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Pamy
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01-02-2002

Monday, May 09, 2005 - 9:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
God bless that family. What an amazing family, they are truly an inspiration.

Puzzled
Member

08-27-2001

Monday, May 09, 2005 - 9:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My guess is that the parents are the kind of people who just can't turn away any child if they're asked to take them.

I just don't know how that Mom manages to do everything she does. I hope that some foundation or something will arrange for her to have some help. She and her husband have more than enough love to go around. Too bad she has to spend most of her working hours on chores.

Juju2bigdog
Member

10-27-2000

Monday, May 09, 2005 - 10:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Awe-inspiring, but I can't believe it took the nannies to point out that the mom does everything. I don't see how she possibly did it all. The house didn't even look dirty. I was wondering about the mechanics of getting 23 disabled boys bathed.

Watching2
Member

07-07-2001

Monday, May 09, 2005 - 11:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I totally agree. I was in awe, especially when the couple said they had only been married 7 yrs. They sure took in a lot of kids in a short period of time. Did anyone notice there did seem to be another woman with one of the kids when they were singing their song at the end. I can't imagine there being enough hours in the day to do all those things by just one person. Their song choked me up!!

Wargod
Moderator

07-16-2001

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 12:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
That couple is amazing. And the boys were remarkable! Compared to some of the families we've seen on this show, they were pretty dang fantastic. Sure there was fighting and impatience but what family doesn't experience that (on a much smaller scale!) Thinking about some of the past families with the cursing kids, and throwing and hitting at the parents, and some who have been downright rude these boys were terrific. It's very obvious that the parents have huge hearts and lots of love to give them.

Hubby and I were discussing how their problem wasn't unruly, rude children, but that mom needed more hands to help out and to learn that her kids could help out around the house. Maybe the boys had chores that we didn't see, and helped out much more than shown. But thinking about her packing lunches, making breakfast and doing laundry, those are things the kids could be helping with. Little ones could be taught to toss juice boxes, fruit, and sandwiches in a bag, older ones could help set the table and get the younger ones started eating, all of them could help out to some degree with laundry. With everyone pitching in however they can and to their abilities and ages, it could free up a little of mom's time, plus teach the boys that everyone in the family has to help out some to make the house run smoother. Though mom did look like she had it all down to a science! I couldn't get over how organized she had to be a all times to keep everyone else on track.

There were so many touching moments on tonight's show. The nannies seemed to really connect with each of the boys, the parents and how wonderful they were to open their hearts and home to so many children who desperately need stability and love. But, I think my favorite was during the second or third day the parents were gone and some of the boys were yelling and being antsy at dinner, and the oldest stepped up and thanked the boys who were acting the way they would if their parents were there and reminded the others they wouldn't be acting like that if the parents were home, how the nannies were nice and trying to help and they should behave, I admit I was boo hooing, lol. It seemed to me that he realized he was in a place where he could lead the younger boys, and they realized he could be looked up to and listened to. Older siblings lead by example, while younger ones look to them to show them the way, very touching for me to see on such a large scale.

Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 4:44 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thank you War.... you were able to say all that I couldn't with this huge lump in my throat over last night's show. I was so overwhelmed by the end of the show I didn't know where to start!!!

Tabbyking
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03-11-2002

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 9:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
i laughed when the boys told the nannies their mom washed all the clothes twice! not sure if she does, or the boys were smart enough to know that if they had to be washed over again, it would put off the time until they had to help fold the laundry!
it was amazing that the woman was not an exhausted heap. even with no children a paralyzed spouse would be a tough job on the other partner.
if there is an automatic 'mommy heaven', this gal has been in for 7 years!

Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 9:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
When I was watching this show I was thinking I would sure like to see these people on Extreme Makeover Home Edition. I envisioned this huge laundry room with about 10 washers and dryers that could be all run at the same time...talk about a time saver!!!

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 10:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I saw this family on "An Adoption Story" on Discovery health channel. The mother adopted , I now forget how many, some boys before she even met her future husband. Once they were married, they adopted a whole bunch more. Some of the boys that they have adopted have already moved out on their own so they've had more than the ones on the show.

Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 10:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Mamie...they had a total of 34... it was stated on last night's show. Only 23 remain home.

I would have loved to have seen them on Adoption Story... I love that show...

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 10:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks Kep, I can't remember what I did an hour ago, let alone what I saw last night!

Pamy
Member

01-02-2002

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 6:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Kep, I was thinking the same thing....they would be a great family for HOme makeover!!!!!!

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 11:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
i do wonder how they support all those children. i believe they are in california? when i served on a grand jury for a year here i was the chair for the health and welfare committee, which looked into children's protective services, etc.; if you 'fostered' a child, at the time--which was over 10-years ago--you got about 1,500 bucks a month. if they were special needs, you got about 3,000 a month...per child. however, adopted kids were your own and you got no financial support from the county. i remember being disgusted with a couple who had special need foster kids and the kids did not seem to be getting what they needed emotionally, but the couple was making about 6k a month and living high on the hog. the kids' medical and counseling appointments were covered outside of the money the foster parents got. they also got clothing and food allowances for the kids. they were obviously just in it for the bucks and it bothered the hell out of me.
if these people we saw last night truly adopted all these children, they may have had to be responsible for every penny the kids cost to raise. i am overwhelmed with trying to make ends meet with one kid in college and another coming up soon!
however this couple manages it, my hat's off to them. it is so much more important to a child to be legally adopted than fostered, if it's a good and loving family. they want permanence and stability. if this couple really has adopted--and not just fostered all these children, not that fostering would be a negative with this wonderful couple-- it's just astounding what they have done.
physically, emotionally, financially, they are giving their all.
bravo, bravo, bravo!

Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 4:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Tabby...I believe disabled children get SSI benefits. I was thinking the same thing when the show first started... I thought oh no... a couple who "stables" children for money...but 5 minuets into the show, I was overjoyed to realize that assumption was so wrong!!!

And they did say all the children are adopted...I think because so many of them had abandonment issues, the adoption probably went a long way in giving the children a sense of permanence....plus some of the children were adopted from Russia...I could be wrong, I don't think you can foster from another country...

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 9:38 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Tabby, they did adopt all the children. If I remember right from the Adoption Story, she started off being a foster mother and then realized that she wanted to adopt the boys because they weren't going to end up in a stable home otherwise. She had about 8 of them, I think, when she met her husband and they were married and adopted the rest.

Auntiemike
Member

09-17-2001

Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 4:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
In the State of Washington you can get what is called Adoption Support if you adopt children out of the State foster/adopt system who are special needs. The amount is usually a little less than a foster care monthly stipend would be - around $360 a month.

Even highly trained foster homes that take on the really hard to place kids gets only $1500 a month for a very, very high needs child (usually requires 24/7 supervision, radical behaviors, etc.)

Believe me, families usually don't do any of this for the money...at least in my experiences. I am sure that there are some couples/people out there who think it is an "easy" buck.

If a child qualifies then SSI can kick in. This is dependent upon the income in the home, however. I saw a pretty nice home, nice amenities, etc. in this household and also wondered.....how are they paying for all this. Does Dad work from home? They never addressed that issue, did they?

I am also concerned when couples put their own needs aside to the extent that they see their mission in life to take in these kids and parent them. I still feel that the most important thing they could be doing is making their marriage as strong as possible and be role models for these children. Children have a difficult time learning what relationship is all about when it is unbalanced or skewed in some way. IMHO

Puzzled
Member

08-27-2001

Friday, May 13, 2005 - 3:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
There's more info on the family at USA today and their website. They are getting much needed help and have been quite smart about seeing that the boys get a really nice home, as well as loving parents.

http://www.usatoday.com/life/2003-11-25-silcock-boys_x.htm
http://www.allourboys.com/


Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 5:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
The girl tonight is likely the worst behaved kid on this show ever.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 5:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
And what a <> mom to even let those wild violent kids have toys like those light sabers.


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Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 5:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
This kid is a <>! There are 15 minutes left and the mom is a total <> and the kid is ridiculous...but I bet it is all resolved by the end of the show.


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Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 5:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
The kid will listen to the Nanny with no resistance. The mom is such a mouse... I just can't realistically see her getting control of the kids.

Tess
Member

04-13-2001

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 6:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I think I'd like to cut this mom a little slack. She lost the love of her life a year ago and can't even deal with her own grief because her children's grief turned into such extreme anger against her. The three of them really would have benefited from counseling but that's another show altogether. All three needed to know that someone understood their own personal pain and with all of them in such anguish over losing their husband/father, they fell apart instead of growing closer together. I can't imagine what a daunting experience it would be to raise my child alone since she is such a daddy's girl. I know she loves me very much but daddy is next to God no matter what he does.

This mother never had to be a disciplinarian since their family didn't share that part of the parenting equation. In retrospect, I'm sure she realizes what a mistake that was. I think they all stated that the children never acted in this manner when the father was alive so the mom had no experience. Even though Nanny Deb seems to have worked her usual magic, I sincerely hope that this family does get some counselling so they can all work through their grief and grow together.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 6:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
<> I was not ripping on the mom really. I was just saying that she dropped the ball a long time ago and should have never let her kids get to the point that they did-with her or with each other.

I am happy that it looks like they are all living happily ever after... (but not sure I buy it)


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Wargod
Moderator

07-16-2001

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 9:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I sobbed all through this episode. Five years ago my best friend lost her husband. They did not have children together (second marriage for both of them.) The two years following it were some of the hardest I've witnessed. Her grief at times was so overwhelming that she could barely function. On her own she wouldn't eat, wouldn't sleep, wouldn't do anything that required effort or thought. It was my first adult experience losing a loved one and being there during the time the loved ones left behind were trying to pick up the peices of their lives and move forward.

I can not imagine anything more difficult than what my best friend went through in those years, except having young children to take care of who are dealing with the same grief and yet aren't articulate enough to express exactly how their feeling. Not only are they dealing with their own grief and anger but living with a mother who is also experiencing such a deep and profound grief.

Hard, hard episode to watch. Everytime the little girl acted out and got violent I just wanted to scoop her up and hug her her anguish was so evident. Tess, I agree about the counseling. No matter what turn arounds have happened in the family, grief counseling would be very beneficial for them.

Tishala
Member

08-01-2000

Monday, May 16, 2005 - 9:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm a sap. I cried during this show a lot. I agree with Tess and War that they need therapy, especially the young lady. I really feel for the mother, who I fear is not caring for herself as she should because she is trying to keep her family stable.