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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 7:59 am
Interview with Matt on 4/11/10. link
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Lazylu
Member
04-09-2010
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 8:03 am
I loved this family, but this is like watching a train wreck now. Both Matt and his assistant treated Amy terrible. If I was Amy I would want that woman fired, not going to happen though. Hello Twiggyish 
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Zgoodgirl
Member
08-22-2003
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 8:43 am
I am so over Matt now and his little assistant too. The way his assistant wanted to run everything, but then whispered to Matt about her cleaning up, just made me wanna puke. Amy has a lot of strength, 'cause I was cussing at the tv myself due to a lot of things Matt did and said. Why can he not see what he is doing? Especially with the kids and him just picking out Jeremy is jacked up imo. I bet Jacob was heartbroken as well as Molly. And starting all this managing stuff and dumping it all on Amy when it's the most important. Ugh, made me wanna scream.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 8:54 am
Wow! I can't wait to see this week's episodes.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 8:58 am
Hmm...I didn't see the part about the assistant whispering to Matt about Amy cleaning up. What I saw was when he was in the office and he started in on her about Amy and she said something like she didn't want to get into it now and she just kinda got out of the office as fast as she could. Oh well, and here I thought she was operating under ethics.
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Zgoodgirl
Member
08-22-2003
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 9:16 am
Who, it was in the kitchen right before the sponsors came. She was telling Matt that they were going to walk through the house before going outside for hor'dourves, then whispered to Matt that she told Amy that she should clean it up. It was in subtitles 'cause she whispered it.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 12:13 pm
Ah. That explains it. I usually have the closed captioning on in case we miss something we can glance down at it to see what someone said. The downside to that is, the CC often covers up subtitles, and it lags and falls behind the actual scene. I'd say if I were Amy, I would have ignored my husband's employee coming into my own home and telling me I should clean it up. So yea, I agree with ya all!
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Southern_grits
Member
10-08-2009
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 1:08 pm
I already admired Amy so much, I think she is an awesome and strong lady, but I admire her even more now. I thought she showed great grace under fire, about 99% more than I would have been even able to fake. No woman is going to walk into my house and run the show, I don't care what's going on. Matt's insensitivity made me boil.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, May 08, 2010 - 7:54 pm
Basically in those last two episodes, I just thought Matt was being a colossal ASS. And after all the work Amy did while he was gloating with Jeremy on trains, he comes riding in, greeting people and then cannot even show up for the sport he signed up for, bocci ball.. something he could do from his chair. Had he just told Amy he wasn't showing up, she could have more quickly filled the slot.. but at least she prevented them from being disqualified.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Saturday, May 08, 2010 - 9:19 pm
I was really surprised by Matt's selfishness those 2 episodes. It's like he can't even see how inconsiderate and selfish he is. To not even show up or tell them he wasn't going to play is just plain rude. Amy really has the patience of a saint.
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Smokey
Member
07-08-2003
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 5:57 am
I finally watched the last 2 episodes last night. WOW. I wanted to smack Matt! I am with you all. He is out of control. His ego is so huge that he can't see beyond it and has lost all touch of any ability to empathize with his wife or kids. I was screaming at the TV, too! I wonder what will happen if these 2 split up. Amy seems to be showing amazing control. I think many women would have totally lost it by now, after all his selfish behavior. I still haven't gotten over the audacity of the man thinking he can recreate the Grand Canyon. "Colossal ASS" is his new name, IMO. 
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 6:03 am
Curious - I wonder if Matt is having problems, and is "covering up"? Sort of a "mid life crisis"? He's used to being in the spotlight, and now that his kids are grown up, he's not acting, and his kids are now seeing him in a different light? He's always gotten digs at Amy and her lack of cleaning, but Amy's grace has always calmly explained where she has come from in that respect... ITA he makes you want to scream - from the time of that infamous boat ride - that show was so hard to watch...
