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Taysmomcj
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03-24-2008

Friday, October 03, 2008 - 6:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Taysmomcj a private message Print Post    
I just want to say thank you to all of you. Being able to talk to someone has certainly made a difference. When I first sat down, I could hardly see what I was writing because of the tears.

I'm sure glad I found TVCH!!!

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Friday, October 03, 2008 - 7:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Actually, and this may depend on the state, when a prospective employer calls a previous employer for a reference, all the previous employer can do is confirm the period of time you worked there and the starting and ending salaries. Unless you specifically include someone as a business or personal reference, they cannot say anything else.

And unless there is a contract, you do not have to give notice. Two weeks is generally considering "polite" and I would give two weeks and only two weeks. They may escort you outta the building right away. Or beg you to stay. But if you don't have a contract, you can walk at any time.

I'm not sure what the laws are for the state you are in, and since it's a small business things may be different. But there ARE laws that they must abide to, and those laws must be posted (such as on the wall in a lunchroom or breakroom). All of that means, if your supervisor is the HR manager, she really needs a good smack upside the head because she is making the company vulnerable to lawsuits.

Do not let your supervisor lay any guilt on you when/if you give notice. You went to her with a problem and she refused to resolve it. You even mentioned looking for another job. If she couldn't put on her HR hat and act appropriately as a supervisor, then you've done all you need to do. Give two weeks' notice. If they beg you to stay longer, you can suggest that you'll consult after regular work hours for some fee, but get it all in writing (as a general rule, set a price of twice what your hourly wage is or equates to).

While the partners/owners seem to be nice people, if they are letting supervisors treat staff the way they are, you should definitely get yer butt outta there. That type of work environment (even if it's not hostile, just miserable) is not worth any amount of money. And it's bad for your health!

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Friday, October 03, 2008 - 7:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
maybe you should call in sick, tell them it's stress from the job....scare them that your going to go out on stress leave ...

I am sorry you have to go thru this...it happens at all work offices to some degree. Just be yourself and screw them. Pray for them, praying for them will bring you peace and more blessings

Serate
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08-21-2001

Friday, October 03, 2008 - 7:55 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
Taysmom at-will means just that. They can let you go w/o notice, you can quit w/o notice. 2 weeks is nice, but if it is a true at-will you don't need that. Find your new job - normally they will understand and respect the 2 week notice to your current job - THEN give your 2 week notice. Or 1 week. Whatever you decide. If they show you the door the day you give notice, so be it. Time to get into a new mental state. If they beg you to stay or threaten you to stay for a longer notice, you can honestly say you already have a job and your start date is XX/XX and it is firm.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 03, 2008 - 9:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
I just want to say thank you to all of you. Being able to talk to someone has certainly made a difference. When I first sat down, I could hardly see what I was writing because of the tears.

I'm sure glad I found TVCH!!!


Taysmom, for the most part, we're here for each other - that's the miracle of TVCH. Now please, just relax and enjoy your weekend. You totally deserve it! Gentle hugs...

Christy358
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07-10-2007

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 8:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Christy358 a private message Print Post    
Taysmom... My dad told me that we spend way too much time at work for it to be a place you hate. Find a job you at least do not mind going to.

Next, before you go interviewing, think up a positive reason you are leaving your current job. Prospective employers DO NOT like to hear any complaints about your last job. It's like a big red flag. Lie if you have to. :-)

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 11:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I've always said no amount of money in the world will help if you're truly unhappy in your job. While money makes the rest of your life easier, it isn't gonna help if you're working in a miserable environment!

Kc103
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07-13-2004

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 2:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kc103 a private message Print Post    
RN I'm still feeling queasy after opening up my 2nd installment of my property taxes late last night. The amount they want me to pay has TRIPLED since my last installment. I cannot fathom that this bill is correct. I tried calling today right away, but of course their offices are closed on Saturdays. My brothers both have larger houses than me and don't even pay that much. My mother lives next door and has a finished attic doesn't even pay that much. I have a smaller house with no finished attic or basement. I am surely praying something is really wrong with this bill! :-(

(I started to put this in the Right Now thread, but then thought my post probably fits better in here.)

Serate
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08-21-2001

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 2:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
KC not sure how it is in your state but in Iowa I can get online and check out everything about my property. Heck I can check out everything about my neighbor's property! Not all counties are up and running here yet. Maybe your state has something like that?

