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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 2:46 pm
When he was in middle school, they were going on a field trip (overnight) and he was on the bus. His mom, literally stood in front of the bus forbidding it to leave because his dad was on the way to tell him goodbye and to have a good field trip. Dad was running late. AUDACITY MUCH? Then, when they got where they were going, the kids were told to shut their cell phones off, and anyway most didn't work anyway in the hills. His mother called the school LIVID that she could not talk to her son when she wanted to. First of all, how friggin embarrassing.
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Y2krazy
Member
09-17-2002
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 4:39 pm
I used to wonder from where had Escapee escaped. Now I realize it's the gene pool she could have inherited. She could have been her Aunt Nutsy's daughter....OMG!! Sorry, Escapee. I understand your frustration. I'm glad your children recognize the bad behavior for what it is. Poor spelling and grammar bother me, too, but not on-line....it's casual conversation, but in a formal setting or business....then it bothers me. I try to use good spelling and grammar always, but I'm certainly not perfect.
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Tishala
Member
08-01-2000
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 5:21 pm
Strunk and White's Elements of Style. The best and most inexpensive college text I purchased, and the only one I still have. When I teach composition, it's what I have my students get, too. It's not in fashion now because composition pedagogy experts regard it as too prescriptive, but I tell my students I would prefer they learn the most correct way to write before they start tweaking rules. Besides, I don't pretend to care what composition pedagogy experts have to say--comp is only a tertiary teaching gig for me. The only real online grammar thing drives me nuts is when people misuse semicolons and colons, and that's simply because it's such a conscious stylistic choice and not a shorthand like writing "cuz" or "prolly," etc. I'd much prefer to see people drop the artifice if they don't know how to use them properly. But I make typos/type the wrong word all the time (as i was writing this, I accidentally typed "must" instead of "much" for example).
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 6:15 pm
Escapee, is this boy the brother of your niece that wears the skimpy clothes?
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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 7:01 pm
Escapee, those kids are probably going to have a tough time for awhile. They will, however, learn from natural consequences when they are out on their own. If they aren't home schooled, they probably already have to a degree even if there isn't evidence of it. Their mom sure isn't doing them any favors. That's a sad situation right there. But not the worst. As for you having to lie about riding and having to put up with all of this re your Gma, at least it won't be forever since the kids are teens. I know she is important to you, but you could just not worry about it and not lie about things and if the boys find out you are riding, well..what is the worst that would happen? Do they live with your Gma? Re "So aunt won't let my cousin take any classes that require a term paper because she doesn't want to have to write a term paper." How the heck would anyone even know if they would be required to write a term paper before they start college? Weird. That mom is the most extreme helicopter mom I've ever heard of. (embarrassingly I am ending a sentence with a preposition)
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 7:16 pm
The aunt is going to help them cheat by writing their term papers for them? 
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, April 27, 2010 - 8:48 pm
Exactly Jimmer. She sees it as helping. The niece with the skimpy clothes is the daughter of my cousin (raised with us almost as a sister, so her daughter considers me her aunt) No, these boys do not live with Gma. They live with their parents about 25 miles away. Helicopter doesn't cover it, it's more Chinook or Huey. RE: Gene pool...my mom swears she used to be normal then had an accident on a horse and it changed her, that and all her years taking child psychology classes.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 9:55 am
Pippin, I wanted to revisit your issue at your office. I think you were right in firing the disloyal employees. How are things going now? It's been a week since the upheaval; I hope things are settling into a good routine.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 10:32 am
I will come work for you Pippin!
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Pippin04
Member
10-26-2007
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 9:54 am
Thanks for all the encouragement. We promoted two employees to management and they are each running half the office. We hired 8 new people (4 are summer students) and have just found a new bookkeeper. Things are much better and I will hire anyone who wants to move here there is always room for people who want to work hard.
