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The TVClubHouse: General Discussions ARCHIVES: Oct. 2007 ~ Dec. 2007: Free Expressions: Advice please....: Archive through October 22, 2007 users admin

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Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 11:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
About your daughter's hair, well my mom always used to say (if she didn't like it) - 'well if you like it, that's all that counts'. 'Course now that she has dementia she pretty much speaks her mind no matter to who, when, or where. Makes for some awkward or hilarious moments, depending on circumstances.

IF you have a bad feeling about the boyfriend, and she asks, I'd say you should try to ask HER how its going and take your cues from her, at this point in time. But you ARE her mom, and you get an automatic special dispensation to say (NICELY) that you aren't too thrilled with him, but if he's making her happy he'll probably grow on you, or somesuch, so that she doesn't feel too badly but gets a good idea of where you stand. She'll probably ask you why, so be prepared to explain your feelings tho.

Serate
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08-21-2001

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 12:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
Have you ever met the new boyfriend? If not just say you can't judge a person by their picture.

As far as the hair, my mom used to say, and my husband still says, "are YOU happy with it, that's what matters!" Tho if I died my hair bright red he might have more to say about it, but only cuz he would know I did it to annoy him!

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Some good suggestions here. Thanks everyone. The funny thing is, I'm a redhead so I guess I could be flattered that she chose to go red. But most people would kill for her gorgeous hair. I don't get it but its not nearly as important as the new boyfriend. Of course, I've only seen a pic and she's told me a little bit about him but none of it gives me warm fuzzies. He's in construction and he looks like a redneck cowboy. Not that there's anything wrong with that! LOL Just not what I had hoped for my only child.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 4:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Could be worse, he could be a lawyer. JUST KIDDING FOLKS!!!

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 4:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Twinkie, I have a question, if you don't want ot answer, no problem. I am a redhead (your profile pix looks like about my shade red). Anyways, has your color lasted as you've aged? If not, what age did it change? I am just wondering if I will lose the red as I get older. I have heard that redheads don't gray...

Landileigh
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07-29-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 5:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
twinks, i've been married almost 20 years to a "guy in construction" and he's a wonderful husband and father. he's the best friend i've ever had. just because he's not some billionaire, doesn't mean he isn't a good guy.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 5:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Julie, it has changed to a different shade of red but its still red. Just not as bright red. Its true that redheads don't go gray. At least that's what I've always heard and observed.

Landi, I bet he's not a redneck cowboy. LOL

Landileigh
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07-29-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 6:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
ummm... well... he ain't far off. and he's so fair he always gets a red neck.

Pamplemousse
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09-28-2003

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 7:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamplemousse a private message Print Post    
Julie, I am not a redhead and can't speak for all however my aunt who is 92 was a red head & her hair has turned a strawberry-blonde. a very soft color but not white or even gray

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 9:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Twinks, I thought of the perfect reply! I was thinking you have red hair but couldn't exactly remember. Tell the daughter that you are very flattered that she wants to model herself after you, and you consider it a great tribute. If you can manage to sound like you are all choked up, so much the better.

Jujutheverybaddawg

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 10:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
My mom was a redhead, and she is again, thanks to Clairol. LOL. She didn't go grey, she went white very young.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, October 12, 2007 - 11:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
ROFLMAO JUJU!!!! You crack me right up!! I LOVE that idea! I don't know if I can pull off the choking up part without laughing, though. If I tell her I'm glad she is modeling herself after me she's sure to change it right back to blond. LOL

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Saturday, October 13, 2007 - 8:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
I thought you might like that idea, and I sort of think that might be the result as well.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Sunday, October 14, 2007 - 10:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Twinks I wouldn't lie. I'd tell her no I don't like it and no I don't like the new guy. No need to lie, she's a grown woman.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Sunday, October 14, 2007 - 11:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I agree with Mocha. I'd tell her the truth. Gently and nonjudgemental, but the truth.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Sunday, October 14, 2007 - 12:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
I thought I'd just be evasive and say if it makes you happy that's good. I think she'll get the hint that I don't care for either one.

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Sunday, October 14, 2007 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
Hi Twinkle I'm not a mom or anything but I am a daughter. I hate when my mother focuses on my hair. I'm always like "leave me alone already." Hair is only one part of a person and a relatively minor one at that.

