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Merrysea
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08-13-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 1:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Merrysea a private message Print Post    
Jeep, I've had that same experience of men just wanting a beautiful young woman, rather than a nice-looking, intelligent woman in their age bracket! It's incredibly frustrating!

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 1:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
And why would you want such a shallow man?! Good riddens, Merrysea.

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 5:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Ive never shunned any one for apearance sake, Ive got all kinds of shapes,colors,heights and sizes of friends. There is beauty in all folks. I would never judge a person on thier looks, if you knew me you would no that. I am just saying though that my head dosent crank around for certain guys...I have a type and they are usually slender/dark/hardworkers and a little rough around the edges...thats just me... Im not a suit and tie gal, levis and boots will do just fine... I think its why there are so many differant kinds of people-- because we all have differant needs and desires...

Yesitsme
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08-24-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 6:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yesitsme a private message Print Post    
You guys are cracking me up!

I had dinner tonight with one of my best friends since I was nine years old (before it was cool for a girl to be friends with a boy), his mom, and his college roommate, who I hadn't seen in two years. When we were in college my friend and I used to laugh and laugh at the spacey-ness of his roomie...who was a genius, but not always in the same world as we mortals. I was never interested in him as more than a friend (and for entertainment....not only did he give me lots of opportunities to laugh at him, but he is a wonderful pianist.) But you know, I looked at him tonight and said "He's kinda cute." He's a bit more of this earth now and so he appears more attractive to me (he's always been a handsome guy, so that is not it.) LOL...and maybe it is just that in comparison to some of the other single men I know, he appears to be a prince.

One thing I always remind myself if that I am terrible with first impressions. I have often met people and disliked them at first and then later on had them become some of my favorite people. One of my best college friends was this way. I thought he was an arrogant jerk when I first met him, and while to this day he does have a touch of that (which I know is a shield for a soft heart and a bit of insecurity) he proved to be one of my favorite friends from that time. Other people make a good first impression, but when I am around them for a bit I realize they are selfish or thoughtless or all-flash-and-no- substance. First impressions are unavoidable, but great treasures can be found in not writing people off too quickly.

Oh, and Newman, I did suspect that the guy at the grocery store would have thought it was flirting. Thanks for confirming. You know, I am not above flirting if I know I am doing it, but when I don't mean to be and I think I have given that impression, it throws me for a loop! But since then I have been telling myself "So what? Married or single, it is flattering to be flirted with and that guy probably just felt a bit better about himself."

You know, I probably do need to flirt more. I don't think I do it enough. OK, I hereby vow that not only will I try to notice whether men are wearing wedding rings (I have been doing better with that), I will also flirt on a regular basis....whether I need to or not. Especially when there is no ring. Who's going to join me?

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 7:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
Start with the flirting Yesitsme, then soon you'll move up to the hussy club! (not to be confused with the slutty club)

Glenn
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07-05-2003

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 7:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Glenn a private message Print Post    
Newman, you may good at speed reading posts but your comprehension may need some more work. I never said my gut instinct liked physically attractive women. I never said I was “settling”. I never said I did not trust my gut instinct.

What I said was………

The hardest thing for me to give up was how I wanted the other person to appear visually. It took several years and a few hard lessons that I should let this visual appearance desire go and find people that I liked for who they were. One of the worst things I did was not listen to my gut instinct when my decisions were made on visual appearance. When instinct would tell me that this person was not going to be good news in the long run, I would end up overruling that instinct and still continue on. Bad choice on my part, because the instinct was always correct.

Maybe it would help if I had said that my choice of what I wanted visually was an inadequate requirement because of what I found to be inside that person later on. That statement does not mean that visually appealing women are unable to be attractive on the inside. I was hoping to get the idea across that using a filter of visual appearance did not work for me in selecting women. The funny thing is, when I found someone I really liked for who they are on the inside without knowing what they looked like on the outside did I find someone I was really attracted to. Guess what, that person turned out to be gorgeous on the outside. God must really be a woman.

Newman
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09-25-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 7:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
What's a hussy? Dictionary says: an impudent or immoral girl. Seems like such an old word.

I know that looks matter to me. I know that most women in my age bracket don't look so good anymore. A nice 45 year old would suit me just fine I think.

It's gotta be so much easier for you people who don't care what the other person looks like. So what if they're 50-80 pounds overweight? So am I?

It's no different with me. I'm ZERO overweight. I'm just looking for someone like me.

