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Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, June 30, 2008 - 7:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Pamy, I think your instincts are good.. there WILL be other deals and when you are told you nave to act within a few hours, at least question it.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 - 2:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Good work, Pamy.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 - 7:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I got to wk early and was googling Honda deals and found some cool sites that tell you what kind of deals ppl got in the last 6 mo, lots of other interesting sites too. I am glad we waited, we have a 4 day wkend, we can research and look at our leisure

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 - 11:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Pamy make sure you let them know you are aware that sales are WAY down, too.. the paper was fu ll of that today.. they should be ready to wheel and deal because they are dying to sell!

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 5:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Yes, and it was on world news last night. A huge huge story on it. How car sales have plummeted. Double digit decline for virtually every car manufacturer for the first time in DECADES.

You are totally in the "drivers seat" for sure!! This has got to be the BEST time to buy without a doubt. So for sure--TAKE YOUR TIME!!! Talk to the dealers about how the sales are soooo down. Let them know you are totally going to be taking your time and checking all things out. Let them know you will be buying from the dealer with the best deal, no matter what kind of car it is. Even if you have a favorite, don't let them know it. Just tell them you want a FANTASTIC deal or you won't be coming back...

GOOD LUCK!!!

One thing I do, is when I go in a dealership to look around, I actually leave my drivers license at home (actually leaving all your credit cards, etc would also work) so that it would be impossible for you to buy anything (or put a down payment) without it.

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 7:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
I need some advice on what to do with a next door neighbour. This is true, a fact that was given by both a family friend who is a member of the RCMP and by a cop, the man next door went to jail for molesting his grandchildren. He sits in his yard and look into my backyard constantly, yesterday I had lots of kids at my house for Canada day and His googlie ugly eyes were on my pool all day. The lady up the street had the police because we told her that he was always calling her 5/6 year old son in, giving him candy. He got a warning. We were away the other day and Ashley drove in and saw him with binoculars looking in our windows. Hilary can't stay home alone now. She can't go out on the trampoline without him coming over to the edge of the property and watching her. Mind you I go out there and tell him to get his f'ing eyes off my daughter, I outright call him a pervert, the diddler whatever insult strikes me. Dh says I am going to get myself in trouble. I would if I followed my instincts which is to take a 2x4 and put it over his head. He has 3 complaints on him now. How do I get him out of the neighbourhood without getting myself in trouble. I hate this man and I hate his wife more because she defends him. He just quietly walks away, she gets her mouth going, with stuff like, not this again. I am so frustrated, does this sicko have to hurt another child before something is done, does Hilary have to be uncomfortable in her own backyard. Any advice, please, I just want to keep throwing rocks through his windows until he leaves.

Beekindpleez
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07-18-2006

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 8:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beekindpleez a private message Print Post    
Llk...what I am about to say will probably be frowned upon by many, but it worked for me under a similar situation. Someone was looking into my home thru binoculars and I raised a large shotgun and pointed it directly at him. The curtains were quickly closed by him and he was never seen to do that again.
You could probably have the same effect with a "toy" shotgun.

That is a horrible situation you are under. I hope you find some resolve.

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 8:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
I love your idea Bee but if I had a shotgun I would probably pull the trigger.

Brenda1966
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07-03-2002

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 8:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Brenda1966 a private message Print Post    
That's horrible LLkoolaid. Any possibility you can put up a 6 foot fence??

I would call the police and ask to talk to someone about what they suggest.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 8:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Can you check with the police about whether there's anything he's not allowed to do? For instance he might not be able to approach within 6ft of a child, or something like that, just something that you could use to file official complaints.

I don't think anything will happen fast, as it's his home, particularly as I doubt looking is an actual offense. Can you put up some sort of shade over that side of your property, like an awning, just as a temporary measure, and then think about a fence or trees. It might not be ideal but you need to do something immediately or your summer will be awful.

I think I'd explain the situation to the police and ask if there's anything they recommend to either get him to stop or to protect your family. There might be a group who know how to help you.

I'm sorry this is happening, it sounds awful.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 9:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
I would call the police and ask to have a consultation with someone in the sex crimes unit.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 - 9:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I agree with Juju.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 12:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Me too.. find out exactly what orders he has, if any, about speaking to children and so on.

Also ask about the looking into your windows thing (with binoculars).

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 1:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I agree with calling or stopping by and talking to the police.

When I was a kid my granny put a swimming pool in the backyard. She had to make the fence higher to do it so she bought that ugly green, I dunno, plastic maybe? fencing stuff and put it on top of the brick fence. Made the fence about 10 feet high, lol. I'm not suggesting the ugly stuff, but maybe lattice or something to give the kids a bit more privacy when they're in the backyard.

ETA: Just read up and saw that's what Kitt is advising too.

