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Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, January 02, 2007 - 1:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Jen, with the Gestational carrier, do they use your eggs or theirs?

Moondance
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07-30-2000

Tuesday, January 02, 2007 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Moondance a private message Print Post    
((Jen)) So sorry... my heart is with you and with you ((MsBoo))

I think we were all just waiting for 2007. It is a better year ya know.

My levels weren't good this month so I am taking a break and we will see next month.

Lots of good thoughts for everyone.

Jenhavins
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08-23-2000

Tuesday, January 02, 2007 - 2:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jenhavins a private message Print Post    
Julie... We would use a donors eggs (I already have a friend waiting to harvest) so that is/was taken care of (just in case my eggs are the problem, I wanted some younger eggs).

I am so sorry you are having to wait so long Julie. I hope you get positive news soon.

Moon, I think 2007 will be a great year for us all! Hugs and best wishes for you and Cowboy.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, January 02, 2007 - 3:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
I am so sorry Jen. Sorry you are feeing so frustrated too Julie.

Several of my friends have adopted thru this agency.
http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/html/services/adoption.html


This agency took over the agency that did our daughter's adoption after their owner died. It's a really good one too.
http://www.aimadoptions.org/adoption_terms.htm

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, January 03, 2007 - 1:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I'm so sorry Jen. And Moonie and Julie. My thoughts and prayers and egg rubbing is with all of four of you!

Fabnsab
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08-07-2000

Wednesday, January 03, 2007 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Fabnsab a private message Print Post    
wow, Julie, Jen, and Moon...i am so sorry for all of your news. Best to get the bad stuff out in 2006 and look forward to 2007 though!

As far as the Chinese adoption rules...how dare they? They are the ones making it difficult for their citizens to keep all their children yet they are now making it harder for those children to get loving homes...Its a shame!

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, January 03, 2007 - 3:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Fab, don't even get me started on the Chinese laws, rules, gov't, etc.

First they pretty much tell you that only one child is allowed (unless you have a LOT of money.)

Then they say it is illegal to abandon your child. So when they find the abandoned baby, they take pictures of her and post them in the newspaper with a description of the baby and where she was found. They do this for 6 months before this baby is allowed to be adopted.

Meanwhile this baby is living in an institutional type environment for basically the first year of her life. No individual time. No tummy time. So these babies are developmentally delayed when they are finally adopted.

Oh, and the buildings they live in are super cold in the winter and super hot in the summer. So a baby is typically bundled up ala Ralphie's little brother in a Christmas Story, which makes them very unable to move their limbs.

Then they make the adoptive families spend about three weeks in China before they can bring the baby home. I think that is a great idea for people who can take that kind of time off of work or away from their family. But the cost of this type of adoption is over $20,000 to start.

It is the red tape that drives me insane. If the families could sign the rights away right away, these babies could be in a home where they are very much wanted so much sooner.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, January 03, 2007 - 3:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Apparently the number of babies being abandoned is dropping. This is making the waiting time up to over two years.

Moondance
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07-30-2000

Monday, January 15, 2007 - 5:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Moondance a private message Print Post    
I hope everyone is doing great and getting some egg rubbin done!!

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Monday, January 15, 2007 - 6:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
We sure are!

Moondance
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07-30-2000

Monday, January 15, 2007 - 7:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Moondance a private message Print Post    
Thanks Twiggs!!!!

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Tuesday, January 16, 2007 - 12:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Hey I just watched two nights of babies growing in wombs and then an elephant, dolphin and golden retriever. Amazing views inside and lots of egg/sperm action too.. thought of all of you. (with the kids not the elephant)

Fabnsab
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08-07-2000

Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Fabnsab a private message Print Post    
I hope no news is good news for you girls!

I had my followup appointment yesterday and got the whole plan in action. It is quite daunting. I am on Provera to bring on my period. Then I have to have a uterus dye test to check my tubes. Concurrently, I will be on clomid for 5 days to get me to ovulate.

If I get my period on the 35th day, that'll tell him the Clomid worked, then I will take it again the 2nd month for 5 days, have an injection to force ovulation on the 12th(?) day(hubby knows all the dates,lol) and get inseminated that same day.

Whew, I am outta breath just thinking about it. Between me not ovulating and hubbys low sperm count, he thought going straight to insemination is a better idea and I agree. We would need alot of luck to have all the chips fall right without it.

I told him that I was getting PMS symptoms and should start anyday but he wanted the guarantee that Provera gives. I forgot to ask him if I should stop taking it if my period starts naturally. Anyone know?

