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Kitt
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09-06-2000

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 2:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
There's a lyrics search engine here:
http://lyrics.astraweb.com/
Maybe he could type in phrases as he remembers them? I've tried searching through the first 50 or so with "southbound" in and none of them match the other lyrics, but he might notice something familiar.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 3:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
This one? Oops, probably not. Just listened to a sample. It is very country. But I'll leave the post in anyway.

Southbound Train Lyrics
Artist(Band):Travis Tritt


"Southbound Train"

Well she was born in a north woods town
Twenty-one winters ago
And she grew tired of the freezing cold
And living in the blinding snow
But this girl new she wouldn't be there long
'Cause she had plans and dreams
And she'd seen pictures of the sunshine state
In the pages of the magazine

So she waited them tables and she used her smile
Saving every penny she can
For a one-way dixie bound Amtrak ticket
Headed for the promise land
Her momma and daddy begged her not to go
When the day she dreamed of came
And she waved goodbye sittin' way up high
From the window of a southbound train

Now she's got a fire burnin' deep inside
Ridin' on a southbound train
And the clickity-clack of that railroad track
Only helps to fan the flames
No more worries, no more cares
She left them up in Bangor,Maine
Now she's startin' a brand new life
Ridin' on a southbound train

She said, 'Hello sun, good mornin' Daytona
You're sure lookin' good to me
With your ocean breeze and your tall palm trees
And your southern hospitality'
Now she's a knockout queenie in a string bikini
She's drivin' all the boys insane
And this all started with a small town dream
And a ticket on a southbound train

'Cause she had a fire burnin' deep inside
Ridin' on a southbound train
And the clickity-clack of the railroad track
Only helped to fan the flames
Nor more worries, no more cares
She left them up in Bangor, Maine
Yeah she likes the boys with a southern drawl
Soakin' up the sunshine, havin' a ball
She'll be the first to tell you that she owes it all
To ridin' on a southbound train

http://tinyurl.com/2w8lcs

Heyltslori
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09-15-2001

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 3:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Heyltslori a private message Print Post    
I may have found it, but I can't find the lyrics. I found a website where someone asked the question of what is this song: The first is a southern rock song. It's a guy singing. The chorus to the song goes something like "Stand up, move on down, catch that train it's southward bound."

And a person answered and said that it might be "Southbound Train" by a group called Steel River.


Link

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 4:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Ha ha ha, I'll bet you followed Juju to the same site!

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 4:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
Fingers crossed.......Southbound train by Steel River!!!!! The reason you are having trouble finding them seems to be because it was a Cdn group. And hubby is good!! The song was released in 1971. Still working on finding complete lyrics for you.

Rissa
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03-20-2006

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 4:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rissa a private message Print Post    
RFLOL, JINX!!

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 5:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
Thanks girls, that is it, went to limewire and it is playing now. Dh says a big thankyou and he has a newfound appreciation for TVCH. I told him if the people here couldn't find it, it couldn't be found. Thank you so much.

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 5:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
because i can always turn to my people on TVCH...

okay this isn't really a vent session just a serious needing consideration. i'll try and keep this as short as possible since there is so much history.

newayz, an old friends with benefits just recently contacted me, like last week. he's in the navy (stationed in Italy) and so we have been catching up online. he's coming home in june/july wants to see him. i told him, yah that's fine. we were friends with benefits for almost 2 years.

okay, quick history. we met through my old best friend (lisa). they were together for a while until her parents didn't want her with him anymore and they only way that they could see each other was through me. well because of that reason, me and him starting hanging around together a lot more. one thing led to another and bam...we had sex...and obviously kept doing it. she found out. and we were no longer friends, duh. i feel terrible for our falling out...i even tried to contact her a few months after it had happened...she wanted nothing to do with me (at that time i had stopped sleeping with because i wanted her friendship back...that didn't happened, so i went back). god...just putting this down, makes me sound like such a and a . sheesh. that's okay, i've changed, i would never do that again. ever. i up, but at least i can admit to it.

newayz...after talking for like three hours today he asked me if i ever wanted to go to europe. i said, of course, who doesn't want to go to europe. well he said if i saved up money to get a plane ticket and a few extra dollars just to have that i should visit him in italy and he would take me around there and show me the sites. i didn't know what to say.

