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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 8:15 am
Alright yesterday I was at the store, loading up on my bulk items, grains,nuts raisens and that kind of stuff and these two little snotty nosed little girls (about 10) kept opening up the lids on bulk stuff and grabbing handfuls of stuff.... 'it pissed me off,cause their Mom was right on the other side'.... I told them to keep thier hands out of the bins....and they laughed at me and just started giggling... they then proceeded to keep opening the bins and run thier hands thru the bannana chips and other stuff,..... (never in my life have I done this, but) I reached over and grabbed the little girls hand and firmly told her to keep her meathooks out and she was steeling... 'and I did not say it gently'.... the little girl was shocked and her and her friend went running to Mom....pointing at me the whole time..... I think I was in a really bad mood yesterday...because I was ready to just go off.... The Mom flashed me a dirty look, but other people there looked at me like they were dying to do it but were scared... Thats my gripe....
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 8:18 am
Way to go Chewpito!
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 9:03 am
And that's why I hate buying food from bulk bins. Same thing with buffets. Some kids/adults just never learn how to behave. It's disgusting.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 9:23 am
You go girl!!!! It seems lately like everytime I go to the store there are kids running wild.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 10:58 am
Yay Chewpito! You did what all of us want to. Parents do not teach their children manners. I also noticed something else about 'other' parents. We were in the ER last night (everything's ok now) and it seemed that 'other' parents were content letting other people supervise their children. These two tiny girls, maybe 1 and 2 were running all over the er waiting room. Finally they ran around the corner and sat next to us jumping around, hollering, crawling all over. Fine, whatever. Their kids in the ER, antsy and bored. However, their parents never came and looked for them or even wondered where they were. Finally I took the girls and went to find their mother, around the corner their mom was reading a magazine. I followed them and said "your children were over on the other side in case you were wondering." She looked me dead in the eye and asked "Were there adults over there?" Dumbfounded I said yes, she said "I'm sure they are fine then." and she went back to her reading, all the while her kids running, screaming, crawling across the floor. I said "You should supervise your own children." She ignored me. AUDACITY MUCH?
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 11:21 am
and Escapee and how many sicko's are adults? and I am not saying you are one of them.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 12:24 pm
And that example in the ER is why I think there should be adult only restaurants, adult only airlines, adult only grocery stores... While not all kids are ill-mannered and not all parents are eejits, they seem to far outnumber the well-mannered kids with parents who actually know what the word "parenting" means! I can't tell you how often I was on the train heading to/from work and some "parent" allowed their brat kid to run up and down the aisles of the train. Fortunately, the SJC-SAN flights I take are 90% business so I don't get to encounter this behavior on planes, but when I fly thru SLC to Colorado, I get to enjoy kids doing the aisle run. Or better yet, the kick the back of your seat thru the entire flight, even if you ask the 'rent to restrain the bratlet. I'm not anti children, but children and parents who behave like that don't help their case any.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 12:54 pm
Costacat, I feel that I am usually fairly tolerant of children. Knowing how heathenistic kids can be, having a couple of heathenistic one's myself at times. I understand that the ER is boring, horrible place for children (mine were not there, I arranged for sitting when we had to go to the ER)and that they can get antsy and out of control. Yeah, it wasn't the hollering, running, screaming that bothered me it was the "OMG Why aren't you watching your children in a place like this?!?!" The thing about it the parents aren't doing their children any favors by letting them run free, express themselves, yell scream etc. and tune it out. They are teaching them it's ok to act that way in public. Social skills and manners are going by way of the buffalo. Another woman there had a child who was screaming and crying and this poor woman was doing all she could to keep her quiet. She kept apologizing to everyone while she was waiting for traige for hte child. I went over, having a kid roughly the same age, and asked if I could give her a sucker (I always have 'shut up' candy in my purse) she said Oh yes, thank you thank you! and the little girl was content for a moment and the mom got a moment of relief.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 1:24 pm
Chewi - you rock! 
