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Rosie
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11-12-2003

Monday, October 09, 2006 - 5:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Great idea, Whomum. Glad you never tried that one on me. lol

Suz
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10-13-2005

Monday, October 09, 2006 - 5:53 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Suz a private message Print Post    
LOL, today my 5 year old Grandson was doing homework....cutting paper. I walked away for a second and looked back, saw hair on the counter and a guilty look. He had cut his hair.
Thank goodness, not much. I love these kids. His Mom and I have a hard time getting him going in the morning for school.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Monday, October 09, 2006 - 11:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Hey I like that idea Who! I'm also going to try the timer in the morning and see if that helps any. I had a talk with her tonight when I put her to bed about it and we're going to try to make a game out of it (Can you eat breakfast in 15 minutes? Get dressed in 10?)

I really don't want to switch her bedtime because she's waking up on time, even though that's what I've been threatening. I'm not going to follow through on it so I need to just ditch that whole thing and figure out something that will work and both of us will stick to.

If ya see me running around the board tomorrow yanking my hair out, ya'll will know why, lol.

LOL, Suz, isn't it amazing how fast they can be sometimes? I wonder what they're thinking as they start whacking away at their hair...I remember asking Kota and my niece and they really couldn't come up with a good reason why they'd do it.

Prisonerno6
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08-31-2002

Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 3:44 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Prisonerno6 a private message Print Post    
Work out a system of rewards. For the first week or two, she gets a reward everyday she gets ready on time. It can be a positive reinforcement where you give her something she likes (an extra 15 minutes of TV time, for example) or negative reinforcement where you take away something she doesn't like (if you get ready on time, you don't have to help with the dishes tonight) (Make those whatever works for her). After that, set up a point system (for every day you don't have to prod her to get ready, she gets a point. After she earns ten points, she gets a special treat). Make the point system something really visual, like a chart on a piece of poster board, and she gets stickers that she can use to fill in the chart.

You could even use shaping for this. Instead of setting the goal post far away (getting ready in the morning on time -- that's actually a complex task with many steps), break it down into little ones. Set up a schedule for her she can see. She already gets up on time. So figure out what the next step is. Say it's eating breakfast within 15 minutes of getting up. Tell her how much time she has, show her how the timer works, but tell her you aren't going to remind her. Focus on that only, and give her a reward every time she does it. Then you add the next step, maybe brushing her teeth and washing up. Give enough time to do that, but focus only on that until she gets that done. Then add the next step, getting dresses, and reward that until she gets it under control. it will take awhile, but eventually she will learn how to get ready in the morning.

The hard part is going to be not prodding her. Right now, she's getting exactly what she wants, getting to dawdle in the morning but still get to school on time. You've been unknowingly reinforcing that behavior by helping her get to school on time even though she dawdles. So you have to change your own behavior in order to help her change hers.

Reinforcement always works better than punishment if you can catch them being good. I do this terrific experiment in my psych classes to show this, and it always works. One of the women in my applied psych class had a problem with her son crying every time she dropped him off at kindergarten. I helped her figure out a system of rewards, and told her to not dawdle and talk to him while he's crying, to just say goodbye and leave, and within a week, he had stopped crying.

Watch the Supernanny -- she has behavior modification techniques that are great.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 10:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
We had an interesting morning. Kota was standing at the door and ready to go at 8:05 while Caleb was brushing his teeth, putting his shoes on, and grabbing his backpack. He's never late, usually ready to go about 30-45 minutes before we have to leave. I was teasing them that we must have slipped into backwards world today because it never works out like that, lol.

I did use the timer and I'm not sure if it was that that worked for her or just the whole weird morning thing going on. I'm going to try that again tomorrow and see if it really did help.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
hope it continues!

Cdbga
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10-04-2004

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 2:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cdbga a private message Print Post    
Okay three gripes and all about work (how nice is it that I don't really have any personal life gripes?):

1) people who put contacts in their "out of office" replies who are also out of the office. All three of our log management contacts were out of office yesterday, yet they ALL set their out of office replies with one of the other as the back-up contact (and it was a planned outing, they knew they'd all be out). I didn't know they were all out, so I end up with three different out-of-office emails and NO answers.

