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Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 5:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Hiya Vaca! In the past, I had some relentless weeds on my walkway. I hadn't read ALL of the directions on the weed killer, so I had to spray a few times. One thing mine said was that I should spray either 2 days before or 2 days after mowing. The weeds have to be active and then they suck up the poison into their root systems, or otherwise it just sits on them.

It did seem like they took 2 weeks or so to actually turn brown and croak. Your mileage may vary.

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 6:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
I didn't give up and guess what ... my weeds are turning brown! Yayyy!

I'm looking forward to a weed-free summer! a

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 6:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Yay for brown weeds!

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 6:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
Yayyy for less yard work! Thanks Huk & Jeep! a

Cinnamongirl
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01-10-2001

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 1:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cinnamongirl a private message Print Post    
I'm trying to find bedding for my little guys new bed.. Anyone know of any online sites I might try.. I've looked at Linens n Things and Bed, Bath & Beyond. American or Canadian, doesn't matter. Looking for a fun, colourful, car theme...

This is the Bed

or maybe, I should just do a solid colour...hmmmm

Merrysea
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08-13-2004

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 1:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Merrysea a private message Print Post    
Here's a site that shows variety of online stores and options for car sheets in whatever price range you want:

Link

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 1:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Try Target and Walmart too.

Cinnamongirl
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01-10-2001

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 1:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cinnamongirl a private message Print Post    
Thanks Merrysea & Mocha..just went thru those and I think I found what I'm looking for at Target. I love Target, we really could use a few up here!! (I can't go into one without buying a ton of candy though )

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 1:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I was gonna say Target. My little nephews room is done in Cars theme and that's where his mommy got all his stuff. They even have the big static wall hangings that don't need to be glued, stapled, taped, nailed, etc.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 2:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Uhhhhhhhhhh ... we have a Target just south of the border, just south of Costco and Walmart ...

Cinnamongirl
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01-10-2001

Tuesday, May 27, 2008 - 3:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cinnamongirl a private message Print Post    
I've already added it to my ever growing list of places Juju... I think I may need to start earlier in the day than I originally planned & I obviously need to start coming down more often...

Dahli
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11-27-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dahli a private message Print Post    
I need advice. We have lived in this house for thirteen years this month. Last year we decided we wanted to build on a garage. In our city you have to have four feet between a building and a property line UNLESS you apply for a variance. We did. The neighbours directly affected were given the plans and diagrams and asked if they would object. They signed a waiver saying they were fine with it and not only that but the city sends out notification to all the neighbours in a huge radius informing of the plans with diagrams and an invite to the hearing. No one showed up, we presented our case our plans and the letter from said neighbour. Can you see where this is going? We received official notification for our plans and authorization last November.

Construction started this week, we have the done the excavation, moved trees poured piles (it is attached) and the 2 foot concrete grade beams done. Next week the pad goes in. DH went to apply for the building permit, which takes about two weeks and is not required for any concrete work but is required for the structure which will likely start mid month as we are in BC for a week.

Today the neighbour says they think we should put a hold on things while they check out if our overhang is going to be on their property. Turns out that the fence looks to be in the wrong place giving the impression our garage is closer. Also our house is on a bit of an angle as we sit on a curve in the street so the angle of the garage that comes off the front of the house is even more pronounced.... SHE (next door) is NOT pleased.

We are stunned and worried. He is a bit of a mucky muck in town, knows people and now I'm afraid our permit will not be issued. This is a very expensive undertaking and we cannot afford to redo anything at this point. I'm stressed and upset that she's upset but criminey! do your homework people. I am so needing to vent and have somebody tell me it's gonna be ok.

Holly
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07-22-2001

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Holly a private message Print Post    
(((Dahli)))) It's going to be OK!

They signed a waiver and you received official authorization. How can they possibly renege now? I truly think you are going to be legally covered and all will be well.

Dahli
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11-27-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dahli a private message Print Post    
Holly sweetie - thanks so much - it's like a life preserver being thrown to me to read that :-)
She and I aren't close or anything as a matter of fact she's a bit standoffish all these years, but I want to go over there and talk to her and tell her we'll make it look good, she doesn't have to worry, she's very very picky about her yard and stuff, prolly thinks Im some kind of low lander LOL!

