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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Monday, January 25, 2010 - 8:09 pm
"I swanee" is just short for "I swear"....because a true Southern good Christian won't swear, so "swanee" is substituted. Same sort of substitution as "Fudge!" or "Dagnabit!"
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, January 25, 2010 - 8:22 pm
My mom said 'God love her' which is another good one to add before an insult. My mom didnt usually use it that way i just happened to think of it today when I saw how hideous this woman had done her makeup but 'God love her' she tried 
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Monday, January 25, 2010 - 9:49 pm
here's another good one: "ya gotta love her/him", but...........
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Happymom
Member
01-20-2003
| Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 1:30 am
My kids say "no offense, but..." (lol Maplsyrp...you go girl!)
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 3:42 am
but bless your heart doesn't automatically mean an insult...it covers a myriad of emotions.
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 8:08 am
I agree Tex. I have also said bless your heart when I just had no idea what else to say. I like what your kids say Happymom. I might start saying that.haha. I will admit that I have become a wee bit obsessed with choosing clothing to wear to work that will annoy her. No leggings today, but a wildly colorful hippy dress, tights and mary janes.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 11:14 am
Maplesyrp, I love today's colourful combo! Wish you could upload a pic of how cute you look, and Miz Beeatch's sourpuss. heh
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 11:20 am
Thanks Mame. I don't know how cute I look in it but I sure am having fun.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Wednesday, January 27, 2010 - 5:43 pm
I love tights with Mary Janes, simple pumps, or any shoes for that matter. I like dresses and tights are just part of that style in the winter. Maplsyrp, your co-worker sounds like she dresses as if every day is casual Friday - maybe she's just jealous cause she ain't got no style!
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Southern_grits
Member
10-08-2009
| Thursday, January 28, 2010 - 11:30 am
On the 'I swanee' topic, my grandmother always just said 'I swan!'. As a kid I always wondered what she meant and decided she must mean she was sticking her neck out and ruffling her feathers proudly. lol
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Maplsyrp
Member
02-10-2009
| Thursday, January 28, 2010 - 12:06 pm
She does dress like it is casual friday everyday. I like to wear jeans sometimes too but I really enjoy dressing up most of the time.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Tuesday, February 09, 2010 - 5:51 pm
This isn't a gripe, but a PS to the earlier discussion about "bless her heart." In an article on the five worst falls in ice skating, Scotty Hamilton chose THIS ONE and you HAVE to watch and listen to the commentary.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Friday, February 12, 2010 - 4:28 am
Ahhhh....bless her heart!!!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, February 12, 2010 - 8:56 am
too funny..came in here to share a 'bless your heart' story too. i listen to christian radio. yesterday on the way to work i heard 'bless your heart' used twice within 30 minutes and with different meanings. first time they were talking about someone who had just come back from haiti and the things he had seen. (compassion) and then a little later about a criminal who robbed a bank but somehow left his driver's license behind 'aw, bless his heart' (he just wasn't too bright') only 'bless your heart' was said but it was very easy for me to tell the difference in meaning. i found myself wondering if others could. LOL
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 16, 2010 - 2:38 pm
Stupid gripe coming up! Went to Costco this morning for some minor, get us through the week until a bigger shopping trip, trip. Fruit, veggies, lunch foods, that sort of stuff. Spent $107 and some change, not bad considering I picked up a couple things I normally wouldn't or only once in a great while get. A while back I went ahead and increased my membership for the executive upgrade so I could get 2% back. Since Vons closed, I've been doing most our grocery shopping at Costco and do most of my aunts there as well and average between $600 and $800 a month between the two houses. Figured it'd be worth the extra $50 in membership fees per year. So, leave the house and see the mailman a few houses down. I go to Costco and spend $107 and come home, put my groceries away and run out to grab the mail. And what do I get? My renewel notice for Costco (due in April) along with a check for $67, my 2% back since I increased my membership. I just groaned. If I'd waited 10 minutes before leaving, I could have had that dang check when I went to Costco and been able to pocket the extra cash. Ticks me off, of course I can use the check next week when I go buy meat and everything else, but dangit I could have kept the cash and put it up or paid one of the bills that's due next week. The Costco check by the way can only be spent there, I can't go deposit it in the bank.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 11:35 am
I am so irritated right now. Last may I had surgery. The doc felt it was medically necessary as it was something that was causing pain. They had to take pictures of the area and send it off for approval. Day of surgery I am in the waiting room waiting and waiting, and they call my name and I go in and they say "The insurance company hasn't gotten back to us yet regarding approval. Do you still want to have the surgery?" I said "Well, yeah." She said, ok sign this release. I did not realize the release I was signing was to pay any fees that may occur if insurance doesn't pay. I know, that's dumb, but I was antsy about the surgery and not thinking clearly. I go in for an outpatient surgery and I am laying there in the room and I ask "Are they going to put me under all the way or is this just a local anest.?" The nurse doesn't know, says she'll find out. I don't want to be all the way under. The lack of information is starting to concern me. So I wait, they wheel me into the surgical room, start an IV and I wake up 2 hours later. Surgery done. Recovery is fine, follow up fine. I get a bill in the mail for $6000 for surgery. Insurance opted NOT to cover it and the medical center wants payment in full by 3/2010. They did not inform me of the payment schedule they have or that it had to be paid in full. Nope, that information was never discussed when I was scheduled for surgery. They then said my insurance doesn't cover this kind of surgery and it was my responsibility to know that. HOW WAS I SUPPOSED TO KNOW THAT? I have been paying what I can per month 100 150 etc. as this is not the only medical bill we have to pay. It's infuriating. I asked for a discount and was told that since I have insurance I am not eligible. Does anyone know anything I can do or do I just suck it up and get turned into collections?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 11:46 am
Wowsers! That stinks!! Maybe you could talk to your doc about it. Not long ago, I was getting ready for an IVF procedure. I was all "shotted up" (there are many preparations (shots, ultrasounds, bloodwork, etc) you need to do the week before IVF) and ready to go. It was a Friday at about 4pm (procedure was to happen 6 am on Monday) when the doc office called and said that insurance had not been approved. WHAT? Tto make a very long story short, someone dropped the ball and ins. really did not cover it. Well even though I did not have the surgery (at that point on Friday the doc office said I would be responsible for the appx $25,000 surgery if ins. did not cover it). SO I said no. But all the prep work, that I thought was covered (as the doc office was supposed to make sure) was, in fact, NOT covered. That total was in the thousands like 2K (or thereabouts). Well, luckily for me the doc thought about it and cancelled the bill as their office should have let me know way before that ins. did not cover it. All that to say, maybe your doc will at the very least cancel the $$ due to him/her. Doubt the hospital will cancel their bill, but at least the doc portion might help... And if the doc said it was necessary, I would see if he could contest this with you with the ins. company. This really does stink!!
