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Karen
Member
09-07-2004
| Friday, November 28, 2008 - 10:14 pm
Don't even bother with his emails, just delete them as soon as they come in. If you truly need to keep him on your contact list for medical reasons, then I'm assuming that you'd be able to tell by the subject line whether or not to open it. You can also create a rule to automatically move his emails directly to the junk folder, the only catch with that is that you'd need to be diligent in checking your junk folder, although you can be pretty specific in some email clients. Depending on what you use, you should be able to filter out FIL@Imtoocrassforwords.yuk that are identified as being forwarded messages. This way, if it's a legitimate health related email, I'd assume it would be a regular message, not a forward, and it would still come in. What he's doing is completely disrespectful and uncalled for, but you getting enraged by it is either 1)his intention; or 2)not at all on his radar. Either way, all it's causing is unneeded stress on your part. Forget about it. Ignore it.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Friday, November 28, 2008 - 11:37 pm
Do you and DH have separate e-mail accounts? If so, I'd think it was DH's responsibility to keep him on his contact list for medical reasons, not yours. If DH doesn't have a separate e-mail account, he should get one. They're easy enough to get on Yahoo and what-not. Then you'd be free to block his e-mails from yours. Otherwise, your only recourse is to follow Karen's advise and just delete those e-mails that come in whose subject lines suggest spam/junk. There comes a point where you are allowing someone like that to take your power and energy. Take the power back and claim it as your own, and don't give someone like that the satisfaction. Just because he sends you the e-mails doesn't mean you have to read them. Even if he gets crafty with his subject lines to get you to open the e-mails, you still don't have to read the rest of the message once you discover its true content. And of course, I realize its very easy to say, and quite another thing to do.
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Karen
Member
09-07-2004
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 12:20 am
Funny, Who, I had that in my original post to block FIL from her address and let DH deal with it on his own, but deleted it on the thought that maybe they shared their account. DH and I, while we don't share accounts (we each have separate addresses), they both come in to the same inbox. And in this circumstance, there shouldn't be much differentiation between said and done. What Rissa is putting up with from this man - family or not - is reprehensible. That said... if there are medical issues surrounding his behaviour, then we're talking a whole other ballgame. But from that email that Rissa posted... I'm really, really good at playing the "passive btch" card, and if I'm reading his words right, he knows *exactly* what he's doing. I will be the first to admit that I have a very crude, offensive sense of humour, BUT, I am very aware of where and when and to who I can unleash the sort of funny that *I* think is funny.
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Couchtomato
Member
09-09-2008
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 8:18 am
Rissa, life is too short to stress over inappropriate emails. I'd open anything he sent and just scroll down to make sure he didn't add a p.s. (like the porno pic) to say something like "oh, and by the way, I'm having chest pains". Then discard them and say a little prayer for him. I know it's frustrating, but it sounds as if he's calling out for attention, and your reaction is giving him that satisfaction. JMHO
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 8:20 am
Rissa, as soon as he started talking about a Paris monument, I thought something was up. He was being sarcastic and rude while trying to disguise it. I'd either delete unread, block, or send to the Junk folder all emails from him. If there was something important (someone sick, for example), he could call you. If he persists in this, you could let him know that it's a federal offense to distribute pornography over the internet. While it's a tad bit sketchy, it could fall under the cyberstalking laws of harrassment. It might be enough to get him to rethink his current pasttime.
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 8:58 am
Rissa, for over 100 years there has been this wonderful invention for communicating...it is called the telephone; no 'email' involvement.
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Rissa
Member
03-20-2006
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 11:21 am
Thanks everyone. I am handling it fine, just every once in awhile I get so fed up I need to scream about it. LOL I can delete with the best of them, but it is infuriating that I have to do that with a so-called adult. OG, he is legally deaf.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 1:06 pm
I think that is a great Rissa. We all have a little "ignore button" in our heads and we just have to try to remember to use it occasionally. Of course blowing off some steam in the gripe thread never hurts!
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Kstme
Member
08-14-2000
| Wednesday, December 03, 2008 - 10:42 am
I have a gripe. Haven't been on the board in eons, but this is a BIGGIE! My main landline phone number has been spoofed. I posted in the 'don't know where to put this' thread cause this is important and there is NOTHING anyone can do about it until laws are changed! Here's the link... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoofing_attack Being the recipient of this 'fun time' is a piece of crapola! I feel violated and used. No recourse except to change my number, which isn't something I want to do, right now. So I griped and I feel better! Thank you!
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Wednesday, December 03, 2008 - 10:44 am
Didn't you say it was a computer store? Is it possible that they misprinted their phone number and used yours by accident? Next time someone calls, find out who they were trying to call. It's entirely likely it's an honest mistake. Generally, the caller ID scam is used by people to fool you, not the other way around.
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Kstme
Member
08-14-2000
| Wednesday, December 03, 2008 - 10:57 am
Costacat, no it's not the old store number showing up again. The spoof was done by two teenagers. I spoke with one of them. He, actually, gave me his real number, <he had a spoof number on his phone when he called my number> which I turned over to the telephone company. His friend is the spoofer and the two boys think it's hilarious. The telephone company has been averaging four complaints a day, in the Las Vegas area, for the last 8 months. The spoofers can send out any number, to any place, they desire. They can 'bank' the number to businesses, which call you back, because these delightful kids have left messages on your number's behalf, and you've never called them. I get calls from both business and people. I am not Kevin or Andrew...but I am po'd!
