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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, August 16, 2006 - 11:56 am
sounds like you liked the GE woman newman. why didnt you ask her out? eta: guilty of skimming like you now... the married part didnt register. or maybe she just says that to not get hit on all the time
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Wednesday, August 16, 2006 - 4:15 pm
Yes, go to yoga Newman. The odds should be in your favor....especially if it is at night. I like hearing of the experiences in your quest to find a woman. And go ahead and do match.com and eharmony both. Both together will cost less than $5,000 (I haven't checked either out, but I am guessing)...and I'll have hours of entertainment. In fact, I say you should join both and schedule 30 days of dates. I know it is possible...my former college roomie was doing that sort of thing when she was meeting guys online. Some days she even had two dates. And she lived in a small town...but she would drive to meet them as long as it was a reasonable distance. But she did meet her husband doing that (he lived in FL, she in NC)...and it didn't take her that long.
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 9:32 am
Many years ago I signed up for riflery classes at the local junior college. The odds WERE good. I went out with the assistant instructor for a while. And I went from being able to hit the broad side of a barn to the narrow side. Actually better than that. I seem to have some talent for target shooting. Recently took Citizens' Police Academy classes. Got to shoot on the police shooting range with various types of firearms. I did pretty well actually.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 8:50 am
Gidget, the GE woman was married and so was her twin sister (if she was telling me the truth). Ooops, I was skimming you, ha ha... I went to yoga. Liked it. Am very bad at it. So stiff and not flexible and lost my balance often. Placed my mat in the back, next to some women with wedding rings and one who had a naked finger. All I could think to say to her was, "Is the sound system in here usually so bad?" She assured me NO, this is a sub teacher (who was a beautiful Asian marathon woman runner) and normally you can hear the guy who runs the class. That's all I could think of to say. Always the problem for guys who are shy like me. How do you break the ice, get a conversation going?? Yes, women always get more dates, more attention online and in person, than men. That's the nature of the beast. Men (I'm generalizing here) tend to pursue women. That is the way to meet people, Color. Do something you want to do, like shooting or yoga, and then if you meet someone, fine, you have something in common, and if you don't, well, you are learning something you always wanted tolearn in the first place! No loss.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 9:29 am
For most things, the harder you try and the more you practice, the better you get at it. Doesn't necessarily seem to work with dating though. It's like trying to go to sleep when you can't. Or trying to relax. So I agree Newman. I think all you can do is go to these events or participate with the intent of enjoying it for what it is and if you happen to click with someone there it is a bonus. Great advice, but I remember how hard it is.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 2:02 pm
I took karate for 12 years. It is easy to make friends when taking self defense classes. You learn forms and techniques and interact with each other. You could give that a try Newman.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 2:55 pm
Oh, I used to take yoga and I am not flexible, I have terrible balance, I don't relax well...I was a mess compared to everyone else in the class. Still I loved it. It teaches that you only go as far as your body will take you at the moment, and slowly but surely your abilities will improve. I used to laugh at myself all of the time, and the others were so encouraging. I wish my scheduled allowed me to do it again. Jimmer great analogy...is like trying to sleep or relax. I'm not good at it! But still I think I only have to be truly successful at it once, so hopefully one day I will get it right! Oh....I made an offer on a house this afternoon. This baby boomer definitely went out of her comfort zone! But so far I am feeling good about it. We'll see if the offer is accepted....I expect at least one counter offer!
