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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 8:47 am
I don't really remember too much about turning 30. I remember when I turned 21 I was pregnant so no wild partying for that one lol. For my 40th which is in 3yrs, I want to celebrate it in Jamaica. We'll see if that actually happens lol. But Lori, it's no biggie to not have accomplished all of your goals because as time goes on goals change due to circumstances. So really you aren't late, probably right on time.
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Rosie
Member
11-12-2003
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:03 am
I need to add that a lot of my years were spent taking care of others: my children, my parents and then babysitting for the grandkids. Now, I feel that I can do some of the things that sound like fun to me. Not having so many responsibilities changes your focus. Not that I want to do anything drastic or all that exciting but have to tell you that recently taking a mini-road trip and stopping to view the magnicent Pacific Ocean was a definite plus for me. Taking the time to enjoy the little things in life, when you no longer feel so much responsibility for others, is grand. Two of my grands are in college. Two more about ready to graduate high school and the youngest about ready to enter high school. The biggest plus is that their parents are doing a great job taking care of their own kids. That makes me very happy.
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Coco
Member
07-13-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:04 am
Lori, turning 30 was the hardest for me, although I always dreaded turning 50. Funny thing was, when I did turn 50, I totally embraced it and as each year goes by (I'm almost 53), I am in such a zone of comfort, it's finally a peaceful state of mind for me to be in. When I turned 50, my dh threw a surprise party for me that knocked me out of my socks! I was TOTALLY taken by surprise as I never dreamed he could pull something off like this...lol! I love to go back to that day and recall the pure happiness zipping through my body at that moment when I opened the door and the crowded room yelled "Surprise". An awesome moment I'll never forget. Turning 40 was okay for me personally and from 40-50, I was still trying to "find myself". I definitely felt that I hadn't reached certain "goals". Literally being a part-time college student from 18-44 years old...LOL! I also was a wife, mother of 3, homemaker with helping hands and caretaker of my little brother who needed assistance back then (he's on his own now). Yesterday afternoon I was able to spend some time with our dd and ds. DD and I got into an in-depth conversation as she is in a stressful period of her young life. At the conclusion of this conversation, she tells me how proud she is of me in how I forged ahead with obtaining goals in my lifetime. That was all I needed to hear for the rest of my life. As for you my dear, I've always been an admirer of your sweetness, kindness and level-headedness. I only wish you all the best as you reach 40. And when you do turn 40, I'll be saying "Lordy, Lordy...look who's 40!!" and I'll still think highly of you.  
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:40 am
the big thing in advertising now is that 40 is the new 30 and 50 is the new 40...because its the baby boomers and they(or we, I guess I am one since I saw it went to 1964, damn it) take care of ourselfs much better than previous generations...also there is more things/meds/treatments available to us than in the past...soooooo Lori, you are really only turning 30!!!!!
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Heyltslori
Moderator
09-15-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:48 am
Woohoo!! LOL Thanks Pamy!! Thanks to all of you for your input and kind words. Ya'll are a great bunch of people! I really value all of your thoughts and experiences and appreciate your honesty and willingness to share. 
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Coco
Member
07-13-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:51 am
...and thank you Lori for bringing up a great topic for discussion. You allowed me to share and it felt good...so thanks!
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 9:56 am
ditto to Coco's post!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 10:04 am
My mother said 60 was the first one that bothered her. Well, I'm 60, my life certainly has been sort of unexpected all along (and seriously, back in childhood I didn't think I'd live to be a teenager).. Now all I can think is, hmm still have to be 62 (or even 65) for some of the better senior discounts. I've been in a funk lately but I know I have to get BACK to the senior center where I am inspired by some of the 80-85 and even 90 year olds and just how active they are. There is a woman, Helen, who is 91 and one morning when I was fretting about being locked out of my car before a class (not really fretting, just knew I had to get autoclub's number from someone and get them to come out without my number, which was locked away in the car along with my keys), Helen was reading in her car and fretting because the staff hadn't opened the doors yet. She wanted to get inside to help set the tables for lunch and then had several more errands to get done. Helen was a Marine in WWII, went to school with Richard Nixon (she volunteers at his presidential library now), her dad played baseball with Babe Ruth. She was a chaperone for the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League (the Muskegon Lassies of Michigan) and played herself in the movie "A League of Their Own". She was a marine for 32 years; she retired at the top rank then open to females: Master Gunnery Sergeant. She was also a very good bowler (high game 264) Anyway, at age 91, she is an active RSVP volunteer for the police dept, she's a member of the Angels Boosters (for that pro baseball team whose name keeps changing), a member of the local womens Marine chapter, a docent at the Nixon library and I know she volunteers at the senior center and I believe she's learning to play pool.. pretty amazing. 40 can be a wonderful time and I'm sure you will make the most of it, Lori, you are so full of fun and life! Oh and I must say, Ms Coco gets more beautiful and wise the longer I know her! And Pamy was looking positively HOT the other day!
