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Karen
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09-06-2004

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 2:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karen a private message Print Post    
Beckie, I think it depends on the couple and the circumstance. I was just married in July, he proposed the August prior. At that point we'd been together for seven years, and when we realized that it was finally time to get married (ie: when the money was finally in place), I knew exactly what my ring was going to look like. I found my ring online, gave him a link to the image; he printed it out and had the jeweler make it custom. The day he proposed, I knew in advance that it was "engagement day". I didn't know what the plan was, only that it started at 7am and ended at midnight, involved travelling on a ferry, and when I got home I'd have the ring I'd always wanted on my finger.

I would say, no matter what, make sure you at least have a sit down with him and show him some examples of what you like and what you don't like. For example, make sure he knows your choice of white vs. yellow gold, the cut of the stone you want, the smallest acceptable sized stone, and any make-or-break details that you've always imagined your ring to be. An engagement ring is one of those forever things that is supposed to make you tingle every time you look at it, so it's best to be upfront when the discussion comes up as opposed to being passive with, "Oh, whatever, you choose..." (if you're truly meant to be with him then this won't be an awkward conversation.) Of course, you need to keep his budgetary comfort level in mind... I got lucky that we did our entire engagement and wedding on an inheritance I received, so I literally handed him a stack of cash with the image of the ring I wanted...

Just my two cents. :-)

Karen
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09-06-2004

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 2:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karen a private message Print Post    
And for clarification, I say "you" and "him" but I understand that this is a hypothetical question. The "you" is the girl in question, not you, per se. :-)

Sharinia
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09-07-2002

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 5:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sharinia a private message Print Post    
Thanks for the advice, everyone! I think I will keep the card itself positive (and use the 'new beginnings' line). I will also tuck in a separate, brief little handwritten note to my cousin (for reasons Julie said). That way they are separate, tho mailed together. I will try to keep the tone supportive and 'you have been in our thoughts' - not morose or anything. I don't know how y'all feel about that, but I think that seems right for me, so thanks :-)

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 7:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
With respect to the ring question, it ranges from does she like to be completely surprised or does she want to be involved in every detail. There isn't a right or wrong answer other than to say that it totally depends on the couple and what will work well for some will not work well for others.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 8:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Do what my DH did, have the guy get her a nice, inexpensive little ring to do the surprise proposal and tell her they can go get the real wedding ring together.

eta: I actually have 2 wedding rings, the one we picked out together that he gave me on wedding day and the other ring is my mom and dads wedding rings melted together and redesigned for me. He gave me that one when we got married again 4 mo later at our Vegas themed costume reception.

My dad dropped the ring when he was marrying my mom and yep! Bill dropped it during our comedy ceremony!! Mom/Dad were married til they died and Bill and I will be too!

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 9:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
thanks so much...i figured as much about at least having a lil bit of an opinion and a guy should know at least something about dislikes/likes.

thanks for the help. it agreed with what i thought...ha. yah!

Landileigh
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07-29-2002

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 11:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
i was totally surprised, but luckily my husband looked at the rings i was wearing at the time, and asked a few sly questions and he got it right!

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 11:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I surprised Cathy as well. However, we had discussed rings and I knew what she wanted.

It was pretty funny though. It was in a fancy silver metal box (I'm not describing it too well but the box looked gorgeous). When she opened the first box and looked at the silver box her first comment was, "Oh it's beautiful! What is it?" :-)

Beachcomber
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08-26-2003

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 11:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beachcomber a private message Print Post    
We designed my ring together and then he proposed to me at the time of his choosing. So it wasn't too much of a surprise when he proposed, but the ring was extra special because it was the first time I saw the finished product sized just for my finger.

Yankee_in_ca
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08-01-2000

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 11:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yankee_in_ca a private message Print Post    
It depends on what (the hypothetical) you want, and what your expectations are for a proposal.

I tend to be practical. My dh and I decided together that we would get married, and we went together to design our rings.

There was no surprise, and it was exactly perfect for me. But for others, they would want exactly the opposite.

Christy358
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07-10-2007

Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 10:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Christy358 a private message Print Post    
We have a jewelry store here that advetises they will set your diamond in a temp setting for the surprise question....and then work with the couple later to make it the perfect ring for her.

Panda
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07-15-2005

Monday, December 22, 2008 - 3:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Panda a private message Print Post    
my DH (well boyfriend of 10 years at the time) asked me what I liked, I picked a plain style out and then he surprised me with a beautiful ring that wasn't near anything my plain style one...lol I am glad he has good taste. We picked out our bands together but didn't get matching ones, we got ones that we both loved.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, December 26, 2008 - 3:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
NEW QUESTION:

My cousin is getting married soon. Her future mother-in-law wants to give her a "friends and family" cookbook at her shower. She wants a favorite recipe or two from everyone at the shower for this cookbook.

