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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:46 am
jimmer, mine is only due to the fact that this is a moderated site. i tend to be much less tactful and say what i really think in real life. so, in a way this board forces me to be much more considerate. other than that, what you see here is what you get with me.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:46 am
ROTFLMAO! I am the same in person as I am online...ask anyone!!!!! Barely utters a word!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:47 am
Some are, some aren't.. Even the fact that we are all online skews the population..
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:48 am
beats being utterly bearable (or is that bareable)! huh, scoot? LMAO
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:50 am
that was my first thought seamonkey but so many people are online now i doubt that would be limiting.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:52 am
Heck, 50 % of the world's population has never even made a phone call....
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:53 am
Whoa!
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:53 am
let's say one were to politely call the person out that seems to have such an unbelieveable story due to the inconsistancies and contradictions and they said you were right. BUT this was all done in private and they continue to spew these tales to everyone else. would it be O.K. to then call them on it in front of everyone else? (sorry, i can't spell today)
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:54 am
You'll have to ask those who have met me. I think I'm pretty much the same.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:55 am
I doubt that would be useful, Cnd. --- Mocha, you are sweeter in person, even... 
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:57 am
would you elaborate, sea? i don't think i could continue to stand by and watch this person sucker other folks in and get away with it knowing they were doing it deliberately.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 9:58 am
Cndeariso, depends on the situation, doesn't it? But personally, I think public shaming of someone is wrong, unless they agree to it. For example, you have to agree to go on Dr. Phil and you should know what you are in for. If you did this at work, *you* might be the one to get fired, if there are guidelines against such things. Best to let HR handle it, or the appropriate manager. If an employee of mine did this to another employee, they'd be in big trouble. It's my job to handle it. If it's a family or friend situation and you feel other people might be being taken advantage of, I'd tell the person to 'fess up or I'd do it for them, and give them a reasonable amount of time to do so. And sometimes it's best to just step away. I have casual acquaintances who confess their affairs to me. I let them know what I think of it, and get the hell out of dodge.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:02 am
And let me just add, again with my family, people thought I was nuts for continuing to support them in the ways that I did. <shrugs shoulders> But for me, I knew they were *ill* in their own ways, just not the ways they talked about. Chronic drinking does serious things to the abilty to reason. And they were serious drinkers. So yes, I paid some bills for them, to keep them safe, so they could eat, so they wouldn't be living in the street. And yes I did all that knowing exactly who they were and that they were conning other people. I tried to protect others as best I could, but there was only a limited amount I could do.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:06 am
Ok now that just ruins my rep Sea lol. 
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:07 am
I'm much more outgoing on line. On the 12th, Escapee said..." I just wonder why someone who really has issues and wants to talk about them wouldn't talk about them to a professional, close friend, or family member." I wanted to answer that by saying...for me, I don't have close friends in Real Life. And as for my family...I truly don't want to add to their stress. My daughter doesn't need to hear about my issues...she's only 22. My mom, she has so much to deal with in regards to my brother...I just don't want to add to her stress. I bring my personal life to TVCH for a place to vent. A place to find understanding without judgement. I feel safe here requesting prayers. TVCH allows me to come out of my shell...be a bit more extroverted. In real life, I hate to be looked at, noticed, seen. I probablly would hardly speak to any of you if I had the opportunity to meet you. I'd try to blend in with the wall. I probably wouldn't make eye contact unless I was forced to. I am the same person off line as on....but on-line, I'm not afraid to be heard...because people can't see me. In Real life, I get very silly. I tend to make people either laugh or think. Sometimes I disappear for days...and no one hears from me. Same thing can be said on line. LOL I agree with Hermie, this sight...well, I'm here and have been since the beginning. This is my on-line home. My on-line family.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:12 am
Can I just say... I've been conned. I'm one of the gullible ones who's now starting to wonder... And I'm not happy about it. It's not just the emotional aspect of it. There's also the monetary aspect (although money's not a big deal to me, the fact that I spent money on getting conned kinda irks me).
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:21 am
Well it had to come out sometime, Mocha.. === Costa, yeah both aspects are hurtful. === Kearie, often just being able to write about stuff is way easier than a conversation would be.. I understand that completely.
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:23 am
I've heard that too, Mocha. You've been outed!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:29 am
I please the fif.
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Grooch
Member
06-16-2006
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:30 am
Liquid lunch today, Mocha? LOL!
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:31 am
Mocha is really wonderful in person! Kearie, and we are so glad you feel safe here and safe to share, and that you can get the support you need here. Honestly, that's the thing I love most about TVCH. Costa, it does hurt to find out someone hasn't been truthful. But as Maris said long ago, your only crime was being kind. That's not really a crime, is it? Kind is a good thing. And maybe that person needed it in a way you don't fully see yet. There are people who just con for money so they can live the high life. There are others who need basic necessities in life, and think the only way that they can get help is to lie. If they only knew that if people knew the truth, they may still well help them. And how freeing and affirming that can be, to have someone accept and help the real you, warts and all.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:37 am
What Kar said.. better than I could say it.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:37 am
Lol Grooch only lemonade. Costa I feel for you. Unfortunately I have to draw the line when it comes to my money. I work too hard for it and I don't like to be bamboozled. I have no problem giving when I can for something legit.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:40 am
Yeah, Mocha. And yeah, I am a kind person. And yeah, I did think that I was providing some enjoyment. I work hard for my money, too, but if I can provide some measure of enjoyment, I'm usually all for it. Feeling bamboozled, however, is making me not a happy kitty. And the sad thing? The next time someone needs something? I'll be thinking twice, or three times, about whether or not I should do it. Will I be getting conned? Why is this person asking ME for something? <sigh> I really didn't mind helping out. But if I was being lied to in any way, that just makes me mad.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 10:41 am
i always accept someone warts and all. what i don't like is when they try to cover those warts with makeup and call them beauty marks expecting me to believe it. that's when they become one big wart that i can't see past.
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