08:09 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Nope Bernie... not gonna let you kill this one!

Speaking of always being a lady, keeping your knees shut... I heard someone tell their teenage daughter:

"Girl that is not a open deli down there!"

I couldn't laugh at the time (not appropriate) but I cracked up later at that one.

Ohiofan

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 08:21 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I have two favorites, credit for both go to my grandfather...

"Every now and then even a blind pig finds an ear of corn."

As he would say when someone was asking him to wait, wait,...
"Wait!!, Weight's what broke the wagon down!"

Jaxrock

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 08:35 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Bernie, you and I could've had the same dad, cause I heard every one of those from him. A few others are: be willing to stand behind your opinion, or don't have one; opinions are like a**h****, everybody has one;(and since I was so 'graceful') we'd paint the corners of the house so she can see 'em, but then whole house would be red...lol; and finally, it's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game.
Love you, dad, and thanks

Draheid

Sunday, September 22, 2002 - 08:39 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Jaxrock: FWIW: I always heard more to the opinions line:
Opinions are like a**h***s, everybody's got one and most of 'em stink!

Had to throw that out there!:)

Tobor7

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 03:17 am EditMoveDeleteIP
There are a lot of very special, thoughtful memories in this thread.
You might get something out of it if you haven't read it from the start.

Thanks all!

Mnkygrrrl

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 09:41 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you are a mile away and you have their shoes.

Guiltyviewer

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 11:43 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Some real treasures here, some inspiring, others humorous, but all worthwhile :)!

Some sayings passed on to me by various relatives over the years:
"Beware of small-minded people in positions of authority."
(I know that's not an original statement but was not told who actually said it so can't give proper credit.)

From my fire-cracker of a great-grandmother, who was giving me her advice about marriage and family (she lived to be 97 and was active till the end, had a vegetable garden she tended herself till the day she died---they don't make them like her anymore!):

"There's only two good reasons to leave dirty dishes in the sink overnight....a sick child or a healthy husband!" :)

Laffy

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 02:13 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
from my dad..."be true to your teeth and they'll never be false to you"

Goddessatlaw

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 02:43 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
On the occasion of the 40th anniversary of his marriage to my mother, when asked by the next generation of fathers in the family how he managed to raise such a close-knit pack of well adjusted kids, my father said this:

"The best thing you can ever do for your children is to love their mother."

Smart man.

Dulci

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 02:51 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Goddessatlaw, my Dad used to say that too. :)

The best advice Dad ever gave me was never to borrow or lend money. Mother told me to watch and see how a man treats his mother, she said it's a good indication of how he would treat me.

Jan

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 03:01 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My Grandmother always said "more hurry, less speed".

My Mom , who had an extremely hard life, always said "never look forward to anything. That way you will never be disappointed and, often, will be pleasantly surprised."

She also changed around another old saying that is really about beggars..but she always said "if wished were horses, FOOLS would ride them."

Goddessatlaw

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 03:06 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
My dad's not big on advice, but you generally knew what was accepted and what was not. Dad used to sit in the living room waiting for the boyfriends to show up for dates - went through this with three daughters. The whole time any prospective date was around him, he'd look at him like a dog watching a snake. No one dared step out of line with us - they all understood what the big, mean daddy would do to them without him saying a word. Even when the odd date was bigger than him, they intuitively knew that he'd even out the odds by picking up a board and hitting them with it if he had to. Dad was never anything but nice to them, but they definitely got the vibe. They knew he was willing to PAY THE PRICE, and the question was, were they? What's funny is they'd all wind up getting more attached to our dad than to us. Talent, I tell you.

Tobor7

Monday, September 23, 2002 - 11:45 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Bump it up.

Bernie

Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 02:14 am EditMoveDeleteIP
Another one from my Nana: "In for a penny, in for a pound", meaning if you're going to do something, go for it wholeheartedly.
And another one: "If a thing's worth doing, it's worth doing well", which means sort of the same.
[And I've always followed through on both of them, by trying my best at everything I do, so they both served me well :-)]

Bumping :-)

Surini

Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 03:18 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Well, hope I don't get kicked out of here for this one,lol, but..

My brother used to tease us girls unmercifully about most anything he could think of and one of the remarks he would make to get us all bent is "I smell something, you must have laid an egg!" My grandmother would look at him and say "A skunk smells his own hole first!" Boy, that would shut him up for a while everytime!

Jmm

Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 08:41 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
I had a great aunt who always said, "Only marry for love, but remember, it's just as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man."

Katlady53

Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 08:44 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Surini, my mom would tell us that "a dog can't smell his own dirt" when we denied being stinky (to put it nicely). Lol And Jmm, my mom left off the first part of your great-aunt's advice. :)

Surini

Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 09:09 pm EditMoveDeleteIP
Katlady53..that's funny! I don't feel so bad now, lol.