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Secretsmile
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08-19-2002
| Friday, January 27, 2006 - 9:09 am
The ped we went to when my kids were young always told me, under 101, let nature work, that small of a fever would help fight off the infection, over 101, alternate advil and tylenol every 4 hours, 103 call him immediately. Keep the fluids flowing in and out as much as possible. It seemed like pretty good logic to my husband and I and it's the basic formula we followed.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, February 06, 2006 - 12:56 am
Sigh..I am getting so frustrated and I know the kids are as well. Last week they were exposed to my niece who was diagnosed with strep throat as well as me. Dakota spent the week bouncing back and forth between not feeling well and feeling good, even spiking small fevers, but ended up not coming down with anything (trust me I'm not complaining about that!) Now this weekend my youngest niece has gotten sick and of course the kids spent a couple days with them. Caleb came home yesterday feeling kind of lousy, then feeling well. Today it was more of the same, he had times where he felt ok, but more of laying around and running a low fever. I put the kids in bed and he went right to sleep, then woke up a couple hours ago and came out to tell me his tummy hurt. I got him settled on the couch and let him watch tv til he fell asleep, checked his temp and it was down. Then about 20 minutes later he calls MOM and I turn around and he's puking all over the place. Now he's back to sleeping peacefully, no fever. It's so frustrating for both us and them and exhausting for them as well. The night Kota was up and down she had maybe three hours of sleep, and so far it's shaping up to be about the same for him. It's also frustrating as heck trying to figure out if they need to stay home or go to school (I mean if it's strep and it's not yet showing, I really don't want to expose a whole classroom full of kids, but at the same time I don't want to keep them home if they're feeling well enough to go and don't have strep.) Does anyone else deal with this type of stuff where there fine for a while and then sick, then fine. We've been doing it for years with Kota, she's the type to get sick, be sick, get well, then get sick again, along with staying sick longer and worse with her asthma, and we pretty much accept with her that's how it is. But, it's odd for Caleb to do this. He gets sick, 24 hours later he's healthy again.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 5:42 pm
Ok -- what do you do with a child who has started lying to try to get his own way? Three times in about 2 months (two of them on the same DAY!) my son has lied when trying to get something. Today, it was a "small" lie -- he told me when I picked him up from school that he had asked DH about having a friend over on Sat. and that he and friend had made the arrangements. Later this evening, DH and I were talking and DH mentioned that I had forgotten they were going to his parents when I let DS have a friend over. THAT'S when we discovered that DS had NOT talked to DH until this evening on the way to piano lessons. Needless to say, DS is NOT having a friend over for a week, but the thing that bothers me is that at one point he said he was upset that I hadn't apoologized! He got the message very firmly that I was NOT the one who had done something wrong. We've talked about trust, how lying breaks that trust, etc. and all three times he has been punished. I know that part of it is the manipulation of a pre-teen to see what he can and can't get away with, but I am ready to pull my hair out! Honesty is the one thing we have always, always pushed for in our house. I don't even lie to telemarketers! Any and all advice would be much appreciated -- I want to nip this in the bud so that I don't have a lying teenager in a couple of years.
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Maris
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03-28-2002
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 5:57 pm
I think that is a good start, letting him know the lie got him nowhere. For me, I have a 14 year old and the one thing, as it looks like you have done, is impressed that lying is right up there with stealing. I have told my son that if he ever lies to me, it will all be over. He knows that I mean it. I would just come down hard on lying especially if it is an older child. At this point you know that he knows that lying is wrong. he also knows that his relationship with his parents is the ultimte trust relationship. You will never lie to him just as he shouldnt lie to you. What I have told my son is that I am the one who will have his back, at school and everywhere else at all times and that is because I know he doesnt lie to me. I told him if I ever caught him in a lie, then that would be over because If in the future it was his word against a teacher's, I would have to question if he was telling the truth. I have told him that he needs to understand the full price of lying to me and in the end like all lies, he will only hurt himself.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 5:57 pm
Put him out.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 7:48 pm
With the trash?? LOL It is times like these where I have to count to about 1000 not to "take him out"!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 10:24 am
We're bringing a our six year old to a wake today. It dh's great aunt who was 92 so she did live a good long life. Any advice for any questions he might have about death, etc. would be appreciated...
