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Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, April 20, 2007 - 8:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
RN (((((Cdbga)))))

Okay, I can relate on one level hon. My mom and I had a tremendously toxic relationship. I still carry internal scars and bitterness. BUT the woman who exists today has Dementia and for the most part isn't the person she was. So I am finding it personally very healing to be able to create new, postive, happy memories. And while your dad's situation is far different from my mom's, its still an opportunity to try to create healing memories - for both of you. Look at it this way, if you don't go you may probably at some point, truly regret not making the effort. If you do at least make the effort, you have a 50-50 chance of it being a healing experience for both of you. If not, and its a letdown, at least you will know you did the best you could and that's all you can ask of yourself. On the other hand ONLY YOU know the situation and the dynamics, and going might not be the optimal choice. It is a difficult decision and I wish you well during this very sad time.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, April 20, 2007 - 9:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
RN: As some of you know, I lost my grandfather a year ago this month. My gramma died when I was seven and we hadn't been close since, really. Before she died, we spent a lot of time over there, but she was the tie that bound, and when she passed, we were growing up and maybe saw or talked to him once or twice a year, on Christmas or when my dad was in town. It was just hard to be there. I can't explain why. He remarried a few years back and his new wife rubbed the rest of the family the wrong way, giving my grammas things to her children, when they should have been saved for her own grandchildren, but I digress. When Grampa got sick, his wife called and asked if I would be willing to come by and visit, as it would do him some good and give her a much needed break. She asked me to bring my girls with me. 18 years had passed since gramma died and it was just hard being in the place where I spent much of my childhood and feel so un-at-home. But I forced myself to stay for only short times, every couple of days. It got to the point where he was in a hospital bed in his room and incoherent, but when we came (my sis and I and my girls) he would muster up coherency and say what good little girls we were and how happy he was that we were there. The day before easter, we went to visit him, knowing his time was short, we went in and he said our names, cracked a joke at us about how crappy dying was, and then fell asleep. We cleaned house for him some, then ducked out quietly while Step gramma rested in her lazy-boy. The next morning she called to say he had passed early that morning, Easter Sunday. My dad was staying at my house, and he had not been there the days prior, or even the weeks prior, and had just arrived in town late that night planning on going to see him in the morning. Dad didn't know sis and i had been there the day before. When he found out he didn't get to say goodbye, he took comfort in knowing that we were there with him in his final hours and that he was happy to see us and in good spirits.

It's worth it to go. You will Never regret this short time taken to do so. My hugs and prayers are with you during this hard time. (((((cdbga))))

(If any of the above doesn't make sense, I apologize, I am exhausted and can't sleep)

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Friday, April 20, 2007 - 9:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
RN I realize, again, how lucky I was to have the most wonderful parents who gave me the most wonderful childhood. I miss them both terribly.

Racinrach
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11-16-2006

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 6:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Racinrach a private message Print Post    
RN: I am waiting for Blue October tickets to go on sale at 10am... tick tick tick tick

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 7:04 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
Right now .. I'm on my 4th load of laundry & it's only 8 am. Sad!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 8:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
RN Vnicky - I admire you tremendously. :-) I have at least 4 loads of laundry awaiting me, if I am lucky. LOL That's definitely on this weekend's agenda, or Vin, mum and me will be joining a nudist colony cuz we're running out of clean clothes. LOL.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 8:17 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
RN and FWIW, I never said DON'T go see your dad, CD. I said, tomorrow is soon enuf.

RN, I am SOOOOOOOOOOO glad that we are finally seeing SOME sunshine! Which means that yay, I do get to go on my picnic today!

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 8:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Llkoolaid a private message Print Post    
Right now I am going to take out my water colors and paint.

Hermione69
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07-24-2002

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 8:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hermione69 a private message Print Post    
Right now I am waitng for my sister to pick me up for an overnight camping trip, but she is very late and I have a horrible feeling that she misinterpreted my email about how bad my allergies are to mean I didn't want to go.