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 1:48 pm
The worst case of children running amok I ever experienced is the pair I babysat when I was in HS one summer (1977). I've told this story here before, but never know who has seen it or not. So forgive me if this is old news. It was my job to get to the house before the parents left for work in the morning, wait around for the kids (two boys aged 8 and 6) to get up, feed them breakfast and turn them out the door. When I asked how I was supposed to supervise their actions and whereabouts, I was instructed to just let them loose in the neighborhood, and they'd come home for lunch when they were hungry. Then I was to feed them lunch and turn them loose again. They often had not returned yet for the evening when the parents came home from work. They had a lot of very weird rules that were all about protecting the house from the children, rather than protecting the children themselves. I won't go into detail on those, but suffice it to say it was obvious their material belongings were far more important to them than the kids. Sometimes I wondered if the reason the kids were shoved out the door to fend for themselves was about protecting their precious house, or if they just couldn't be bothered to parent the kids. Or maybe it was a combination of the two. 11 years later, having moved from that neighborhood, I'm watching the news and my old neighborhood is mentioned. A teenage boy had thrown a firecracker at a man's van in the street, and the man got out and shot the kid and killed him. The boy was 19 years old, and it was the unmistakeable unique name of the 8-year-old I had babysat all those years earlier. The boys were uncontrollable heathens back then. I felt bad for them cause it was rather apparant/obvious their subsequent 11 years after I left the area were probably a lot like that one summer. I often wondered what happened to the poor 6-year-old. I looked up the family in the phone book when I heard that story on the news, and wasn't too surprised to see the husband/wife with different addresses. She was a harpy of a woman who made Little House on the Prairie's Mrs Oleson seem saintly. And she had the same obsession with material wealth as the tv character. Too bad she couldn't put the same value on her children. I always kind of think of this story as a lesson of sorts. What could happen to these people's kids when they grow up if you just let them run amok at an early age and fail/refuse to parent them properly.
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Sia
Member
03-10-2002
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 1:56 pm
Chewpito, I don't often have the courage to do what you did, so I totally support you! Escapee, ROTFL at the "shut-up candy" you keep in your purse. You should have told the lady that's what it's called and that's what it's for. Awesome.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 2:58 pm
I keep it mostly for "if you're good an quiet in this store, there is a sucker in it for ya." OR Low blood sugar, need a little jolt in the afternoon kid.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Friday, March 19, 2010 - 7:36 pm
Thankyou all....I swear I was so mad..... Im also very menopausal right now and wasnt sure if I was just 'blowing a gasket'....but You know....It felt good to grab that kid....even though her mom didnt give a doo doo....
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Calamity
Member
10-18-2001
| Saturday, March 20, 2010 - 10:13 am
Three cheers for Chewpito & Escapee! It's depressing how thoughtless and careless so many people are nowadays. I'm tired of people cursing loudly in public, yapping loudly on their cell phones at the library, texting during movies (so the light shines in your eyes), rudely banging past you without so much as an "excuse me", people tossing litter on the ground... There's still many considerate people around, of course. But sometimes it feels like we're under siege.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Saturday, March 20, 2010 - 10:57 am
Calamity, thats another gripe of mine...and cant beleive I didnt write about that too...At the very same store as the little 'kid' incedent...a couple weeks ago...their was this Mom just screaming at her kid on her cell phone for prob over 20 min....at the top of her voice going off on him/her about cleaning room, school work, yadda yadda yadda....very loud..and very explitive! Im talking cussing and getting all nutso on her cell....people on the other side of the world could have heard her.... Another one of my "Dream Moments"...I would of loved to have grabbed that phone outa her hand and just tossed it across the place..... Of course I didnt ..... I need to pick another store....ack.... The litter thing too.. people just open up their car doors and dump their crap....what the hell is that.???? where is the respect for our earth..... Im almost glad that I most likley wont be around long enogh to see the future of this earth...cause the image in my brain makes me very sad...
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, March 20, 2010 - 10:11 pm
Heh, Calamity. I am very tough on the kids when it comes to good manners. Excuse me if you walk in front of someone, please and thank you, sorry if you bump into someone, holding doors open for people, etc. This afternoon Dakota and I went to the store and she went to grab something off a shelf. She walked right in front of this man who was going for the same thing! I snapped at her, "say excuse me, please!" That poor man thought I was talking to him. Told him I was talking to my rude barbarian of a daughter and he laughed and then noticed her softball jersey and struck up a friendly chat about her game today. When we started to walk away, he told me he rarely saw parents schooling their kids on proper manners and good job. Sadly, I have to agree with him. My feeling is if you teach them young enough, it's going to carry over and they'll be polite adults so I stress that as often as possible.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Saturday, March 20, 2010 - 11:12 pm
wargod, I never doubt....'Your a great Mom'!!!... and you made me giggle when you said the man thought you were talking to him....thats funny....