Now of course there is no way, no how that I have any original recipes. Do I include my source in the title of the recipe or what?

TIA

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Friday, December 26, 2008 - 3:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
julie, we did this for my cousin and we just picked out two recipes and put the name down of what it was...

we never put a source for the recipes.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, December 26, 2008 - 4:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Thanks Beckie!

Biscottiii
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05-29-2004

Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 9:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biscottiii a private message Print Post    
Question for the fine jewelry wearing folks, gold to be specific.

10 yrs ago I inherited from a dear friend a gold chain necklace with a healthy size Alaskan Gold Nugget beaten into the initial "J". Wouldn't sell it even though the gold probably would be worth something (sentimental). Now, my best friend of 38 years is having a birthday mid January. Her initials are J.J. and she has lots of costume jewelry with the J.J. theme. I also don't have any heirs (other than her) with the initial. She's also travelled about 4 times to Alaska so loves that state.

I decided why wait? Would like to see her get the pleasure in wearing it (plus would STILL stay sentimental for me).

Question:
Even though it's probably only been worn 5-6 times, is in perfect shape - has spent most of it's time in the original box, still seems like I should get it cleaned and spruced up perhaps. I'm on a fixed income, so I'm not sure if I should take it to a jeweler (after watching too many Judge Judy shows, would be nervous that it might get lost).

Or are there any kits for cleaning up gold that someone might know about? Maybe I should take to a jeweler? Any suggestions? TYIA!

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 11:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
I don't know anything about this personally, but googling it it seems pretty easy, just a mild detergent and a soft brush or cotton cloth to rub. Sounds safer than sending it away.
http://www.ehow.com/how_172253_clean-gold-jewelry.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Clean-Gold-Jewelry

Biscottiii
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05-29-2004

Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 12:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biscottiii a private message Print Post    
Brilliant Kitt, Thank you!
I've got all the stuff so will do it myself. Then will buy a nice new little box to go with and put in the "Genuine Alaska Nugget" tag from the old box. I think she will be tickled! Me too.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 12:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
That does sound lovely. You'll both be able to appreciate it.

Happymom
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01-20-2003

Wednesday, December 31, 2008 - 12:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Happymom a private message Print Post    
Sorry, a bit late...Pamy, I love that you have a ring made of your mom and dad's wedding rings! That is wonderful!

I think the ring question is a tough one to answer!

Julie, I don't think it really matters about the source for the recipes unless you are giving a recipe you got from someone else in your cousin's life.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Sunday, January 04, 2009 - 12:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Dumb question I had the other morning while watching the Rose Parade.

Does the parade start or end the beauty queen and princess reign? I know they reign for a year and do community type stuff, but wasn't sure when they started or finished. Not really important, just curious.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Sunday, January 04, 2009 - 5:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
War, I believe its the end of one reign and the beginning of the new one.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Sunday, January 04, 2009 - 7:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
yep

Whoami
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08-03-2001

Monday, January 05, 2009 - 9:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Whoami a private message Print Post    
I did a little Googling to research this, since you piqued my curiosity on the subject.

I found an official website for the Tournament of Roses. On the right-hand side of the page is a list of links/press releases. The Royal Court was selected in October. An excerpt from the THE TOURNAMENT OF ROSES HAS FOUND ITS 2009 ROSE QUEEN announcement says, "The Rose Queen and Royal Court will reign over the 2009 New Year's Day festivities, culminating with the 120th Rose ParadeĀ®, themed Hats Off to Entertainment, and the 95th Rose Bowl Game."

Then, in the "SEVEN PRINCESSES BEGIN THEIR REIGN AS THE 2009 ROYAL COURT FOR THE PASADENA TOURNAMENT OF ROSES" announcement (sorry, can't do a direct link on that one, it causes a formatting error when I try to post), one excerpt says, "The newly selected Rose Queen and Royal Court will reign for an entire year until the new court is selected in October of 2009."

So my interpretation is that it is sort of in the middle of the current reign, and the next new one will be in October.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Monday, January 05, 2009 - 11:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Thanks ya'll. It was an odd curiousity for me, lol, I don't even follow the local beauty queens and court other than seeing them around at local events sometimes. I do know they serve a year, they're involved in a bunch of community service stuff and that's about it.