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Seamonkey
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09-07-2000

Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 10:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Seamonkey a private message Print Post    
You can also buy your own BP cuff that you just put on, push a button and wait and voila! Your BP.

Since high BP is a "silent killer" and can lead to stroke, heart attack and so on it seems best to be aware. And according to the commercials it can contribute to E.D., ya know.

And with the potentil for cancer, you sure should want to know as early as possible.

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 2:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
A lot of people I know don't like to put out their friends. Our airport is a long way from civilization. Take an airport shuttle. Let your friends stay home and watch Grey's Anatomy reruns.

maybe it's a southern thang or a girl thang, but I can't imagine being put out by a friend.

I think having sex is a bit more intimate and a bigger deal than picking someone up at the airport. For a friend I will do just about anything.


just what I was thinking!!!

Women are as likely to have sex on the first date, second date, or third date as any men are. It is all about comfort level if you were to ask me. A woman will wait for sex until she is comfortable with her partner. Maybe men should learn from this and use the same criteria

Very well put, Glenn!

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:02 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
who or what is kaiser? i've never heard of them.

Newman
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09-25-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
The Kaiser was the leader of Germany, before Hitler. Like a king.

Glenn, it was tongue in cheek, me saying my posts should be more important. Just joking. I know I don't matter here, sniff.

I guess the topic, when you get down to it, is ZMom's dating life, her comfort level, and remembering sex in your 30s. We Boomers can advise the young ZMom, but she doesn't seem to be asking for advice. She seems to be writing about how happy she is. Good for her.

As a Boomer, I recall my most recent gf. She wanted to have sex before I did. It was about comfort level. I wasn't comfortable.

I've never been about conquests, counting the notches on my belt. Maybe that does make me unusual as a man. Hmmmm...feeling sad here. Not sure why. Have to go away and figure it out.


Newman
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09-25-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
All these people that write on this thread are women. We have 3 male writers, me, Jimmer, and the occasional Glenn. Maybe it would work better as simply a woman's support group. Maybe we should discuss that. I think it's a good topic.

A lot of women have discussed how they don't need or want men anymore. They snicker about their BOBs. Karuuna has a degree in psychology. Others are very intelligent here as well. They can give you the male point of view better than I can anyway.

My older son was laughing at me for being on the computer and writing about Grey's Anatomy. He thought that was lame. Maybe he was right. Feeling down...


Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
LOL newman, i don't think that has anything to do with the health care folks are talking about. but, thanks for the laugh.

Newman
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09-25-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
Kaiser is just another HMO (that was funny by the way, Cnd), like Blue Cross/Blue Shield. Maybe they don't operate where you live, Cnd.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 5:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
BCBS is the biggie here in GA. I don't do HMO's though. I want to be free to select who I go to when I want to go. I do understand that not everyone can afford to pay for PPO's though. I feel very fortunate that I can.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 6:39 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
I got my glucose machine for free from my doc. I hate it. I really don't want to know how high my sugar is. I know I'm whining. I'm new at this so I have that right.

It would be nice to have more male perspective here though and everywhere on this board. Especially some fine male perspective.

Karuuna
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08-31-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 6:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
I don't think anyone here wants to exclude men, we just don't want our own opinions discounted. In fact, I think we enjoy the male perspective, as long as they respect our perspective as well. :-)

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rosie a private message Print Post    
Tax season is over!

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
What is the definition of a baby boomer? My understanding of a baby boomer is those children who came after a war. Now is it only WWII? Korean? Vietnam?

There is always a lot of children born after a war.

I like hearing the male perspective. I would say 90% of my friends are male.

Sorry Newman, I was really happy about something and came to discuss it with friends I have had for 6 years. I never meant to stear the thread away. As a matter of fact, I tried to get it back to the topic of discussion of health care yesterday.

I guess I am the only one who had a bad experience with kaiser. Actually, I have had 2. My grandmother had very poor care at Kaiser, and they mis-diagnosed me 15 years ago. Had they done the proper tests they would have caught a developing bowel obstruction.

Actually, all HMO's I have had a problem with. I now only use a PPO.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:23 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
I've had an HMO since a year after #1 was born and it's worked well so far since the ex and I have been so sickly. But I hate that they've steadily increased the co-pays for meds and have this tier or something. My new pills are costing me $40 a month but I guess in the grand scheme of things it could be worse. But I've also been fortunate to have good caring doctors and that's not always the case with hmo's.

Oh but I'm not a Boomer so there ya go.

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Zachsmom a private message Print Post    
Do you have a long time to wait if you need to see a specialist?

