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Watching the growth of people at TVCH

The TVClubHouse: General Discussions ARCHIVES: Jan. 2007 ~ Mar. 2007: Watching the growth of people at TVCH users admin

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Yankee_in_ca
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08-01-2000

Saturday, February 24, 2007 - 12:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yankee_in_ca a private message Print Post    
Well, Mocha, your mom met me in Vegas so no wonder she's still leery!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Saturday, February 24, 2007 - 12:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Oh hush Yankee lol.

Seamonkey
Moderator

09-07-2000

Sunday, February 25, 2007 - 5:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
OH yes, Jmm, another great J-person and she's part of a helpful pair with Draheid.

And Pamy's post reminded me of another young one who has shot up, Dylan. Just one of the great TVCH kids I've been able to meet. Ladytex's bunch, too, what a family to be proud of! Mocha's pair we see growing up before the camera lens, another handsome pair.

LOL, Lance, I call 'em as I see 'em.

Wapland
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08-01-2000

Tuesday, February 27, 2007 - 7:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wapland a private message Print Post    
Thanks (((Lancey))) You helped me today like so many have on other days. I continue to be grateful. I realized the overwhelming nature and personal growth of this club also at Spy's wedding. I was one of the people who could not attend in person. So many others were going and it was really difficult not to feel envious. We had all grown up with her in this club. When everyone returned and was posting pictures, I wanted it to feel like being there, but it wasn't. Then... Hippyt, she posted a special picture she had taken just for me. Spy and Flyboy holding a simple piece of paper with the words "Fondly, Wappy" written in bold print. Hippyt somehow, someway, knew how much I wanted to be there and made it happen! I got the essence of this club in that single, simple sweet gesture from a sweet thoughtful lady and her pal Mocha.

Fondly,
Wappy

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Tuesday, February 27, 2007 - 10:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Awwwwwww, I don't think I knew about that. That is sweet. I post on another board with Hippyt. I'll let her know what you said.

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Tuesday, February 27, 2007 - 10:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Doc, my mom was very reserved in her reaction when I told her I was going to meet TVCH folk in Dallas a couple of years ago.

Afterwards, I was telling Mom about everyone I had met and how far people had come and that the meet was actually for Spy's wedding (which I was so sorry I didn't get to attend) and she thought that was really cool.

I then realized that her reserved reaction was because she wasn't at all sure about what her daughter was doing. I was going through a very bad time in my life then and I think she thought I was not using my best judgment. When I looked at it from her view, I understood.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, February 27, 2007 - 10:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
It was fun to do Wappy. And Flyboy did not seem to think we were crazy for doing it...

Spygirl
Board Administrator

04-23-2001

Tuesday, February 27, 2007 - 11:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Spygirl a private message Print Post    
My family - husband included - have learned over the years just how much this place means to me. My mom coined the term "axe murderers" and they fondly make reference to you guys often. Even my own colleagues are supportive (and maybe intrigued) by my "internet friends". But everyone knows how important these relationships are to me. Having so many people be at my wedding and share that day (and those who were there in spirit!) was monumental and unforgettable.

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 9:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Wonderful post, Lance. It is fun seeing people evolve on this board.

LOL, when I first read the thread title, I thought you were referring to Spygirl's pregnancy..heh, heh.."watching people grow."

Are you still in labor, Spygirl????

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 9:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Psst, Cricket check her member folder.

Cricket
Member

08-05-2002

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 2:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Thanks, Wargod. I left her a message. I had feeling yesterday. Wish I had gotten in the pool, darnit. Who won?

Faerygdds
Member

08-29-2000

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 3:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Faerygdds a private message Print Post    
Apologies up front for the length


Lance...

You know you have always held a very special place in my heart. Something I think you fail to realize… Or maybe you do and just don't want to take credit...

You are one of those rare people who I call "facilitators". An enabler helps people progress in their bad habits, but facilitator aides in the growth of others. That is what I have seen you do countless times since we met in cyberspace. I think the reason you see so much growth in those that you have become close to is because you often facilitate that growth.

6 years ago... almost 7 now... when I came to this board during the very first BB, I was a woman who was in chronic pain. I was in pain physically and emotionally. There were times, as you well know, that I never thought that I would survive, nor that I wanted to. There were times after the countless doctor visits when they would tell me that I was crazy that I believed them. I was hurting, depressed, and just drained. And when I was at the end of my rope... you were always there to pick me up and dust me off and tell me that I mattered. Sometimes I believed you, other times I didn’t because I was too far down that dark tunnel.

It was with your help and the help of others like you that I was able to come back... never give up! My TVCH family knew more than my RL family. You knew more about my life, my existence, my politics, religion, and mental state than anyone else. Here I could vent and rant and rage and here I was supported and loved by many people, but especially by you Lance. You had the biggest heart and when you opened it, I could feel that caring all the way to Texas!

6 years... 2 diagnoses, 2 blood transfusions, 2 surgeries, 2 family deaths, and a whole host of financial issues later. Here I am... on the other side of things.

I have been absent as of late. Not because I have forgotten all of you, or because I didn't want to talk to you all, but because I have been busy! I work for a company where everyone is as off kilter as I am. It’s a place where we get the job done and laugh and play all at the same time. But they keep me really busy designing databases and spreadsheets… programming macros… and creating ways to save them time and money when the busy season hits.

