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Wargod
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07-16-2001

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 12:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I hadn't thought about that either, Deb, but you are right. I never notice the snottiness if one of the buddies is here.

As much as Caleb's attitude can annoy me sometimes, I too really love having a houseful of kids. They're good kids, if they are here (or the other buddies house) I know they are being watched and staying out of trouble, and it's nice really getting to know the kids friends. I also like the fact that they are comfortable here and the parents know we can be trusted with their kids.

Just last night, we had one of Caleb's buddies come by. He'd gone to the movies with a friend and was supposed to call mom when it was over, but the pay phone outside the theater was broken. Since we live a couple blocks away, he told his friend they could come here and use the phone. I like knowing if the friends need help they can come to us and I like knowing if my kids need help like that they have friends parents they can go to too. The boys had great timing too, lol, they showed up just in time for birthday cake! And after mom picked them up, Caleb came in and said, "Thanks." I wasn't going to tell the boys they couldn't use the phone and there was plenty of cake to share, Caleb knew all that, but I still got a thanks out of it. That was nice.

Happymom, your youngest is a couple years older than Kota, let me know how that attitude leaving a bit early works out, lol. Kota's the same way, has had the teen attitude since birth, I've got the fear that it's going to get worse! I think that's why Caleb getting under my skin has been so surprising, after Kota, I didn't think it was possible anymore.

Lumbele
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07-12-2002

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 9:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lumbele a private message Print Post    
There is hope, ladies.

Until grade 7 ds was the kid it "was a pleasure to have in class" (at parents day). Then suddenly I hear he had to apologize to a teacher for a cheeky wisecrack she caught him on.
At the time, one of my co-students at a course I was taking was a newly retired high school teacher from out-of-town. After mentioning what ds's teacher had just told me, he laughed and said: "Don't worry, that's just the age. By grade 9 he'll be back to normal." My reply was "From your lips..." Turns out, he was right!

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 1:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
My turn to b*tch and moan...Neighbors across the street are divorced, which she claims was ALL HIS FAULT, have 4 children. A son 19, son 16, son 11 and daughter probably 9 or 10. Since the divorce, on the weekends that the 2 younger kids are at their fathers, the mother disappears for the weekend. The 19 year old works for some farmer around here, so he's not home.
The problem I have is....A car pulls into the driveway, the 16 year old jumps out, runs into the house, comes back out with a 30 pack of Busch Lite under his arm. Throws it in the back of some chicks car and off they go.....PARTY ON GARTH!
Also have witnessed them sitting out in the front yard along with a bunch of his friends, drinking on a Sunday afternoon.
The mother does nothing but brag about what a WONDERFUL athlete her son is...on the wrestling team, track team, etc.
I know I'm being a nosy neighbor, but I don't want to listen to everyone around town, IF and WHEN something bad happens.
OH BTW...this is the same kid that the ambulance came and got at 5:30 one Saturday morning when he was 12 and carted him off to the hospital for alcohol poisoning! Him and a friend had gotten into the friends' father's alcohol.
I apologize if this makes no sense, but I am sooo p*ssed at this woman. She should know better...she's a registered nurse.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 2:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Report it to the police anonymously and if questioned by the neighbor, deny, deny, deny.

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 2:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
I would report it to the local police, but the city hired a 23 year old girl to be our police! and she's afraid of her own shadow. LOL And if I might say....not the sharpest tool in the shed!
She's known around town as, Barbie Fife! I pray they don't give her bullets.

Southern_grits
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10-08-2009

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 4:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Southern_grits a private message Print Post    
LOL! Barbie Fife...

Can you maybe take some pictures of the "activity" and send them anonymously?

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 4:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Sounds like the kid could be an alcoholic. If somebody doesn't intervene pretty soon, he could have a pretty short life.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 4:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Alwayz, I agree with everyone. You would be doing this kid a favor by reporting it. Is it even legal for a 16 yr old to be alone for a whole wkend?

If this kid is an athlete, even more reason. Sometimes being in sports is the only thing that keeps kids on track in school. If he loses his sports abilities it could cause him to fail in other areas.

You arent being nosey, you are a concerned citizen and like you said you dont want to ever feel guilty is something does happen.

Ladytex
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09-27-2001

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 5:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ladytex a private message Print Post    
If the high school has a website, perhaps you can send an anonymous note to the coach. Sometimes these kids listen more to their coaches than their parents ...

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 8:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
Thanks everyone...I might try to email the coach and their Boy Scout leader is an acquaintance of mine. I'm sure he will be interested in what has been going on over there too.
The whole situation just totally torques me off, since the "mom" prances all over town and facebook bragging about what great kids she has. At this rate..that won't be for long.

Mummy35332
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09-09-2005

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 10:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mummy35332 a private message Print Post    
Always, when the kids are in plain sight drinking, call the police. It's not just your neighbors kid involved here.

You see him getting into a car with beer, get the liecense plate and call the police. So many lives are at stake here.

Drunk driving kills.

Mom is probably bragging about what she knows about her kids. (Teens are teens and we as parents can never know everything about our kids actions. Its part of the letting go stage.) Bad marriage, divorce....she (Mom) needs time away for herself. Perhaps a talk with her about what you see (take pics?) will help her understand what is going on when she is gone. None of us can ever say we know all that our kids do, even when they talk and talk and talk to us. They hide things. It's part of being a teenager.

I don't agree with involving the coach or Boy Scout leader before you talk to the parent involved.

