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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 6:55 am
I just want to know how the most stoopid people in the world are allowed to procreate. Shouldn't they be removed the gene pool? Permanently? Seriously, if you have no brain, you should not be allowed to exist. Ever! Grr....
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:11 am
Costa could you be talking about MY neighbors? *L* OK so I know you aren't griping about them but man oh man. I came home from dropping Jack at the groomers and she was on the sidewalk in front of our house MEASURING the tree limbs over the sidewalk!!!!!!!!! [City newsletter just came out reminding residents of tree and sidewalk checks coming up soon.] Last year after using the ruse to come over and introduce herself after we had lived here for 8 months, and getting upset be cause we wouldn't take her advice and water our yard and use weed killer on it [it wasn't that bad, just not 100% blue grass like theirs] we get a letter from the city stating one of our trees was less than the required 8' above the side walk. [OK it was less than 8', it was 7'10" so we cut way up into the tree and now it looks like a mushroom. *L*] SHE is not the city it's not her responsibility to come MEASURE our trees! WHICH by the way are way higher than they need to be because when we borrowed the chain saw last year we did alot of trimming so we wouldn't have to borrow it again this year. I just pulled into the drive and ignored her but she came over as I was getting groceries out of the trunk and told me my "puppy" was getting way too big and he needed to be put on a diet. I just looked at her, closed the trunk and went on in the house without saying a thing. She walked off saying in a loud voice how it was terrible to have rude neighbors. She's got THAT one right! ONE it's none of her business. If we want a fat dog we can have a fat dog. He's not fat. TWO our vet says he's right on track for his body frame at 10 months old. THREE he weighs 13lbs and breed specifics are 9 - 16lbs. Just because she's only seen one tiny Shih Tzu doesn't mean she's a Shih Tzu specialist. FOUR just a couple months ago she told me there was no way Jack was a full Shih Tzu because of his coloring. To her ONLY Cocker Spaniels or Cocker Spaniel mixes have his coloring. Since the breed specifics on Cockers are 15 - 30 lbs if he was part Cocker as she said he must be he's not big at all. Time for the ugly lawn ornaments. I'm serious this time. And I think it's time for a walk on the sidewalk in front of their house that is well over the 1/2" gap allowed by the city. With almost a 1" gap [maybe I should go measure? *L* just kidding] I might fall and hurt myself.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:25 am
Serate, I am all for being petty in this situation. Next time she comes over, have her arrested for trespassing, no no no. When she said that "Puppy" was getting big, I'd have said "So are you" It's time for pink flamingos, fake flowers and leaving Christmas lights up all year.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:38 am
LOL Serate. Nope, some other idiot. But you can take the gripe for your idiot neighbor!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:47 am
Or just come right out and ask her why your property is SO important to her and why she insists on making your business her business, and why she feels the city should spend it's time and resources on her many insignificant complaints and why she feels she is the neighborhood advocate for the city? Tell her it must be nice to have so much extra time on her hands, and if you had nothing to do but be a "gladys kravits" instead of leading a full, and exciting life, that you might take her complaints and suggestions to heart, but at this point in your life, you just aren't concerned with such trivial complaints from people who must have sad, unfulfilled lives. Tell her if she can't figure out a way to "come to peace" with your property and family, then further action will be taken on her behalf. That ought to shut her up.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:48 am
I would think a simple, well worded letter to your city representative could do the trick. I would report that your neighbor is continually measuring things, and reporting you for violations...bordering on harassment. State that as a taxpayer and a law abiding citizen you would like to know what your rights are. I would copy this neighbor in, as well as your attorney. State things simply and factually. Don't be argumentative, vengeful, or accusatory. Once she sees that you are not going to continue to take her meddling and that you are serious (copying in attorney), she may keep her nosy butt out. ETA: Escapee, I just saw your post. I don't think that the neighbor deserves to be talked to, or that she will suddenly become "respectful." I think she is way too overbearing and meddling to give her any chances to change.
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Rosie
Member
11-12-2003
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:58 am
Serate, I would just continue to ignore her, or just for fun, act like you really appreciate her helpful comments. That should cause her to wonder what she is doing wrong. lol The City is probably already very tired of this woman. Give her plenty of rope and they should respond to her complaints. Escalation is not the answer. JMO
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:59 am
ABNER, ABNER! roflmao.... (or you could purposely have violations, then have them all fixed by the time the city shows up)
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 9:16 am
I really like Rosie's advice of just agreeing to everything she says. It will drive her nuts and keep things from escalating out of hand.
