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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 5:30 pm
Yes it is! You are good! I am so glad it still exists. It is the best color ever. A red that goes with everything. Why am I not a bit surprised that your polish is aubergine?
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 5:34 pm
Lol. Well order as much as you can just in case. It's a nice color. Rn my fingers are a metallic shade of pink.
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 5:51 pm
Max, your nails go with your cat! What a beautiful kitty!
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 10:33 pm
Well, if you saw what I did to take that picture, you would know why Ellie the cat was looking at me funny. I had the camera balanced on a book, which we balanced on my lap. Then I had a pen in my mouth poised over the shutter button on the camera so I could take the picture hands-free! LOL OPI colors are the best. There's such a range and they have such great names. Smokin' in Havana is a nice shade, but a bit too orange-ish for my skin tones. For me, the I'm not really a waitress color goes with everything. The party was nice tonight, but the casino wasn't very busy. We were there for four hours and I probably only dealt for about 45 minutes total. Lots of local 'celebs' since it was held at the home of a local newscaster. Great people-watching. They had a silent and an oral auction with great items, including a trip to New York that included tickets to see Letterman. Needless to say, there were some big bucks involved! Mocha, I've always wanted to get rhinestones on my nails, but never have. I bet your fingers and toes look great!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 10:09 am
Thx Max. I love getting them on my toes for when I wear sandals in the summer. Going to see Mary J Blige on Wednesday so I needed something special.
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 11:28 am
A friend sent me this today and I thought it would fit perfectly in this thread. Why Older Chicks Rule ~ by Andy Rooney from CBS "60 Minutes". Andy Rooney says: As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why: A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting. A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing. Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 40 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know. A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress! Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Now 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.
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Jeep
Member
10-17-2001
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 12:27 pm
I love it Max! I've heard the pig/sausage thing, but I didn't know it came from Andy Rooney. Perfect!
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 1:12 pm
I love it too but the author isn't Andy Rooney--it's Frank Kaiser. http://www.snopes.com/politics/soapbox/rooney2.asp
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 2:12 pm
Ah, now see I didn't check snopes this time! Oh well, no matter who the author is, I like it! On a related subject, I have a friend who told me the story of one of his friend's recent dating experiences. The subject of the story is a guy in his 40s who is divorced and really not all the keen about getting married ever again. It seems he went to a gathering where he met a gal from a city about 3 hours away. They are close to the same age, both very educated and have wry senses of humor, and lots of other things in common. They hit it off immediately and ended up spending the weekend together. Over the next week, after she returns home, they talk a lot and he makes plans to go visit her. When he gets there, things seem fine. Then she drops the 'L-word' on him! After ONE weekend and a week's worth of email and phone calls! EEK! He, of course, got scared silly and broke it off with her. My question is, by the time a woman is in her 40s, haven't we all learned a little bit about men? At least enough to know that if you drop the 'L-word' too soon, you're gonna scare the bejeebers out of most of them? Heck, if a guy did that to me, I'd run scared, too! So maybe it's less of a man/woman thing than it is a maturity thing in general. I told my friend that all hope isn't lost, though. I've had friends (much younger friends) go through this kind of thing and months later the guy calls the gal and says he can't stop thinking about her and they try again. One friend in just that situation ended up married to the guy and they now have two kids and are quite happy together. You just never know. I guess it just always surprises me that men and women don't understand each other a little more than they do -- especially once they've reached 40 and beyond. 
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 3:35 pm
Oh, I would have run in the other direction, too. I sometimes do that just when they want to date me! To say they love me too soon....that would terrify me. I think part of it for me is that I see love as a commitment. A lot of people look at it as simply a feeling. You just have to interpret what language the other one is hearing!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 3:37 pm
Oh wow yesitsme......it is a commitment, not just a feeling. Well put.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 8:37 pm
But as feelings go it's one of the best. How does that song "Desperado" go? You better let somebody love you, before it's too late. I remember some woman kissing me inappropriately on a first date. She was a great kisser, but there was no foundation for so much emotion/passion. It scared me and got me interested both at the same time...
