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Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 8:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
I am never impressed with people who cheat the system. A couple in my family is unemployed and both getting different types of gov't funds is heading south for a week. This is the second time in 3 months. I am not impressed.

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 8:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
My new gripe is the same as my last gripe.

People have no manners.

I went to four weddings this summer. 3 out of town and to date I have received 1 thank you card.

One couple who married in May (out of town for me) are always going places and hanging out on facebook. Nothing from them. I flew to the wedding and instead them having a rehearsal dinner or a dinner for the out of town guests the night before the wedding, the wedding party went to see the new Sex in the City movie. I spent the night by myself.

What is wrong with people today.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 8:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I'm guessing that that was a rhetorical question? Cuz I have to say, you'd think you've seen it all when you are as old as I am and I NEVER CEASE TO BE AMAZED by people. Both by their rudeness and stupidity. Most especially, rudeness... Sigh.

Thank you for posting this. (hehehe!)

Sia
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03-10-2002

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 9:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sia a private message Print Post    
Along the lines of what was being discussed up-thread about people abusing the system, my DH has a relative who collects disability because he claims to be unable to work--yet he mows his yard with a push-mower, rides a motorcycle, and plays football in the yard with his friends. The guy is just in his mid 50s, I think. Hubby calls the guy "the healthiest disabled person he knows."

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 9:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Sia:
My uncle is a pot head and a pill popper, because of his abuse of these products, he's on disability, and the doctor gives him MORE pills and he has a med MJ script. And we pay for it. LOVELY.

Southern_grits
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10-08-2009

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 11:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Southern_grits a private message Print Post    
Re: People who abuse the system... sometimes they get theirs. My grandson has lived in my home with my son, husband, and me since August of last year and my son has had primary custody of gs and my gd since June. All this time, 14 months, ex-dil has drawn food stamps on both kids and WIC on the baby. My son finally got off his tookas and applied for food stamps and Tenncare, both of which he is legally entitled to, and took in his court papers showing he has custody, and which happened to show her income as of June. She told me last week she just doesn't understand why they are cutting her food stamps. Yeah, she quit her job the day she lost custody, but she kept drawing on two kids who lived somewhere else, and doesn't pay court ordered child support. My son got paperwork yesterday on the child support, the state is taking her to court.

Sometimes things even out without you having to do a darn thing.

I understand needing assistance and I feel if you need it you should use it. We waited 4 years for hubby's SDI and it was hell, without food stamps and veteran's food banks there were many a day we would have gone hungry. Even with it if he wasn't drawing military retirement too we would be living in our car. Literally.

Texasdeb
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05-23-2003

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 5:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texasdeb a private message Print Post    
yrs ago when the X & I divorced, we went for joint custody which meant neither paid child support to the other. We were married young and after 13 yrs of trying he just wasn't a good husband for me but that didn't take away from the fact that he was/is a very good father. The kids were 12,9, & 2. Thankfully, we were both go-getters and had gotten educations and developed good careers. Neither of us received any kind of assistance during the kid's upbringing and we didn't live close so whoever the kids were with, that parent basically was THE parent. X claimed the 2 oldest (he made more money than me so paid more taxed) & I claimed the youngest. I did get an income tax return ck for several yrs that was a big help....but, it was never more money than had been already deducted from my payroll for taxes and it was never as much as the taxes that I had already paid in. So.....I still had a tax obligation, just not as much as a single person that didn't have a child to claim.

Were all of these "today" assistance programs in place 20 or so yrs ago? If so, than I struggled to survive (sometime working 2 jobs) because of my own lack of knowledge..............Oh well, what's done is done and I still have my pride!

I'm all for taking care of the elderly and the children. I'm good with taking care of the disabled & handicaped. I want govmt. assistance available to folks that have lost their jobs due to nothing of their own doing.

How can the system be changed to make it easier for those with actual needs but at the same time, filter out the cheaters that have become so many IMO ?

Landileigh
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07-28-2002

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
yes, these programs were in place 20 years ago, i know because when the construction boom went kaput in 1991, we were trying then, and had the same hard time. my husband basically makes too much on unemployment or SDI to help benefit a 3 person household. now if i had another kid, it would have been another story. but they don't count those two furballs i have as children!

Texasdeb
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05-23-2003

Monday, October 18, 2010 - 6:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texasdeb a private message Print Post    
well...slap me!!!!!! As the old song goes.."I ain't askin nobody for nothin, if I can't get it on my own. If you don't like the way I'm livin, then just leave this long haired country boy(girl)alone"

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 8:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I am so tired of our damn weather, it's not even funny. We didn't really even have a summer (we might have 2-3 days of below normal but somewhat sunny days, and them 2 weeks of below normal no sun freezing days). And now? AND NOW? It's freaking WINTER!!! It's been almost 2 weeks and we've had only a few HOURS of sunshine. And it's STILL BEEN BELOW NORMAL.

