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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 4:20 pm
It does seem to bother her if you ignore her. I just don't understand people like her. I like to get along with everybody at work, even if I don't really care for them.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 4:48 pm
Mapl, if this happens again, I would just hit her head on. Nobody could do a thing to you if you're just responding to her... How about, "You know what? Your opinion wasn't asked for, your opinion isn't wanted, and your opinion isn't important to me or anyone else. The next time you open your mouth, I may just file a harassment suit, and then you can give your opinion to a judge." Is it worth it to retaliate in this manner? Who knows. But you're obviously subject to her ongoing harassment and it affected you enough to talk about it. Personally, I would put her in her place so fast she wouldn't know what hit her.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 7:14 pm
she is creating a hostile work environment and that is against the law. She is totally out of line. 3 hubbys?? very telling!
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 7:28 pm
I would wear your sweater dress, leggings, and flats to my office (what a cute idea - may just have to go out shopping and get me a little outfit like that) and I'm 52. Keep dressing the way you want - who cares what she thinks anyway!
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 8:16 pm
Do tell, Pamy. I'm married to hubby #3. What does that tell you?
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 8:31 pm
Twinkie...tells me third time's the charm. And three times lucky. And takes three times to get just about anything right. 
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 8:58 pm
IF I could think of it quick enough, I would first say nothing, but give her a look like she was on the bottom of my shoe and I had just stepped in dog poo. Then I would give a sort of quick but thorough look at what she was wearing that day. Then I would give a big smile and say, "thanks for giving me your opinion" and then change the subject to something chipper, like, "hey, have they fixed the copy machine yet?" If properly delivered, she will know: #1, she is dogshit for being rude, #2 she looks like dogshit, and #3 the copy machine is more important to you than her opinion, while YOU have not said anything the least bit offensive.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 9:02 pm
Thanks, Bee! And you are so right! First 2 were when I was a teenager and neither lasted long. Third time I was 40. So, I waited a long time to make sure I got it right this time.
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Christy358
Member
07-10-2007
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 1:31 am
Good Answer Bee and Juju.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 7:58 am
Thanks for all the wonderful suggestions. She is like a thorn in everyones side but the boss thinks she's just the greatest. The other ladies and some of the guys think that she just doesn't like anyone else getting any attention when she is around. One of the guys said she has only child syndrome. She actually told me this morning that I looked nice. I have on slacks and a sweater. I guess I am dressing my age today. ha
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 5:24 pm
I'd wear my sweater dress and leggings every day then. But I'm a .
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 6:49 pm
Do the Southern thing and say really sweetly "Well bless your heart, you and your little fashion advice." Leave her mouth gaping, saying "Huh?" I am a bit shattered that I am too old to wear leggings. Oh well....I am senile, too, so have already forgotten.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 7:34 pm
Twinkie, it tells me I shoulda kept my mouth shut! honestly all situations differ so what do I know? Her first 2 coulda died
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 8:43 pm
We all make comments based on the information that is available to us. If I hear about an obnoxious person that has been married three times then of course I may draw a different conclusion than if I hear about a nice person who has been married three times.
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Babyruth
Member
07-19-2001
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 8:46 pm
My parents have each been married three times but that has no bearing on their character, just circumstances.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 8:58 pm
I agree that alone has no bearing on their character and you made that clear in your post. However, if you posted something like my Mom and Dad are obnoxious and both have been married three times then of course I might think that the two items are related. I don't think that is an unreasonable conclusion in that particular instance.
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Christy358
Member
07-10-2007
| Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 10:23 pm
Ok, I had to laugh at the 'bless your heart' answer cuz just yesterday I had a person tell me that was how the nice southern person told someone to "f off". And it tells me that a quick snippy off the cuff comment can open up a discussion. I like TVCH for that. If you ask for opinions, you get tons. If you ask a question, you get great answers. If you need a person to listen to your complaint and give you advice, or a shoulder or just listen....here you all are.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 8:06 am
Bless your heart can cover a mulitude of things... ease the pain of an unkind comment "bless her heart she is as ugly as a mud hen" or convey sympathy "bless your heart, i am so sorry you are going through this" or just as something to say when you don't know what to say! LOL
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 9:44 am
Escapee since I love to wear dresses year round I intend to start wearing them with leggings instead of tights this winter. Also the three marriages is telling in her case. Once you have met her and find out about the 3 ex's it is kinda clear that her always being right and getting her way might be a problem.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 9:53 am
bwaahahaha, I just thought of something devilish! When she comments on your clothing, tell her that you appreciate her criticism about as much as her first 2 husbands did. 
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 10:06 am
That's a good one Huk! Since I know one of the ex's I could say that and she would be wondering if I had run into him and he had said something. I havent seen the guy in years.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 10:50 am
ROFL!!
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Tishala
Member
08-01-2000
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 11:11 am
LOL. I should start reading this thread! I do love the "bless your heart" advice, but I think I'd use it like this: "bless your heart! Trying to take Stacy's place on What Not to Wear!" And then shake your head ruefully.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 12:15 pm
well, bless your heart, you certainly have a way with styling your clothes.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Friday, January 22, 2010 - 8:01 pm
Hukd, LMAO!! I am getting a kick out of the way to use Bless her heart! hahahah
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