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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 6:37 pm
Julie, relax. I am saying this with great affection, but chill. You are way too hypersensitive when it comes to Ryan. The other kid was jealous, but Ryan didn't let it get to him.That's a GREAT trait. I tell my kids all the time if someone says something like that say 'thank you'. It sounds like you are more bothered by the fact that Ryan wasn't bothered by it.
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 6:44 pm
Julie, one thing my mom instilled in me, and I use it to this day, is that when somebody talks about me or picks on me, to realize that I am strong enough to take it and at least they are doing it to me instead of somebody that isn't strong enough to take it who might hurt themselves or somebody else. So go ahead people, talk about me, I don't care!!!! *L* This might not be what Ryan is doing at the moment, but it's a good way to handle it in the future.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:05 pm
If everybody including the judge and Ryan think the shoes are so cool that they won the contest for him, then they probably did win the contest for him. The proper response to the snotty kid is, "I know! Aren't they great Frankenstein shoes!??"
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:12 pm
It's just that he is always so NICE to everyone. He has never ever said a bad thing about another kid. So it bugs me when another kid is mean to him (in a big way or a small way.) And I am happy that Ryan didn't even get the kids' mean attitudes. As far as he is concerned, the shoes are cool, so there is no issue. I know that I am just too hypersensitive when it comes to him. I am very proud of him. I just need to chill. (Annie you are very right. Except I really am not bothered at all that it does not bother him. I am very relieved. Oh man, if it did bother him then I really would need a drug!!) Luckily I can tell Abby is already very outgoing and sure of herself. She plays well with other kids but will totally stand up for herself as well. When Ryan was little he just liked to parallel play, whereas Abby is always interacting with others. At any rate, thanks for the comments. And Bob, by Monday I am sure this will be long forgotten about!!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:37 pm
Jb you're the adult right?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:41 pm
yes, so...? I am an adult who gets irritated that kids can be mean to a nice kid. ('course it's my kid so I my be biased and highstrung.) What does me being an adult have to do with it?
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:46 pm
It means you need to chilldahellout lol and let little shit go. It didn't bother your son so why should it bother you?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:49 pm
That's what I am saying!!! That's why I griped about it here. Got it of my chest and now I am fine. We went to family fun night at his school tonight and even though he may not be the most popular kid, he still had fun. I think the bottom line is that kids know he is nice and I hope that the nice ones will gravitate towards him so he'll always have at least one kid to play with.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 8:51 pm
and yeah, I know I gotta chill. I'm workin' on it!!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Friday, October 17, 2008 - 11:12 pm
I betcha he will end up with a wonderful wife who will watch out for him, and he will live a very serene, zen, and centered life and have kids who are all hyper and wonder where they got that shit from.

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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 4:03 am
LOL Juju!!!
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Bob2112
Member
06-12-2002
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 11:11 am
Julieboo: Dawg is right, but the real question is how are you going to survive Ryan's junior high and high school years? Ack!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 11:52 am
Or, better yet, how are WE going to survive them? Because the way it is going, it looks like we are all still going to be here when Ryan has those hyper grandkids.

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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 12:00 pm
Julie...one little trick I learned over the years with my sons was to ask myself this question: Will it matter in five years? If the answer is no, then remind yourself to simply use it as a learning tool. If the answer is yes, get worked up about it, fight about. Asking myself that question got me through many small turmoils my children faced. You've got a good boy and a good relationship. Recognize that blessing and know that he must go through some unpleasant things in life to become a good man. You are teaching him all about that by your own reactions to things. I've always felt it's much harder on us than it is on them, often times, because of the whole "Mother Bear" thing. Now that they're grown, I find I remember many of these incidents in their lives much more than they do. You're doing a great job! Just keep doing it.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 1:40 pm
Thanks for all of your nice words and your advice and opinions. Now, here is the irony...(Well maybe not irony, maybe karma or ???) The boys in our 'hood love to play football. That is all but a very few, including Ryan. (Because Ryan is very cautious and knows it will hurt if he gets tackled.) Today a bunch of boys (older and younger than Ryan) were playing and tried to get Ryan to play too. Ryan said he wanted to finish delivering his cubscout popcorn. The boys play football and Ryan delivers popcorn. Ten minutes later I see the boys walking away from where they were playing football and find out there was a fight. One kid punched the other in the face. Turned out one of the kids in the fight was the same kid who came over yesterday and told Ryan he only won the contest cuz of the skeleton shoes. About 5 minutes after that, that same kid calls for Ryan on the phone. Ryan was still delivering popcorn so I talked to that kid. He told me (in tears) that he wanted to play with Ryan because Ryan was the nicest friend he had. I know I am a geek and a freak for getting so worked up over stuff in Ryan's life, but when I heard what that kid said, I just melted. I am so joyful that a kid would say that about Ryan. (Especially this kid who does not say nice things easily. And I knew he was saying it from the heart!) So kind of like a backwards Heidi Klum, one day you're down and the next day you're up!!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 6:31 pm
Hahahahaha, so now you love the little smirker. LOL. Oh, and good advice from Beek.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 8:57 pm
hint for not getting ass kicked in future: if boys want you to play football dont tell them you would rather deliver popcorn. 
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 9:05 pm
LOL, Pamy, it wasn't the popcorn deliverer (Ryan) who got kicked, but one of the football playing kids.. Julie, Ryan seems to have his priorities on straight 
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 11:20 pm
EggZackley, Seamonkey. Shoe smirker got his ass kicked for playing football while Ryan was delivering popcorn and shoe smirker now sees the error of his ways and how not to get his ass kicked.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 8:28 am
LOL at shoe smirker!!! hahhahahaaa
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 5:37 pm
LOL!!! By the way, the shoe smirker who said Ryan was the nicest friend he had, was not the "punchee." He was the "puncher!" Go figure!!
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Christy358
Member
07-10-2007
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 9:00 pm
I like the happy outcome. Only goes to prove that mom needs to take 3 steps back with any reaction. I laugh at my mom... things she thinks she TOTALLY messed up, I barely remember.
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Llkoolaid
Member
08-01-2001
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 9:48 pm
After the first kidlet, Do or say anything to my child, you die. After the second kid, Do or say anything to my child, I cuss you out. After the third kid, Do or say anything to my child, tell my kid to stay in their own yard and that you are a jerk. After the fourth kid, Do or say anything to my child, hmmmmmmmm check for blood, none, go back to my book.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 10:03 pm
LOL Llkool!!! That is hilarious and seems to be totally me!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Sunday, October 19, 2008 - 11:02 pm
Here are some pictures from earlier this evening. (Well yesterday by now!) DH got DS to play! Both the "punchee" and the "puncher/shoe smirker" are pictured as well and all are getting along just fine. The pictures are not clear cuz I took them from so far away (our front yard). You can see Ryan doing a victory thing in the third picture. Also Ryan got hit hard by one of the kids but learned that it wasn't all that bad. The kid who hit ran into him got a bloody mouth in the deal. Seems that most of the boys don't care and LOVE to play rough...
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