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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 5:40 am
ITA with everything said above Kar. Find someone new, and be done with the drama. Thanks everyone for your input. I called them back yesterday and RSVP'd for the dinner and I'm going to take the lap with the rest of the Survivors.
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Hermione69
Member
07-23-2002
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 5:53 am
I agree as well, Karuuna. The drama is not worth it. Hire Whoami! Yay Taysmom! I'm glad that is your decision.
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 7:02 am
There is no way in hell I would take that from a vendor. Life is too short, and I'd rather send my money to a contractor who appreciates the work and knows how to treat a paying customer. (\strongly suspects Karuuna didn't even get a Christmas basket from this gal LOL)
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 7:42 am
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I told her last night that I was terminating her contract, and then oddly enough, she agreed I was right about everything, that she had over-reacted and behaved badly. Then she thanked me for how good I had been to her over the years. And the truth is, I had forgotten how good I had been. I *gave* her money for a plane ticket when a relative died unexpectedly. I personally loaned her money several times. For years vendors got a big party and a bonus when we were successful. She listed all those things and thanked me. And oddly enough, she did not ask for the work back. My sense is that even tho she kept saying how much she liked the work in her last note, she really wanted to be done with it, and maybe because I have been so nice, she just acted out until I canned her. <shakes head> People make me crazy sometimes. Gemma, I will certainly keep you in mind when we are in the market again! Hukd, truth is, she has always been very irresponsible with money (see the above about not having a credit card for a plane ticket when a relative died, or needing personal loans). I finally drew the line when she asked me to loan her money to get her car air conditioning fixed because it was too uncomfortable. I told her to get used to having the windows open and carry a bottle of cold water. Seriously. And to get a credit card or emergency savings fund going. Apparently she didn't even have $500 to fix the car. Costacat, for the vendors/subs that do ongoing weekly work, they are paid *weekly* for the work done the previous week. It's a very good arrangement for them. Yes, GAL, no fruit basket, not even a card. LOL But now I've gotten another nice Email from her saying how wonderful I have been to her over the years, and how she will always think highly of me. Go figure. 
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 9:37 am
Do you think it is because she wants to go on unemployment and had to be fired in order to collect?
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Grooch
Member
06-16-2006
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:23 am
I think she wants to use Karuuna for a good reference.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:36 am
GROOOOOOCH!!!!!!
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:38 am
Why are you yelling Scoot?
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Grooch
Member
06-16-2006
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:44 am
SCOOTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:44 am
So Grooch hears me of course!!!!! LOL
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 12:16 pm
Scoot you be nice to my friend Grooch and Grooch you be nice to my friend Scoot And Scoot don't forget to go read your folder
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 12:40 pm
OG, she can't collect unemployment. For one, she has another job. For two, she had her own business, and I hired her as a subcontractor, not an employee. That income is also not subject to unemployment. I just think she wanted out, bottom line and didn't want to take responsibility for that decision. It's just fascinating to me that she was all upset about possibly getting one $40 check a week late, but isn't phased at all about completely losing the income permanently. Grooch, nice to see ya, and LOL, she will get no reference from me!
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 12:40 pm
Kar said the woman worked on contract? So she's not an employee? If so, then no unemployment?
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 1:56 pm
Sounds like she wanted to be fired.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 5:48 pm
sounds like she is a loon
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 9:01 pm
that too ...
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Gemma120in2002
Member
07-05-2003
| Thursday, July 22, 2010 - 3:05 am
Pamy! I think you hit it right on the head! LOL! Karuuna, Congratulations on getting rid of the baggage you were carrying around! I bet you feel much better!
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Jmm
Moderator
08-16-2002
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 1:26 am
Help, please. I'm going to the memorial service for Urgrace's son today and I need to know if dress pants are acceptable in a Baptist church.
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Lexie_girl
Member
07-30-2004
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 2:54 am
In the Catholic church, dress pants are acceptable. In fact, over the last few years, the dress has gotten much more casual-especially during the summer when a lot of people will wear khakis. I went to a memorial service back in March when the weather was a little nippy and it was on a Friday, and there were a few people that showed up wearing dress jeans because it was "casual Friday" at work and they came on their lunch hour. It doesn't matter what you wear. Just being there for your friend is what counts.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 3:40 am
Jmm I doubt if clothing will matter. Wear dress pants. I didn't know Urgrace's son had died. Prayers for her family.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 5:30 am
Jmm, with experience with TX Baptist churches, you will be fine. give her a hug for me!
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 9:10 am
Jmm, thanks for going, pls let her know we are all there with her in spirit. I think pants are acceptable in any church these days. I am always surprised at how some of the young girls go to church but figure God doesnt care so why should I.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 10:22 am
JMM, I think you will be completely fine at a Baptist church.. and if the service isn't already happening and you were still getting dressed, I'd say you could just call the church office and ask. As for Catholic churches.. it is best to check. I met a Filipino couple a few years ago at the senior center and just adored both of them. They were devout catholics, as in the went to mass, in LATIN, every single morning and attended other services. Their church was one that is quite fundamental in their beliefs. Anyway, Rudy always had severe heart problems as long as I knew him, less than half function. He had been a well known musician here and in the Phillipines, the band leader. Played trombone, sax, piano. So when he died I went to the rosary service and the wake. I went back and forth.. I could wear black pants or a dark teal long skirt and top.. I went with the teal. Well.. when I got there I was handed a little pamphlet about the church. I noted that most were in black, but not all, thankfully, but I didn't see pants on women, just dresses/skirts. Most had head coverings and not just token ones. Later I was reading the pamphlet and indeed it was considered disrespectful for women to wear pants. There were tons of other rules, cover the head and it went on and on. So I was happy I chose the other option. But for Kit's memorial, I'm sure you were totally fine, Jmm and I'm glad you were there. And I agree with Pamy.. ==== Kar, what an odd thing, huh? Almost like she was looking for an excuse .. seems like it should work out for the best that you parted ways now.
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Jmm
Moderator
08-16-2002
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 6:03 pm
I went with nice pants and blouse and it was fine. I gave her love from everyone.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Saturday, July 24, 2010 - 6:16 pm
I know she appreciated you being there Jmm. I never met Urgrace. My neighbors have a 2 1/2 year old son with CP. I think of Urgrace when I see the family together. There is a 5 year old big sister who helps take care of her brother.
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