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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 9:53 am
You'd have a rough idea by the invitation. That would tell you where the reception is being held. And in my opinion, lack of a gift would be insulting.
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:03 am
Yep, Twiggy that worried me too. I couldn't even tell my DD the things that she said to me for weeks. I didn't want to cause trouble. DD knew something was bugging me, so finally I told her. She said she had heard all the things before, but she said she knows if she needed his parents for anything important, they would be there for her. As, a far away parent, that is the most important thing. I know my DD and she has no problem handling people like that. edited to add: what's a "pita'?
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Buttercup
Member
09-10-2000
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:06 am
In my opinion, a wedding reception should only be about celebrating and sharing a happy occasion with family and friends. Not about expecting gifts or money in return--customary or not, that is just tacky. Neither should anybody feel obligated "repaying" the bride and groom for throwing a party. How a couple decides to spend their money--whether it is on lobster tails or a down payment on a house--is completely their choice. Not the guests' responsibility. Should somebody be gracious enough to spend their time and money on giving you a gift, the least you can do in return is write a personal hand-written thank you note Yes, I do give gifts myself, but I don't discriminate on whether it's a small backyard BBQ event or a six figure lavish affair. I give what I can afford. 
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:12 am
Meme.. definition of Pita= Pain-in-the-dot dot dot
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:21 am
lol Thanks Twiggy!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:23 am
my daughter's nickname is "greekbread" it's the nickname she signed onto TVCH with. greekbread=pita=pain in the a$$
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 10:58 am
Meme, I can't wait to hear more details about your dd's wedding. My niece just recently got married and her colors were red, black and white also. Her dress was red and white and absolutely gorgeous (I posted pics in the RN thread a few weeks ago). Her maid of honor (her mom/my sis) wore black. The flowers girls wore black and white dresses and were pulled down the aisle in a red Radio Flyer wagon. As for the cost of a wedding gift, my gift to my niece cost me around $60. It didn't cost much but it took almost every spare minute of 4 months to do that cross stitch. I will say that I've never heard that a gift should be commiserate with the cost of the wedding or reception. For me, it's commiserate with what I can afford. I also now feel that my son has been cheated because no one gave him gifts for kindergarten or grade school graduation.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:05 am
i still don't know what grade school graduation is. what do you graduate from/to? is this done every year and for what years? i'm totally baffled here.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:09 am
RE: the grade school graduation; If there is a ceremony you attend, you should get a gift, IMO. My gramma bought me a CD player when they were the cool new thing to have. I think it was aroung $200 at the time. Now you could get it for $50.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:12 am
Cnd, there is graduation from kindergarten, elementary school, junior high and, of course, high school. I now understand that there is now junior high proms at the end of the year. One parent did tell me there school calls it a ball because the word "prom" is associated with high school. My reaction was "a junior high ball?"
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:15 am
aw, come on Spy, I can't shoot the messenger? LOL i am reminded of my mom again. when we were getting married, people were very generous. My mom was rather stunned, and remember, she was very frugal..she commented one day that she just might have to rethink her wedding gifts! LOL (she did the buy in bulk on sale silver frames too!)
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:25 am
I think those graduations depend on the school district too. Back when I was in school there was only 1 graduation and that was from high school. But both of the boys graduated from elementary and middle school. Didn't ask for any gifts though, didn't have a party. Just took them out to eat.
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Mamie316
Member
07-08-2003
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 12:45 pm
My kids didn't have any graduation ceremony for either elementary or junior high. There were award ceremonies but that was it. I did give them both a gift when they got out of junior high but I wouldn't expect anyone else to.
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:23 pm
LOL Madelyn has "graduated" from Pre-school not once, not twice, but three times. The first 2 were moving up to a different class. This last one was a graduation with cap and gown since she is going to kindergarten this year. All three times I have taken her out for ice cream after the ceremony. And that's fine with her. When Trey was in 6th grade he brought home a order sheet for a class ring. This is middle school not high school. The cost is just the same as high school rings...high. I personally think that is ridiculous. Why spend all that money for middle school not to mention his hand is still growing at that time. Why pay 250.00 for somethng he will only wear a short while. Then either outgrow or lose it.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:27 pm
Good lord a ring for middle school?
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:45 pm
Yup, middle school. I think they are over doing so much. It really makes things less special for the kids. I remember when getting my class ring was a huge deal. Now if you already had one for middle high scholl just isn't that special any longer. Same with Graduation. By the time Madelyn graduates from high school she will already have something like 6 graduations under her belt. Three in pre-school, one for kindergarten, one for elementary and one for middle school.
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 1:50 pm
Native_texan, that sounds very pretty, love the red wagon idea. I'll try to find the pics in the RN thread. I can't tell any of the details(yet)....she would work me over like Hukdonreality did her mom.(see her previous post)
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:06 pm
wow, all those graduations kinda takes the specialness out of the big one.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:21 pm
I couldn't believe when my kids had a 5th grade graduation ceremony. Parents cried, took pics ect. I was like 'What? you didn't think they would pass ELEMENTARY SCHOOL????'
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Buttercup
Member
09-10-2000
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:47 pm
LOL Annie! Err...I almost forgot...they had a graduation ceremony when ButterTot, ButterBaby at the time, graduated from Mommy and Me class at the university I think she ate her diploma--at the very least, drooled all over it.

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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 2:59 pm
LOL - I took a bunch of "graduation" pictures for four year olds a couple of weeks ago. Hey .... they were having fun.
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 3:36 pm
Awwwwww! Buttertot pictures are like sunbeams from the heavens! She certainly could make it as a tot model!
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 4:55 pm
Hummmmmm, have I been out of the loop long enough for Buttercup to have had a ButterBaby, now a ButterTot? ButterTot is sooo cute! To keep on topic. Crying at 5th grade graduation, I don't know which is more shocking the graduation or the crying.
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Abby7
Member
07-17-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:00 pm
buttercup, ButterTot/Baby is one of the cutest babies i've ever seen. what a doll. with that smile, i can't imagine how hard it would be not to spoil her...she would flash that smile and i would melt (good think i'm not a mother). i'm sending you "strength/muscle" for those times when you have to be strong and say "NO". lol eta: love, love, lover her dress. ahem, the hat? well, i guess she couldn't help that. lol j/k
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Biloxibelle
Member
12-21-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 6:04 pm
Buttertot is adorable!
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