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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 7:48 pm
Glenn made a good point.....
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:24 pm
Glenn: She's thin and she can sew. However, I still think she suffers majorly from Post-partum depression. She has quite the temper tantrums flipping out episodes where you can't be around her. She says whatever she wants to anyone, but by god, don't say anything to her because she's sensitive and you'll hurt her feelings. I made the mistake of making a joke about relationships, and not about hers (something about 'yeah, cause it worked so great the first 20 times) And now my mom says I hurt her feelings. Nastily, I said GOOD.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Wednesday, September 01, 2010 - 6:38 pm
Escapee, thank you for your response. I first read it in the predawn hours this morning but I did not have time to respond. I found myself thinking all day today about sister relationships. My two sisters have always been the best of friends. My Mom was very close to her sister and we always spent a lot of time with my cousins when we were young. I thought about my daughters and their relationship with each other. The youngest has always been close to the two older sisters. In her late teens the middle sister turned rogue and while she kept a relationship with the younger sister, to this day there is a guarded distance between the two older sisters. About this time I realized how it mirrored their mom and the relationship between that set of sisters in many ways. You may see where my thoughts were headed to next. Do girls want to model their mommies. If I were a girl and saw my mom and her sister best friends, would I not consider any other possibilities. If I were a girl and saw my mom and her sister being nasty to each other, would I find myself thinking what are the flaws of my sister even though she is only two or three years old. What if you and your sister were unknowing victims of what you witnessed as a young person.? Are sisters ultimately the victims/winners of their mothers and aunts relationships. I think you have said you are the middle sister. I just want to make it clear that since my middle daughter has chosen to be the rogue that not all middle daugthers are destined to this role and I wasn't trying to imply you might be. I am pretty convinced I am the person responsible for my middle daughter taking the route she chose. Funny, but my middle daughter would have answered the same question I posed to you with the same answer. She would have said her sister was slim if I had asked her to give me something she would brag about her older sister. Of course with her I would have been able to say try again because what you are saying to me is as much a complaint about your sister as it is something to acknowledge her for. Since you forgot to mention what your sister would brag to others about you, would you mind if I were to guess her response? My guess is that your sister would say that your life revolves around your family and you take very good care of your family and that you can bake like crazy.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, September 01, 2010 - 8:02 pm
My aunt is nuts "Crazy McNutty" and my she's usually always mad at my mom for some reason or another, although my mom does nothing to provoke it. My sister would never say a good word about me to others. it's not her nature. She'll find the worst in you and elaborate on it. She's not a nice person. She's never once in her life done the 'right' thing if it was not the right thing for her. She's been coddled all her life because she can turn on the need for sympathy and my grandma and mom feed right into it. I've never gone to her with a need, but if she's going through crisis, she will dump all over everyone. She's never really had any close friends that were female but wasn't a stranger to the 'men'. I figure she has low self-esteem, she's insecure, and that's why she wants others to be miserable too. Like I said, I feel very sorry for her, but that's what she wants.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Thursday, September 02, 2010 - 12:12 pm
I am getting so sick of going to doctors offices. No, actually I am so sick of waiting for so long past my appt times. I think I'm rather polite. I show up for appts 25-30 minutes early, I don't mind waiting til my appt time either since I'd rather be early than late. I'm not unreasonable either. If I wait 10-15 minutes past my appt time, I understand drs get busy, behind, or end up with a patient who needs extra time. And if I take the kids for an urgent care appt, I know we'll have to wait because they've squeezed us in between regular appts and other urgent care appts. I also get that drs have to double book more and more often, though it ticks me off, it really can't be helped. But, all in all, ugh! Kids had dermatology appts this morning at 10 and 10:10 (though they call them back at the same time and see them in the same room.) We were only 10 minutes early today because I misjudged how long it'd take at the high school to pick Caleb up. There were four people in the waiting room. And we waited. They didn't get us in til 10:45. As we're sitting there, there are two phone calls from people running late and another woman complaining that she'd been waiting 20 minutes (even though she was 15 minutes late for her appt!) I don't mind waiting cuz the dr needs extra time with a patient, or like I said if it's a same day urgent care appt, but I am really getting tired of waiting cuz other people are inconsiderate. It's been like this at the derms office for probably the last 8-9 months and the kids pediatrician's office is worse. Last time we were there for their physical, we waited over an hour. That was an appt that had been scheduled for a month. I really don't get why drs allow this to happen. They should have a standing policy, late once ok things happen, but more often, sorry you'll have to reschedule and come back when you can be on time. Not fair to other patients to have to wait cuz you are rude! Also ticks me off to be sitting there waiting and waiting and seeing a medical sales rep come strolling out. One of my aunts drs has a standing policy that they'll only see the reps for 2 hours one day a week (Wed from 10-12) and that's the only time they'll see them. They won't schedule appts for patients during that time either. I like that!
