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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 2:28 pm
I know, Hukd!!! That's the problem I had with "B", that I went to her about. You would think, when I went to her and described how I was hurt and upset that "B" was talking like she was, that she would make sure that she doesn't do the same....but NNNOOOOOO. I'm barely out the door and she's asking for information about me. I just don't get it. As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing she can say or do that will keep me from looking for a new job now that she's gone and done the same thing. The sooner, I do, the faster I'm out of here!!!!!!!!!!
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 4:34 pm
If she's talking about you to other people, she's also violating some serious HR regulations (especially since she IS the HR dept, along with being your supervisor!). The sooner you're outta there, girlfriend, the better! (But, aren't you snickering that she actually WAS worried about you? Like, "ohmygawd, did I just make her so mad that she's gonna quit" freaked out? Hehehehe! Karma baby karma!)
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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 4:44 pm
I know. I caught her looking at me weird this morning, like she was almost surprised with how I was acting. I went in there like nothing was wrong and I wasn't effected by last Friday's events. I think it might have freaked her out. He he. Either that or her conscience is bothering her about the way she spoke to me. One of the partners did approach me today and very sincerely asked me if I was ok. I looked right at him and said, "Yes, sir. I'm doing well today. How are you?"
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 4:49 pm
Since you are looking into getting another job, could you speak to her higher up, could it do harm/good?
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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 4:51 pm
Not when I can't afford to be unemployed before I locate another one.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 4:55 pm
One of the partners did approach me today and very sincerely asked me if I was ok. I looked right at him and said, "Yes, sir. I'm doing well today. How are you?" You're a better person than I am! I don't know whether I'd have dumped her in it completely, but I think I'd have said something a little... snide! It's quite a small business and maybe the bosses should be aware that the HR person (which is an important role) isn't handling things as best she could. It might also be useful to you to have them aware of what transpired in case they give a reference for you. eta: ah, I see your reply... yeah, don't do anything that might backfire!
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 5:24 pm
The problem is the HR person is also her supervisor (there's no real HR dept, as such). So until she finds another job and turns in her letter of resignation, she has no other real recourse. And CJ, you did an awesome job today! Don't you feel wonderful???? Your hubby will be so proud of you, too!
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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 5:28 pm
At first, I did tear up a little bit. I went to the wrong office at first out of habit. After that I was fine. The day flew by too. I was able to go home with my head high and know that I can make it work until something comes along. eta. My husband is just waiting for the chance to tell her off.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 6:18 pm
Tell your hubby he has to wait till AFTER you quit and THEN he runs into her on the street!! <evil grin> Er, I mean, you know... not physically actually running into her. Just walking into a store or something and you happen to see her "run into her"!!!
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 6:48 pm
LOL Dipo, looks like I am preaching to the choir then, we are in related industries LOL!! Tay, sounds like she is worried you might do something so she is cking in with others to cover her ass.....or she is like a boss at my wk ..a frickin pot stirrer!!! she isnt happy unless she is stirring drama lately, it is pathetic.
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Taysmomcj
Member
03-24-2008
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 6:58 pm
He said that he can't wait for my last day, because that means he doesn't have to be nice any more!!! :D He wouldn't do anything now that would jeopardize what I have at the moment, but when I'm free...so is he... Pamy, I think that you are right with your first guess. She doesn't think before she speaks.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Monday, October 06, 2008 - 8:08 pm
hey, tays - similar but different thing with me a cpl months back. TVCH friends really helped me. be the good guy - never let "that person" know that you are affected by them. this person is also your supervisor - ? Well, you have an oportunity to address higher ups. Maybe you should bold up & just do it.