So, thats the update on this front.It looks like the first and hopefully last insemination would happen at the end of Feb.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 1:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Good luck Fab!!! I think you should stop the Provera, but I would FOR SURE ask. You don't want to chance anything. Insemination sounds like a great plan for you. Hope it works!!!

No news is not good news for us. We just sit and wait...

Good luck to the other hopeful moms...

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 1:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
Wow Fab! I am hoping with you. (rubbing more eggs)

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 1:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
Good luck, Fab!!!

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 4:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Rub rub rub! Good luck Fab!

Jenhavins
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08-23-2000

Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 1:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jenhavins a private message Print Post    
I sure do hope everything works out Fab! I am hoping and praying for you. I wish you the best.

(here's also a hope and prayer that Julieboo's phone rings soon) :-)

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 1:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Oh thank you Jen!!! That really does perk me up a bit! What is your status/plan right now?

Good luck to all us mommywannabees!!!

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Saturday, January 27, 2007 - 12:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
I saw this today on tv (Discovery Health). A couple tried the other methods, but this is the only one that worked. It's called ICSY Procedure:

http://www.ivf-infertility.com/ivf/icsi2.php

Jenhavins
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08-23-2000

Wednesday, January 31, 2007 - 11:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jenhavins a private message Print Post    
Julie...I start filling out adoption paperwork this weekend! I also have eyes and ears looking for me (which we would rather do..adopt outside an agancy).

I let the gestational surrogate go (call me an idiot, go ahead). She redid her paperwork and after paying for my egg donor, Carrier upping her fee, paying for the extras she added this time around, we could adopt two children. It was going to cost us about $20,000.00 more than we thought.

I am willing to be patient and go through adoption. We are not picky, I don't need an infant, and multi-racial is fine by us. I just want to love an raise a child and have a family.

How is everything going with you Julieboo?

Twigs, we had ISCI done as well with all our IVFs.

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Wednesday, January 31, 2007 - 2:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
((Jen)) I'm sending positive thoughts your way.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, January 31, 2007 - 4:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Jen, good luck with the five tons of paperwork you are about to start.

And you will probably have to write an autobiography and have several people write letters about you and your dh. You'll have to get fingerprinted and have a background check run on you and your dh.

Then (depending if you go domestic or international) you will have to make a portfolio. That is like a book or scrapbook on your life. Then you'll have to take a few different kinds of classes, from parenting to CPR.

I tell you, adoptive parents are really well prepared for parenthood. They sure go through enough hoops! It will be worth it in the end. Too bad it is so expensive.

You also have to have a stranger come into your house and ask you some very invasive questions. (Does not matter if it is domestic or international.) That is part of the homestudy. They will come back a week or more later and ask you more questions.

Right now we just sit and wait. It is by far, harder than going through all the paperwork and writing you do. It's even harder than all the weeks of shots and ultrasounds and blood draws. At least then, you feel like you are doing something!

It is very frustrating at times, and you will ask yourself, why us? Why do we, as adoptive parents, have to do all this extra stuff and pay all this money? It is especially hard when you are in line at Walmart and see a young mom smack her kid when all the kid wants is a hug. (oops do I sound bitter? I know I do. Luckily it passes quickly. It just will hit you every once in a while. Usually when you see a child crying.)

Just remember it will eventually all be worth it once you get that baby in your arms.

It is just so hard in the meantime.

Retired
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07-11-2001

Thursday, February 01, 2007 - 9:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Retired a private message Print Post    
Good luck, Jen.

Continued good wishes to everyone trying to conceive/adopt.

Fabnsab
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08-07-2000

Thursday, February 01, 2007 - 7:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Fabnsab a private message Print Post    
instead of egg rubbing, I will phonerub for Julie and Jen so you two can get your important phonecalls!

Eggrubs for Moon!

I just finished my last of 5 clomids today. I had no bad reactions to them at all. I also had my hsg on tuesday and it showed that both of my tubes were blocked...if you're keeping score at home- i dont ovulate, my eggs dont mature, hubbys count is low and now my fallopian tubes are blocked...lol...she was able to unblock one but the other wouldnt budge. I have been cramping for days from that darn test.

4 different people at the hosp told me that women are most fertile right after the hsg and their chances of getting pregnant increase greatly.

The doc is doing the insemination next month if he sees that the clomid worked this month. Hubby and I will go the "natural" route on the same days he would have done the insemination if it were this month and see if we can close this book! lol

good luck to everyone! please keep us posted, even if its just to come here for support if theres no news- which wont be necessary!