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Kookliebird
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08-04-2005

Thursday, January 14, 2010 - 4:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kookliebird a private message Print Post    
Just a warning, there are a glut of unemployed teachers in Oregon due to budget cuts. My niece is a teacher and only works subbing about 4 days a month. She's been looking for full-time work since school ended last June without luck.

Sia
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03-10-2002

Thursday, January 14, 2010 - 4:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sia a private message Print Post    
Beckie, I haven't used my teaching certificates in years, but I can vouch for the fact that teaching is difficult if you're not deeply passionate about it. Kids are even meaner today than they were when I was still in the profession.

My advice is in regard to your upcoming wedding: don't put yourself in debt for an elaborate, expensive wedding. It is just one day out of your life and you will have beautiful memories of that day even if you have a simple wedding. Focus on the marriage, which you will celebrate the rest of your lives rather than on the wedding itself, which lasts but a day but requires so much preparation and expense.

I have become quite the "expert" in putting together wedding and re-dedication services here lately. I helped my best friend last summer when she renewed her vows for her 25th anniversary, and I was "wedding coordinator" for my uncle's wedding--and both happened while I was recuperating from surgery.

You can have a lovely wedding by creating your own invitations, floral arrangements and music arrangements. My husband's cousin's wedding cost over $60,000 back in 1996, and she is no more married than I am. Our wedding cost under $1000 and we have lovely photos and memories of that day.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, January 14, 2010 - 5:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I gotta agree with Sia. Ask yourself this: Do you want a wedding or do you want to get married? Yes, they go hand in hand, but the latter is what is important. People forget that a wedding is about the two committing to eachother, not a party for their friends. Again, it can be both, but don't lose sight of what is the most important. Make memories for you, not others. 500 people with half of them you don't know only causes the drama pool to be bigger and mishaps more likely and then more people to talk crap about it later.

The smaller and more intimate it is, the better, in my opinion. Share it with those closest to you and I think it will mean more that way.

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Thursday, January 14, 2010 - 5:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
Hey Beckie, do you live near any museums? Obviously you are interested in history.

actually our museum here in town just closed down because they were unable to keep interest...so no close musems near by. maybe i'll try subbing while trying to see if i can use my history degree in some fashion.

and with regards to the wedding...we're looking at spending $10,000 or so (and only that much because it's going to be on the coast). i'll mostly do all DIY projects, trust me, i do not want to pay for a wedding that would cost as much as a car ($20,000+). i have already decided that i'll do my own invitations, probably use silk flowers (if i can find some that don't look fake), do my own centerpieces, my own favors...etc. plus we have decided to keep it a small wedding, like 50 people, which helps too - well hopefully.


thanks for the info, kook, i'll have to keep that in mind.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 7:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
New Question:

Last night I came up with an invention but now I don't know what to do with it. I know I could make a prototype of it but what do I do next? Since I've never invented anything before I'm totally clueless as to the procedures to follow. Any help would be much appreciated!


Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
50 people at 10,000?!?! WHOA! That's gonna be so nice! My sisters wedding was I think 100 people and we did it for 4,000.

Taysmomcj
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03-24-2008

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Taysmomcj a private message Print Post    
I can't imagine spending that much...We had well over 200 at ours and we spent less than $1,000.

ETA It helped though that my mom catered the reception, so I was able to do it for cost. And my Gram made my dress.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Twinkie, I think you need to find out if anyone has thought of if before, and if they haven't then patent it. This looks like it has info:
http://www.uspto.gov/inventors/index.jsp

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
My sister had hers catered, had a photographer, etc. etc. I did her flowers (got them all at sams club) we did silks on the centerpieces and we made the favors. We rented everything from a party rental store and it was still only $4000. 10,000 would have covered their honeymoon and all the furniture for their new house, LOL.

Beckie, I am doing a wedding next month in SD. I'll post pictures for ya. I could post some pics from sis' wedding if you want.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
There are no rights or wrongs about weddings. It all depends on what you want. :-)

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 10:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
You're right Jimmer, but $200 a head isn't a cheap wedding, IMO! Wow, can I come?