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 10:53 am
Julie, I'm sorry to hear about your hubby's aunt. Be prepared for lots of questions that might not make sense or seem inappropriate. Kids around that age don't have a really firm grasp of death yet and they're trying to understand during a time that the people closest to them are struggling themselves. My five year old nephew was popping off one question after another during his grandmas funeral, everything from why is papa crying, why is everyone so sad, is grandma really in that box to wondering if his mom would let him put his shorts on after the funeral and asking if they could go to Chuck E. Cheese when we were done. He wasn't trying to be rude or anything but at his age death is such a big question anyways and well, he's always full of questions that sometimes have no connection to whats going on around him. Be prepared for the big ones, why did she die, did she really go to heaven, whys so and so sad or crying. Answer him honestly but keep the answers at a level he understands. I know with out kids and neices and nephews they were curious, but also in need of reassurance that grandma was in a better place (she had cancer) and that it wasn't going to happen to them or someone else they love. We can't promise them nothing will happen, but we can reassure them and ease their fears. Also if there's going to be other kids there, don't be surprised to see him run off and play. It seemed like as soon as we were done with the funeral and the graveside service the kids realized how many cousins were there and that was it. Maybe it is a coping mechanism, they can't handle that much sadness all at once and need to distract themselves. We haven't experienced the death of an older realitve yet. Both my step father (he was 44) and bils mother (she was 50) were fairly young, even though her illness lasted for almost a year, both were pretty sudden, and both of them were close to the kids (visiting several times a week, taking them out for awhile, etc.) We experienced for months, sudden bouts of tears and sadness that seemed to come out of nowhere, loss of appetite, spacey-ness, trouble sleeping and nightmares. I don't know how close your son was to his great aunt, but from what we went through with the kids it has not been unusual for them to pop up with questions relating to these losses weeks and months later.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 11:12 am
Thanks Wargod! I know it would be easier to leave him with my mom, but I think it is important for him to know about the cycle of life...
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 11:41 am
He's old enough to pay his respects though. It might be easier to leave him home (I hope this doesn't come out sounding wrong!) but, this sounds like a pretty gentle way to introduce the subject of death to him. There's a different feel to the grief and sadness of losing someone who's lived a very long and good life than the grief and sadness surrounding the death of someone who died years too son.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 12:02 pm
That's what I was thinking. It's much easier to explain the cycle of life when a person was able to go "full circle" so to speak. I would still want to take him even if it were someone who died young, but I agree that introducing him to death this way is a bit easier...
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 5:21 pm
Julie, You might be surprised, too. My son was only 8 when my grandfather died. We lived 6 hours away, so I wouldn't say they were horribly close, but he was saddened by his great-grandpa's death. On the day of the funeral, my aunt was a basket case -- she was the one who had lived w/grandpa for the past year, and she has always had a very difficult time accepting the death of loved ones. Now, she was NOT hysterical or anything, but she had a hard time even talking w/o breaking down. At the funeral, we were sitting behind my mom and aunt. I don't even remember how it happened, but my barely 8 year old DS ended up sitting beside her. He held her hand the entire funeral and would lean in close to her once in awhile like he was giving her a sideways hug. I know how much she appreciated it, and I was very proud of the way he handled it.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 10:09 pm
They're amazing aren't they Teach? Caleb spent the weeks leading up to grandma Denise's death (this is bils mom, but the kids were close to her) talking to my two oldest nephews about how he felt after Grandpa David died and how it was ok to be sad and cry. At the funeral, we found Caleb and the two nephews off away from everyone else talking and crying, arms around each other. They really choked me up, an 8 yr old and two 9 year olds and they helped each other through. How'd it go Julie?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Saturday, February 11, 2006 - 7:42 am
He was really good. When we went to her body, we said a prayer and he was just fine. Not freaked and didn't even question much at all. So funny I was so worried...
