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Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 7:01 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Good luck with whatever decision you make, Missy. I'm sure we will all support your decision.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 7:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Missy of course you can still post here. Especially if you like aubergine :-)

Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 8:30 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
Missy, thank you for checking in and letting us know how it's going for you. As Julie suggested, I do hope you consider speaking to a professional about this before you proceed. A professional won't push you in any particular direction, it's their goal to help clarify what *you* want.

I wish you the best as you move through this, whatever you decide to do.

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 8:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
missy, i do not care what you decide, i just want your happiness. i wish i lived near you as i would hold your hand, whatever you decide.

Eeyoreslament
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07-20-2003

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 10:44 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Eeyoreslament a private message Print Post    
Professional counselors are VERY good at teasing out the important details that you may not be able to get to on your own. No matter WHAT your "problem" is. They just guide you to our own clarity, without judging or forcing you to one side. I agree with Karuuna and others that seeing someone to seriously talk about this with, is a good choice. Take your list, and they will help you through it all.

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 11:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
Not to speak for Missy, but abortions are time-sensitive. IMO, to ruminate much longer is not the best of ideas. We have been acting as counselors for a few weeks and it I don't think it should be teased out much longer. Sorry, JMO.

Missy2
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07-31-2001

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 11:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Missy2 a private message Print Post    
Thank you for your concern. I do realize that they are time sensitive and its something that I've considered carefully.

Karen
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09-07-2004

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 11:34 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karen a private message Print Post    
Ditto what Zmom said. Good luck, Missy.

Missy2
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07-31-2001

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 11:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Missy2 a private message Print Post    
You guys are all great. Thanks so much for your help. I've just been spending the day thinking. I don't know. It's all so incredibly difficult :-(

Nyheat
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08-09-2006

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 11:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nyheat a private message Print Post    
Hi Missy--I live somewhat nearby in New York and if you ever need to talk, give me a call sometime. This is a tough time for you and you will see it through.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 12:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I'm glad that you have found discussing this here helpful, Missy.

I agree with Julie, Karuuna and all who are recommending that you speak to an unbiased professional about this first. Hopefully, they can help you sort our your feelings, desires and concerns so that you can make a decision that you will be comfortable with further on in your life.

Justavice
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11-22-2005

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 12:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Justavice a private message Print Post    
Missy, thanks for updating. I am sorry this has been such a difficult time. Maybe your doctor tomorrow will have a couple names of someone you could talk to no matter what the outcome of the appointment because I imagine either way, there will be lots to sort out and express to someone who will support you unconditionally and in a way that can move you in a positive direction forward.

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 2:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
((Missy)) My heart goes out to you. We're here whatever you decide.

Cinnamongirl
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01-10-2001

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 3:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cinnamongirl a private message Print Post    
Missy, Its gotta be the biggest, toughest decision to make in life.. Its just getting your head and heart on the same page and going forward...Whatever you decide, you'll make it thru just fine. take care((Missy))

Sunshyne4u
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06-17-2003

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 4:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sunshyne4u a private message Print Post    
now that the nausea is apparent this must be even a harder decision.

the pregnancy now is real and affecting the body.

I only hope that the decision is made with clarity and Keep that List! someday you may want to look back at it if the fetus is removed and pregnancy terminated.

it also would be good to review the risks of surgery. there is always a chance of problems and that could affect the decision.

***

I only hope that everything goes well. crossing my fingers and toes for ya when or if you have your surgery. I always worry. Its in my nature.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 7:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
(((Missy)))

Eeyoreslament
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07-20-2003

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 8:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Eeyoreslament a private message Print Post    
I found a cool website, with a ton of activities that you can do on your own...if you're interested.

http://www.pregnancyoptions.info/pregnant.htm#3

Mameblanche
Member

08-24-2002

Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 9:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Eey, that site is AMAZING!!! Missy it really looks very helpful. I hope you take a gander at it. Hugs.

Sunshyne4u
Member

06-17-2003

Friday, October 19, 2007 - 12:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sunshyne4u a private message Print Post    
I liked the site as it had tons of selfhelp and thought provolking sections.

However, I was surprised that this sentence is predominant in Capitals. IS THIS THE RIGHT TIME FOR ME TO BRING LIFE INTO THE WORLD THROUGH MY BODY?

many many people have gotten pregnant and it was Not planned or the 'right time' but they dealt with it and everything turned out okay.

this sentence is written in such a way that most people will answer NO!! it isnt the 'right' time.

what unplanned pregnancy could possibly be during a Right time?

sorry, to be giving my opinion about it in this thread but EVERYTHING else about the site I thought was great.

I just kinda dislike the accent on that one leading question. it puts NO in the forefront of a person's mind as they start to do the Subsections.

Cinnamongirl
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01-10-2001

Friday, October 19, 2007 - 12:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cinnamongirl a private message Print Post    
Hope you're doing okay today Missy.. Thinking of you!!!!!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 19, 2007 - 1:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
(((((Missy))))) Missy, I'm thinking of you too, today.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Friday, October 19, 2007 - 2:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Missy, please remember, again... it is YOUR decision. It is YOUR body. Only you can know if this decision is right for you. Now may not be the time and place for that sitcom "white picket fence" fairy tale, but that doesn't mean it's not out there next year, or the year after that.

Whatever decision you make, remember it was the right decision. Do not feel that you will regret it. At some point in the future, you'll look back and realize you did what was best then.

Do NOT let anyone talk you into doing something your heart tells you not to do. Ever. (And yeah, that goes for pretty much anything in your life! :-))

Good luck Missy! I hope you're doing OK today!

Seamonkey
Moderator

09-07-2000

Friday, October 19, 2007 - 9:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Missy, I've also been thinking about you.

Missy2
Member

07-31-2001

Sunday, October 21, 2007 - 7:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Missy2 a private message Print Post    
Thanks all. I'm doing good and I know I made the right decision. I appreciate all of your help and support, it's really meant a lot to me. Thank you again!!

Mameblanche
Member

08-24-2002

Sunday, October 21, 2007 - 8:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
(((Missy))) Good to hear from you... You've been on my mind... Gentle hugs. And we're STILL here for ya, hon, if you need us.