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 9:29 pm
Whether or not the gal FELT love or even felt a commitment after such a short time is really not the question. It's more about understanding that the other person may not be moving equally as fast and that timing is everything. Once you're in your 40s, I guess I just HOPE that people have reached a maturity level where they understand that sometimes discretion is the better part of valor and that no matter what YOU may be feeling, expressing it too soon to the other party could have exactly the OPPOSITE effect you desire. The stereotype is that women are the ones to plan ahead too quickly and scare off the men; that men need to be given more time and space to gradually get used to the idea of entering into a serious relationship. At 40+, I would expect women to understand that about men. But maybe I expect too much. As with all stereotypes, there's usually some truth, however, as I said before, if the tables were turned and a guy moved that quickly with me, I'd be running in the opposite direction, too. Yes, the tinglies of beginning love (usually more infatuation at that stage) are wonderful. But as 40-something people, I would expect (there's that word again) that maturity would override hormones and tinglies and put a bit of a speedometer on things. Tinglies are all well and good, but they're the stuff of infatuation. If you can hold on to a little of them after being together for many years, then you're ahead of the game. But true love changes and deepens and goes way beyond the tinglies as it does. 
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 9:38 pm
Self-edited. 
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Friday, August 04, 2006 - 5:28 am
I'm probably agreeing with you Max. I love the tinglies. I miss them. Not sure that love really changes and deepens. Maybe it just ends. Maybe there's really only the tinglies. What's wrong with infatuation? It's a heckuva good feeling. I wish I was infatuated with someone now. Baby boomers aren't as likely to jump into something. I think we recognize infatuation. Personally I treasure it. Makes you feel young again. Maturity. I know that previously I've said some impetuous things like, if some girl smiled at me, well, I'd sell my townhouse and move in with her right away. I was just trying to be an entertaining writer and trying to emphasize the desire for affection, how sweet it would be to be infatuated again. Maturity. Nothing lasts. That's my cup half empty view. I think if a woman came on strong to me now, I'd smile, step back, enjoy it, and also say, "Slow down girl." As baby boomers we can see clearly what's happening. The tinglies feel good. But maturity helps you see the baggage too, the problems, the downside, the compromises. More and more I'm getting more comfortable living alone. Hell, I've been doing it since l997. It's a habit by now...
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Friday, August 04, 2006 - 4:20 pm
Oh, I love that infatuation stage if it is light and breezy....but if he is too infatuated too early I am wondering what is wrong with him! Not that I have major self esteem issues....I am a good girlfriend. I'm relatively easily amused, pretty even-tempered, don't expect people to be perfect. But I guess I also think I am somewhat complicated and I don't trust someone rushing to judgement...even if that judgement is good! I'd rather them be a bit fascinated and puzzled by me. Though I often shy away from commitment and in some ways even serious relationships, at heart I am optimistic about them. I do believe I will find the love of my life and I do believe it will be wonderful. I don't mind compromising. I want to share my life with someone. I don't have much in common with perfect people, so I prefer flawed human beings and am not surprised by them. But I look at my parents walking around holding hands and smiling at each other, minutes after they have argued about some petty something, and I say "I want that."
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 5:25 am
I recall breaking up with my wife, moving out (we were living in sin <gasp>) and then staying in my pal's apartment (he was out of town), staring at the walls, age 37, thinking: "I've already lived THIS WAY". I've done the single thing long enough. Sure she isn't perfect. But who is? Neither am I. We only have a few things to work out. Why not give it a try? Who am I gonna find that's better? Dates are few and far between. Who really dates anyway that I know? Either I try again with her or maybe I don't hook up with anyone again until I'm 40! Time is running out. Staring at the walls... Isn't that the decision? Either make an imperfect decision or wait for more perfect to come along? Take a risk or do nothing and wake up an old maid or a "confirmed bachelor". I say I made the wrong choice, picked the wrong woman, but at least I tried. I did experience family life for awhile. At least I have kids who I am not close to, scattered across the country. Who knows? Maybe we can mean something to each other down the road. At least I tried...
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 5:29 am
How many people actually find "true love?" What's wrong with infatuation? The tinglies? I'd take the tinglies over feeling nothing anyday of my lonesome week. A friend has a saying: it's better to feel something (pain?) than to feel nothing at all! I think his point was that we discount feelings too much in our middle class world. It's all about intellect. Making good decisions. Thinking. Feeling is where all the fun is. Feeling loved. Feeling warm, close to another, feeling happy, feeling excited, feeling the tinglies!
