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Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
Mocha, you're a 15, stop trying to make this thread about you mmmkay? Us 5's don't like the competition

any man would be lucky to have mocha, she's wonderful and beautiful beyond belief...she just has small feet..so those of you who lurk and are interested, be forward, those small feet can kick some major ass

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Lolol!

Grannyg
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05-28-2002

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Grannyg a private message Print Post    
Yay!!! Zmom!! You are so right about Mocha. Thanks Baby but I'm sure no one will listen. This is like talking to my 25 year old son. Tomorrow he will be 26!! He just knew it had to be beauty on the outside and when he got the prom queen she turned into <something else>. Now he has an adorable girlfriend that in Newman's eyes would be a 3 but he found out that 3's can be 10's. Don't get me wrong, she is gorgeous. Just not a little petite person but she can hold her own with him and he needs that. After all, he is the baby.

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Baby
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01-08-2006

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 12:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Well, I am listening Grannyg and I think you are right on in your thoughts! You know, I really, really don't like this labeling people with numbers thing. I just find it shallow and degrading.

I think we all are a combination of numbers and not just a single one. Our looks may be one number, while our personality may be another one, and yet our health another and so on and so on.
The sum of those numbers is what is important as far as I am concerned. In other words, the whole package.

Sounds like your son is wising up to what is important. Good for him Grannyg! My son is a bit older than that and he still hasn't wised up yet. Hopefully, someday he will!

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 12:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
While it has clearly changed and Newman is clear about not wanting advice now, the post that kicked off this thread did use that word.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 12:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
And of course others in the thread may be benefitting from the advice and the discussion...

I agree about Mocha!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 12:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
haha

Tater
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03-19-2003

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 12:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tater a private message Print Post    
<Funny thing about attractivness, a 10 can go to a 2 in a matter of minutes, once they open their mouth.> Zmom.

That is so true Zmom! LOL! I have also found many a man who by all appearances are a 5. Once they open their heart they become a 10.

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
Ahhh Tater ... I'm so with you on that. Very nice!!

Landi
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07-29-2002

Friday, June 30, 2006 - 2:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
i just wanna meet the guy who looked like travis tritt in my dream last night... what? this ole ring.. there's NO ring <hinding left hand>

Yesitsme
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08-24-2004

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 9:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yesitsme a private message Print Post    
Awwww....come on Newman. Stay and play. Some of the kids do like you.

I understand the feelings of one day wanting to date and the next saying it isn't worth the hassle. I think that's totally normal. I also agree that you must find someone attractive to you. My desires are not so physically based as yours, but my friends still say that I am too picky. I want a certain spark in someone's eye that shows kindness, humor, intelligence and vitality....I think that's even more difficult to find than a perfect body and even harder than finding a 7!

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 9:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Good post Yes, and I agree...come back and play. Your like the mischievous child on the playground ... and without you, we never get to hear the whistle. Im always drawn to where the excitment is..

Lancecrossfire
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07-13-2000

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 2:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lancecrossfire a private message Print Post    
Newman, I post now and then too. :-)

I can relate to you Newman about being a person who fixes things. It's who I am. I am a problem solver too. Like you, it's tough to just listen without doing anything. It's also tough for me to understand the value of talking about an issue without any intent to do something about it.

One thing I do realize though--no matter how much I don't get it, there are people who do get value out of it. You mention of how it seems it should be just as easy to say it to a wall--or a pillow or some object.

You mention that with your ex you felt hurt after she vented. Newman, I think she must have vented in a way that made it personal to you. If a person really is just venting, it isn't a personal thing to the person that is the listener. I am so bad about solving issues that if a person says "I just want to vent" or I just want to talk" I ask if they want any feedback at all or for me just to listen.

I have to do that so I don't make any mistake about what they want--because as you, I'd try to come up with solutions if I don't know I'm just there to listen.

As to why folks don't vent to objects, maybe it's because as humans we want to be heard. And if we can be heard by someone we care about, maybe it helps a bit more? I'm not sure--just a guess.

Oh, I do vent at objects for the most part. The other times I vent, I think I'm trying to listen out loud to see if I can figure anything else out.

Hang in there Newman. I root for you every day.

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 7:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
Are we off the dating subject yet? My DH does not allow me to date. So I have nothing to add about about dating.

However, as a Baby Boomer I discovered something that does not make me very happy with myself.

If we are done with dating let me know.

Max
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08-12-2000

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 7:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
Okay, Biloxibelle, I'm curious! Spill! :-)

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 7:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
PLEASE, Skip away Biloxibelle, any thing is worth investagating..LOL..looking forward to your topic.... HI Max!!

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 8:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
LOL this would be much more exciting if DH allowed me to date.

But here goes. I am finding that as I age I am getting more set in my ways. Almost rigid. Things that I didn't worry about or let bother me are getting to be issues with me. They are selfish things.

Here are my two examples. Four years ago we found 4 acres of land in a very quiet area on the bayou. We hired a builder and built our house. Fast forward said builder has now bought up 25 acres right above us. He is now building a subdivison. They are putting in 60 houses. So far one of the houses looks exactly like mine. Now I know logically he had every right to do that. But personally it makes me so damn mad! He also started what I call a chain reaction. Just this past week they have cleared off two more lots on the road coming in. Outside of this subdivsion. Someone else has found "my" bayou! So now my nice peaceful bayou is becoming a home building free for all! One neighbor is even letting his beautiful pond dry up and is going to fill it in because he is worried about the liability of children moving into the area.

