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Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 8:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
Whoami, I didn't see you there.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 9:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I've hugged Who!!

Dog, I will just give ya a quick one when I see ya:-)

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 9:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
i love hugs and love to be hugged. there was no affection and hugs from my mom growing up. so, after i left home....i became a hugger. however, i can "sense" when to hug and not to hug....so, it's never been a problem (except online, i give kisses and hugs...so, maybe i need to re-think the online stuff).

i can understand others not wanting or feeling comfortable about getting hugs, for whatever reason. if people don't "sense" this from you and start to give you a hug....i'm sure they would understand if you just politely explain how you feel about hugs. that way, you won't get a hug and the person will understand.

Mamapors
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07-29-2004

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 10:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamapors a private message Print Post    
I am a hugger and I love to be hugged. So if we ever are at a meet together, just get over it and let me hug you.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 11:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
no problem mama! i'm prepared for any tvch get together:

http://secure.condomania.com/prodinfo.asp?number=H-BGC

(just kidding)
eta: i can't find the "nekkid" gun condom. lol also, i'm not saying i'm going to get THAT close to need that sort of covering. just a joke. lol

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 11:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
No hugs for me except I do hand them out freely on line.

In person, I feel very uncomfortable being hugged by strangers. If I know a person well I freely hug if we both feel comfortable and the time is right.

I feel different about different kinds of hugs from different people.

I thing hugs are personal for me. Sometimes I get an overwhelming need to hug someone...perhaps someone I don't know well, but this sense of urgency to hug them comes over me. I always ask if I can hug them and tell them I just have the need to. It's because I sense THEY need a hug.

I think the older I've gotten the less huggy I am tho.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Tuesday, December 19, 2006 - 11:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
kearie, your post is so interesting to me. you said: I think the older I've gotten the less huggy I am tho.

i'm just the opposite. i never hugged people until i left home and experienced a whole different world regarding hugging.

i would never hug a stranger, though. i think it's it's very kind and loving for you to ask someone for a hug when you think THEY might need one. that reminds me of someone i heard about who has become very popular because he gives hugs to people (or asks for them...i'll have to look it up and post about it).

either way, hugs or not...i do understand both viewpoints. again, i would never just give a hug to a stranger. also, i have never upset anyone by giving someone a hug...because it's very obvious (to me) when someone wants a hug or not. i don't hug everyone...only people i know/sense would appreciate/want it.

still, i don't have a problem with hugs even if it means getting germs. if someone, let's say, has a cold, i trust that person will pass on giving me a hug for obvious reasons (but, i would still accept the hug, i think hand shake is the bigger problem).

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 6:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Aaack run Dogdoc!!

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 6:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
Mocha, I am right behind you.

Whoami
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08-03-2001

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 7:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Whoami a private message Print Post    


Chiliwilli
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09-04-2006

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 8:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chiliwilli a private message Print Post    


Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 10:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
I love hugs most of the time. We went to a friend's birthday party last Friday and I announced to everyone when we got there, "I'm sick so stay away from me and I'll stay away from you...and the food." Well, wouldn't you know, a guy I had just met that night kissed me ON THE LIPS! I was floored! I told him you are going to be really sorry for that in a few days. I told you I'm sick! Being around drunks makes me so glad I don't drink anymore. LOL

Handshaking. My mother was in church every Sunday morning, evening, and Wed evenings and she refused to shake hands with men because my dad once told her that most men don't wash their hands in the bathroom. That was enough for her! LOL

Denecee
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09-05-2002

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 10:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Denecee a private message Print Post    
Hi, my name is Denise and I am a hugger. I don't go around hugging acquaintances but good friends and families get the bear hug. The owners of the company I work for always give me a quick hug which I return.

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 11:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
I too am a hugger...Im very much a touchy feely kinda person, but I do like a little forplay first, some conversation and shared smiles or tears...and the hugs come out..... but I do sence and certain kind of person that dosent like being close like that and I respect them and keep my hands to myself...

