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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 9:07 pm
Oh gosh, NO to the bamboo unless you research!! Old family friend planted some years ago and it started taking over her yard - there's hardly any stopping it. Like weeds but in SuperSized. Extremely costly to have it professionally stopped. Good luck with the creepy neighbor! Sounds like you're getting good advice.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 10:16 pm
Bamboo may not grow where LL lives.
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 10:41 pm
Yes Bamboo can go crazy, but if you get the right kind and plant it properly it can serve the purpose I had in mind. I hope her area has one that will work for her.
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Friday, July 04, 2008 - 2:09 am
Yes, precisely why I said "unless you research!!" I remember how excited that old family friend was about how fast it grew. Few weeks later she was going out of her mind. Few months later she was screaming about the cost of trying to make it stop.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Friday, July 04, 2008 - 8:04 am
The only way to grow bamboo is in planters so it doesn't spread.
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Friday, July 04, 2008 - 9:17 am
Actually I saw an HGTV show where they planted it, I thinkk the show was don't sweat it. The kind they bought they were able to put root barriers in the soil to keep it here they wanted it.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Friday, July 04, 2008 - 9:49 am
Im just now reading this and I just wanted to say that im realy sorry you have to go thru this. My Daughter has Interned for the past two yrs with adult probation and is starting a job with juvenal hall next month.... Im going to ask her about this when I see her later today.. Im not sure in Canada, but I know here in Ca. that a sexual preditor is not allowed to go with so many feet,yards...??? of a child... This could be violating his probation if he is calling your children to the fence and offering them stuff..."thats just not right"... and if he is violating probation you should be in contact with his probation officer.... I also want to say somthing "not to scare you" but you should be very carefull with threatening the guy or his wife...(i know,id want to kill him too)...but the sad truth is..."he has rights too"...yes it sucks but its true.... another thing...In light of all the horror story's that have been in the new's latley with these sorts of people and young children (with tragic results).. you never quite know what is going on in the mind of a pervert and you should be extra wary of that... for all you know he could take it to a horrific level if you tick him off to much... (im really not trying to scare you--but you should be hyper vigalent..).. You need to instruct your children in great detail that he is not a nice man, and that they need to never "NEVER" go near that house or talk to him/wife... this is where your job as a parent becomes very important... Your children need to know that this man could cause harm to them and this should not be sugar coated, they need to know that he is BAD. All advice here is good...but dont take the law into your own hands...find out who his probation officer is...you should be able to look up his name in the court system online...find out every offense he has and get more information.. this should be public record... Good luck.
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Llkoolaid
Member
08-01-2001
| Monday, July 07, 2008 - 6:07 pm
Wow, all the great advice, my computer was in getting fixed. We have talked to the police, he has been warned. He stays on his own property, so far, he just gets to the edge of it and stares. Oh and in the very early morning he has takin to singing and yodelling, I am talking around 7 in the morning, and I am screaming out my bedroom window for him to shut the f up. DH is keeping an eye on him, we have been warned not to do anything, dh is having a hard enough time controlling me. Anyway there are now 3 complaints from neighbours including us and I don't know what exactly he has to do. I think I will take the advice and call the police back and speak to the officer ( a young woman) who is very concerned with this man and she will be able to tell me what I can and cannot do. Thanks so much for the advice and I will keep you posted on the pervert.
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Llkoolaid
Member
08-01-2001
| Monday, July 07, 2008 - 6:11 pm
Just finished reading all the post and should add, my baby is 14 so she knows all about this creep, she is still afraid of him. I have lots of nephews and neices who are her a lot and we are always outside with them now. I have already had the police at my house but she said she would come back anytime I needed to talk to her.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, July 08, 2008 - 8:21 am
I think your neighbor used to be my neighbor. Growing up, there was a man that lived down a few houses and when any young girl would walk by his house, he would open his curtains and masterbate so the girls could see him. The first time he did it, we ran home and told my mom, and she wen FLYING down there banging on his door. His wife opened the door and before my mom could say a word, the woman said "He didn't do anything wrong". First of all, peeping into your house with binoculars is illegal. It's called a peeping Tom. I'd be putting up a higher fence, lattice, a hedge, SOMETHING so he can't see into your yard. Get a petition going in the neighborhood maybe, showing complaints and take that with you to your police department also. I'd say EVERY time he does this kind of crap, offering kids candy, watching with binocluars, etc. call the sex crimes unit and report him.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Tuesday, July 08, 2008 - 5:08 pm
My Daughter said to def contact his probation officer,.... She said that the probation officer can adjust his probation stipulations...they can do a home visit and apply restrictions..as if he owns binoculars they can restrict them, maybe an adjustment so that he can not go into the back yard... No contact with minors is standard with this type of offender, but if you plead your case enough you can demand he is not allowed outside of his home.
