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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, June 05, 2006 - 12:28 pm
My sil was a virgin when she married my brother at the age of 29..the sexual tension between those 2 was so thick you could cut a knife!!!
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, June 05, 2006 - 2:43 pm
i was a virgin at 18 up until 2 months before i first got married. and, my current dh was a virgin when i started dating him at age 39. so, some folks do wait.
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Monday, June 05, 2006 - 3:09 pm
I love red for a formal dress. =) We have sweetened tea here, too. You can ask for unsweetened.
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Monday, June 05, 2006 - 6:10 pm
Roxip, you asked "Urgrace, is your name because of the Junie B. Jones books?" No, my dad called me Grace when I was a clumsy child, and I didn't grow out of it. A friend of mine would call me Your Grace all the time and started shortening it to Ur Grace in emails.
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Monday, June 05, 2006 - 7:12 pm
Urgace, my daughter is getting married this fall and she will be wearing a red bridal gown, yes, I said red. I know, it took me awhile to get over the shock... this is my daughter, and I did raise her up to think for herself. Her wedding will be like no other, everything and I do mean everything, will have it's own twist. Each twist has special meaning to her. Her colors are red, black, white with a splash of silver. LOL, we just had the tasting last Tuesday... let's just say I got looks when I stated how I wanted the dinner to go. But, all was well by the next day, once they had time to see I was right...hehe. I'll give details after the wedding(don't want everyone stealing her idea's before she gets to use them). Anyway, I say, if she can wear red, you can wear red!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:03 pm
Is this the latest trend??? I think it's very tacky. My stepmonster's granddaughter got married in April. I couldn't go cause of real estate school, but my dh went. There had been some confusion over whether or not the kids were invited cause they were not listed on the invite. dad kept saying they were, but i kept saying "well, they weren't on the invite." And he said, 'well, they just don't know better." (now these are allegedly very wealthy high society people from Conneticut) today, i get a letter in the mail with my name spell wrong..with an 'e'..so i am already ticked off but open it up and it's from the bride and groom and it's PRE PRINTED thank you. "Thank you for adding to the joyful spirit of our wedding with your presence and thoughtful gift" with their names PREPRINTED TOO!!! the ONLY thing the bride had to do was address the envelope correctly and she got that wrong!!!
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:09 pm
Tex, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I agree that is tacky! It is proper to hand write your thank-you notes. Meme, your daughter's wedding sounds so cool. I'd love to see pictures.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:26 pm
I'm old fashioned too then. Heck we just had Caleb's party and spent an hour or so the next day with him writing "thank you" for everyone. There's just some things you should do for yourself and when someone comes to a special event of yours, they should get a hand written note.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:41 pm
Yep tacky.
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Buttercup
Member
09-10-2000
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:45 pm
I absolutely agree that it should be handwritten. After all, unless I remember wrong, a bride and groom have one year from the date of the wedding to get the thank you notes out--in other words, time isn't really an excuse for not writing them. Now, whether I personally agree with the one-year rule is another story 
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Urgrace
Member
08-19-2000
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 2:49 pm
Well I just threw it up to tactless wonderment when I got thank you notes that didn't even mention what the gift was, but getting preprinted thank you notes is the top of tactless IMO.
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Azriel
Member
08-01-2000
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 3:04 pm
Texannie, I agree with you on both points. I think if the kids were invited their names should have been on the invitation or it should have said "and family". I think it's rude to assume that the kids are invited and, in doubt, you should always ask if it was an oversight. I think if you are going to send out pre-printed thank you notes without even bothering to sign your name to them, then you might as well have not sent out thank you notes. Geesh, I don't care how many you have to send out or how busy your life is, at the very least you should personally sign it!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 3:44 pm
And these were done in the same printing style, paper, font ect as her wedding invitations so I know they were ordered at the same time! I have seen these done for funerals, but at least with handwritten signature. I wonder if my dad knows. He is the best thank you note writer. I just got one from him for Father's day! When the funeral home offered the preprinted thank you's to us, he was appalled! I had people calling me up after my mother died amazed at how quickly he got out his notes. I am trying to figure out if he knows! LOL
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 5:34 pm
Texannie, I agree on both topics. We're working on our invite list, and if childrens' name are not on invite... don't bring'em. We however, are inviting all the children(this is also adding to the cost of reception...they charge the same for a child as they do for an adult. Now really, can a child eat and drink as much as an adult at a reception...nooooooo). We're having the wedding out of town, thank goodness, otherwise, we would have to invite the whole dang town and then some. Feeling would be hurt and I don't want that. My daughter says everyone knows her Mom and Dad, even when we don't know their names. It funny you were talking about a thank you card, just today I got one in the mail...my name was with a K instead of a C. All they had to do was look at my card. Twiggy, she is so happy about her choices so far. Her dress came in yesterday, and she loves it. I'll tell you all about it after the wedding. And , of course I'll have to get her ok to show pics. Yep, lots of cool details. I want her to be delighted with her wedding day(it shows doesn't it). 
