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Frogichik
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06-11-2002

Sunday, August 16, 2009 - 3:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Frogichik a private message Print Post    
Auntleanie, your nieces are beautiful inside and out. So cute with their southern belle accents. They seem like a great group of girls.

Auntleanie
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05-11-2009

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 7:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Auntleanie a private message Print Post    
Thank you Frogichik,I am so proud of all of my nieces.They have grown up to be beautiful independent women.As far as the voices rising at the end of a sentence maybe I'm just use to the way they talk because I can't hear it.They come from Florida, Mississippi and South Carolina.I have noticed that when they are around Ruby they revert back to the teenage years acting and saying things they do not say anymore like"I'm scared"Lol Anyway I love them and I appreciate you all for watching.

Frogichik
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06-11-2002

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 10:30 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Frogichik a private message Print Post    
My friend is from Long Island, NY and whenever her family is visiting, her accent comes back to her immediately, even though she has lived in South Florida since she was 10 (33 now).

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 10:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
I just caught up on some of the episodes and I have to say that the one where Ruby is trying to find her memories is the best episode yet. In her pictures, there seem to be a couple of them with 3 children and a father? Ruby is under 10 @ this time. All of the pics of her under 10 she looks very well-cared for. It seems that it's possible something happened to her between 9 and 10 years old.

The school records are interesting. I can't help but feel that Ruby was molested as a child by a male family member..not necessarily her Dad, but someone she knew or at school or church.

Very odd that she was alone for the church yearbook, unless she is the only one in the family who wanted to attend. Perhaps she went with a friend.

I wish her therapist could hypnotize her and regress her. It might help a lot.

Auntleanie, your nieces are beautiful young women. You should be soo proud of them.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 12:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Cricket, i had all the same thoughts you did about her memories.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 1:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I think it is clear that there was childhood trauma.. rarely do you have "missing years" unless there is.. or a brain injury, which seems unlikely.

Auntleanie
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05-11-2009

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 3:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Auntleanie a private message Print Post    
Thanks Cricket and I agree with you that there is something in her past that she may need to deal with soon.A part of her senses this by the tears that fill her eyes sometime when she is with her Dr.I have had a weight problem all my life but my mother left us five girls when I was ten yrs. old. I turned to eating I think to fill that void in my life.You know what? God is good and we have come through that and we are ok.My mother ask us to forgive her and we have.Oh my I didn't mean to get into that but maybe it's suppose to be.

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Monday, August 17, 2009 - 8:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Auntleanie, that's sad about your Mom. Glad you and your sisters were able to forgive her. That's best for you and them. There does always seem to be an underlying reason for overeating, as some of the women in Ruby's group attested to.

Texannie, glad you were thinking along the same lines. It's very interesting and I hope they help Ruby follow through on her memories, as it might be a huge aid in helping her keep the weight she's lost off.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I think it is supposed to be.. Ruby is going public with the show and we see her journey, warts and all, but it has to help others to look at their own situation, or revisit the past. I think it is a good thing to remember and talk about it Auntleanie.

I hope the teaser for next week does not mean getting rid of her doctor or really going in the direction of bypass surgery.

The trip was fun, but don't enjoy the matchmaking.. just flirt on your own for fun and you are a good flirt, Ruby! But good to see you spreading your wings and trying out lots of stuff AND incorporating exercise into a trip.

Metoo
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02-22-2005

Tuesday, August 25, 2009 - 12:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Metoo a private message Print Post    
A good friend of mine, Christy, celebrated her birthday in Savannah this past weekend. While she was eating at a restaurant Ruby, Jeff and Georgia came in and sat at the table next to her.
Ruby and Christy started talking and Christy said Ruby was just as nice and sweet as she is on TV. They had a great time together. Ruby even had the waitress bring Christy a birthday cake. Christy was so excited when she called me and said Ruby has lost more weight since the show and looks great!

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Tuesday, August 25, 2009 - 3:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
That is very cool!

Rissa
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03-19-2006

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 1:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
Quick FYI: Every once in awhile I remember to catch up on Ruby's Blog and just caught that Season 3 begins Feb. 14th!!

Rissa
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03-19-2006

Wednesday, February 03, 2010 - 3:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
Just flipping channels and I caught the last 2 seconds of Oprah and Ruby was on stage. Did a quick search and found Oprah again at 5pm so I am taping it.... just an FYI if anyone else is interested. BTW, the 2 seconds I did see seemed to show a very noticably smaller Ruby.

Sia
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03-10-2002

Friday, February 05, 2010 - 3:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sia a private message Print Post    
I recorded that episode of Oprah, too, Rissa, just to see Ruby. She is doing very well with her weight loss. I wish I could be so dedicated; my arthritic knees and recurrent hernias have me at a point where I feel absolutely powerless and hopeless to change things.

