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Landi
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07-29-2002

Thursday, January 18, 2007 - 5:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
escapee, i've been allergic to milk my entire life. more important, i'm allergic to casein. this is the protein that is in milk/cheese/ice cream. i am not lactose intolerant. i use coffee mate liquid or mocha mix in things that would use milk (cereal/mashed potatoes/etc).

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Friday, January 19, 2007 - 4:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
My Em was allergic to milk as a baby, but she has no problem with it now. She drinks a lot of it.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, February 21, 2007 - 6:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
I don't know when it happened but Caleb is getting responsible in areas he wasn't before!

All year long we have fought over these stupid pyramid book reports they have to do for class. They take maybe 10 minutes to do, don't even require full sentences (on the first line they write the book title, second author, third main character, etc) and yet he has fought weekly. Teacher writes it on the board or tells the class he ignores it. The kids know it's homework every Wed night and she leaves the forms sitting on a table next to the door so they can grab as they walk out but week after week he passes em by until she mentions to me in passing he hasn't done the past three or four.

A couple weeks ago, I asked him as we were leaving school if he had the form, he didn't so we went back to class and his teacher told me she wasn't expecting them to do it that week because she forgot to mention it. To me that's ridiculous since the kids know exactly when they are due and they're old enough to grab the paper as they leave the class.

Today he got home from school and told me they had a sub who didn't write the pyramids on the board...but he grabbed one anyways! He said he knows no one else is going to do it but he's not worried about them, only about him, and if his teacher decides not to push it, she can give him extra credit. I about fell over! He's getting A's and B's on his homework and tests, he's doing his nightly reading without us telling him to....I think he's been body snatched!

It's a small step, but heck he's been in the begining stages of puberty snottiness for months now that it's nice to see some signs of him growing up a little bit and taking responsibility for himself and his schoolwork.

Now, Kota, her teacher caught me last week and said, "Sandy, I wanted to let you know that I've recommended Dakota see our speech therapist for some testing, she goes next week." I couldn't help but look at the woman in utter disbelief. I've been begging them to test her since 1st grade, I've written letters, I've talked to her teachers and the school nurse and have been told it wasn't that bad that they'd recommend it. She came home today with two notes, one informing me she'll be seeing the speech therapist three times a week (I'm fighting the urge to go up there and go "duh" to all these people who told me it wasn't bad enough for them to recommend her for it) and another inviting her to participate in intercession over spring break. That's kind of a crash tutoring course in whatever subject your kid is struggling in, in her case reading fluency and comprehension.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Wednesday, February 21, 2007 - 9:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
What I find interesting about Ryan's speech and his reading/writing/spelling, is that even though he has had certain words for spelling and he gets 100% on the spelling tests, when it comes to writing and/or orally reading the same word in a sentence, he will spell it as he says it. Does that make sense? For instance, he usually says "lis" instead of "this". So he will write "lis" instead of "this" if he is writing a sentence on his own.

That is why speech therapy is extra important for him.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, February 21, 2007 - 10:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Dakota's just a phonetic speller. That was a great and exciting thing when she was in kindergarten, her teacher said, but she should have gotten out of that phase and we're still waiting. It kinda sounds like Ryan does the same thing...spells it like it sounds (sounds like to him) even though he knows better when reading.

I've told them for years though that her reading problems have got to be tied to her speech. She has no problem reading individual words, in fact she gives Caleb his practice spelling tests every week and doesn't bat an eye. String them together in a sentence and she's stumbling all over them. She also has no trouble reading silently and then telling you what she read and answering questions. But have her read it out loud and fluency goes down and she has no idea what she just read and I think it's because she's stumbling over the speech part.

Webchiq
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07-11-2005

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 3:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Webchiq a private message Print Post    
I need some advice. My son is 10, almost 11, very good kid, never gets in trouble, the teachers say he's very well behaved, he plays sports, popular and is the kid that makes sure that those who are being left out, get included.

All of a sudden he's in trouble for two things he didn't do. I'm not a naive parent, but in both cases, the neighbor kids told me that my son didn't do them but that he got in trouble for them. One was lunchroom antics and he was sitting at the same table as the boys who did something. The neighbor boy said he was one of the boys that did it and my son wasn't involved.

