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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 7:19 am
i guess i just don't understand the privacy issue at all, mocha, no matter who it is about. i don't understand it but i respect it. that's just me. if i know about it then i will talk about it especially to help someone else out regardless of who told me or whom it was about. let me make one thing perfectly clear, i am not trying to force anyone to post anything they don't want to. i am just asking for some help from those that are willing to give it. no more no less. 
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Merrysea
Member
08-13-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 8:56 am
Cnd, I'd be willing to help if I could, but I don't have a partner right now, so I don't have any input for you, sorry!
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 9:02 am
it doesn't have to be about anyone's partner, merrysea. if you have ever known of anyone or have heard about anyone having similar health issues - that is all i am asking for. i don't have to know who they are, just how they handled the issues or what other issues i might expect.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 9:06 am
farting was already discussed AT LENGTH in my folder while i was gone, i think that subject is done with!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 9:11 am
as for privacy, here is a good example. before she became a member of this board, i used to talk in length about my daughter, her problems with ADHD, her ulcer, etc etc. now that she is a member she doesn't like people knowing so much about her without her letting them know. she feels it is an invasion of her privacy as she could give or not information that SHE wishes to give (or not). so now that is no longer free for me to give.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 9:11 am
LOL well, landi, if anyone could tell me how to convince my dh that i don't find it funny, especially when he fans the covers, then that would truly be golden. 
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 9:22 am
my parents hated the hush, hush way things were when they were growing up. so, they raised us in a household where nothing was kept secret or private or whatever word one wants to use. we openly discussed everything about everybody. and, i thought that was how my generation was being brought up. i didn't know it a problem for others to talk about their family and friends or that there was a privacy issue. no one had put it to me in those terms until i posted here in this thread. i am an open book. and, it is obvious from what i am reading that not everyone else is like that with information about their family or friends. and, that is O.K. i am open-minded enough to accept that and move on. i really hadn't wanted this to become a discussion about privacy - especially since i don't subscribe to it. but, if that is where this thread is going then that is fine too. i'm flexible. but, if anyone has any insight into men's health issues and wants to discuss them with me i welcome that too. it's all good. i learn a lot from reading the posts here.
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 10:23 am
Cndeariso, sorry I can't help either. Never had any insight into this particular problem. Like you I was brought up not to be silly about discussing certain body parts, their functions and/or woes. The more health problems are discussed, the more info we can all gather. However, *I* choose the people to discuss these and other psersonal issues with and, like Holly, strongly resent people in the know passing that knowledge on without my permission. Therefore, I also would never discuss my family's or friends' issues in an open, or even closed, forum without their express permission. It is *I* who chose to sign up at TVCH, and it is *I* who is posting here, not they. Being an open book is great. Not all of us are comfortable discussing our own personal issues on the open net, much less doing it to others. That said, if someone in my immediate circle had dealt with your particular problem, I would mention that to them and ask if there was any advice/info I could pass on.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 10:37 am
I don't see where anyone has been asked to "out" a relative or friend. I see it as a question was posed about male incontinence, and a request was made for information. I don't see it differently than had she asked for information about a bum knee. Nobody has to say, "when it happened to my husband..." but they could still share information. Guess you'll have to Google for answers, Cnd!
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 10:52 am
thanks, lum. i too wish you had something to pass along to me. huk, i use Dogpile instead of Google. it is a mega search engine that has Google as one of it's sources. the only problem with that is there is so much technical data out there to wade through. real life experiences from real people are much more valuable to me. i don't have time to read through all of that clinical information and it's totally boring! LOL
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Halfunit
Moderator
09-02-2001
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:26 am
Have you tried this message board?
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:28 am
no, but i will check it out more in depth when i get home tonight. thanks.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:39 am
Yep it's obvious that it's not being seen...
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:50 am
Huk, this is what people are reacting to: Cndeario wrote: i find it hard to believe that i am the ONLY person on this board that has a husband or knows a male over 40 with health problems. is it a taboo topic? do folks not want to talk about it? does no one want to admit that a man in their life has the same issues? do the men on the board find it too embarrassing to talk about? did everybody leave the board and not tell me? LOL
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:52 am
Privacy issues aside, I think there is a risk in using people's anecdotal experiences as a tool to assess medical problems. It can be useful, but there are so many contributing factors that affect health, that what happens with one specific individual may not be applicable to another. So it is useful, but must be used with care.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 12:01 pm
that is true, lum. but, no where did i ask anyone to give me a name - just information. but, that's o.k. i will check out the website that halfunit has listed and seek my answers there or in some other forum. i totally understand that, jimmer. i find that other folks experiences make me a better informed patient when i go to the doctor for myself or with a loved one. i can ask better questions and sometimes i have even given the doctor an idea that they hadn't thought about. so, it's always been a win situation for me to have as much information as possible.
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 12:23 pm
Jimmer, very true, but like Cndeariso I like to hear about people's experiences and different treatments. It sure helps to ask the right questions when speaking to the doctor.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 1:51 pm
now for a whole different subject: telecommuting. with so many of us having computers at home now days and companies having flexible work hours, do any of you telecommute? if so, does your company have a policy? how are you balancing home and work? we have a lady that is going out on medical leave for 6 to 8 weeks and wants to work from home via gotomypc.com or something like it. she is appalled that we do not have a policy in place to address this issue as so many boomers all over the country do it. i am most worried about worker's comp if she gets hurt working at home. anybody?
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:09 pm
I don't know anyone who telecommutes.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:10 pm
Certain job functions where I work can telecommute. But we have privacy issues and thanks to the VA they're really cracking down on what you can take home and putting procedures in place in case something gets lost or stolen.
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Scooterrific
Member
07-08-2005
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:13 pm
We're trying it out with one coworker....we're set up so you can...and the goal is for all of us to be able to do it..It's set up so we can't print anything at home, for confidentiality reasons, but we can generate a print job to print in pdf in the data base at the office and then the support staff can email it to us..or something...don't ask me anything technical about it...I just hope it works!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:15 pm
I would love to be able to work from home. With my current job most of what I do can be done from home actually.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:25 pm
I have 13 employees in my company, 9 of which work completely from home, 1 works part time in the office and part time at home, and 3 work only in the office, either full or part time. Personally, I work 1-2 days per week in the office and the rest of the time at home. I've never had an issue with workmen's comp, (knock on wood), but the majority of jobs are computer or mail stuffing, so there isn't a great risk of injury.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:36 pm
kar, the W/C issues that i see are trip hazards from electrical cords & frayed carpets, neck & back strain from improper seating or placement of monitors & keyboards, and poor lighting contributing to eye strain. do you have some type of documentation that assures you that you are getting what you pay for? example: a list of assignments for the week, next week, next month, next quarter and milestones or status reports.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, October 30, 2006 - 2:38 pm
i work for the government so confidentiality in the Finance Department is not an issue. we don't handle anything that isn't available via the FOIA. scoot, do you supply the paper, ink, etc. for the employees?
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