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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 4:54 am
One summer Kyle got swimmer's ear several times. The doctor told me his ears had to stay dry. We bought him ear plugs at the drug store and he was supposed to wear them when he'd be getting his head wet, even in the shower.
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 5:42 am
When our son had tubes in his ears, we had to have specially fitted ear plugs made for him. They were expensive, but allowed him to shower and swim to his heart's contend.
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Jewels
Member
09-23-2000
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 7:39 am
Thanks, War. And Vee and Julie too, I forgot to thank you last night! She's lying because she thinks I am going to get mad at her. She has used that excuse for a long time. When she was potty training and, for example, we were outside playing, if she wet her pants and I asked her shy she didn't tell me she had to go, she would say, "Because I thought you would be mad at me." She says it in her whiny, pitiful me, puppy dog eyes way. If she does it that way, she thinks she will get away with it. That is exactly what she is doing with the food too. When she hides it and I find out, she can play it up and "hopefully" get away with it. She is a player and a drama queen. But I love her to pieces and wouldn't trade her for anything! I have a funny picture of her, I'll have to go find it...
 See the devil horns? 
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Jewels
Member
09-23-2000
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 7:41 am
Oops, that was a little too big!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 9:29 am
jewels it was the perfect size on my computer. and i can't believe how much she's grown! she's a little girl now!
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 9:32 am
ROFL Jewels, she's precious! I'll add my 2 Cents about the eating and the lying. She's not growing as fast as when she was little and she's not as big as her brother, yet of course she still wants a treat. Can you try giving her half a sandwich unless she finishes that and wants another half, that way she can be done with her "whole" lunch in the same time frame as her brother? I haven't read my child development books in a long while now but I'm pretty sure at Jenna's age, lying isn't the same as in an older child. At 3 she more or less doesn't have a firm grip on real and fantasy. If she wants her lunch to be gone, she finds a way to make it gone, it's real to her. Yes, she knows she's hiding her food, but gone is gone right? She will "lie" because she wants to make everyone and herself happy with the outcome, not fully understanding the difference. I bet if you asked her specifically, did all your food go into your mouth and tummy you'd get a different answer. I'm not saying as parents we have to excuse lying, or set a young child up to become a liar by taking the easy way out. I do think though that we have to be care of what exactly the child is saying and why before we label them liars. Story telling in one setting gets them accolades for imagination, yet carried over to another setting can be a bad thing. We have the hard task of teaching them when it's ok and when it's not.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 11:03 am
They are too cute! I love those younger ages like Jenna's, starting to do big kid stuff but still just a baby. Jewels, I've got to say I crack up when you talk about Jake and Jenna, because you could go back a few years and you're talking about Caleb and Kota. He was (and still is) the quiet, calm one. Rarely ever got in trouble or was difficult. Kota was the complete opposite and had those same horns, lol. It made for some fun times when she was little. I went to clean the bathroom once and was gone just a few minutes and came out to find her in the backyard lobbing eggs and tomatoes (that she'd snuck out fo the fridge) at the back fence. Or the time I walked into the bathroom and had found she'd spent several minutes opening kotex, pulling the backing off, and sticking one to each square of tile on the floor, lol. I always knew if she was being quiet, she was doing something naughty! It did get better as she got older, but there are still times those little horns pop up!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 1:33 pm
I went through this with my daughter, and got alot of the same answers when she was that age. I know you say you don't compare, but you sure did alot of comparing as you explained the situation. At her age, 'wishful thinking' is huge..if i wish it was that way it will be that way. I like the idea of a half sandwich or letting her have more control over the meal. It is perfectly alright for her to not have dessert (I think I might quit calling them treats) even if her brother does. It's a rule and rules apply to both kids. Now, the proportions of the meals don't have to be the same. I think you just keep reinforcing that 'telling the truth is important. Maybe read the story about the little boy who cried wolf.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 1:54 pm
Another idea is to have the treat at a total different time than after the meal. Or have the treat as a reward for a chore like cleaning their room as opposed to a reward for eating their whole meal.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 2:05 pm
i like Julie's idea. have the treat be an afterschool snack for the brother and maybe after nap/bath/running errand for her.
