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Costacat
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07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I have a wart on my foot. It kinda looks like it could be a beauty mark! :-)

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
For me it depends on why the person may have perpetrated the con.

If someone is in no need and cons me then I would be very upset.

If they stretched the truth or became confused about why they needed help, but still sincerely needed help but for other reasons, then it wouldn't bother me nearly as much.

Gidget
Member

07-28-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Gidget a private message Print Post    
i sympathize with those of you who have been fooled because i have been down that road too many times myself. but my trusting nature is a big part of what tempers other less desirable traits to my personality so i would be an empty person without it. not sure that makes sense to anyone but i know what i mean. i've been taken. and i likely will be again. but in between i do manage to do good and be good and i guess that makes it worth being fooled sometimes.

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
uh-oh! costacat's wart seems to be growing.

Maris
Member

03-28-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maris a private message Print Post    
I think also for some people it is almost like that Munchausen by proxy disease, they con becuse they need attention and it is part and parcel of some illness. With those people all you can do is just let them be. It might be just kinder to ignore it than call them out.
I mean what does it hurt to let them tell their stories?

Scooterrific
Member

07-08-2005

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
What saddens me is that I saw it, tried to warn, but felt guilty so didn't warn as much, and my friends were taken.

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I dunno. I'm a trusting person. But a long time ago I cleaned house and removed all those "friends" who weren't. I'm a good friend, but it's gotta be a two way street. You can't always give and give and give, until really, there's nothing left to give.

And Jimmer... how do you ever really know why the con was perpetrated? What if their truth isn't really the truth at all? (Yeah, yeah, everyone's truth is their own reality, but usually isn't it based in REAL reality? You know what I mean!)

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
When logic and proportion
Have fallen sloppy dead,
And the White Knight is talking backwards
And the Red Queen's "off with her head!"
Remember what the dormouse said:
"Feed your head. Feed your head. Feed your head"


that seems so appropriate right now.

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
OMG, that is one of my all time favorite songs from one of my all time favorite groups!!!! Seriously! White Rabbit, Jefferson Airplane. Memories!!!! (And I had such a crush on their bass guitar player!)

Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I'll try it this way.

If someone is lounging around in a big mansion and lying to me that they need me to give them money in order to survive then that is a con.

If someone is obviously in need of help but doesn't accurately convey what brought them to that point and people decide to help them out, that is not the same thing as the above. It's not good but the two situations are not remotely comparable.

Kearie
Member

07-21-2005

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
The worst thing for me, when I was conned by a BF, was I felt soooo stupid! I was pist at myself for allowing myself to be conned.

I think when you are emotional involved with the person who cons you...as in a friend, relative, SO, it really damages your trust. Your trust in others, as well as trust in your own judgement.

At first, you look past their little lies, their exaggerations and you care about their misery. You listen, you care...you give and give and give.

I know I ignored many red flags. I ignored gut feelings. I WANTED to trust them, even tho my gut told me it wasn't safe.

3 years later and my trust is still very damaged because of this con.

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Psst... hey Jimmer. I'm lounging around in my mansion. And I need some money. Wanna buy a bridge? :-)

Maris
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03-28-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maris a private message Print Post    
Costa, Those glasses and that blonde hair, yep. Jack Casady. He was the man. But I loved it when Marty Balin took on the Hells Angels.

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
OOOH. Marty Balin was a doll, too!!!!

Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
LOL Costa!!! Naw if you own a bridge you have way too much money.

Abbynormal
Member

09-08-2007

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 11:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abbynormal a private message Print Post    
All I know is that when my kitchen burned, the wonderful people of TVCH sent me money and it was so greatly appreciated. I used every red cent to replace items I lost in the fire. I wanted to thank each person individually but most didn't want to be known. I can say that I contributed once to a member in need. I know it was legit, and maybe I am petty or selfish, but a thank you would have really gone a long way with me. I still feel a little bitter about it.

Sorry if this is not what yall are talking about. Just sharing my experience and opinion.

Landileigh
Member

07-29-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
how do i get my puppy???

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Abby, some of us "wonderful" people have helped others in need to. One member's house burned, and she was actually not even allowed in for some time to retrieve anything that might've survived the smoke, water, and fire. We did gather 'round to support her. When someone is in need, it's pretty much human nature to help if possible.

I think where the issue may be is if one is constantly being "needed" to "help" another. When so many things happen, that you begin to question if they are all real.

But no matter what... yeah, a thank you is always nice. And, according to Miss Manners, a requirement! (And email thank you's do NOT count, according to her! :-))

Hermione69
Member

07-24-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hermione69 a private message Print Post    
Costacat, wasn't it you that made a contribution for Dogs for the Deaf in my name one holiday season???

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
...and I bet you e-mailed her a thank you, Hermie!!

Hermione69
Member

07-24-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hermione69 a private message Print Post    
One would hope, but I can be a true scatterbrain! Man, I hope I haven't not thanked someone I needed to thank!

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 1:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
landileigh, what kind of puppy do you want?

in this day of computers and email, Ms. Manners isn't getting anything but email Thank You's from me. wonder who Ms. Manners is anyway?

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 2:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
Yes, Hermi, that was me! And I still get the Dogs for the Deaf newsletters. And yes, Hermi thanked me. Several times, both on TVCH and offlist!

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 2:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
An e mailed note of thanks is not ok?!?!

Landileigh
Member

07-29-2002

Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 3:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landileigh a private message Print Post    
finally someone to listen to me! i want a pomeranian puppy please!