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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, October 22, 2007 - 1:08 pm
Nah, call and ask first. It's more polite than just showing up with an extra guest.
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Dfennessey
Member
07-25-2004
| Monday, October 22, 2007 - 1:21 pm
I would call first too. Even if they do not care you should never Assume
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Justavice
Member
11-22-2005
| Monday, October 22, 2007 - 5:27 pm
If everyone wears a costume, maybe they won't notice her...
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, October 22, 2007 - 8:59 pm
LOL, I am going to ask and say "Hey, do you mind if my sister comes again, she had so much fun last year with us and she NEVER gets out." I gotta throw that guilt in there.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, October 22, 2007 - 9:42 pm
Why do you have to throw guilt into it? Why not just, "hey do you mind if my sis comes again, she had so much fun last year."
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 6:31 am
I'd go with Skootz's suggestion of calling to see what you can bring and then say "Hey, is it alright if my sister comes with us?"
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 7:06 am
Escapee I would call and ask. I have a quick question. I am going to get at home nursing help with my daughter. I actually had one that was was suppose to start yesterday. However, I had to let her go before she even started. That is another story. Anyway am I required to provide her with lunch, snacks and stuff? I have never done this before and don't know what I should do. I kind of hate to start having another mouth to feed, I do enough of that as it is. On the other hand I can't just let her sit here and starve.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 7:10 am
Biloxi, I would check with the agency she works for. I really doubt that you would have to provide lunch though. After checking with the agency, just be sure to tell the nurse that she is more than welcome to eat her lunch at your home. To build rapport, you might want to tell her that the coffee pot is always on and she is welcome to that, too. When I treated children in their homes, I was always being offered coffee or whatever at certain homes. Those were my favorite places to visit because their offers made me feel that I was truly a part of their family/team. 
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 7:16 am
Biloxi, this nurse is supposed to give you relief, not more work. Offer your fridge for her lunch and cold drinks. Show her where the kettle/coffee pot/cups are. If you happen to have some baking some day, share if you are so inclined, but don't take on any more. Your plate is plenty full!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 8:03 am
Quick question: any idea where I could get a small cheap witch hat? (Besides Michaels or Hobby Lobby). TIA. (Biloxi, I would think the nurse would bring her own lunch...) ETA: I'm gonna move this question to the dumb question thread as this is not really an advice question. If you happen to have a good suggestion for me, please post over there... Thanks!)
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 8:25 am
Have you tried Target? I saw some nice costumes at Target yesterday.
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Rissa
Member
03-20-2006
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 8:35 am
Julie my local dollar store has a limited selected of masks and hats, I know I saw a witch hat there a couple weeks ago. If you have a good-sized one in your area that might be worth a shot.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 8:47 am
Awesome suggestions!! THANKS!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, October 23, 2007 - 9:02 am
Dollar store is out, but Target is holding one for me!!! And it is perfect as it is a child size which is what I was looking for! Thanks!
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 6:45 am
Thanks guys . The coffee pot is a good idea. She did enjoy a cup of coffee yesterday. I showed her where we keep the drinks and I think she got a coke but I'm not sure. I do want her to feel comfortable here. She didn't bring her lunch. When I took my dad to therapy she asked me if I could stop and pick her up something from Sonic. She handed me 10 dollars. I almost paid for it myself then thought maybe that is something I might not want to start. If she doesn't bring anything to eat today maybe I should ask her if she like to take her "lunch hour" between 12-1. Then she can go get her lunch. Does that sound okay? Of course if the time ever comes when I am out of the house on a daily basis I will provide lunch meat or something. That is if she doesn't bring her own. Lum good idea about the baking. I haven't done any in a long time. Now that the weather is cooling off I will be starting again.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 7:09 am
I think that is a nice balance between being friendly and making her comfortable and welcome (which is in your best interest as well) and not having her take on the role of a guest that you have to cater to.
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 8:33 am
That's exactly right, Jimmer. Biloxi, don't start anything on a regular basis that you don't want to or can't continue. An occasional perk or treat - yes, a regular thing - uhuh! Trust me, been there, done that. When my Dad was sick, Mum had started to make coffee and cake for the nursing service attendant every morning. By the time I got there, Dad was in really bad shape, and it took the two of us to keep up with his needs. The last thing I needed at that point was to continue the "hospitality" service. But by then it was an established thing and couldn't be stopped.
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 9:02 am
I think having the coffee pot on for her is plenty. Then take her on a "house tour" if you will, and mention she's free to use the fridge to store her lunch if she chooses to bring it (I'd specify it that way, so there's no room to misinterpret that you are providing the lunch). Maybe even direct her to menus of places that deliver in the area, so she has a variety of options. I know I rarely brought my lunch to work, and just ordered out on the days I felt hungry enough to take lunch. Truthfully, I'm slightly bothered with the idea she asked you to stop by Sonic for her. Did she just pipe up and ask once she saw you were going out? Or did you offer to stop somewhere on your way back? It doesn't matter if you were already out and about. I know I don't run certain errands if they take me away from the house too long (leaving my Mom alone). And some places I'd like to stop by are in a total different direction than where my errands are, so I just don't go. At any rate, like others have pointed out, she's there to help you. She's not there to free you up from caring for your daughter so you can be her errand girl. JMHO of course. I also think asking the agency is a great idea. They might even have policies in place where their caregivers aren't allowed to accept certain gratuities while on the job.