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Thursday, September 02, 2010 - 3:29 pm
Me too. I'm usually 10 - 15 minutes early for appointments. There was one doctor I saw about 4 - 5 times who was always late for appointments. It wasn't at all necessarily that she was running late because of appointments. Once she was exactly one hour late for my appointment. When she finally came into exam room she just started telling me about problems in her personal life. ???? For that and other reasons, I called clinic and complained about her. She was truly no good.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, September 02, 2010 - 3:43 pm
I don't like it when people are late but also when they are early. My docs have it where you sign in when you show up and they call you from that list. So if I have a 1:15 appt and get there at 1:10, but the 1:30 appt signed in at 1:00, the 1:30 appt will get to go first. People should just come on time. Not early. Not late. What I try to do when I can is take the very first appt in the day or right after lunch. THat usually helps a bit....
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Thursday, September 02, 2010 - 4:15 pm
"So if I have a 1:15 appt and get there at 1:10, but the 1:30 appt signed in at 1:00, the 1:30 appt will get to go first." I hate it when they do that. What's the point of giving you appointment times if they don't stick to it?! I think they should always use the appointment times unless say it's 1.20 and the 1.15 person hasn't arrived - then if the 1.30 person is there they should go in.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Thursday, September 02, 2010 - 10:10 pm
Heh, I can't remember the last time I was called in at my appt time, let alone early! The derms office goes by appt time, so if I get there 30 minutes early for my appt and someone walks in 10 minutes later with an earlier appt than me, they get called back first. But, if someone is late, the receptionist checks which patients are there at that moment and when they all get called back, then late person does. Which then pushes back the appts of everyone who comes in after the person who was late. LOL, in terms of waiting, the best appt we've had lately was last month when Kota had her eye infection and I had to take her to urgent care (which is a different dr than hers.) I did have probs, but it wasn't waiting. The receptionist at the peds office, and she was not the usual receptionist, insisted I had to take her to urgent care, even though I am supposed to take her to the ped during normal business hours according to the way our insurance is set up. The urgent care, said wait, she's supposed to see her ped unless it's after business hours or on a weekend (this was a Monday or Tuesday morning.) Urgent care called ped, the not usual receptionist got rude, back and forth it went. Finally urgent care told me they'd see Kota, go have a seat. We'd no sooner set down than they called us back. I was kinda glad the peds office screwed up, lol, we'd have been sitting there at least an hour, if not two waiting to get squeezed in. Even with the drive to Palmdale and back home, the phone calls back and forth, and a stop by the pharmacy we were done in 40 minutes or so.
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Cablejockey
Member
12-27-2001
| Friday, September 03, 2010 - 4:35 am
I hate waiting too for such a long long time to see one particular doctor. It just smacks of poor planning and no respect for the patients! If I am seeing Dr. for some routine thing and I find out that he hasnt been called to the hospital or something along those lines, I tell them I have another appt that I dont want to be late for and I leave.
