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Merrysea
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08-13-2004

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 7:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Merrysea a private message Print Post    
I'd put Kota's party first, because she's worked so hard on that and it's so important to her. Like you said, you can always swing by your niece's party to put in an appearance.

If Darren really wants to go to his sister's, then let him go while you stay with Kota. If he doesn't want to but feels he should, he should tell his sis that he already has other plans that day, and maybe they could schedule a better time to get together.

Oh, and you can always tell Darren's sister (actually, he should tell her) that you already had plans for that weekend, and while you'd love to visit, it will have to be another time. You don't have to go into detail about what you're doing if you don't want to. Even if all you had planned was spending the day vegging out on the couch, if that's what you need to do that day, you don't owe anyone an explanation.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 7:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Maybe you and your family should plan something fun to do together for the weekend and blow everyone else off.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 8:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Hi War, ITA w/ Scooty: Darren has it right....he goes to his sister's ... Kota to her team party and you to your nieces.

Dipo
Member

04-23-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 9:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
I think you should all go to Dakotas party. This party is for your family, I do think there is a time when you have to decide that "your core family unit" is the most important. Make a date for some other time to go to Darren's sisters and keep this weekend for you.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 9:15 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Send Darren to his sister's. Take Kota to her party and then pop in to niece's for a short visit.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 9:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
My 2cents, you and Kota go to the team party, Darren goes to his sister's. If time after the team party then you and Kota join Darren. Send niece a bday card/present. Ok problem solved :-)

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 10:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
ok, i'll give my 2cents too, go to team Kota party then go love on niece or vice/versa, tell sil what Dipo said.

Mak1
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08-12-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 10:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mak1 a private message Print Post    
My advice: Read all the good advice above. Pick the combination that works for you, do it, and don't feel guilty about a thing.

(oh please please please let someone decide to go with Kota)

Landileigh
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07-29-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 11:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
i agree with merrysea. then again, i usually do.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 12:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
This summer has been a bit different, usually we get a couple more free weekends, but this year we also had a graduation party and a babyshower. The rest have been family birthday parties, all kids, all under the age of 10 where a lot of friends aren't invited. Besides, I don't want to miss any of the nieces or nephews birthday parties while they still want me there, lol.

After a quick chat with Darren this morning, we decided to skip our friends kids birthday party tomorrow. Darred said he wanted to get some stuff done around the house this weekend and I need to do some stuff around aunts so it works for me. We did come up with another idea for Saturday but I'm not sure how much I like it.

Niece wants softball stuff for her birthday and I told sis we'd get her the glove and bat but she has to go with us to try on gloves and check out the bats. We can skip her party but pick her up one day to go get her bat and glove, then spend the rest of the day at the park and batting cages with her, her own little birthday celebration with us. And try to find someone to take Kota to her team party and take her back to my sister when it's over and then us and Caleb go to Darren's sisters. I'm not too fond of that idea. The team party is not just for the girls but the families too. Darren helped out with coaching this season, Caleb got out and ran with the girls and helped at practice when there were an odd number of girls and they needed an even number. They want to go too if they can. Plus I'm not sure how comfy I am being two hours away while Kota's at a pool party (there are people I trust to take her but still.)

If it's up to me, I'm really leaning towards either all of us skipping Darren's sisters bbq, going to the team party, then nieces when we're done. Or Darren going to his sisters alone and explaining that we had other plans and sorry, but sometimes (ok most the time) the kids come first. We've got to hurry up and decide either way cuz we're going to have to let people know where we're going and if neccessary make arrangements for Kota.

Heh, I think the last time Darren and I really celebrated our birthdays was before Caleb was born. We might go out to dinner or go to a movie but usually we just bbq at home with the kids! Neither one of us is really big on needing to celebrate it.

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
War, I think Darren should remain with you and attend Kota's baseball party.

As a grandma, I would never expect my kids to skip something concerning my grandkids.

Is Kota's party something that you could invite her grandma to attend, as well? If not, oh well.

Kota deserves her family around her - you will never get this time back.

Don't let grandma make you feel guilty.

That is my opinion and I am sticking with it.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 12:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Ita with Rosie. Um Rosie maybe that should be in blue

Rosie
Member

11-12-2003

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 1:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
LOL Mocha. Blue is for when I am sort of kidding around but sometimes I get it mixed up because I am so old.

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 1:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Gotcha

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Oh no, she sure wouldn't go to the team party. She loves the kids, invites them to go fishing sometimes, wants to visit with them once in a while, but that's about it.

Urgrace
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08-19-2000

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 1:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Urgrace a private message Print Post    
War, I agree with Rosie, too. Hope Darren isn't feeling bad about not being at sis's, but if your sis-in-law hasn't been to your house in 11 years, then why does she expect you to go to hers? Tell mom-in-law you will remember Dad, while you are playing with his grandkids at the team party.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 6:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I just love all the great advice here today. I also agree with Rosie, blue or not!

Cwcoop
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04-19-2008

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 7:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cwcoop a private message Print Post    
I agree with Rosie too! it must be a hard decision for you War - good luck.