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, March 20, 2010 - 11:50 pm
Heh, Chew, as soon as he turned around to look at me I felt bad, but it did crack me up too. I've seen adults who have no problem showing a lack of manners to kids, but this guy was just standing there looking at the different sodas and Dakota stepped right in front of him to grab a 12 pack of diet coke. And thank you! Bad manners and a lack of respect for other people is a big pet peeve of mine. It would be such a nicer world if people were a little politer and kinder to each other.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, March 21, 2010 - 3:46 am
It's getting so even if you HAVE manners, they're not doing much good, LOL. I was navigating my cart in the grocery store yesterday and this woman was completely blocking the aisle, having her cart on the side and then standing between her cart and the shelf (reading the Star or Enquirer magazine...bleh). I said "excuse me" twice and she didn't move. On the third time I said it so loudly that people in the next aisle could have easily heard me. The woman looked at me like I was being rude, the jerk. I can't tell you what it took for me not to say, "quit blocking the whole aisle fatass" but I didn't. It's like road rage to me when I'm in the grocery store with idiots.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:40 am
On saturday night, in light of this conversation, my DH and I got our two young girls (6 and 4) dressed up and took them to a fancy restaurant. The plan: Teach proper table manners and how to act in public places. Not that they don't already know, but still. When we were being seated, they said thank you, spoke clearly what they wanted to drink, thanked the waitress. Sat still in their seats, elbows off the tables, napkin in lap, and had a nice conversations about why they thought good manners were important. They were so well behaved. The best way to teach your kids good manners is by example and consistency, I think. They had a great time, got to eat fancy food, drink out of fancy goblets, use different forks. As a treat, we took them to the store afterwards and let them get all the stuff for strawberry shortcake. It was a nice time as a family. Hukd: I would have pushed her cart into her with my cart. 
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:46 am
Escapee Saturday night I went to a Dinner/Dance as a fund raiser to raise money for this group that deals with Mentally Handicapped people. My roomate and myself took a friend of ours daughter who is 39 and has down syndrome. but any ways there wer 10 of us at a table and this one couple brought his autistic son who happens to be 8 and I was very suprised on how well behaved he was. I brought him up to the dance floor (because he loves to dance) and he held my hand stayed right with me on the dance floor and was waving at people and loving every minute of it. When I was leaving for the night I said good by to him and he ran up to me gave me a hug and said "THANK YOU"
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Hermione69
Member
07-23-2002
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:49 am
Although I realize this is probably not the case in that specific situation, Hukdonreality, I would like to ask people to keep in mind when that happens that the individual may have a hearing loss. I can't tell you the number of people who have gotten pissed off at me for not moving out of their way when I simply didn't hear them come up behind me and say, "Excuse me." Then they get huffy with me and I feel bad. I get a lot of rudeness from people who think they are justified in their behavior because they don't realize that I am deaf. And even if I explain once I realize what is going on, they continue to act put out.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:58 am
Hermi, this lady was the last of MANY I encountered that day. It was the most insane shopping experience I probably ever had! It actually did enter my mind that maybe she didn't or couldn't hear me, but it didn't make me any less angry that she and numerous others that day completely blocked the grocery store aisles. So while it is possible that she was hard of hearing, she and the others still need to get with it and stop blocking entire aisles! They're made to accommodate probably the width of 2.5 shopping carts, so figuring out that you're stopping everyone else from going down the aisle isn't rocket science, lol.
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Hermione69
Member
07-23-2002
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 11:12 am
I tend to be very aware of where I am and who is around me while shopping because of my hearing loss, but every once in awhile I get temporarily distracted. Everyone does, sometimes, although I know it is frustrating to have people block the path and that is a pet peeve of mine, too. I especially hate it when two people who know each other stop to have a conversation and don't move their carts aside. I still like to ask people to consider the possibility of a hearing loss because the amount of rudeness that has come my way for not hearing is unbelievable and not just limited to this example. That's all. 
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Monday, March 22, 2010 - 11:27 am
Gotcha Hermi, and like I said... it did cross my mind. I've got "grocery store roadrage", you heard it here first folks.
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