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 7:44 am
newman... you said men pursue women... and that is true and supposedly that is the way men like it. but because you are shy would you be put off by a woman pursuing you? or even just opening the conversation? yoga is a great idea. i notice men struggle more with it in the beginning than women but think of it this way. if you stick with it and get good at it and meet that certain someone you will be prepared for all those great sex positions <wink>
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Zeno39
Member
11-09-2002
| Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 11:41 pm
What is the thing about being a non-Christian? I don't mess with anyone's beliefs, cause they are personal to each individual. If you were to like someone who is a Christian, would you back off or go for it, Newman? Also, I have found (not for me) that some people go to church to meet others, and have found a partner that way. It isn't for everyone, but in some cases, it has worked out. I am speaking from another's experience. Myself, I married the guy next door. But I didn't know him until he came out of the Navy and was going into the Air Force, and we met when he was home on leave, and it was instant attraction. We were married for 28 years when he died of cancer. I have not looked for nor found anyone else. I have had offers, but just wasn't interested. If you like sports, that is another place to meet people, and get to talking. It can't hurt. You could find your soul mate just around the corner- in a grocery store, movie theater, or anywhere. Sometimes, someone pops up when you are not expecting it. Does this sound too much like a romance novel? lol I don't mean it to, but stranger things have happened. Good luck on whatever you do, and hope the best for you, Newman.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Saturday, August 26, 2006 - 6:12 am
I actually did join a church, The Unitarian Universalists, which is actually more of a political group than a religion, which is what I like, and I did that to meet women. It's been slow it that arena, but I've met some fine liberals. I think a prosyletizing Christian would put me off. Could never go out with a Fundamentalist Christian. Was married to an earth sign Catholic for 9 years. That didn't work out either. I am liking the yoga, Gidget, except I just caught a cold at the health club (or is it allergies?). How often do you have to wash your hands there anyway? Well, don't touch your eyes. But they itch... I like yoga because I need to stretch and the ratio of women to men is more than 10:1. Being the shy guy I have always been the one seduced by the woman. Maybe I should try pursuing...kind of late in the game to learn a new thing, but then maybe I'd pick the right one.}
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Saturday, September 09, 2006 - 10:33 am
Journal writing. Do any of you do it anymore? I stopped long ago. My ex found my journal and it kind of destroyed my marriage. I kinda want to take it up again. Journal writing. It helps me focus. I can quietly look at myself, and my problems. Try to solve them or at least understand them. And years later I can look back and read and chuckle or cry, at how little things have changed with me, or at how little I have grown, or how I constantly make the same mistakes. But the one mistake I don't want to repeat is to have someone, a family member or friend, find the journal and read it. I try to be completely honest in journal writing. Why write if not? And I don't want to hurt another's feelings, in case I was writing about some problem between me and him/her, maybe a son or daughter or close friend. The other idea is to just write and throw away. But then you don't get to re-read it, years later, and chuckle or cry...
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Saturday, September 09, 2006 - 10:47 am
Set up a free Yahoo email account and do it there. No one can get in your account without a password. You can compose messages and either send them to yourself at Yahoo and save them or save them as drafts.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Sunday, September 10, 2006 - 11:50 am
I say journal and don't worry about others reading it. You live by yourself now.... so you shouldn't have a problem (don't leave it in the more "public" areas.) I think we should respect the privacy of those we love. If I wrote down what I was feeling at all times, I'd end up offending everyone should they read it. But because you feel a certain way at a certain time, it doesn't mean that those feelings are the truth of what you feel or that they are valid. Just like because someone gives you their opinion of you, it doesn't mean it is true or something you should necessarily take to heart.
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Yellek
Member
08-22-2001
| Monday, September 11, 2006 - 6:51 am
I also used to keep a diary. I had 7 years worth that I enjoyed looking back thru until I found out my boyfriend in college was reading them. It was so disturbing to me that I threw them all out. Now I regret that, I feel like I've lost a part of my history. Ever since though, I can't bring myself to put anything permanent in writing like that.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Monday, September 11, 2006 - 7:49 am
I keep a journal on my computer that is double password protected. Some day I'd like to edit and give to my son, if he's interested. Lots of wonderful thoughts in there about the joy he brings to my life. But yes, I would definitely edit it first! 
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, September 11, 2006 - 8:57 am
I used to use this place as my sort of journal but now someones reading/read and it's become a nightmare. I don't even blog anymore.
