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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Wednesday, September 29, 2010 - 10:22 am
It's like the proverbial car wreck. I watch but cringe thru the whole thing. Lots of ewwwww factor.
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Lurknomore
Member
07-07-2001
| Wednesday, September 29, 2010 - 10:31 am
Ok I watched this show last night to see what you are all talking about. What a BORING bunch! Face it, if they weren't playing "Big Love, the home game"there is NO WAY these people would be on a TV show. Best thing it was good for was it it put me to sleep literally!!!!
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Wednesday, September 29, 2010 - 10:46 am
LOL, Lurk. I always fall asleep when there's a show I really want to see.
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Willwillbee
Member
09-20-2001
| Wednesday, September 29, 2010 - 10:56 am
In theory, I have no problem with plural marriages between consenting adults that do not depend on government services but who can afford a 20 person household with just a couple of incomes? Unfortunately, they are raising children to also be part of this lifestyle packaged as a religious belief & the only entry to heaven. They have to have the young girls undereducated, married, pregnant & "stuck" before they can reach an age of saying "hell no".
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Konamouse
Member
07-15-2001
| Wednesday, September 29, 2010 - 8:17 pm
At least all of the wives were over 18 when they were married. It seems that the children have developed their own identity and are free to make their own decisions when it's time. We'll see (hopefully) what happens.

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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Thursday, September 30, 2010 - 4:11 am
Well thats what the grown ups say Kona-hopefully is right. Well Babyjax I guess your last post answered the question in my mind,I was thinking you were the poster thats in a plural relationship or marriage.One of our posters is, but I forgot who it is.
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Thursday, September 30, 2010 - 3:28 pm
Nope, not me. I've had two husbands, but only one at a time. I remember seeing that too, though. Maybe in the Big Love thread?
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Friday, October 01, 2010 - 6:24 pm
I'm intrigued by this "family". It must cost a fortune to live their life style though. Where does all the $$ come from? I know the dad has a well paying job under most standards and the 2nd wife seems to have a really good job too. I'm assuming the 2nd wife has family ins. that covers her & her 6 kids. The dad probably has family ins. that covers the legal 1st wife & their one child together. What about that 3rd pregnant stay at home "wife" that already has 5 kids.......who's covering their costs? Do they pool the income? The 1st legal wife is going to school and has some kind of job on top of that. What happened to the new 4th wife's hb? How did the dad even meet the 4th wife since she lives 4 hrs away? Lots of questions that I hope get answered.
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Lilfair
Member
07-09-2003
| Friday, October 01, 2010 - 7:59 pm
I'm sure the polygamist community is a small circle and wives and husbands are recycled and that's how he probably met the newest wife. I bet the non legal wife that doesn't work buys private health insurance.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Saturday, October 02, 2010 - 1:45 pm
they must have a polygamist type of match-maker web site or something that the "dudes" can find more wifes from lol.
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Kittyab
Member
07-15-2005
| Monday, October 04, 2010 - 7:18 pm
Why were the first 3 upset he kissed the almost 4th?
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Mamie316
Member
07-08-2003
| Monday, October 04, 2010 - 7:29 pm
I think because you are not supposed to kiss until you are married.
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Monday, October 04, 2010 - 8:15 pm
This show just gives me the heebie jeebies. As hard as those women try to smile and accept their horndog of a husband, you know it's just tearing them up inside. Kody just skeeves me out. And Robyn saying he's her "soulmate"--he's got THREE other soulmates and 13 kids! I feel like those poor women are just baby factories for him. Creepy!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, October 04, 2010 - 9:28 pm
The first wife met the fourth wife and really loved her at some function and told the husband to go dance with the potential fourth wife and that was that.. And fourth is divorced from her first, but she moves 5 hours away with all her kids.. But she gets her own house? And in interviews there she is sitting right next to husband.. seems a bit polarizing. Don't like him at all and the wives go back and forth trying to justify everything while trying to get sympathy.
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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Tuesday, October 05, 2010 - 5:46 am
I agree with your post whole heatedly BabyJax. I cant imagine how thats going to work out when they blend 4th wifes kids with the current kids.4th wifes kids seem a bit unruly-what if she doesnt like how 1st,2nd and 3rd wife disciplines her kids.I think its been too long in between the last wife and this 4th wife for a smooth transition.These wives after 16 yrs have settled into the belief that there wouldnt be anymore wives.No,the wives arent convincing me that everything is hunky dory.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Tuesday, October 05, 2010 - 10:08 am
I thought they moved Robyn's family into a separate house, first because she and Kody weren't married yet and, second, to bring her and her children physically closer to the rest of the family during their "courtship." Robyn refused to move in with Kody & his harem before being legally married to him, & she lived 5 hours away. It was too draining on everyone emotionally, required too much travel time, & driving that far made Kody miss work too much. What did Kody say he did for a living? I know he mentioned it on the first episode. I feel certain that my family COULD support a couple of more mouths to feed, but it would require sacrifices that most of us wouldn't want to make. I can't believe the size of some polygamists' families. I remember seeing a family profiled on TV once--with 69 children!!! Omigosh!