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 10:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
We don't know exactly what Beckie's plans are but in general weddings can be incredibly expensive. You have to think of the cost of the invitations and thank you notes, reception (meal, location, music, D.J., live performances), flowers, Wedding location (especially if not at a church), wedding photography, videographer, rings, wedding gown, dress for the reception (if changing), tuxes, limousine, etc. It adds up fast!

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 10:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Thanks, Kitt! The first thing I found out is that you need quite a bit of money just to patent an idea. Like $572. That leaves me out. Oh well, it was a nice idea.

Gidget
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07-28-2002

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 11:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Gidget a private message Print Post    
Twinkie do you know anyone who is willing to take a $572 gamble at a possible gold mine? JV baby.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 11:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
I have never been married before but when I was a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding it cost me over $1,000.00 between the dress, the shoes, getting my hair done, my nails, the bridal shower, the gift for the bridal shower, the bachorellete party and of couse the gift at the wedding. and this was 12 years ago

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Gidget, I don't know anyone who makes enough money to take a gamble with that much and the ones that do make that kind of money don't throw it away. LOL

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I would add from the other side and I knew this at age 17.. at the time I went off to Berkeley the common theme was "I can always teach". And I would argue from both sides.. if you don't find you have a passion to teach, you will probably be miserable, but so will the children you teach.

On the other hand the classes for your credential wouldn't be a waste if they were general enough to include skills you could use in other jobs.. I was a programmer, analyst, system designer, project leader, etc., working with computer systems but over and over for all the years I did those jobs we were called upon to document what we did, communicate with those requesting what we did and those who would use it, we'd often help train others in our area and people who would use a system so while we weren't dealing with children (at least not literally) we did some teaching, group direction.

And if you plan to have children, none of that knowledge could hurt.

You can also look to other skills you naturally have. I know when I was getting my degree in psychology it was pretty well known that to work in that field you'd need more degrees, training, credentials. I started in my actual field as a trainee and worked up. But even for trainees (and this was before entry level people typically had a masters and IT courses and still knew little of practical value) they didn't accept people without SOME degree. The psych kicked in for volunteer work over the years.

Only you can know what you will love to do and also something that sparks your interest.

And while I agree with Jimmer that it is an individual decision, what should be done for and spent on a wedding, I'd be the first to say that less is more..

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 1:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Hey twinkie. If it is that good of an idea. I'll invest.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
That's the thing, Pippin. I really don't know if its that marketable. If you like I can email you more about it.

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 1:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
the whole reason, we are thinking 10,000 is because it is at the coast...and california coast is not cheap.

we plan on just having the ceremony on the beach, we'll tear it down and set it up.so the cost would be the small decor for the ceremony and some type of chairs or benches for the people to sit on...

the most expensive item for us, right now, is the reception site. not finding anything less than 4,000...that's food and everything.

i'm DIYing almost everything else (except my dress and a few other things), but the bulk of our money is going towards a photographer and the reception location. it might be less than $10,000, but i would rather make a too big of a budget than not enough of a budget.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 2:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Beckie, you can reserve a park in SD for about $40 for a beachfront ceremony. Not sure where you were thinking of having it. Mendocino offers the same sort of thing. If it's small, you might look into restaurants or hotels that offer banquet facilities instead of a hall that is for receptions and parties.

Happymom
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01-20-2003

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 3:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Happymom a private message Print Post    
Twinkie, good luck!

Beckie, maybe with more and more people changing careers these days, it could be that having your degree is the most important thing to future employers...more than your actual major. Also, in many professions, being a good writer is very important. There may be many things you can do that you never thought of. You might want to do some serious research on avail jobs and having a really awesome resume...even paying for professional help like a service or even less expensive: a continuing ed class like a one time resume class. There may also be such a class to help you think about job interviews and tailoring your answers for different jobs. You have skills/qualifications that you don't even realize you have.

I know you are sick of school, but maybe you want to think about some other professional certificate besides your teaching credential before you move to Oregon. Ed opportunities are more limited up there. (I know of an Oregon resident that went to school in San Francisco because that was the closest school for that particular program.)

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 4:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Beckie, I think it's wise thing to budget more, and then try to spend less.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
And have Escapee do the wedding ...

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Friday, January 15, 2010 - 9:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Sure twinkie. I am at mckeown.carol@sympatico.ca