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Kearie
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07-21-2005

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Newman said..."Because I'm honest, Yellek. Not politically correct"

It's because of this that I find your generalizations frustrating. You seem to believe your generalizations as honest for most people...most men. You find them to be absolute truth for "MOST" people and state them that way.

They just aren't absoulute truths...they are YOUR truths.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
wikipedia defines the American Dream as follow:

The American Dream is the faith held by many in the United States of America that through hard work, courage, and determination one can achieve a better life for oneself, usually through financial prosperity.

therefore, i am most definitely living it and living it large!

Yellek
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08-22-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yellek a private message Print Post    
Don't we want the whole package, Kearie. Ideally we want it all. That's all I'm saying. Is that really so outrageous? Isn't that common sense? We want good looking people who have good souls.

Ideally? Maybe. But I don't want to wait for ideal, it most likely would never happen. Ideally I'd like to make a million dollars at my job. Do I think that will ever happen?

So, when ideal is out of the running, you start making concessions. One of the first concessions to be made (for me) is looks. I would much rather be with a kind caring soul than a jerk that looks good with his shirt off.

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Newman...once you reach a certain age...NO ONE is good looking.

LOL

As I age my views on what's acceptable changes because age effects me too.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:11 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
i have been fat, i have been thin, and even after being married for almost 18 years, i'm still flirted with ALL THE TIME. it's about your personality. if you got it, flaunt it.

so what if newman doesn't like your type. there are millions more men who do! it is how you feel about yourself. i know that when i feel good about myself i smile inside and out and people smile back. i chat, they chat. and you can't help but smile.


Kearie
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07-21-2005

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
I agree Yellek

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
Newman, I don't find you to be aggressive at all. That would mean I would feel the need to defend myself. And I don't. I also know that even if you write a statement that seems to indicate that you speak for all people-kind, I know that is not the case. Many of us have done the same thing. I can't tell you how many times I have gone back and re-worded a statement because I was concerned that even one out-of-place word would cause insult or scorn. It can't always be done.

I consider you to be a very opinionated person and I have no problem with that. I have very firm opinions on many subjects myself.

The only time I have problems with the opinions of someone else is when they can't respect mine because it may differ from theirs.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:16 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
That is an interesting definition of "The American Dream". So many people focus on financial prosperity as the measurement of a successful life.

That is why so many people have huge houses, multiple cars, many personal possessions and very little personal time to enjoy it.

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LOL - I know you are being funny Kearie but if someone else said that old people are not good looking, other people would get upset.

It's not only up to the writer to make people understand what they are saying - it is also up to the reader to interpret the writer.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
I don't find Newman's posts aggressive at all. He is stating his opinions. I do think some posters get overly defensive.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:19 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i guess i am fat. i don't look at myself that way and see fat. i am 5'8" and weight 270. i wear a size 24 dress. i look great! i feel great and have never had any trouble getting dates or marriage proposals. i have a wonderful personality. i am smart. until i had my spinal cord injury (caused by surgery) in 2002 i could do anything anyone else could do except squeeze into something smaller than me.

i have been a size 14 which is almost too skinny for me and the size i am now along with every size in between. at no time have i ever felt bad about myself nor worried about whether or not someone thought i was attractive. i have always had a positive outlook on life and am confident in who i am as a person. packaging is only part of my presentation.

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Jimmer...

Okay Jimmer, you're right. But after working in a nursing home, I just know I never saw a 90 year old who was good-looking. Maybe if I was 90 I might find a 90 year old man I thought was hot.

Sorry if I offended, I was trying to be silly.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I know you were Kearie and I thought that what you said was funny - I wasn't offended at all.

That is what I meant when I said that it is also up to the reader to try to give the writer the benefit of the doubt.

Native_texan
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08-24-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Native_texan a private message Print Post    
One of the biggest problems the ex and I had was my failure to know what he expected me to say. An example would be I would say "It's a rainy-looking day," and he would say "Why didn't you just say it was cloudy." My response would be "because you didn't give me the script."

Yellek
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08-22-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Yellek a private message Print Post    
Native_texan, oh that's precious. I've known a few guys like that and they irritated the heck outa me!

