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Rosie
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11-12-2003

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 11:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Tishala, I think ,because they have been very bad, they should send you a check and give you free DSL for at least a month.

Can't hurt to ask and the most they can do is say no.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 11:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Tish, see if you can switch over to Comcast - 24.99 per month for basic cable AND high speed internet. If you can, then tell ATT to send your money and close your account. I believe they will start whistling dixie about then.

Tishala
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08-01-2000

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 11:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tishala a private message Print Post    
I have Time Warner here, not Comcast. I WISH I could get cable internet and basic cable for $24.99. When Comcast was in LA, that cost me ~$100/month! With Time Warner, it's still something like ~80 for cable and internet.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Jeeminy kristmas. We got sick of paying $100.00 per month for having absolutely nothing on tv we wanted to watch (enhanced digital package and whatnot). I wanted to switch to cable internet, so I got a package deal from Comcast for $24.99 per month for 40 cable channels and my cable internet. We are both very, very happy with the program and don't feel we are missing a thing.

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
Isn't that comcast thing only good for 6 months? I wonder what the cost is regularly.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Dipo, mine is for a year and then I'll just move on if they try to jack me. All you have to do is tell them the digital satellite guys are starting to make headway with you and they offer all kinds of deals and extensions.

Maris
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03-28-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maris a private message Print Post    
my cable/internet combo was costing me $195 a month. I cancelled my HBO/SHowtime, kept one DVR and my internet and I am saving a hundred bucks a month.

Sugar
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08-15-2000

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sugar a private message Print Post    
If a person chooses to set up online billing they should have a seperate bank, not just bank account, but bank for that purpose only. And one really needs to moniter the account. Mistakes happen, not just on the company side. This arrangement is fraught with fees and resolving issues can take time. Funds may have to go thru a couple of federal reserves before hitting an account. Take this advice from someone who once worked in fraud risk/mgmt.

Yankee_in_ca
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08-01-2000

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 4:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yankee_in_ca a private message Print Post    
Today was a crap-ass day. Had to officially lay off my assistant. He has known for a while that the assistant-level position was being eliminated -- and was encouraged by me to apply for an open position at a different level for which I am a hiring manager (position shared btw me and another exec). But he totally blew that opportunity by basically not working the past month ("I've been too stressed out to do that for you." "How can I meet my deadlines when I know this is happening?!" said he), gossiping/complaining around the office and basically <77>. So I had to tell him today he wasn't getting the other job and basically lay him off from his existing job by the end of the month. He didn't take it well.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 4:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
(Yankee said crap-ass.) Yanks, I wouldn't wait if that's how he's acting. He can cause a lot of problems between now and then, and it sounds like his head isn't in the right place.

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 5:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
It's unfortunate in this economy he couldn't see the benefits of what you were offering him. It sucks, but that's his problem. Sorry to sound harsh but it's true. He can start fresh someplace else.

Things are going better at my job. The "project" hasn't come up since last week, but the nod from the higher ups at my job gave me some room to breathe and some much needed respect from my co-workers.

Oh, and they screwed up in payroll for the second paycheck in a row. Only the mistake was 160 dollars this time. They screwed everyone's up--I won't see that money until next year at tax time. That's life, that's where I'm at with just about everything right now.

Yankee_in_ca
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08-01-2000

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 6:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yankee_in_ca a private message Print Post    
I must really have been worked up -- got modded and don't even remember why LOLOL.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Monday, March 09, 2009 - 7:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Yankee, you tried to help him, his prob if he blew it off. I am surprised you are letting him stay til end of month. I agree with GAL lots of bad things can happen between now and then

Tess
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04-13-2001

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 12:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tess a private message Print Post    
I'm with GAL. I'd show the guy doing the crap-ass job the door first thing in the morning. I'm not thinking you need any additional stress in your life just now.

Btw, I'm officially adopting crap-ass as my newest favorite descriptor when I'm sufficiently ticked off. That is your good deed for the day. :-)

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
GRIPE about a friend who asked me to be in her wedding (actually, me kids and DH) and now it's going to cost us about $300 that we don't have

My dress: $160
Hubbies tux: over 100
Girls dresses $50
shoes, luckily only $20 for me.

STILL, though.

The dress I've already put a down payment of $80 that I couldn't really afford. I was under the impression that she was getting the girls dresses, but then last night she came by and said that they would be such and such amount, etc.

We haven't even really talked about the tuxes yet. How do I tell her she has to pay or we are out?

