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Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 7:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
It boggles the imagination, Eggie.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 10:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Rofl!!

Grooch
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06-16-2006

Monday, December 29, 2008 - 9:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Grooch a private message Print Post    
How about going as a Klingon or a Vulcan?

(Sorry, I was just reading a different thread about shenanigans in Las Vegas in another thread.)

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, December 29, 2008 - 9:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Leiderhosen and a bavarian beer girl outfit.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, December 29, 2008 - 10:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Lol Grooch! I'd love a Klingon costume.

Naja
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06-28-2003

Monday, December 29, 2008 - 4:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Naja a private message Print Post    
Mocha! I think you found it for me! Thank you. I just knew it had to be some kind of thick gewey glue.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, December 29, 2008 - 6:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Oh good lol.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 6:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
NEW QUESTION:

What is a good way to word a thank you to someone who gave you an extremely generous gift in return for work you did for them? What you did for them, you did for them not even thinking they'd pay you in any way. You were doing it just to be nice??

I don't want to force the gift back (its a $100 gift card) as I hate making a deal out of things, but it is really too much.

Any ideas out there??

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 6:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
I've had things like that happen and it does make you feel a bit sheepish, doesn't it? I've said something like, "That's SO nice of you, but honestly, I would rather you keep that for yourself and let's just go out to lunch together or something!"

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 7:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I'd do something like that in person, but we won't see each other til her wedding shower several months away. Do I just go hog wild on a shower gift? Send the gc back in a card? And what words would I use in that card??

Allietex
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08-16-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 7:38 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Allietex a private message Print Post    
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to just say thank you and accept the gift. But obviously she really appreciated what you did for her and wanted to show that appreciation. She would probably feel badly if you returned the gift.

If you really feel badly about accepting it, donate it to your favorite charity, but do not make her feel badly by returning it.



Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 7:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Good point Allie. I do feel weird about accepting it, but I think she would feel even weirder if I made a big deal returning it. Thanks!

Okay, now any ideas for saying "extreme thanks and that was so not necessary/expected!" in a better way?

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 7:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Invite her to a lunch,or coffee date...maybe a movie. bake her some homeade cookies and say it was just a little somthing that you enjoy doing and you wanted to share with her because she was so very generous..... I agree, dont give it back. Whatever you did for her meant alot to her and so except it gracefully and all is good...

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 8:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Is there anything you can send her to match what you did in the job... e.g. if you painted a room send her a little decoration that matches the new decor; if you did her taxes send her a paperwork organiser of some kind... That way you could kind of give part of her gift to you back, but in the guise of "I saw this and thought of you." Depends what the initial job you did was, of course! (But don't make the new gift too big or it could start the cycle again!)

Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 8:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
I don't think you should do more than send a thank you note (or call) that says thank you so very much and it was truly not necessary but greatly appreciated.

She obviously was not comfortable in just accepting it as a gift, and wanted to compensate you in some way. Accept it and say thanks with gusto.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
...or I guess I'll be a big person and help you out. Send it to me!

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Julie, I would thank her, maybe tell her she's not getting away with that (in a funny way, like "not so fast, lady") and then use the money FOR her - as in spend $100.00 plus whatever you intended to spend on her for her shower/wedding gift. $100.00 gift card to somewhere she's registered plus a $30.00 gift from her list or something like that.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Thanks all!! Good ideas!

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
I think MY idea was best! PM me for my address, o.k.?

Sugar
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08-15-2000

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sugar a private message Print Post    
Accept the gift with thanks and leave it at that. You are making this far to complicated and it will just end up being a circle of trying to thank or gift each other over and over.
Don't be embarrased or think it is too much. Your friend chose something she thought you would like. Enjoy it.

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 9:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
I agree with Sugar, you will start a big... 'NOOO, I thank YOU' circle. LOL Thank her with gusto (good word Karuuna) and suggest that after the wedding, when things settle down that you get together for lunch and you can tell her what you bought.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 10:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Personally I'd blend Kar's and Chewi's excellent ideas:
'Thank you so very much and it was truly not necessary but greatly appreciated... and the next time we do lunch, it's my treat!'

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 11:38 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I agree. Making too much of it will probably just take away her pleasure and make it awkward. Remember that she felt it was appropriate. It's funny how hard it can be to accept a gift or reward. Just a sincere thank you. I wouldn't associate this "gift" with any gift that you give her.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 12:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Julie, just write a note expressing your gratitude at her gracious gift.

Serate
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08-21-2001

Friday, February 13, 2009 - 2:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
Julie, I agree with Jimmer and Annie. Just thank her graciously. Don't mention it was too much, you didn't expect it, you'll take her to lunch, etc. Like Sugar and Rissa said, it will just make HER uncomfortable and start a wild circle. Nothing says you can't spend a little extra for her shower gift, or do something nice for her. Just don't mention it in your thank you note or when you talk to her.