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Ophiliasgrandma
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09-04-2001

Monday, June 25, 2007 - 6:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ophiliasgrandma a private message Print Post    


Here is the Scion. I knew that the Element wasn't the boxiest car I'd seen lately, but I didn't know the name of the one that was. I searched all over the place, but couldn't find one side-on shot to show how boxy it really it. You'd think people were ashamed of that look.

Halfunit
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09-02-2001

Monday, June 25, 2007 - 4:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Halfunit a private message Print Post    
Toyota's FJ Cruiser is quite boxy as well.



Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Monday, June 25, 2007 - 8:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
That reminds me of a safari jeep.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Help with wording...

My dh and I are throwing a small party cuz an old co-worked who lives out of town is in town for a few days. We are inviting several of our former co-workers. The "reason" for this party is just to see some old friends.

Here's what I need help with. Most of these people have not met our newly adopted daughter, thought they all know of her. I am afraid that they will all bring a present for her. I am not really afraid that they'll bring a present, but if they bring something for her, I bet it'll be an outfit. Well, we are totally overloaded on outfits. She has more than enough for the rest of the summer so that she will not have to wear the same one twice. Unfortunately I am not kidding.

I just don't want people wasting their money. So do I mention anything about her and say no presents? Or just say nothing on the invite about her at all???

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:11 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I wouldn't add anything about the baby in there.

If they bring you clothes, if they have the tag on them, take them back, get store credit or a refund and then buy diapers, etc.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:15 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
That's what I am thinking Escapee. THe only problem is that most people do not include the receipt. Because baby clothing is so seasonal, I bet the person spent way more than what I get when I return it. That just irks me that a person might spend $20 and we'd only get $4 for it because of no receipt. But keeping the outfit is a waste too. I just don't want my friends to waste their $$$...

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
If they have a tag, return it to the store where they bought it. OR, donate the items to foster children.

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
Good idea Escapee! And for Pete Sake don't mention anything about her on the invite!!!

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I like the idea of the foster kids. Or.. buy her a life sized doll and she can use all the first summer outfits on that..

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
I agree with Escapee, donate the stuff. OR better yet, choose the ones you like best from ALL the baby's clothes, after the party, and donate the stuff you don't want/need to a local charity/crisis centre.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Donating is a good idea--but really, if I bought something for a friend, I would not want it to get donated. I would want that person to have or use what I bought. I know there is no non-tacky way to ask for "no clothes", so I guess there is no other choice.

I'd like to put "Please no baby presents" but to me that screams "YES GIVE US PRESENTS!" (I would just assume people keep their money.)

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
The doll thing isn't a bad idea, but most of the clothes we are getting are size 24 mos so that'd have to be one big baby doll!

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
I still think not mentioning anything is a good idea...you're right it sounds tacky tacky tacky!

Kitt
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09-06-2000

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kitt a private message Print Post    
Could you put on the invitation a line that says something like "thank you all for the gifts of such beautiful outfits for our new daughter, we look forward to you meeting her". That (hopefully) subtley says that she has enough outfits and at the same time doesn't give any requests about what they should or should not bring.

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 10:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
Kitt, I think that any mention about gifts for her on an invitation for a party that is not even remotely about her is implying you're expecting gifts. That's how I would take it, and I would be insulted.

Costacat
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07-15-2000

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 11:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Costacat a private message Print Post    
I figure when I buy a gift and give it to someone, it's theirs to do with as they please. If someone is going to bring a baby gift without asking, then I can do what I want with it. If I had a surplus of clothing, I'd donate them to a children's shelter.

I would not mention "No gifts" in any way, shape, or form. I would not mention gifts in any way. Especially not to thank people for gifts given (two things wrong: first of all, wrong venue for thanking; secondly, what about those who didn't gift? you'll be guilting them into giving!).

If you get anything, just accept it graciously. And do with it as you please.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 11:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Well, Julie, it's not wasting their money if they bought a gift for a child and it was given to another child. There are children who need them much more than Abby does now, and in no way is that a waste.

I would not mention gifts or the baby at all on the invite. If by chance someone does bring a baby gift (which probably won't happen, IMO) then it is a charitable and honorable thing to do to offer it to a child who needs it more. They have already spent the money and I am sure they would not feel angry if a more needy child had some nice clothes.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 11:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Besides, you can donate the old stuff and keep the new stuff, so if she's worn something once, it's up for grabs to the charity. That way you can feel that she wore what everyone gave her at least once. And as long as its in good condition charities don't care if its second-hand, they expect it I think.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 12:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Absolutely do not put anything about the baby on the invitation. Unless this is a party to meet her, it's tacky and totally inappropriate.
If you get clothes, you get them. Just thank the person graciously.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 1:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
When I was pregnant with DD2, I left my baby shower in tears. I got cheap gifts that were really, well, thoughtless. I had registered for what I needed, and only recieved one gift that was actually on my registry. I thought that was the point of registering, seeing as how everyone ahead of time had asked me where I was registering.

Also, nothing on my list was exhorbitantly expensive, or even more expensive than what I had received.

Nevertheless, I came here, spouting my woes, and I got a slap upside the head for being selfish. What I couldn't return for the things I needed, I donated, happily.

I don't think anyone wasted their money, because I know it went to good use with someone who needed it. Also, if they wanted to make sure to get me something I needed/wanted, they would have used the registry, since the places where they bought the unused/unwanted items were from the same store. There's not very many baby places around here.

It taught me to always get someone something they want/registered for or ask them ahead of time what they needed/wanted.

Donating will give you the warm fuzzies, too. And, to me, that was an even better gift.

So bottom line is this: Don't add anything about gifts or the baby to your invitation. If by chance someone brings you a gift of clothes, return it, swap it out with some clothes she has, and donate donate donate.

Justavice
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11-22-2005

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 1:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Justavice a private message Print Post    
And not having to do the laundry for her for months is a gift in itself!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 3:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
me thinks Julie has forgotten how many clothes a toddler goes through in a day! LOL

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 3:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I can't see mentioning a baby on a party invitation to a party that has nothing to do with the baby, regardless of good intentions.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 5:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Thanks all! As it turned out, looks like I worried for nothing.

We sent out 12 email invites. (Of the 12, 4 were at the shower, so don't need to worry 'bout them.)

Of the remaining 8, four have already called or emailed asking specifically about baby gifts.

I love it when it turns out to be one of those "much ado about nothing" kind of things. Love it when I feel like a big dope! Thanks for your input anyways!!

NEXT DUMB QUESTION: Why is it when we throw a large party, no one RSVPs. But when we have a little last minute one like this, practically everyone RSVPs right away? Guess the key is send out an email invite less than a week from the event! Or maybe it's our families as this little party has no family members invited!

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 5:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
(oh BTW, the invites we sent out mentioned nothing about the baby. Just a basic "You're invited to a reunion" invitation...)