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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Monday, May 28, 2007 - 8:47 pm
Oh noooooooooo!!! <covers Twinkie's eyes> Well, that happens. The only person you've really let down is yourself. The smoking addiction is a very powerful and tricky thing. It is my opinion, and perhaps only my opinion and not anybody else's, that you are not going to be able to quit until you can get your brain around the idea that smoking is not your friend and your comfort. I believe it for myself. I have been there. As long as you are allowing your brain to think that you are "giving up" the old friend for the greater good of the body as a whole, that old friend is going to keep trying to get you back, and it might eventually get you. And it did this time. So, oh well. Try to get your head right and try again one of these days. JujuformerlyfriendswithaKiller
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Tuesday, May 29, 2007 - 1:42 pm
(((((Sloth)))) I'm sorry the demon got to you, but I appreciate your honesty. I'll echo what Juju said. Pick a day and start over and quit again. We'll still be here to cheer you on. You're still a star in my book! 
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Tuesday, May 29, 2007 - 3:10 pm
Slothkitten, I admire your honesty and I think that alone proves that eventually you will succeed and be able to quit forever!
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Slothkitten
Member
09-16-2003
| Tuesday, May 29, 2007 - 5:18 pm
Thank's Juju, Retired and Jimmer, too. It's all in my mind for sure, have to get my mind and heart set on ending this addiction. I'm not there yet, not like I thought I was. Thank's for your positivity and kindness. Just keeping it real, ya'll . . . had to bust myself after I done it.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Tuesday, May 29, 2007 - 8:25 pm
Slothkitten, you will probably know when you are able to do it again for quits.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Wednesday, May 30, 2007 - 7:06 pm
Awww, Slothie. I'm sorry to hear this. I know how hard it is though. I actually asked someone for a smoke and they said no, thank goodness. I'm still white-knuckling it day to day. There are times when it doesn't even cross my mind but get me around a smoker and I want one. Its so damn hard. When you decide to quit again I'll be here to cheer you on.
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Slothkitten
Member
09-16-2003
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 4:37 am
Twinkie, you are still my inspiration. You are the kindest, most understanding lady. You have said before ( and you were right ! ) no way where you going to give in and have to go through the early hell of it all over again. It's the hardest thing, and you are doing it, keep hanging tough like you are doing. One thing I wished I had done and am planning on doing my 3rd and final time of quitting ( please let it be over ) is this . . some lifestyle changes, like a massage every week or 2, something for my body to look forward to may help those horrible cravings . . . going in to get my hair washed and blown out for a treat . . hoping that kind of stuff will help me motivate to walk and feel better body wise which in turn will help my mind to shut up already with the addiction . . . well, it's just a idea. Thank you Twinkie 
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 5:01 am
Awwww thanks, Slothie. I think doing nice things for youself is a great treat for quitting smoking. You might also want to do what LL did. Put the money you would spend on smokes away and then buy something extravagant with it. It may help to put things in perspective to see how much money you are saving. Whatever you do, I'll be here to cheer you on!
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Slothkitten
Member
09-16-2003
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 5:08 am
Having you in my corner, cheering me on, means alot. Twinkie, I saw that pic of you from last weekend, you hair is a glory, girl ! And, I know it must smell terrific ! ( remember that shampoo, Gee your hair smells terrific, heh )
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 10:27 am
LOL I remember it! And thank you! My hair smells like shampoo now and not smoke. Big improvement.
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 12:29 pm
(((Twinkie))) Hang in there! You're doing great! (((Sloth))) You will quit the 3rd time. Third time is the charm or so I've heard. Planning for it and rewarding yourself is good. Put the money aside like LL did as Twink said. Remember, I bought a car with the money I saved. Don't forget you've got Bella & Bubbles to take care of! Those girls want their mamma around a good long time. 
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Slothkitten
Member
09-16-2003
| Thursday, May 31, 2007 - 3:30 pm
Thank you Retired And, no . . I remember you bought that car with all your quitting money, amazing !!!
