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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 5:36 am
I agree with Who, lots of toys got put in time out in our house for not sharing. Also sitting down on the floor and role playing works wonders. My cousin's little boy had lots of trouble with verbalizing and impulse control. She sat down with him on the kitchen floor and practiced grabbing a toy away from him and having him using his words 'no, that is mine, may i please have it' over and over. She also would sit with him and play. Modeling how to play. You can just plunk kids down and assume that they will play fair.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 7:18 am
The thing is, what if one kid is refusing to share, but the other is willing to share, and just wants a turn? Do you punish both kids by putting the toy away?
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 7:43 am
If it's one child being bratty, then that child gets put in time out. If they were both fighting over the toy and couldn't take turns, the toy got put up.
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Enbwife
Member
08-14-2000
| Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 9:11 am
It always amazes me how they can get the kids to stay in the naughty spot... Mondays show scared me a little because I can see glimpses of my son, Nate, in that boy. He's only 2.5 yrs but sometimes his behaviour is quite scarey. We have been getting very consistent with time outs and sleeping at night. Since his baby sis arrived things have gone downhill in this house with sleep and potty. Guess it's to be expected. I like shows like this because it gets us to open our minds and talk more about problems. I liked Nanny 911 better though.
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Bluejaxrock
Member
04-23-2004
| Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 9:56 am
Who, for someone with no kids you sure have some great insight! I withheld a toy if the kids wouldn't/couldn't share, and told the parents how I was handling the situation. If they or the kids tried to give me any flack, then I fell back on the "my house-my rules". I also allowed the kids one thing they didn't have to share-just one. (I think Dr. Brazelton suggested that because it gives the child a little bit of control of their belongings, and almost every kid has that one thing that is too special to them to share.) I've used a kitchen timer and told each kid "you have (insert number) of minutes to play with that and then it's time to switch".
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Eeyoreslament
Member
07-20-2003
| Monday, February 21, 2005 - 11:23 pm
Did anyone watch this tonight? I saw it for the first time. Are PARENTS more attracted to these shows? Or just any person. I don't have kids, and normally I'm not a big fan of small kids, for the reason that many need this supernanny. I was living vicariously through this woman tonight. The couple tonight did not listen to her very well in my opinion, and weren't ready for what they were told. They let their kids get away with more bad behaviour than that nanny. I can't believe he told her off. Bah!!
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Skootz
Member
07-23-2003
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 4:45 am
I watched it for the first time tonite, I was more interested in what the Nanny did to stop the kids behaviour so I could may be use some of the ideas in our home. I have been starting to use 123-Magic, it works well and there is no "naughty step/room" You simply count when a child does something wrong, "thats one" and if behaviour doesn't stop, "thats two" and then if needed "thats three, take five" The child then is sent to their room, for a time out. They can play, look out the window, read books, what ever they want and then when 5 minutes are up they can come down and it is not further discussed, unless warranted. i.e. explaining why swearing, hitting is wrong and that is all. There is more to the 123 magic, but it works well. If we are in a vehicle, I pull over until the problem is quieted down. I think the parents on this show, know that they have a problem controlling and disciplining their children and must know that someone will be telling them what they are doing wrong and how they should do it. I was quit surprised when the father wanted to kick the nanny out. What were they thinking, she was going to say they were the perfect parents lol
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 6:28 am
I loved Magic 1-2-3 when my kids were little!!!! I think they expected the nanny to say that the kids were out of control NOT that the parents were allowing it. They got their feelings hurt. BUT, sad as it is to say, most of the time the kid's behaviour is because the parents permit it. They came around when they saw the results of consistancy.
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Misspoufy
Member
09-30-2004
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 8:22 am
Skootz: I have been starting to use 123-Magic, it works well and there is no "naughty step/room" You simply count when a child does something wrong, "thats one" and if behaviour doesn't stop, "thats two" and then if needed "thats three, take five" The child then is sent to their room, for a time out.:: I used to count to three with my kids (understand this was 25 years ago). One day my son was here with my granddaughter and she was being a stubborn, bossy little miss and I started one, two...Derek piped up and said, "You'd better move it, Josie. You don't want to see three, it's ugly!" I burst out laughing. I would like to say though, that a specific place for three should be somewhere other than their room. Their bedroom should be reserved for pleasant thoughts, such as play and sleep. A child doesn't want to sleep where they associate discipline/punishment. I have a rocking chair in the corner of the living room, that's where all the kids have to sit for time out. They can't see the television from there, but I can see them from the kitchen, check to see if they've gotten up. I have to agree with you that the biggest problem on the shows are the parents. They simply have no control, they've lost being the "boss" and have no clue how to get it back. It's pretty sad when you see a two year old ruling the roost.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 9:11 am
I think it was real obvious from last night's show where the kids got their temper and bad attitude: dad! I so agree about NOT sending kids to their room as any kind of punishment or timeout. If you want them to happily play in there and happily go to bed in there, it shouldn't be paired with any kind of correction. I'm also stunned that parents don't realize how important good sleeping habits and a sleeping schedule is for kids. I know it stinks to have to put them to bed at the same time each night, but getting enough sleep is SO important. A 6 year old taking a nap, especially a 3 hour one, is so disruptive to her schedule. She certainly doesn't get a nap at school. A better alternative for a kid that age is "quiet time" where she has to sit in her room and read for an hour to give mom a break. This was the first time we saw the parents get so defensive and the first time we saw them spank (as I can recall).
