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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:22 am
Oh Panda, I should have figured that one out!! Anyways, I don't think the mom was harsh at all. Just honest. I think Sasha got way overdefensive. The temper tantrum she threw was way out of line. But she is a teen and Kelly had a tantrum two weeks ago too, so Sasha is not alone in the teen tantrum dept...
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Bombaycat
Member
07-21-2007
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:28 am
It was interesting that some couples did better with the infants while others did better with the toddlers. I agree with Spoton that the critical mom went overboard and I'm sure we got the edited version. The first thing she should have done was tell them all the things they did right. Then tell them the things they needed to work on and offer solutions. Her approach was all wrong. You don't attack a person, particularly teenagers, and expect them to be receptive. Some of these girls seem to think that things will be different when it's their own baby. They've got the idea that giving birth to their own child will prevent it from getting cranky, fussy, or crying. Boy are they in for a rude awakening. LOL I just wonder if this experiment will have any affect on their decision to have a child right away. I'd love to see a follow-up in 1-2 years. I'd be surprised if any of these couples are still together. However, I do think at least one of them will be a single parent.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:36 am
I think Sasha was so frustrated and upset because she couldn't calm the child. She kept saying 'i have been around kids'. I think it upset her that the child couldn't be calmed by her. I don't agree with the tantrum, but I she did say 'what happens when the baby doesn't bond with you?' I think the mother's attitude was "I never have a problem with him, he is good for me, so there is something wrong with you that you can't calm him". I think that baby was definitely too attached to him mom to be separated.
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Panda
Member
07-15-2005
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:41 am
that's true - the mom did say he was pretty easy going at first.
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Angelicfairies2
Member
07-19-2004
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 9:00 am
I knew the minute the mom said he was easy going he was going to be impossible.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 9:11 am
LOL, i did too angel! oh and props to Alecia (sp?) she redeemed herself with that toddler. I can relate to not being a 'baby' person. Rocking a child was sheer torture to me! LOL
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 9:53 am
Some of these girls seem to think that things will be different when it's their own baby. I do think that people sometimes feel differently when it is their own child. I was nervous with babies but I got over that nervousness the second that I held my little girl for the first time.
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 9:57 am
This show fascinates me. I get frustrated watching some of the teens. Yet, I'm amazed to see the good job some of them are doing. Some of the boys are really stepping up to the plate. I think the mom who talked about having two jobs to support her family was right on. I only hope the kids listened to her. There's someone who has been there and done that trying to HELP them understand the harsh realities of life.
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Angelicfairies2
Member
07-19-2004
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:14 am
I enjoyed the couple telling Morgan that she needs to have a better relationship with her mom etc..It's true when you have that baby the only person you want besides your husband is your mom (atleast for me it was. Having my daughter brought my mom soooo much closer)
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Webchiq
Member
07-11-2005
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:17 am
I didn't like the mom's approach to Sasha. You don't tell a teenager straight out that they didn't do very good, when they had been trying. You don't want to affect their confidence in that manner. If Sasha just went and laid in her bed or ignored the child like Alecia did last week, then that's one thing, but she did try, she just didn't make the bond and that happens with other people's kids. I was really turned off by the mom. I didn't think Sasha should have thrown the fit she did but she is a teenager and hasn't learned finesse yet. Reactions usually tone down with age.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:24 am
How adorable was that little Isaiah? He was especially sweet when he was trying to console Alicea. Unfortunately I think she was still so wrapped up in her own misery she didn't fully appreciate his efforts. Sure, she talked with him and answered his questions. But then she just sort of walked away. If it had been me, I think my heart would have melted and I would have embraced the child. I think Isaiah had a bit more maturity than some of the teenagers! The pre-teens should be interesting. I think with some of the parents/pre-teens its going to end up a sass-fest.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:26 am
Finesse? That was beyond needing a little finesse! That was a full blown temper tantrum. BUT I will say, seeing as she is a teen, than I will cut her some slack. But she still knew there were cameras there and a boyfriend who was trying to calm her down and she still went off like a bomb!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:27 am
I am most looking forward to when they get the grandparents. That looks kind of funny. I wonder who will be watching the teens then.
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Webchiq
Member
07-11-2005
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 12:11 pm
I think that Sasha had the right to be angry. The finesse, I referenced, is knowing how angry one can get. Even her boyfriend said, as he went out after Sasha, "just take your child on up out of here."
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 1:30 pm
I was impressed with Sasha up until now. I am a babysitter, and I've had kids that instantly love you, and others who would not stop crying and begging for their mothers as if they were being tortured. No matter how frustrated I get, I don't tell a toddler they're acting like a baby and have a tantrum with their mothers. You just keep plugging away. Sasha was getting angry because he wasn't doing what she expected him to do. Well, that's life. The mother was harsh, but I would have been too had I seen a person acting so coldly to my son. Alecia did better, but she was gifted with an incredibly sweet and precocious boy, and only one of 'em. And she failed to appreciate what a great kid he was. I definitely don't think she's ready for parenthood.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 3:28 pm
I agree with Jodied, especially when Sasha told the toddler not to act so immature!! Give me a break, the kid was not even 24 months old!! And if Jordan told the mom to get her child up on out of there, then he's a jerk too. (He spoke kind of softly so I didn't hear what he exactly said.)
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:13 pm
I had the CC on, and he told her to get her kid and get out of there. And honestly, he had to hold Sasha back and push her out the patio door? What was Sasha going to do, hit the mom?
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Rosie
Member
11-12-2003
| Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:54 pm
I hope that the teenagers are watching this show and not just adults. Perfect viewing for making good decisions.
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Puzzled
Member
08-27-2001
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 8:50 am
I thought Jordan was just telling the mother to leave to avoid things getting worse, not that he was disrespectful. Sasha, however, was ridiculous.
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 9:02 am
Jordan was definitely not polite about it. He was rude.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 9:24 am
That's what I thought too, Puzzled.
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Chy
Member
07-19-2003
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 11:18 am
Oooops! I used to tell my girls not to act like babies. Was that bad? When we found out there's more baby coming, we made a point to talk to the older one(s). We had discussions of how baby is going to be totally helpless for a long while and how the older ones would not act like babies any more but be responsible big sisters and help out. I thought those were "magical" words! My older ones potty-trained, helped out, learned to be quiet in church, ... all because they didn't want to act like babies any more.
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 5:47 pm
Chy, of course it's not bad if you tell your kids that when they're well past the toddler stage and they're acting like babies (whining, which drives me nuts). But yes, I think it's bad if you tell a child that who's barely past babyhood. But your example was you had children who were potty-trained and had to be reminded that they can't act like a baby to get what they want. So no need to say oops, I'm coming down hard on Sasha for it because she was telling a young toddler who only met her like, yesterday that he was acting like a baby.
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Chy
Member
07-19-2003
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 6:46 pm
Well, the one who's only 21 mon. older than her sis. sure was still a little baby herself when we began to remind/encourage her that, she would not be treated like a baby and should not act like a baby or expect us to react to that. My in laws took pity at her and would take her to their house every now and then to "let her be howerev she wanted to be"! Some nights she'd make them rock her, asked to have a bottle and baby food in the jars ....
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 6:59 pm
I would never tell any child not to act like a baby. And if the new older sibling wanted to have a bottle, diaper, etc, I would indulge them (to a point!) I just think calling them a baby would hurt their self esteem. Instead I would up-play the positive. Something more like "You are such a big girl, let me see how you can use a sippy cup," instead of something like "Don't be such a baby." (It's kind of telling them that babies are bad and so are they.")
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