I know I always had a month or more wait with an HMO. With a PPO you don't have to go through the hassle of getting approved for a specialist, you just call and make an appointment. With an HMO, you have to get the approval first (which can take weeks) and then you can call and make the apppointment.

Vee
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02-23-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Vee a private message Print Post    
Newman, your posts are the only reason that I ever read this thread. Just thought you ought to know.

ETA: I am also glad to have the kids join us for adult conversation...that means you, Mocha and Zmom! Ha!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 7:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Nope not at all 'mom. When my primary care doc wants to send me to someone I get the referral right then and just call and make the appt. It is taking me awhile to see the pain doc but that's cuz their office is moving. But I've never had to wait on an approval.

Lol Vee.

Max
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08-12-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 8:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
RE: Kaiser, I've had coverage with them in the past with varying results -- all in California. In Oakland and San Francisco, they were great. When I lived in San Jose, however, they sucked big time. Bad enough that I wrote a letter of complaint about one doctor.

However, I've had bad care from lots of doctors, not just ones affiliated with Kaiser. Bottom line is that no matter what kind of insurance plan you have or what doctor you see, you really have to be your own best advocate.

Heck, I've had a doctor (not affiliated with Kaiser) tell me that I'd feel better if I lost weight -- and I was there because I had strep throat and needed antibiotics! He then proceeded to go into the hallway and talk to one of the nurses or assistants or whatever about how fat I was and that if I just had some discipline, I wouldn't be sick. THe walls were pretty thin, so I heard it all. Guess who I never went back to! Unfortunately for me, I was in a pretty low emotional period then, so I did not give him a lecture about being a decent human being, much less a doctor. SHould the same thing happen today, it would be a different story.

The difference with Kaiser compared to a regular PPO is that there's a central, umbrella organization. So from the patient perspective, you go to one place for everything rather than with an PPO where you have to pick your doctors from their lists but the doctors themselves may be in a variety of different practice situations. Kaiser makes money if you stay well, so they have a lot of emphasis on keeping you well, as opposed to most doctors who only see you when you're sick and pretty much are hands off the rest of the time (at least in my experience).

Anyway, when the Kaiser kicks in, I will go get the standard 50-something tests done. Until then, unless something feels very wrong, I'll keep plugging away. :-)

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 8:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
our general practitioner doctor stays current with dh and me to help make sure we stay healthy as well as treats us when we are sick. he is big on preventive care. and, he isn't an HMO doctor.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 9:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
it also depends on what your coverage with kaiser is, i can make an appointment with any of the departments. if i see a funny mole, i make an appointment with dermatology. also, if i feel sicker than being able to take care of myself, i can go to urgent care and be seen that day.

holly hurt her wrist swimming. we were 40 miles from our kaiser, but i was close to another one, we went to that one, and it was just fine and her paperwork was to her own pediatrician for her recheck 3 days later.

i agree with max. you need to be your own proactive advocate for ANY health care system.


Texannie
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07-16-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 9:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
A baby boomer is someone born in a period of increased birth rates, such as those during the economic prosperity following World War II. In the United States, demographers have put the generation's birth years at 1946 to 1964, despite the fact that the U.S. birth rate (per 1,000 population) actually began to decline after 1957. ...
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_boomer

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 11:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Not to state the obvious (but I will anyway since it's one of the things that I'm
good at ), you don't have to be a Baby Boomer to post in this thread.


Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 12:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Back to the topics being discussed, I never feel comfortable when someone claims to represent a group. You often hear it on various Reality Shows. Someone claims to be representing African Americans or gays or firemen or whatever. Unless they have been elected to do it, they aren't representing anyone other than themselves.

At the same time, there is no denying that certain posters are male and appear to have somewhat different views on certain subjects. I find that interesting. Whether the different views come from the fact that they are male is open to debate. I think that in some ways men think differently than women, but I don't think there is any one male or female perspective on issues.

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 12:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Oh? Chu didn't know I represent the voice of all Black folk on this herre board? :-)

<hahaha sometimes i crack myself up>

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 12:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Not just yourself Mocha! I'm laughing too.

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Friday, May 19, 2006 - 1:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Colored Folks
This was written by a black guy in Texas and is so funny. What a great sense of humor !

When I born, I black ,
when I grow up, I black ,
when I go in sun, I black ,
when I cold, I black ,
when I scared, I black ,
when I sick, I black ,
and when I die, I still black .

You white folks....
when you born, you pink ,
when you grow up, you white
when you go in sun, you red ,
when you cold, you blue ,
when you scared, you yellow,
when you sick, you green,
when you bruised, you purple,
and when you die, you gray.
So who you callin' c o l o r e d