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Sweetbabygirl
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08-31-2002

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 9:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sweetbabygirl a private message Print Post    
Someone sent me this today:

A CAT'S PRAYER

When I am gone, release me, let me go,
I have so many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears,
be happy that we had so many years.
I gave you my love, you can only guess,
how much you gave me in happiness.
I thank you for the love that you have shown,
but now it is time I traveled alone.
So grieve awhile for me if grieve you must,
then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It is only for a while that we must part,
so bless the memories within your heart.
I will not be far away, for life goes on,
so if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can not see or touch me, I will be near
and if you listen with your heart, you will hear
all my love around you, soft and clear.
And then, when you must come this way alone,
I will greet you with a smile and "Welcome Home".


This is so beautiful; maybe I shouldn’t have read it at work, because I just lost it at my desk. I will attach it to the box of Deep’s ashes when I get it from the vet this week, along with his picture. I just hope that he knows how much I loved him, this is so tough man.

Thanks again guys for your support.

SBG

Alwayzmovin
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11-06-2003

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 9:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Alwayzmovin a private message Print Post    
SBG, I'm sorry for your loss also. My Spanky has made my dealing with Angus being gone so much easier.
Hang in there.

Retired
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07-11-2001

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 9:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Retired a private message Print Post    
That's a beautiful poem. Believe me, Deep knows how much you loved him. Nice idea about the poem and his pic. (((SBG)))

Hypermom
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08-13-2001

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 9:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hypermom a private message Print Post    
((((SBG)))) I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with everyone that has said to give extra attention to Harpo. When I had to put Samantha to sleep last month, Holly started following me around like Sam did. Now, Holly has become more sociable than she had been. I think the extra attention helped her get over not having Sam here.

Watching2
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07-07-2001

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 12:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Watching2 a private message Print Post    
{{{{SBG}}}}}} I'm so sorry. Gosh, it never totally goes away, does it? What I mean is, it's been almost 4 yrs and as I'm reading what you've gone through I find myself feeling the same feelings from when I had to put my beloved Jade down. Our dog Kellie was really confused when Jade was gone and also confused that I wanted her to try to do some of the things Jade did and she's just not a lap dog and I really flustered her, but at least she was getting more attention since I know she knew Jade was gone, but not where. I just felt so empty and can feel myself back at that time. You know you did the right thing as did I, but it sure does hurt and you have my most sincere sympathy.

{{{{{{SBG, DP & Harpo}}}}}}

Bandit
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07-29-2001

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 1:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Bandit a private message Print Post    
SBG, so sorry to hear of your loss...so much so, it's hard to put into words. I loved the poem you posted...it choked me up and brought tears to my eyes.

I know nothing we say can make you feel better, but know we are all thinking about you.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Monday, July 17, 2006 - 5:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Pamy a private message Print Post    
((((SBG))) my thoughts are with you

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 7:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Herckleperckle a private message Print Post    
I just read your post from Monday, SBG, and I am bawling like a baby. Arggh. Gotta go soak my head.

I'll bet you and Harpo become even closer now. I think our fur babies are so sensitive--they know when you are hurting. I'd spend extra time snuggling with Harpo if I were you. Pretty soon, you may find you have a different relationship than before, and every bit as special as you long for.

Sweetbabygirl
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08-31-2002

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 8:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sweetbabygirl a private message Print Post    
That's just the problem, Hercklekins....since Deep's death, it has been extremely difficult for me to bond with Harpo.

It seems all I do when I get up in the morning and when I come home at night is cry. When Harpo comes up to me I pick him up, hug and kiss him, then leave him alone for the rest of the night.

Unfortunately, I've found myself wondering why wasn't it him? After all, he's the one that I had to take to the vet more than D.P., how come he lives and Deep had to die? I hate myself for feeling this way since I know this isn't Harpo's fault, and it isn't fair to him. However, everytime I look at him I see D.P.

I don't know what to do, if I should keep him or not.

Retired
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07-11-2001

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 9:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Retired a private message Print Post    
SBG, please keep Harpo. Right now you are still in shock over losing Deep. Your grief is so raw you can't see things ever getting better, but eventually it will You and Harpo need each right now and need to ride this bumpy road together.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 9:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Aww Sbg that's just the grief talking. You and Harpo need each other.

Baby
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01-08-2006

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 12:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
SBG, I know my experience is different but thought I would write about what I have been going through hoping it might help you and your little Harpo.

I had my beloved Baby for 14 years. She went over Rainbow Bridge on May 20th. She was my only animal friend and since I am homebound, we got extremely close. I was much closer to her than many people in my life. Baby was the very best friend I could have and I miss her dearly!