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
jimmer, i am a minimalist when it comes to possessions. if it doesn't have sentimental value then i don't want it gathering dust in my house.

we have two vehicles. one we drive back & forth to work in with good gas mileage. and, one we use for trips or toting bigger items. if we didn't have such varied schedules i would like to have only one vehicle.

we have a very modest house and could afford one two to three times what we paid for this one. i don't need that much space.

both dh & i put the maximum into our 457 plan (same as a 401k but for government). we also have money sent directly into a savings account we use for travel. we bring home enough money after doing that to pay all of our bills and still have play money.

we are not the typical family. we do not have children or our lives would be much different. our wants are simple - retirement savings and travel after all bills are paid in full. we don't care about having the latest and greatest. as an example our tv is 16 years old.

we do know lots of folks that live pay check to pay check just to have everything they can buy on credit. their net worth is very low and their liquidity is practically zero. that is very sad to me.

Jeep
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10-17-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Good thing you gals don't work in my office. Several of the guys have the same opinion about overweight women as Newman. Always looking for the "eye candy". They are great friends to me and have helped me a lot over the years, we just avoid this subject or make fun about it at times. By the way, one has been married twice, one on his third wife and one has been divorced for 20+ years. Apparently looks aren't everything LOL.

So, Newman, none of your posts upsets me. I've heard it all right here in the office. I'll wish you luck finding that beautiful woman if you wish me luck finding a fun loving, healthy, decent man!

I don't think I can keep the ex away from the auction if he comes, but I like the idea of having someone bid against him. I really like the idea of slashing his tires! LOL

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
i am eye candy and a whole lot of it!

Jeep
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10-17-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Cnd, I love your personality! And your life sounds very similar to what the ex and I had before he strayed. No kids, working hard to retire early and have fun. He destroyed all that, at least his part. I got everything, so now all I have to do is find a decent guy to share his part with! LOL

Living well is the best revenge!

Rabbit
Animoderator

08-12-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rabbit a private message Print Post    
I am eye candy.

buck

Lancecrossfire
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07-13-2000

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 10:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Lancecrossfire a private message Print Post    
Newman, I think the American Dream could be different (at least a bit different) for most anyone. I would agree with you that for a lot of adults it would include a partner.

I think the things you include at the end would be in a lot of folk's dreams

Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 11:02 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Frankly I'm a little shocked at the picture of the naked Bunny!

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 11:02 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
jeep, i am so sorry you have a bad relationship with your ex and for whatever reason he seems to want to continue trying to perpetuate that. that ain't no fun! i too have an ex. fortunately, we didn't have any children (i can't have any - bad insides) nor did we adopt any. he sounds very similar to what you describe with yours. the few times i have seen him in public i have been polite and civil. he on the other hand has not. our divorce papers state that he is not to ever contact me except through a third party - no expiration date. not everyone can be as wonderful as you or i.

i never cared whether or not i remarried. and i was divorced 12 years before dh chased me down and caught me. and as much as i love him i really wish we lived apart and were not married. he is a great guy and i couldn't ask for any better. i just find it difficult to live with anyone. i would be the same way if i had my mother or my best girlfriend to move in with me.

Jeep
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10-17-2001

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 11:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Yeah, Cnd, isn't it strange how even if you really love someone, it's sometimes hard to compromise your living quarters. Even in this short year I've been alone, I am really getting set in my ways and routines. Now that I'm comfortable being alone, I'm not sure I want anyone to change that. Well, maybe a night or two, but not everyday

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 11:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Um, shouldn't ya'll be on the other side of the fence? I wanna post a pic too....but I'm chicken.



I'm too sexy for my feathers. <giggles>

Max
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08-12-2000

Monday, April 03, 2006 - 11:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Max a private message Print Post    
Jeep, I'm betting that the more the ex knows you're upset at the prospect of him showing up, the more likely he'll be to do it. Twisted? Yeah, but I'm sayin'. . . He's probably more interested in getting your goat than spending money on any of your mom's posessions. (or spending money at all)