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Queenie
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07-09-2007

Friday, April 16, 2010 - 3:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Queenie a private message Print Post    
Does anyone else watch this show?
As a 30+ year old mom I find this a fascinating show.
I really hope the best for all the girls and their babies.
I can not imagine being such a young mom. But it looks like some of them actually take to it pretty easily.

Mzzlissa
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03-08-2004

Friday, April 16, 2010 - 4:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mzzlissa a private message Print Post    
I do! It is my guilty pleasure for sure. I was hoping someone would start a thread here. Until now I have been ready comments on Jezebel. :-) I am 31 with no children, but I also find this show extremely fascinating. The actions of most of the fathers and the naivety of the mothers is extremely disheartening though. Last weeks show with Leah and Corey was particularly brutal. I felt worse for him than I did her, which is not always the case. He seemed the most competent of any of the fathers this season.

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Friday, April 16, 2010 - 5:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
I'm with you, Mzzlissa. Brutal is the word for Cory and Leah. I felt so awful for that beautiful baby. Never wrapped in a blanket from day one; hands and legs flailing. Never put in a crib or bassinett, but rather on a couch or floor or whatever. It was sooo hard to watch. The baby was only a few weeks old and had been shuttled around so many times.

Where are social services in all this? Why do they let 16-year-old children take precious newborns home without checking out the living situation and insisting on childcare and parenting classes.

I hope they continue some of these storylines on another show like they did last year, where they pick 4 or so and follow them for a year.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 6:11 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
My 16 year old daughter loves this show. I watch it a little, but get so frustrated that I can't. We come from an interesting perspective. My daughter is adopted and her birthmother was very young. Her best friend's mom was 15 when she had her, but chose to parent her.
My daughter sees kind of both sides of the being young and pregnant and how it effects everyone's lives long term.

Where are social services in all this? Why do they let 16-year-old children take precious newborns home without checking out the living situation and insisting on childcare and parenting classes.

that has always amazed me too. as an adoptive parent we had to have an FBI check, home visits before ad after placement, and parenting classes to 'prove' we would be good parents.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 11:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
This show drives me crazy, well the kids and their parents drive me crazy! I find myself talking to the TV whenever it's on. I can't believe the low self-esteem that some of these girls have. I just want to hug them all and sit and talk to them. Some of them are responsible and some of the guys are too but the majority of them make me want to shake them.

Scout
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01-20-2005

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 12:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scout a private message Print Post    
I know what you mean, Mamie. It's a tough show to watch sometimes.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
I keep saying it's making my blood pressure rise and I have to quit watching it.

Tntitanfan
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08-03-2001

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tntitanfan a private message Print Post    
When and what network is this show on? Children raising children is a HUGE problem in my community!!

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
MTV, TNT..

Show drives me bonkers .. so many delusional people.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
And like most MTV shows it is on sort of repeatedly.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
There are also reruns from season one of Teen Mom around as well.

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 4:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Oh my goodness,...I could write a page here..but Ill try to be short... I normally would never watch this show and I like all reality shows...but I do daycare for a adorable little guy who just happens to be the product of a 16yr old mother...and a 21 yr old daddy....Ive been watching him since week 4 and he is almost 2yrs... I started watching this show as soon as it started just to compare...
The first yr went alright.... Happy little couple dealing with being parents and trying to do the right stuff....She works full time at a fast food place and he has a good job for a appliance co.
Then 'The Dad' turned 21..... and then things got sticky...... Mom was jelouse constently...Dad wanted to be young again and experiance everything that "being 21" is....fighting constently and breaking up and then getting back together...over and over....Mom moves back into her parents house....couple still keep fighting about everything......
I watch little guy mon-fri from 5am to 2thirty... I feed,bath,play and do everything as if he was mine...
about 2months ago the Mother decides to move out of parents house and get a apt....with some (really sketchy) new' boyfriend.....ugggg...
The baby Dad is furious and stalks her and she in turn stalks him....police reports and all kinds of ugly stuff in between....court now involved and now Mom and Dad have every other week custody..... I still, mean time have been watching baby every day as normal.... but now Grandma picks him up when she finishes her job, then great grandma watches him when nobody else can....this kid is shuffled and used as a weapon between these two kids that should never of had a baby..... One week he gets dropped off reaking of tobaco, the next week yawning and stinky...he has been emotional and tantrums...... Im kinda a nervous wreck cause I worry about the baby...but he is so happy at my house and loves my doggys....I just make him happy here and I pray for the best.....
I dont have answers or solutions.... Im just a real life witness to it in my own home...
I believe in choice, adoption..... but I clearly think one of those two options would have been the best for this child..... I somtimes think of those young gals that do bad stuff to thier kids, or bad stuff with out even thinking about it...till its too late..... I worry all the time, at this point I think his Grandma (her mom) should try to take custody but I dont know what will happen....the father is adopted and his adopted parents are not intrested at all... sad in every direction....

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 5:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
My daughter's best friend's mom is now 31 and 'rebelling' against having been a mom for so long. The girl spends more time at my house because her mom doesn't really give a damn.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 5:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
It seems to be the girls' biggest complaints on the show that they don't get to do all their high school/senior fun things.

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 6:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Chewpito, is that baby ever lucky he has you. At least they are doing something right...giving him a loving daycare provider. It must be so hard for you.

Mamie, it never ceases to surprise me how week after week, the teen thinks she will go right back to being a teen after her baby is born. What are these girls thinking?