I think I'm a 7 overall. I add points for good looks (for my age) and intelligence, but subtract for lack of cooking skills or fixit skills. I think I have an accurate view of myself.

Zachsmom, whatever happened to your hot airport date? Are you married yet? Engaged? Or did the prince turn into a frog?


Glenn
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07-05-2003

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 7:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Glenn a private message Print Post    
I am deducting two points for comprehension. :-)

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Glenn, try typing your posts in blue.

Glenn
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07-05-2003

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Glenn a private message Print Post    
Rosie, are you suggesting only the blue ones are read in depth? :-)

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
Oops!

Vacanick
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07-12-2004

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vacanick a private message Print Post    
Loved your post Glenn! You truly are an evolved man! You must be a very happy!

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
lol

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 8:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
<waves to Glenn>



Ddr
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08-19-2001

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 3:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ddr a private message Print Post    
Newman, do you belong to a co-ed gym? (Or has this been brought up before?) You might find someone there that meets your specifications.

Great post Glenn.

Newman
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09-25-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 4:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
What was so great about Glenn's post? I didn't comprehend it.

Seriously Glenn you never answered my previous post to you. You might have to dig into the last archive. It was about following your gut instinct. If I know I like a fit woman, shouldn't I follow my gut instinct? Why should I settle <55>? How can I get aroused by that?

Ddr, yeah, the gym is coed, but I'm shy. Very few people use it as a pickup bar type thing. I generally ride the bike and read a magazine or watch CNN or ESPN. And look at the young babes.

Ooops, just found your reply Glenn. Naturally I'm out of time...off to work...


Newman
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09-25-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 4:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
Hell, I may as well be late for work.

The thing is Glenn, you didn't settle <55>. You found someone who is gorgeous both inside and out. The total package as it were.

good for you. Did you do this by online dating i wonder? If not, then you had to see her first, right? You wouldn't start talking to someone who is 40 pounds overweight, like I wouldn't either, right???

So I'm not sure what you're saying Glenn. Appearance does count. We agree. It's not everything. But it matters. Where do we disagree??????


Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 4:44 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
<sits back to wait>

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 4:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i guess what is important here is that it does matter to you, newman. and, whether the rest of us agree with that or not does not matter - we are not you. we can't change how you feel no more than you can change how we feel. so, you have to do or go after what you want.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 4:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
I'm going to jump in and suggest that the gym is NOT the place to find someone to your liking, Newman. The woman may be there because she is totally dedicated to fitness, or...she may be dieting and working hard to lose pounds and inches. The later woman may have lost a significant amount of weight and may look good at first glance. Heaven forbid you fall for her based on looks and find out that maintaining her weight is a lifetime job. If you fell in love and then she got comfortable and put some pounds back on, then what...dump city?

Gidget
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07-28-2002

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Gidget a private message Print Post    
LOLOLOLOL

Sorry I was having a moment!


Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
what exactly is the definition for 'taking care of ones self'? is it wearing make-up, having your hair fixed a certain way, having no fat on your body, exercising, dressing a certain way, going to certain social events?

i don't wear make-up, have a wash-n-go attitude towards my hair, never exercise, wear what i want regardless of what's in style and try to eat healthy, go to the doctor for regular check-ups, as well as maintain a positive attitude. i feel i take very good care of myself based on my situation.

just curious.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:17 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Cn, that's HORRIBLE!!!






...and I'm exactly the same way! hee hee

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
huk, i knew i liked you for some odd reason!

before i met & married dh i dated a drop dead georgous guy. he looked like a blending of harrison ford and nick nolte when they were much younger. he wore very expensive suits, worked out everyday and was very charming. then he got drunk one night and called me to tell me all his deep dark secrets. he felt that i needed to know since he was really liking me a lot. it turned out that he was into consumption of bodily fluids, etc. needless to say i spit for two weeks since i had actually kissed him once.



Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
The things I do to "take care of myself" I do for me, not for anybody else. I have found that exercising makes me feel good physically and mentally. Is exercising for everybody? No. Do I prefer to look at a guy who works out and has a good body? Yes. I guess in that way I have a mind set like Newman. It might be nice to find a guy in good shape who watches Big Brother. He would also have to be a non-smoker. He would have to be an animal lover. He would have to be attracted to older women. He would have to be rich and generous. He would have to be interested in spirituality. He does not exist but I don't need him anyway. (lol)