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Beekindpleez
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07-18-2006
| Tuesday, April 07, 2009 - 6:34 pm
Marlboro. Jersey. LINK
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Tuesday, April 07, 2009 - 6:36 pm
Oh...Texannie beat me to it. Here is a link to get to know each of the family members: Meet the Hayes Family
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, April 07, 2009 - 6:37 pm
LOL..well, we have at least narrowed it down to Jersey!
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Tuesday, April 07, 2009 - 6:39 pm
Joysey, baby! Joysey! LOL
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Panda
Member
07-15-2005
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 6:02 am
Definitely not Hoboken! It's all city there! LOL I live in NJ and I thought they lived in NY for some reason - the accent is close...haha
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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 12:31 pm
Nice family! After seeing a few of these eps., I have felt myself comparing Elizabeth to Kate Gosselin. I keep thinking "if Kate said the exact same words that Elizabeth just said, Kate would sound so much worse" those are just my thoughts. I think both these parents just have a softer way about them. We also didn't see them in the early years when their sextuplets were younger. I think maybe they are just less overwhelmed than J&K were. I think J&K got into the habit of feeling overwhelmed (totally understandable because they were and most would be in the same siutation) and habits are hard to break; so, they come off as overwhelmed now still. Nothing against J&K. I'm just writing my thoughts. For whatever reason, Eric and Elizabeth just seem more mellow to me. I am enjoying the show. I hope the income will help them to fix up the house a bit (I saw some bare sheet rock up near the bedrooms) and help them save for the future. 12 is a lot to support on a cop's salary. I loved the scene in a show recently where they went ice skating (crazy to do that with so many not knowing how to skate and good for them for trying it! I never would have, I don't have as much courage) and after the skating, Elizabeth was going to go out for her once a month get together with friends and she felt guilty. The whole scene with her talking about it and him telling her she shouldn't feel guilty was just GREAT! They seem to have such a good friendship and support and respect for each other and for the kids.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 12:51 pm
I have alot of the same thoughts Happy. I definitely think it would have been interesting to see this family when their kids were little. If Jon and Kate's show were to have started this season with the six being 4 (like the Hayes's 6), I think people would have a completely different opinion of them. I did think to myself that Kate would be blasted for wanting time away! LOL But I agree, the Hayes seems to have a good relationship.
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Julieboo
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02-05-2002
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 3:42 pm
Elizabeth? When did they say her name was that? Far as I know she is Betty (which I know can be a form of Elizabeth, but not necessarily.) At any rate. Kate has been kind of "hard" in areas from the get go. Like when she asks Jon if he "HAS" to breathe so loud? I don't see Betty even close to talking to her hubby that way. Also, all the little kids (in both families) are about the same age. I'll have to google to confirm. I do believe all the little ones are 4--in both families. Though the older kids in the Hayes family are older (the 2 sets of Hayes twins are 10 & 12 and the Goss. twins are 8.)
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 3:46 pm
Okay-Gosselins Sextups are actually OLDER than the Hayes's. Birthdate of the Gosselin Sextups: May 10, 2004. Birthdate of the Hayes Sextups: September 13, 2004.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 3:47 pm
I think Elizabeth is her given name, Betty the nickname. Yes, the sextuplets are all the same age. Heck, I have asked my husband if he has to breathe so loudly too! (not so much anymore)
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 3:48 pm
pretty close in age. LOL
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Tntitanfan
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08-03-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 4:42 pm
I think maybe the comments were made about the ages at which the viewers began to SEE the two families -
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 5:11 pm
My point? I think if Jon and Kate plus 8 started with this season with the 6 being age 4, just like we are being introduced now to the Hayes 6 at age 4, there might be a very different perception of Kate. I also think it would have been interesting to see how the Hayes handled everything when their 6 were the ages in which we were first introduced to the Goesslings.
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Tntitanfan
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08-03-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 6:03 pm
Exactly!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 7:17 pm
Nope. I don't think so. They just had a rerun of the "breathing too loud" episode and the kids were not that much younger than they are now. (I'd say within the past year.) So I don't think we can blame Kate's henpecking tendencies on her having younger kids. What does the age have to do with it anyways?? (Keep in mind maybe the younger kids is not your point?? And maybe I am misunderstanding your point.) The only thing I could think of is that Kate is more comfortable in front of the camera (having many months/years of it under her belt so to speak) and feels very comfortable airing her feelings in front of the camera.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 8:04 pm
I think Kate is just wired to be more high strung, more picky about things, more ___ retentive. And the Hayes mom just seems to be more laid back, less fuss. I think less of that has to do with the age of the kids than it does the underlying personality of the woman.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 8:16 pm
Brenda, i think that's a part of it too. Julie, my point is IF the show had started with the Goesslin kids older, I think people would cut her more slack for those comments. She gets criticized for taking time for herself and Betty is applauded for taking time off. I definitely agree that Kate could be/should be a nicer to Jon, but I have seen her calm down so much since the kids were little. She has said herself how hard those younger years were on them and recognizes how uptight and controlling she was. We don't know how Betty was when her kids were younger. It's very possible she had strict schedules too. I think for alot of people, no matter what Kate does, she will always be judged on how she was when her kids were very little. I know as a mother how overwhelmed I felt at times, and I became more confident and relaxed the older my kids got, and I didn't have 6 in diapers at the same time.
