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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 6:54 am
Fab, the same thing goes for the laprascopy! (As far as getting pg right after with no "help.") Again, I had that surgery and did not get anywhere, so hopefully that puts better odds in your favor. Thanks Moondance, for your positive thoughts!!! If we do get a call this month, then maybe the baby's middle name should be "Moondance"! Jen, good luck to you too! As well as Moonie and Fab.
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 7:08 am
quote:Okay, so Moonie's brother and Hermione will soon be getting married, and Hermione won't need any clovers because they will be making like minks for the first couple years? Yay!!!
Uh, put the cart before the horse much, Juju? ROFL! Moondance, the lucky clover has been mailed. Open the card carefully! Good luck to everyone!    
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 8:33 am
Thanks Hermie for the good luck!!!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 8:54 am
Ah Fab, I'm sorry for the bad news! I've got everything crossed for ya'll so much that I'm a pretzel. This will be a good baby year for TVCH!
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Fabnsab
Member
08-07-2000
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 1:45 pm
Julie, can you explain the procedure to me a bit? I just read that i would have to be put under for it and stay in the hospital and I am deathly afraid of that. I am a control freak and the thought of having absolutely none in that environment makes me literally start sweating. I always said I would never be put under for something elective. Needless to say, I have never been in a hospital for anything or even had someone cut me...Knock on wood! ty for all the good thoughts and prayers, everyone. I am sending some Moons, Jens, and Julies way!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 2:23 pm
Fab, you will be put under, but it is same day surgery. Basically, they go in thru your belly button (the cut is tiny, I didn't even get stitches.). They snake a tiny camera and look to see what your tubes are like. They unkinked one of mine. They took some photos. They will shoot some blue dye through you, do not be alarmed if you have a blue-ish discharge. It is weird though, that is for sure, Make you feel like an alien! I really did not have much pain after. Not much more than regular cramps. It is not really a long procedure, if I remember correctly, it was 20 minutes or something like that... Hope that helps.
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Fabnsab
Member
08-07-2000
| Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 8:27 pm
Thank you so much for the info, Julie. I am going to have to think long and hard. I have a very irrational fear of being put under.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, February 07, 2007 - 6:41 am
Just think of the baby in your arms...
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Jenhavins
Member
08-23-2000
| Friday, February 09, 2007 - 5:26 pm
Hugs for Fab and Moon. Fab, I had fears of being put under, but it is actually not that bad of a procedure. I wish you the best on whatever decision you make. Julie, did you get my email? I need to go through my emails and check them, but it has been such a hectic week and I haven't had the chance. I hope everything is going well with you. Have a great weekend everyone!
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Jenhavins
Member
08-23-2000
| Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 6:34 am
I am just checking to see if there is any good news and how everyone is going? Hugs, eggrubbing, and adoption fairies all around!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 6:42 am
Nothing new to report here. What's new with you Jen? I did get your email and sent you one back...
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 6:49 am
Oh, I did read an article that talked about how the waiting is so different between an actual pregnant couple and a couple waiting to adopt. With the pregnant couple, the waiting is filled with absolute joy. A little nervousness until you see that the baby is born totally healthy, but the tests and ultrasounds pretty much confirm that ahead of time. ANd they know they get to take that baby home no problem... While with the waiting adoptive couple, the wait is exciting, but also very nerve wracking. A nervousness like you cannot describe. And that is before you get "chosen". After that, there is some relief and happiness, but you know you should not get too excited until the birthmom has signed the papers (typically 72 hours after the baby is born.) With adoption, you might not want to have a baby shower, at least not til after the baby is born. With the "normal" pregnancy, there is the luxury of a shower with no trepidation. I agreed totally with the article. And this waiting does suck.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 6:58 am
Adoption is the world's longest high risk pregnanacy.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 10:14 am
In some cultures, or with some individuals they never want a shower before they have the baby. I remember one friend with that issue so we had to wait until she gave birth and then they both came into work for a fun shower. She was an older first time mom and very superstitious. Dr Phil had a show recently about this horrible woman who scammed quite a few couples, but the good news was that Phil had already set up something on his website to help put together couples with babies.. might be worth looking into. I can certainly understand how stressful it is.. right up until all the papers are signed, sealed and delivered.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 9:09 am
Any updates? The wait still continues for us. All I can say is that the wait for international adoption has increased dramatically. A year ago, a wait for a referral was about 6-8 months and now that wait is 18 months or longer. Then you need to add another 6 months (or longer) before you can travel. That means most international adoptions will take longer than 2 years. Many countries (in effort to get more adoptions within their own country) have upped the minimum age a baby can be before it is "released" for adoption. So not only is the wait longer, but the babies will be older too when you bring them home.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 9:16 am
I'm not remotely suggesting you are wrong about this Julie. I know you are an expert. In general though, I find it so confusing how children can be starving to death around the world (isn't it one every few seconds) and yet it is so difficult for Americans to adopt?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 9:27 am
I know I am no expert! It amazes me too Jimmer! Many of the governments are out of their minds. For example, and I don't know the full story, but Romania has closed its doors completely to adoption. Apparently they are not happy with the "rap" they have gotten. In China, the red tape is nuts. They have tons (though the number keeps dropping) of abandoned newborn girls. The tax is very heavy there if you have more than one child. A male child is much preferred as it is tradition for the males to take care of their elderly parents. It is illegal to abandon a baby there, so they treat these babies as if they were misplaced.... (If the moms could sign off parental rights, then the adoptions could happen much quicker.) They take a photo and run a "lost baby" ad (I am not kidding about this) in hopes of finding the parent for this baby. They will not let this baby be available for adoption until the child is at least "advertised" for a minimum of 6 months. Meanwhile the baby lives in an institutional orphanage. The baby is not given enough attention. These babies are developmentally delayed, though they generally catch up very quickly once adopted.
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 9:38 am
All those little girls. It's so sad Julie. And the government does nothing to help make it easier for them to find homes outside of China. It's just so sad.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, March 31, 2007 - 7:43 pm
Moonie, Jen, Fab, anything to report?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, April 06, 2007 - 7:40 pm
Please keep us in your prayers. In the not too far off future, there will be a birthmom "looking" at us. I am not asking for prayers that she will necessarily choose us, just prayers that the right decision will be made--whether or not that includes us getting picked.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, April 07, 2007 - 6:35 am
Prayers that the baby that God has picked out just for you comes to you quickly!! Also prayers for peace and patience as you wait for his timing.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, April 07, 2007 - 7:21 am
Thank you Annie. Those words are very comforting. Peace and patience would be wonderful right now. (Wish that was something they sold at Walmart!)
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, April 07, 2007 - 7:26 am
Wish that was something they sold at Walmart wouldn't that be wonderful!!??
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, April 07, 2007 - 7:28 am
I do like what you said about "the baby that God has picked out for you." When you have a baby that was created by you and your husband/partner, you know that that baby was "picked out" for you. There is no question or anything. But with an adoption, I sometimes think of things like will this be the "right" child for us? What if we are not a good match... My brain is just thinking too hard. I just have to trust that God is going to make sure our match will be right.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Saturday, April 07, 2007 - 8:43 am
I believe with every fiber in my being that my children are the ones that God picked out just for my dh and me. I can't explain it, but you will know when it's the right match. We were looked and turned down by several birthmothers, and while absolutely devastating, I never had the deep down gut feeling of 'this is right'.We got a call that a birthmother picked us out and wanted to meet us before she relinguished her rights (the baby was already born). We never got to meet her because she disappeared. I never cried once, because i knew deep down it was going to work out and that was my baby. A week later, I get a phone call from our agency saying 'come pick up your daughter'.
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