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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:24 am
Yes, it was Robyn's wedding, but it's not like other weddings where she'll be the only wife. When she gets back from her honeymoon, she won't be the only chicken in the henhouse. Pretty different situation. That's why the other wives need to be included, cause they were there first. It's kind of like bringing a new baby into the house. You need to remember the older siblings were there first and need to feel included so they don't feel replaced.
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Kellsma
Member
08-27-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 7:26 am
The other wives were miffed because other than Meri, their weddings were quite small and Kody apparently did not have much interest in putting those weddings together. They felt betrayed that he seemed to be so inolved in Robyn's wedding and how large it was going to be. Wonder if we will be seeing a second season.
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 7:55 am
This show is fascinating, isn't it?
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 9:11 am
I'm feeling that #3 isn't all that happy with there now being a #4.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 9:16 am
It IS fascinating, Bjm, and I think Kody just seems to crave attention and fame--even if it's notoriety.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 9:20 am
I don't pretend to understand Polygamy. However, it seems to me that Polygamists have insecurity issues or "look at me look at me, look what I can do, look how many women I can get" And these women to me seem like they also have MAJOR insecurity issues where they know they are not enough for this man and are ok sharing him. I just find it crazy, honestly.
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Redpen
Member
07-24-2003
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 10:21 am
What WAS that whole wedding gown part about? Why did she go through the charade of having them go with her to pick one if she was going to have him approve it anyways? Who takes their groom to the bridal shop with them? If I was one of the other wives, I would feel betrayed for sure. And he told them when she didn't want them to know. She's starting this off badly and dishonestly already. And he keeps showing how thoughtless he really is. Bet there won't be a season 2 and some of the wives will leave.
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Willwillbee
Member
09-20-2001
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 1:27 pm
I don't see any of the wives leaving, you have 2 wives with 6 children each. Caring for this many children without help would make anyone think twice. One wife likes to work & doesn't want to do housework & another wife likes housework & doesn't want to work outside the home. I'm sure the first wife feels all these children are hers & wouldn't leave them plus she's never worked outside the home either.
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Misspoufy
Member
09-30-2004
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 1:52 pm
Redpen, watch Say Yes to the Dress a few times and you'll be amazed at how many modern brides take their groom, mother, mother-in-law-to-be, etc, with them to pick out a gown.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 2:05 pm
MissP, I adore the SAY YES TO THE DRESS show!
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 2:17 pm
I love Say Yes to the Dress, too! I saw that Kody seemed to want to appease Meri more than the others. Prior to the ceremony, she was adjusting his tie and he was leaning in trying to kiss her. The new wife seems nice, but I think she's different from the others. Her reasons seem to want to belong to a family. I found it interesting that the other wives didn't show up the hours before the wedding to help her out. They all said she didn't ask them, but I think they would have known to be there. There is still discomfort between the wives and the new wife. I agree, it is a fascinating show.
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 5:36 pm
I agree it did seem odd that the other wives weren't there helping Robyn get ready, but then they all have multiple children to get ready themselves. I felt bad for Kristina when she found out that Kody had approved Robyn's dress after she'd made such a show of having them help her select her dress. Her feelings were hurt. It seemed a little controlling on Kody's part. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wanted my groom to be surprised on my wedding day. I wanted him to be stunned at my gloriousness, not see it beforehand. But that's just me.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:22 pm
This show keeps me wanting more.........they MUST do a season 2! I Love Meri (#1). This is the life that she wants and SHE can't have bio. kids except that 16 yr old dd and she adores all of those other kids that her DH fathered. She "hand picked" each of her "sister wifes". SHE is the one in control IMO and he is her puppet! Janelle (#2) - brings home the bacon so wife #3 can fry it up in the pan and because she is the mother of 6 of Cody's kids, she never let him forget he's a man. Christine (#3) - wife #2 uses you! So what, you keep her man "busy" - that's keeping HER from having to stroke his ego & whatever else he desires stroking.........just gotta say.......you be suckin the hind tittee!!!!!! Robyn (#4) - Watch out for Meri....you cross her...you're in for deep doo.doo!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:30 pm
The FIRST WIFE indeed had a career in mental health and happily worked outside the home until after this show started airing and she was suddenly laid off. She is looking for work, she said on the Oprah Show. Fourth wife quit her job to move near the family and I think said she is looking for work, though they also want to add to her children. Only Christine is a stay at home mom by design. I wasn't surprised that Kody saw the dress, but why the charade, then? And his way of announcing it.. like a kid who couldn't keep a secret even if it might hurt others.
