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Kitt
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09-06-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
No.s 3 or 4 for me. I wouldn't choose the cardigan combination in #5 but other than that I don't think you could go too wrong. Enjoy the event!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Pier One has lots of inexpensive nice things.

Frogichik
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06-11-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Frogichik a private message Print Post    
I agree with Escapee, your are thin and would look great in something that shows your shape more and wasn't so high up on the neckline. I love the polka dot and red selections Mocha posted. If not #4 is the winner for me, even though I am not a flower print type of girl. I like plane and dress it up with accessories.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I like dress 6 and $50.00 is fine if you are not bringing a date. But I am near Chicago and $100 is the average to low end here for a wedding gift. I think it may be different in different areas. Maybe there is a guide somewhere on line???

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
I think $50 would be okay.

I thought dress #3 had possibilities, so I lightened up the picture to take a better look at it. Does it have layers?

Kaili dress #3

Are you having to buy a dress? Or are these ones you already own?

Do you have any girly-girl friends who are the right size who would loan you a dress?

Got any consignment shops in town? Or thrift stores? You can sometimes get some pretty good fancywear in those places because people only wear their fancy clothes a few times and then pass it on.

Jujufrugaldawg


And yes, you can wear black dresses to weddings nowadays, especially black flowered ones.

Heyltslori
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09-15-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Heyltslori a private message Print Post    
Ya'll are making me think I might be a cheapskate.

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
LOL @ Jujufrugaldawg!

I still like #4 & #6 ... with heels and a nice hairstyle. They'd be great! :o))

And I agree Lori, distant relative $20 - $30 is fine.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Oh yeah good idea Zuzu a thrift store would be great.

And imo Kaili you should show off your femininity. In other words let folk see that you got legs and boobs. I would also wear a nice strappy heel and an updo for your hair. Oh what time is the wedding? Evening or afternoon??

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
LOL, at first I was all "Peir one has clothes?" Duh...

Ok, I am also going to a wedding tomorrow evening in Tahoe. So I take that as a bit more formal. This is similar to the dress I bought that Dh just went crazy over. (well, crazy for him)



The only difference is that the one I have has a white satin ribbon/sash around my waist and it's not that short. Comes to my knees.

And yep, got a strappy heel to go with it, but my hair will be down over my shoulders to cover all my freckles. Those drive me nuts.

Frogichik
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06-11-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Frogichik a private message Print Post    
OK last input, I do like #3 lightened up. For the gift I could never ever give $20-$30 for a wedding. $50 would have to be the minimum. $20-$30 is what I would give for a birthday not a wedding. Like Julieboo said, maybe it's where you live in the country.

In any case I hope you make the best of it and just have fun.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
if you ain't amish, don't dress that way, i agree with mocha. you got legs and boobs for a reason! you'd look really pretty in one of those dresses mocha posted or the one escapee posted.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
#3
in case you want to buy a dress online, here is one from Macy's/Clearance. i looked for under $50. found a few cute ones for $25-34. here's one for $55 that can be dressed up or down depending on jewelry:
http://tinyurl.com/2om76p

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 1:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
ROFLMAO @ Landi.....

Lancecrossfire
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07-13-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 2:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lancecrossfire a private message Print Post    
#3

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 2:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Y'all are gonna feel real guilty if you give Kaili's boyfriend a heart attack.

BAN LANDI NOW!!!

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 2:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
aren't they all the same dress, just different colors? while they are very pretty, they look like dresses i would wear to work not a wedding. do you have any dresses you wear to church or to parties?

Justavice
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11-22-2005

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 5:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Justavice a private message Print Post    
I like #3 the best. And as far as a gift goes, are they registered somewhere? Often, a couple is registered for silverware, dishes, etc. and you can "buy" how many of an item you can afford. Like 2 place settings, or serving pieces. It's something they want, something that will be contributed to by other guests and if they are that concerned about the amount you spent, then they weren't worth spending the money on in the first place, IMHO.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 6:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
For those who missed it when Kaili posted it earlier, wedding is at 4 p.m.

Kaili
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08-31-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 6:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kaili a private message Print Post    
Wow guys! Thanks for the advice…Ummm…yeah, it’s at 4:00… the dark dress has the sheer thing going on the bottom a bit over the inner layer and is swing-y (unlike the others). The reason for these type dresses- first of all I have arm issues. I work at UPS and my arms are muscular/big so I feel silly in a lot of stuff- like all the cute shirts they have for sale are made for skinny little arms that I don’t have. Okay, that issue has nothing to do with the dresses. One thing- I have NO chest to show. Really, I don’t. It’s all the bra. There ain’t much under it! LOL As for my legs, I’m fine with them except that I have a tattoo on my ankle and I don’t know if that’s an issue so I tend to go longer because it’s easier to conceal that way. Also, I have a belly- without the bra, my belly protrudes more than my boobs and also that leaves me with not a lot of waist. I have hang-ups! Anyway, I have those dresses already (two are from Goodwill, one from Savers, and the other was from Younkers I think). I talked to a friend today and I’m going to try on some of her dresses and/or go shopping with her next week sometime. I don’t have time to do much this weekend. The wedding is at 4:00, it’s at an Armenian church at 4:00 pm (I have been told Armenian weddings tend toward fancy), and the reception is at the country club. So I’m thinking the gift is going to have to be more, huh? I don’t want to do item gifts because they will have to get all their gifts home to Texas from Wisconsin. I think a gift card is easier to carry. I won’t be able to do more this weekend, but stay tuned- maybe I’ll head to the mall Monday with my camera and see if I can get more help from you! I do like some of the dresses Mocha posted (thanks for doing that!)- I would like to avoid buying a drss if I can, unless it’s at Goodwill or something. Maybe I should try some of the smaller local places instead of the big Goodwill/Davers places. I’ll keep you all updated. Thanks again!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 7:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
$25-$50 is plenty of money to spend under these circumstances - your finances and the fact you aren't tight with your cousin.