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Tess
Member
04-13-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 6:07 pm
You're right, Annie, the so-called thank you was very tacky. I also agree that children are only invited if their names are on the invitation. When we were married, we specified everyone's children (for those who had them at the time) and then even followed up to make sure that those with children knew that their children were not only invited, but welcome. If Sarah's name isn't on an invitation, we don't bring her but Charlie always thinks the same as your DH, that she's invited no matter what. I always over-rule that if her name isn't on the invitation or it doesn't say "family".
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Mameblanche
Member
08-24-2002
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 6:48 pm
Last summer (I believe it was around this time of year.) Dh and I went to the wedding of a colleague of mine, who I used to work with before my contract ran out. By the time of the wedding, I already wasn't working there. So I was thrilled to receive the invite in the mail. We were invited to both the wedding and the reception. (A 2 day production! It was a Hindu wedding and we were excited to see a wedding of a different culture. It was beautiful and very, very different. We were fascinated.) And dh and I sat with others from work, and we all enjoyed ourselves immensely. BUT. We gave a cheque for a hundred dollars. The cheque was cashed but we've never heard a peep since then. No acknowlegement they even recieved it, til I saw our bank statement. That's how I found out they did have it. No Thank You note. Nothing. I'd have settled for preprinted. Or even smoke-signals, or semifore flags. Geez. Ironically dh and I had agonized over the correct amount and canvassed all the Hindu people we met, like restaurant owners, etc. Who gave us suggestions as to what's proper protocol. And they didn't all agree so we still agonized. Anyhow, its not the money, although 100.00 is no small patates, its just not getting an acknowlegement. That bugs me. And I know they have the correct address cuz we got the invite in the first place!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 11:53 pm
wow! I have never given a hundred dollar gift to anyone except my brother!!!!! Tess, it was my dad saying the kids were invited. My dh was with me.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 3:00 am
A hundred is a standard wedding gift around here. Actually it has been a hundred for a while, so that is probably considered a lower end gift by now! (At my wedding-7 years ago already, I'd say the most common gift was $100 (for 2 people). Followed by $125. Though there were a few much lower.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 3:05 am
whoa! we must be cheap around here. $25 - 50 is the average wedding gift unless it is someone really special in our life. the same for graduation presents too. we get between 5 & 20 invites every year. there is no way we could spend that much money @ $100 bucks a pop. wow.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 3:15 am
I'm single and usually give $50.00. I think that $100.00 for a couple is pretty standard. I was always told to gift more than the cost of the dinner, so those figures are a pretty safe bet.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 4:32 am
A graduation gift would be much less than $100. More like $25. I think $50 a person is standard for a wedding gift. (At least here near Chicago. Probably differs regionally.)
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 4:36 am
Looking at it from a purely financial perspective (which I am not saying is the only way to look at it), given the cost of a Wedding and reception, the Bride and Groom are probably giving you a gift if you give them less than $100 dollars (per couple)!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 4:42 am
Well I must be cheap then.
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Meme9
Member
07-30-2001
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 5:04 am
Purely financial...hmmmmmm Don't do a wedding reception! LOL Jimmer you're right. And when guest have children, it truly is a gift to that family, because it cost more to have them, and they usually can't give more(understandably). Money Maker, it's not. Celebration, yes.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, June 23, 2006 - 5:06 am
That's about right Jimmer. The average plate at a reception is nearly $50. Many places are more than that. Plus add things like a DJ and cake, etc, and really the couple is about breaking even when it's all said & done. Actually if I remember correctly, we didn't even break even. But we sure had fun!
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