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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, June 12, 2010 - 9:47 am
I doubt anyone wants anyone to feel bad. That is why the 2 card things works so well. If someone wants to pass on the one with a donation, they can. And some people, such as Jehovahs Witnesses, will not even just sign a bday card. For the 2010 Census, I am working as a crew leader. The group I am supervising got me a card, cupcakes and flowers when it was my b-day. (I am pretty sure just one or two people went in on buying the card/flowers/cupcakes) but all others signed the card. Except one guy who was a JW. He would not eat a cupcake either.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, June 12, 2010 - 9:49 am
Why is it taking credit by signing your name to a card with a group gift but not an individual gift? my son had a JW teacher one year. She would not accept birthday or Christmas gifts. (she did however accept an end of the year gift! LOL)
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Saturday, June 12, 2010 - 12:24 pm
True for me Julieboo, most of the time we are doing a baby shower or wedding shower, we don't do it for birthdays (b-days are just a card signed by whoever wants to). Since we have 500 people in our building, some thought goes in to who will be invited. Typically only those who know or work with the recipient, it is not a blanket invite. There are always thank you cards from the recipients. When someone retires or leaves for a new job we send out an invite and go for no host cocktails at Embassy Suites.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Saturday, June 12, 2010 - 3:23 pm
One card from everyone.
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Sunday, June 13, 2010 - 12:06 am
@ Happymom, My 16 year old daughter has had a friend at her birthday party every year since they were 7 or 8. What a sweet story!!! Clearly both your daughter and her friend understand that the pleasure of her company is truly the most awesome gift of all. Kudos to them. Thanks for making my day.
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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Sunday, June 13, 2010 - 9:16 am

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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Sunday, June 13, 2010 - 9:19 am
(In my earlier post about the situation in the classrooms, I meant that the teachers are the gift recipients.)
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:03 pm
2 Questions regarding handi-cap parking There are two ladies I work with. One has a daughter who is disabled (Cerebral Palsey or something similar) and the daughter is wheelchair bound. The mom drives a wheelchair accessible van. I don't think the mom is handi-capped, but she always uses one of the two handi-cap spaces at work. The other space is taken up by a lady who claims she has frequent seizures, always seems in constant pain, and pops 100 pills a day. She says she's disabled, has the placquard on her car and uses the other space. This is the same woman who walked for two hours at yesterday's relay for life and rides her harley all over the place. This really perturbs me for people who actually cannot walk across the parking lot. I want to say something to HR, but don't want to come off as discriminitory over these two ladies who are abusing the system. It just angers me for other people who may visit the office or have had recent surgeries (like the gal who broke her ankle and is hobbling across the lot, even though she has a temp placquard). It's really bugging me lately. Should I say something to HR? Grrrr.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:07 pm
I think the mother is definitely abusing the situation. The other lady might be more of a grey area.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:07 pm
That's a shame they have to abuse the system like that Escapee. I have a placard for WhosMom. But it never even occurs to me to use it when I'm out by myself, even when there are no parking spaces, or when my knees are bugging me big time. We only used the placard once since we got it (8 years ago) for someone other than for when WhosMom was with us. It was to pick up my aunt (who is 10 years older than my mom) at the airport, and there really was no parking close by. And yes, we admit she was fit enough to walk further, but we were out of options finding a space. IIRC, the nearby parking garages were all filled (and we drove in/out of the terminal lots several times in search of a spot), and the only available spaces were the far away outlying lots.
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:09 pm
Perhaps another handicapped space or two could be made.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:11 pm
Yeah when I dated my blind beau, I only used the placard when he was in the car and when parking in a regular spot would entail much zigging and zagging to get to the sidewalk/storefront/whatever. Can you say something to HR that is anonymous? Like encourage the mom to not park in the spot if her daughter isn't with her? (Technically, isn't it illegal for her to use the space when the daughter isn't there?) As for the other lady, when there are people who need the space, such as the broken ankle gal, can someone encourage her to park further away since she seems to be able to walk just fine?
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:14 pm
Costa, I think to 'encourage' her to park elsewhere would be discriminotory (since I work for HR, but not high ranking, LOL). She's the kind that is just waiting for someone to say something to her, ya know? I am close with my boss, I may ask about it, off the record.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:25 pm
I wonder if you could get a result in a roundabout way, for example go to HR and ask whether there could be another handicapped space made, as you've noticed the girl with the broken ankle having to walk all the way across the car park because the handicapped spots are full. If you could get HR to send an email to everyone regarding h/c places, apologising for the current lack of space, and saying that they hope to resolve the issue by creating a new handicapped space soon, then maybe those who are using them but don't need them will notice there's an issue and park somewhere else for a while. But I think you'd have to wait for them to make the decision by themselves.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 2:41 pm
Escapee, why don't you call the cops on her? You can do it anonymously. 
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 3:37 pm
Escapee, in my opinion the woman who parks in the handicapped spot while using her daughter's placard is abusing the privilege of having the placard. It is intended for use while the disabled person is in the vehicle, whether or not that person is the driver or a passenger. The lady who parks in handicapped parking while able to walk for two hours and ride a motorcycle is definitely abusing the privilege, too. It sounds to me like she doesn't NEED a handicapped parking permit! I like OG's idea of suggesting that a couple of new parking spaces be added for disabled/injured working. Does the lot also provide for stork parking for expectant women or a new mom who is coming into the building with a baby or toddler? Under the guise of proposing additional parking (whether or not it's realistic to think the company would add the spaces), can you make an anonymous suggestion via the suggestion box, etc.? I wouldn't want either of the women to accuse you of being out of line--and I don't think you are; you just don't need the aggravation of having someone like that on your back. Someone who abuses her parking privileges when there are needier people who could use the space wouldn't think twice of being difficult with you, I'm willing to bet.
