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Mictay
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09-29-2006

Tuesday, August 07, 2007 - 4:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mictay a private message Print Post    
OMG my father just got some of those bandaids for my son,thank god we haven't needed to use them yet.I think will just use the normal ones.Just in case.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Monday, August 27, 2007 - 7:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
This is awfully dang cute:
http://members.shaw.ca/anabw/grease.htm

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Monday, August 27, 2007 - 1:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Hahaha, that's hysterical! Thanks Juju!

Kady
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07-30-2000

Monday, August 27, 2007 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kady a private message Print Post    
very cute.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Monday, August 27, 2007 - 8:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Just noticed it has a Canadian website address. Wonder if those babies are singing in Canukese. I didn't listen for the word "aboot."

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, August 29, 2007 - 11:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Caleb's driving me nuts, lol! I don't know if its a boy thing, an 11 year old thing, or my 11 year old boys thing!

They are having a welcome back to school dance on Friday afternoon. I told Caleb I thought it might be a good thing for him to go. First off, the ticket price for the first dance of the year covers the dues for the year for the PTSA (parent, teacher, student association.) There are certain things they can't do if they don't pay their dues, like running for any office in the student government is one.

Second since starting school and cross country he's made quite a few new friends and reconnected with old friends and I figure this dance may be a whole other experience than the one at the end of last school year where he only knew a few kids. He might actually go and have some fun!

Caleb doesn't want to go. Nope, no, no way. I won't buy a ticket if you give me money. Fine, I'll go but I won't go in the gym! Oy. After two days of this, Darren and I talked about it and decided we wouldn't force him to go if he doesn't want to. He's not real comfy yet with the boy girl stuff even though he has his little girlfriend that goes to a different school.

I told him this morning if he doesn't want to go he doesn't have to. It's up to him. He said, oh cool! No kidding, less than a minute later he says, hmmmm....maybe I will go to the dance. ARGH! I thought for a while he was just being difficult, but really I think it's more that he just doesn't know what he wants to do. Stuck in between, oh a dance sounds like a lot of fun and oh no a dance, I might have to dance with a girl!

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 4:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
WG...welcome to the next 7-9 years of your life..LOL

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 5:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Wait! He has a lil gf?? When did this happen?

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 7:02 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Oh geez, are you serious Scoot?? I thought I'd get a break for a year or two between pre-teen and teen!

Yup, Mocha, he has a little gf. It's the little girl he has had a crush on for a while. She goes to the other jr high so their "relationship" is limited to playing games online together, the occassional phone call (Caleb doesn't talk on the phone much,) and passing notes to each other which is kinda funny. Caleb writes her a note, gives it to Dakota who takes it to school and gives it to the sister of one of Caleb's buddies who goes to school with her, the sister gives it to the buddy, who then gives it to the little gf. And then she writes him a note and they reverse the delivery route, lol. As far as I can tell the kids who are actually passing these notes are being kind enough not to open the envelopes and read the letters too!

Both Darren and I have offered to take him and her (with parental supervision of course ) to the movies, a ball game, out to eat, etc. and we've offered to do a group thing with more of their friends. But, thats another one of those areas he's stuck in the middle on, he's not quite ready for a "date" even if it's a group thing. Tried to tell him not to think of it as a date and just think of it as getting together with his friends, most of whom go to the other jr high, and he tells me that's why they play Runescape (an online game) for, lol.

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 7:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
wg...sorry to be the bearer of bad news...lol

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 7:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Aww that is so sweet but I still don't like it.

Ducky
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08-27-2000

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 10:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ducky a private message Print Post    
Boy he must have some crush to think up a way to get notes to his gf at his age. I'm lucky for now (that I know of) that Little Ducky does not have a crush on any girls at this point.

LD has a dance Friday evening at the school for the 6th, 7th, 8th graders. Most of the kids all dance as a big group on the dance floor. They do play a couple slow songs and you will find very few couples dancing together.

Glad Caleb decided to go even if it is just to hang out with his buddies.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 10:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Hehe, Ducky, the dance he went to last school year at this school, he had some little girl who wanted to hang out with him. He told her no, cuz he had a crush on this little girl at school, lol.

Ducky
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08-27-2000

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ducky a private message Print Post    
What a sweet heart he is to keep his heart true to one girl.

Bearware
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07-12-2002

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 1:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Bearware a private message Print Post    
Wargod - that's the grade I teach, and you are exactly right - they have no idea what they really want. It's a constant struggle. I don't even have one, just spend all day with a load of em and they get to me! They're very cute, and I think that's what saves them!