I think you can start with what you have seen in the past and talk to Mom. She may be completely unaware of what is going on. She might not even believe you, but I feel you need to try. The try the coach, etc. needs to be step two.

I don't believe it is right to go straight to the police or others, if you don't talk to the parent first, unless it is an immediate danger to others.

Mummy35332
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09-09-2005

Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 11:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mummy35332 a private message Print Post    
On this note, I have been miffed beyond belief with neighbors that call the police and never even speak to us.

Underage drinking is an exclusion.

Ordaninaces are unique to communities. Silly me, I though if a neighbor did it, it was O.K. I was wrong. I didn't put it together that things the neighbors did only happened on the weekend when the ordanince officer was off work. I have learned.

So, what better role model when you move into a neighborhood of what is right than living across the street from a pastor? He and his kids routinely park thier whole car on the lawn weekend after weekend.

My husband tore his achilles tendon almost to the point of breaking (surgery etc.), so when he started to get up and about and go back to work he parked his car a tires width off the driveway (on our property) to help him get out of the car on his crutches. We thought this was fine. Along comes the ordinance officer.....YOU CANNOT PARK ON THE LAWN!!!. MOVE THE CAR.

I was shocked. I had seen my neighbors park full cars in their side yard over and over again.

Another time, my husband tried to fix one of our cars on a Sunday afternoon. He didn't complete his work because stores closed. The next morning the ordinaice office was at our door telling us we couldn't have a non running vehicle in our driveway. What??????? I told her the car ran, but the repairs weren't fininshed. I was told to move it or be ticketed. My husband counldn't finish it until the next weekend because of work, so he just drove it to his mothers house, same community, different neighbors, and left it there for a while for the repairs. The ordinaces officers weren't called there.

My 'neighbors' thought they had gotten rid of my husband old, but very reliable vehicle, but 6 weeks later it was back, just for effect. It was a huge 'bite me' to them.

We also have parking that is only allowed on one side of the street here. Of course it isn't on the side we live on. Our across the street neighbors act like it is only thier parking spot (remember the pastor?). Our cars have been vandalized for parking in front of one of our other neighbors house. Personally I think he doesn't want people to think his truck is that small.

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Sunday, June 20, 2010 - 6:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
I appreciate your insight Mummy, the mother does know, she's the one that buys the beer! The first time I saw them drinking in the yard, was the day after the state track meet. The Mom wasn't home and they had all gone in the house, her van pulls up and I'm thinkin...the shit is going to hit the fan now. Nope...about 20 minutes later the kids all file out of the house, with her 16 year old carrying the case of beer out to a friends car, while she is standing at the front door watching, smiling and waving. She's an idiot!

Mummy35332
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09-09-2005

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 1:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mummy35332 a private message Print Post    
Alwayz, since you are sure Mom knows about what is going on......call the police.

I do think there is something going on with the older kids not visiting Dad, where the younger kids don't have a choice. It makes me wonder about Dad.

I do have a prejudice about calling the police before talking to the neighbor. In your case there can be immmediate consequenses. Call them.

Drunk driving never compares to two tires on the lawn or not finishing repairs on a vehicle in one weekend.

Talk to the Mom, but when you see danger to the kids, call the police.

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 2:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
Mummy, too bad you can't put a big privacy fence up. Your neighbors sound like they don't have much of a life that they pay attention to yours.

Maplsyrp
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02-10-2009

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 9:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maplsyrp a private message Print Post    
We used to have neighbors like that. Once they were divorced and he moved out the wild parties started. I was so glad when they moved.

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 9:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
Latest update: The Mom went camping all weekend with friends, she got home about 6:50 this morning, changed clothes and headed to work. 16 year old son and the Father can't be around each other because of a fight they had late last summer and kid ended up with a black eye.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 1:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Is it Friday yet?

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 8:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Today after my Daughter finished shopping she was walking to her car and some ole geezer followed her out,...she got in her car quick and locked the doors.....he came up to her window befor she could get going and started plastering photos of naked woman on the door window.... she freaked out and was trying to back out with out hitting the guy...she called me immeadiatly and I told her...'Call the police'....give a description and all that, if he is doing that kind a crap to a 25yr ole gal than he is prob doing it to others, possibly younger gals....CREEP!!
She called and made a report.....
"TEACH your Daughters"..... this world is nuts!!

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Monday, June 21, 2010 - 8:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
"FRIDAY"??...I wish....LOL..

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Tuesday, June 22, 2010 - 6:30 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Chewi, there a so many whackjobs out there, but thanks to you and your daughter maybe the cops will put this one away, at least for a little while.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Tuesday, June 22, 2010 - 6:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Chew, I hope the cops got that perv.

And yes, I'm still wishing for Friday!

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, June 22, 2010 - 7:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
That must have been very scary for her. There are a lot of nice people in the world but the crazy and mean ones tend to stand out.

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Tuesday, June 22, 2010 - 1:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Chew tell your daughter to lean on her horn next time, it will attract lookers and the guy will flee. Then drive to the door and go back in the store. Call the police from the store. Also as the store now knows about this guy they will be obligated to watch the parking lot more.

Sorry been there done that. Now as soon as I see someone suspicious approach my car in the parking lot or go to speak to me. I tell them to back off or I am calling the police.

Grooch
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06-16-2006

Tuesday, June 22, 2010 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Grooch a private message Print Post    
Chew, did she contact the manager of the store to let them be arare about about this person?

Maybe they will see him loitering about and can call the police if they see him.