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Rabbit
Animoderator

08-12-2001

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 12:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rabbit a private message Print Post    
Wahoo! I'm a virgin agai.... oh wait ... months ... not minutes ... nevermind.

Native_texan
Member

08-24-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 12:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Great! It's taken me almost four days to get the pimp song out of my head only to be replaced with the virgin song (Madonna).

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 12:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Hahaha Nt!

Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 12:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
LOL - Well you are named Rabbit!

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 1:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
so that's why there are no stars over on the AF, rabbit has been **busy**.

Max
Moderator

08-12-2000

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 1:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
Hey, in rabbit time, six minutes IS six months!

Mocha said, "It took a few tries before I got it right." I'd rephrase that to, "It took a few tries before he got it right."

Native_texan
Member

08-24-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 2:25 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Max, you can say that again!

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 3:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Tabbyking a private message Print Post    
max, i'm not sure we can say 'sex' and 'head' in the same sentence here. but since you're a moderator, i guess it's okay!

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 3:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i thought that moderators were too busy watching what we posted to have sex.

Max
Moderator

08-12-2000

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 3:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
Maybe THAT's my problem, Cnd!

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 4:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Hah!

Karuuna
Board Administrator

08-31-2000

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 4:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
Just a note: I believe I heard that the second leading cause of lung cancer is radon gas....

Hukdonreality
Member

09-29-2003

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 5:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
my house is FULL of some type of gas, but I don't think it's radon...

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 7:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
huk, do you live with my husband too?????

Kearie
Member

07-21-2005

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 7:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
He's just blowing butt-kisses.

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 7:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
ROFLMAO! kearie, you are a hoot! or is that a toot or even a poot?

Hukdonreality
Member

09-29-2003

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 7:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Hukdonreality a private message Print Post    
Nah, CN, I live all by myself. The source of the gas is a mystery...these aren't toots or poots, they're just farts. Farts, farts, farts. Guess I caught what landi had the other day. It's Fartitis and I will need to see a Fartologist and will probably have to have a Fartectomy. THEN, I went and had Chinese for dinner. I'm in big trouble.

Wendo
Member

08-07-2000

Thursday, March 09, 2006 - 11:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wendo a private message Print Post    
Butt kisses!? LOL!

Can't say I've heard that one before. LOL!

Newman
Member

09-25-2004

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 7:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
Ahem...)

Had a depressing revelation. One I should have had years ago.

Went to breakfast with my best friend. He confronted me about my giving him unsolicited advice. It was a good back and forth conversation. Not sure we resolved anything. Feelings were hurt.

This goes to the Kirby Puckett or Dana Reeve stories. I try to connect things. What do you do if your friend is fat? Kirby died because he was close to 400 pounds! Shouldn't you say something to your friend? Maybe it would spur him on to lose weight or stop smoking or quit having the affair?

From my recent experience the answer is no. People know they are fat. They know they smoke. They know they cheat. Whatever. It just hurts feelings. That's all.

My mindset is to try to fix things. I mean well. I care about my friend. He needs to lose weight. We were actually arguing about dating. I told him he needs to take emotional risks, take some chances. He snapped at me for that.

What else is there to talk about then? The weather?

I'm not being very focused here. He wanted a friend who would just listen to his problems, just give him support. In an engaged sort of way. I said, well, then that means give suggestions on how to fix things. He said no or yes or yes/no.

I think House is right. Everyone lies. My friend just wants me to listen, give him unconditional support, and be on his side, and trash his old girlfriend. He claims I'm always on her side, that I'm just argumentative. I tell him I get accused of that over here, on the internet too! Maybe there's a grain of truth to that. Depressing...


Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 7:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i don't find you argumentative. you do what i call 'play devil's advocate'. that spurs discourse. i like your posts whether or not i agree with your position. your posts cause me to think about things differently. sometimes i see your point and sometimes i'm too wrapped up in my own world to get your meaning.

please be who you are, newman. if you want to change something about yourself, you will do it for your own reasons. if you stay the same way, then that is your choice also. and, if someone doesn't like you that way, then to hell with them. it is their loss.

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 7:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Unsolicited advice, sometimes people don't want it. Obviously your friend doesn't so don't do it. And you know I find you argumentative lol. And there are plenty of things to talk about with friends besides the weather or their problems.

Native_texan
Member

08-24-2004

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 8:04 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
There is someone here at TVCH that is argumentative?

I don't believe that for one minute!

Cndeariso
Member

06-28-2004

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 8:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
sap

Karuuna
Board Administrator

08-31-2000

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 9:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Karuuna a private message Print Post    
I have learned to rarely give advice unless it is asked for. The truth is, not only do most people know where they are falling short, they ALSO know what they need to do in many cases.

That's why listening and validating is so important. It's really by showing that you care that you best empower people to do what they already know they need to do.

The best friends I have and the ones who help me be my best are not the ones who tell me what to do. They are the ones who just listen to the predicament I'm in, and nod and coo caringly. By the end of the conversation I've told them what I need to do because I never felt like I had to defend how I got myself into such a mess. When someone starts telling you how wrong you are, you can't help but get defensive, which in turn just keeps you stuck.

In a situation where someone has not asked me what to do, but their behavior is very self destructive, I simply say something like "I care about you very much, and I'm very much concerned for your health. Maybe it's just selfish, but I want you to be around for a very long time, and it scares me that you might not be."

Or, I give the name of my therapist. :-)

Native_texan
Member

08-24-2004

Friday, March 10, 2006 - 9:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
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