Next! The Indians own a lot of land not far from my house. They are wanting to put a casino there. Now I love going to the casino. However, all the casino are in Biloxi. I want them to stay in Biloxi. I want it to be Biloxi dealing with all of that. I don't want them messing up my town. I think as I get older I not becoming a very nice person. I used to think of the "other guy". Now I'm finding I think more of myself and how things effect me.

Max
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08-12-2000

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 8:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
I don't think these are examples of being too rigid at all. They are simply examples of you expecting to have a nice home out in the country and now suburbanization is creeping in and you don't like it. Perfectly understandable and a continuing problem.

I have friends who built a really nice home about 10 years ago. When they built it, there were fields all around them and their part of 'town' was extremely rural. Now there are homes all over the place, a new shopping center down the street, a new school nearby, etcetera. They are not pleased. Unfortunately, prices of large parcels of land around here have gone up exponentially and they can't afford to sell and rebuild somewhere that's still rural. It irks the heck outta them and I can't say as I blame them.

The subdivision I'm in was a field 10 years ago. The house I lived in before this one had several large fields less than a block away. Now they are occupied by houses, shopping centers, condos, and townhomes.

Ah, the price of progress.

Now, if you had said that you now find that your day is completely ruined if your DH puts his toothbrush in the holder facing east instead of west, THAT would be rigidity! LOL

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 8:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Or maybe he came home one day and said he had the perfect guy for you to "date", wouldnt that be somthing. No, I totally understand how you feel, Its so sad and Im so sorry that you are loosing your wonderfull space to all theas homes. I love my privacy and only wish I had a plot of land on a mountain side with a creek and space for my dog to run wild all day with out leashes... I think how you feel is totally normal.. I have no answer but the first thing that came to my mind while reading your post, I started singing Joni Mitchell,
"paved paradise and put in a parking lot" ...la la la la... Chin up!!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 8:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
You can always date your dh. And no you don't sound rigid.

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 9:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
LOL I feel better about myself. I just have a hard time moving past the fact I built a house above my neighbors. Which BTW I never gave it a second thought of moving into their area. But now people are moving into mine! I think I just wanted to find out that as I age I'm not the only one that is not as easy going as I used to be. 10 - 20 years ago.

ROFL Chewpito. If he came home and said that he wouldn't be coming home any longer. For the record I don't allow him to date either.

Mocha, we had a date tonight. Since S is gone for 2 weeks we try to do things we don't normally get to do. First we took the whole famn damily out to dinner. The we took DH sister and her husband down to the casino (which is in Biloxi) for about an hour.

Max, I guess you realize that when I go to get ready for bed I will now be looking to see which way DH toothbrush is facing. If it happens to be facing east I will quietly turn it west and send a smile in your direction.

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 10:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
Biloxi, there is nothing wrong with being territorial. Max, I don't want somebody else's toothbrush bristles facing the bristles on mine. Ack, the thought of it. (actually I only have to worry about that when realtives come).

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 2:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Biloxi you sound fine, just sad/annoyed that your dream home area is being invaded. Makes sense to me, how you feel...

And I only wish I could get my dh to 'date' me. He's great if things are slippy but if everything is fine, he rarely bothers. Big sigh. He is fixated on his own interests, chess, poker, bridge, and he loves to shop more than I do. LOL. I am a princess and love to dine out, go dancing, fun activities together. What burns my butt is that if ANYONE ELSE suggests an activity, he's okay with it, and will usually go... When friends ask me if 'we' will do something with them, I always suggest that they have a better chance of an 'affirmative' answer if they ask him directly. If I ask, it's usually a no before I finish speaking. Argh!

ETA - I do get my way sometimes, but he's either got to be in a great mood before I bring it up, or I just nag the poor soul to death. LOL. (I'm still dreaming of that cruise I want to go on before I die or am too old to enjoy it. I don't think he'd mind if I went, he just doesn't want to go. And to me, what's the point without him. Mind you if some pals were going and I could afford it, I might consider it... Ya listenin' Dearie... But finances are tight this summer so its not likely anyways. )

Whooops, methinks I'm off topic? Sorry.

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 3:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
No Mame, your not off topic, no topic is off limits and actually you brought up somthing that I was just thinking about while coming home from running errands... YOU wrote.."befor I die" any way just taking those 3 words and running with them... I know alot of us here are single.."raise your hand" and alot are not... this could go eather way... but I think its a good boomer topic... Have you all made your will out... If you havent are you going to soon, have you given it much thought? If your single and have no one to leave any thing to, who will you leave your vast riches (lol) too.. I havent made my will out yet, I keep saying I need to, but for some reason I keep putting it off, but I really should just do it.. Allright, am intrested to hear what you all have to say...

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 3:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
I made my will out several months ago. My stuff (estate) goes to my sister or my niece or my niece's children if she has any. Otherwise I have designated 3 charities.I also have a living will and I have paid off my cremation and burial services. A tip that my lawyer gave me and which I have done is to put the papers in the refrigerator hydrator. In case of fire, the refrigerator doesn't burn and since a lot of people know to put the papers there the firemen will look for them. Thanks for asking the question Chewpito.