I "complain" because I feel as if my life is going from spending time with this person or that person. When I get home I spend time with my Mom. I love her, but she drives me nuts. Sometimes Dad is there… sometimes not. On the weekends I devote my entire time to my DH (he works until I am asleep right now). I feel like my time is constantly being portioned off with no time for myself. So I joined a gym to go work out in the mornings. Those 90 minutes are ALL mine. Sure… I am losing SLEEP to get that me time in, but what can I do?

The reality is... Lance was right... I matter... we ALL matter.

You want to talk about growth Lance???

Look in the mirror and first realize that we may have been the flowers in your garden, but you Lance... you were the one with the green thumb holding the watering can!

All my love,
FaeryGdds

Cricket
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08-05-2002

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 4:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cricket a private message Print Post    
Wow, FaeryGdds, what a great post. The gym is the best thing you can do for yourself; esp. for the chronic pain. I hope your health is doing better. Wonderful to see you are working at a job you like.

Yes, Lance is a great guy. He's great at mediating the fights on the board and he manages to do it without alienating anyone.

Lancecrossfire
Animoderator

07-13-2000

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 7:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lancecrossfire a private message Print Post    
Cricket, I can promise I've pissed off lots of people trying to moderate TVCH--lol.

Faery, thank you for your very kind words. It's funny that day before yesterday I was thinking of you and checked to see when you had last checked in--it had been awhile!

I am so glad to hear you are doing much better :-):-)

I think you give me too much credit; I can't give anything to anyone they don't already have. Folks like yourself who are having a really bad time and are able to come out of it deserve the credit. Sure, a friend who is supportive is a help; although all the work came from within yourself.

You are a very strong person Faery--and I hope you always remeber that.

There are some examples of growth I've seen that I didn't include because of not wanting to break any confidences. I am glad you posted about your situation--I believe you will inspire someone who is having a tough time. I know you have inspired me!

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 7:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
I agree with Lance Faery, you are a strong person and by sharing your story you give hope and inspiration to others.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Friday, March 02, 2007 - 7:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Faerygdds, I have missed you. I am glad to see you post.

Faerygdds
Member

08-29-2000

Saturday, March 03, 2007 - 8:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Faerygdds a private message Print Post    
I miss you guys too! Well... Off to help yet another friend who is getting going in Mary Kay. I am going to be her face model for the day when she learns how to do facials.

BBL....

I do know that I am strong, and perhaps smart enough to know when to reach out for help, but if help isn't there.... I don't even want to think about it. :-)

Oh... and Lance... you made me cry again! (I know... not a big shocker there!) LOL

Love you all... bbl

FaeryGdds

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Sunday, March 04, 2007 - 6:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
I didn't like Lance's moderating when he started. Dang if we didn't butt heads all the time.

Lance has changed alot since then. LOL He no longer moderates 1/2 my posts.

Lancecrossfire
Animoderator

07-13-2000

Sunday, March 04, 2007 - 7:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lancecrossfire a private message Print Post    
I started being a moderator a couple months before bb2. I'd say Kearie has been unhappy with me for a long time! LOL

If anything I'm more strict than I used to be. I think some Aly Kat is going to stop getting tuna steaks now.

Kearie
Member

07-21-2005

Sunday, March 04, 2007 - 7:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
He drank the TVCH Kool-aid!

Dogdoc
Member

09-29-2001

Monday, March 05, 2007 - 9:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
I am sure that Lancecrossfire is a very fair moderator at all times. Look at his honest face. What is TVCH Kool-aid.

Kearie
Member

07-21-2005

Monday, March 05, 2007 - 10:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Ask Lance.

Faerygdds
Member

08-29-2000

Tuesday, March 06, 2007 - 8:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Faerygdds a private message Print Post    
I can't tell you what it is... I drank it and now... I ... just.... can't... divulge... secrets.....

Whew!

That was weird!

Sunshyne4u
Member

06-17-2003

Friday, March 23, 2007 - 7:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sunshyne4u a private message Print Post    
Growth.

I think that it is most interesting to me that it has been seven years and so many people stay loyal to this site. So many names are familiar yet I dont know a thing about them.

To say whom has grown in a 'positive way' could be known only when you have shared in the personal details of a person's life.

I didnt even know how diverse this site was until I was off of work and explored.

During BB1 and BB2 I was here years with a different name, rarely posting.

I kept my mouth shut about my failing health until it was affecting my ability to put sentences together in a coherent manner. then it was accepted like I was making excuses for my 'to the point' blunt way of speaking.

as my health failed, the moderation increased.

so when I see a thread about Growth, I'll suggest that it is in the 'eye of the beholder'.

I dont see the same comradery(sp) here since it is sooooooo big now.

I miss the spark of some of the discussions in BB in years past.

however, I am not a fool. We all know the occ'l spark can land on dry kindling and whooopsss A whopper of a fire!

Resortgirl
Member

09-23-2000

Thursday, March 29, 2007 - 5:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Resortgirl a private message Print Post    
Lance, as usual your words are eloquent, thoughtful and heartfelt! You epitomize TVCH for me! This board has been my lifesaver during some rough times. My friends death, my struggle with alcohol, my financial problems, and also the FIRST place I come to report my joys! My recovery, my new job, my new house.....
Even my husband Michael says, What do they think about this/that/ or the other thing on the "board"?? LOL! It's a part of who I am. So many people have touched me, it would be impossible to list them all. Skootz, Citrus & Hermi have really been strong daily supporters in my healing and sobriety. All of the folks who treked cross country to stay at our resort, gosh, who the heck does that??? TVCHers! That's who!! It's been a wonderful 6 or so years! Some tears were shed, but mostly just trying to contain my heart in my chest when it swelled with love and joy... Thats what TVCH has done for me.