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Prisonerno6
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08-31-2002

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 3:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Prisonerno6 a private message Print Post    
BTW, I disagree with the ftf meeting. You need this in writing.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 3:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
i think your email is perfect, prisoner.

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 3:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
I like prisoner's letter too and I like that there is a specific deadline for a response. If you don't get one then you can speak to the principal about changing classes without being accused of going over his head and not giving him a chance to defend himself.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 4:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I spoke to her about sis, she said sis talks in class, I asked if other kids did too, she evaded. I told sis to go OUT of her way to be good, and write down everything. I even told her that when teach starts in, to maybe covertly call me on her cell phone so I could hear what was going on for myself.

Prisonerno6
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08-31-2002

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 4:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Prisonerno6 a private message Print Post    
I would follow up in a week with an email asking how sis did this week in class, and if she needs to do anything else. Document, document, document...

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 4:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Escapee, I would totally leave the other kids out of the equation.

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 6:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
I would also BC the e-mail to the principal so that there is a record of ALL e-mails. As a teacher, I do this routinely when dealing w/parent e-mails, but in your situation, I'd be sure the principal was aware that you were trying to do the right thing.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Monday, October 05, 2009 - 9:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
I like Prisoner's e-mail, and I was going to suggest the same thing Prisoner already suggested. Both you and C should document everything, and that can be as simple as making a note of date, time, place, who did what. Then keep the notes in case you ever have to lay it all out. You will have the ammunition.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 9:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Ok, she is now calling my sister Kitty. I don't know why. I e mailed her to let her now that sis had the flu and could i pick up her homework today and she said "I hope Kitty feels better." She did this in the last e mail too, and I ignored it, but this is twice. Should ignore this?

Merrysea
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08-13-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 9:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Merrysea a private message Print Post    
What does your sister think of it? If she's okay with it, I'd ignore it. If not, I'd ask the teacher why she's calling her that.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 10:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
What is that? Some sort of nickname? Do other people call her that?

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 10:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
No, no one else calls her that. My sister's name is Cristine, so this is weird. It may be a cultural thing, the teacher is East Indian, but I don't know. Should I say something?

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
That's odd to say the least. I don't see how it could have anything to do with her being East Indian. So you write her and refer your sister as "Cristine" and she writes back and calls her "Kitty". Does Cristine know why she is calling her that?

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 10:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I asked sis and she said it was odd and disturbing.

I wrote to her the first time (a couple weeks ago) to inquire about homework, and some other issues and maybe sitting down together, etc. That was the first time she called her Kitty. I brushed it off. This morning I e mailed her again to let her know sis would be absent and could I pick up her homework and she said "I am sorry to hear Cristine is sick. I will leave her work in the office. I hope Kitty feels better soon."

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 10:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Do her friends call her Cristy? Maybe she's picking that up and mispronouncing or misspelling it. I wouldn't make a big deal about it, just mention that she spells it a different way. Unless it seems like some sort of passive-aggressive taunt.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 11:17 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
no, it's cristine or Cris. She's never been called Cristy. I asked sis if she's ever heard her call her that, and she said no, and it was odd and disturbing to learn of it now.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 11:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Weird. I'd just mention in the next email that she prefers to be called Cristine, not Kitty then. The teacher might be trying to be friendly or emphasise that she means well... hard to know really. If she continues to call her Kitty after being asked not to then I think there's something very odd going on with the teacher.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 11:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
THe more I correspond with her, the odder it gets. For a teacher, she has horrific grammar. I mean, mine's bad too, but I'd expect better of a teacher. I guess it'd be more of an issue if it were her English teacher.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 2:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
maybe she thinks she is talking to someone else. is there a kitty in the class?

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 2:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I'd think that too, except she said I'm sorry Cristine is sick. I hope Kitty feels better soon. And in the previous e mail she did it too. Sis says there is no one named Kitty, or Katherine or anything remotely close in her class.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 2:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
she uses both Cristine and kitty in the same email?? how odd. keep these emails, i really think you are going to have to involve the principal.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 3:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
That's quite peculiar. I don't see it as overtly derogatory but it is very odd and disconcerting. I wonder what she would say if you asked her about it in a non-confrontational way.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 3:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Like "Do you call Cris kitty because she like Hello Kitty?

Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 3:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
Honestly, I would just let that one go for now. She's not using it in class, she may just be tired and mistyping; or it may be a cultural thing.

No harm no foul, I say. Or... focus on the big stuff, not the small stuff, unless it becomes big stuff.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, October 08, 2009 - 3:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I think Kar makes a good point. The teacher seems to be cooperating with you at this point and that is the main thing.