Click here to see a pretty type of SLINKY dress that will enhance your figure, especially your boobies., and cover your upper arms. It looks great in a variety of colours! And since it's a solid, you could add a pashmina or scarf to give it some zip.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 7:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
I like 3 or 4.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 7:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
Kaili, well if what you say is true about your body...it certainly doesn't show. i think your arms look great.

however, if you don't feel comfortable exposing your arms a sheer/light duster will cover the arms/stomach problems. you can wear that over anything (dress/pants a very sexy dress. oh forget about worrying about your tattoo. not an issue.) even though these are on sale, the price is still maybe too high. however, just take a look, i'm sure you can find something similar cheaper. here are two examples, one grey one black:

http://tinyurl.com/26qhu5

you could also find a sheer feminine blouse (not a print) and wear it over one of your dresses. that would be much cheaper than the duster that might be too long.

since you are travelling so far for this wedding for a cousin you are not even that close with, i think $30 would be fine. you might write a nice letter (well, only if you hope to maybe reconnect with cousin in the future).

you are gorgeous with a great body. a natural beauty. all you need is fluff the hair (i think it would look best down/blow dry instead of "up", but i'm sure many would disagree. i think down suits you). light make-up. don't buy something that you won't wear again. that's why i'm thinking a sheer feminine blouse of some sort might work for you in the future.

Serate
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08-21-2001

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 8:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Serate a private message Print Post    
Kaili you are beautiful the way you are. But if you don't feel comfortable in a certain type of dress then where what you feel comfortable in. All the dresses were pretty but you were beautiful.

If they are registered and you can view it online, you can choose what you want, have it sent to the address they provided, and not have to worry about them taking the gift home. I usually do gift cards.

A long distance cousin that you don't have much to do with. $25 is enough. Personally I don't buy into this having to spend as much on the gift as the wedding reception cost per person. What are is a person supposed to do - call the bride and ask how much is being spent so you know to spend at least as much as what is spent on you? It is the bride and grooms CHOICE to spend what they want on the wedding and reception. They should spend the amount of money they want to spend and not bother tallying up the gifts to make sure the gifts came close to what was spent on the wedding. Sheesh I am sure glad I eloped. I would hate to think people brought me presents because I was having a fancy smancy reception! I give from the heart, not from the $ sign.

I guess from now on I should find out how much the reception is before I RSVP because there is no way I could afford $100.00 on a wedding gift for somebody I'm not close to. Heck even if I was close to the person $50 would probably be all I could afford.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 8:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
kaili, i just checked target online. saw a few sheer open type blouses for $17. that over any of your dresses would look fine (dressier than the short-sleeve sweaters).

eta: yes, i agree w/many above 25-30 is fine. i'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you are attending. go have fun, celebrate and don't worry about being under-dressed. your being there is what is important.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, August 17, 2007 - 9:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Okay, so you already know about thrift shop shopping, especially for things that will seldom be worn. Yeah, if you have time, try the smaller consignment shops. They generally screen their clothing and will only accept stuff in good condition that they think will sell. When I go there, there are often people there dropping off things, and I would guess they reject about 75% of what comes in.

Girlfriend with loanable clothes is also an excellent idea.

Abby7, that duster is an excellent idea. Hmmmm, I wonder about the black duster over one of the black dresses ... But it still might be more than you want to spend.

How about some sort of sheer floaty pale pink blouse/jacket over dress #6? Or dress #2?

Something very sheer or dressy, and black over one of the black dresses?

Kaili, if you don't mind me asking, what size are we talking about? (or you can e-mail me) I am frequently in the thrift and consignment stores. If I see a perfect fancy $5 blouse/jacket, I could just get it and send you a picture.

Shouldn't Herckleperckle be forced to be here posting a thousand possibilities overnight? Ah, the good old days ...

Here is one of my consignment shop purchases. Dress $10, and it had a dry cleaning tag still on it! Oh, and the shoes were same shop, earlier purchase, $1 on clearance day, brand new.

black dress

Yeah, yeah, I know, just send Kaili the dress. It would be too big for her. I am six feet tall.