Come on Mother Nature. I pay a freakin' "Paradise Tax" to live in San Diego. At least make it worth my while to pay that tax! Cuz this sucks. Rocks.

Ginger1218
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08-30-2001

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:04 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ginger1218 a private message Print Post    
Ok, I am furious. My best friend's son (who is like my blood - he knows me as Aunt Lynn) is in 1st grade. Two weeks ago, they sent home a note saying there was going to be a Halloween Party after school at 4:30 (the note came from the PTA) but on school property. It asked for $5 and said first come first served. My friend sent in the money that next morning. The next day they sent home the money with a note saying "sorry, too late", and now the child cannot go. I lost my mind when I heard this. First of all, how DARE they tell anyone they can't go? Even if a child had no money. You can't tell some yes and some no. That will break a child's heart. There are 783 children in the school, only 400 allowed to attend. And it seems it is just who the PTA mothers decide can go.
Welllllll that is not going to work for me. I called the school and got the Principal's "Bulldog" on the line who spouted a bunch of shit about permits. I don't care about permits, either allow them all - have 2 parties, or have none. Can't tell a child no.
So, I have gotten the Staten Island newspaper involved, called Channel 5 Shame on You, called the Senator's Office and called the Councilman's office. Had a lawyer who is speaking with the Principal today and telling him that a class action suit will be filed.
I am just furious.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Ginger, good for you! How can they do that? What does that say to a child????? I would raise HELL with the PTA leader.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
If all the kids cannot go then they should not have it (and I am sure some of the kids will be unable to attend for one reason or another) but give them all the oppourtunity to attend.

Karuuna
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08-30-2000

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
They should have divided the children by grades and had two parties. This is just so offensive.

You go, Ginger!!

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
You're a GREAT Aunt, Ginger! Yay to you for shaking things up!

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I agree with Dfennessey, if they can not, for one reason or another, let all the kids who want to attend, attend, then they shouldn't do it at all.

One thing I find weird is that out here our schools use stuff like that as a fund raiser. They charge a couple dollar fee to get in (things like dances at the jr high and spring and fall festival at the elementary school) and then have some free activities and some you pay a little bit of money for. They sell foods and drinks and at the jr high they sell something that goes along with the theme of whatever dance it is (glow necklaces for Halloween, lei's for the luau, etc.) The elementary school encourages the kids to bring their whole family and wants students who have moved on to new schools to come back and the jr high wants as many kids as possible to come cuz the more people the more money they raise for whatever they're trying to raise money for.

The only time I've ever heard of the number of people being limited was for the prom, at least back when I was in high school. Every other year the prom was hosted out of town at a nice hotel or the Queen Mary (that was my senior year) and the school limited the number of tickets sold because they also rented buses to take everyone down. But, the limit was always high enough that any jr or sr who wanted to go with a date could go.

Taysmomcj
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03-24-2008

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 10:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Taysmomcj a private message Print Post    
Good for you Ginger.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 11:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
OMG Ginger, really? They are limiting who can attend? How can they do that to elementary school kids? How will the kids understand? And isn't the PTA supposed to be for ALL kids at the school?

And you go girl! I'd call anyone and everyone and totally put pressure on the school and the PTA. They can't exclude kids like that!!

(I'm not even a 'rent and I'm po'd!)

Ginger1218
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08-30-2001

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 11:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ginger1218 a private message Print Post    
I know, I can't get past this. The town newspaper called me back. I am not letting this go.

Ginger1218
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08-30-2001

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 11:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ginger1218 a private message Print Post    
You can do what you want to me, but nobody hurts my Gianni. Oh no

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 12:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Someone lost sight of the fact that things like Halloween parties are for THE KIDS!!!!

Take it all the way to the top! And get some resolution. Your Gianni should definitely get to go to the party or the entire party should be cancelled!! And let's see the PTA explain THAT to the 400 kids they've preselected to attend! :-)

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 12:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I wonder how many other kids were excluded. I'd be calling parents and asking.

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 12:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
You may not be a 'rent Costa...but you're a cool AuntCat :-)

Babyruth
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07-19-2001

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 12:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Babyruth a private message Print Post    
Go get 'em, Ginger!!!

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, October 25, 2010 - 2:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
LOL Scooter. Yeah, I do the AuntCat thing pretty OK, huh? :-)

Escapee, let's do the math... 783 students. Assume a high end 20% can't attend. That would be, say, 160. So 783 students minus 400 (allowed to attend) minus 160 (unable to attend due to other reasons) leaves 223 students that may WANT to attend that cannot. That's a LOT of unhappy students!

(FWIW, I don't know if 20% not attending would be a high end value or not. Seems high to me. Seems like most 'rents would want their kids to attend Halloween parties at school. It's one of the safest places to be, yes?)