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 12:42 pm
That really sucks Escapee...but I dont think they can take you to collections as long as you are attempting to make a payment each month as you said you are doing.... in this economy they are lucky that you are paying at all... Maybe someone else here know's for sure. If you were dirt poor and these days I mean 'dirt poor'..you could apply for retro CMS but im pretty sure you make to much.. My Daughter does not have insurance at all with her employer... and it scares me to death.... but she does have some female problems and has to go to the doc every three months and lab tests.... both her doc and lab give her 20% off her bill.... Her eye doc also gives her 20%off for exams and contacts and glasses...."But you have to ask"...they wont tell you or offer...
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Rissa
Member
03-19-2006
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 12:44 pm
You are probably hooped but how unfair!! I have had many situations with myself, dds and family where we needed insurance approval prior to a procedure and/or surgery and we hadn't rec'd a formal response by day-of so I know damn well that all it takes is a 30 second phone call from the medical staff to the insurance company if they are still waiting for an answer.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 12:48 pm
Firstly, if you think there's any chance the insurance company wrongly denied the claim then get back on the phone to them and keep pushing. It might be that the referring doctor didn't say some magic phrase to them, like it was medically necessary, I don't know. Our insurance company screws up just about every time with every bill, but seem to fix it quickly when I point out the problem. If there's no luck there, I would ring the billing department of the hospital and ask to speak to someone as high up as you can. Say something along the lines of you were expecting the bill to be covered by your insurance, but you understand as it was not that you have to pay it (there's no getting around that unfortunately) but the only way that is possible is if they work with you on a payment plan. If you can speak to someone with some authority they should be aware that it's better they get their money over the course of the next year than they don't get it at all. I think once you sign that "I agree to pay this if my insurance company doesn't" thing you're basically screwed when it comes to whether or not you owe the bill, you do owe it. Be calm and polite when talking to them, it might not seem fair but unfortunately the bill is yours. And try to be happy that you had what sounds like a successful surgery, so over the course of your life you will be very grateful that the surgery was done, and you were no longer in discomfort and pain, even if you did have to pay for it yourself.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 12:49 pm
Out here, the hospital won't cancel your bill...but if you call and talk to their billing department and tell them there is no way you can pay by the date, they will transfer you over to their social workers who will do everything in their power to help you out. When my nephew cracked his head open and needed the paramedics and then a trip to er and stitches (they chose to drive him rather than ambulance so that saved some money) both his parents were laid off. Insurance had run out a few months before, she'd applied for medi-cal for just the two kids and been turned down. When she got the hospital bill, she called, talked to billing, then the social worker, and social worker took over and within the week the whole family had been approved for medi-cal. When sis took niece to er a couple weeks ago (same situation, except sis had just started working and I mean just started, like a week at her new job) and she got the bill, she called. They've now got her set up with an extended due date and a doable payment plan for their circumstances. We had the same situation when step dad died and bils mom was dying, the hospital social workers were terrific. In our experience, they'd much rather work with you than take you to collections. And yeah, I'd talk to the dr too and see if he could send paperwork in to the insurance company telling them it was a medically neccessary procedure.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 2:22 pm
Except this isn't the hospital, it's a medical center/foundation.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 2:32 pm
Surely they work the same way when it comes to billing?
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 2:36 pm
Escapee, if the doctor took pictures and said that the procedure was medically necessary, that is who I would be talking to. Most doctors like to get paid and would be willing to write a couple of letters on your behalf with medical justification. Your doctor's office dropped the ball big time by even suggesting that you could go through the surgery but not explaining that it meant you would be 100% responsible for the bill. And you've learned a good lesson and shared it for others here...if it isn't in writing, or you don't have a confirmation number for pre-approval, you're on your own. Those lousy insurance companies will take thousands and thousands of dollars in premiums and then can pretty much pick and choose what they'll cover. Another perfect example of why I think we need a national health care plan...NOW!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, February 19, 2010 - 2:36 pm
I want to move to Canada!!
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