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Lexie_girl
Member
07-30-2004
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 12:49 pm
I totally agree with you Jodied. It was not heartfelt and he never really did say he was sorry to her. He would have never even talked to her had it not been for his friend/sister who was at the BBQ. Way too little too late. Power to Margerite for picking up on it and walking away from him and giving the money to his daughter.
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 1:14 pm
Someone at TWoP posted a link to this interesting article: http://www.sptimes.com/2007/01/26/Tampabay/For_TV__family_puts_o.shtml Looks like Abasi may have caused problems for himself in his own community.
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Rehtse
Member
08-17-2005
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 1:24 pm
Interesting article. Too bad that Latoya did not get much from the experience. Overall, I guess the families were a bit mismatched.
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 4:58 pm
Jodied, thanks for that link. It was interesting. I expected a more explicit reaction from the Uhuru group, though. Seemed rather veiled to me. (Smart, IMO, though.) Rehtse, mismatched?!! I think they took two people with extreme views and hoped for fireworks. They got them, but surprisingly, not from both. I doubt if Marguerite is as color blind as she represents herself to be, but her behavior, for the most part, anyway, bore out that statement. I thought Connie (who took Abasi to task about his behavior) and didn't buy into the exaggerations and what appeared to me to be outright lies about Marguerite--was very bright--and I was actually shocked that Abasi listened to her, ttytt. I, too, think Abasi's apology to Marguerite did not go as far as it should have. I'm not sure I would have been able to accept it at that point, either, when he probably knew she would be leaving. The worst of the whole thing to me was knowing that that darling child was going to be subjected to the race hate that was obviously part of the philosophy in that family. (Made me think of the indoctrination used by Iraquis in the schooling of their children.) Abasi said something early on about not knowing his father. People learn hate like the type he expressed to Marguerite, so whomever raised him is responsible for nourishing that flaw. I feel Marguerite did a disservice to Abasi's family and revealed her pettiness by essentially giving all the money to the couple's daughter. I could see that house needed repairs, so I know Marguerite saw that, too. And those repairs would have benefited that little girl. [I must hasten to add that Abasi's reaction to the money (over the top award, IMO) for a piano revealed how short-sighted he is.] I must have missed something about the daughter wanting to play piano--what was that? In general, I liked how LaToya awarded the money to Marguerite's family. (I saw nothing wrong with the pre-goal of participating in a walk/run. Be good for her!) However, even though I didn't like Ashley myself, I thought it was none of LaToya's business to get into that dynamic--and suggest she move out. (I believe she simply didn't like Ashley--who IS lazy and behaved toward LaToya with disinterest. In the end, just like Marguerite, LaToya used the power of the money to 'deliver a slap' to a member of her host family--Ashley.)
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Rehtse
Member
08-17-2005
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 5:18 pm
I believe she simply didn't like Ashley--who IS lazy LOL
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 5:34 pm
I"m a bit confused about something. I always thought the moms wrote the letters before they met the other mothers? And then handed the letters over at their meeting. But that must not be the case if Latoya imposed the walk/run for Marg to get her share. Which also goes to show how spiteful Marg is, since the only thing she didn't like about Latoya was her meddling about the older daughter. Why not give her the money for house repairs, even if she didn't like Abasi?
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 5:46 pm
Karuuna, the marathon stipulation wasn't for Marg, it was directed to her daughter, Ashley. If Ashley completed the run, then she would have been awarded money. It was LaToya's way of pushing her point about how lazy she thought Ashley was. I didn't think Ashley was particularly lazy; however, she acted like she was entitled to be treated like a queen. It's like how certain celebrities behave....they do work hard, but feel like they are the above the menial activities (like demanding that the younger sister make her "sweet tea"). Perhaps Ashley feels superior to her family.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 5:57 pm
Ah, perhaps I was confused. Did mom get nothing then? Dad got $20,000 to find a job. Which I thought was pretty generous to find a job!
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:03 pm
I missed that, too! I thought the marathon thing was aimed at mom before she could get her surgery.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:11 pm
Okay, that was bugging me, so I checked the official site:
quote:For the Perrins, $10,000 for Brooke to study dance abroad, $10,000 for bills and house repairs, $20,000 for Barry to find work as Ashley continues to sit around the house. That line is directly from LaToya’s letter. Marguerite will get $10,000 on the condition that she finishes a 10k walking marathon. Marguerite considers this to be rude and degrading. Incidentally, there was nothing for Ashley except one last admonishment for her to move out of the house. Ashley retorts that she makes more in one month than Abasi and LaToya combined. When you add that to the fact that Ashley’s monthly housing payment is 0.0, that girl is really cleaning up! Good for her!
