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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 12:41 pm
I'd write on the card "Happier women don't need underwire" I'd order a pizza or something and have it sent over and send a basket of plastic cutlery, plates napkins, and soda.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 12:46 pm
I would think it would depend on the person, and her outlook on the whole situation....I don't think there is a way to answer this, without knowing the person involved. There is no "generic" answer...you would know best Julie.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 12:48 pm
I concur with Scooter. She may not like Pizza. Maybe a pamper kit? Slippers, tea, lotion, etc?
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 1:08 pm
I think it depends on the person as well. Some might appreciate humor to cheer them up and some might not.
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Justavice
Member
11-22-2005
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 1:16 pm
Hallmark stores actually have a line of cards specifically for recovery, cancer, illness, etc. in a spectrum from very serious and emotion-filled to tactful humor. You might check to see if they have one that says something you are comfortable with. As far as a gift, what about a gift card to a local grocery store that has delivery service? You can let her know you would have offered to cook, but figured she'd had enough of the hospital and thought this way she could get some of the things she or her family might need/want during her healing from the surgery.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 1:19 pm
I would definately not use that underwire comment on a card. If I had gotten a comment like that then that person would be picking themselves up off the floor.
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Yankee_in_ca
Member
08-01-2000
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 1:22 pm
I would get a blank card and write a personal note inside about how glad you are that she is home and that you are there for her if she needs you, or whatever sentiment you'd like to express. I almost always give blank cards with personal messages for almost all situations.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 2:30 pm
Thanks all! I think I will start with the blank card and go from there. I'll have to wait a bit and see just how funny she finds things. The day before the surgery, she was understandably not finding much humor anywhere... Now that it is over (at least this step), she might be a little more relaxed... Hey, I do like the pizza idea and I know the whole family particularly loves this one pizza place...
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 4:44 pm
If they can make a self-cleaning oven; why can't they make a self-washing car?
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 4:54 pm
Or a self loading/unloading dishwasher!
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 9:44 pm
Ooooooh! That's even better. My car is so dirty though and I can't wash it cuz it's too cold.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 4:33 am
I'll be doing San Diego in April too!! The Zoo or Seaport Village or whatever and if Costa and Kassie are seeing callers that day, I'd love to meet those two famous kitties.. purrrr! And NT for lunch up here too. Now hopefully we won't have a rainy April, or at least for that week when y'all are here. Julie, I think the blank card is the wisest. The only person who should be allowed to joke about a double mastectomy would be the person having that procedure. Then it would be ok to joke back. But having it on a card, probably would hit them wrong at some point or another. Hard to be joking all the time. I'm sure she'll appreciate your own sincere wishes anyway. If she's going to have treatment after the operation maybe some small item like an angel pin or a little glass heart or something would be nice as an "I'm thinking of you" sort of thing.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 8:37 am
I completely agree that in these situations, one should let the person take the lead as far as humor is concerned. I can't imagine joking about something like this unless it was in response to something deliberately humorous the person said.
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Sheilaree
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 8:42 am
I agree about joking about mastectomy would be the person who had it because that is really nothing to joke about unless they want to lightening the humor, because my sister just had it, and I really don't know what to say to her, so sometime I just keep quiet unless she wants to talk which is fine.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:12 am

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Sheilaree
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:16 am
What do you mean by that face Escapee?
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:32 am
I concur with Jimmer and Sea, as I said yesterday...to joke about something like this would be in very poor taste...unless the person undergoing such a traumatic procedure makes a joke.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:37 am
Is it not apparent that that was just a joke? For the sake of a joke on the board? I just have to roll my eyes (the face) and shake my head because no one got it and took it very seriously. Sheesh folks, I am not that insensitive. I wouldn't actually expect someone to do that, unless of course, the person on the recieving end had that kind of sense of humor.
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:45 am
I guess that is the whole point. What one person (yourself for example) may find funny, others may not, so joking about something like this in any circumstances is risky.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:54 am
Jimmer, eveything I do is risky. However, I am not going to change who I am or watch myself extra careful because SOMEONE is always going to have a problem with me. And I am alright with that. Keeps things interesting. Ok, now back on topic: Maybe a bath and body works array of hand sanitizers, lotion, aroma therapy stuff put together in a super cute tote bag? I went there last night and got some great stuff and a free tote bag because I spent more than $10.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 9:55 am
Jimmer, very well said!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 10:18 am
i have a friend who just had a second masectomy procedure last month. she has had a great sense of humor about the whole thing, and so i told her last night the "underwire" joke. she found it hilarious! it's knowing your audience.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 10:29 am
That's right Landi and Mocha...there's no generic answer to Julie's original question!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 10:36 am
 
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Sheilaree
Member
07-19-2002
| Thursday, March 08, 2007 - 11:16 am
I agree that Jimmer said it right Boy this took off. I never know what to say to anyone, because you don't know if they will agree or disagree
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