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Monday, September 11, 2006 - 10:19 am
I've tried to journal several times through the years. Usually because a class required it or some self-help maven talked about it as "freeing" or whatever. Never works for me. I do, have a couple of blogs, but they are topic-specific and not just ramblings about my pesonal life. Not nearly the same thing as a journal. For some folks, writing a journal can be very. . .therapeutic, cathartic, freeing, whatever. For me, it's not. 
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Monday, September 11, 2006 - 12:23 pm
I journal. My mother journaled and since she passed I have them but can't bring myself to read them. I started in 1960. Since there is no one for me to leave them to I probably should start destroying them. Since college a lot of what I write is in shorthand so no one (except my sister) could understand them anyway. I've been told that my good memory probably has to do with the fact that I write everything down and am a "lister" as well....I've got notes all over the place. I took excellent notes of everything doctors said to me when I was hospitalized and they came in handy when something came up later.
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Gradstudent
Member
07-10-2005
| Saturday, September 23, 2006 - 5:33 pm
I keep an art journal, rather than a "word" journal. I put my feelings and thoughts into picture form - and if anyone comes across it and takes a gander? No one knows that each drawing has a particular meaning except for me. Some of the entries are finished pictures, but much of it simply looks like doodling or abstract art. I love doing it...it is very freeing.
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Saturday, September 23, 2006 - 11:55 pm
Newman & all you other Wonderful Boomer Folks, I just hafta tell you - - your posts give me a laugh and provoke a lot of personal insight! It's late now so I don't really want to post tonite. Instead, I happened to run onto a joke that I posted on another board a long long time ago that I will offer for your Boomer Pleasure. Here 'tis: - - - A man about Biscottiii's age found a magic frog by the side of the road. "If you kiss me," the frog said, "I will turn into a beautiful princess." The man just stuck the frog in his pocket and kept walking. "Didn't you hear what I said?" the frog croaked. "I heard you," the old man said, "but at my age, I'd rather have a talking frog.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 9:23 am
I liked that one Biscottiii!!! 
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Monday, October 09, 2006 - 1:30 pm
Amusing Biscottiiii. I forgot about this thread. Been a long time. An art journal. What an interesting thought. If only I could draw. I might go back to journal writing. I would love to read my thoughts at different ages. I would love to see what I thought at 26, 36, and 46 and compare to now at 56, but those journals are burned and gone. But I wouldn't want to hurt people with my words. I think I'll hide mine in a folder called "Fantasy Baseball". Who would take the effort to read that or even open it. Stuff it with a lot of baseball junk first, and then write my thoughts and feelings about life.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Monday, October 09, 2006 - 1:47 pm
Read a Psychology Today story in the Post today by Jillian Straus. Title: Many Finding singlehood a desirable state. The article left me empty. Didnt' learn anything. Reminded me how I thought psychology was just bullshit, well, my college roommate told me that when he switched to Business Administration from Psych, as his major. I think the article was directed at women. People prefer being single to being in a bad marriage. What insight?! It's good to have a great job (but your job won't love you back). Apparently that was old advice, reason to be a couple, get married. What has changed? Who wouldn't want a great rewarding job? How many of us have one? But still, wouldn't we want that and a bag of chips too? Am I that strange that I want a good job, free time, good health, good friends, good family, good hobbies, and a good loving happy sexy wife? The article ended with an observation that women should be more like men, go into sex casually, without emotional attachment, just for the sex. That way, in case nothing develops, it's easier to get out of it? Why not just masturbate? The ending line was "you don't have to talk yourself into falling in love to have sex." Maybe it's the dreary weather but the article I found depressing. One thing I learned is that women still feel that they do most of the housework. Maybe neat freaks should hook up with other neat freaks. That would solve that problem. I think men know how tohave fun better than women do. We enjoy watching a football game, relaxing, or playing a sport for that matter. Women like to shop. I'm not putting this out there as bait. I just think it's basically true. If women want to be more like men I think they'd be better advised to learn how to have fun.
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Monday, October 09, 2006 - 1:50 pm
I would much rather watch football than shop. LOL.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Monday, October 09, 2006 - 1:52 pm
I CAN NOT STAND SHOPPING!
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