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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:30 am
Some of theses girls are so selfish. The one girl who couldn't wait to put her baby in daycare. I was screaming at the TV!!! Good luck honey, wait until you HAVE to work and you spend all day feeling guilty and missing your babies and know you don't have a choice in it! Chewpito, the dad should relent on Mother's day and the mom should relent on Father's day. That's the agreement my sis and her ex have. There is no reason other than to spite the other parent, that they should not their child on their respected days (mothers/fathers). If you see the young man remind him fathers day is coming up, too.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:31 am
My mistake sorry Julie. I have friends who are biological sisters that are adopted. Everytime someone says that they are adopted I sometimes forget and look at them funny because I always consider their adoptive mother as their only mother if you know what i mean.
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Queenie
Member
07-09-2007
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:34 am
The teen couple from last year that was mature about their adoption was Tyler&Catelynn. I think that it really was the best for baby Carley. This year I sure hope they do a Teen mom follow-up like last season. So frustrating to see Nadia talk to her mother like she does. I wonder if her mother has custody of the baby?
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:41 am
Escapee, I have talked to both of them....but they seem more intrested in keeping 'notes' on each other....documenting every little thing...the kid is seriously being used as a tool right now...its making me a wreck. Ive also told them that they will 'FOREVER' be linked because of their son and they need to grow up and act like adults and quit puting the kid in the middle.... Ive been watching him since 4weeks...and I know what you meen about the daycare thing...I was a single mom and worked my ass off with no sopport...but if I wasnt working...you can bet your butt I was with my Daughter....I never left her ever unless I was on payrole.... these kids have no idea...thats why I hope they keep following up on these storys....cause they havent seen nothing yet!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 12:10 pm
no offense at all dfen, just trying to pass that word along, to those that might not think so much about it. It really hits hard when an adopted kid hears the words "gave up" when, they could hear "placed" in an adoption instead.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 1:02 pm
I certainly agree that we have to be careful with words and I'm always wanting to know the least offensive term that a particular group accepts. But in the context of this show with 15 year olds getting pregnant and giving birth at 16 they simply don't use "placed" and I think for them, since for most of those shown it is all about them (unfortunately not so much about the baby) they do see it as "giving up" the baby or "giving away" the baby and for most of them that is a negative thing. Again, I think for some of them it is all about what they imagine is being in control and the center of attention and that most often includes keeping the baby, no matter what, and thinking they will have help from the father and their families and that there will magically be free child care and that they "deserve" to continue their partying ways and will not have to give up any dreams.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 1:06 pm
I believe that Caitlyn and Tyler made the right decision. They realized that raising a baby can be tough, but they made the right decision for the baby by giving her a better life and the family that adopted her by giving them an opportunity to have a baby that they probably could not do on their own. I would never put down anyone for placing a baby up for adoption.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 1:47 pm
Yes, Caitlyn and Tyler...I watched that whole storyline and I just thought they were awesome and so smart to think about thier child and future.....love them...
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Queenie
Member
07-09-2007
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 2:43 pm
Isn't it strange to feel such a strong connection with these teens that we have never met before? To watch their stories play out on TV and know in our hearts as adults that they (Tyler&Catelynn) really were making the right decision? The last time they were on the reunion show they were engaged, they seem to have a strong & healthy bond together. I truely wish them the best!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 4:50 pm
I was impressed how Tyler and Caitlin had the maturity to cautiously re-connect with his dad, despite his totally unsupportive and critical actions trying to guilt them into giving him a grandchild when he hadn't been there for his own son (being mostly in prison0 and then marrying HER mother, which sort of took any support away that her mother might have dredged up.. Caitlyn wisely supported Tyler in connecting with his dad and then she also was the one to reach out to her own mother.. they were a very young couple who were adult enough to know they weren't adult enough to be parents right now. BUT they were way more adult than his father or her mother! I just wanted to crawl into the screen and hug them sometimes.
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 4:55 pm
And then there's the "Dr. Phil family". Ugh!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 5:10 pm

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Queenie
Member
07-09-2007
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 5:15 pm
Me too Seamonkey, I wanted to give them a huge hug. Sigh.......
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Monday, April 19, 2010 - 5:49 pm
Color that family is really scary - and Alexandra having babies to try and connect with the boys - its really sad. I dont know why I watch this show, maybe it is the connections... the tugs at the heartstrings, the reality of their stories... my aunt (she's 2 years older than I am) did get pregnant and at 16 she is so the exception - that baby died of a rare defect, but her and her dh are still married, they had 4 kids, and their kids are now all married, and a few grandbabies... it just amazes me that they really stayed married...
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Queenie
Member
07-09-2007
| Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 3:46 pm
So what did you all think of the reunion show? I am glad to see that Leah has seen her errors and is trying to make it better with Corey. He really seems like he is going to and wants to be an active father! I wish all the new moms the best
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Cricket
Member
08-05-2002
| Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 6:40 pm
Queenie, Leah is the one with the twins, right? I thought more time had passed, but the babies are still so small. She really needs to get over her ex-boyfriend and keep the decent guy she's got. The couple that scares me so very much are the ones whose baby is all over the place, his Mom; his Grandma; her Mom's. Dr. Drew specifically pointed out to them that they weren't even raising the baby; her Mom and his Grandmother were. The baby's father is only 16 and has been expelled from school 4 times already. They kind of hung back from the other gals when all the babies were brought out and sad to say; their baby just didn't seem as alert as the other babies. The father (err...16-year-old boy) had his head kind of on his girlfriends shoulder. The gal needs to realize she has two children now; he's counting on her to work and support them, as he has no education. This baby does not stand a chance in heck of growing up normal.
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Mamie316
Member
07-08-2003
| Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 7:55 pm
Most of the girls just don't look happy. I want to hug them all, especially Kailyn, I think her name is. I'm so glad she at least has Jo's mother to be there for her. Her mom is a piece of work.
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Kellirippa
Member
07-10-2002
| Saturday, April 24, 2010 - 7:26 am
I'm confused at to why "given up" for adoption is taken as a more hurtful,negative term than "placed" for adoption? Placed for adoption to me sounds clinical and detached, given up implies to me a sacrifice. When you give something, a gift, your time, your prayers, it is usually a selfless act you do to bring joy or comfort to other people.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, April 24, 2010 - 7:54 am
Placed can also infer a well thought out decision versus 'given up' inferring throwing away without thought. many times people give up negative things as in 'i gave up smoking'.
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