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Seabreeze
Member
09-05-2004
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 2:20 am
Betty does not get criticized (sic) for taking time for herself because she is shown feeling guilty whereas, Kate loves spa time alone.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 3:46 am
I don't think I have read any posts or come across any sites that have criticized Kate for spa time. I am all for a mom who takes time for herself. Especially one with so little "me" time. I think Kate is a really good mom. But a kind of lousy wife. She totally henpecks Jon and belittles him. I may see love, but I do not see respect. (Except when he helps her shop for her clothes.) I also like that Kate really takes good care of herself. I like that she is so incredibly organized. I don't "know" Betty that well. But I do like her more relaxed attitude. Have not seen her show enough to say whether or not she is a good mom or wife or anything. But so far she seems like a type B whereas Kate is type A (x100).
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 5:07 am
so if you feel good about taking time away from your kids it's worthy of criticism, Sea?
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 5:17 am
It's kind of hard to compare the two shows and be completely fair about it. This new family had at least one of the sets of twins be a little older when the sextuplets arrived. Mady and Cara were only 4 when the Gosselin sextuplets arrived...and we know that Mady is quite a handful. The new family has also had the opportunity to watch a show like the one they're now engaged in, and maybe they talked about how they want to be seen. They seem like a mature and loving couple and it's possible that they said to each other, "We're not going to do any arguing while the cameras are around. If there's an issue, let it go until we're alone. We don't want people writing things like they do about Jon & Kate!" O.k., maybe a little too simplified, but they sure have seen an example of how their lives would be picked apart. Kate is definately a type A, but Jon has certainly played the role of "submissive" while we know that he's totally capable of speaking up. He rolls his eyes, makes faces behind Kate's back, and totally runs the house differently when Kate's not there. He's very childlike in some ways and if he was more mature, we'd see him respond to some of her snipes with something like, "I'm not your child, we need to figure this out" sort of responses. Kate has openly admitted that she is anal and obsessive. Jon has not matured enough to stop with the eyerolling sort of behaviors and needs to man up. I think then we would see Kate on more equal footing with Jon and it won't be so harsh. (I didn't know whether this post should go here or in the Jon & Kate show thread! Now I'm all discombobulated!)
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 6:13 am
LOL Huk'd...good points!
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Kellsma
Member
08-28-2002
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 7:12 am
What I see with the Hayes family is a couple with lots of respect for each other. I think every parent deserves time for themselves but it was sweet to first see Betty not comfortable going to the spa because she did not want money spent on her. She said that she would rather money be spent on the family. She did go on her birthday and took her older daughter with her which was probably very nice for both of them. I don't think she was feeling guilty about spending time away, I think it was more of a financial issue. When she did go out on her one night out, she did feel guilty and she totally deserved a night out on her own and I love how her husband really supports that. I also see a big difference in the relationship. The Hayes just seem much more relaxed with each other as well as with working with the kids. That style of parenting works for them. When they went ice skating, she made all the kids her oatmeal and none of them liked it and she let them eat something else. Again, a much more relaxed attitude. For me it is about the style of parenting and the relationship between the couples. I like what I see more with the Hayes'. It is still only the first season so I hope they don't change too much. One funny scene I saw was when Betty was talking about sitting in the back of the van when they all went out and then her husband hugged her and said that was not the first time you were in the back of a car (wink wink) and then they both started laughing. It was a very sweet moment between them. Also, seeing the moments between each other when they talk about their daughter with CP. I have even seen Betty break down during those little interviews. I think it is just very different styles and personally, I find it more refreshing to watch the Hayes family. I hope they don't change and start doing commercials during their show.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 7:24 am
Kellsma, i cracked up at that backseat joke too!
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Kellsma
Member
08-28-2002
| Thursday, April 09, 2009 - 8:12 am
Wasn't that hilarious! I thought it made them so cute
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