first off, my mom doesn't really like the guy. she never really did, especially since he broke up (along with me) my friendship with lisa. i mean she can't tell me what to do, but i don't want her to give me an ultimatium (sp?) about if i go, i will have to move out. not saying she would, because she's gotten to the point that it's our lives, she has to let us live them no matter if she likes the decisions or not. but i still feel like i'm letting her down.

and my position. i really want to go. how many times are you going to get offered to have a place to say (he has a four bedroom house, so I don't have to sleep in his room), a travel guide, and all for the cost of just a plane ticket and some extra money just to have. i wouldn't go until next year probably...since he comes home in june/july. i wouldn't make a final decision until after i saw him...just to see if we even still truly got along...because i would at least spend a week there...and i wouldn't want to do that and spend that much money if we didn't get along. he wants to take me on a date when he gets home...which is fine with me.

i just have no clue what to do. i mean it really is a one in a lifetime chance. i can honestly say i don't have feelings for him anymore. he's just a friend. but i just...there's people that might be hurt by this that i don't want hurt. ugh. help.

mind you. me and this girl are no longer friends. we have mended fences, but we don't really talk. she's into a lifestyle that i rather not be a party to.


Kitt
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09-06-2000

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
I'm tempted to say it's simply no one's business but your own, and the others who might be hurt have to get over it.

Sounds like you are out of contact with Lisa for good reason, and whether or not she finds out you saw this guy, she has to get over it, it was years ago.

Your mum has to learn that even if you're living in her house she can't control who you see or don't see, even if it's just by making you feel bad. If she can't do that then you have to chose whether to put up with it or move out.

So that leaves you and your friend. Don't make any decisions too soon. Spend time with him when he's here and see if you are a good match either as friend or maybe as something more. Beware if one of you is looking for something the other isn't, and beware if you think he will expect something more than you're willing to give if you go to visit him.

If the trip will probably be next year, you may not even have to start looking for tickets until the new year. Things might be totally different then. For now, I'd tell him it seems like a fun thing to do, so let's think about it later in the year. By then you'll know whether it's the right thing to do or not.

Merrysea
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08-13-2004

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Merrysea a private message Print Post    
I agree with Kitt, and I would also hold off on committing to the visit because you don't know what will be going on in your life at that time. You may be in an exciting new job that you can't take time off from, or you might be in an exciting new relationship that you don't want to jeopardize by visiting a male friend in another country. Until the final decision is made (closer to the actual date of the visit), I wouldn't bother telling your mother about this. After all, if you end up not going, there's no reason to upset her.

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
Thanks guys...that's exactly what i was thinking about doing. i guess trusting my gut is a good thing :D

Beekindpleez
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07-18-2006

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beekindpleez a private message Print Post    
first off, my mom doesn't really like the guy. she never really did

Beckie...has your mom usually been right or wrong about the men in your life?
Moms usually have a pretty good gut instinct, too.

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
She's been pretty good about the guys in my life...like most moms are. She just doesn't want me to go back and sleep with him. She has already told me that she doesn't care if we are friends, but that I should be smart enough and not go and sleep with him again...

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Can you go to Europe and not sleep with him?

I would start saving up for the trip, see how it goes when he is in town in the summer and take it from there...

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
I think I could Julie. I really don't want to have sex with him. I mean...I can't say for sure because I'm not god...but I defintely would do everything in power not to have sex with him.

Yah I have checked for at the beginning of the year (from now)...$1000...so I'll defintely have to start saving and if it doesn't happen...well I'll have all this money saved up :D

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I see you are in your early 20s...so I say GO! have fun..even have (protected)sex if ya want...you dont want to be 39yrs old saying 'damn, wish I would have gone to Europe'

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 6:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
Moms rarely approve of the men we date in our early 20s and YES, mom was usually right about them but damn were they fun :-)

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 8:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I defintely would do everything in power not to have sex with him.

Okay I'm baffled. If you don't want to have sex with him then you don't. If you want to have sex with him you do. Or am I over simplifying things?

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 8:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
oh my favorite man on TVCH...he finally makes his comments. I love em

...for right now, I don't want to have sex with him. I just got out of that relationship and I know myself enough to know that if I have sex with him I will expect more (a rebound relationship) and I'm not in the position to need more right now.

