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Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Tuesday, May 05, 2009 - 2:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
That's cuz your car is his territory.

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Tuesday, May 05, 2009 - 2:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
Aw, thanks Mameblanche!

I have two cats too and they will be the last. They are demanding!

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Tuesday, May 05, 2009 - 4:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Escapee as a non-dog owner who had neighbours with barking dogs all I'd say is please do something. The first time you hear the dog it's nothing, the next time it's a little more irritating, and then the sound begins to just creep into your brain. My dh is pretty placid, but when we had the problem with the dog next door he was practically screaming at it (and me!). If your neighbour is at the point of phoning you about the problem, make sure you fix it!

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Tuesday, May 05, 2009 - 5:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Barking dogs are the devil's work. I have had many dogs in my life, and none of them were barkers PTL!!! A barking dog who is not your own can make you CRAZY! Fix the barking dog thing before the local authorities show up and demand to help you.

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
I am a self confessed over protective mother, I know it, I live it, I own it. Here is the question, Hilary will be 15 this summer, wow where did the time go, anyway, I still drive her to school each morning, it is over a mile and half walk almost 2, after school I let her walk home to where she splits off with her friends. I am not big on young girls walking the streets alone. I drive her to her friends at night and pick her up always. People, family are telling me to let her walk it will do her good. She is in good shape, gets lots of exercise doesn't need to walk alone. That is my problem the alone part. Should I start and let her get more street sauvy or am I right in driving her. I don't mind driving and would probably be worried sick until she came in the door. We live in a very safe place but you never know, people who's kids have been taken and lost probably thought they were safe too.

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
I would wait till she was 16 to let her walk alone.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
My daughter is 15. I let her walk around our neighborhood during the day, but I don't let her walk at night. I would let her walk home from school, but it's a little too far.

Texasdeb
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05-23-2003

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 6:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texasdeb a private message Print Post    
Is it where she can walk to school with the same group of friends that she walks home with. If so, (considering she wants to walk to school), walk with her until she's almost to the place where she can meet up with the 1st friend then turn around and walk yourself home. Personally, I would continue to drive her to school though.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 6:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I would still drive her. Girls at any age shouldnt walk alone. We let Dylan walk alone to school sometimes but he is a 5 10 ft 13 yo boy.

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 7:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
I'd drive her, too. Better safe than sorry, and if she's not complaining, I wouldn't even mention it. If she IS complaining, I'd drop her where she meets up with her friends.

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 7:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Drive her until she can drive herself.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 7:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Drive her. If she's complaining remind her it's not because you don't trust her it's because you don't trust other people.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 7:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I'd drive her. Why take any chances and why worry. As Teach said if she isn't complaining, don't mention it. If she is complaining tell her she won't have a chauffeur forever and to just enjoy it.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 8:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
and examine why these so called friends are saying it will do her good? Even if she was overweight walking alone isnt the answer. buttinskis!

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 8:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
Thanks I feel better about what I am doing. Hilary isn't complaining about the school walk, she would never get there on time in the morning lol. Mostly my family think I baby her, which I don't think is really true, I make sure she is safe, she has chores and responsibilities, I demand good grades, I just don't trust other people to do what is best for her. I have always put a lot of effort into my kids and usually the people who say I do too much are the ones I call slackers and wonder why they ever had kids, maybe it is just their guilt.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 9:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Yeah, tell the buttinskis to butt out. Sounds like you are doing just fine, LL.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 10:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
My parenting philosophy: Screw what anyone else thinks and do what's right for you and your kid. At least as far as unsolicated advice goes.

As far as kidnappings or worse go, I wouldn't worry too much about Caleb walking to/from school (it's about 2 miles) at 13 cuz there are large groups of kids walking the same route he would. What I do worry about and why there's no way in hell my kids will ever walk to or from the jr high is the two horrendously busy intersections that have frequent accidents. Last week alone, there were 2 accidents on 2 different days at one of those intersections as we were driving home from school, or rather, there were the firetrucks, ambulance, cops, and tow trucks and a few mangled cars and injured folks. Couple weeks ago at the other intersection a car hopped the curb, took out the pole the crosswalk button thingie is on, and stopped in the shop behind it...yes, in the shop. Ain't no way I'd feel safe with the kids walking around those areas and no way around them.

At the elementary school, just over a mile away, I'd never let the kids walk cuz they would have been the only ones out there walking that way. And another bad intersection where cars regularly hop the car and drive through the poor guys brick wall (he's had to repair it 3 times in the last year.)

Whatever your reasons, they're yours and you have to do what you feel is right.

Christy358
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07-10-2007

Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 11:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Christy358 a private message Print Post    
You do what you think is safe for your kid. Easy.

Another thing that has not been mentioned....This is a time she knows she has your attention. 5 min to ask a question. 5 min for you to get that mom idea of what is happening in her life. Drive her.

Tess
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04-13-2001

Monday, June 01, 2009 - 2:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tess a private message Print Post    
Drive her! All too soon she will be driving herself and precious time will have been lost.

It is too far for Sarah to walk to school no matter how old she gets but we drive her every day and pick her up as well and would even if it were 1/2 mile. Sure, there is a school bus she could take down the road 1/4 mile, but we've only used that as a last ditch emergency and even then we make sure a neighbor is there to walk home with her. We couldn't possibly live in a safer community but she's the kind of child who could be snatched off the street in an instant. She's strong, she's smart, and she's a great little runner but she has the emotional skills of a 9 year old and if someone really wanted her, they almost surely win.

And, as Christy said so well, it's one on one time when you can really talk.

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Monday, June 01, 2009 - 1:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
Drive her. Not just for the safety factor, although that is huge.

Take it from someone that has BTDT. I drove Mr.18 to school every morning in middle and lots of times high school. I miss those days. Just him and I chatting or listening to the radio, sometimes the occasional argument. It goes by all too fast. I miss those times and look back on them with very fond memories. It formed a very close bond between us.

Lumbele
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07-12-2002

Monday, June 01, 2009 - 2:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lumbele a private message Print Post    
LLk, there is one thing I learned about parenting and that is to trust your instincts. Every time I doubted them, I ended up regretting the switch. So follow yours and the hell with everyone else's 2 cents. She is yours, you know her best!

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Monday, June 01, 2009 - 3:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
My daughter is 23 and I still don't like her walking alone! You do what you feel you need to do for your daughter. I drove mine to school everyday and picked them up everyday. All through high school. There are too many crazies in this world. I don't think you are overprotective at all.

Snee
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06-26-2001

Thursday, July 16, 2009 - 10:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Snee a private message Print Post    
drive her! i'll be driving snickle until she's old enough to be driving me!

girls/women these days shouldn't walk alone ever in rural (few people around) areas or at night. why take the chance?

we live in a different world than the one in which we grew up. sad.

and i agree with the talking time aspect as well. it's all good, llk!

Oldtex
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03-06-2006

Wednesday, August 05, 2009 - 8:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Oldtex a private message Print Post    
Help me please! My folder in the Member's Room got deleted. Wanted to make a new one, read the directions, but the line where you "start a new thread" says that it is Closed.

I have created my own folder before and didn't have this problem. If some nice person will create it for me, I'd really appreciate it...or am I doing something wrong? I'm getting kind of slow in the brain department! Ya think?

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Wednesday, August 05, 2009 - 8:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
It's open right now, Oldtex. The board was playing up earlier, maybe that caused the problem. I'll pop back in an hour or so and if you haven't been able to start one I'll start one for you, as when I clicked on the button it worked for me.