Taysmomcj
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03-24-2008

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Taysmomcj a private message Print Post    
Thanks, everybody. I talked things over with my DH last night when he got home. He's all for me looking for a new job. As long as I have his support and love, I'll make it. I spent a couple of hours this morning brushing up the ole resume. It's time to get serious.

Serate
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08-21-2001

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
I'm going to pm you a link.

Serate
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08-21-2001

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 2:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
That's good to hear Taysmomcj. Good luck job hunting!

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 3:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
KC, did you do any transfers this year? add/delete someone from title of your property? do any new construction?

did you buy your property last year and your first installment was based on old owners value?

Serate
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08-21-2001

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 3:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
KC got your pm, sent you an email. If you don't get it check your spam/junk mail.

Kc103
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07-13-2004

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 4:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kc103 a private message Print Post    
Thanks, Serate. I got both of your messages.

Pamy, no on both accounts. I've bought the house about 2 1/2 years ago, no changes in title, and no construction done at all. That's why I'm baffled. They are phasing out a Homeowner's Exemption...but tripling the taxes just doesn't sound like a "phase out" to me; especially when I live next door to my mother and hers only are up about $100 for this installment. I will have to see if I can call and get some answers on Monday.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 4:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Pamy, property taxes in California don't change unless something happens (like that you've listed). We can thank Prop 13 for that. Other states don't have the property tax provisions that we do.

Texasdeb
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05-23-2003

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 5:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texasdeb a private message Print Post    
I waited 1 1/2 hrs just to get my hair trimmed at one of those walk-in hair cut places. When it was my turn, I was in & out of the cutting chair in less than 10 min. I got what I went in for so I tipped my stylest well but, come on - - I'm ok with it only taking 10 min. to do my thing but, shouldn't those places have an express line or something for folks like me (alot of men would also fit in this catagory) that aren't changing their style but simply getting a healthy simple trim.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 5:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Costa, taxes can go up 2 % each year in CA (per prop 13)I work at the Assessor's Office. :-)
That's why I asked the questions so I could maybe give her an answer (although it would be based on my CA Assessor knowledge) until she calls for official answer on Monday

note... due to economy, this year in CA we lowered MANY home values and people are paying LESS taxes this year.

It gets tricky when values go back up and people get tax bills that have gone up by more than 2% due to going back in time and bringing their value back up after a decline.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Saturday, October 04, 2008 - 11:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Tripled couldn't possibly be right.

I live in WA state, and our taxes went up significantly (maybe by about a third) a couple years ago. When we questioned it, we were told the city had re-assessed and was phasing in sections of the city over three years. We did not protest because our taxes were pretty low to begin with and are still fairly low.

Had they tripled, I would be feeling sick but be absolutely sure it was a mistake.

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Sunday, October 05, 2008 - 6:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
Yes, Pamy! I was pleasantly surprised to have my taxes lowered without asking. Although I am not as pleased by my loss in value.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Sunday, October 05, 2008 - 8:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Dipo, remember that your assessed value is usually lower than market value. This happened in the 90s but we went back up so as long as your not selling right now, it's all good :-)

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Monday, October 06, 2008 - 11:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
LOL Pamy, I know - I am in the mortgage industry. Unfortunately, my value has dropped to about what they assessed it for and I didn't buy during the high value time. I know it will be back and I bought to set my "rent" rather than to make a quick buck. Plus I really love my home, I couldn't have found a better condo or location - and I do check every weekend.

Taysmomcj
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03-24-2008

Monday, October 06, 2008 - 1:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Taysmomcj a private message Print Post    
All right, so I get to work this morning and find out that after I left for the day on Friday, my supervisor called and talked to the one lady I am closest to here to see if I was ok. And she stated that she didn't want me to feel like I was being punished. Too late for that!!!!! And why couldn't she say something to my face?!?!?! If she's THAT concerned about hurting my feelings, why hasn't she apologized today instead of acting like nothing happened!!!!!!!! AARRGGG.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Monday, October 06, 2008 - 2:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Worse than that, Tays, why was she talking about you with another employee?

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Monday, October 06, 2008 - 2:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Interesting, Tays. Sounds like she's regretting isolating you, but like you say, too late now really, the damage is done. The best she can do is come to you and apologise for not handling the situation properly and it sounds like she's not even doing that.