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Karen
Member
09-07-2004
| Friday, June 01, 2007 - 9:42 am
Hope you don't mind if I jump in... I've tried quitting many times, and the longest I ever made it was six months. Keep in mind, Slothkitten, I don't think ANYone can successfully quit on the first try. Some not on the second or third or tenth try. But you will get there. Keep on trying. The last time I quit, for six months, I regularly visited a site called WhyQuit?. It has a ton of resources, etc. that make you feel better about your choice to quit. Near the middle of the page, on the right side, are links to download free 'Quit Meters'. This is a simple, small application that sits on your desktop. The first time you install it, plunk in the details - how much you pay for smokes, how many a day, etc. - and it does the rest. Tells you how long it's been since your last, how much money you've saved, how many you haven't smoked, and how much time you've added to your life. I found my Quit Meter a fantastic motivator. When you see that you've saved over XX amount of money, and you've only been quit for a week, it's astounding how much better you feel. Sorry for the rambling... I'm going to try again soon. I need to get my head decided that I want to quit. My body says YES, but the brain isn't quite there yet. And we all know if you're not mentally ready, it's NOT. GONNA. WORK.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Friday, June 01, 2007 - 7:12 pm
Exactly, Karen. Good luck. You are way too young to have that gigantic monkey on your back. You can probably buy a HOUSE with the money you save by quitting young. Now, if the dearly intended smokes and quits too, you can definitely buy a house. Speaking of monkeys on people's backs - when Bigdog and I were in Hawaii in May, we were sitting outside our hotel waiting to be picked up for the parasailing trip. And a family came from somewhere to catch a taxi. And they had a boy about four years old with them, and they had a harness on him to keep him from running off. But the harness had a monkey on the back, so it sort of looked like a toy too. Bigdog and I were silently laughing our asses off. The kid had a "monkey on his back!" But we couldn't even say it to each other because they were too close, but we were both thinking the same thing, how young he was to HAVE A MONKEY ON HIS BACK!!! Hahahahaha!! So I finally went over and asked the grandma if I could take a picture of the little boy because he was so cute with that monkey, and she said sure, and then they left in the taxi, and Bigdog and I laughed ourselves silly.
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Friday, June 01, 2007 - 7:32 pm
Hi guys, I just wanted to share something from a very good friend of mine. She and her grown daughter have both quit smoking using a prescription drug called Chantix. She says she has had no desire to smoke now and no side effects. Her daughter has been smoke free for a month. Both of them said that Chantix works better than a patch! My friend said she took the drug for the last two weeks and smoked (a little) the whole time. She said she just put the cigs away completely and hasn't felt the need for another one. Her Dr. says it takes 3 months on Chantix just to be sure. Just passing that along. 
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Slothkitten
Member
09-16-2003
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 6:09 am
Karen, thank you for your post ! And the web site. Twiggy, great to hear your friends story about the Chantix . . . that's my plan for next time. I need hep . . . Juju, cracking up with the visual of you taking that picture of little boy with the monkey on his back " Oh, isn't that cute ". . . .lol
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Dipo
Member
04-23-2002
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 12:08 pm
Hey Karen, thanks for that quit meter thing, I think that might help me keep on track this time. And I am seeing the doc next week so maybe I will ask about the Chantix. I have been trying to quit for sometime, last month I only smoked on 11 days. Now I want it to be no days. My stars and money saved on the calendar didn't see to do it, so I have set up my quit meter and hope it helps me stay focused.
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 12:18 pm
Wishing the future quitters the will for a successful quit and continued congrats to those that already have quit. Karen, FWIW I quit cigs cold turkey on my first try over 3 years ago. Wasn't as lucky quitting alcohol though. That took 2 tries and 2 hospitalizations (one with restraints). I'll be clean and sober 25 years this September.
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Karen
Member
09-07-2004
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 12:54 pm
Good for you, Retired! I know that *some* people have success with no aids, on the first try. You are few and far between, and I applaud you for it. Congrats on your sobriety!
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 1:00 pm
Thanks, Karen. I don't even think about either any more. I'm too busy trying to stay in remission from Wegener's (link is in my profile). 
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 4:37 pm
Good luck, Dipo. Sounds like you are determined. It is the determination that matters more than anything.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 5:39 pm
No matter what you do its not easy. Its still hard for me everyday. The best tip I can give you is: tell someone you are very close to and would never lie to, that you are quitting and make yourself accountable to them. Talk to them everyday if possible. For me that is my hubby. I feel like if I went back to smoking now I would not only be letting myself down but him too and I would hate that. I can bet you almost anything that if it weren't for him I would have smoked by now.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 5:54 pm
I think that's a smart idea, Twinkie. ANd I know your DH isn't like my dad. He got so excited once when my brother quit and made SUCH a big deal out of it that my brother started again.. and my mom admitted that she probably smoked an extra year because Dad had quit and was being pretty obnoxious with her (she would only smoke in her sewing room and her bathroom and he'd come in and make comments about the smell). I know it was mostly because he was terrified because she was the one who had needed to quit for so long, but his pychology stank or whatever.. didn't work. YAY for all the quitters and for those thinking of quitting or quitting again. That drug sounds promising.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 8:18 pm
That didn't work for me either. The only person I could quit for was myself.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Saturday, June 02, 2007 - 8:49 pm
Sea, my hubby is just the opposite. He has never said a word about my smoking. I just know that he would be disappointed in me and that's too much for me. I value his hhmmm...opinion?...of me. Not exactly the word I want to use but the meaning is close. He really appreciates how hard it is for me even though he has never smoked and he proudly tells people I quit after 40 years.
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