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 5:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
LLkoolaid!!! My heart is in my stomach right now for you, must be the worst type of terror knowing someone like that is next door. We have a guy in his early 20's who tried to rape 4 woman (2 adults, 2 teen girls) in 2 days a few months back. The guy lives with his parents one block over and is jail right now awaiting trial (to his parents credit they revoked his bail and won't let him home) but I am terrified for when he gets out.

I agree with all the above advice and would add... photos and logging each event. Logging wouldn't stand up in court but helps police get the whole picture. If your neighbors would do the same then perhaps the police would help put some pressure on the guy and his wife. Unfortunately, controlling his behavior doesn't change his predilection.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 7:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I think you've gotten good advice here. What a horrible thing to have to deal with. How long has that guy been your neighbor?

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 9:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Ll I'm surprised your dh hasn't had a conversation with this man. As the man of the house and with how his daughters are being treated he needs to step to this guy by any means necessary. I know neither of my men would put up with this shit and neither would I.

Dahli
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11-27-2000

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 10:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dahli a private message Print Post    
The behaviour is compulsive and from what I know completely unchangeable. He has nothing really to lose and this is working for him. I doubt any kind of logical conversation or even threats would change a darn thing. I guess removing his 'payoffs' is the only way to stop it. That sounds like physical blockages to his line of sight. What a huge hassle and this is but the tip of the iceberg in our strange and perverted world...

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 10:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
You are allowed to videotape your own property for surveillance purposes. I'd aim a video camera right at the fence, being sure to capture that creep. Arm your kid(s) with referee quality whistles. Be sure your back yard is secured by fences with gates.

The guy must be on probation at least. Write a very detailed letter about what he is doing, how you feel threatened, how the neighbor's child was "lured." Take it to the police station and tell them that you understand the confidentiality laws and such, but that you wanted to give them a copy of the letter just in case something was to happen in the future. Take the letter to the probation department and be sure you get someone to sign a receipt that you'd hand delivered it. Just address it to the probation officer in charge of Mr. X's case, and put Mr. X's address in there for further clarification (if you don't know his name).

We have a program here called "block parents" that is overseen by the police. Parents of young children place a block parent sign in their front window, which indicates to kids that it is a safe place to run to in case they are bothered outside by strangers. If nothing else comes of this program, you have alerted all the neighborhood parents in a proactive way.

Best wishes for resolution to this problem. Personally, I'd go face-to-face with him and tell him that I know his history, and that if he ever so much as stepped a single toe on my property, I would beat him to within an inch of his life.

Sharinia
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09-07-2002

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 11:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sharinia a private message Print Post    
Such excellent advice here. I'm a book junkie, so checked amazon...maybe this would have some good suggestions - link

Best of luck to you. What a horribly difficult situation.


Mak1
Member

08-12-2002

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 12:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mak1 a private message Print Post    
Llkool, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. The same thing happened on our street, next door to us. Fortunately for us, our kids are all grown and out on their own. The family on the other side of the criminal have two very young boys, though. The parents reacted with words and threats. Actually, the young father told the criminal "It's not a threat. I'm just telling you what I will do if you even look at my kids." The young father put up a taller fence, as tall as the local ordinance will allow. He was also in frequent contact with the police. This is a small town, and the police were vigilant, sympathetic and disgusted also. To make matters worse, another convicted child molester and his wife moved into the house directly across the street from the first guy! This is just up the hill and around the corner from the elementary school. As of now, the first guy has vacated his house and it is for sale. He has been in trouble with the law twice that I know of in the past six months. The first time, it was because he moved into another house without informing the authorities of his new address. While waiting for his next court date for that offense, he was caught supplying underage boys with alcohol in his house. I don't know where he is right now, but his second house is for sale too. I'm hoping there is a special place in the hottest corner of Hell awaiting him.

I didn't mean to write a book, lol. I just urge you to talk to your police and erect that tall fence if you can. It isn't right that decent people have to go to the expense and bother of doing that, but we do what we have to. I hope he moves on soon!

eta: Ditto everything everyone else said, too! I especially like the idea of videotaping.

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 12:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
How scary for you and your family. The stress must be horrible! I'd do everything advised above. Talk to police, and put up a tall fence but put it along the ENTIRE side of the house. It may look odd, but it WILL get the point out. It sure would get the neighbors talking.

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 1:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
You know, I would get some of that fast growing bamboo and line the fence/property line with that neighbor. Then even if there are maximums on the height of the fence, the bamboo can grow tall and thick and sheild your family.

Holly
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07-22-2001

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 2:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Holly a private message Print Post    
Now that's a great idea, Dipo!

Dahli
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11-27-2000

Thursday, July 03, 2008 - 3:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dahli a private message Print Post    
I love that idea, but the only bamboo I've ever found, that was 'hardy' cuz I wanted to plant some was only hardy to zone 4(which they called the cold zone) We're zone 3 sometimes 2 and don't know for sure about LL....