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Shashakaye
Member
05-19-2003
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 1:22 pm
#4 DD will be 15 tomorrow and is having a sleepover. I was thinking of having them do a scavenger hunt in the neighborhood, but I need help coming up with items for the list. They have to be items that the neighbors wouldn't mind giving away. Thanks for any help.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 1:26 pm
paper clips newspaper comics bobby pin clothes pin string matches tin foil zip lock bag lunch sack grocery receipt toilet paper coupon rose from the garden (or other flower) leaves you could also have them get a canned good from each house and then donate it to a food bank.
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Skootz
Member
07-23-2003
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 1:29 pm
recyclables i.e yesterdays newspaper, an empty pop or water bottle 20 blades of grass so many inches long dandelions small flat rock, or colour rock/stone candy wrapper pop can perhaps you can find someone in your neighbourhood that they have to find and when they find them they have to get a yellow ribbon from and when they get home from the hunt, they each can tie the yellow ribbon on a certain tree so say they are done and also to represent your support for the troops if you know some of the neighbours you could sort of do a poker run and the best hand wins - they would have to go to certain addresses and pick a card from a deck of cards that they have and the best hand at the end wins. make them bring you back something dead lol - this can be a bug or fly lol hope this helps...
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 1:32 pm
pennies plastic spoons dryer sheets toothpicks q-tips stamps empty frozen food box magazine battery pencil map Love the canned goods idea!!
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Landileigh
Member
07-29-2002
| Friday, July 11, 2008 - 2:56 pm
local val-pak or money mailer coupon grocery bag with name of store imprinted on it that day's local newspaper the ones i always loved we had to get things like 5 green m&m's a menu from a local take-out that kind of thing.
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Shashakaye
Member
05-19-2003
| Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 6:35 pm
Thanks for all the great ideas, they are hunting as we speak
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Denecee
Member
09-05-2002
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 9:28 am
Not really looking for advise but I am open to what you all think about this. Last night my next door neighbor and I were walking our dogs around our big block(.4 of a mile around) and on the other side of the block, still 5 or 6 houses away, was this lady with a baby on her hip. Here I am missing my grandboys who just moved away, so I am watching this lady with baby thinking I want to hold that baby(kinda crazy but I love babies). Now I'm not going to ask if I can hold the baby(that would be a bit nutsy) but I am watching with a yearning to hold my grandsons. We are getting closer as the lady is putting the little one(maybe a year or bit older) into carseat in backseat of the car. The baby starts to really fuss as soon as the lady starts to put baby in carseat and it's more like a angry cry. I know babies can be this way when they are tired or hungry and such. But as we go by, the "lady" is not a lady in a jean miniskirt and women shoes, he's a man in a jean miniskirt. The man looks at us like he is embarrassed or guilty or just plain doesn't know what to do. I could tell he was frustrated by his body language but the look on his face was more like guilt and embarrassment. I should not jump to any conclusions but the house they were at is a home of 6 kids who just got back from state custody so already my hackles are up. Not to mention that I had a bad feeling in my gut about the baby, I am not saying my gut feeling is correct but just saying I had a bad feeling. Neigbor is getting the same feelings in her gut and it doesn't help that she knows some relatives of these people who say they are very bad parents. I want to go up to the house to make sure an adult is there and find out if this man in a skirt was supposed to be taking the baby. So we take the dogs home and go back around the block and stop. The lady who I have talked with before(2yr old was running in the street and they didn't know) was in an open window and just talked to me from there(she was making dinner). I said "hi, I haven't seen you for awhile, how are you?" then I proceded to tell her about the person in front of her house and wanted to make sure it was on the up and up. She didn't seem mad(about me being a nosey neighbor) but she told me that the skirt guy was the dad of the baby. Just the way she talked about it didn't make me feel any better but at least they know people are watching.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 9:36 am
Yeah, it's too bad crimes of fashion sense aren't against the law. I think you are right to wonder about the house because of the connotations of it's past history. I'd keep a watch, gladys, and keep those kids in your prayers. Also, when you walk by, don't forget to have your cell phone with you incase you need to make a quick call to the authorities regarding suspicious behavior. On the bright side, the dad was putting the baby in a car seat, right? Points there, as I see people every day who are letting their kids bounce around in the front seats of cars while they drive. Yes, I do get license plate numbers and turn those peopel in.
