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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 9:01 am
we didnt even do an obit for my mom. my lawyer told me not to since it would show I was only heir and crooks look thru obits for info to scam ppl with. So there is a chance there will never be one
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Rissa
Member
03-20-2006
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 10:10 am
It's also common for the obit to be placed in the town/city where the person was born or has family and not the place they lived in at time of death. You used to be able to check the SSDI online for free but I believe you have to pay now. ancestry.com has it on their site if you want to try. ETA: Just checked, was updated as of Oct. 2008 so you would have to wait a mnth for the November deaths to be recorded. ancestry.com SSDI
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 10:58 am
Thanks for that link, Rissa. I have been wondering how to access that database. Here is a link also at ancestry.com that gives the date of death without paying. http://ssdi.rootsweb.ancestry.com/cgi-bin/ssdi.cgi
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 12:28 pm
But you do have to give a credit card info.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 2:02 pm
I didn't, just to get date of death, which was all I was looking for.
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Sunday, December 07, 2008 - 4:06 pm
Well, the company policy is weird, the manual used to state 3 days for immediate family. Now it worded oddly and doesn't give a specific number of days. So instead of going to our boss and saying that she needed to go home because her grandmother had died, she called HR to see how much time she could take, then went to my boss to get the time off. Apparently you get a day for the viewing and a day for the funeral and then travel day before and after. So if you said the viewing was on Tuesday and the Funeral on Wednesday you have four days off, even it if is only a couple hours plane ride. So I will let it go, just as her how it went when she returns on the 14th to get ready for her next vacation which is at Christmas.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Monday, December 08, 2008 - 5:59 pm
This is absolutely hilarious!!!! http://bewareofthedoghouse.com/
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Monday, December 08, 2008 - 6:11 pm
How to clean a toilet. This was simply too much of a time saver not to share it with you. 1. Put both lids of the toilet up and and add 1/8 cup of pet shampoo to the water in the bowl. 2. Pick up the cat and soothe him while you carry him towards the bathroom. 3. In one smooth movement, put the cat in the toilet and close the lid. You may need to stand on the lid. 4. The cat will self agitate and make ample suds. Never mind the noises that come from the toilet, the cat is actually enjoying this. 5. Flush the toilet three or four times. This provides a 'power-wash' and rinse'. 6. Have someone open the front door of your home. Be sure that there are no people between the bathroom and the front door. 7. Stand behind the toilet as far as you can, and quickly lift the lid. 8. The cat will rocket out of the toilet, streak through the bathroom, and run outside where he will dry himself off. 9. Both the commode and the cat will be sparkling clean.
Sincerely, The Dog

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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, December 08, 2008 - 6:27 pm
ROFL!!!!
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Couchtomato
Member
09-09-2008
| Monday, December 08, 2008 - 6:28 pm
LOL, Twinkie - don't know which is funnier, the cat's expression or the dog's.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, December 08, 2008 - 7:13 pm
the dog!!!
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Sugar
Member
08-15-2000
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 12:05 am
Twinkie thanks for the laugh!!
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Tuesday, December 09, 2008 - 9:41 am
Pamy, here in our local paper there is a difference between an obit and a death notice. Death notices, I believe, are automatic and provided by the mortuary(s). Obits are paid for and provided by family or someone close to the deceased.
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 2:52 pm
HELP! I need some advise quickly! My daughter is nine months pregnant and is due between now and Dec 20th. I have two daughters, one was induced and the other was an automatic c-section so I never went into labor naturally. Bethany (my daughter) has been having contractions but at first they are steady (20 min apart) then they stop, and then they start (10 min apart) and stop again for a few hours. I need anyone who went into labor naturally and remembers what happened at the onset to please let me know what to expect! Please! I wish there was a thread called "HELP I'M FREAKING OUT" because that's where I'm at about now. May I say ahead of time that I appreciate and love all who help prepare me and my daughter!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:09 pm
I was induced 2 times, but the second time I was in labor when i went to the hospital to be induced, so they did it anyway to speed things along. Started out with just contractions that were slowly getting stronger. I had had false labor for days and days ahead of that though. I was due with the first baby on July 9, she was born FINALLY AFTER INDUCTION on July 24. Second baby I was due the 17th, and they induced finally on the 23rd. When my mom was preggers with me, she said she woke up in the middle of the night with a horrible pain in her abdomen, it hurt so bad when she stood up out of bed her water broke all over the bedroom floor, they got her to the hospital and within an hour of all that I was born.
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:16 pm
Thanks for responding Escapee! I read that there are three stages of labor, how did you know it was false labor and then when it was real labor (the other labor is Braxton Hicks (sp))? I'm sure fast labor would truly be great but your own birth seemed really fast! Can you tell I'm a chicken?lol It was so much easier when it was me giving birth and not my "child". I wasn't as nerve-wracked.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:20 pm
Well, I knew it was false because there was no consistency, it would be contraction 10 minutes go by, then another, then 5 minutes then another, then 15 minutes before another. That went on for days, but morning of, they said I was progressing slowly so I was in labor, so they sped it up. I had an epi with the first baby and not with the second.
