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Archive through December 13, 2009

Reality TVClubHouse Discussions: General Discussions ARCHIVES: August 2009 ~ December 2009: Free Expressions: The return of The Return of the Gripe Thread: Archive through December 13, 2009 users admin

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Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
December is too early for snow?? We were thrilled not to have any in November (and now concerned that we'll have it until May because of the "late" start)! LOL

It is pretty, but I'm pretty sure that will wear off when the 40 MPH winds and lake effect snow kick in this evening.

Grooch
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06-16-2006

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Grooch a private message Print Post    
Teach, I am in denial about snow as long as I can be.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
I think we should send all the snow to Scoots yard. Do I have any takers?

Ophiliasgrandma
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09-04-2001

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ophiliasgrandma a private message Print Post    
Naja, would you consider renting her out for the winter?

Naja
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06-28-2003

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Naja a private message Print Post    
Send it to my yard! This was our first snow today in the video and we only got one inch. I would love to see my 7 month old puppy jump around in her first real snow.
6 inches or more would be nice.

I wanted to do the "That's what she said" joke after that last sentence, but I don't think it comes across as funny in print...LOL

Naja
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06-28-2003

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 12:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Naja a private message Print Post    
OG, I would rent her out except she would bring your paper back to my house instead of bringing it to you...LOL

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 3:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
<-------Hopes Grooch does NOT live in Michigan or anywhere close as denial is getting MUCH harder with the blizzard conditions! :-)

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 3:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Ok so I have a gripe and I am not sure I am being over sensitive and may need a dose of reality.

Here is my story. I am a stickler for manners especially please and thank yous.

Last November ny nefew and niece had a baby girl and they live 8 hours away by car. I sent a beautiful gift as this would have been my parents first great grandchild. I waited 4 weeks and heard nothing. Never knowing if they received the gift. My sister was in the same boat.

Christmas comes and they come to visit with the baby. My brother was thanked for my sister's gift and I was ignored. So about a week later I sent an email asking if they received the gift. I got an email back saying thank you but only after I asked.

Now a year later we are invited to the 1st birthday party. I am torn about sending a gift but of course I send a cute pink blazer and cap. I sent it mid Novemebr and have heard nothing. In the mean time others have been publicly thanked in front of me. Because they are family I cannot bring myself to embarrass them publicly.

Am I living in the wrong era, does nobody thank anybody anymore. My daughter has to call, or write within 3 days of receiving a gift to thank the person and mention the gift in the thank you.

Am I expecting too much? I do not want to punish the child for the parent's lack of manners. I do not know what to do. I feel stupid. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 3:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Pippin:
My grandma sends my cousin in Texas a gift every year and gifts for the great grandkids. For years, she never got a thank you or anything. She got fed up and one year did not send a gift. The day after Christmas she got a call from cousin asking how everyone was and wondering if the gift had gotten lost in the mail and could Grandma maybe track it.

Grandma said " I didn't send one because every year I send one and I don't think they get to you. You have never called me to say you got them or anything, so I figured that they weren't making it to you, because if they had, you would have absolutely called and let me know you got them and said thank you, right?"

So, that fixed that. Cousin felt pretty bad and called every christmas to thank grandma.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 3:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
I would give them a pass for the first case, as they had a new baby and when they thanked your brother they may have thought they had thanked you at the time, because they meant to.

However the second time is a bit much, especially as they should have remembered that you had to ask last year because they (perhaps as a simple oversight) didn't give a proper thank you.

I think if it were me (and I hate to stir the pot) I would ring them and ask if they got the blazer, and when they say yes, say something like oh good, because when it had been so long and you hadn't rung to say it had arrived I was worried it was lost in the mail.

If that doesn't get an appropriate response, and the trend continues with Christmas or whenever, I'd just resign myself to the fact that you love your niece enough to give her lovely presents, even if her parents don't have the manners to thank you for them. And then try not to stress about it.

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 4:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
I like your Grandma, she has guts Escapee.