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Snee
Member
06-26-2001
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:56 pm
he said on the wedding day 'i'm 12!' because he was excited just like a kid. well...he most often seems 12 to me. so immature. and it grossed me out the way he said "hi" to meri as he tried to kiss her while she tied his tie. that might have been cute except for HE WAS GETTING READY TO MARRY SOMEONE NEW! yeah, so i don't get this lifestyle, but i want another season too.
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Seattlemom
Member
05-10-2005
| Monday, October 18, 2010 - 8:22 pm
can't stand him! His ego is huge! he strikes me as the type that can't pass his own reflection without admiring himself! That being said I have to watch! Some of these woman know no other life some came into it thinking they could accept it and it isn't as easy as they thought! The part that gets me is IF one of the woman want out! They have to go without there Children! Its like I have to watch but if I see him flip his hair ONE MORE TIME LOL LOL.
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 5:50 am
Who says they have to go without their children? All she has to do is leave, take the kids and file for custody and child support. Utah's laws on custody and visitation are like any other state - what is in the best interests of the child? I doubt a polygamous environment is going to be found a plus in Dad's column.
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Reenie
Member
06-24-2006
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 6:04 am
Question: If one of the wives wants to leave with her children, does she need to file for custody if she's never been legally married? What about child support? If she's never been legally married, is the "husband" required to pay child support? I don't know the rules on these things...
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Babyjaxmom
Member
10-20-2002
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 6:18 am
I still think you would need to go thru the courts to establish custody. And yes, aren't fathers legally responsible (financially) for their children, whether or not they were married to the mother? I think fathers have to pay support in most states (they do in California, but I know Cali is different on a lot of issues). It would be really, really hard for any of the wives to leave (especially #2 & #3 with so many kids). It would be hard for them to take care of all those kids on their own when they're used to having so much support from the other wives. In some polygamist communities (not sure about this one, it may have been mentioned in the article posted above), the women are prevented from leaving and especially from taking their children. It can be a very tight-knit culture and a "betrayal" of that sort by a wife would be tough thing to pull off. She'd have a lot of opposition from the community. Some of them have to go into hiding when they leave. Not sure if this community is like that, but that's where the "cult" comment came in above.
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Reenie
Member
06-24-2006
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 6:20 am
Babyjaxmom - that makes sense about the support and custody.
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 6:43 am
I've never been legally married to my daughter's father and I could file for support...since my name is listed as mother on birth certificate she would be assumed to be mine...oddly enough though, in Texas, just because the father's name is on the birth certificate doesn't necessarily mean that his parental rights are automatic...he would have to "prove" that he was the father (he could sign a waiver unless he was requesting DNA testing due to a dispute). Otherwise his rights are not assumed.
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Reenie
Member
06-24-2006
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 7:04 am
Roxip - so you could file for support...that's a good thing! That's interesting about the TX rules. I wonder if other states are the same? THANKS!
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Steviegirl
Member
07-07-2005
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 8:33 am
I watched a few episodes Sunday night and I got sucked it. Granted, I spent a lot of time yelling at the TV (the whole lifestyle frustrates me. Of COURSE you're jealous - he's having sex with 3 other women under your nose, and you're saying it's ok!! If it gives you bad feelings, it's probably because IT IS WRONG!!) Anyway . . . . . I'm intrigued, and I really do like the wives. Just don't care for Kody. He's a dog that knows he's getting away with something in the name of religion. Makes me a little bit ill. (But I'll probably watch some more. lol)
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 8:59 am
I just wonder what went on in his life that he needs the reassurance of 4 women that he's a MAN. Why is 1 wife not enough.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Tuesday, October 19, 2010 - 11:01 am
can you imagine 4 wives? that is PMS all month long
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