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Jewels
Member
09-23-2000
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 2:30 pm
I just typed out a long post and lost it, now I'm all frustrated. I'll try to re-type it again later, but I must be a mom first. I do want to make one thing clear and I posted this yesterday: The after lunch "treat" kind of evolved after Halloween last year. Jake would come home from school wanting candy and I would tell him that he couldn't have any until sometime after lunch. That turned into having it after he ate. I don't think that is that big of a deal...for him. It's not a reward, it's an afternoon snack he happens to have after lunch, he just happens to always eat lunch." He actually calls it his afternoon candy. He knows it is not a reward. And before anyone says they shouldn't have candy...today he had a piece of sugar-free gum and Jenna had ONE mini-tootsie roll. They are not eating a bag of m 'n m's or something. My kids eat healthy 95% of the time, Jake is thrilled to be having a piece of gum. Texannie, can you clarify this for me: "I know you say you don't compare, but you sure did alot of comparing as you explained the situation. That confuses my tired brain, I don't recall comparing anyone or anything.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 2:37 pm
I just typed out a long post and lost it, now I'm all frustrated. I'll try to re-type it again later ACK! don't you hate that! Maybe not so much comparing as saying 'well, Jake never did this' or 'Jake doesn't do this'. I have found that my kids never did anything the same way! LOL I don't think anyone is saying you are giving them bags of candy. My kids (which are almost 17 and 12) have ice cream pretty much every night and have for years.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 3:37 pm
Help. My 7 yr old son (Ryan) was playing very nicely w/ 7 yr old neighbor (Andrew) all afternoon. All is going nicely when another 7 yr old (Brent) neighbor comes over. Then A seems to want to "upgrade" by trying to dump R for B. He tries to invite Brent to his house but not Ryan. I nix that idea. Then A has to go home for dinner. He tries again to have B go with him. I say no, you have to eat dinner. You are welcome to come back after dinner. Then Brent tells me that Andrew called Ryan a fa**ot. I am stunned. Ryan asks what that is and I tel him it is just a really bad word. Question. Do I "narc" on the kid or not? I am leaning towards not, but I would also like to nip this in the bud. (similar stuff has happened before. In fact I am sure A was only playing with R today because the kids he typically plays with were gone for the day.) Also it never was that "crucial" before, as Ryan went to a different school last year. But this year, they will attend the same school. I am very worried that A will try to make himself feel better by talking badly about R to other kids, especially because A knows R and the other kids don't. (Oh, when A called R a fa**ot, it was behind Ryan' back. He did not say it directly to him. If that makes any difference...)
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 3:51 pm
3 kids together suck! LOL how reliable is the informer/tattletale? you can tell the child that name calling is not welcome in your house and if he can't abide by your rules, he will have to leave. as to school, the only thing you can do is give Ryan the tools on how to deal with A. You can't change A's behavior. google Love and Logic. I think they have a pretty good article on bully proofing your kids.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 4:12 pm
Start inviting B over instead of A. R will form a better bond with B, who seems to me is a nicer child, he did tell you what A said, so he really isn't too concerned with A's friendship, but already is showing protectiveness toward R, as he told you what A said.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 4:58 pm
all "A" knows is it is a bad word. I would do exactly what annie said about name calling not being in your house. I would also tell his parent's that name calling is not allowed at your home, and let them know what their son did.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 5:01 pm
what landi said.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 5:36 pm
So, yes on telling the kid's parents? I am pretty sure Brent would not just make that up. Especially seeing how he wanted to make sure I didn't tell Andrew. Uggh. It's only gonna get more complicated as he gets older, isn't it? I wish a timeout or toilet training or something was our biggest problem!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 5:45 pm
Oh, I have tried inviting B over. But he is kind of a fickle kid and he usually says no. In fact I was very surprised that he came over on his own. It may have been only because A was over. But I don't know for sure. He is almost 8 and really in a different "zone" that Ryan is. Ryan is much younger mentally that Brent, so they don't really (usually) click.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 6:42 pm
My rule of thumb has always been to handle it directly with the child unless it was life threatening or illegal. Parents get very protective when their children are criticized.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 6:52 pm
I'm with Texannie. I would definitely talk to the kids first and see if that takes care of it.
