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Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Oh my I agree! ButterTot is super cute!!!

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
She's sooo cute!!!

Biscottiii
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05-30-2004

Friday, June 23, 2006 - 7:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biscottiii a private message Print Post    
Oh my, ButterTot is so PRECIOUS!

I love the hat too, how comical!!! Looks like it might flutter in the breeze - kinda like the Flying Nun's. Did they let you keep the hat - for posterity? It's just so cute!

What fun! Thanks for the giggle Buttercup!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 12:34 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Bisc, I thought the same thing about that cutiepatootie, she looks like a miniature flying nun! Awwwwww.


Now as to the Hindu wedding we attended last year, it was complicated cuz we were concerned about the protocol. She was a co-worker I used to have lunch with, but I didn't work there anymore and never saw her after my contract expired, except for her wedding and reception, so the amount might not have been as high, (honestly), but it was a different culture, and we wanted not to embarrass ourselves and look ignorant so we polled every Hindu person we could find. We were told no gifts, just money. Okay. And we were told 100-150 for us as a couple. But a few said that since I didn't work there anymore and never saw her, less would be okay. Well we decided to go middle-ground, so we went with the 100. Which I agree is generous for an ex-coworker who made more money than I did whom I never saw. (And she was marrying into mucho moolah! BIG MONEY.)

But what took me aback was the little wooden box on the table for the money envelopes and some gal standing guard over it almost like a bank teller, (actually to be fair she seemed to be hostessing, and pointing us to the right banquet room). But it seemed like such an EXPECTATION of money.

I don't remember what we did for our wedding, I think my sister-in-law was in charge of that sort of thing, but she certainly didn't hover over things like a bank teller! I THINK people just piled stuff envelopes and gifts on the table near the wedding cake. SIL was actually busy working the video camera!

Not all our friends could afford gifts and we knew that, but we invited them cuz we wanted them to share our joy, expecting absolutely nothing other than their good wishes for us.

I was invited 30 years ago to a very dear friend's wedding and I was so broke I was living foot to mouth, hand to mouth would have been a step up! And so I bought her pretty cloth napkins and brass napkin rings for around 25.00 and while I may have been embarrassed by my paltry gift, it was the VERY BEST that I could do at the time and I know she understood.

Last year, that little wooden box right on a table in front of the entrance to the ballroom seemed to scream ENTITLEMENT to me. Also, I am still p'od that for all our concern about protocol, they never sent a thank you note!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 3:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
This giving cash at a wedding fascinates me. I have heard of the 'money dance', but is this something different? Is this a new thing or regional thing or cultural?
I am from Texas and married 23 years ago.

Buttercup
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09-10-2000

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 5:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Buttercup a private message Print Post    
Well, gee, thanks guys. That picture was taken a year ago. She hasn't officially graduated from anything since

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 1:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
Texannie, weddings I have gone to have all had money boxes. It is safer than just laying envelopes with money on a table. Money as a wedding gift is common here . (Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania). I don't like the idea of the money dance. Why should I pay to dance with the groom. lol. At one wedding someone was upset because they forgot to sign their card before they put it in the box. That is something I would do. They had to open the box to get it out. I have never seen anybody standing guard over the box.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 1:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
They give cash at a "well" at Italian and Greek weddings. It's a very common practice here.

And, this is in addition to the Wedding gift!

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 1:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
Made me think about a bunch of Mexican weddings ive been to, All the men dig into thier pockets and pull out all thier change and then toss it into the air...Not for the bride and groom..but for all the little kiddos attending...they have a blast with that..

Dogdoc
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09-29-2001

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 2:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dogdoc a private message Print Post    
When I give cash it IS the wedding gift.

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 5:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
All of my friends are gay Americans, and they can't legally get married to someone they love. Cuts down on the wedding gift worries quite a bit.



Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 5:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
aaahhhh, even the gayest of folks need more then one blender..LOL ..maybe they could throw a Un-wedding shower or somthing... Or is there a rule against that too...hmmmm

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 6:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
I was talk to DD yesterday, I was telling her about this thread, she got very quiet...I'm think, ok, I must have said something wrong. I said ok, we'll talk about something else. She said, no, it not that, I've received a wedding gift already, and you are not going to believe what is. They are friends with this couple, who happen to be gay(hold on to your seats). They give them $500 now as a wedding gift, so they could use it to help with the wedding, as in maybe an extra something they may want to have. One of them is in real estate, and said they will help them get a house when they are ready, with no commission.

Well, my chin is still on the floor. Is that not the most generous thing? DD's chin is still on the floor too! Unbelieveable! I'm just dumbfound!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 7:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
That is truly awesome Meme! Wish I had friends like that. Oh I do, but they don't have that kind of money. LOL

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 8:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Chewpito a private message Print Post    
I think that is wonderfull, she must be special to them, people usually dont do things like that unless they really want to...I hope she has a wonderful wedding..

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 4:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
WOW!! Meme, that is incredibly generous.

So is Texas or long ago Texas weddings the only ones that don't give cash as gifts?

Meme9
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07-30-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 4:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Meme9 a private message Print Post    
I know! That's going to be one heck of a Thank You note for sure. It pleases my heart to know others find my DD special.

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 6:01 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Herckleperckle a private message Print Post    
Wowser! And what a lovely sentiment you expressed above, Meme.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 7:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
How sweet Meme. Yep I think so Annie lol.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 8:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
gee..thanks, Mocha! LOL
Spy, did you get money? (only recent TX wedding I know of)

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 8:15 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
lol

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 8:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
we didn't receive any cash as a gift when we got married in 2002. we got married in Belize but the reception was held here in Georgia.

Hukdonreality
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09-29-2003

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 9:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
I honestly don't know if it is regional or not, but I have NEVER been to a wedding reception around here (between Buffalo and Rochester New York) where there were more than 10 gifts or so. It's always the wishing well for the envelopes. How strange that things can be so different!

Spygirl
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04-23-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 9:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Spygirl a private message Print Post    
We did receive cash, yes. Actually, quite a chunk of it, though most was from close family members.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 9:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
Darn, we really missed out.