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Tuesday, October 07, 2008 - 1:03 pm
Hey Pamy, maybe you can answer a question for me. Lets get in the way back machine - before prop 13. How were property taxes calculated then? We were just talking about how California is so poor and I put some of that blame on prop 13, now we never have any money for infrastructure improvements or education, but I couldn't remember how property taxes were calculated so couldn't relate it to my (young) co-workers.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Tuesday, October 07, 2008 - 7:04 pm
I dont know but good question, I will ck at wk tomarrow 
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Sadiesmom
Member
03-13-2002
| Tuesday, October 07, 2008 - 7:47 pm
In my town they outsourced the tax calculations and the company refuses to tell how they did it, they will just tell you that there are houses equal to your s that pay the same tax. I have a neighbor with a 6 bedroom, two living room,family room, finished basement, and full attic and two sitting rooms for the bedrooms on the second of 3 livable floors and they pay about 10 percent more than I do for my two bedroom cottage and let's say we pay about the highest rates in the country, so it a large percentage of my income. I have to talk to my state representative, I think that what they are doing is illegal, but I don't know the law enough. They did not even give me a breakdown like they did in the past telling me how the taxes were calculated. They just declared my house worth 500K (In their dreams, before the market crashed). Taysmomcj, I am sorry to hear about your work problems, but small companies have their own way of working and there is good and bad about it. There is usually little fairness. I wonder why the partner came by and talked to you. Have you considered mentioning that you current desk is not conducive to concentrating. It strikes me if you do the books you work with confidential information and should not be exposed and sitting near a copier, which, by the way, could be hazardous to your health. The next time you see a partner you might mention something like that casually. I have worked places I loved and ones I hated, some were a combination. I have had two different people think they could usurp me and take my position, ha! The thing is there are always bad bosses and always jobs you need for a while. I wish you luck in finding a new job, if you decided to stay, let the introvert in me give some advice about dealing with people. If you think about what happened to you as happening to your husband, or another family member or a dear friend, your inner protective will come out. When I had to ask for things in work, raises, the removal of some people from my staff, or what ever, I found that if I went through the meeting thinking I was defending someone else, just replacing their name with I at the last second, I could get through it and make a powerful case. If you control the books, you have more power than you think. Or you could just leave and say good bye to this problem. Sick days are good after people pick on you as well. I find that if you call in sick after someone picks on you, but when you come back, you tell them you had a migraine, they generally are more careful in being stupid or nasty. They can't prove you did not have a migraine.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 4:41 pm
grrr... #1. Why are kids so mean? #2. Why do so many things bother me so much more than my son? Last night at cubscouts, my DS9 won first place for Best Costume in their contest. Today a neighbor kid comes over and says he heard Ryan won, but only because of his skeleton shoes. Now I could tell this kid said it in a kind of mean/snooty/snooty way. Well when they called Ryan up, the Cubmaster did in fact say something about how he should win alone for being able to walk in those shoes. So the kid who told the neighbor boy that Ryan won, had won himself for most original costume (and by the way I voted for him and did not even vote for Ryan!!) So why does this kid have to say anything like that? Ryan is not one bit upset because he thinks his shoes won the contest for him and he is fine with that cuz he thinks the shoes are cool. But he is a lot more naive that the other boys... I am rambling and may not even make sense. But I do feel better for griping about this. So I guess it's all good. But still....
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Beckie03
Member
07-05-2007
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 4:45 pm
Why are kids so mean? because they are so insecure with themselves that any deviance from what they consider "normal" is easy to make fun of. and i'm sorry about your son. at least he is not worrying about it too much...makes him a better person and just shows how good of a mom you are.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 4:46 pm
If his skeleton shoes are part of the costume, then I am not understanding what the issue is.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 4:50 pm
I am probably not being that clear. The kid (Actually the two of them, the most original winner & the neighbor kid) are kind of dismissing Ryan's win. Like he won on a technicality or something. I know, the shoes are part of the costume and that is why Ryan does not even see any problem at all. But I see the real intent (snotty-ness and insecurity really) of these other two boys. Do I even make any sense???
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 4:57 pm
Ah they are just jealous. I'll bet they dress up like skeletons now for halloween.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 5:04 pm
Julie they're kids, and as long as it doesn't bother Ryan, let it go. The other kid probably had a homemade costume and his parents wouldn't have bought him those cool skeleton shoes even if he wanted them. Yup, it's just jealousy (I have to admit, I would have been jealous of his shoes, too)
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 5:23 pm
I still don't get it. His shoes were part of the costume. He won for best costume. The other kid is just upset because he didn't win. I don't see Ryan as being naive at all in this situation. He handled it very well.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 5:25 pm
Ditto what Jimmer said! Yay Ryan! 
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Bob2112
Member
06-12-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 6:10 pm
People think I got where I am just due to the shape of my pants! <...hopes he doesn't have to hear about the shoes all during lunch on Monday...>
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 6:33 pm
Oh, but Bob, you are so cute in your square pants!
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