2) People who back into their parking spaces in our parking garage when people are waiting behind them. Just seems inconsiderate to me, when you have a mostly empty lot and people are in a hurry to park and get in to work (we have VERY strict rules about being on time, you can get a warning from management for being 1 minute late). If someone is running late, the time they spend waiting for you to back in and get out of their way may be the difference between getting in the building on time and getting written up. (And we have quite a few people here who back in, but will pull in and let other people by first. I don't have a problem with that.)

3) Other people are using the computer in our office. We just had another group of people move in next door to us. We are only staffed 6am-10pm, they are staffed 24 hrs. When I got in this morning, I saw that the last person logged into our PC was one of their overnight staff. This ISN'T a shared area, nobody else has any business being in here. The company provides "hotelling" PCs that anybody can use. THIS is not one of them. And it didn't make me any less annoyed that the person who did it is someone I already have no use for.

My goodness that's a lot of griping for this early in the morning! This day had better improve.

Callasin
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06-21-2005

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 8:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Callasin a private message Print Post    
I came here to gripe and the kid "haircut" stories made me laugh. When I was little for some reason I decided to cut my eyebrows with the scissors. I took a chunk out of the middle of each of them. Mom told me she wasn't sure if they grow back to scare me and teach me a lesson. After I had worried for a little while she told me they would grow back but made me go to school looking like that.

My gripe is how rude people act at the grocery store. A woman in one of those motorized chairs threw a fit at me this morning because she came up behind me and couldn't wait a few seconds for me to grab something off the shelf and move on down the isle. She didn't throw the fit because I refused to move she just started in the minute she turned into the aisle and saw me like she was so entitled!

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 8:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
That would have made me linger a bit longer.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 10:17 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Yep, me too.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 10:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
I would have left my cart right there while I ventured down the isle to look for other things. I am a biotch like that, though.

Whoami
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08-03-2001

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 6:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Whoami a private message Print Post    
Depending on my mood, I might reply to her one of two ways.....

1). Turn to her and say, "does the phrase 'wait your turn' ring a bell? I'm a shopper just like you. I was here first, and right now its my turn." Then I might punctuate it with lingering longer than I intended.

2). Kill her with kindness and offer to reach something off the shelf for her and place it in her basket.

The "linger a bit longer" thing reminds me of a family story of something someone in our family did once (can't remember if he was a cousin or what now). He was at a red light, and the driver behind him pulled one of those "blare his horn the second the light turns green" things. So my "cousin" turned his car off, popped the hood, got out and pretended to tinker around in the engine a while. He made sure to make that guy sit through a couple more green lights (they were in a spot the other guy couldn't go around him) before closing the hood, getting back in his car and starting it back up and continuing on his way!

Biloxibelle
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12-21-2001

Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 6:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Biloxibelle a private message Print Post    
ack Who, your right light story reminded me of something. It's my red light story.

I was coming out of the college a couple of years ago. There was a car in front of me with 4 young girls in it. The light turned green, but the driver was kind of leaning over tinkering with something and the other girls were looking with her. I almost tooted my horn but I didn't. Just in the time she straighten up, a tractor trailer truck blew through the red light. If I had blown my horn those girls would have pulled out right into the path of that truck.

To this day I don't know what stopped me from blowing my horn. I didn't see the truck coming. All I know is since that day, I will sit through a green light before I ever blow my horn at anyone.

Callasin
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06-21-2005

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 10:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Callasin a private message Print Post    
The linger a little didn't work with this woman she just plowed right in and tried to move my cart. The one thing I dislike about my husband's new hours at work is we can't go shopping in the evening any more after all the special needs and elderly people are gone. After yesterday's trip to the grocery store for just a couple of items I had no patience to go again today for a full week's shopping. I finally tried Peapod delivery we'll see how it goes.

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 11:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
Callasin, I swear by delivery!! I hate going to the grocery store and my costs have dropped considerably since I do no impulse buying. Only get what is on the list.

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 12:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Escapee a private message Print Post    
Delivery? Like in the old days? I might need to try this service.