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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Tuesday, October 05, 2010 - 10:42 am
Sia Ive probably missed an episode.So the future wife is moving near Kody in a separate place until they marry? Does future wife work?
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Bluejaxrock
Member
04-23-2004
| Tuesday, October 05, 2010 - 8:29 pm
Babyjax, ditto on the heebie jeebies. I watched less than 15 minutes and felt like I needed a shower.
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Redpen
Member
07-24-2003
| Tuesday, October 05, 2010 - 8:56 pm
Wasn't one of the SUVs in one scene a Lexus? Seems like they have a good income.
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Riviere
Member
09-09-2000
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 12:17 am
Had to check out their family dynamic! There do seem to be issues about Kody bringing a new love after 16 years. Did Meri have issues with the 2 other wives to steer him toward a 4th? Because that reminded me of Margene being happiest about Bill wanting to marry Ana on Big Love... Maybe the original 3 Sister Wives weren't the peaceful triad after all. Can't say Kody impresses me a lot. He was not raised a Fundamental Mormon and he admired his father for finding a way to have more wives, sauce for the gander is sauce for the gosling, so to speak... All the kids seem happy, healthy and well adjusted. They were born into the life of 3 mom figures, will the 4th be disruptive? I have no way of knowing how much this rocks the boat for any of them. Utah does have some archaic laws. Bigamy is illegal in all states (cannot have more than 1 legal spouse) but if they want to call the mere cohabitation of consenting adults a felony, if Kody treats the other women as spiritual wives, well... There seems to be no child abuse or welfare fraud so why would Utah muck around and ruin a family? I'm not glad Kody & wives have opted to hang their laundry in public to attract the wrath of narrow minds. But they did, can't do anything about that now! Not seeing the logic of having so many kids when only a few are on the insurance plan. And I see the wives don't care either way if the kids opt for polygamy, just whatever makes them happy in life. Fundamentalists feel differently but Kody is more of a fringe guy picking what he wants in a lifestyle and leaving the rest... As for my version of polygamy or whatever it is called, I had 2 husbands before Kody married his first wife. Our families knew about it from the getgo and never hassled us. Our lifestyle is not based on any religious beliefs whatsoever and is about convenience & security as we grow old together. As a closed triad, none of us wants a 4th person around to interfere with the smooth equilibrium we share... My grandsons are raised to be open minded and like the Utah wives, I feel as long as they're happy and not hurting anyone, they're free to choose because I would be the last Granny to dictate...

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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 4:59 am
This is just out of curiosity and You dont have to answer this Reviere. Forgive me if Im being offensive with my questions, but do both your husbands share equal duty around the house and in the bedroom? In other words is one mate more of a friendship/roomate situation and the other more like a husband? Did you have children by both men? I am fascinated by the concept and have no problem with your alternative lifestyle. I only have a problem when I think someones in a plural situation because they think thats the best they can do and it bothers/hurts them but goes along with it anyway.These women seem upset by his dating.Id be more upset over more kids coming into the fold than the new wife.
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 6:18 am
Riviere, you go girl! Yours seems like an arrangement that works for you, and you seem honest and open about it. I can see how you could love two men at once. If they're agreeable to "sharing," it's your business. But in Kody's case, he just smiles that smarmy smile and my skin crawls. I guess you can see it as one big family, but all those babies! It just seems like those women are baby factories for him. They seem to me like they are getting short-changed in life, and I just feel bad for them. And all those kids! And now to bring three more kids into the mix? I wouldn't call Robyn's kid's "unruly." I think they're just keyed up and excited about all the changes taking place in their lives and the cameras in their little faces. When they were running around that new house (it's a block away from the rest of them for whoever it was who asked), remember that they've been in the car for 5 hours and it looked like it was late. They were tired and probably full of energy being cooped up in the car. And Robyn's oldest boy has Asbergers (a form of Autism). Asbies like their structure/routine and do not like change. Should be interesting to see how he adapts.
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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 6:36 am
I guess I didnt realize that scene was at their new house.I never heard that she was being moved closer.What is her background?Is she a former polygimist?I remember someone saying she was divorced.
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Marameko
Member
07-15-2002
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 7:05 am
You go Riviere. May I ask if you all live together ? Inquiring minds want to know. I don't think Kody is breaking any laws if he calls all the women his wives especially if he is not claiming them on his taxes or has them on his health care plan. For me this is all about self esteem and how one deals with this within their own mind. For me I don't share or want "OPP"..........other people's property. The irony is how the pregnant wife is stressing over the possible 4th wife; bet she didn't have that issue when she was brought into the fold.
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Lakecat
Member
10-01-2006
| Wednesday, October 06, 2010 - 8:01 am
Again forgive me if my questions are too nosy.I was going to delete but it was too late.
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