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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 11:39 am
I think all of this texting is symptomatic of a current problem. People don't seem to like to live in the moment and enjoy what they are doing. Instead they are constantly thinking about the past, thinking about the future or thinking about being somewhere else. Back when I was working in a big office, if my phone rang while I was meeting with someone in my office I would let it go to voicemail. I remember many people asking me in astonishment if I wasn't going to answer the phone. I used to say to them, "Why? Do you think it's more important that I talk to them instead of you?"
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Pippin04
Member
10-26-2007
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 11:43 am
My daughter and I text all the time. She goes to school in Ireland and it is the easiest way to reach each other. I am often away and cell phones do not always work for calls but we always get texts. Other then that we chat online, we will even text each other to ask to go to a computer so we can talk. When she was younger, she always had a cell phone, there were rules. No texting or talking, while walking, at dinner, when visiting or when visitors came over. If she broke the rule she lost her phone for a day. She only broke the rule once. It scares me the number of people I see texting while crossing the street, biking, driving. I just do not understand. Another thing that bothers me is people with earphones, walking, biking or driving. The music is so loud they do not pay attention to anything around them.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 11:49 am
Oooh ooh ooh, I have a gripe. People who drive with their music up so loud you can't hear your own. Ok, pal, just because you like that song and that music, doesn't mean the rest of us do, nor should we have to hear it!!! I was at a stoplight and the car next to me was so loud, so much base, it was shaking my car and woke up DD2. I rolled down my window and yelled "I shouldn't have to hear your circus music if I don't want to!" Yeah, then my light turned green and I was off to the races!
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 11:52 am
My DS's would rather text me than call and I really don't mind. As long as we stay in touch that is the important thing. (I'm the easy parent to get along with.)
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:08 pm
My DS texts quite a bit with his friends. To me, it's no different than repeatedly refreshing TVCH or Facebook. When he first started, there were times when it got out of hand. Like texting between his turn at bowling. We just talked about it, why it was rude or out of control, he got it, no more problems. He doesn't text when we have dinner (either in or out), or when we are doing something together. And he and I have long text conversations when he is staying at his dads, since his dad tries to listen in on his calls and won't give him any privacy. So, as always, anything can be used well, or inappropriately, it's up to parents to teach their children the difference. In the case of grandma, I would simply have her have an honest chat with her grand child. I would like it if there are some times when we could do things together without constantly be interrupted by your texts. I also know that at your age you miss your friends and want to stay in touch with them. Let's figure out a plan that works for both of us! It's just that simple. Teach the child to negotiate differences. Any age is a good age to start.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:13 pm
I think that the problem with texting is that it is a bit more invasive than surfing the web. People have a tendency to drop what they are doing and ignore other people who are present in person to answer a text message. But I agree that like most tools it can be used in ways that make our lives better.
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Rissa
Member
03-19-2006
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:25 pm
I was at a stoplight and the car next to me was so loud, so much base, it was shaking my car But Escapee, that's how you can tell Spring is here!! I agree with you, if the music is that loud then how are they able to hear horns, sirens etc?
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Pippin04
Member
10-26-2007
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:34 pm
I just think people have this need to always be in contact with people and it makes them feel important or popular. Cell phones are the link to feeling this way. Also I think that since almost everyone has a phone, people think we should always be ready to talk to them. When we go to meetings yes the cell phones come out. Everyone who deals with us knows our daughter studies abroad and we will only interupt to take calls from her. We take all calls from her, everyone else gets hung up on. We will call them back later. Our daughter knows not to call during business hours as we are often in meetings, she will text to see if it is ok to call unless it is important. Some people will just call and call until we answer. Anyone who does this to me gets yelled at and told not to call back. They can only email me from now on. I once had someone call 6 times in a row when I was on the phone. The call waiting just beeped over and over. I finished my call. Called the person adn told them to never call again we would not be doing business with someone so rude. I hate call waiting by the way but the cell phone provider forces me to have it. I also have issues with people who have to talk loud on a cell phone. Conversations like "Like omg did you hear what so and so did last night". I take great joy in mocking these people loudly and usually in front of them. They usually tone right down. I also have issues with people who have to talk in grocery stores or on a bluetooth. Nothing is so urgent that you have to talk about it publicly in a store and hold everybody up. Ok calling because you have a question about what you need to buy is ok but the "Like omg did you hear what so and so did last night" conversations are useless. As for bluetooth talking. I am sorry but it makes people look creepy or crazy. They all seem to be talking to themselves. One guy scared me in a shopping mall. He just started yelling into the bluetooth. Jimmer we never answer the phones when someone is in the office. I always believe the person in front of you is the most important person. Nothing bothers me more then a salesperson taking a call and helping the person on the phone while I am in front of them. I have told sales people off for this and even hung the phone up on the customer while the salesperson looked at me stunned. I told him the person in front of you should always be your focus. Apperently I have a few phone issues. Thank you for letting me gripe. I feel better.
