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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:00 pm
if glenn says dress #3, then it SHOULD BE dress #3. the man knows.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:00 pm
Oh, you can prove or disprove most of the "rules" of etiquette. Most were originally begun for good reasons....some of the reasons cease to exist to this day. I remember taking an etiquette class in high school and the teacher, a very proper Southern lady, told the story of how she was in a restaurant and a bite of blazing hot pie that they had evidently heated up in the microwave. She didn't spit it out because that is not proper. She waited until it was cool enough to swallow. She ended up in the emergency room with the burn that night!!! I remember even then thinking how silly she was. (She, of course, told us the story to tell us to behave properly like her, regardless of the consequence!) But I am admittedly snobbish about white shoes (besides tennis shoes) before Memorial Day or after Labor Day and I will continue my silent snobbery as long as I continue to enjoy it. Never would I tell the offender (unless they are particularly obnoxious.) I just make mental notes. I never got the "wedding dinner about the cost of the dinner" either. When I invite someone to a party, I invite them because I want the pleasure of their company...not so they reciprocate with a gift or something else of equal monetary value. Personally, I think keeping tabs on what "gifts" people owe you is quite tacky and cringe everytime I hear someone doing it. I have heard of people dropping friends because they didn't buy them a wedding gift!!!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:13 pm
Abby7, my legs are 8 feet long, so they probably are longer than your whole body. And dang you, Kaili, I was going to the cheap wine getting place this morning, and my line of travel goes right past my favorite consignment store, so I stopped in to see if they had anything for YOU and came out with a new pair of Merrells shoes for ME that I don't need. For YOU they didn't have any cutesy dressy little jackets. They did have a cute size 10 dress with those flirty little sleeves like in my picture above. Polyester, but not the cheap looking kind, v-neck, but not real low, black with big red flowers and sparkly red beads all over. No defined waistline. Half price now at the end of summer $3.50. You could go either red or black shoes.
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:18 pm
Just stopping in quick- I'd like to respond more now, but can't... of course they're not the best pictures, Jimmer! You didn’t take them! And on top of that, I took them by balancing my camera on top of a lampshade (angled slightly up), then hopping on top of the coffee table. LOL I’ll try to do a better one or two later. Do you guys think wind chimes are good for a gift? I love them, but not everyone does. I’m going to (try) not to stress about it too much I’m not really trying to impress anyone- I don’t need to impress Tim (he’s already way impressed by my mismatched pajamas, LOL), or get a date (Tim’s coming with). My dad isn’t going, so I guess also I feel like I’m kind of representing him in a way, and I know he hasn’t seen any of them since my grandpa’s funeral in 1995. Like anyone’s even going to really be paying attention to me anyway, right? It’s her wedding; it’s about her, so maybe I just shouldn’t worry so much about me. But anyway- windchimes??? Yes or no? They’re registered at Target (no one told me, I just tried there online- no one’s told me anything), but I’m not buying them a vacuum or something like that, and that’s a lot of the kind of stuff they are registered for. They are registered for a few board games… I love Pier One, but I don’t know their style and what they would like- maybe I should look at some other registries and see if they’re on them. Shoot, I’ve gotta go… more later! And thanks- everyone- for the advice! I appreciate all of the opinions!
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:28 pm
Juju, you look do look very pretty! I forgot to add that before! I love Merrells! I just got another pair on clearance last week. Size 10 is too big for me- I go with 6 to 8 usually. I have lots of size 10 jeans but they sag and when I squat down my butt crack shows (I lost about 15 lbs and now my pants are all big). It makes my height an issue too because if it’s something where I need a bigger size, then it’s usually too long for me. At 6 ft you have me by pretty close to a foot!
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Heyltslori
Moderator
09-15-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:40 pm
I think wind chimes would make a really nice gift Kaili. 
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 2:48 pm
i'd love wind chimes as a gift myself.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 3:14 pm
I think wind chimes are lovely, but that is just my personal preference.
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Abby7
Member
07-17-2002
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 3:25 pm
i think wind chimes would be very nice. Karuuna, you always give great advice; and you've always been able to give your opinions without putting others' opinions down. i'm sure all agree. Juju, well i guess your legs aren't longer than my body since i'm 11' 4". i'm all torso. abby7torso was my nickname in high school. the 7 being for 7 feet of torso.
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Ophiliasgrandma
Member
09-04-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 3:26 pm
One has to be careful choosing WCs. Some are very tinny sounding. Be sure to get some carefully tuned ones, they are a real joy to listen to.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 3:42 pm
Kaili, I think windchimes are a wonderful gift. Why not buy them one or some of the board games they registered for. Kar, I did not intentionally skip over websites that disproved my opinion. Those were the first 3 that came up in my search. You are certainly entitled to your opinion. Just as I am mine. I truly had NEVER heard of that expectation.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 3:46 pm
I like the windchimes idea. And something else that occurred to me....if they registered at Target, they are probably the practical types. No reason to worry about how much you spend on your gift. I've given board games as a wedding gift before, but I also have a circle of friends that love that sort of thing. One couple traditionally gives a croquet set for a wedding gift....I want to get married just so I get one!!! (Not that I would expect a gift, of course.)