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
you tell her asap that you cannot afford the expense right now but are honored she asked you, then if she doesn't offer to pay she will have to ask someone else.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I can't get my money back on my dress, though :-(

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
That has always been a gripe of mine as well Escapee. When we got married, we paid for the bridesmaids dresses and tux rentals and why wouldn't we? I picked out the dresses, it was my wedding. How can you ask a friend to do you a favour and then tell them to pay for the favour to boot? It should just be part of the cost of the wedding, it's enough that the bridesmaids had to get their own shoes, etc to go with the dress (that they probably hated and would never wear again, right?). If you were at the beginning of the process I would suggest you tell them you would love to be a part of her big day but you just can't afford it..... probably too late for that at this point?

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I think I may still agree to be in it, if she'll pay for the girl's dresses and DH's tux. And maybe the rest of my dress.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
ETA When I got married I paid for all the bridesmaids dresses

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 3:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Here near Chicago, it's common to expect to pay for the bridesmaid dresses (tuxes, etc.) yourself. Basically whoever wears the clothes, pays for them...

That is why I've said thanks, but no thanks a few times... In fact, my dh's sister is getting married next month. I told her right when she got engaged, that if she was thinking of having me in her wedding party, I would if she really wanted me to. But if she didn't care, please pass on me. And luckily she didn't care!! YAY, no stinkin' bridesmaid dress for me!! Ryan and Abby are both in it, but MIL is paying for their tux/flower girl dress.

Msbullwnkl
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08-16-2005

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 4:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Msbullwnkl a private message Print Post    
I just got married in September 2008. While I didn't pay for the bridesmaid dresses, my mom did purchase my flower girl dresses my neices wore. We specifically didn't ask my brother to be a groomsman because we were concerned about cost for his family. (His wife and two daughters were in my wedding party.)

I was very concerned about how much the dresses were going to cost. I told them to pick up shoes in silver. I didn't care about the cost or if they matched, just wanted them to be comfortable and get shoes that they could wear again. I also bought their jewelry and pashminas to wear for the wedding.

As for your dilemma, I would talk to her. Most brides are understanding when it comes to the cost of being a part of the wedding. Maybe see if you can work it out.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 4:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Everyone is different but keep in mind that it is her wedding. You can choose to be a part of it or not. It's not like you are doing her a favor. It's something that close friends do for each other and they should do it happily and willingly or not bother.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 5:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Escapee, maybe you could just offer to be in the wedding yourself since you've already bought the dress, and let her know she should replace DH and your daughters because you can't afford the additional cost. If she offers to pay fine, if not you're off the hook.

This should have been discussed up front without assumptions on either side.

Yesitsme
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08-24-2004

Tuesday, March 10, 2009 - 5:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yesitsme a private message Print Post    
I have always paid for my own bridesmaid dresses of every single wedding I have been in. Where were you guys and how come I wasn't in your wedding?

In one the bride gave us the material and pattern and we had to have them made. That actually was the worse for me since I am no seamstress and had to find someone to make it. It cost as much to have it made as any dress I have bought.

It's common, even accepted around here, that as a bridesmaid you buy your own ugly dress. LOL... and that is what is also bad. I have never worn a dress that I loved and wanted to wear again. But it was my choice to be in the wedding and do it. I think sometimes I didn't realize I could say no!

Since I am single I haven't been able to offer them the same privilege. But when I do marry, I have decided that my bridesmaids will all be the people whose weddings I have been in....and the dresses will be like the orange lace mini-dress that my Beautiful Chrissy doll wore when I was growing up. Oh....and they will also have to purchase the orange go-go boots as part of the ensemble. Probably patent leather (Chrissy's weren't, but they should have been.) And what does cost matter if it all is for my dream wedding? If they love me as much as I loved them. they will do it and smile.

And yes I am joking....I would actually tell anyone who wanted to be in my wedding (male and female) to wear whatever black dress they want to wear (yep...if the guys are my attendants they also have to wear a dress.) They just need to tell me in advance so we can get flowers. My former college roomie has already claimed the matron of honor role....she asked if she could do it years ago and though I was a bit taken aback (I thought the bride asked the matron of honor!), since she asked first, why not? It works into my "if you want to do it do it, if not, don't worry about it" attitude. Beyond that, whoever wants to do the march down the aisle can do it....I would want it to be fun and a bit silly and for noone tot get their feelings hurt because they didn't make the "top friends" list. I can't imagine having to choose people and while I would tend to want to do away with the whole concept, if I can make the day more fun for people I will do it.