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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:39 pm
We have rules about cell phones and texting. The kids cannot be rude and ignore people who are speaking to them because of texting. They are not allowed to use them past certain times at night. I do think it is nice for them to be in touch with their friends so much. When I was a teen, I tied up our house phone for hours and hours. I won't allow my kids' social skills to suffer because of texting. They still hang out with their friends a lot and chat. They all have their cell phones but none of their friends seem to be lacking social skills because of the cell phones. They will text to other friends who aren't with them at the moment. I don't see it as a detriment though. I see them all still communicating orally with who they are with. Used properly, I think texting is a good thing. I hate to text though. My kids actually get annoyed with me for not writing out entire words and sentences! I shorten everything as much as possible. I also will not have a conversation with them through texting. I don't have the skill or patience. I cannot see my cell phone keys or screen very well. (someday I will upgrade to a qwerty keyboard phone) The cell phone is very good for quick information between people w/o interrupting yourself or others or getting dragged into an inconvenient time consuming conversation. I do think there need to be rules for kids, and everyone should pay attention to their surroundings while using cell phones - for safety and for consideration of others. Re: grocery store shopping... I usually schedule my shopping when there are few people in the store. I hate shopping of all kinds. I will get out of bed early on a Sat. or Sunday just to avoid a crowded store.
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Pippin04
Member
10-26-2007
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:43 pm
My neighbour complains about the music in my car and that I play it too loud. She says I am always disturbing her children. My radio is never so loud that I cannot have a conversation with the person sitting next to me in a normal tone. I drive a convertible so yes the music can be heard but it is not so loud that I cannot hear what is going on around me. My neighbour does not like me and complains constantly. Sorry one gripe at a time.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:59 pm
Convertable is one thing. I just don't understand why I should have to hear someone else's music, while in my car, my window up, their window up and it still drowns out my radio. It's infuriating. All the while, I'm thinkin' hey, pal, did you ever thing maybe not everyone has the same taste in music that you do??!?!?!?!?! However, if I had a better system in my ride, you can bet that it would be speaker wars and I'd blast them ou twith George Strait. Take that!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 12:59 pm
Heh, whenever I drive, I have the radio on but usually turned low. I like to concentrate on driving (I never forget I'm driving my children and others peoples kids) and louder music makes me kind of twitchy. Think I'm teaching Kota right at least cuz anytime we drive by someone with music up loud she starts griping about it. Cracks me up, she's totally offended by all of it, that she can hear their music, that they feel they need to keep it up that loud, and that they should be able to hear sirens and such.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:02 pm
I live on a main road and the beach is on the same street and let me tell you about loud music. It is so loud when it goes by my building that the whole building shakes
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:11 pm
My husband said I'm getting old and crotchety at my advanced 29 years. I just find it rude that 'these' people think everyone needs to hear their music and loudly. SHuEESH. I want to get a PA system for my car "Attention, you, in the low-ri-der, no one likes your jiggity jams, please refrain from inflicting your ear pollution into my sound space."
