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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 2:37 pm
She has got me second guessing if I deserve to be this blessed 
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Denecee
Member
09-05-2002
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 2:49 pm
truth be told, Escapee, your older sister probably looks up to you and feels like a failure in comparison. Just continue being the sweet sister you are and one day she will realize that she has behaved badly. She may not tell you but you will know.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 2:55 pm
Denecee, I know. She just makes the SHITTIEST decisions. For example, she threw her husband out. Nicest guy in the world. She went back, or is trying to go back) to the (self modded) ex (father of her first child) who threw the both of them out about 4 years ago. He's a real tool. DH worked for him and when he and sis split, yeah, he fired DH. She has a child with new/ex hubby who's 11 months. It's so screwed up. Ex tells her "don't tell anyone we are hanging out again....." GAH, I want to slap her silly sometimes.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 3:00 pm
hey...i am on older sister and it's my baby brother who is the pain! LOL i am quite reasonable
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 3:18 pm
Escapee, that's what she wants - to siphon the fun right out of it for you. DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN. There's no need for it!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 3:27 pm
I won't, I am going to leave and go drive my new truck. I'll post pics soon. Oh, I posted on my FB page how blessed I feel and she didn't respond. Fine, she doesn't have to. However, a mutual friend posted the same thing and sis was all "I am so happy for you!" BLAH BLAH BLAH Oh well. Such is life 
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Jmm
Moderator
08-16-2002
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 4:08 pm
Just remember that you can't choose your family but they don't have to necessarily have to be chosen as your friends.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 4:12 pm
Everytime I stuck it to someone, I ended up being a big prick. It was never worth it.
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Christy358
Member
07-10-2007
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 4:41 pm
I agree with the complain here, plot all kinds of things to say and do.... Then, in real life, be the bigger person. Life itself has a way of getting even without our help.
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 7:20 pm
Jmm, Glenn, and Christy358, very good all.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, August 30, 2010 - 7:32 pm
<---so glad she is only child LOL Glenn!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 8:48 am
Amen Glenn!!!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 8:51 am
I tried to be nice to her yesterday and she was such a biotch to me. I went to pick up the kids and she was like "I only owe such and such on MY car and MY payments are only this!" I said "oh, that's so awesome for you, I wish mine were like that!" She said "well, MAYBE you should have bought a cheaper vehicle." I said "maybe." and I walked out.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:13 am
why did you give her an opening? why not just say "that's great!" ?? just consistantly answer any questions like that with a close ended answer.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:17 am
Well, I'm just not going to speak to her at all. I don't need to be baited or antagonized. She needs to grow up. Texannie: It was my effort to bolster her. Why did I bother? I couldn't tell ya.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:32 am
Escapee, I think you missed a golden opportunity! You could have said, "Too bad I haven't learned from you and lived within my means...now everybody else has to feed my kids...oh well!" Then I would punch her in the mouth. but that's just me
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:35 am
ROFLMAO Hukd. I should have said "Why didn't I ask for your so valuable opinion before I make willy nilly purchases in my life?!? I mean, you always make the BEST decisions. I guess I could really learn from you!"
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 9:52 am
Escapee, I would try to train yourself to not care so much what she thinks. OK, she's your sister, and it would be nice if she was supportive and generous, but it seems like you know very well that's not going to happen, so don't expect or want it from her. You can't change her behaviour but you can change your own, so try to not let it get to you, and laugh it off (internally). She can be bitter if she wants to be, don't let it make you the same.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 10:39 am
I'm sorry Escapee. I have been having brother problems. He has been upset with me about alot of family issues and I have tried to talk to him about it but he won't return my calls. He totally blew off my birthday this month which really hurt.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 12:45 pm
all i was trying to say was can bolster her without leaving yourself open for her jabs.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 1:28 pm
If someone treats me like a prick, the last thing I'd do is worry about bolstering their ego. Again, that's just me...<punch punch>
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 1:51 pm
Well, she was talking to me today at lunch because me and mom were having a good laugh about a past incident. She can't be left out of anything, so she jumped in and started adding things to the convo. When I got back to work (she works here too, but different dept.) she called my office twice to ask me mundane stuff about soccer practice.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 4:20 pm
I would say........"hey, DH & I have been talking about getting a flat screen TV." (see what she says tee..hee). "hey, don't you have 3 flat screens? help a sister out & sell me one cheap"!
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 6:04 pm
Escapee, I have daughters your age. One of the most heart breaking things for me to witness as their father have been times when they have gone through conflict much like you are describing. I want them to realize that there may be a time when their sister may be all they have in their time of need. When marriages are not working, people go to couples therapy. Maybe siblings should have couples therapy also. Of the things you have said about your sister, it leaves me feeling she is envious of you and what you have done with your life. What would you brag to someone about your sister? Is there anything about her that you admire? Do you think there is something she would brag to others about you?
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Tuesday, August 31, 2010 - 6:47 pm
Gripe - snarkiness in colleagues at work, on the FIRST FREAKIN' DAY back! GRRRRR. (Not directed at me, mind you - but a snarky comment from one friend about another friend. Stood up for snarked about friend, changed subject and tried to remain positive, but dang - it's the FIRST day!)
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