Then, he was just listening to his music on the bus and a kid who looks similar to him was screaming and yelling and so my son got assigned to the front of the bus, but the other kid did not. Again, a neighbor girl said it wasn't him at all.

What should I tell him? He lost recess on the lunchroom day and he shouldn't have and now he has to sit in the front of the bus and he likes to sit by his friends. My kids are very concerned about fairness and he is feeling very bad right now. Do I tell him to go and explain he didn't do it? Is anyone going to acknowledge and listen to him? Should he just take the punishment and deal with it? Any ideas? I don't think mommy should talk to the bus driver, he is getting to that age. I don't know ...

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 4:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
He should speak up for himself in a respectful manner.

He doesn't want to rat out the other kids but he can still stick up for himself without naming names.

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 4:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
If it was my kid, first, I would try to get him to take care of it by standing up for himself. You are right to be concerned that nobody will listen to him but that's when you step in.
He needs to stand up for himself and not take the blame of what somebody else has done. Tell him exactly what he should tell the teacher & bus driver and how to say it respectfully.
My kids always knew that they could count on me to back them up, nothing wrong with that.
(((Webchiq's son)))

Justavice
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11-22-2005

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 4:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Justavice a private message Print Post    
You might also role play with him what he is going to say and then you (acting as teacher/bus driver) give some different responses and see how he does with a few different answers depending on the scenario. That way he will feel confident in what he is going to say and also understand the situation from all the different points of view so he feels better about himself for doing the right thing to begin with. This will also prepare him in case the teacher or bus driver does not believe him.

Maris
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03-28-2002

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 4:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maris a private message Print Post    
I would talk to him and tell him I support him in going forward to talk to the teacher/bus driver. IF he is unsuccessful, I would certainly offer to go to the school and talk to the bus driver for him. He may say he doesnt want you to and you have to let it go. (you can certainly mention the incident to the teacher at the next parent teacher conference). If he does ask you to step in then by all means do.

Nothing drove me crazier than a teacher who doesnt want to believe a kid when the kid is telling the truth. I have been there and have been into the principals office over stuff like that.

Webchiq
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07-11-2005

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 5:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Webchiq a private message Print Post    
So, do you all think it was good that I told him that if the lunchroom teacher did it again and he was not at fault he should request to immediately speak with the principal to explain that he was not involved, since the lunchroom teacher dismissed his plea to discuss?

As far as the bus driver, I tried to have a discussion with him a few minutes ago and he told me that it was my kid and I was wrong, even though I explained that every other neighborhood kid was telling me that it wasn't my son. My son tried to discuss it with the driver this morning and the driver said that he would keep him on the bus on Friday morning to discuss it. I don't know, but I don't like the idea of my son being alone on the bus to discuss this. The other kids tell me that this bus driver is weird and tries to be their friend and buddy (a warning sign in my brain) and my 5 year old daughter is afraid of him.

I think I'm going to drive my son to school and pick him up tomorrow.

He's not worried about ratting out the other kids (I guess it's well known who the troublemakers are so he wouldn't even have to say names) as much as he's feeling really depressed that these two authority figures are punishing him for things he didn't do and it wasn't even his friends that were doing it, so it wasn't even guilt by association. He's a sensitive guy and doesn't like to be "in trouble."

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 5:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
I don't know if the lunchroom lady will let him go to the principle's office. She will probably tell him the principle is too busy. I called(twice) my niece's principle two weeks ago and the man never returned my call. ARGH!

The bus driver sounds scary. Some of the things my kids told me about their bus driver used to scare me. Mainly driving bad but also screaming.
Hope things settle down and your son perks up, give him lots of hugs!

Maris
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03-28-2002

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 5:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Maris a private message Print Post    
I dont know if I would have him go to the principal. If the lunchroom teacher refused to believe him then I would make an appointment with the principal and explain the issue to him/her and tell them you would like to resolve the issue as these sort of things can prey on kids minds and they can become resentful. As far as the bus driver is concerned, I would call the bus company and ask to speak to the supervisor at the bus company.

If your son tried to resolve it and wasnt successful, then it is time for the big guns (you) to step in.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 5:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Yes, you will get much farther if you talk to the transportation dept. as opposed to the driver himself.