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 4:01 pm
I love wind chimes, as long as they are not outside my bedroom window. I"m a pitifully light sleeper! But I love the sound of them. Thanks, Abby. Annie, the first one that popped up on my search was Answers.com, which said the same thing I did. Of course, I assumed that everyone thought as I did - that etiquette is a guideline, not a rule. It's just one way of thinking about things. Bottom line, no one was trying to tell Kaili what to do, we were just all offering opinions, which I think should be respected. To be honest, I was uncomfortable with the way you pulled my quote out of context, and ommitted what I thought was the most important part of the very same sentence, which said regardless of the etiquette, I felt that no one should do something they couldn't afford to do. At the same time, some people are in the position of being able to afford more than what that particular line of etiquette says as well. Everyone should give as they see fit to give. The 'common etiquette' is simply one way of trying to figure out what might be appropriate. That's all.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 4:14 pm
You so cute, Abby7. If we put your torso on my legs, we would be 13'6"
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 4:18 pm
I love wind chimes, too.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 4:48 pm
sorry you felt that way. i was not trying to take anything out of context. i was simply focusing on the comment. it had nothing to do with you or your adivce or anyone else's. like i have said, again and again, i had never heard of that again, i had never heard of that 'common etiquette'. i could have easily quoted someone else. going back to lurking, this isn't worth it to keep defending myself.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 5:15 pm
Annie, I felt like I had to explain myself, since you did quote ME, and since I felt it was taken out of context, and since your post seemed very strong about how wrong that opinion was. Heck, even all the experts you listed agreed that many people thought it was common etiquette, or they wouldn't have felt the need to refute it! I'm sorry if you feel badly about this. There is really no need to defend yourself, since no one is attacking you, esp me. Truly. I've always liked you and liked reading your opinions, and have posted about that more than once. 
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Serate
Member
08-21-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 5:25 pm
Kinda off topic but I've been researching wedding gift etiquette. One thing that is popping up over and over - according to etiquette you should send a gift even if you aren't attending the wedding you were invited to. I guess I don't have any manners because just because I'm invited does not mean I will buy a gift. Because of my hubby's job we get up to 50 wedding invites a year and maybe MAYBE go to 2, and that's family and close friends. We'd go broke sending gifts to weddings that we have no intentions of going to, weddings we did not want to be invited to. So I might as well admit another etiquette blunder. Sometimes I do not RSVP. If there is a stamped addressed card to just check yes or no I send it back. Sometimes if there is an email address or phone number I'll RSVP, but only if I know them or my husband has mentioned them. But if the only thing is the address on the back of the envelope don't expect an RSVP from me. Yeah yeah rude as hell but *shrugs* I didn't ask to be invited to a wedding where neither of us know anybody, maybe somebody my husband has talked on the phone a couple of times or has represented in a VA hearing.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 5:34 pm
I like windchimes. You can also get a gift certificate from Pier One if you don't know their taste. And to me you only need to impress yourself. From the choices I posted the fuscia and the last brown dress are my favs. But if you're comfortable in one of the dresses you posted before that you have then go for it and enjoy. Lol but you did say to choose from either those or none lol.
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Ddr
Member
08-19-2001
| Saturday, August 18, 2007 - 6:38 pm
I love the black and white dress. And I would love receiving wind chimes as a gift.
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Sunday, August 19, 2007 - 8:39 am
I once gave bronze napkin holders and a set of pretty cloth napkins. It was ALL I could (barely) afford in those days. Not even sure it came to 25 bucks, but I believe it was a nice gift. Oh and I like # 4 best, with or without the sweater it looks stunning. (I'm just not a big floral pattern kinda gal, as I'm a chunky-monkey, so I prefer solids, but when you are as slim as you are, florals look lovely.)
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Monday, August 20, 2007 - 4:52 am
Picture time again!! Okay, a new round of pictures will come later (I'm going shopping later on today if nothing here is working and I like some of these skirts but I think the shirts are giving too much buldge. Why must everything be so tight?)... I went to Kohl's yesterday and tried on a million and one things. I didn't take a picture of that many though. The pictures are awful- the stores were all really busy yesterday (rainy/back to school), and the dressing room was busy, so I didn't want to be using a flash at all, and the light wasn't enough so they're a litle blurry. Guys, here's a chance to see inside a woman's dressing room. Oooooh. Exciting! LOL What do you think of these choices?


Thanks again, you guys! Now, I think the shirt with the loop thing looks better- and I like the first and third skirts best. I bought both shirts and the third and fourth skirts...I figure I can return the ones I don't like. The fourth skirt I bought because it was on clearance from $79 to $20 and what if it was gone later??? So???? (Oh, I also found another registry for them at Bed Bath and Beyond- I may swing by there later, esp. since I have a ton of the $5 off and 20% off coupons).
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Monday, August 20, 2007 - 4:54 am
You guys still want more leg, huh? And see? I have NO waist. 
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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Monday, August 20, 2007 - 5:31 am
Dress # 4, then #3, and Skirt #1
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Monday, August 20, 2007 - 6:06 am
I think they all look nice (maybe that's not much help).
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