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 10:20 am
Pippin, I didn't see your post last week but kudos to you for immediately protecting yourself from those vipers. The ingratitude is just mind boggling and is something I will never understand.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:08 am
My gripe today is about people who drop by your house without calling ahead. My family is guilty of this but lately my inlaws have started to do it also. I missed Lost and DH and I couldn't go for our walk until 10 p.m. I passed on the walk cause there is no way I am going on a 2 mile walk that late. Also I am tired of eating my dinner while people just sit there and watch me eat or I wait to eat and my dinner is ice cold. Hubs says I am being a B about all of this and I should be thankful that I have a family.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:33 am
I have showed up at peoples houses without calling (but only the people that I know do not mind if i do) and if I see them getting dinner ready I will not stay. and trust me if it is a work night I WILL NOT stay late anyways, but I do understand what you are saying Maplsyrp
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:55 am
I really never minded until it started to get out of hand. Certain members of my family are currently not speaking to me because they refuse to "make an appointment" (call ahead) before they drop by. One of my brothers kept stopping by, helping himself to our beer and staying too late during the week. We would have to give him a ride home sometimes and he lives 30 minutes away. My mother is still angry at me because she showed up and we weren't there. She called on my cell and wanted to know where we were and when we would be back. She actually had the nerve to tell me that we needed to call and let her know when we were going somewhere so she would not make a trip over to our house.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:59 am
I am not that bad.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:06 am
I have to admit that I much prefer people to call ahead. But then I have to work on my hermit tendencies. 
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:15 am
Most people aren't. My family is extremely dysfunctional. Most of the time I have to laugh about it or I would be in therapy 24/7. I could always count on my inlaws to act normal but lately not so much. They are always at our house and DH will not say anything and won't let me say anything either. Oh well, thanks for letting me gripe. I feel much better. (Free therapy, LOL)
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:28 am
LOL - You're welcome. I think there are two different kinds of drop in people. The kind that bothers me are the ones who expect you to drop what you are doing and change your plans to accommodate them. Then there are the kind of drop in people who come by for a little visit but are more than happy to let you continue with whatever you are doing and/or join in the fun. That's much better. So if you are just about to watch your favorite TV show and the person says, "Great! Mind if I watch with you?" it's a lot different than the person saying "Ugh! I hate that show."
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Ladytex
Member
09-27-2001
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:30 am
I'm with ya Maplsyrp ... if you don't call first, I may not answer the door ... just sayin ...
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:30 am
I am the second type of person Jim. And I do have people that will just drop in on my too without calling
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Rissa
Member
03-19-2006
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 7:37 am
I just don't answer the door. I love having company but call first or the only thing you will be visiting is my front porch. LOL To be honest I have very rarely had to test this because my family, friends and in-laws are not the type to drop by unannounced anyway. The only people who show up at my door are salesmen and they can darn well turn right around. I am a woman alone so answering the door doesn't seem like the smartest idea and by the time I can see who is there, they can see me.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 8:06 am
My family would fall into that first group. Heaven forbid you don't drop what you are doing cause that would be rude! I have not answered the door before. One Ssturday dh was out of town and I had a headache and was in bed. Mom drops by, rings and rings the doorbell. Think she gets the message that nobody is home???? Nope. She then bangs on the door and the dog goes crazy but does she stop there noooooo. She tries to use her key and come in but guess what, we changed the locks and didn't feel the need to give you a key.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 8:16 am
I rarely have problems with people not calling first anymore, because I've been known to leave unexpected company standing on the porch to chat and not let them in the house and that's if I bother to open the door at all. Growing up, mom and step dad always had people dropping by without calling, no problem for them at all. My sis and bil are the same way now. Drove me nuts living with it, meals held up, plans dropped because someone stopped by, couldn't run around in your jammies, house always needing to stay clean.
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 9:03 am
Calling first is just common courtesy. I wouldn't even consider dropping in on my bff of 50 years without calling first. It is the polite thing to do. Plus, whenever we phone one another we always ascertain up front if it is a convenient time to chat.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 9:04 am
Some of my friends know that if they stop by on a Sunday and I do not have plans, chances are I will be in my jammies and I WILL NOT get dressed just because they show up
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