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Lilfair
Member
07-09-2003
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 6:54 am
I think their marriage is in a tough spot right now. I've never seen it as a strong lovey-dovey type but right now it seems sad. But most marriages go through tough times...this too shall pass. Matt's my favorite parent. I don't think Amys necessarily has done the best for her kids- one simple example is she's never taught simple everyday responsibility for you stuff. She never gave over responsibility for the boys to wake up on their own to go to school and I think she favors Zach and that Jake usually gets the short end of Amy's time and concern. I don't see Amy and Matt as being friends and we all know being friends is a must for a happy marriage. It's obvious that Matt isn't too concerned about Amy's needs otherwise he'd be around to help her but that's a 2 way street. I hear a lot of negative comments toward Matt coming from Amy and she says these things in front of the kids...not cool. I like this family they seem very real. They are flawed but we all are and at least they don't seem to be playing for the cameras. I get a kick out of all the nutty things Matt does around the farm. IMO Amy is too fixated on the financial aspect. As far as I can see Matt is keeping the family well taken care of. I think they could win a billion dollars and Amy would still complain about Matt's "projects".
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 7:18 am
What has Matt taught the kids as a parent?
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 7:40 am
If I were Amy, Matt would drive me crazy: he is too scattered with his projects and never really finishes one before beginning another; he refuses to commit--and stick--to any sort of budget; he can't be counted on to be available for important occasions; he's never emotionally totally "there" when he does show up; enough is never enough for Matt--bigger=better, and that's not always true; he thinks money/buying things for people can replace being there for them and/or spending time with them. This is just how I see it. He might be a great husband. In Matt's defense, I understand how frustrating it is to want to be able to do things but not have the physical ability. It makes you feel weak and helpless and like you're a burden to your family. He must have to deal with a lot of frustration, although I haven't figured out just how he works through it, unless it's by channeling it into this projects. He has said that he is concerned about the legacy he'll leave behind. His farm and his (imo) proposed amusement park seems to be what he's working hardest to achieve--as a means of his children having a future income.
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Erniesgirl
Member
06-26-2006
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 8:15 am
If Amy is seeing him just throwing money away on "improvements", she may be seeing dollars that will: 1) pay for the kids' college 2) pay for their retirement 3) pay for her new home when she decides she has had enough. I'm really surprised to see how Matt is being portrayed when he as producer can edit out his bad behaviour.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 8:50 am
Unless Matt doesn't see any bad behavior. He is seen a lot in confessionals "justifying" his actions. Maybe that's what he's editing in and maybe he thinks that will make it all ok.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 10:03 am
One of my pet peeves with Matt is that he says he'd rather ask for forgiveness after the fact than try and get permission before he does something.
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Erniesgirl
Member
06-26-2006
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 12:42 pm
You're right, Sia. That is a juvenile approach to life, or teenage behaviour at best.
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Mgmriver
Member
04-27-2009
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 12:42 pm
My motto is I'd rather ask for forgiveness than permission. LOL I think I'd get along fine with Matt. I'm not one that asks for permission...doesn't seem right. For me Amy is never happy. Has Matt not made a good life for them. I don't see them struggling for cash. Matt seems to be a fine business man and has taken very good care of his family financially. If Amy is so concerned about money maybe she should haul butt and make her own real money. I don't think college monies for community college will break their bank and their daughter will probably get some grants, loans or scholarships, so tuition a weak excuse of Amy's....she seems happiest when she can harp on Matt about money. Matt's health is iffy at best and he shouldn't short change what makes him happy while he's still able to get around. They have a big house, lots of land, food in the fridge....everything else is gravy. Most people would love to have the land they own. Selling that property when the kids are gone and grown (although I suspect Zach will never leave) and when they are ready to downsize will be a windfall and help tremendously for their retirement. Amy needs to enjoy her husband while he's still around.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 12:54 pm
Amy has worked their whole marriage. Some people don't want 'things', they want support.
