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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 1:19 pm
That ain't nothing compared to what I let slip the other night in the dugout!
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Mamie316
Member
07-08-2003
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 1:21 pm
Julie, I'm sure we've all let something slip before that we shouldn't have. Email the teacher, apologize, and go on with things. It really isn't the end of the world, you'll see.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 1:24 pm
^5 Scooter!
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 1:29 pm
LOL Mocha...some of us weren't cut out to be dugout moms!!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 1:56 pm
Thanks all. Annie's right, sh!t does happen, right!?
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Rissa
Member
03-20-2006
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 6:38 pm
Ahh Julie. I agree with everyone else.. not too horrible. Teacher probably thought it was amusing, whether or not she showed it. My mom was just telling me she also had an oops moment today. My dad's brother is one of those 40 emails a day people and occasionally my mom emails a few to me. Well today she tried to forward one to me... she added the comment "If I had to read this stupid crap then so do you" and then hit reply instead of forward. My dad thinks its a hoot but mom is just mortified. Stuff happens... life continues. I would write a short note and then leave it at that. Any kid in that class who says they haven't heard worse is lying anyway, you didn't traumatize anyone just amused them. LOL
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 6:54 pm
Thanks Rissa. That is pretty much what I think (hope). My dad who is a principal says that it would not be that much of a surprise that the school would get a parent or two complaining about it. Not that it is that big of a deal (to me at least). But to some others, it is a big deal. This teacher may not think it was amusing and I so want her to have Ryan in her class next year. So (depending if teachers have any say in which students they get) may pass on him if she does not want to chance having me as a room mom next year. I think I drove her a bit nuts with me getting too over the top with Teacher Appreciation Week. (Though I am pretty sure I am not doing the room mom thing again anyways.) Usually I laugh at the dumb things I do from time to time. But I guess this one gets me cuz it *could* affect Ryan. Then again he might get even a better teacher next year!
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Mamie316
Member
07-08-2003
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 7:24 pm
Julie, teachers are very happy when they have parents that actually participate. I've had many classes over the years that my kids were in, that I was one of the only moms doing a darned thing. I wouldn't worry about it so much.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, May 09, 2008 - 8:45 pm
Julieboo, I just caught up with this thread and I'm sorry you're so stressed. I can only imagine, as I worked with preschoolers for 15 years and it's hard to not slip sometimes. If this teacher has any say in whether Ryan is in her class next year she will not hold "oh shit" against him. If by some crazy stretch of the imagination she does, then she isn't the best teacher anyways. Parents are humans, too, and you obviously were mortified that it happened. If you can't even remember what transpired afterwards, you were certainly already beating yourself up. A very simple apology can't hurt. Send a note in to school on Monday and if you know the Mom's who were there, I'd handle those by phone. Don't make it bigger than it is. A simple, "I can't believe I said that and I'm very sorry! I was a bit nervous as it was, and it just slipped out." I wouldn't expect that you should apologize to the class, kids forget things very quickly. Bringing it up again, even in the form of an apology would just remind them of something they have probably already forgotten. I'm not sure that all of your efforts to keep Ryan with this teacher are necessarily such a positive thing. I don't mean to offend you, but sooner or later Ryan will have to deal with other teachers, other classmates, other schools, etc. While he has done very well in her class, next year he will be another year older, dealing with new classmates, and an entirely new curriculum. It seems to me that you are trying to hold onto her, yet you may be very pleasantly surprised by a new teacher but seem unwilling to even try one. Kids deal with changes all the time, it's a part of life. Don't continue to stress yourself out about this, it will probably eventually wind up affecting Ryan as kids are very perceptive of their parent's emotions.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 5:52 am
Hukd, you are right on so many things! Oh, by the way, I never meant to insinuate that the teacher would hold the "oh shit" against HIM, just that she might "pass" on having him in her class cuz she would not want to have to deal with me! And you are right, he is going to have to deal with lots of stuff in his life without me! I worry more than I would with an "average" kid, cuz with his aspergers (ESPECIALLY cuz his case is so light that you really cannot tell) a lot of people would simply find some of his behaviors annoying and not give him a break that some might give him if they knew he had aspergers. (Does that make sense?) And yes, the main reason I didn't want to apologize in person or even ask about apologizing to the class is I bet most if not all of the kids have forgotten about this (Though I could be wrong). At any rate, thanks you all for listening. Sometimes I let a molehill turn into a mountain. Guess I must be high strung or something!! (Which is kind of weird cuz usually I'm TOO laid back about things...)
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 6:14 am
My husband keeps saying "shit" to everything this morning! Gotta love him!
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 6:40 am
Julieboo, you are really something! I hesitated to post that last paragraph of mine because I didn't want to say anything that would hurt your feelings. But being who I am, I pretty much say what I think rather than keeping quiet. Your acceptance of my opinion is very much appreciated. I know this will all blow over, and thankfully you have a dh who talks your language, lol! Have a wonderful, stress-free weekend! I just put this clipart here because I've never, ever seen anyone use it! We should get rid of it and put in one of someone flipping the bird. I'd bet THAT one would get used, lol!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 8:17 am
There was a time when that clipart was used all the time. I don't recall what it is now, though. I think it was some sort of sports icon.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 8:49 am
is the logo for the Colorado Avalanche. I gasp to think you'd propose to get rid of it! hey, even though I'm not really a hockey fan, I have to stand up for my hometown team!! We have a few other sport team cliparts. But really now, why in the world do we not have a . I mean, really now! wow, that came out really small!)