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Tishala
Member
08-01-2000
| Friday, September 03, 2010 - 4:47 pm
Today, near the end of class, I caught one of my students reading something totally unrelated to class, so I asked her to please close the book and put it away. Then I decided, ya know what? It's near the end of class, I'm annoyed, and I'm just going to let them leave for the day. After class, the student comes up to me to talk about something unrelated. I asked her why she would be doing that in class and she had to realize it was disrespectful to the other people in the class who were trying to engage in a conversation and learn something. "I was multitasking," she said. I was bewildered. "Seriously? Whatever made you think a classroom is a place to multitask?" Then I told the student I wasn't going to address her question she had for me because I was so appalled--she'd have to email me and I'd get back to her. I don't think I'm irrational about this: yes, it's college and you can make decisions to go to class or not, to pay attention or not, to study or not, but when you're reading something in a small class (20 students) and you get busted, you say sorry and move on. Multitasking? I still can't believe she said it.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, September 03, 2010 - 9:04 pm
Tishala, was she done with the her work and were others still working on stuff? The way I see it is that if she was quietly doing something once her work was done and not being disruptive, what's the harm? When I was in college, the instructors would often ask us to quietly work on something else when we finished our work as to not disrupt anyone else.
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Tishala
Member
08-01-2000
| Friday, September 03, 2010 - 10:14 pm
No. The class was engaged in discussion.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Saturday, September 04, 2010 - 4:11 am
Tishala, in most of my courses, class participation was weighed heavily in grading. Sometimes it was as much as 20% of the total grade. If yours is, you could suggest to the girl that she's starting out with the maximum possibility of earning a B at best...
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Saturday, September 04, 2010 - 10:15 am
Tishala, I recently read an article that multitasking means you don't do either task well. I think I would have been tempted to teach her a lesson, ask her to answer a question that was being discussed when she wasn't paying attention, then when she gets it wrong, Say, I see that the multitasking didn't serve you well today. Multitasking is not permitted in my class for this reason, you won't learn either task you are attempting, or something like that. "multitasking" is why everyone thinks they need to text and telephone in the car, instead of driving. The car should be a place where you can escape the intrusions of the phone, I don't know why people want to change that. It seems people can't stand to be alone with their thoughts anymore, that's what I used to do driving. Listen to music, think about things and pay attention to the road. Oh well, this wasn't your gripe, LOL, can you tell it is mind.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, September 04, 2010 - 11:22 am
Most of my classes were set up the same as Hukd's classes. Even had one who marked down each time we participated, lol. Besides being rude to the teacher and rest of the class and not learning anything herself from the discussion going on, that was a waste of money! Someone (her, a parent, scholarship, whatever) is paying for her to be there and she's just squandering it away. Whats the point of being there if she's not trying to get as much from the class as she can? If she wanted to read something else, she could have skipped class, obviously would have done just as much good for her since she wasn't getting anything from the discussion at that point!
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Saturday, September 04, 2010 - 5:47 pm
I'd be careful about asking her a question - I've had a kid answer it spot on because they managed to talk AND listen at the same time...however, when I asked the kid next to them a different question, they couldn't, and THAT was the lesson. She might be able to multi-task but those around her are distracted and NO ONE is allowed to disrupt anyone else's education. ETA: I'd also be totally ticked at the student. I am SO glad we have a "no cell phone" rule. Between the starting bell and ending bell for the day, kids cannot have a phone on their person or we can confiscate it.
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Saturday, September 04, 2010 - 9:19 pm
Teach I sure wish my youngest bonus daughter's school did that. I've caught her posting on Facebook during school hours. I'm in a quandry as to quit putting texting on her Go Phone and knowing that unlimited texting is the ONLY way we can be sure she can contact us anytime day or night. [Will not get into the crap the birth vessel pulls with phone usage to us.] She's very good at texting with her cell under the table, desk, etc. We have a no cell at the table when we are eating rule at my house. [SIL got upset cuz I asked HER an ADULT to shut her phone off or leave the table for good - I don't even allow leaving the table to take a call or text somebody then coming back to the table. Still rude as heck! exception to every rule but everyday texting and phone calls are NOT the exception.]