I relented and sent an email asking if they got the gift. I was told yes and there was a thank you card for me, but they did not have my address so it could not be mailed.

I am confused......I guess I just see many young people with no manners these days it really disappoints me. Maybe my expectations are too high. When my daughter started dating her boyfriend. My first question was about his manners. i just think it reflects so much about people.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 4:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Pippin, I am probably close to your niece/nephew's age and now I am thinking about every gift we've ever gotten, did we thank them? OY! I know we have for baby showers and the wedding, but can't tell you if I did for birthdays. Well, I'll never forget again.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 4:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
My policy is no thank you, no gift next time. I don't give out many gifts anymore ...

Rissa
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03-19-2006

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 5:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
When was the actual birthday Pippin? I ask because I don't let my girls open their gifts until their bday even if the gift arrives early.

We open all gifts and then hand child the phone to call everyone and say thank-you. Few exceptions will get emails. It is important but I wouldn't punish child for the parent's bad manners if you are an otherwise close family. I wouldn't get gifts for the parents anymore though as a little gratitude isn't too much to expect.

Texasdeb
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05-23-2003

Wednesday, December 09, 2009 - 7:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texasdeb a private message Print Post    
Pippin, if you mail a gift or send something via on line to this niece from now on - I would suggest that you e-mail her that a gift is coming & to please return e-mail you once it's received. If you don't get a return e-mail, that's not acceptable! This young mother may just need to be reminded.

Landileigh
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07-29-2002

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 12:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
thank you juju (thanking ahead of time - just in case!)

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 4:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Thanks everyone I feel better......Texas I will email from now on as you suggest and see what happends after Christmas.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 5:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
You know I was in Florida visiting my Father and his wife and of course they spoiled me. Trust me I sent them a thank you card when I got home.

Dfennessey
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07-25-2004

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 5:30 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dfennessey a private message Print Post    
and let me also tell you that I did thank them a few times while I was down there too

Maplsyrp
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02-10-2009

Thursday, December 10, 2009 - 2:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maplsyrp a private message Print Post    
Naja your puppy is so cute!!!! Is she a Lab? I have a Lab puppy. Pippin, same thing happened to me with my neice and I have adopted JuJu's policy. I sent her alot of money for graduation and I didn't even mind if my thank you was verbal. Didn't get one at all. I made it quite clear to my son's that if we sent out announcements that thank you cards had to be sent. I do think that on birthdays and Christmas that verbal thank you's are ok.

Pippin04
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10-26-2007

Friday, December 11, 2009 - 5:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pippin04 a private message Print Post    
Verbal thank yous are great, I will even accept an email or a facebook note. So I am easy. I think in the future I will just send a follow up email that a gift has been sent and see what happends.

I know the couple has issues with me as they have commented several times on how they do not approve of my parenting skills with my daughter. So I cursed them and said they will only have female children, first child a daughter and now twins on the way.

Naja
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06-28-2003

Friday, December 11, 2009 - 6:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Naja a private message Print Post    
Maplsyrp, the only thing we are pretty sure of is that her mom was mostly German Shepherd. Her mom was a beat-up one-eyed stray that had puppies on someone porch, so we took one. We assume her dad had to have been a black lab because she looks and acts exactly like one.

Maplsyrp
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02-10-2009

Friday, December 11, 2009 - 10:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maplsyrp a private message Print Post    
Naja same with our puppy. He is a shelter dog and they told us one of his parents was a lab.

Ginger1218
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08-31-2001

Sunday, December 13, 2009 - 7:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ginger1218 a private message Print Post    
Okay, I don't know what to do. It is soooooo hot in my apartment, The thermometer reads 88 degrees the windows are open, the fans are on, I even tried the air conditioner, nothing helps. The super says there is nothing he can do. I am dying,

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Sunday, December 13, 2009 - 7:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Ginge do your neighbours have the same temps in their suites? Also, do you have any ice packs? I'd take them out, wrap them in a thin dishtowel, and put them on your forehead and neck. If not, frozen veggies like peas, should do the trick instead.