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:29 pm
You had then second natural? I had epidurals with both of mine. I guess Beth is having false labor right now because there is no consistency.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:43 pm
Oh Emeraldfire, when I had the first baby, I was all "DRUG ME" and I loved that epi, lordy it was fine. I was in heaven. Then, I couldn't push with it. So they took it away and waited for it to dissipate, then I pushed for 1 1/2 hours with no drugs. Now, don't read this next part if you are squeamish, because it makes me squirm to remember it. The doc forgot to numb me when he was sewing me back up, and I could feel every pull of each thread of my episiotomy stitches. However, with baby #2, I went in, and I was all gung ho for my epidural and I guess I progressed pretty quickly after they broke my water, because they came to check me and i was at 7 cm and they said they didnt' think they could do an epi. But i begged them to. So they did, and then I laid back down after they put it in and before the nurse could go I asked her to check me again. She said she'd be back in 45 minutes once it kicked in. I said "Please, check now, because I've got a TON of pressure going on." So she checked and her exact words were "Oh my god, your at ten, your baby's right there, so low, oh geez, hang on." and she ran for the doc, they took out the cathiter and the epi wire and 2 pushes, there was DD2. It wasn't until I was in my regular room that I started to feel the effects of what small amount of epi I had with some tingling and numbness in my legs. So, no, no epi. But I'll tell you this, it was much easier the second time around without it. This time he remembered to numb the nethers before he began sewing me up, and clench for this, because he never gave me an episiotomy this time because there was no time, I tore instead, lol. ouch.}
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:49 pm
Lord have mercy Escapee! She wants me in there for it and while normally I'm not squeamish I think that may do me in! I had never thought about not being able to push because while I was induced with the first both were c-sections. That makes sense, but she's really counting on the epidural!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 3:55 pm
You can push with the epi, it's just some people can't. Honestly, I had 6 other people in there with me (which I don't suggest at all) and I was trying not to poop in front of them, lol, because you do poop. I probably could have pushed.
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Mak1
Member
08-12-2002
| Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 4:05 pm
Emeraldfire, first of all....I am so excited for you. Congratulations!! My contractions were different for each of my three labors. My first had regular contractions all afternoon. I had a small "bloody show" (discharge of blood-tinged mucus) and called the doctor's office. I was told to go to the hospital to be checked, and had the baby about 2.5 hours later. With the second, I had Braxton-Hicks contractions for a week or two, or forever, I don't remember. They were annoying and tiring. Finally, one night they got stronger and closer together, though not consistent. Since dd#1 was born fast, mom made dh take me to the hospital. LOL! The nurse said "one finger dilated". Since I was in labor, the doctor said to stay put. He induced me when he arrived, and she was born hours later. The important thing in this case was the doctor commented that the contractions never became consistent. DD#3 was born without incident, more like my first labor but not as fast. I had the same painful issues as Escapee in her white posts, except in the first case, the numbing agent just didn't work. Good luck, Beth!!! edited to add: DD#1 was due December 21 and arrived on December 9. 
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Thursday, December 11, 2008 - 7:30 am
Thanks Mak1, obviously you can tell it's my first grandchild.lol I'm glad that you told me that the contractions never became consistent so that I will know if the pain becomes worse that she may need to go, but right now I'm afraid it's a little too early. You also gave me hope with your first DD coming so early. My nerves are frazzled and I'm ready (I think)! Escapee, I warned her about the number of people she wanted in the room because I remembered I had too many with my first. However, with my second I had an entire nursing class from the local college!
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Panda
Member
07-15-2005
| Thursday, December 11, 2008 - 7:40 am
Congrats! I went into labor but I had a special circumstance. I had a cervical cerclage put in (basically I was stitched shut)and was on bedrest for 16 weeks. I had it removed @ 37 weeks, then I went into labor a few hours later. I went from zero to 100 as far as pain went and I was in my bathroom every 10 minutes. (going yes..tmi) I knew to go when the contrx were so bad I couldn't stand up! I was so paranoid they'd send me home (duh, I was 3-4 before I even got there!) I checked in @10:45, got my epi by midnight and DS was born @ 1:26am. I was fully numb but had no trouble pushing him out. Oh and since I gave birth that late, no one was there and I had the rest of the night to rest and the next morning to relax before visitors came. It was very nice and peaceful. So basically it was the pain and the going to the bathroom that I knew for sure I was in labor.
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Emeraldfire
Member
03-05-2003
| Thursday, December 11, 2008 - 7:57 am
Thanks Panda! Beth has been having pain and going to the bathroom constantly but her contractions are still erratic. My oldest daughter was told that there is a chance that her cervix will have to be sewn shut when she becomes pregnant. Her and her hubby are trying now with no luck. ETA: I called my oldest "Panda or Panda Bear" as a child because of her name and now she collects everything Panda!
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