Webchiq
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07-11-2005

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 5:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Webchiq a private message Print Post    
So, I called the transportation department and they told me the only option available to me was for them to have the driver call me to discuss. I remember my mom used to go full balls on things like this and I hated it because it always got worse for me. That's why I'm having such a hard time knowing how far to go.

He feels better knowing that I called and tried at least and he is glad that I'm driving him.

We have conferences next week, I'll ask more about the lunchroom situation. I'm not a shrinking violet but I'm trying to find the balance. He doesn't seem quite as sad now that he knows that I stepped in on the bus thing.

If it were happening to me, I would stand up to the lunchroom lady and TELL her that I'm going to the Prinicpal, I wouldn't ask and I would stand up and walk out and go straight to the office, but he's a different personality than me. In my book, nothing says, "listen to me, I'm telling the truth" more than a willingness to talk to the Principal about it. That's not where kids who are causing trouble want to go ;).

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 10:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Webchiq, I hope ya'll get it all worked out. It sucks when a kid who's never been a troublemaker isn't believed when he says he didn't do it.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 11:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Heh, I can't decide where I want to post my question, I think it might be a dumb one, but maybe parents of girls can help me more.

I need help, after taking Dakota to buy a new outfit tonight I am once again totally frustrated with little girl clothes. Dakota's a pretty solid kid yet all we could find was these skinny legged thin waisted jeans. She's got a pair of faded glory jeans that fit her great, not too tight, not too loose, the right legnth, but I can't seem to find the same type anywhere. Moms help, I know I'm not the only parent to have a little girl who isn't super slim and long legged, lol! What brands are good and where the heck do you buy them?

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 11:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Way back when my daughter was little, I loved leggings...great with lil sweatshirts or tee's, tenni shoes...or she just wore levi's. Are'nt Leggings in again or am I way outa it?

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 11:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Leggings were everywhere this winter, so if that means anything I guess they are in again. She's got a couple pair, but she's really rough on clothes and after 2 or 3 times of wearing them to school they were put into the play clothes only drawer.

I haven't bought Levi's in forever! Aren't those sized based on waist and inseam? A lot of boy brands have gotten out of the single sizes (8, 10, 12, etc) and gone to that kind of sizing and it's the one reason we've finally got to the point shopping for Caleb isn't a big deal because now we can buy pants that have the small waist but long legs. Dakota is just the opposite, she's kinda tall, but has short legs. I'll have to check the Levi Outlet store, if I can buy her jeans based on two seperate sizes that would probably help a whole lot!

Thanks Chewpito!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 5:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
KOHL'S!!!!!!!!!!
dd and i love that store. they don't have tons of clothes, they have good prices and we don't fight while shopping!!!
dd is a little short for her weight and we have had good luck finding things. also capri's have been a godsend (for both of us! i have her same problem LOL)
if you could talk her into boy jeans, they do waist and length.

Sewmommy
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07-06-2004

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 7:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sewmommy a private message Print Post    
Wargod I can appreciate what you are going through, but we are on the opposite end of the spectrum. My 10 year old needs though skinny jeans and half the time they are still too big around the waist. Thank goodness for those adjustable waist thingys.
Have you tried a GAP outlet? The other thing is find the pants that fit around the waist and then hem 'em up. Some places are outrageous in their charges for alterations, but if you look around and find someone who does it on the side, its very resonable(personally I only charge $6 for a hem)

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 7:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
Not to change the subject...but I'm hoping you wise ones can help. Can anyone recommend an over the counter medicine, non drowsy...to help my dd's congestion? It is just a cold, and while I normally just let them run their course...I don't want her to feel awful for tonight's opening of Peter Pan.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 8:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
war, try Old Navy. you can get jeans there in just about every size for girls. and the price isn't going to kill you.

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 8:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
Scooter, how old is your dd? I just sent my niece to school with a sudafed non-drowsy decongestant. I would ask the pharmasist(sp), they help with over the counter meds too.
Hope she feels better soon!

Wargod, have you tried Wal-mart? or Old Navy is a good one too, what about Sears?

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, March 09, 2007 - 8:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
scooter, depending on her age, Mucinex is a godsend!