However, it's over a year away that I would go to see him...my feelings may change by then and maybe I will want more or not.

Now, when he comes home in June/July. I will defintely not have sex with him. But as for in Italy...I cannot say.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 8:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
As in most things... one day at a time Beckie. I'm impressed that you realize that you aren't ready to jump from the frying pan into the fire. But in a year... who knows where you'll be. You ARE young, and you know and trust this fellow, I agree with Pamy. I'd go with the intention of having good clean fun with my friend, BUT bring along the condoms etc just in case... :-)

PS... chances are he's not inviting you JUST to play scrabble in the moonlight... If he's a healthy redblooded young man, it's very likely he'll have expectations... AND where sex is concerned, your own hormones have had something to say about him before... You might not do the horizontal-tango this time around... but Italy is supposed to be very romantic...

Neko
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08-03-2001

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 10:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Neko a private message Print Post    

quote:

...especially since he broke up (along with me) my friendship with lisa.




I'd just like to say, from what I read, YOU broke up your friendship with Lisa by sleeping with the guy.
Which I'm was assuming was an active decision you made, and he didn't force you to do it.

I'm kinda hoping that was a typo on your part with that sentence.


quote:

Okay I'm baffled. If you don't want to have sex with him then you don't. If you want to have sex with him you do. Or am I over simplifying things?




Thank you Jimmer cause I was thinking the exact same thing. If you don't want to sleep with a guy, you don't. Simple as that.
I hate when girls I know make up excuses for why they fell into a guy's bed, instead of just saying "I obviously wanted to, so I did."

That wasn't really directed to you Beckie, more to girls in general who say things like that.
It really frustrates me.

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 11:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
I thought what Beckie was trying to say was that although at the moment she had no intention of sleeping with him in Italy, she could imagine getting carried away with the romance and it might happen. Which sounds reasonable to me.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 11:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Ok, I hope this doesn't sound snarky or anything like that, but I have some questions and stuff:

IMO, I wouldn't go. Is your only relationship "sex"? Also, were you really friends then ended up having sex or did you have sex and because of that consider him a friend?

If you are going to save to go to Europe, do you have to go with HIM or meet him in Europe? Would you have more fun if you and say a girlfriend save and went together?

If all you ever did together is have sex, he probably expects that to happen again. Is that the only thing you have in common? Do you think by spending time with him in Europe a more meaningful relationship will develop? If it was possible, wouldn't it have happened before.

Also, just another question, weren't you dating someone else for the past 4 years? I might be mistaken, but it seems you just went through a bad breakup, right? I hope I am not intruding too much by wondering if you were sleeping with the friend and your boyfriend at the same time....

Beckie03
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07-05-2007

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 11:34 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Beckie03 a private message Print Post    
wow. people mistook a lot of what I said.

It was my fault that our relationship broke up. I never said it wasn't. He was at fault too. I cannot be the only person blamed there. I even stated that I knew I was to blame. He could have stopped just as easily as I could...but we didn't. We were both wrong.

I also stated that when he comes home in June/July, I do not want to have sex with him. I do not want to. Now, in a year and in Italy, no I cannot guarantee anything. Maybe I'll be in a relationship, and I won't even go to Italy. Maybe I'll be wanting to just have fun and I will sleep with him. Maybe I'll just want to go to Italy to have fun, not for sex. I do not know how I am going to feel in a year, but I do know that when he comes home I will not have sex with him.

Second, we were friends before...for about a year before we started having sex. He's stationed in Italy for the Navy. I would just be going for like a week to visit with him. He comes home in June/July of this year I'm not going to go until maybe February or March of next year.

I do not want a more meaningful relationship with him. I want just a friendship with him. Like I said, I knew him for a year before we had sex...so yes, we do have more in common than just sex. We were friends with benefits for two years, yes...but I do not want anything except a friendship with him.

Like I previously stated. I did just get out of a relationship. I'm looking for friends. I just want friendship. I do not want a relationship, I am no where near ready to be in a relationship. I know that.

I have never, ever cheated on my boyfriend or any other boyfriend for that matter. This guy contacted me after I had broken up with my boyfriend.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 11:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Then I say go but make sure he knows this is only a vacation. No more no less.