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Friday, August 11, 2006 - 6:38 am
I know we have a joke thread but this just lightened my day so I had to share it with all you parents here. THE BIRTH ORDER OF CHILDREN Your Clothes: 1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy. 2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible. 3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes. ______________________________________________________ Preparing for the Birth: 1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously. 2nd baby: You don't bother because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing. 3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your eighth month. ______________________________________________________ The Layette: 1st baby: You pre-wash newborn's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau. 2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains. 3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they? ______________________________________________________ Worries: 1st baby: At the first sign of distress-a whimper, a frown-you pick up the baby. 2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn. 3rd baby: You teach your three-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing. ____________________________________________________ Pacifier: 1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it. 2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle. 3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in. ______________________________________________________ Diapering: 1st baby: You change your baby's diapers every hour, whether they need it or not. 2nd baby: You change their diaper every two to three hours, if needed. 3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees. ______________________________________________________ Activities: 1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour. 2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics. 3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner. ______________________________________________________ Going Out: 1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home five times. 2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached. 3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood. ______________________________________________________ At Home: 1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby. 2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby. 3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children. ------------------------------------------------------------------ Swallowing Coins (a favorite): 1st child: When first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays. 2nd child: When second child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for the coin to pass. 3rd child: When third child swallows a coin you deduct it from his allowance!
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Graceunderfyre
Member
01-22-2004
| Wednesday, August 16, 2006 - 10:35 am
now I understand why my mom's concerned about our only child - we're nowhere near that 1st baby behavior!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, August 16, 2006 - 11:51 am
LOL Grace. A couple weeks ago I watched my newest baby nephew. He was 7 weeks old at the time (or thereabouts.) Now he's my 7th niece/nephew, plus I have 2 kids of my own, everyone in the family knows if they need a babysitter, no matter how young or how many kids to call me. I've got some experience, lol. Anyways, she brings little nephew over and I got to laughing about all the stuff she brought: 2 diaper bags, swing, blankets, toys, etc etc etc (Ya'll know what it's like with that first baby!) Then she asked me, quite seriously, do you want me to write you a letter with all his care instructions in it? I shoved down the giggles, and just as seriously told her to leave me a bottle, a diaper, and some wipes and we'd be fine. She looked at me horrified, LOL. I had to usher her out the door at that point cuz I couldn't contain my amusement over new mothers much longer (and don't get me wrong, as a new mom I was just as bad, lol!) She called me about half an hour later and asked me if he was still here. I squashed down the urge to ask where exactly she might have thought her 7 week old baby went to and told her that he ran away and she didn't even need to come by for his stuff, lol. She accused me of trying to keep him, hehe, well heck yeah, he's a little sweetheart and the happiest baby I've ever seen and she doesn't share him enough! 
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, August 19, 2006 - 1:37 am
Dakota's got another ear infection. When I took her prescription over to the pharmacy and was waiting I grabbed some more children's motrin and saw the homeopathic ear drops (similason) and picked some up. I haven't used them yet on her because the label says if there's drainage not to use it. I seen none, the dr didn't mention any, but I know alot of her ear infections are caused by her allergies/sinus' draining and wanted to ask her doctor about that. Has anyone used them though? Do they work well? The problem we're having is that she's taking the motrin for fever, but it's wearing off (at least from stopping the pain) about 2 hours before her next dose. Been using the heating pad for her for short periods of time and that helps for a while.
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