The ones who seem to actually mature from the whole situation and tend to be more sucessful, are the ones who realize what really is best for the baby and give it up for adoption.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 6:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I don't think i could handle watching this show. I would die to have another baby. Went through the 2 millions hoops and background checks, paperwork, etc it takes to adopt and paid the 20 to 30 thousand or so dollars it takes to adopt. Then to watch someone who is not totally yet equipped to parent, well, I just don't want the high blood pressure that I am sure would ensue....

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 6:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Oh yes, Cricket is so right! That baby is at least lucky to have the stability that you provide for at least a good portion of his waking hours!

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 6:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
Cricket, they think that their mothers will watch the baby.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Saturday, April 17, 2010 - 7:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
What blows me away is what they consider "normal senior year" which often seems more like partypartyparty.. yikes.. I know my senior year was aons ago and I was a young senior, not 17 until April of that school year, but no one I ran around with was out partying, dancing, etc.. not saying it wasn't going on, but those in my classes were mostly headed to college somewhere and that was the focus. But some of the girls are SO clueless and the ones who do have a baby daddy who starts out wanting to help, often throw all the resentment onto him so he can do nothing right.. and then there are the other baby daddys who just want to party. Such a lose lose situation.

Chewpito, without a doubt you are giving that little one solid hours of the love and mothering he so desperately needs and that may be just exactly what saves him in the long run. It must be so hard to have him delivered in various not so sweet smelling ways but you are a blessing to that child.

Julie.. high blood pressure is the exact reaction, trust me.

Mamie, they think their mother will or they just don't THINK at all.

So often in the first episodes you can tell that they probably feel like they hold all the cards and are in control since they get to choose.. terminate, adoption, keep and of course termination wouldn't make for the drama over months that MTV wants so they probably don't follow that, and so the teen mom gets all the drama for months and feels in control..

It also upsets me that in several cases one or more of the girlfriends of the pregnant girl is so free with advise.. like she thinks it would be "neat" for her friend to keep this baby.. sort of like it was a new laptop or cell phone to share, but it is a long term LIFE and the lives of both parents to be and most of the grandparents that this "friend" is messing with.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Sunday, April 18, 2010 - 6:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
I think as long as we continue to use terms like 'keep' or 'give up', it will make it harder for people to pursue adoption. It is considered selfish to give up or give away your child and somewhat noble to keep it. If we talked about someone making a 'decision to parent' or 'decision to place the child for adoption', I think it would take away alot of the value judgment.

I also think it's alot of the grandparent's 'fault'. While they don't want to parent their grandchild, the idea of their grandchild being 'given away' prevents them from encouraging their daughter to make an adoption plan.

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Sunday, April 18, 2010 - 10:01 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
I really like that young couple that gave thier child up for adoption, cant remember thier names...but they seem very mature...fill me in if Im wrong...but they seem like they have it together...
I kinda hope that they keep this show going, cause as Sea said, when the baby is tiny, its just this cute little thing, possesion, somthing to carry around and show off.... 'everyone says that infants are hard'....but lordy, 'we all know that the real work has not even begun'... (anyone here with teens,will know what I speak of)
As for the young couple that I watch thier little boy.... The Mom has little to no self esteem... She moved out of her parents house when she just turned 16, and the bf was 19...I dont know all the peticulars, but Mom's family lives 2houses down from me and I watched this young gal/Mom...grow up since she was 1 or 2 yrs old... Her Dad cut of all comunication with her when she moved out but her Mom still spoke with her and they seemed to have a relationship there.
The baby Dad, well he seems to be searching for love or belonging....nice young man..but I dont think he got what he needed growing up...he was in foster care alot and then adopted as a older child.... His adoptive parents are really strange and dont seem to be in his life at all...sorta like they did there job and when he turned 18, they were done...
Young Mom got pregnant right away, and they were SO excited.... after Baby came, they were always together, Mom would call me a million times from her job to see how he was, cryin and missing him.... I really kinda had high hopes for them..
but like I said, after Dad turned 21 it all changed...I am seeing a really ugly side to both parents right now.....The baby is almost 2 and a LOT of work... normal work for a baby..but for two fighting parents,...its a mess.. The Grandparents do care about the baby (but they have jobs and two other sons) I think everyone is just so darn happy that I am available and pretty much on call at any time that I have him more than almost anyone....
More and more lately I find myself really worrying about what is going on when I dont have the baby... I think about that Casey girl, and those other Moms that do bad stuff...I really dont want to get overly involved cause than the Mom wont talk to me anymore about what is going on...right now she tells me stuff almost like I was her Parent/friend...So I try to keep our conversations private as to keep the comunication going.. She knows that Im here at anytime if she needs to drop off the baby... But I can tell she is stressed to the max, is hanging with a real slimeball...and dosent seem to care about the little guy anymore...
This thread is very timely for me...any suggestons are welcome...
The parents current 'fight' is because the Dad's week lands on Mothers day....and Mom wants him that day....but Dad say's NO WAY!.... Mothers day isnt till the end of May....this will be a long battle I can see allready....

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Sunday, April 18, 2010 - 6:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Looks like only one ep left of this short season of 16 and pregnant, followed same night by the reunion with the omnipresent Dr Drew Pinsky.. so hopefully there will be a Teen Mom series with some of these to see how they are doing.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Monday, April 19, 2010 - 5:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
I liked in the past season when the teenage parents decided to give up the baby for adoption. I thought it was very mature on their part. This season I did not like the parents that basiclly forced their daughter to put up the baby for adoption she did not seem like she really wanted to do it (she was adopted and I think she really wanted to keep the baby)

Panda
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07-15-2005

Monday, April 19, 2010 - 6:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Panda a private message Print Post    
I agree about this year's adoption episode.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
"place" is really a much more preferable term than "give up." Take it from someone who is living it...