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 5:54 am
confirmed bachelorette here.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 10:14 am
My brother is in throes of a marriage ending right now and there are no words fit to describe it except ugly. One of the most horrifying things I have experienced...and this from the outside (sort of.) I think if you were to ask him right now if the greatest days of joy were worth it, he would say "Only because it gave me my kids." Even on my worse days, have I experienced the kind of pain he is feeling? Nope. And yet I feel I have experienced great joy. I am well loved and get many opportunities to love in return. I experience warmth, closeness to others, I feel happy, feel excited, and have ample oppportunity to feel the tinglies. While I have not yet met the love of my life, I know my life is far better than most. I know who I am, I know what I like, I laugh often every day. I don't have a spouse or a boyfriend at the moment, but a lot of quality men love me. About a month ago a married male friend of mine at work looked at me and said "You have the most fun life." I thought about it a bit, knowing the stresses of doing it on my own and the occasional frustration of not having a man I'm in love with, and then laughed and said "You know, I really do." Because it is really fun. But it would be if I got married, too, because that's how I choose my life to be. I am a big believer in attitude... whatever my circumstances, I choose to find something to enjoy. I don't like to waste days worrying about what I am not....what I am is more than adequate. I'm not a confirmed bachelorette, but if a bachelorette is all that I ever am, I am not ever going to be the sad and lonely spinster! And on a totally different plain....I may be getting ready to buy my first house. I've been phobic about it for a long time. I have enjoyed knowing I am free to go at any time. On top of it, I will probably have my brother and his kids living with me. I haven't lived with anyone for years and years. He and I get along well, and other than him being a bit over-protective, I forsee no major problems. His kids are awesome and I love being around them, so they are no problem either (they are 12 and 14.) That being said, I know it will be so different for me and I am not looking at it all with rose-colored glasses. As I told my brother, I am not looking at this as a lifetime thing, but just until his kids are out on their own (my brother works weird hours, so will need someone stable to keep the kids on track.) Anyway, has anyone else experienced anything like this and any words of advice? You all know I am over-analytical and have thought the whole thing through from all directions I can come up with, but I know there are things I probably haven't considered.
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Colordeagua
Member
10-25-2003
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 4:16 pm
Yesitsme, no experience like that. I am an only child of older parents (now deceased), never married, no kids. All that = no family. About 25 years ago I met the guy who I consider to be the love of my life. After two or three go-rounds during the years, he permanently moved on about 12 years ago already. (But ya never know?) Think I'd have a hard time living with anyone except him. Life could be better, but it sure could be a whole lot worse. If my family circumstances and one job in particular had been different, I don't know that I could have retired early as I did. I don't live BIG, but I certainly live comfortably. So I have much to be thankful for -- and I AM. (That includes a cancer diagnosis which was caught very early. I do hope I'll never hear the "C" word again.) And I firmly believe that you never know what surprises are around the corner. I'm expecting nothing but good things. I've already had a few.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 8:48 pm
I'm wondering why the Mother doesn't get the kids? Will there be kid shuttling? Does she get them on the weekends? That sort of thing. What do the kids feel about their Mother abandoning them? Do they love their Mother? Kids have a way of playing "good cop vs. bad cop". "Mom let's us stay up til 1am on the weekends, why are you so mean?" That sort of thing. I remember my kids hated being shuttled over to my ex's first ex husband's house for the weekends. Good luck, Yes. I'm guessing that you and your brother have similar views on discipline, lifestyle, morality, right and wrong, and so forth. I know me and my ex, all we did was fight over how to raise the kids, and they were good kids too. You two, being brother and sister, not man & wife, well, that shouldn't be an issue I assume, but you know what happens when you assume...
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Sunday, August 06, 2006 - 7:40 am
We figure there will be a joint custody situation... three days with one parent, three with the other. Seems to be how it is done around here with most people I know. So the kids won't be there all of the time, and when my brother is around he will be fully in charge of them. I'm known as "the fun aunt" and often I think my nieces and nephews all feel like I am their age! Still, I believe that discipline is important and have always felt comfortable making sure they respect me, others and themselves when they are around me. I can switch from role to role quite easily and they seem to flow right with me. I have kept these kids for weekends and we have always had a wonderful time. Still, I know the day to day is going to be more difficult... especially for hormonally driven teenagers! My brother is an absolutely wonderful father....one of the best I have ever seen. He gives them much love and security. In some ways I think that most of my support will be to him. He never planned to be divorced. He is quite shaken right now. It's tough to really face the fact that you can't change other people, and sometimes you just have to make the decision that is best for you and your kids. He'll be fine, but raw for a while. I just want to support him until his equilibrium comes back.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Sunday, August 06, 2006 - 9:00 am
Dealing with the ex. Joint custody. Modern life. Good luck, Yes. It won't be easy. It'll be a challenge. Other families do it; so you can too. Your brother is lucky to have you. In fact, what would he do without you? Did they try marriage counseling? What's the major issue that can't be fixed? Why can't they work it out?
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, August 06, 2006 - 9:14 am
Joint custody should be fine as long as both don't take out the issues they have with themselves on the kids. Such as not letting them see the other parent for some reason that has nothing to do with the kids. Went thru that as a kid and it was not fun.
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