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Denecee
Member
09-05-2002
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 9:49 am
Yes, the car seat was a good thing. I just had the feeling that the baby(toddler) didn't want to be with this guy but hopefully I was just being a gladys as you put it, lol. I am going to walk more in the evenings at least a couple times around the block. I have to add that I don't think that lady would care if the child was being hurt as she doesn't care about her own children. They have been taken from her more than once. Crimes of fasion indeed, he had a wig on and it wasn't on straight, had a farmer's tan on his arms and hairy legs. People are strange!
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Denecee
Member
09-05-2002
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 12:52 pm
I feel better about the situation than before lunch. I talked to a neighbor about 3 doors down from the above neighbor and found out that the lady(who has had her own kids taken a way more than once) is babysitting the baby.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 1:05 pm
Would you be able to babysit, for the well being of the child?
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Denecee
Member
09-05-2002
| Tuesday, July 22, 2008 - 1:19 pm
The baby gets dropped off in the morning and picked up in the evening. But even if I could, the father doesn't know me, so I don't think so. Believe it or not, I am at work. very slowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww....
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, September 26, 2008 - 11:07 pm
I don't really need advice, but opinions. And it's not all that serious. I got into an argument with Darren today, and then with sis and bil, cuz they all think I'm nuts (not that I disagree.) We're having Kota's birthday party tomorrow and sis and bil offered to host it because they have a pool in the backyard and the kids can swim. They live with aunt, though basically have their own apartment (house is weird.) I take care of aunt and part of that is cleaning her part of the house...her bathroom, bedroom, living room, back room (which is being used for food/drinks,) and sis cleans the kitchen since she does most the cooking. No problems there. I went over today and did my usual cleaning, mopped the kitchen floor (cuz I was doing the others,) and did some setting up for the party. When Darren got off work I met him at home and asked if he wanted to go back or wait til tomorrow to clean up the backyard. That's when the argument started, lol. Sis and bil didn't ask us to clean up the backyard, (stuff like sweeping the patio, picking up kid toys, raking, vacuuming the pool,) that was me. I feel like since it's our party, we can do the cleaning up. Darren says when we used to host all the parties at our house, we cleaned. Yep, we did, mainly cuz I don't like anyone cleaning my house! When we got back to the house, Darren asked sis and bil what they thought. They agreed with him...their yard, they'll clean up before the party. I said but it's our party, we should clean the backyard. They all agreed I was nuts. Darren, bil and the kidlets all cleaned up the backyard while I worked in the house and sis baked the cupcakes for tomorrow, so we all had work to do. Part of my prob with them doing the before work is that sis did offer to bake the cupcakes and make potato salad and bil offered to bbq so they're already doing a lot (besides offering up their house) to help out for the party. What do ya'll think? If your having a party at someone elses house, do you do the clean up before hand or expect them to? Sis did offer to host the party their, though I probably did ask before she offered if we could do it there so the kidlets could swim.
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Sugar
Member
08-15-2000
| Friday, September 26, 2008 - 11:14 pm
Anyone who wants to clean my house my do so. Contact me for directions I would have expected your sis & bil to clean their house before the party they offered to host. I would then help with cleaning up after the party.
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