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Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Friday, July 27, 2007 - 6:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
I think you've made a good decision, too, Julie -- the seller WAS at fault (different situation than what I was dealing w/)and the neutral will make people pay attention more.

LOL -- sounds like that visual you got at the end, War, made up for all the headache! Gotta' love the "boys and their toys"! :-)

Riviere
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09-09-2000

Saturday, July 28, 2007 - 1:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Riviere a private message Print Post    
Wargod ~ know that sinking feeling being asked for last minute cash, started keeping a bundle at home to be available 24/7... That really hit home when my cousin called on a Friday to say my Mom passed away of cancer, funeral Monday. A 9 hour drive for me, so we'd leave Sunday. Only my husband used ATM to stock groceries Saturday and after packing my car Sunday I needed a $200 ATM withdrawal to have enough gas round trip. Got message our limit had expired for the weekend!!! Yeah, bank not open, we don't know a soul here to loan money, etc... I told hubby turn around and drive a mile back home, the Bank of Riviere would have to cover travel expenses... He said oh wow and how much cash do I stash at home? I replied about $1000 a year, but don't get ideas since so much of that gets deposited to pay bills and get interest. I never feel secure without cash at my fingertips. One time moving we moved a sofa and area rug, there was $500 stashed 4 years prior. I laughed and said: here is the truck rental so it's like moving for free! Never know when cash on hand is needed...

Ophiliasgrandma
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09-04-2001

Saturday, July 28, 2007 - 6:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ophiliasgrandma a private message Print Post    
This thread could benefit from having your questions in red. They tend to get lost in all the black of advice.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Saturday, July 28, 2007 - 8:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Hehe, Riviere, wanna hear something funny? I should have learned that lesson several years ago! We went through four days where the banks computers were down and couldn't use the atm cards, write a check, or go inside the bank and get money. I couldn't even deposit my paycheck. For a year or so after that I made sure we always had an emergency stash (usually no more than $100, but enough to cover a couple days if there was a problem with the bank.) I can't remember why I got out of the habit of doing that.

When I took dinner over to my aunt last night I was telling her about my day and she gave me the oddest look and said, "Well Sandy! Don't you still have quite a bit of my money left????" I'd never even thought about it.

She gives me $400 at the begining of each month to do her grocery shopping. I spend between $150 and $200, take her grociers to her and keep the rest of the money so that when she calls later and tells me she needs something I don't have to go get more money from her. Usually by this time of the month there's only 25 or 30 bucks left, but this month she hasn't need much outside of the first grocery shopping trip and I still have $150 left. It never even once dawned on me I had that cash here and could have given him his $60 and just replaced it later in the afternoon until she mentioned it, lol!

I am kind of obssessive in making sure her money and mine is seperate. It's one thing if I'm running to the store and know she needs something to just throw her purchases up with mine and use my atm card, but I never use her money for my stuff. However, I know damn well she wouldn't have minded me using some and replacing it later.

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Saturday, July 28, 2007 - 10:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Goddessatlaw a private message Print Post    
Wargod, it's cool that the thought never entered your mind to borrow and pay back. I'm sure it's one of the reasons your aunt trusts and relies on you to help her. Everyone should have a niece like you.

Max
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08-12-2000

Saturday, July 28, 2007 - 10:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
What GAL said. :-)

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
Okay, I need you guys!

I have a wedding to go to in a few weeks, a cousin who I haven't seen in years. Which dress? Or none of them????





Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
1 or 4 and 5 or 6 I guess are more a matter of with/without sweater...

Karen
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09-07-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karen a private message Print Post    
I vote for #6, I like it better without the sweater.

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
I like them all better without the sweater...I'm just worried I have too much of a "farmer tan" from not wearing enough tanktops this summer and it looks silly.

I like the brown one best too...I think. I'm not liking the pink one as much as the others anyway, and is it okay to wear black at all at a wedding?? Are 3 & 4 too much black?

(thanks Karen!)

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
LOL- timer photos are always awful. One caught me leaning over pulling my socks off. haha

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
How bout some other choices??

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
#4 or #6 look really nice. I agree, no sweater.

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
Oh! And how much would you spend on a cousin you haven't seen in like 7 years? She lives out of state (wedding is not out of state though- it's about 150 miles away), so I'm thinking a gift card to William-Sonoma or Target or something is best, but I guess I'm asking how little can I get away with without looking too cheap??

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
I'd give you some other choices, but I'd have to go shopping first

I'm really not a dress person. I live in jeans.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I don't have an opinion on the dresses. With respect to how much to spend so as not to look cheap, since you obviously have no intention of over-spending (you aren't close to her emotionally) then how much you spend should largely be based on the Wedding Reception. You want to spend at least what she will be spending per plate to entertain you.

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
So would $50 be good probably? I don't have a clue what she's spending, but I know the meal choices were champaign chicken or prime rib (being a vegetarian, I'll be having side dishes). Yeah, I don't want to spend a lot- I have absolutely no connection to her at all except for sharing grandparents. Her mom is my dad's sister- my dad and aunt haven't even talked in 12 years. None of it is family fights- they just don't communicate. Anyway...

Heyltslori
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09-15-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Heyltslori a private message Print Post    
I like #3 best. #4 second best. And I think $25-$30 would be a fine gift.

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
Do you? Cause I just flat out can't afford to spend a lot on this. I just found out about it 2 days ago (her mom had my old, old address so I never got the invitation- she just called me) and it's on Labor Day weekend. I will have to get a hotel down there because the wedding isn't until 4 pm- it's already going to get kind of pricey. I'll use my credit card if I have to, but I just got back from vacation and don't really have another couple hundred dollars to toss around, you know?

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I think $50 would be okay but that is just a guess. Weddings are expensive. Again, it all depends on the quality of the reception, the location and the people.

Frogichik
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06-11-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 12:55 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Frogichik a private message Print Post    
#4 or #6

As for gift I always try to cover what it cost them per person at the reception which I imagine is like $75-80 average. I usually give $100 at weddings, but $50-$75 I think would be fine in this situation.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Now take my suggestions with a grain of salt lol... Oh got these from Nordstrom's website. Oh and I like to dress up when the ocassion calls for it

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Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
First, let me just say I think you're adorable! I'm liking 3 if it's a more formal affair (evening), 4 if it's day and slightly more casual.

The etiquette is as others have said, to spend about what it's costing them for the reception dinner; but I think you should never spend more than you can afford.

A gift card to the place they are registered would be fine. It's very common nowadays and they can use it to fill in gaps for things they didn't get.

Heyltslori
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09-15-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Heyltslori a private message Print Post    
IMO $50 is a lotta money to give in this circumstance. If it was me, and I got $20 in a card from one of my cousins I would think that was a generous gift.

I just asked my brother what he thought and he said $25.


Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I like Mocha's suggestions. I am sorry, you are so cute, you should really go for a more flattering style. I didn't like any of those above, and you are one of those girls taht could wear anything. Target has cute stuff for inexpensive amounts. Gottschalks, Penny's, even Macy's have awesome sales on their dresses right now.

Also, a gift is NOT required at a wedding. If you feel they invited you in order to recieve a gift, then I wouldn't even go. However, if they invited you because they wanted you to be there, then a gift, while nice if you can, is not necessary. You can always send a gift later when you have the means to do so.