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Slimc21
Member
11-17-2004
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 9:40 am
I was glad Nanny stood her ground. He was out of line and so was the mother. They weren't real accepting when she brought in the rules. I thought Nanay should leave because she was wasting her time, because the parents thought they knew it all already. She did a good job with the family but I wasn't impressed with the way they treated Nanny. She wasn't appreciated til the end.
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Tabbyking
Member
03-11-2002
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 9:47 am
i especially disliked when the dad spoke 'for both my wife and me...', as it's obvious he is THE BOSS and even the wife wasn't allowed to talk for herself at that point. they hire on for this show and then dad says no one is allowed to come into his house and 'talk that way to me'. he seems to be one of those cops who thinks he's all that cause he wears the gun in the family. sheesh! as for sleeping in the hallway, that's where i slept if both kids were sick and i had to be somewhere between their two bedrooms LOL could you believe it when the guest room, naughty room was where they all went and played video games and watched movies with jadyn after being told it was not for anything but for jadyn to be in alone for her time outs?! i can't wait til they have overnight guests and jadyn asks if they are going to the naughty room! it was a good ending when the dad said, "i am full of s---" after having said it about supernanny early on.
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Marameko
Member
07-15-2002
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 10:18 am
The nerve of the Dad last night. He has children who are acting like little monsters due to the lack of control by he and his wife and he gets snippy when she tells them the truth. It was obvious to me that the wife was upset when she sat there blinking her eyes repeatedly as if Jo was lying about her children's behavior. Then I feel asleep.........Did the kids gets turned around ? Or are they still running that house hold ?
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 10:24 am
No, the parents knew their kids were out of control, they just took offense when Jo pointed out it was THEIR fault! LOL They seemed to get turned around. The parents REALLY did. Even admitted that they were idiots for doubting Jo.
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Penpoint
Member
03-27-2001
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 5:01 pm
All's well that ends well. And at least Bill Bailey was one father who had the sense not to wear a baseball cap inside "24/7"!
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Puzzled
Member
08-27-2001
| Tuesday, February 22, 2005 - 10:39 pm
Nanny is better than I am. If he had mouthed off like that to me, I would have pointed out that they called me, and if they thought their parenting was perfect, there was no need for me to be there. Sayonara, Adios, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehn
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Mizinvanccouver
Member
02-22-2003
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 9:53 am
Me too Puzzled! That's exactly what I was thinking when I was watching my tape last night! Then Jo said,"I was lucky they let me back in the house." What did she mean 'she was lucky'??? They were the ones who called her! I don't think she came across abrasive whatsoever, I thought she said it matter a factly. IMO
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 9:57 am
I didn't like this family. I did not see a lot of love being offered by the mom or dad. And I really hated seeing the spanking. I know it was not that bad. (probably a lot better than what really goes on inside a lot of houses every day.) But it still made me wince....
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 10:14 am
They didn't call Supernanny, they were first approached by a Supernanny producer in a mall having family pics taken. Said they had some reservations about doing the show but hashed it out with the show's lawyers. Not sure why they'd want to do it though, if they weren't going to be open to suggestions from the nanny. I don't watch the show but saw the article in the paper Monday morning. Bailey's article
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 10:24 am
Interesting article!!! thanks. shows that Jayden was a pretty smart cookie too!
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Mizinvanccouver
Member
02-22-2003
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 10:50 am
Thanks for the article. Interesting they were the very first family filmed yet we've seen plenty of other shows prior to this one. Sounds chaotic and staged by what they Bailey's said in the article.
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Watching2
Member
07-07-2001
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 3:18 pm
I used to count to 5 .. If you don't stop that or you better do that by the time I get to 5... then I would deepen and raise my voice bit by bit. Very rarely did I ever get to 5 and if I did, I was seeing the back side of them taking off. LOL
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 4:40 pm
Interesting article.
quote:"It was "hectic," Stacie said, and they were annoyed by how many "hoops" they had to "jump through" before filming began. The red tape included background checks and blood tests.
OK, I understand why they'd do background checks. But why the blood tests?
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 5:25 pm
I wondered about that too.
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Bluejaxrock
Member
04-23-2004
| Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - 7:56 pm
Maybe the blood tests are to ensure "blood" relation. For instance, the "family" could be a bunch of friends who want to pretend they are a family unit in order to get their 15 minutes and not a mother/father with at least one "natural" child. (Am I explaining it right? Long day, no braincells left...lol)
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