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 1:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
I'm not sure this is a gripe as much as a whine. Can I whine for just a minute? That might be all I have tonight. They just announced on the news that there are power outages all over town and more to come. If I have to sit here alone, in the dark, with no TV and no internet on my anniversary I will cry! Hubby teaches tonight until 10PM. Waaaaaaa!

Dipo
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04-23-2002

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 1:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Dipo a private message Print Post    
Escapee, I used to use Albertson's but when they got sold they shut down their online delivery service. So now I use safeway.com, it costs $9.95 for delivery, but depending on the size of your order ($150 or more) you can get free delivery some of the time. I have a hard time hitting that number unless I buy lots of liquor, LOL!!

But I would rather have them carry all the stuff up my stairs, especially when I am buying kitty litter, LOL.

However in the spirit of the thread name, the one thing I do not like is how thier website works! I understand they are working on changing it, it just annoys me that if I search for Kraft Cheese, for example, I get the Kraft and other brands mixed in. If I wanted the other brands I would have just searched for Cheese!!

Anyway they do have a cool feature which is express list. You just type in your list and it pulls everything up that matches it!

Man, that is a Bummer Twinkie!! Maybe a candlelit bubble bath is in order!

Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 2:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Twinkie a private message Print Post    
Thanks, Dipo. At least I have gas heat and gas range. I'm making a big pot of veggie beef stew so at least we won't starve or be cold tonight. I'm hoping that so few people show up for hubby's class that they cancel it and he can come home. Its really bad outside. There is a LOT of snow on the trees and the wind is blowing hard and I'm watching it right now. The balcony is full of snow. I just hope a big tree limb doesn't come down on the house! What a way to spend your 10 year anniversary. LOL

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 9:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Juju2bigdog a private message Print Post    
Uhhhhh ... Happy Anniversary, Twinkster. Hope you had some power tonight.

Lumbele
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07-12-2002

Friday, October 13, 2006 - 5:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lumbele a private message Print Post    
Happy Anniversary, Twinks!!! Romantic candlelight, eh?

Hope you will be able to dig out soon and get your hydro back. Could you use that exercise bike as a dynamo? Hang in there!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, October 13, 2006 - 9:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
For Twinks and her dh... a little romantic lighting to set the mood...

Shashakaye
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05-19-2003

Thursday, October 26, 2006 - 8:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Shashakaye a private message Print Post    
Never, ever buy an RCA tv. I bought mine in Nov, 05 and within 10 days it went out so I exchanged it at the store. This TV went out in July of this year and I have been dealing with RCA (Thompson) since then to try to get it fixed. There was only 1 authorized service center in my area so I called them at end of July. It took them until Sept 8th to pick it up to be repaired. That was a Friday. The following Wed I called repair center and asked if he had found out what was wrong with it and approx how long for repairs, he told me he hadn't even looked at it yet. Next day I called RCA to let them know I was unhappy waiting since end of July and now it's Sept 9th and my tv hasn't even been looked at. They put me on hold and called service center to ask how long to repair. Was told around 2 weeks. 10 minutes later service center called me and asked if I would be home that afternoon as they were bringing my tv back unrepaired becuase he got mad that I called RCA. I called RCA and let them know my tv was coming back urepaired and they just couldnt beleive it. She told mt that she would have to direct my case to a direct field mngr and let me know what he says. She said that should take around 3 days. This was Sept 14. No response until yesterday, Oct 25th. I had been calling to chk in the meantime 1-2 per week and kept being told still no response. Yesterday they called and said finally a response from manager and since there are no other service centers in my area he talked to the one that I went to before and they are now willing to fix my tv. I said I will not deal w them. Am I wrong?? Again today they call and say the same thing. Either I can go thru that place or choose a different place and pay for transport. I cant beleive they even want me to deal with the first place.

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Thursday, October 26, 2006 - 8:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Shash, call your local TV station so that RCA can really enjoy some bad publicity. That might shake them up enough to deliver a brand new TV to you.

Shashakaye
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05-19-2003

Thursday, October 26, 2006 - 8:22 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Shashakaye a private message Print Post    
I just filed a complaint thru the BBB, they have 110 complaints against them with 90 resolved. Maybe I can get somewhere that way.