My personal philosophy for dealing with middleschoolers is to point and shoot rather than lead or pull. If you can point them and get them to 'shoot' on their own (or get where they think they want to be), you're way ahead of the game. If you pull or drag, they're going to really stubborn up on you.

My favorite story that pretty much paints what a middleschooler is to me is about a girl in my homeroom in the past named Jessica. She got her locker, and was so excited to finally get her own locker, so she decorated it. She probably spent an hour after school taping and arranging, and making it just perfect. So...when it's all done, she comes screaming into my room, Come see my locker! Well, how could I refuse? We went, and she opened the door, and there on the inside of the door were loads of stickers, hearts, fuzzy things and the cutest puppy poster I had seen. Just as I was about to close the door, I glanced back inside on the back wall. And there it was. The picture of the latest teen idol in his underwear.

They are caught between puppies and teen idols, and they aren't sure what they want. But it's a fun trip to watch them decide!

Hang in there, the fun is just beginning!

Riviere
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09-09-2000

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 1:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Riviere a private message Print Post    
Bearware ~ you teach in public school? Just curious about new policies.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, August 30, 2007 - 1:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
LOL about Jessica! They are quite interesting at this age.

Unfortunately, when I picked Caleb up from cross country practice a while ago, the coach reminded the kids that even though the dance has been cancelled, they still won't have practice tomorrow. I asked Caleb why the dance was cancelled and he said he didn't know, tried to buy the ticket from his teacher this morning and she told the class it was and that anyone who had already bought a ticket would be refunded their money. He looked a little disappointed...and a little relieved, lol.

Sewmommy
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07-06-2004

Friday, August 31, 2007 - 8:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sewmommy a private message Print Post    
I feel your pain Wargod. I have a middle schooler as well. She is still in the "puppy" stage(I like that story Bearware) but those hormones are definately starting to surface.

Dogrivergirl
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06-24-2005

Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 3:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogrivergirl a private message Print Post    
My 11 yo daughter just started 6th grade...she comes home 2 weeks ago telling me she just had the best day of her life! She has a boyfriend! Well I was jumping with joy at this news...lol!
The school dance was the next week and he asked her if she was going. She told him maybe, and he ran to the office and bought her ticket. When I went to pick her up after the dance, she said it was the worst day of her life..lol. He wanted to slow dance, she wanted to fast dance and they never did agree! She wanted to call him and break up right then and there. She dialed the number and when it started to ring she chickened out. Unfortunately for her, he had caller ID and called her back. She was mortified..lol. A few minutes later I heard her laughing and all was good in 6th grade lovesville.

She pokes him with her locker key and he kicks her in the shin. AHHH, puppy love!

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 4:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
LOL Dogrivergirl! That sounds so much like every 11 year old I know!

Panda
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07-15-2005

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 12:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Panda a private message Print Post    
Any advice on dealing with "spirited" children?

Spitfire
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07-18-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Spitfire a private message Print Post    
Oh please tell me someone has the answer to this question. I have just posted a similar question on my birth board. LOL!

What has helped me is "Raising your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. That being said self help books are great for advise but I also think moms who have been there done that are also one of the best sources available. I love to read but I have always had a hard time with these types of books. What I have read of it has helped me be more understanding of Sam's behavior and that it's not just a simple fix with these types of kids.

OK now that I've jabbered on maybe we can be a souse of help to each other. (Hi Fly....just had to write that because a fly landed on my monitor where my cursor was) How old is your babe? What things are you currently having trouble with?

Sam is 3 and I'm currently having trouble with behavior. Hitting, kicking, punching, throwing, yelling, not listening. Typical kid stuff but nothing I do causes him to care enough to stop at the moment. He could care less about time outs, sending him to his bedroom causes him to destroy things, taking away toys is useless because he doesn't care. I think I'm going to start a behavior chart.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
I need to know what you mean by spirited Panda. Is it like Spit is saying?? And what age are we talkin bout? Spirit I never had alot of problems with the hitting kicking punching etc. But I know my methods are vastly diff than the majority of responses you will get. Time out ain't never worked in my house lol. I would try to wear the child out as much as possible though.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 2:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
What are you doing while he is tearing up his room?

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
We take things away, do the time outs, and as a last result, a spanking. I was spanked as a kid. Never out of anger or frustration, but as a direct result of an unacceptable behavior. Worked like a charm.