Guess waiting and seeing is in order for the boyfriend. Sounds like you've got a good handle on it!

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Monday, October 15, 2007 - 9:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
Thread killer! Sorry if that sounded harsh Twink--I have a full blown ear/head infection and it makes me pretty squirrely.

Do any of you insulate the cracks and windows in your house for the winter? If so, what do you use? I am trying to keep warm (obviously) and the bills down--it was freezing in here last winter.

Another question: do you take in boarders or roommates? If so, what are good signs/warning signs? I had a guy in here that I liked okay until he brought bed bugs home from the gym; pray that this NEVER happens to you. Now I'm looking for someone new for next month. The bed bugs SEEM to be gone. I sleep on plastic and have had fumigation twice. Good times.

Skootz
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07-23-2003

Monday, October 15, 2007 - 10:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Skootz a private message Print Post    
you can get window insulation kits...i.e. the plastic that you cover you entire window with that helps alot.

we have used clear caulking for windows..you can buy it specifically to be able to come off again. I think one of the name brands may be draft stop.

I have also used clear hockey tape for some areas (this is my other duck tape in my house that I cannot do without)

I have also put some towels on the window sill in the winter just to keep some of the cold out.

Heavy curtains also help from drafts coming in ...that is one main reason why in large old houses years ago had thick curtains for that very reason.

Hope this helps a bit for you .... and remember stay warm.

Brenda1966
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07-03-2002

Monday, October 15, 2007 - 10:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Brenda1966 a private message Print Post    
I use the window insulation kits and they do help. I just wish the double sided tape didn't dry out so I wouldn't have to do it every year. LOL. My daughter keeps saying we need to practice opening the bedroom windows for a firedrill and I've told her we can't because there's plastic over them. LOL.

Oh, and I didn't know that redhead's don't go grey! I have red hair and I've certainly found a few "grey" hairs, but maybe they are really more white?! They definately lack the red color. My mom always told me her grandma's hair turned white and how pretty she thought it was. I think I may be turning to Clairol soon. :-)

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Tuesday, October 16, 2007 - 7:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
Growing up in cold, old, drafty houses, I can vouch for the heavy curtains. My bedroom was a north gable, and we only had ONE heat vent for all 4 bedrooms upstairs (and it was in the hall). I had blue velvet drapes, and even though there'd be frost on the inside of the windows, my bedroom would be bearable. The one night I forgot to close them- my room thermometer said 42 the next morning!!! Thank goodness for grandma's home-made warm quilts! :-)

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Monday, October 22, 2007 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
Thanks to everyone for the advice. I haven't moved forward yet on the insulation. For one, it's 72 degrees here today...some may think that's great but I want autumn-appropriate temps thank you. I will prolly get window insulation kits. Sorry I didn't answer sooner but I have traded problems with Granny as I have a lingering ear infection and it makes me pretty grumpy.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 22, 2007 - 11:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Question: Going to a halloween party this year at a neighbors. They have a big one every year. Last year, when we were moving into our house, we had a few friends and my sister over helping out and they were talking to the neighbors, who informed them that they were having a halloween party and that the friends and sister should come. Then we received and invite and my sister tagged along with us, but not friends.

It was a great, drunk, crazy time. This year, sis wants to go with us again, but the invite didn't indicate her coming. I think the guest list is pretty lax,but I kinda feel weird about just assuming it's fine and then I also feel weird about saying "hey can my sis come again?" but I don't know why. Thoughts?

Skootz
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07-23-2003

Monday, October 22, 2007 - 12:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Skootz a private message Print Post    
We went to an annual Halloween party this past Saturday night...it sounds about the same as yours Escapee.

I would just give them a call and see if you can bring anything (i.e. food wise) and then casually mention that you can remember the party it so well last year cause your sister was over helping you move and she came along...then ask her if she wouldn't mind if you asked your sister to come because she had such a great time last year that you bet she would want to come again this year. I don't think they would have a problem with it if they know that she would love to attend again. If she is a "happy drunk" I am sure they wouldn't mind at all.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Monday, October 22, 2007 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
So you don't think us just showing up with her is a good idea?