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Skootz
Member
07-23-2003
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 9:17 am
I would have the coffee on and if you get a chance to bake, leave some on the counter and that day she is there,let her know to have a piece of what ever you baked...I wouldn't do this daily. Then it will be a routine and not a treat for thanks for your work. Whoami has a great idea with the showing where she can put "her" lunch etc., I wouldn't give her a specific lunch hour, she may need to take lunch at 1 or so because of things getting done and the patient sleeps at 1 and that is when they can get the break. You/the caregiver/nurse have to be on the patients schedule as they are the one being looked after.
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Rosie
Member
11-12-2003
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 9:44 am
It is her responsibility to plan ahead for her meals, drinks and snacks. She should be asking YOU if she could store her items in your refrigerator. YOU should not furnish, or feel responsible, to provide her anything other than an occasional treat.I am shocked that she would ask you to pick up her lunch. Ask the agency, but I wonder if she is supposed to leave for lunch? Please do not take on the worry of when and if she eats. Coffee and an occasional treat is plenty. Is she new at this? Perhaps the agency should explain this to her? Don't mean to sound harsh but she either doesn't know better or may take advantage?
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Wednesday, October 24, 2007 - 8:25 pm
Belle, I put on the kettle, showed them where the tea bags and coffee are, and also offered them filtered water, pop, or juice. Maybe a cookie or two. That's it, they always brought their lunches and usually their own drinks too! (This was from when I had caregivers for mom here, and also same goes for cleaning ladies too)
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, October 31, 2007 - 11:45 pm
I don't so much need advice on what to do, but on who to contact. Today I picked Caleb up from school. Had my 3 year old niece in the middle passenger side seat in her car seat and nephew in his on the drivers side and Caleb in the front. When we turned the corner from the school, one of the school busses was behind us (reason I know it was their school and not someone elses.) Drove down the street and got into the turn lane at the light. The bus pulled up next to us in the lane to go straight. Caleb and I were chatting about trick or treating and little niece was joining in from the back seat so Caleb was kinda turned in his seat looking back at her. Just as the turn light changed to green and the cars in front of me started to move, I heard a couple loud bangs on my car and asked what the heck that was. Caleb said he saw something thrown from the bus and it hit the sliding doors window. I was stuck into turning, cars in front of me, cars behind, also trying to catch the number on the school bus (which didn't work too well, Caleb and I got different numbers!) Told Caleb I was calling the shcool as soon as I got home. Took nephew home and got out to check the car. The window was fine but whatever it was that hit it bounced and hit the door panel, I now have a small spot of chipped paint and a small dent. Not too worried about that, I probably wouldn't have noticed it if I wasn't looking for it. By the time I got home, the school office was closed and I left my name and said I'd call back in the morning. Darren and bil both said I should have pulled out of the lane and followed the bus but honestly that never even crossed my mind. To tell the truth I was pretty shaken up even when I got home, the damage to the car, no big deal but whatever was thrown out of the bus (and it was something heavy) hit my window, right where my little niece was sitting and omg if it had broken she could have really been hurt. So my question is, do I call the school like I planned or the bus company? When we lost our busses for this neighborhood, the school and school district both told us to take it up with the bus company. However with this, the kid who threw whatever it was out of the bus goes to their school and while I don't hold out much hope they'll find the kid who did it I may be able to help narrow it down just off the direction the bus was going in so that the bus drivers can keep an eye out. Is there anything else I should do? Like I said, not worried at all about the chipped paint and small dent, still more upset at the what ifs and what could have happened's and I think someone should be informed, I'm just not sure who.
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Wednesday, October 31, 2007 - 11:54 pm
I would call the school and the bus company both. I would also follow up the phone calls with letters to both reiterating the information. You could also report it to the local police department. This may be a good idea as kids throwing stuff out the bus window onto cars could cause serious accidents. Having the police involved may get a better response from the school/bus company. The reason I say put it in writing is because it leaves a paper trail and they are more likely to respond to complaints in writing, in my experience, than just verbal ones. It is probably too late but I would go back to that spot and see what is in the road. Being it was heavy enough to dent your car, it may still be there. If it was a personal enough item it may help pinpoint who it belongs to and who threw it.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Thursday, November 01, 2007 - 12:10 am
Caleb said he thought it was a glass bottle (like an empty juice bottle) but he wasn't positive. While he was sorta facing that window, he was focusing on my niece. I'll be over there in the morning so I'll see if there is anything left. That's my thing too, throwing something out of the bus window is dangerous! I don't expect them to find the kid(s) who did it, but they should be aware that something like that happened.
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Thursday, November 01, 2007 - 12:56 am
If you report it to all the above and report it in writing then they will at least talk to all the kids and the bus drivers. If you don't put it in writing, they may just give you lip service and shine it on. Then if an accident does happen they can claim ignorance but if you have it in writing they can't do that. Also, if you put it in writing, they may actually try to find out who it was. The only reason I'm stressing the in writing thing is that when I had a problem with a student who was hurting other kids nothing was ever done about him until I wrote a letter threatening police charges if he hurt another student. Then we got some action from the powers that be.
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