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Grooch
Member
06-16-2006
| Wednesday, December 03, 2008 - 11:14 am
To bad you can't spoof them back.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 4:33 pm
As a teacher, I typically don't complain about having school when the kids "think" we should have had a snow day. However, I'm gonna' gripe today! We've been under a winter storm warning since yesterday at 7:00 PM. We got 8-10 inches of snow last night and the plows hadn't cleaned ONE, SINGLE road in our county this morning. THREE buses got stuck this morning with kids in them! It snowed all day today (it's still snowing) and they didn't even send us home. DH got stuck trying to get home. All of this I would have "handled" - until I found out that our superintendent never even left his driveway this morning to check the darn roads! Our principal lives across the street from him, and when she left at 7:00 AM, his car was in his driveway, with his daughter's car behind it - and both were totally snow covered and had not been moved. Shoot, I heard through students that his own daughter got stuck trying to get out! I'm sorry, but that shows complete irresponsibility and stupidity. When you know it's snowing, every school to the north of us is closed, and the storm warning continues through the entire day, the LEAST you could do is get off your a$$ and check out our very rural roads to see if they're safe for students to be driving on! We have over 200 miles of rural (i.e. unpaved) roads that aren't plowed frequently, and today even the MAIN roads weren't plowed until well after 9:00 AM. GRRRRR!!!
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Watching2
Member
07-07-2001
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 5:11 pm
I'd be angry, too, Teach! In the past they had interviews with superintendents in our area to learn how they decided whether to keep schools open or not. There's a few districts which rarely close and if they have (including ours) you know it's bad out. Anyway, they said they start around 3AM and make calls to the various departments around their town, including the police, the road crews, their bus depo, etc. They keep in touch through those hours because the early news shows start at 5AM. Often they don't get to it immediately since I'd keep watching and switching channels and the districts would keep adding on. They do try to get the word out before any kids would leave for buses since HS activity buses can be super early, but sometimes it's later. We did have a few times where they called it "wrong" and then closed the next day, which gave the kids a great day off since it had all settled down by then. For the most part, they usually make the best choices for the areas, I have to say. Also, they tell us if we think it's too bad out for our kids to go to school, it's our decision and a legal absence as long as we call in.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 5:14 pm
Seems to me that's it's a huge safety hazzard. Thank god no one was hurt or I would smell a lawsuit on the superintendant's hands.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 5:19 pm
Is that grounds for a lawsuit? I have never heard of such a thing. My dad's a principal (he is the one who decides if school is opened or closed for his school) and I don't think he has ever worried about a lawsuit...
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 5:21 pm
Who moved there first? I wouldn't want to live that close to anyone who works either "above" or "below" me!!
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 6:04 pm
The principal was there first. As a parent, I wouldn't have sent my kid. As a teacher, I had to be there, so I dragged the kid along. Poor DS. Yup, my dad was a principal too, and I remember him driving roads as early as 4 AM on snowy mornings. I'm quite sure our super didn't even bother to call the head of transportation for the school because that guy was Hoppin' Mad! (Can you imagine dealing with THREE stuck buses in one morning?) Heck - even the coke truck got stuck in the school parking lot which was plowed at least once this morning! A day off tomorrow would be rather nice. 
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Watching2
Member
07-07-2001
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 8:26 pm
Julie - I think it's because the final decision as to whether a kid goes to school or not is the parents' discretion. We have all kinds of parents who complain when there are snow days because it messes up their baby-sitting plans, esp. for kids who are only watched half-day or after school. It leaves them scrambling to find someone or one of them has to take the day off. They'd rather send their kids in the blizzard of the century. Please know I'm only speaking about a certain number of working parents. Not ALL working parents.
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 8:57 pm
We don't have "snow" days here, although we do have other weather related days. One day last year we had a massive rain storm move in. School was open and buses were running. Other schools around us closed, but our district was opened and it was announced on the news they would have school that day. All the sudden roads started flooding and the gulf came up to the back of the High School. They had to close the schools with kids that were either already there or en route. It was a complete nightmare. My son was already at the High School and my grand-daughter was at her school. My daughter-in-law who lived closer said she would pick them up. I called my son and told him to walk over to grand-daughters school and meet DIL there. That way she would only have to make one stop. It turned out that my son actually walked up to a table they had in lobby of grand-daughters school to wait. While waiting a teacher asked him who he was there to get (he really wasn't there to get anyone), he told them her name. They radioed her class and had her sent out. I just about popped a vein. They were handing out kids willy-nilly. While it is fine my son got her, he is was not on her pick up list. The teachers there had never before seen him. Here is a high school boy and they are handing him a little first grader no questions asked. There was a laundry list of problems and very angry parents that day. Not only what happened with us, some kids couldn't even get back home due to the roads flooding. Cars in the back lot of the high school got flooded out and the students and teachers couldn't even get to them. Bus drivers were stuck with kids on their buses and not able to get to their school, so they went to other schools with them. Parents trying to find out where their kids were. Thank God nothing really bad happened in all that mess. Since that day they have changed the rules. Now if the weather is bad and school is open you can stay home without it being held against you.
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Mush
Member
09-09-2002
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 10:31 pm
Same change happened here last year -- after school wasn't closed after an ice storm and horrible traffic messes, the district announced that staying home for weather-related issues was a family decision and not a school decision. It's now considered an excused absence. We live in a very hilly area, so it just makes sense that everyone has their own individual circumstances. Of course, I don't know how that rule applies to teachers. I wonder what would happen if a teacher decided to stay home when school was open.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 4:19 pm
We don't get snow days. We don't get rain days. We don't get any freakin' extra days off here. I guess that goes along with paying that stoopid paradise tax!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 4:26 pm
Heh, we get a snow day about every 5-6 years here. Any snow that sticks to the ground is enough for them to cancel school. Personally I think it's cuz most of us here have no idea how to drive in snow and they're worried about 12 car accidents in front of the schools!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 4:26 pm
Do I have to pay a paradise tax up here in North of you? We get flood days off, don't you get burn days off?
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 4:46 pm
Hey Costa we got a fire day!
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