So, it was for Marguerite, and Ashley got zilch.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:12 pm
By the way, the official site does note that they write the letters before they do the face to face, so my original confusion still remains. It also says that Abasi did apologize, as I thought as well. Here's the episode recap: http://www.fox.com/tradingspouses/recaps/
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:43 pm
I have both episodes still on DVR yet to be watched. So I may be interpreting this wrong. Kar, is your confusion on the 10k walking marathon stipulation based on wondering how LaToya could know of Marguerite's physical condition prior to meeting her? If so, perhaps she had prior knowledge of her because she'd seen her in her previous appearance on TS? I thought I'd seen a clip of the show indicating Abassi knew who she was when he met her.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:50 pm
Kar, she knew who Marg was because of past show, that is prolly why she did that, she knew she had the surgery since she watched that ep
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:50 pm
Who, that's exactly what I was confused about. But you must be right, Latoya must have figured out who Marg was when she met the Mr. God Warrior. 
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 6:55 pm
LOL Who..great minds...
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:12 pm
Well, and certainly in a week the family would have told LaToya about Marguerite having had the bypass surgery a year ago but still being more overweight than is healthy. I saw it as an incentive, not an insult, although I don't know if it is an achievable incentive. But it might be.
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Jodied75
Member
08-26-2004
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:21 pm
oops, sorry Karuuna, I honestly thought that it was Ashley who had to do the marathon. It surely wouldn't kill her!
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Sunshyne4u
Member
06-17-2003
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:28 pm
when speaking about people living in FEMA trailers who are refugees of Katrina, they have NO assets to sell off karuuna, where in any of my posts did I specify that I was talking about the refugees? I also never said a word about the people should be selling off their assets. I told a personal story of how I had to sell off my stuff in response to a previous poster suggesting there would be no way to feed a family if moving for a job. neither of us specified we were directly talking about Katrina people. <100>
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Sunshyne4u
Member
06-17-2003
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:40 pm
abassi has issues. What kind of grown man has a 'mentor'?? Connie was labelled as his mentor. That is why he deferred to her. I would love to have heard that whole conversation outside. That man has no regard for his child. Most guys I know who are a little rough around the edges try not to go nuts around their children. A caring man tries to protect his kids. Abassi seemed to want his daughter to join in harrassing Marg. I loved the look on Abassi and Latoya's face. I really think that the money is a guarantee that Shach will be able to go to a good school/ college / university. After listening to Abassi going on and on about white people and black power stuff I love that Marg didnt 'give him a handout' and allowed him the dignity of coming up with his own cash...own job to fix his house. you just know that he would have been complaining regardless of her designation of monies. By the way, what was Latoya's point in that Ashley isnt allowed to live with her family and that the Fema family IS allowed? It seemed to me that Latoya was suggesting that if someone has money they should live alone...and that charity family lived together only because they were poor. My Sister lives with my mom. It is a choice. There are many houses with extended family in them here. Often it is cultural but when people love each other there is no reason that Kids, mom, dad, aunts, uncles and Grandparents cant live closely. It is all about respect and love. For instance, I cant imagine Abassi sharing a living space with a bunch of extended family. he just seemed too angry.
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Sunshyne4u
Member
06-17-2003
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:42 pm
when I heard "comrade", I thought of the term Comrade in Arms. Also, why were all the men afraid to show their faces on TV during the BBQ?? Methinks Abassi's friends have something to be embarrassed/ cautious about.
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Rehtse
Member
08-17-2005
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 9:52 pm
Ms. Perrin should have given them some money for primer and paint for the kitchen. That color made me think of that movie with Jack Nicholson (The Shining) when the kid writes "redrum" in blood red.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 10:14 pm
I don't think you can call what Abassi said to Marg an apology. He was not sincere at all. Plus the way he treated her, (like when she was going to a neighbor's house because he made her feel like so much shit that she could not even retreat to any room in his house, he goes on and on about how they should ignore her and she did not take her medicine. Basically calling her crazy.) was so over the top. That was the meanest, most bullying, nasty behavior I think I have seen one adult do to another adult. He should have been on his hands and knees crying and saying what a fool he was. No way was he sorry.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 10:16 pm
I also think that Marg giving the kid all the $$ was fine. Nothing wrong with a possible year or so of college or a car or down payment on a house (or whatever) for that girl. (She is way beautiful. Too bad she has to grow up with such racism.)
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Rehtse
Member
08-17-2005
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 10:24 pm
I hope that they invest the college money in one of those college funds offered by many colleges. Given the way that the cost of higher education is increasing (I think about 7% per annum), the money might not be worth much when the child actually enrolls in university.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 10:32 pm
Many adults have mentors. Thankfully there WAS someone Abasi respected and was willing to listen to.. I think the point about Ashley living with her parents was not so much that she lived with them but apparently was not contributing to the household with money or with help around the house and it seemed she was getting free room, board and childcare and then had an attitude on top of that.
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