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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 4:04 am
Merrysea's 10:45pm post hits the nail on the head for me. And then Max's short shot is the cherry on top. My ex used to vent. She would get all her frustrations out and then she would feel better. I would feel like crap! I thought she wanted me to fix things. She just wanted to vent. Why not vent to a pillow or the dog? Seriously, if you don't want your partner to fix or help fix, you just want to yell and scream (which hurts your partner), wouldn't it be better to scream at a wall? I'm exactly like Merrysea's ex. I don't understand why everyone doesn't think and feel like me. Seriously. Then, as Max points out, I want to fix everyone else. I used to think that "education" would fix everything. If I could just explain myself better, well, everyone would see it MY way. Summary: 1. give up on dating. I can not get "turned on" by heavy women, no matter how great they are inside. Accept myself. And that's ok. Living alone is ok. My feelings are ok. 2. Other people see the world differently. Accept that. Move on. 3. Stop writing about dating. It's over. Let this thread morph into a woman's support group. Only 3 men write here anyway. Jimmer, Glenn, and me. Glenn is like me, and not near a computer all day. When I write about MY feelings it feels like I'm a lone voice in the wilderness, an outcast, don't fit in. That doesn't make me feel good. That makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. I don't like that...
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 4:36 am
Beating a dead horse and still not listening. I have always been a very shy person. My friends laugh at me when I say that but I am. That's why I find online dating to fit for me cuz I can approach people via the keyboard. I like it but I'm now ready to find the one.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 4:47 am
I have never been part of a "morph" before. I am so proud of myself. (lol) Newman, a thread does what it wants to and cannot be controlled. I think there is variety here. I don't see it as a women's support group.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:00 am
I thought this was great... just wanted to share... "You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen; but if you are beautiful at sixty, it will be your own soul's doing." (Marie Stopes)
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Grannyg
Member
05-28-2002
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:08 am
Newman, I think you just talk to hear yourself talk. You just want someone to agree with you and not try to see that there are different things in this world. I hope you get that beauty queen and all that goes with that. Sounds like to me that's what you want and what you deserve. How's that for agreeing with you?
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Adven
Member
02-06-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:28 am
Newman, here's some advice I normally charge obscene amounts of money for: lighten up. Nobody, fat or thin, beautiful or repulsive, grew up wishing they could someday meet a prince who obsesses over himself and his own views as much as you seem to. It suggests a kind of unhealthy self-absorption that may be a red flag for many women. It also isn't particularly Prince Charmingly, if you catch my drift. You are clearly a bright, caring guy. If you put as much effort and thought into the feelings and desires of the women you are attracted to as you do into self analysis, you likely wouldn't have felt the need to start this thread in the first place. That'll be $200.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:32 am
Well since we're done with Newman can we talk about me? Cuz in my mind it's all about me 
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:37 am
Oh no Mocha ... that was so funny!!! 
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Grannyg
Member
05-28-2002
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:41 am
Ok, Mocha. What's shaking? Got a date tonight? I've been gone so long, I think I've forgotten what number we are on. lol
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:44 am
Wow, Adven, that advice comes out to $1.666 per word. I'd go to see you for therapy if you could do it like this: lighten up self-absorption is unhealthy think about the other person don't self-analyze That way, the advice would only cost (at $1.666 per word) $23.33. BTW, sound advice!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:52 am
<sigh> No have nothing planned. That's the problem.
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 5:53 am
Huk ... you counted the words ... that's so funny! I think we should talk about Huk and her "numbers issues". Like saying she's a 5, when we all know she's a 10. They will come Mocha!
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 6:22 am
We are all 10's to somebody and we should be to ourselves as well.
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 7:20 am
Adven! 
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Zachsmom
Member
07-13-2000
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 7:37 am
Well, in Newmans defense, I think he just came on a message board to write about what he likes/wants in a relationship. I see nothing wrong with him wanting to find an attractive person. That is one of the first things I notice about the male species. Funny thing about attractivness, a 10 can go to a 2 in a matter of minutes, once they open their mouth. Newman, I hope you find you 7 and she turns into a 10. I hope she finds you a 10 and you have happiness the rest of your life.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 7:57 am
George Carlin's Views on Aging Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about aging that you think in fractions. "How old are you?" "I'm four and a half!" You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and a half, going on five! That's the key. You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead. "How old are you?" "I'm gonna be 16!" You could be 13, but hey, you're gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life . . . you become 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony . . YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!! But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed? You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you're PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it, you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone. But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would! So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60. You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it's a day- by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday! You get into your 80s and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; "I Was JUST 92." Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. "I'm 100 and a half!" May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!! HOW TO STAY YOUNG 1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them." 2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. 3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's. 4. Enjoy the simple things. 5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. 6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive. 7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it's pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge. 8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help. 9 Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is. 10.Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
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Zachsmom
Member
07-13-2000
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 8:02 am
LOL I love George Carlin! Great post Gidget!
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Marysafan
Member
08-07-2000
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 8:29 am
Absolutely right on the money!
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Suz
Member
10-13-2005
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 8:47 am
Gidget I liked the George Carlin's aging post. Thanks. This thread is very good and I like to read the different thoughts each of you have.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 10:56 am
Love the George carlins thing, Ditto on what Zachsmom said above, not realy sure this thread is about any one in peticular, but more about every one involved.. also liked what Huk said about the 10s in HS, that turn into 5s in "old school" Ive found that true... In my life ive seen many ugly-ducklings turn into swans.. and some swans get hit with someones windshield.. Adven, my shrink charges $90 for a half hr..but he only charges me $50 because (thankfully) he likes me and I make him and his staff cookies often... Cookies have got me far in a pinch..LOL... I think you all are great..
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Baby
Member
01-08-2006
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 10:57 am
Loved reading today's posts! Adven, Huk and Grannyg, you guys are totally right on the money!! And Cheryl (CND), I love the quotes you posted! To me, you guys have pretty much summed up this whole issue. Maybe, just maybe, some of this will sink in for others if they will open up their minds. But then, maybe not?
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Baby
Member
01-08-2006
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:00 am
Chewpito, You are no 5! Thanks for the pic. You look just like I thought you would and you are a cutie patootie!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:00 am
Not. Next!
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Baby
Member
01-08-2006
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:16 am
Mocha! Might you be next? Alrighty then!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 30, 2006 - 11:28 am

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