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:28 am
The Price of Children I have repeatedly seen the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way. It's nice...really nice! The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock! That doesn't even touch college tuition. But $160,140 isn't so bad if you break it down. It translates into: * $8,896.66 a year, * $741.38 a month, or * $171.08 a week * That's a mere $24.24 a day! * Just over a dollar an hour. Still you might think the best financial advice is don't have children if you want to be "rich." Actually, it is just the opposite. What do you get for your $160,140? * Naming rights. First, middle, and last! * Glimpses of God every day. * Giggles under the covers every night. * More love than your heart can hold. * Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs. * Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies. * A hand to hold, usually covered with jelly or chocolate * A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites, building sand castles, and skipping down the sidewalk in the pouring rain. * Someone to laugh yourself silly with, no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day. For $160,140, you never have to grow up. You get to: * finger-paint, * carve pumpkins, * play hide-and-seek, * catch lightning bugs, and * Never stop believing in Santa Claus. You have an excuse to: * keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh, * watching Saturday morning cartoons, * going to Disney movies, and * wishing on stars. You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay for Mother's Day, and cards with backward letters for Father's Day. For $160,140, there is no greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for: * retrieving a Frisbee off the garage roof, * taking the training wheels off a bike, * removing a splinter, * filling a wading pool, * coaxing a wad of gum out of bangs, and coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless. You get a front row seat to history to witness the: * First step, * First word, * First bra, * First date, and * First time behind the wheel. You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you're lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren and great grandchildren. You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no college can match. In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there under God. You have all the power to heal a boo-boo, scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits, so one day they will, like you, love without counting the cost. That is quite a deal for the price!!!!!!! Love & enjoy your children & grandchildren!!!!!!! What a bargain!!!
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Jewels
Member
09-23-2000
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 9:18 pm
That is so awsome. I love it!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Monday, March 06, 2006 - 7:28 am
Anyone know where I could find a worksheet or two for 6 year old boys? I am hosting cubscouts tonight. Normally, while the boys wait for all the other boys to arrive, they start playing with toys and get loud and rowdy. I figure if I can start them off with a worksheet or something to color that I can maintain order! I don't want anything very hard, something more fun. Thanks in advance!!! I am hoping someone can direct me to a website that I could print out.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 10:15 am
Help/suggestions anyone? (I already posted this request in the scrapbooking thread, but no suggestions so far. Thought I'd try in here, hope that's okay.) Anyone have suggestions for a very simple scrapbook that our 6 year old cubscouts are suppose to make? It's all "from scratch" meaning we don't have a book to start with. I could have have the parents get a cheap three ring binder or I could staple construction paper together. Should I request a certain number of photos that the boys bring? Should I request certain shots (ie one of each kid in his uniform, one of his parents, one of his pets, etc.)? I want to make this easy, though I would also like this to be something he could keep. If I had the parents have each boy write something for the book, what should I have them write? Any ideas would be way appreciated. TIA!!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 10:50 am
Oh shoot, Julie, I had a post typed up yesterday and forgot to post it, lol. I'd use construction paper, a hole punch, and ribbon or yarn to make the book rather than staples. It'd be easier to open them later. I'd set a limit on the number of pictures, otherwise the kids will either be there forever trying to get them all in or focusing only on pics and not embellishing the pages. I wouldn't suggest certain shots though unless you're planning on a themed scrapbook. You could do an "All about me" book then they could bring in pics of family, friends, pets, favorite places and things. Or a scouting scrapbook. If the projects not planned for a few months parents could take pictures of what they do at each meeting, then use those plus projects that would fit in a book (like if they've done paintings or drawings.) If it's not themed though they'd have more fun and it'd be more meeningful picking out pictures themselves for whatever reason they have. The kids always have more fun with scrapbooking when I'm close by, show them how much glue to use, and then stay out of it, lol. They'll ask for help if they need it but are far more creative