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Landileigh
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 4:56 pm
it is against the law in California if the placard is used by any other person than by whom it was issued to/for. So in the case of the mom with the van, it was issued for the daughter. if she is not in the vehicle or being used to transport her (drop off/pick up) it is against the law. You MUST carry your DMV authorization with you at all times to verify this with a police officer if asked. I know, I have one. With Stage 4 CKD, i get exhausted with walking more than a few steps at times. I NEED that handicapped spot! Also you must qualify for a handicapped placard. The person who has seizures, may not be exhibiting signs that you can see (I don't to people either), but still needs that spot, depending on the day/time it becomes necessary. Just because you can't SEE a handicap, doesn't mean it isn't there!
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 5:06 pm
some days I wish my fibromylgia pain would show up as big gaping bloody wounds all over my body then maybe ppl that think cuz I still smile, still walk, still do things, wouldnt think I was faking if I parked in a handicapped stall. Just cuz you cant see a handicap doesnt mean there isnt one. Just cuz someone can walk ok today doesnt mean it doesnt hurt like hell and doesnt mean they can walk as much next day. I worked my ass off for my son's party, no one would know I was in pain, smiled laughed and even danced. that night I layed in the bed and cried from the pain and on sunday I was dead to the world.
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Panda
Member
07-15-2005
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 5:12 pm
(((Pamy))))
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 5:32 pm
(((Pamydoll))) You described what I live with to a Tee. Good days are great and bad days are HELL.
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 5:41 pm
The lady that is using her DAUGHTER's placard, turn her in. The lady that "seems" not to need it, not really any of your business. Obviously she has enough medical problems that a doctor sees fit to issue it to her. If her concious allows her to use IF she doesn't need it, then nothing you can say to her will change her mind. And legally there's not much you can do. Just cuz you cant see a handicap doesnt mean there isnt one. Just cuz someone can walk ok today doesnt mean it doesnt hurt like hell and doesnt mean they can walk as much next day. AMEN! My hubby is in pain EVERY day. He has Disabled Veteran's plates on both our vehicles. Sometimes the general public can see he's in pain. Most of the time, no. I see it in his eyes. The comments we get when he's walking into the building are terrible. [Unless it's really really bad he doesn't use his cane as it's much easier for him to push a cart than use a cane. But he refuses to wait while I go get him a cart unless there is one next to the car/truck.] Then there are the people that get pissy with him when he parks close to the door but NOT in a handicapped spot. Like if there is no handicapped spots available, but a non handicapped spot he's shit outta luck and shouldn't be allowed to park anywhere but in a handicapped spot. THEN there was the woman at Meijer who called me a selfish racist beech. I came out of Meijer after being in there about an hour. This lady sees me putting my groceries in the trunk, and goes off on me. I'm selfish because I have handicapped plates and parked in the closest spot not handicapped. [Didn't matter that there were NO handicapped spots available when I parked and I wouldn't use them because of the fact that I am not a veteran nor am I disabled so I shouldn't park in handicapped spots.] I'm racist because I parked in the spot I did so she couldn't have it. [Again, it was SIXTY MINUTES AFTER I parked and she was just getting to the store, but I parked there to keep it from her.] AS far as being a beech, I'm not sure but maybe the fact I rolled my eyes and kept on putting groceries in the trunk. Her son was translating and appologizing at the same time. Poor kid, told him not to worry about it.
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 6:11 pm
I would say something about the woman who uses her daughter placard. That is just wrong. A lot of people here know I too have daughter who is in a wheelchair. I don't even have a placard for her. My reasoning for not having one is simple in my mind. I am not handicapped. I can very easily load her into her wheelchair anywhere in a parking lot and push her in. There is no struggle for her because she is riding in the chair and no struggle for me, I am very able to make the walk. I actually have to defend that reasoning at work often. Co-workers are forever telling me I deserve to have those spaces for my daughter. I guess in a way they are right. But I would feel as if I was taking that space from someone who really did need it. Someone who had to struggle with the walk. So yes, I would rat her out in heartbeat.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 7:21 pm
(((Serate, Panda, Mame)))
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 7:31 pm
My mil has the placard, my aunt doesn't though she definitely qualifies. With aunt, most of the time I just don't see a need for it as I can drop her off at the door and get her inside as easily as using a handicap spot. These days I insist she use a wheelchair when I take her out to the drs and again, just as easy to park wherever I want, get her in the chair and push her, plus I figure it frees up one of the few handicap spots for someone who doesn't have anyone helping them like my aunt does me. My mil is one of those people like Pamy and Serate's hubby (sorry if I missed anyone.) A lot of the time there is no visible sign she has any handicaps or pain, she may be able to go in a store and shop for hours, but may be practically crawling by the time she leaves. And it's not that doing too much (too much walking, too much shopping) triggers her episodes, she's had times where she's just fine and then 10 minutes later not fine. No telling how long those "fine" moments will last. It's always amazing to me some of the looks we'll get on those days when she looks perfectly fine or how shocked some are (like her nail lady) when they finally see some sign of the pain and disability she lives with. Mil has left her placard in my car on occassions and it'd never ever occur to me to use it for a handicap parking spot. There are just too many people who need those spots and using someone elses is abusing it.
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Landileigh
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, June 14, 2010 - 10:04 pm
i use the grocery cart like a walker, so I can usually handle most stores. If they don't have them, i don't shop there. someone usually goes with me when I shop, so that if I'm really out of it, I can ride the store scooters and they can push the cart. With Chuck laid up right now, and Holly working the catering of the US Open, I'm SOOL. anyone want to come help me shop? I need milk, potatoes and onions.
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