Retired
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07-11-2001

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 3:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Retired a private message Print Post    
Also born in the 40's. Only hug my family and a few close friends and sometimes not even then. Have to stay away from germs as much as possible because of my disease.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 6:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
I love giving and getting hugs. But...don't give me one of those foofy ones. You know what I'm talking about, the fakey type where you could fit a truck between the two people. If it's not a full body, squeeze 'em kind, I'm not interested.

Yesitsme
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08-24-2004

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 6:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yesitsme a private message Print Post    
Huk, I hate those fakey hugs....and air kisses. Yuck! I am just not into the social making out (or into making out for show.)

Living in the South, everyone seems to hug everyone. Don't think I even think about it these days. I try to take my cues from others and do whatever makes them comfortable. I wasn't really brought up in a huggy family....and am probably more reserved with my family members than with some strangers (though not my nieces and nephews...they get hugs every time I see them.) It does get weird to me in business situations...every now and again you run into huggers and there are times that it just seems awkward and inappropriate. Of course, if you would say anything around here people would think you are overreacting and "not nice"!

The church handshaking thing...that can get me off on another tangent. Around here all churches seem to do that "greet and shake the hand of those around you" time during church services and I can't stand it. I think it has actually taken away from the genuine social graces and kindness. You do your fake time, and other than that you don't even have to acknowledge people. That Stepford "So good to see you" or "Good morning, good morning, good morning" to everyone in the vicinity without really looking anyone in the eye and only because the pastor told you to. I hate it! Lackluster Christian aerobics.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Wednesday, December 20, 2006 - 6:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
the better looking he is the better the body hug will be from me! LOL

jj

Newman
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09-25-2004

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 10:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
Thanks for the long cyberhug, Cnd :-)

I like the hug. Sometimes it's hard to know when to initiate it though. Some people are shy and don't like any touching. I don't usually intiate the hug, but will respond if hugged, lol.

Then you have the "man hug". Butts out so there is no possibility of genitalia touching, <chuckling>.


Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 10:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
I've hugged Pamy and Mocha and landi and Who and Mama and Twinkie.. and I was born into a non-hugging family in the 40's but, hmm well I did have a ton of therapy and at the beginning said I didn't like hugs.. lol.. with a huggy gestalt therapist who of course honored my wishes. Luckily I got over that because he was a great hugger.

(But not with a cold, though a handshake is even worse for cold spreading and I used to loathe people who proudly came to work sick, hacking, coughing, sneezing and proceeded to use other people's phones and keyboards )

Actually if you have a cold and want to hug, you just don't sneeze, cough, breathe out, touch skin, etc and you should be ok, but who wants to take a chance?

LOL about the handshakes Twinks! Maybe that is why we used to wear white gloves to church way back when? But then we weren't hugging or hand holding, either. I would think it would be sufficient to "greet" the person next to you without hugs, handholds/shakes, etc at church!

And most older people (70-80-90) really appreciate hugs.. when I visited hospice pts that seemed to be the most prized part of the visit.

Mak1
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08-12-2002

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 11:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mak1 a private message Print Post    
Merry Christmas, Newman! (or the pc Happy holidays, if you prefer that:-)) I haven't posted in this thread but do enjoy reading everyone's thoughts. Thank you for starting such an interesting thread.

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 8:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
She hugs, too..

Scooterrific
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07-08-2005

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 10:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Scooterrific a private message Print Post    
<waves to Sea>

Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Monday, December 25, 2006 - 10:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
LOL.. she also hugs (if you don't have a cold)

<waves back to Scoot>

Pamy
Member

01-02-2002

Tuesday, December 26, 2006 - 1:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
I have hugged Sea too many times to count!!! I have hugged over 40 tvchers and some more than a few times!

((Newman)) I wish you a happy healthy and fun new year