Marysafan
Member

08-07-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 8:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Marysafan a private message Print Post    
Right now I am enjoying some Todd Snider.

Seamonkey
Moderator

09-07-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 9:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
RN, Costa, hope your sunshine lasted longer than ours. We had some earlier today but now it is grey and windy. Yesterday was rain and grey and windy.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 11:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
RN What is Blue October and who is Todd Snider. Ya'll are making me feel stupid. LOL

Cdbga
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10-04-2004

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 11:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cdbga a private message Print Post    
RN I just got back from an afternoon of yard-saleing (the Douglasville Citywide Yard Sale). It was fun and the weather was perfect. Was just what I needed. Now I need to get going on laundry. We'll be going out for dinner in a little while. And I'll be visiting my dad tomorrow. And I think if I go into a log explanation of what is going on with that, it would be too much for the "right now thread". I'll probably come back in this evening and post somewhere more appropriate, and I'll post a RN post here saying where for those interested. But in the meantime, thanks to you all for your advice, concern and commiseration.

Yankee_in_ca
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08-01-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 12:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yankee_in_ca a private message Print Post    
Right now, Cdbga, I just read about your dad. And right now, I wanted to extend my hugs and best wishes for you both ... and your family.

Urgrace
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08-19-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 12:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Urgrace a private message Print Post    
RN I hope LLkoolaid will post a picture of the completed art project or any other finished art project in tvch's fine art threads!

Urgrace
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08-19-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 1:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Urgrace a private message Print Post    
RN One of the Blue Angels crashed in Beaufort, SC while flying in the air show at the Marine Base. It was on a news update on tv just now.

Urgrace
Member

08-19-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 1:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Urgrace a private message Print Post    
RN MSNBC is reporting the pilot did not make it and there are several houses on fire.

Mak1
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08-12-2002

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 5:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mak1 a private message Print Post    
RN I looked up Todd Snider on youtube, Twinkie, because I didn't know either. He is a singer, and I'm going to listen to some more. I like what I've heard so far.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 5:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
Right now, I don't know who Todd Snider is so I'm going to have to check him out. I do like Blue October.

Crzndeb
Member

07-26-2004

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 6:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
Right now, I'm trying to figure out how to start a new thread on Travels. I've searched for something exisiting and can't find one...I am going to South Africa next year on safari and would like to see if anyone has been to Africa....thanks for the help in advance

Supergranny
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02-03-2005

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 7:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Supergranny a private message Print Post    
RN I am so jealous of Crz! I have never been on a safari in South Africa. That would be the ultimate trip of a lifetime. I put that webcam of the waterhole on DH's computer to inspire him. Alot of good that did!!

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 7:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
RN Thanks, Mak! Now I'm assuming Blue October is a music group?

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 9:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
Right now, they are , Twinkie. They play, I guess you'd say, alternative music.

Max
Moderator

08-12-2000

Saturday, April 21, 2007 - 9:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
RN I just saw my brother on TV! I'm watching 48 Hours Mystery about a murder case in Napa, California. When they showed a shot of the arraignment of Eric Coppel, there was a brief shot of his attorney with him in the courtroom. That was my big brother, who is a Public Defender in Napa.

We don't communicate much -- don't really know each other very well as there's 8 years difference betweent us -- and he will NEVER discuss any of his cases with me, no matter what I ask him. THe big stinker.

Oh, there was a much better shot of him. Personally I think he's on the wrong side, but somebody has to do that job. :-)

Well, it's a heck of a way to see him (haven't seen him for quite a while in person), but he looked pretty good. :-)

Monkey
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09-10-2006

Sunday, April 22, 2007 - 1:15 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Monkey a private message Print Post    
RN I have insomnia and am here posting, watching Buffy DVD's instead of sleeping.

RN I have a heavy heart for those at TVCH who are facing hardships and medical problems. Could that be the reason for the insomnia?