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I feel same way, I think you will be ok. I am just curious why you didnt get a permit for the imps before you started. (I wk at Assessor and right now wking in the permit section :-))

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
You poor thing, you did all the hard work and put your heart in it and NOW they start to pay attention. It sounds like you did what was expected of you legally, and it's too late for them to complain. I really would go and talk to them and show them the drawings and that they won't be affected, and show them the references of the builders, or anything you have that will make them feel better about it. They probably just didn't think of what it meant earlier and need a little reassuring. Hopefully they will realise you've done your research and everything is legal. You've lived there all this time so they must have some respect for you as good neighbours. It'll be ok!

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 6:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
I would think you should be OK as well, as long as the information they were given was accurate to the inch. If they just didn't pay attention to what they signed and now change their mind I would think they would have to reimburse you for what you alrdy laid out (or what it would cost to adjust your plans). Perhaps a quick phone call to a property lawyer? Or to the permit dept of a neighboring county (so you don't tip off your own dept as to the problem), I am sure they have dealt with this issue before and can give your some guidance. Good luck !!!

Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 7:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
I'd call an attorney who specializes in these matters, so you can be sure.

About 8 years ago, I bought an office/warehouse condo. We needed more office space, so we submitted *complete* plans for a remodel to the building dept with detail. They issued a building permit. They inspected the work along the way, and signed off on each improvement.

When all was done, we called for our final inspection. We were turned down for a Certificate of Occupancy because we had changed the ratio of office space to warehouse space and were now in violation of the zoning for that building/area.

Took us 6 years to get that CO. We only got it because I made friends with the head of the building dept (his son was on my son's soccer team) and he issued a waiver.

So, again, before you do anything else, you should see an attorney to find out how solid that waiver is.

Dahli
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11-27-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 7:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dahli a private message Print Post    
Thanks all, the waiver was not really needed, what they did need to do if they had any problems was to appear at the hearing that the city planners department held to go over our application,they asked lots adn lots of questions of us and entered on the record that no one was present that had been mailed the package from the city to offer ANY complaints or exercise their rights of refusal. When we received the authorization and the variance from the city it was after all that AND an additional 4 week waiting period to make sure all who wanted to could object.
We have had the contractor and the installer of the concrete measure more than three times each, we are to the inch exactly what the engineer's designs call for which were accepted and approved by the city. The building permit is only required to start the structure and we were told that on many occasions. I would just feel better if DH had taken care of that FIRST! grrrrrrrrr.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, June 06, 2008 - 10:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Our neighbor was going to build a shed right up next to our property. He showed us the plans and got the okay. We said okay. The shed looked real cute on paper. In real life, it somehow expanded to triple its cute little size, and the roof hangs over onto our property.

It is okay, and a lesson to be learned. Get out there with the tape measure and the specs before you say okay. If we want to be jerks, we can always plant big bushes right on our property line, which will surely shed all over the shed. :-)

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, June 12, 2008 - 11:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I need opinions. Not anything real serious, but one minute I'm leaning one way, the next another way. As I've posted a couple times the last 2 months, May-July is one birthday/graduation/bbq/something party after another. Two weekends ago, we had our first free weekend since the beg. of May! I'm worn out from parties and don't really want to go to another for a while.

Last month, Darren's sis left a message on our answering machine that they were having a bbq for Father's Day and wanted to know if we wanted to go. Darren still hasn't called her (though I've reminded him several times) and his mom brought it up the other day. We weren't sure if we were going because they live a couple hours away and we weren't sure when they were having it and what else would be going on. And we're exhausted from parties to begin with! But, Darren's mom told him how much she wanted us to go and he's feeling kinda guilty about it. She also told us the father's day bbq was going to be June 21st.

After looking at the calendar, I began to worry about a conflict. My nieces birthday is the 19th. I called my sister, you told me when the party was but I wasn't really paying attention, tell me it's this weekend. I knew it wasn't because we're both invited to a friends kids party Saturday. She said, nope, June 21st. Oy.

Dakota went to practice today. They're season officially ends Monday, but they have some post-season games coming up. When we picked her up, she handed us a flyer from the team mom...team/family bbq/pool party, yep on June 21st. I just sat there for a second and then looked at Darren and said, Ok, what are we going to do? He said, Easy, I'll go to my sisters, you go to your sisters, Kota can go to the team party. That's when it hit me, the 21st is also the weekend between Darren's and my birthdays and we try to do something together.