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 9:44 am
I'll just ignore it and pray pray pray she or her spouse doesn't say something around my hubby. [Things went from bad to worse at work today - actually told his boss to grow a pair of balls this morning - and his stress level is so high, it's making his diabetes and sleep apnea worse not to mention his PTSD. Not sure what he would do if neighbors started this crap with him.] Ignoring mainly because I have no actual proof. To me she confirmed my prior beliefs that they are the reason for all the calls to the city, but in actuality it's not proof. Besides I've dealt with these kinds of bullies before at my last job. Chaps their chi-chis when you don't react and just go one with your life ignoring them. Gladys Kravitz *L* That describes her and is how I will refer to her from now on. I feel sorry for who ever buys the house straight across the street from us, their next door neighbors just put their house up for sale.
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 5:28 pm
Serate, after having neighbors similar to yours, I feel for you. Let's see... today's the 7th of May. On the fifteenth of April I received a call from Trina telling me the check had been approved. As of Friday the 5th I received another call. The check is no longer approved, and they are waiting for the sheriff's department to "send them pictures" of the items recovered and sitting in the evidence room. WHAT? That's not going to happen. Like the Sheriff's department has time to find the items, photograph them and mail or fax the pictures to UPS. The Sheriff's department won't even talk to UPS according to UPS Store manager here, so she calls my daughter and tells my daughter to call the Sheriff's office! My daughter told her: My mother sent me brand new items, and you want me to call the Sheriff to find out if we will get back the items that were opened, dirty, used and not worth having instead of you paying my mother the insurance to cover the items UPS lost? My husband thinks we should get a lawyer. Yesterday, that 1-7 days promised resolution had turned into two full months.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 5:30 pm
Urgrace, shouldn't UPS pay out for the damages, and then subrogate the peeps that stole the items in the first place? Your claim is against UPS, not those peeps, yes?
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 6:35 pm
Gracie, I would definitely get a lawyer and sue them for the insurance, plus your lawyer's fee, and for the aggravation. They've been screwing you around for much too long now.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 6:53 pm
Is there a customer affairs place near you, Urgrace? Our local CBS news has a hotline that you call and they investigate problems. I'm sure they'd be interested in something like this, and it seems like reporting them to someone like that, or the local paper, is the only way to get things moving. Either that or find a way to speak to someone higher up at UPS. Say you have an unresolved issue from March(??) that needs their immediate attention as you have waited N weeks for your contact at XXX branch to fis the problem for you and they have not. You paid UPS to deliver a package to your daughter. You paid for insurance on those items. Your daughter did not receive the items. UPS owes you compensation for the items they lost. All the rest is their problem.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 7:09 pm
Gracie, got any Action Line newspaper or TV folks in your area? If so, it is time to go to them. Er, I mean the area where the parcel was misdelivered. I forget the details.
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:12 pm
Yes, Costa, UPS is fully to blame, but as I asked the manager, "Why am I being put off for UPS' mistake?" San Antonio has a tv station hotline that checks into problems. That might be less aggravation than getting a lawyer, and she would get bad publicity, too!
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 8:21 pm
Oh, Costa, the person responsible for the mistake is a UPS driver. He handed the package to a juvenile male on the street in front of a house with a similar address to my daughter's. The young man who took the package kept it, therefore it was not stolen but fraudulently held onto. He went to jail. The package contents that could be found went to evidence lock up.
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Prisonerno6
Member
08-31-2002
| Thursday, May 08, 2008 - 3:58 am
I ordered a skirt and a blouse from Coldwater Creek early last week. Got the notice it was shipped last Thursday. Checked the tracking, and it made it to my local post office last Saturday...where it has been sitting ever since. I have no idea why, but by the time I come home at night and find out the package isn't there *again* it's too late to call the post office. I am so hoping I don't have to go through what you're going through...
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Thursday, May 08, 2008 - 7:25 am
Urgrace, the driver though, he works for UPS. So UPS is responsible for his error. It's then up to them if they want to discipline him. I would definitely contact your local newstation and see if you can't get some coverage.