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 9:00 am
I only proposed it because I had no idea what it was! I promise to hang myself from the tallest tree right after I take my bath, o.k.? Hey hey hey, wait just a doggoned minute...what about MY team having a clipart? Go Buffalo Bills!
Or how about my own clipart, after all, Pamy has her little red haired girl and Juju has her Jujucooldawg...I WANT MY OWN SOCKMONKEY CLIPART!!!!

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Skootz
Member
07-23-2003
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 3:42 pm
(wrong thread)
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 5:04 pm
(Julieboo, I used that word in front of the church congregation when I was serving communion. The only one that heard me was God, thank heavens. I had taken the lid off the communion juice tray. I was supposed to set it on the table top but I set it down wrong and it clattered to the ground. It scared me. I said that word. lol )
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 6:46 pm
Dogdoc, that is too funny! At least God was the only one to hear in your case! Wish I'd been that lucky!
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 6:53 pm
Julie, I said it out loud but nobody looked over. I think I got away with it. I told the minister's son what I did. He laughed.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 3:30 am
At any rate, thanks you all for listening. Sometimes I let a molehill turn into a mountain. Guess I must be high strung or something!! (Which is kind of weird cuz usually I'm TOO laid back about things...) hmmm...ya think?  when ds was maybe 2 or so, we were at the table having dinner and he spilled his milk and says 'bon dommit'. dh looks at me horrified with that 'where did he come up with that language?' look on his face. i say 'don't look at me. i am 'sh*t' YOU are gawd damnit' LOL the word just works for SO many things!!! i think George Carlin even did a routine years ago about how the word sh*t could be said in so many different ways and meanings. LOL
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Sharinia
Member
09-07-2002
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 9:47 am
Does anyone have a good specific reference regarding 'over gifting?' Or any advice on how to address this if it ongoing? My inlaws have always spent the holidays with my family. My fil passed away 5 yrs ago, so now its only my mil. She goes out with my parents often, they go on vacations, etc.. She has always bought gifts for my siblings at xmas. Now that my brother has a son (3 yrs old), she buys gifts for him, too. LOTS of them. This is my parents only grandchild. My mil has no grandchildren of her own. She is considerably wealthier than my parents. My mom feels that she has to compete with her. Plus, my mil adores my sil and brother and vice versa, they are always showering each other with compliments, etc. My brother & sil probably feel indebted to her to some degree because of all of the gifts. It is just getting uncomfortable for my mom, who feels like my mil is sort of 'moving in' on her position. She would not mind if it weren't so excessive. If my mil bought say one gift and everyone all got along, that would be great. But my mom has come now to dread the holidays because of this. Is there anything my mom can do or say to say to my mil, who is a LONG time friend and quasi family member. For example, 'Why did you buy my grandson 7 outfits for xmas?' Would you all agree that this is inappropriate?
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 9:59 am
I don't think it is up to your Mom to say anything. I'd leave it in the hands of your dh, since she is his mother. There can be a kind way to say that the holidays are not about the presents, but rather about the family. He can reassure her that she is a full part of the family, even the extended family. He doesn't have to be mean, confrontational, or embarass her. A simple comment about family importance being foremost should do the trick. She does need to hear from him; however, that gift giving can become excessive and people may feel they need to reciprocate (despite the fact that holidays should not be about gifts) and he wants to nip this in the bud because the family is only going to grow larger. Probably too wordy here, but it certainly is a problem in many families. I'm sure someone else will come along and say it much simpler.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 10:01 am
I agree, not up to your mom to say a thing. I would just ask your mom for your sake, to just deal with it. If it is that much troublesome, your dh is the one who should say something.
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 10:14 am
I have a bit of a different take on it, Sharinia. I think your mother should understand that your MIL, a friend, doesn't have a large family of her own to spoil and has apparently been accepted into your family as a beloved aunt-type figure. It apparently makes her feel good to spoil a little boy, because she can. If your brother and SIL had a problem with it, they certainly could ask her to draw back a bit, and if she still wanted to give more maybe bonds or a bank account and later on "budget" lessons for the little boy. In the mean time, your mother is the one who is really rich because of her family. Frankly, little boys could give less of a SHIT about clothes (see how I worked that in, Julieboo?) One big tonka truck is all a little boy needs to make his life complete. You give clothes to help out the parents, not to endear a 3-year-old boy to yourself. I think your mother would stand to cause a great deal of hurt with not-much-to-nothing to gain by making this an issue. I'm not trying to dismiss your mother's feelings, but your mom is the one who has it made. Your MIL knows, I am sure, that she is very lucky that your family has accepted her as one of their own and maybe she's overcompensating in gratitude. I think it would be devastating to her to have her generosity turned into an object of criticism. I also don't believe in telling other people how to spend their money. I particularly don't believe in anyone telling ME how to spend my money. It's just poor form.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, May 11, 2008 - 10:27 am
I can agree with everything you've said, GAL, but poor Sharina is stuck in the middle of something really uncomfortable. While MIL means well, and certainly can afford to shower people with gifts, the child is the one who puts the value on it in the end. It could potentially escalate in later years to causing a lot of grief. Let's say the child gets lots of presents from this MIL, but only a few from Grandma. Children don't understand anything but what is in front of them. It could break poor Grandma's heart to have the children running to MIL for hugs because they're so excited at their haul. I still think MIL should be reeled in, albeit gently because I'm certain she is not doing this to hurt anyone.
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