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 11:21 am
For some reason turning 40 really bothered me. Turning 50 meant I was closer to retirement so I welcomed it. A few years after I retired I almost died with the disease I have (see profile for link). So I am happy to be turning 60 in December. I certainly never accomplished all I wanted to do but at this point in my life I'm too grateful to care. I'm alive, have a great team of doctors, am alcohol and drug and smoke free, self-supporting, have good friends and this board, and have my cats. I'm too blessed to be stressed.
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 11:39 am
MsSea hit the nail on the head. You just have to be the best you can be no matter what age you are. When I look at the amazing women I know who are aging gracefully, I see that they are all as active as they can be. Some are sitting in a wheelchair screaming at the tops of their lungs for the local soccer or basketball team. Some are taking ballet classes. Some are volunteers. Activity increases longivity. If you have goals to pursue and drive to make them, your life is enriched. What else could make you happier? Age is a state of mind. Only you can make yourself feel good. Personally everyone thinks I'm nuts. I get out of bed in the morning with a smile on my face and a song in my heart. I thank God for another day. I do all kinds of projects and get out of the house to do one thing and then another. They say I have a little 'Jane of All Trades' attitude, which is kind of right since I am no master of any one thing. They especially think I'm nuts for having 'friends' online at some clubhouse for reality tv! LOL After having a stroke that could have disabled me forever, I decided my age would not interfere with having fun. Reaching my goals is still something I'm working on and probably will until the day I die, because they have to change when I change, and being the 'Jane' who I am causes that frequently. The only thing I hate about my age right now (58) is that my vanity winces when I look in the mirror and still expect to see that 35 year old face!
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 12:19 pm
Urgrace, I know about that looking in the mirror thing. When I look in the mirror, it is my dad looking back at me. As much as I loved and respected him, there is no way that old of a person could be as cool and hip as I think I am.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 1:32 pm
Glenn!!! I just remembered I dreamt about ya last nite!! LOL I woke up and was like,'where the hell did that come from?' hahahah I dreamt that we and a bunch of tvchers were at a meet and we all had our profiles printed out and were passing them around...yours said ...I was married to wonderful redhead that was still hot even at 50, we had 20 wonderful years together, she was taken from me too soon. I have never met another woman that stole my hear like she did. I read it to myself and looked up and you were staring at me. ...then I woke up LOL
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 1:47 pm
Ah Glenn, but as our culture dictates men always look better as they age! You had a very handsome dad, obviously. Most gals hate looking just like their mother. scary LOL Pamy, what movie were you watching before you went to bed! Analysis tells me you were thinking about Moonie's wedding you both attended and superimposed Glenn and you in Moon and Cowboy's place.
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 1:53 pm
I'm on board with those who say that growing old ain't all that bad! I'm 46 now and really do think that life gets better for us as we get older. A lot of the things that worry us in life we finally see are so silly. In so many ways I feel like the same person I was at 18....yet I think I understand life and people in a much richer way. That's not necessarily a warm and fuzzy place to be...I've definitely been touched by the good but I also understand more the potential for evil some people have. Still I have come to the place where I can say "how horrible it must be to be them" and am grateful I am not using my life in the same way they are. My life has taken me nowhere close to where I thought it would....I never would have thought I would be this age, unmarried and with no children. In many ways that was my greatest goal in life. Yet because I didn't get that, other sweet things have replaced it and I can't say that life would have been any better if it would have had gotten what I thought I wanted most. Lori, I suspect from your posts that you're in a great place for getting older. You always seem to have a great zest for life. I say experience 40 in your own special way....and delight yourself every day with the joys and adventures that await you. Don't let these years just pass by...resolve to experience them fully.
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 2:07 pm
Glenn and Grace, I think we got our mirrors at the same store!
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Yankee_in_ca
Member
08-01-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 2:11 pm
The only time my age bothers me is when I think about measurements of professional and financial success. I sometimes feel like I should be way more successful professionally and financially than I've been. I guess that's shallow.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 3:35 pm
Pamy, that is an interesting dream. You seem to have left out some letters in your post. Did this redhead steal my hearing or was it my heart. Both have had some moments of malfunctioning.
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 3:47 pm

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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 4:19 pm
Yankee no it's not actually. When I look at my high school memory book and my 5yr goals it said I would be a corporate attorney. Well I ain't nowhere near that goal lol and I'm a paycheck away from poverty and it wasn't supposed to be like that. But I figure I play the hand I was dealt. I used to get very depressed every birthday. It may have been because no one showed up at my sweet 16 party, I know it was cuz I just wasn't where I thought I should've been in my life at that time. That stopped when some folks from a message board had a party for me in chat. Yep we're more than just a message board.
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Ladytex
Member
09-27-2001
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 4:59 pm
I'm still 29 ...
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 5:17 pm
i have parts of me that are still 29 too! are we talking age or inches?
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 5:18 pm
Your kids will be a little shocked to hear that, Ladytex!
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 5:38 pm
LOL Glenn!! it was heart!!!!
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Coco
Member
07-13-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 5:45 pm
LOL Pamy...I enjoyed how your typo brought your "dream" man out to play. Glenn, was your dad related to Paul Newman??
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 6:58 pm
I know next time I meet with Glenn, I am going to make him wear a bag over his head, because he is younger than I am! Although it could be fun meeting his Dad ...
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