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 8:24 pm
same old gripe from me, just a dif. date: 1) "new" boss is all about "any" training that gets him out of the office. 2) My CSR (customer svc rep.) has to go to a corp. mandated training 3 day thing in San Antonio - 5/13-5/15. I't's a manditory class for CSRs & optional for anyone above. 3) my "boss" is going too (think it's an outing away for him wtih $$ ) 4) It's still hell @ my office because of the new "boss" coming in & the new CSR just now hitting the 90 day mark 5) I still haven't had a chance to sit new "boss" down & tell him how things work here. 6) I could care less if "boss" is out of the office. However, when the CSR is out, I have to become this position. I really do not like to do this
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Texasdeb
Member
05-23-2003
| Saturday, May 10, 2008 - 8:49 pm
same old gripe from me, just a dif. date: 1) "new" boss is all about "any" training that gets him out of the office. 2) My CSR (customer svc rep.) has to go to a corp. mandated training 3 day thing in San Antonio - 5/13-5/15. I't's a manditory class for CSRs & optional for anyone above. 3) my "boss" is going too (think it's an outing away for him wtih $$ ) 4) It's still hell @ my office because of the new "boss" coming in & the new CSR just now hitting the 90 day mark 5) I still haven't had a chance to sit new "boss" down & tell him how things work here. 6) I could care less if "boss" is out of the office. However, when the CSR is out, I have to become this position. I really do not like to do this
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Monday, May 12, 2008 - 8:27 am
Costa do you have a magic window that lets you see here in Iowa? Cuz once again I'm here to gripe about the neighbors. And here you are griping about stupid people again. *L* Just got back from walking Jack. Our walk ends with walking in front of the wonderful neighbors canty wampus from us. [I won't walk on the sidewalk that will end up in front of our house unless I know for sure that the 150lb English Mastiff 2 doors down is locked in his cage cuz he attacks little dogs and by walking across the street I have more warning if he is loose. But that's another gripe that will be taken care of the next time he attacks per the police.] Anyway I don't even have to make Jack not get into their yard or stop and sniff at anything on the sidewalk. On his own he gets in the middle of the sidewalk and just trots along not wanting to stop. [Smart dog!] Mr Neighbor came out and said HEY. I kept walking and he said HEY. I kept walking then he said HEY LADY I AM TALKING TO YOU. So by that time we were in their neighbor's drive [across the street from our house] so I stopped and turned. Mr Neighbor yelled YOU GO RIGHT NOW AND PICK UP THAT DAMNED POP CAN AND TAKE IT OUT OF MY YARD. I asked why and he yelled I DON'T WANT TRASH IN MY YARD. I told him I was sorry [yes I lied!] there was trash in his yard but it was not my problem. He then yelled YOU GET YOUR ASS OVER HERE AND PICK UP YOUR TRASH RIGHT NOW. I told him it was not my trash and I was not picking it up. Then Jack and I continued down to the corner, crossed the street and went to our house. By this time, hubby who is off today because of dr appointments, came out on the front porch. Mr Neighbor was yelling nonsense at this time and his wife came out. She calmed im down then came over and told us that we really needed to get our trash out of their yard. I told her calmly that it was NOT our trash, we don't drink Dr Pepper, and trash in their yard was NOT our responsibility. She said that her husband saw me throw it there this morning at the start of our walk. Oh I started laughing so hard. Told her that I don't "start" my walk in front of their house but I end up walking past it so that part of the story was wrong. Then I said he didn't see ANYBODY throw it there, it was hit there with a baseball bat. And he didn't see anybody put it there today as it was the middle school kids on Friday after school. Then my husband asked her if she wanted to buy our house. She said no and he said then keep yourself to your side of the street and leave us alone. There is no HOA so how we take care of our yard is OUR business. If you see us doing anything against the law or city ordinances, feel free to contact the proper officials but do not speak to us again if all you want to do is accuse us of doing anything or tell us what to do. If anybody catches you over here measuring any of our trees - even if you are on city property - we will turn you in for harassment and get a restraining order. You can leave our property now. She started to talk and he said I SAID LEAVE OUR PROPERTY. And she turned around and left. I would have rather him not said what he did - I knew it was a mistake to tell him about the trees - but it's now out in the open and we'll see what happens from here.
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Landileigh
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, May 12, 2008 - 8:46 am
your husband said what needed to be said, and you should be proud of him
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Monday, May 12, 2008 - 8:54 am
I told you before and I'll tell you again...this neighbor is harassing you. You should probably think very seriously about filing a police report and get this all on record. People can say I'm over the top or whatever, but these people will very likely file one on you. Without establishing a history with the police, you are going to regret keeping quiet. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose by doing this, Serate. Your relationship with your neighbor sucks donkey nuts already. I think you have to protect yourself from their harassment.
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Monday, May 12, 2008 - 8:56 am
Yeah, they're bullies and sometimes just standing up to bullies can stop them. I hope it doesn't escalate but like you say, it's out in the open and perhaps it's better to blow up and have it over with than be this continual drain on your energy.
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