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Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 5:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
Cndeariso, I don't have any helpful information. it sounds like your between a rock and a hard place. It's sad when one person can make so many others feel bad.

On that note your post reminded me of a nice thing I saw happen twice. Last summer when Stephanie was in the ICU a delivery man from Applebees came up with the dinners the nurses had ordered. Stephanies urologist happen to be making a late night check up on her after surgery. When he saw the delivery man come in with dinner he stood up and went over and paid for it. Along with a very nice tip. Another time he was in the hall outside of ICU talking to me. A large pizza order was being delievered to the nurses. He excused himself and caught the guy and again paid for their food and a nice tip.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 5:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Cnd I wouldn't worry bout it. As you said yall can't make him and it's up to his staff to complain to him if they think it's a problem.

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 7:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
Cnd -- even if "his" people have complained to you about it (since complaining to their supervisor doesn't sound like it's been productive), I'd just explain to them that since it is NON-work related, your hands are tied. A boss can't impose mandates if it's not related to work. These people ARE grown-ups, right??

We did the "once a month" birthday parties for a long time at our school. We went to two lunches probably 9 years ago, so on the birthday day we would have one lunch school-wide so staff could get together. One person organized us all into teams, so we all had a month where we helped provide lunch. Just this year we stopped --and I tell ya', it was just one more thing that drug down our morale as a staff. I'm hoping we can implement it again next year because it was always so much fun!

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 7:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    

quote:

These people ARE grown-ups, right??



Hahahahaha, good one, Teach! Noooooooooooooooo, they are not adults. They are big old whiny babies. Well, that's what it seemd like when I was the boss. I never heard so much whining in my entire life. I finally had to make a rule that there was no whining allowed in my office, because, after all, I did have loaded gun in there.



Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 7:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
It's why I prefer working with men. You don't get that bitchy whiny highschool drama with men that you do with women.

My mother works with a bunch of women and I swear there is so much drama. I would have to kill someone if I worked in that environment.

Working with men, you can disagree, very vocally and 5 minutes later there is not problem. With women they hold onto it FOREVER!!!

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 8:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
At my firm in the section I work in, we have a monthly celebration of birthdays, anniversaries and welcomes. I am in charge of ordering the cake each month, which comes out of our section budget.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 9:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
cnd, would this be a problem?.... each birthday, those who want to go to the birthday lunch go. each person who goes pitches in for the birthday person's lunch and cake (piece of cake for the person). the tab is divided and each person pay a portion. if it's that big a problem, delegate the tab/check to someone (divide each person's tab up separately + price of birthday person. some people may be willing to go and pitch in...but will compensate by paying less for their own lunch. this helps those who are on a tight budget).

in that way, each person is just going to lunch, as usual. the only extra cost is part of the birthday lunch. you won't have to worry about birthday cake....let her order cake at lunch.

i do wonder, though...you said he's been there for 20 years. so, what does happen when someone has a birthday in that department? nothing. have there been complaints? lawsuit over a birthday lunch? (i used to work for the IRS and a few lawyers, but i'm still surprised to hear that)

eta: and if the people in the department aren't willing to pitch in $2-5 for the birthday lunch, then they should realize they won't be getting a birthday lunch either. i wouldn't even bother w/the supervisor..he's not going to change.

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 10:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Dearie, I would get the 3 supervisors, AND their employees and have a vote about this, making it clear that its a democratic vote that will hold accross the board in these depts. You know that they will vote for the status quo, and the cheapskate will have to ante up. Or he will look like an A, er, donkey. Basically its about embarrassing him into doing the right thing. And how can you be sued for having an informal VOTE about it...? GRIN.

... well its an idea. LOL. Just not sure how viable it is, Dearie. :-)

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 12:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
BB..what a sweet and lovely man!

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 1:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
BB, reading what you said about the urologist reminded me of something. My gp doctor was always gruff for his "bedside manner" but underneath it all he really cared for his patients. One time when I went to donate blood I listed his name as my doctor. The one nurse at the blood center said. "Oh he is so nice . I have worked with him in the hospital I have seen him cleaning his patients dentures and emptying their bed pans."

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Monday, June 26, 2006 - 11:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Zmom, my whiny babies were all men. :-)

Racsan
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04-09-2004

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 3:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Racsan a private message Print Post    
we tried the once a month celebrate all birthdays thing too but groups of folks would still do something special for only certain ones in the office.

If you do a once a month birthday celebration for everybody's birthday in that month at least something is done for each person. You'll never stop the "something special" that some people do for each other and not others. If the ones that don't get the something extra from friends whine then maybe THEY are the ones that aren't grown up? Some might say - not fair. I'll repeat what my mother told me as a child when I'd say not fair. LIFE AIN'T FAIR!

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 3:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Sounds like a bunch of whiny, mean-spirited people in your offices, Cn! I'd suggest that birthdays are something that should be celebrated after work hours and all arrangements be made during off-hours, too.

I have a friend who is of a religion that doesn't celebrate birthdays. She never attended our luncheons, but didn't complain or campaign to end them. Since we all cared so much about her and didn't want her left out, we decided that maybe twice a year we go out to dinner as a group just to enjoy each others company. No birthday stuff on company time, nothing that could leave someone out.