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 11:49 am
It's been a real debate, I'll tell ya'. We KNOW cell phones are used by parents to contact kids, but I'm always amazed at how many parents text their kids DURING THE SCHOOL DAY! Hello! If it's an emergency, call the office; if it's not, wait until later. However, the big issue is that kids can cheat, text WITHOUT LOOKING while taking tests, take pictures in locker rooms, etc. etc. etc. We had a "not used" policy, but even if the phones were in their pockets, we couldn't do anything. This new policy is much simpler. HOWEVER - I'm betting the "punishment" is going to create an uproar. It used to be, we confiscated it and the parent had to pick it up in the office and the kid served a detention. NOW - we confiscate it, and the kid has to serve a 4 hour Saturday school. They can't get the phone back until AFTER they've served the detention...AND we only have Sat. school twice a month. Theoretically, a kid would be w/out the phone for up to two weeks. I can see a parent being REALLY, REALLY upset - especially since they're paying for a phone they can't use. My guess is that part of the "policy" is gonna' come crashing down pretty quickly. Admin. says that since they're sending a letter to parents about new policy their butts are covered, but we all know how well things get read, and this is a MONEY thing. No way parents will take it quietly! I'm not sure which is going to be more entertaining - having a simple policy that ensures I do NOT have to tolerate cell phones in my classroom OR watching the fireworks when parents finally figure out what it REALLY means! 
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 11:52 am
FWIW, my DS and I often text back and forth while he is in school. In many of his classes they get a period of free time, and he generally completes his work long before others do. He's very responsible, so it doesn't concern me a bit.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 12:50 pm
I don't see any difference between a kid texting in class at an inappropriate time and a kid talking to the kid in the desk next to him at an inappropriate time. Both should be handled the same way (with detention or some other consequence). I don't agree with confiscation of personal property.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 1:24 pm
I find the "tap tap tap" sound of texting to be annoying. I don't like to sit near somebody who is doing it. I find it to be distracting.
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Rissa
Member
03-19-2006
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 2:04 pm
I text my kids updates during the day (if necessary) because my memory is fleeting. LOL But the understanding is that their cell phones are in their lockers and they will get the messages during lunch or after school. I have made it crystal clear to them that if the school catches them using their phones during school that not only will I not argue with confiscation but my children will pay me each month for the phone bill i will be paying for a phone I have no use of. My only complaint with the school rules is that they forbid the phones on property 100% and the kids are not allowed to use them even during lunch. I think that anytime you make a rule so restrictive that you know everyone will break it.. well it's just silly. A responsible kid will keep the phone on silent and only use it off school grounds then what's the problem? Make reasonable rules to ensure education is not hampered and there are no disruptions.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 2:34 pm
Ours isn't quite that restrictive - before and after school are fine, but not between the opening and closing bells (thus - no lunch time). They decided no lunch because it's too hard to get them back in the lockers afterward (the phones, that is - not the kids! LOL). Ahhh - hadn't thought of that, Rissa. Since I teach, I can catch my kid between classes, so I've literally never had to text him anything. Karuuna - but what if he were to text his friends that are in the same class next block with test questions/answers? Obviously, I'm not saying your son would do this, but it is way too difficult to monitor who a student is texting and what they are texting when there are 30 kids in a class. The classroom is a much different place than it was 10 years ago, isn't it?? 
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, September 05, 2010 - 2:42 pm
they dont have school lockers anymore. Only gym lockers. Cels, etc have to be off and in backpacks. If my son is breaking rules in class I agree he needs to be punished but I dont want phone taken away. That inconviences ME. If after breaking rule and being punished once and he did it again then it could be taken away and parent has to pick it up.
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