About 5 weeks after her death, little Sweetie Juju Pie came to live with me. Now, this little guy is totally different in so many ways than Baby. Sweetie is extremely loving just like Baby was and he is very talkative just like Baby. Other than that, he is not at all like her. She was not so much into toys and more on the quiet side. Well, this little guy is totally opposite. I call him my wild child!

When I first got Sweetie Juju Pie, I really questioned myself whether or not this was a good move for me and for him. Loosing Baby was like loosing my mom all over again. And I thought I was being so unfair to this little guy. I just longed for and wanted Baby back so much! I felt so much pain and my heart literally ached. I cried so many tears!

It has taken me some time to adjust to this new little wild one and I am still working on it. And I still long for Baby so badly. I still cry for her, too. I don't cry as much but the tears still come. And I know this little one will never replace my Baby because Sweetie Juju Pie is not her and it wouldn't be fair of me to compare him to her or want him to be her. He isn't her and he never will be.

But, you know what SBG? I am so grateful I have him and I have come to love him dearly just like I did Baby but in a different way. And, if I had not gotten him or not kept him, I know in my heart I would have regretted it so much. Sweetie is not Baby, he is just himself. But, he is a wonderful little companion in his own way with his own personality!

I will always love and miss Baby terribly. I don't try to even fight those feelings any longer. I just accept it. And I am so grateful she got to be my best friend for those 14 years!

I love you, Baby!!!

Retired
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07-11-2001

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 12:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Retired a private message Print Post    
Nice post, Baby.

Baby
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01-08-2006

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 12:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Thank you, Retired!

I owe you an email and hopefully will get to it soon. Too much going on right now and with the heat, YUK!

Thank you for your kind letter! I appreciate it!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 1:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
That was an awesome post Baby! Gave me a lump in my throat. If anyone ever had any reservations about you and your wild child, that should shut them up forever. hugs!

Baby
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01-08-2006

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 1:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Aw shucks, Mame! Your post means sooo much to me! Perfect timing, too! Thank you!!

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 1:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
That was wonderful Baby! That is just the way I feel about our kitty right now.

Sweetbabygirl
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08-31-2002

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 1:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sweetbabygirl a private message Print Post    
How very touching and beautiful Baby, and thanks!! (Wipes tears from face, AGAIN!)

I get what you all are saying, I really do....but this hurts so much, and like I said before, try as I might I just can't (and sometimes won't let myself) connect with Harpo.

Where Deep was animated and feisty, always getting into things, Harpo is independent and very subdued....it takes a lot for him to come to you and even after he's gotten his hug or kiss, he just goes away. Right now that's not good for me, because I need for him to cling to me, give some sort of sign that he needs me.

I dread coming home now, because I know that Deep won't be there, running around and practically dive bombing me for attention. In a few months I'll be moving and I can't get over the fact that he won't be coming with us. Not to mention that when I'm on the computer there is no one to walk on the keyboard or lie next to my hip, awaiting his head and belly strokes. And all the stupid songs that the boyfriend and everyone else used to tease me about, I can't even think of performing now.

Yesterday, someone gave me a hotline number for pet grief counseling, I think I am going to take them up on it.

Baby
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01-08-2006

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 2:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
I think you should give them a call, SBG. They just might be able to really help. You won't know until you try. I know for me, if someone had given me a number for pet grief counseling, I definitely would have called.

Before I read your most recent post, I was thinking maybe if you just tried to make a little progress each day or every few days with Harpo and your feelings of loss for Deep (little, baby steps), that might be better. Maybe you wouldn't feel so overwhelmed with everything. I am no expert when it comes to this sort of thing and I am not sure if I am giving good ideas or not. But, I just keep thinking if you can gradually get closer to Harpo and gradually work on your feelings of loss when it comes to Deep, that might be an easier approach. Just try to do things at a slower pace. It just might be better for both you and Harpo!

Baby
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01-08-2006

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 2:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Thanks Jimmer! I take it, no pics from Wendy yet? I guess she doesn't plan on sending them!

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 2:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I don't know Baby. I haven't received anything and I am positive that I haven't missed it. The only other possibility is that she may have had a typo in the address or something?

Gidget
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07-28-2002

Wednesday, July 19, 2006 - 8:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Gidget a private message Print Post    
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Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Thursday, July 20, 2006 - 2:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twiggyish a private message Print Post    
ROFL

Nickovtyme
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07-29-2004

Friday, July 21, 2006 - 6:55 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Nickovtyme a private message Print Post    


just felt like posting a pic of Jack.

Ketchuplover
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08-30-2000

Friday, July 21, 2006 - 7:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Ketchuplover a private message Print Post    
(((SBG)))