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The TVClubHouse: General Discussions ARCHIVES: 2006 Jun. ~ 2006 Dec.: Free Expressions (ARCHIVES): Manners/etiquette/what would ya do/etc: Archive through June 23, 2006 users admin

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Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 9:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
You'd have a rough idea by the invitation. That would tell you where the reception is being held. And in my opinion, lack of a gift would be insulting.

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
Yep, Twiggy that worried me too.

I couldn't even tell my DD the things that she said to me for weeks. I didn't want to cause trouble. DD knew something was bugging me, so finally I told her. She said she had heard all the things before, but she said she knows if she needed his parents for anything important, they would be there for her. As, a far away parent, that is the most important thing. I know my DD and she has no problem handling people like that.

edited to add: what's a "pita'?

Buttercup
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09-10-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Buttercup a private message Print Post    
In my opinion, a wedding reception should only be about celebrating and sharing a happy occasion with family and friends. Not about expecting gifts or money in return--customary or not, that is just tacky.

Neither should anybody feel obligated "repaying" the bride and groom for throwing a party. How a couple decides to spend their money--whether it is on lobster tails or a down payment on a house--is completely their choice. Not the guests' responsibility.

Should somebody be gracious enough to spend their time and money on giving you a gift, the least you can do in return is write a personal hand-written thank you note

Yes, I do give gifts myself, but I don't discriminate on whether it's a small backyard BBQ event or a six figure lavish affair. I give what I can afford.

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
Meme.. definition of Pita= Pain-in-the-dot dot dot

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
lol Thanks Twiggy!

Landi
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07-29-2002

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
my daughter's nickname is "greekbread" it's the nickname she signed onto TVCH with. greekbread=pita=pain in the a$$

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Meme, I can't wait to hear more details about your dd's wedding. My niece just recently got married and her colors were red, black and white also. Her dress was red and white and absolutely gorgeous (I posted pics in the RN thread a few weeks ago).

Her maid of honor (her mom/my sis) wore black. The flowers girls wore black and white dresses and were pulled down the aisle in a red Radio Flyer wagon.

As for the cost of a wedding gift, my gift to my niece cost me around $60. It didn't cost much but it took almost every spare minute of 4 months to do that cross stitch.

I will say that I've never heard that a gift should be commiserate with the cost of the wedding or reception. For me, it's commiserate with what I can afford.

I also now feel that my son has been cheated because no one gave him gifts for kindergarten or grade school graduation.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i still don't know what grade school graduation is. what do you graduate from/to? is this done every year and for what years? i'm totally baffled here.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
RE: the grade school graduation; If there is a ceremony you attend, you should get a gift, IMO. My gramma bought me a CD player when they were the cool new thing to have. I think it was aroung $200 at the time. Now you could get it for $50.

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Cnd, there is graduation from kindergarten, elementary school, junior high and, of course, high school.

I now understand that there is now junior high proms at the end of the year. One parent did tell me there school calls it a ball because the word "prom" is associated with high school. My reaction was "a junior high ball?"

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:15 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
aw, come on Spy, I can't shoot the messenger? LOL

i am reminded of my mom again. when we were getting married, people were very generous. My mom was rather stunned, and remember, she was very frugal..she commented one day that she just might have to rethink her wedding gifts! LOL
(she did the buy in bulk on sale silver frames too!)

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
I think those graduations depend on the school district too. Back when I was in school there was only 1 graduation and that was from high school. But both of the boys graduated from elementary and middle school. Didn't ask for any gifts though, didn't have a party. Just took them out to eat.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 12:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mamie316 a private message Print Post    
My kids didn't have any graduation ceremony for either elementary or junior high. There were award ceremonies but that was it. I did give them both a gift when they got out of junior high but I wouldn't expect anyone else to.

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
LOL Madelyn has "graduated" from Pre-school not once, not twice, but three times. The first 2 were moving up to a different class. This last one was a graduation with cap and gown since she is going to kindergarten this year. All three times I have taken her out for ice cream after the ceremony. And that's fine with her.

When Trey was in 6th grade he brought home a order sheet for a class ring. This is middle school not high school. The cost is just the same as high school rings...high. I personally think that is ridiculous. Why spend all that money for middle school not to mention his hand is still growing at that time. Why pay 250.00 for somethng he will only wear a short while. Then either outgrow or lose it.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Good lord a ring for middle school?

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
Yup, middle school. I think they are over doing so much. It really makes things less special for the kids. I remember when getting my class ring was a huge deal. Now if you already had one for middle high scholl just isn't that special any longer.

Same with Graduation. By the time Madelyn graduates from high school she will already have something like 6 graduations under her belt. Three in pre-school, one for kindergarten, one for elementary and one for middle school.

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
Native_texan, that sounds very pretty, love the red wagon idea. I'll try to find the pics in the RN thread. I can't tell any of the details(yet)....she would work me over like Hukdonreality did her mom.(see her previous post)

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
wow, all those graduations kinda takes the specialness out of the big one.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
I couldn't believe when my kids had a 5th grade graduation ceremony. Parents cried, took pics ect. I was like 'What? you didn't think they would pass ELEMENTARY SCHOOL????'

Buttercup
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09-10-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Buttercup a private message Print Post    
LOL Annie!

Err...I almost forgot...they had a graduation ceremony when ButterTot, ButterBaby at the time, graduated from Mommy and Me class at the university

I think she ate her diploma--at the very least, drooled all over it.



Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
LOL - I took a bunch of "graduation" pictures for four year olds a couple of weeks
ago.

Hey .... they were having fun.

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 3:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Herckleperckle a private message Print Post    
Awwwwww! Buttertot pictures are like sunbeams from the heavens! She certainly could make it as a tot model!

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 4:55 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
Hummmmmm, have I been out of the loop long enough for Buttercup to have had a ButterBaby, now a ButterTot?

ButterTot is sooo cute!

To keep on topic. Crying at 5th grade graduation, I don't know which is more shocking the graduation or the crying.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Abby7 a private message Print Post    
buttercup, ButterTot/Baby is one of the cutest babies i've ever seen.

what a doll. with that smile, i can't imagine how hard it would be not to spoil her...she would flash that smile and i would melt (good think i'm not a mother). i'm sending you "strength/muscle" for those times when you have to be strong and say "NO". lol

eta: love, love, lover her dress. ahem, the hat? well, i guess she couldn't help that. lol j/k

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
Buttertot is adorable!