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Nyheat
Member
08-09-2006
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:14 pm
I don't mind receiving text messages once in a while, no biggie for me. The obstacle was always composing them on my tiny phone. BUT I discovered that you can send text messages via e-mail, and I really like that. Or rather, it gives me a solution. I have e-mail access at work and home so this works for me.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:35 pm
Oh I agree Escapee....somtimes that pounding scares the crap outa me...and what if a ambulance or somthing is comming...how can they hear that..... Some kids that live next door to me liked to sit in there car at night...parked in there driveway..and play it loud late at night...my whole house thumps.... I used to just let it get to me....but the older I get, the more 'crochety' Ive become...I just throw on a jacket and walk over there and tell them...."Turn it off, Its night time"....they must get a good laugh outa it...but if they dont turn it off.....I call the police...they dont do it anymore.
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Stormie
Member
03-01-2007
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:53 pm
I don't like texting bc it's impersonal, I'd rather someone leave me a voicemail, or me leave one. And it better be an emergency if someone is texting in front of me, otherwise, I'll leave; why waste time watching someone text, they don't want my company, I got plenty of other things to do. I hate that loud music from cars too, I always think they'll be sorry one day when they lose their hearing. Don't some states (places) have laws about noise pollution? I don't know how it could be enforced with traffic, though.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 2:21 pm
Stormie I agree with you with it being impersonal. My roomates brother sent her a text on her birthday to say "Happy Birthday" and she thought it was great. I said he could not take a couple of minutes and call you to wish you a happy birthday? I said a Birthday is one day a year it would be different if he sent you a text any other day of the year just to say Hi, but it would be more special to me if I knew someone took a couple of minutes out of their busy schedule to make a call to wish me a happy birthday.
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Naja
Member
06-28-2003
| Wednesday, March 31, 2010 - 7:48 pm
I just want to complain about my Mom's street address. I swear I have never had to throw out more envelopes or package stickers in my life from messing it up by starting too far to the right to be able to fit it since she moved to this address. This isn't a real address, but it's sort of an example of how long her street address is. 12345 E. Mountain View Landings Terrace W.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Wednesday, March 31, 2010 - 8:36 pm
I just wish I had the time......I would pick a song that justified to me a certain person ....I would attach it to their incoming # on MY cell....and then, I could relate all of my incoming calls based on what song played...plff? Guess what - we actually had a sales mgr that did the above & he recently got promoted to his own location mgr. I'm so out of this loop.................
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, March 31, 2010 - 10:28 pm
Our water got shut off today!!! For non-payment!! We have auto-pay, have always had auto-pay. I have never NOT paid a utility or any other payment in my entire life, and I am pretty damn old. We requested the water to be shut off when we were gone over the winter, had it turned back on when we returned late February. In the past, they have always just resumed the auto-pay, although perhaps in previous years when I was making the call I reminded them we have auto-pay, and forgot to nag them about it this time? Nevertheless, we had NO notice whatsoever that they thought we were unpaid. We don't need one; we have AUTO-PAY. This is not a very big town, so we expected them to correct their mistake pretty quick. They did not. Bigdog called later and read them the riot act, bless his heart. Water turning on guy got there fifteen minutes later. Still, it was not right. How can they just arbitrarily come and turn off our water when they have never even billed us or asked for a payment??? Our water provider is the City guvmint. I am pissed!! But we are leaving on a five week trip tomorrow, so I suppose I will get over it in the meantime. Heh, if they had turned it off tomorrow, we might never have known until we got back from the trip. And the funny thing is, I had contemplated whether or not to shut off the water while we are gone, but decided not to because Bigdog might ask the neighbors to water plants for us or something.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 8:23 am
My gripe of the day is people who use the last of the toilet paper and don't replace the roll. GAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!! I am the only female at my house so this happens quite often bit now it has started happening at work. I just put new rolls in all the stalls and extras on the back of the toilets in the womens bathroom.
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Pippin04
Member
10-26-2007
| Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 8:30 am
I got so tired of there being no toilet paper that when we renovated I got my own bathroom. Guess what? there is still no toilet paper. I guess I was as guilty as everyone else. 
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:08 am
Maplsyrp My roomate will take out a new roll of toiletpaper but will not put it on the toiletpaper holder. She has even removed the empy roll and thrown it in the trash. I have a sign in my bathroom that says "Changing the toiletpaper WILL NOT cause brain damage."
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:15 am
Dfennessey, my DH will just stack up the empty rolls and set the new roll on top of the holder. I should take pictures and start a thread about the toilet paper roll collection. I'm being stubborn about it.
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