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Mgmriver
Member
04-27-2009
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 1:22 pm
Yes, I know Amy worked as a preschool teacher and maybe some other lower paying jobs but nothing substantial, financially speaking. Which is fine since she was basically a stay at home mom working jobs that fit into when her kids were at school. And we can't forget the monies earned from the show. I'm thinking no matter how much money Matt or the family makes she'd still piss and moan about Matt's spending. The good thing is Matt does what he wants as does Amy. Neither seem to fold to the others wishes. I think that if someone wants to spend time with some they will make the time. I don't think at this point in Matt's life that he wants to spend too much time with Amy. And I don't think Amy wants Matt around too much unless he's there primarily helping Amy. There is no way Amy should be complaining about money matters. She should instead worry about having her kids able to live independently especially Zach. I'm scared for Amy once her kids are gone. At least Matt has a life outside of the family and I think that is essential for a happy marriage. It's somewhat glaring that their marriage is not a happy one even the ids have mentioned the bickering between their parents. A simple fix for the Roloff's (Amy's) money woes would be for them to keep their monies separate and divide the living costs equally per their separate incomes. This way Amy can save all her money she wants.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 1:37 pm
I guess the reason I so closely identify with Amy's frustration with her husband is that I have some of the same issues with my DH. I don't believe in the concept of "extra" money; I think if you have anything left over after you pay your bills, it should go into savings. My husband quit drinking two years ago, but now he thinks he needs to waste money gambling. I have to rein him in, and it's difficult. Addiction is addiction, dammit. It's like I'm parenting three children instead of two.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 2:46 pm
Lilfair, would you get a "kick" out of various projects that hit your budget for tens of thousands of dollars.. he smirks to the camera that he gives Amy the low amount, knowing full well he will then add to the project. Like creating a soccer field with new sod, new restrooms, etc., for something that happened for one week. And of course what was really hard to believe was how he took over the team management, bulled his way into the split with the DAA, which impacted Amy in a very bad way, since that was HER gig, being on their board and she was asked to step down. And then after all that, he decides to just turn the mess over to her, but now she's off to the games WITHOUT the organizational support OF the DAA.. it would have been decent of him if, after losing that support, he'd have stuck with the project through the less glamorous portions and not left Amy with half made plans, including the housing for two of his own kids... As for parenting.. seems to me it was Matt who overrode Amy on the cell phone issue for Jacob which turned into a fiasco. Maybe he was just trying to be the "favorite parent" for Jacob? Mgm, I doubt that you or Matt would want the other around.. that works only if you have someone to put one over on and ask for the forgiveness off, IMO. Well I suppose in a large family two could work together to pull things off? But I get it, you don't like Amy so it is fun to watch Matt do his thing. I don't see Amy spending big money to do her things. Her trips are filmed and likely part of the show and paid for in that way (as are many of his, of course). For the last months she has been quite busy making appearances to help variouis charitable organizations pull in money. She is at some event in Portland today. As for the spending time.. Amy or not, Matt's kids are feeling abandonned by him. Especially this event they are now covering.. he let down Zach's entire team since they originally were going to participate as a team of the DAA and Matt made decisions that pulled them away from that support. Had Amy not hustled like crazy many of the athletes might have been defaulted. Meanwhile Matt was clearly not staying home in pain but travelling with one son. They sent the twins off together on a trip hoping to bring them closer and there is Matt driving them apart in his own way. The Roloffs have been married for years and how do they have separate money? What if Amy demanded that they sell off everything they jointly own and took her own half? She did work and brought in money AND was active at home when Matt was off travelling for his job and that is worth more than just her income from the outside jobs. Matt was travelling and counting on a place to land and care for his kids. For that matter his parents also contributed greatly. Interesting that we haven't even seen them yet this season. Yep, Matt is used to being the one in the spotlight, getting the glory. Like with the family from Iraq, clearly Matt (and as he says many others) put in much effort to get them over here, but once they got to Oregon, he did his usual tours of the place but Amy was the one to prepare for and do the entertaining in the home. Matt wasn't even there for the special dinner the Iraqi wife cooked. He counts on Amy to be there to support his endeavors; too bad he doesn't seem to reciprocate when she needs him.. or the son he seems to be rapidly alienating. I wouldn't be scared for Amy.. she's been very active outside the home and sans Matt in recent months. She isn't going to sit around and fall apart.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Sunday, May 09, 2010 - 3:33 pm
Lots of couples argue over money, how to spend it, how much should be saved, etc. So, for me that isn't the part that surprises or disappoints me. It's the times when Matt should be there for his family that he's MIA that I find disappointing. He wants to take the soccer team to Ireland without the support of the little people assoc, but then he runs off to trot through Europe when he should have been there! He signs up to play bocce ball, but he's a no show. Wasn't he late to the boys graduation? These are the things that I question. Why doesn't he see it as important to be there, not for Amy, but for the kids?! Sometimes we have to do boring things, hang around places we don't want to, to support our family, to be there for them. Was Matt always that blatantly selfish? I really don't remember it being that way. Which is why I'm wondering if he's really starting to feel like time is running out for him, that his mobility is declining and he's trying to get as much done, only doing exactly what he wants to, because he thinks he soon won't be able to?
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