Everybody I know, including me, lol, runs us ragged with parties all summer long, but never this bad.

Darren and his sis don't see each other often and usually I'm encouraging him to call her or invite her and her hubby over when they're coming into town. They bought their house 2 years ago and we haven't been there yet (of course, we've been in our house almost 11 years and I can't remember her ever coming here either.) So I understand his mom wanting us to go and him feeling guilty for considering not going. If we don't go, his mom will be mad and probably sis too, or at least upset.

Dakota's worked her butt off with softball this season and so have we driving her back and forth to practices, hanging out at practices, helping with practices, going to all the games, volunteering at the park, etc etc etc. We've really enjoy it and Dakota really deserves this party to celebrate the season. It'd be fun to kick back and watch the girls have fun after working so hard for the past six months. When Kota realized all three parties are scheduled the same day, she said it's ok, I don't have to go to the team party. She looked so disappointed though to offer to skip it.

When I called sis to tell her about it, her response was hey, we want you hear, but we understand. Brit will be disappointed you aren't here, but she'll get over it. I'm not too worried about sis understanding, but I don't want to disappoint my niece anymore than Kota!

None of which makes anything clearer for us. The only thing I keep thinking about is that if we chose to go to the team party, that's only from 2-6 and my sisters parties last all day so we could at least be at nieces party for an hour or two before or after the team party. If we go to his sisters we won't be able to go to either one of the others. Oy. Whatever we do we're either going to make someone mad or disappoint them.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 2:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Send Darren to his sister's. Take Kota to her party and then pop in to niece's for a short visit.

I don't see why you can't just "pre book" weekends for yourselves rather than get your summer tied up with everyone else's parties all summer long. You have the power to do whatever and whenever you choose. Saying yes to all of these parties takes away your ability to enjoy "those lazy days of summer."

You're obviously looking forward to the summer in an already stressed way. Gas is too high, life is too short, and your own peace of mind and time with your family needs to come first.

I know this is over dramatic, but I'll tell you from my own personal experience and from my best friend's as well...if you ever wind up with a devastating diagnosis of something, life gets put into perspective REAL quickly. Take care of yourself first so you never have to say, "I should have done this, I wasted time doing that." I hope you can understand what I'm trying to say. Like I said, not trying to be dramatic. You can never have a do-over of the past, but you can cerainly plan for a positive future.

Now, have some Nestle's Quik and relax!

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 4:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
Wargod, I used to be in the same situation when I lived out West. 8 neices/nephews, 4 grandparents, mothers day , fathers day, easter, thanksgiving, Christmas, News Years, plus my own 3 children's b-days etc and a family who believes that we need to get together for ALL of it. We just decided that we didn't need to go to all the children's parties anymore and we got to the age where our own children wanted their friends not aunts/uncles at their birthdays. My solution was to politely say that we haven't had a weekend to ourselves in a long while and it was important but we will have a family bbq at our place where everyone is invited during the summer.

Huk is right and I have been there. You are running ragged every week/weekend and then you start to resent the little things. DH goes to play golf and I would FLIP... how dare he when we are sitting at home with our first free day in a month? All he is doing is what I should have done, claiming a moment of relaxation. You need to protect your own family group and if that means upsetting extended family then that's the price. Sit down with hubby and plan a down-day with the kids and mark it on the calender. Someone invites you on that day and you can honestly tell them you already have plans.

For this weekend (and from the *tone* in your *voice*) how about "I am so sorry but we are completely burnt out and haven't had any quality time as a family in a really long time. We would love to be there but I honestly don't think any of us have the energy left to be sociable right now. We are going to spend some time connecting with the kids this weekend but would love a raincheck, how about when we are done hibernating that we have you guys over for dinner?" Good luck and have a great weekend whichever way you go!!!

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 5:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
Darren has it right....he goes to his sister's ... Kota to her team party and you to your nieces.

As for your birthdays, they can be celebrated anytime....I'm one that really doesn't give adult birthdays much thought (for myself). Hubby and I are a day apart...we used to go away somewhere together ...but that was before kids...haven't done that in at least 12 years.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 7:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
What Scooter said. Or, draw a line in the sand and take a stand. Why do you allow yourself to be run ragged? Don't go anywhere or do anything. Boycott that weekend and enjoy yourselves. Do something for YOU!