than if I'm there tellign them what pics to put on each page and which stickers to use. If you go with a theme, they can write something that fits with that. IF it's all about me, they could write down their age, their favorite colors and their favorite things, or for scouting, what they've learned or what they like best. If it's not a theme, let them write what they want. My oldest niece doesn't like writing in her scrapbooks. She doesn't label pics or write little sentences at all. Caleb likes to name people and Dakota likes descriptive sentences "Me at Disneyland in 2005" or stuff like that. I wouldn't make the project too structured. Just give them the tools they need, stickers, crayons, markers, scizzors, glue, and let them at it. Scrapbookings a great project for the younger kids cuz they don't have to be real craftsy to make something that is meaningful and fun for them. Two of my favorite scrapbooks are the kids kinder ones. The teachers took pictures each month while they were doing their special activity (field trip, plays, Chinese New Years) and then add alonmg with it the artwork and writing they'd done. Each book is a whole year in the kids lives and it's fun to go back and see what Caleb or Kota was doing in March of kinder year.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 11:13 am
THANK YOU WARGOD!!! I am thinking of an "All About Me" one. So should I ask the parents to have certain photos? one of them in their scout uniform one of parents pets siblings friends favorite activity and maybe four of anything they want??? Is ten pictures too much? Then I could make up a sheet that they'd have to fill out?? What questions should I put on that? Like name, age, favorite (specific) things. Thanks!! To make this easy, I'd like to spoon feed as much as possible to the parents (like being specific as possible.)
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 11:32 am
What do you think about this: Suggested Page Ideas: The people in my family My favorite toys My room I like to eat… Books that I love to read My favorite outside games I love my pet What I want to be when I grow up Things my family likes to do Which ones are good, which ones are bad. Are there other ones that would be better?
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 12:08 pm
what war said is good about the construction paper, hole punch and yarn. and i would not use that many pictures, you'd be there for days helping them. since this is a scouting project: it should be the boys in their uniforms, pictures of their leaders, friends in their scouting and an activity they like in scouting (such as the car project). 4 or 5 pictures at most. very short and sweet. they should have stamps, stickers and markers available. if the project is too big, it's you doing the work, not them.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 12:17 pm
Thanks landi. Short and sweet is good. Which of the above categories are best to go with?
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 12:22 pm
What I look like: Age, height, weight, hair/eye color, etc. Then they can draw a self portrait (I find those fascinating with younger kids.) I'd make up a big list of suggestions and ideas for them: Family, friends, pets, scouting, sports, hobbies, vacations, books, movies, games, colors, etc. Then tell them they can pick a certain number of ideas and bring in things/pictures appropriate for the ones they chose. So if books, they could bring their favortie book and draw a picture that goes along with it, or colors they can bring in something small (feather, sample cloth, sticker) and do that page all in their favorite color. You can make photocopies for certain pages, like members of the family where they can write parents, siblings, etc names and ages or whatever, or what I look like with their age, height, hair/eye color, etc. to make it as easy as possible on them. Nice thing is if you make a whole list of suggestions for them and tell them to pick out 10 or whatever, no ones scrapbook will be the same as anyone elses. I picked up sticker kits and stamp sets at Michaels at Christmas for the girls. THey were $10 if I remember right, sticker set had 500 stickers, and the stamp one had 100 stamps. You can pick up something like that and have plenty for all the kids (plus left overs to surprise them with later on.) Oh, I just remembered the all about me page Kota did. It had the typical stuff, name, age, hair/eye color, plus favorite colors, siblings and a few favorites (book, game, sport, movie.) And a box on the lower corner where they could draw their self portrait so it was all on one page. The best one though was a spot for something special about me......it was fun to read through the classes something special and see that little so and so spoke 3 languages or Johnny played chess.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Friday, March 10, 2006 - 12:30 pm
Going off what Landi said too, remember these are young boys (6 right?) Some of them may not be able to write or read real well, so if you have to much of that involved parents will end up doing it for them too. When I worked with the kids on theirs, they had 25 pictures each. But Caleb and Dakota were pretty self sufficient and able to work on their own, plus did it over several days. My 6 year old niece did ok, but needed more help, which wasn't a big deal cuz it was just her. If there'd been 2 or 3 more her age, I'd have been going nuts, lol.
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