Ophiliasgrandma
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09-04-2001

Saturday, February 06, 2010 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ophiliasgrandma a private message Print Post    
Do any of you watch this on Directv? If so please could you tell me the channel. I can't find it.

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Sunday, February 07, 2010 - 8:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Ophilliasgrandma, I have it on Channel 235 on Direct TV (The Style Network)

I didn't realize it was back on, but there is a show Tues. 2/9 @ 3:00 PM CT and one Thurs. 2/11 @ 9:00 AM CT, called The Final Weigh-In.

I wonder if this is the last episode...does anyone know?

Sia
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03-10-2002

Thursday, February 11, 2010 - 2:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sia a private message Print Post    
Cricket, I have direcTV too, and description says that eppy was from 2009 when Ruby and her pals visited a summer camp for overweight kids. New episodes seem to start the 14th.

Would it be a spoiler to say what Ruby said on Oprah's show seemed to be the reason she had a traumatic childhood?

Rissa
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03-19-2006

Thursday, February 11, 2010 - 5:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
Sia, no spoiler to spoil. She hasn't found out what happened (if anything) just that whatever it may be her mother knows about because the two of them were in counselling together around the time Ruby's memory stops. It does seem that something happened to Ruby's mom, (or ALMOST happened as the mom said) but I got the impression that was from her own childhood. I also got the impression that even the doctor didn't know beyond that the mom had issues to deal with. It didn't sound like he knew but wouldn't say. I also got the impression that Ruby's mom may have encouraged the weight gain to make her daughter less attractive to men.

As always I need to add that I watch TV with one eye and one ear while multitasking so if I missed anything I welcome being corrected!!! :-)

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Thursday, February 11, 2010 - 11:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
New shows start the 14th.

Angelicfairies2
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07-19-2004

Monday, February 15, 2010 - 10:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Angelicfairies2 a private message Print Post    
Her voice drives me bonkers.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, February 15, 2010 - 1:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
me too angel. and she is seriously in denial. i hate to say it, but the more I watch her show, the less I like her. I didn't like her attitude with the new girlfriend at all...very passive aggresive.

Ragdoll51
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02-21-2010

Sunday, February 21, 2010 - 7:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ragdoll51 a private message Print Post    
Texannie, I have to agree with you about the new girlfriend. It seemed from this episode with her telling everyone their faults she is lucky to have any friends at all. I liked her before but now it seems that she is getting too I don't know....

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Sunday, February 21, 2010 - 9:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
Has she really not put together or read about the reasons that some people forget some childhood events and subsequently gain weight? I find this show interesting and she seems to be very judgemental about stuff, so black and white, no gray areas.

I never saw a show about why she got rid of her doctor, was it because he told her something she didn't want to hear?

That whole girlfriend thing was very weird, she is very passive aggressive in my opinion as well. Oh her voice makes me nuts when she goes all childish and high. I have heard her speak normally so wonder why she does that.

Rissa
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03-19-2006

Monday, February 22, 2010 - 6:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
I am not getting the new show!! I seem to remember getting it at the same time as the US last season but I guess I will just have to be patient. {sigh} Oprah or Dr Phil or someone like that commented once that people do not get to that amount of weight by being able to hear the word 'no'. They tend to be stubborn and manipulative and Ruby fits into that but hopefully those attributes will change as the weight issues are dealt with. She has great qualities as well, loads of character, funny, loyal and I am so impressed by the commitment she has with her weight loss. I know how hard it is for me to be 'good' for long enough to knock off 10-15 pounds, I can't imagine not falling off the diet wagon for literally years.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, February 22, 2010 - 11:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I think the doctor/therapist got too close to the childhood mystery.

I think most of what irritates people so much is Ruby holding on HARD to her defense strategy from childhood and also Ruby desperately trying to control her life/situation.. micromanaging.. which of course comes out as manipulative, reverting to little girl voice, pouting, getting her way, wheedling, etc.

I think often she is totally unaware of these issues (but not always).

It so often is that what worked in a crisis situation in childhood, is still used in adulthood, but IT DOESN'T WORK.. or it works TOO WELL to limit and isolate the person.. which is seen as "safe" but really isn't.

Listen to her talk with the 500 pound man on her trip to her friend's birthday.. she can see it in him.

Ruby has been overcoming the need to isolate herself and she has lost a bunch of weight and now is driving and getting out more, but she still has her group of people she trusts (even if some of them have enabled her) and she fights like crazy to not lose the attention of those people (thus her snarking at and about the girlfriend).

But she is allowing this to be filmed, and out there, warts and all and that is a huge step toward shedding those defenses.. that will take time as she is also moving toward uncovering what is probably something very painful in her childhood.

Right now it IS all about Ruby, and it kind of has to be, but deep inside, she's got wisdom to share and is articulate.

Time will tell.

She does back away from people who are trying to be helpful who get too close to certain issues, but the good news is she keeps seeking out help.

And what Rissa said, too :-)