New Question:
The 50th Anniversary of my family's reunion is coming up. The high point is always the Big Show, where our family members show off their talents.
Many years ago I "hosted" a version of "The Newlywed Game". I have been asked to do it again and would love some ideas for questions from the TVCH members. 1st round is 5 points (x2) - 2nd is 10 (x2), and a 25 point Bonus (for the women only) in case of a tie. I have some ideas, but would enjoy the thoughts of this witty group.
I want to keep it clean but a wee bit edgy if that is possible. Think of questions you wouldn't mind answering in front of your grandparents.LOL

What was the first movie you saw, at the theatre, together?

From begining of 1st date to your 1st making whoopee - was it a matter of Hours/Days/Weeks/Mths/Yrs? (I actually got that one from another thread here. We already know how Pamy and GoddessAtLaw will answer that one!LOL)

What is your least favorite food that your (spouse) cooks?

Besides Christmas or Birthday, what is the last gift your (spouse) bought you.

Excluding people, what is the most prized possesion of your (spouse)?

Which movie best describes your love life:
I actually don't have any ideas for this - It is a retread from last time - but I want to keep it current with new movie titles.

another retread for the men - How many ounces of water would one of your wifes bra cup hold?

Bonus ? ideas:
How many area rugs are in your home?
What is on top of your refridgerator right now?

Thanks, in advance, for any ideas. I have until Labor Day weekend. I also got the original theme music on a disc to add this time.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 13, 2008 - 9:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I think we're comprimising a bit. We decided Darren and Caleb would go to his sisters and I'd take Kota to the team party. When he talked to his mom tonight, she wanted to know if they could drive up together...she wants to use Darren as an excuse to leave early or something. They'll leave here early, have time to visit and help set up, hang out for a while, then they're coming home, or rather, his mom is dropping him and Caleb off. They should be back to town by 3-4 and then they'll come to the team party for a couple hours. Should also give us time to go to my nieces party for a while.

CW, how about asking who does a certain chore the most? Who washes dishes more often? Or who pays the bills most often?

Funniest or most annoying habit?

Prisonerno6
Member

08-31-2002

Saturday, June 14, 2008 - 7:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Prisonerno6 a private message Print Post    

quote:

Which movie best describes your love life:




Ironman has to be one of them...

Oh, and The Happening.

The Strangers?

Hukdonreality
Member

09-29-2003

Saturday, June 14, 2008 - 7:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Cwcoop, here is a site with a ton of "safe" questions based on the Newlywed Game:

http://www.party411.com/forums/party03/messages/6451.html

Urgrace
Member

08-19-2000

Saturday, June 14, 2008 - 11:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Urgrace a private message Print Post    
A few ideas for
Which movie best describes your love life:
Home Alone
Sleepless in Seattle
Independence Day
Sex, Lies and Video Tape
Grumpy Old Men
Rambo


Wargod
Moderator

07-16-2001

Saturday, June 14, 2008 - 10:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
We had good news/bad news today. Darren called his mom to let her know him and Caleb would be going and found otu the day of the bbq had changed to tomorrow. It's good news, not going to conflict with anything, except....

I spent close to 4 hours sitting in urgent care with Kota today. She was complaining of a sore throat and when I looked it all sore and white gunky looking. I about flipped. When we finally got in to see the dr, he checked her throat and felt her throat and he went "oh, ew." Always what you wanna hear from your dr, huh? Her tonsils and adenoids are swollen (huge in his words) and covered in white gunky stuff (also his words, lol) and then he did the most bizarre thing. He started gently poking around her lower back and all of a sudden she turned sheet white and OWWWWWED. He tried to get a urine sample but after a good half hour of her trying she just couldn't pee for nothing (she'd just went right before we'd gone into the room!)

She's got a bacterial infection and pretty sure a bladder infection though he couldn't test for it. Our big worry at that point was that she has closing ceremonies (marching across the field with her team, getting her trophy, and finding out which kids were chosen for the all star teams) on Monday night and she might miss it. He said she's probably contagious, but after almost three days of meds she should be ok to go, if she's still feeling this lousy she'll need to stay home and come back to the dr on Tuesday.

So, Darren and Caleb are going to the bbq and won't miss the team party next weekend, but Dakota and I will have to stay home. Darren and I had already decided to celebrate Father's Day on Tuesday (his birthday) so that Kota would feel better for it.

Mameblanche
Member

08-24-2002

Sunday, June 15, 2008 - 1:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
(((War & Kota)))
Poor kid, I hope she gets rid of the 'gunky' stuff soon, so she can resume her activities.

Biscottiii
Member

05-29-2004

Sunday, June 15, 2008 - 3:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biscottiii a private message Print Post    
Oh NOOOOO! All the worrying & choreographing and this happened.
((Fight Them Bugs Kota!))

Well, if there's any silver lining in this cloud, is that at least she's not missing the end of school & worrying about missing tests & stuff. I hope she rebounds and can make the trophy march!

Not Fair! But, what can ya do?