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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 7:26 pm
I don't think I have had the WOW yet. Darn it.
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 7:27 pm
Sex is not always the same ... sometimes you need a little of this and sometimes you just have to have a lot of that! That's where it's important to have good communication with your partner ... so you can both understand each other's needs at the moment. 
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Wendo
Member
08-07-2000
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 7:34 pm
Vacanick, I completely agree that communication with ones partner is essentional to an intimate relationship.
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 7:40 pm
I was the one who made the remark about Newman being wrong in his opinions. I added (lol) after it to show that I WAS KIDDING.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 7:42 pm
i've had BOB and i've had WOW and i've had a cuddling husband. and, even sometimes i've had them in varying combinations. ahhhhhhhhhhh
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 11:44 pm
Like I said, Im a talker,so here goes..wow, so much catching up to do... I have a lot of gal friends, and most of them love sex. Heck, I love sex.. Im not sure that men like it more then women, Could it be that its really just a little bit easyer for them..I mean...we have pregnancy to consider, of course there is the pill, But there is usually some sort of side effects, possibly wieght gain(usually not great for self image,if thats a problem) headaches,nausia,vomiting and there are more...I personaly was not a good candidate for the pill..Made me very sick. Of course there is allways a diaphram, that lovley bowl shaped contraption that must be inserted at the most inconvient of times,and the goo that goes with it,allways a joy to insert in the heat of the moment. There are also IUD's, and possible complications with that little chunk of internal jewlery. We have patches and bi-monthly shots(that mirror the pill as far as side effects go). Of course, we can ask our ever so willing partner to cover up(and unless we are in a exclusive relationship)we should insist on this any way....but they bust, they leak, somtimes they even get lost in the bustle (ooopps). what are you going to do... We also have periods, Now some get by with not so much as a couple days of dealing with it, but most of the women I know, have cramps, pms, feel like crap... Just when you think thats enouph, than we get slamed with menopause....OH, now we are sweating, shivering,if we have never cussed, we learn how. We discover are mean side...we suddenly gain wieght, and are eating less...What the Heck is that all about....It just dosent seem fair.... Now, im not complaining..cause I wouldnt exchange my equipment for the alternative...I like being a women.... I just think we have a little bit more going on, I havent even mentioned the Mom factor...Ive got some great male friends that have actually raised thier kids, cause the mom jumped ship, they should be complimented for that. Usually though, child rearing does end up on the moms lap...No complaints here, best job I ever did, but it is a job...a full time allways on call...JOB. No punching out at the end of your shift..and if this mother also works full time to provide for said child or children...She usually is forcing her self to stay up this late... Like I said, there are some mighty fine men out there that do a lot to help out...but its usually the mom who runs the show...feeds the masses, entertains,prepares and fixes problems between the brood... Now, Im not taking any thing away from men, they work hard too, and deserve to relax at the end of a long hard day. ... But this might be just a little reason why women arnt as ready to get busy at the drop of a dime... Now, ive allready done the mom thing,worked 11hrs days,ran back and fourth to baby sitters and worried all day when I felt I should be with my sick kid, but still had to pay the bills.now I am entering the menopause era.. and im just thinking.....NOW, its my turn...we need to turn this myth around gals...
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Yesitsme
Member
08-24-2004
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 8:45 am
Kearie, I say it depends on what you want the 24-year old for!
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 10:04 am
Well, just to dream about. LOL
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 10:08 am
I'm coming in late on a conversation that I've missed half of, but that never stops me... Scientists have studied the effects of physical intimacy on the body and brain in men and women and women are simply different. Our body and brain chemistry is set up to *bond* with that kind of contact. It is science. It is our biology. Beleive me, some of us try to shake it, talk ourselves out of bonding, tell ourselves we're just having fun, nothing serious, just scratching an itch. Some of us are mildly successful. Many of us are not. We can't separate the physical contact from the emotional bond. We can try to fight it, but we are fighting our biology. So, to me, that explains why a woman who has no moral objection to taking a relationship into the physical would want to wait. It's not about playing hard to get or about morals or about needing a firm commitment. It's because she knows herself, knows how she will bond and has to be sure she's ready to bond to this man. Also, she wants to be sure he's ready to bond as well, that he's ready to spend some energy and emotion into making a relationship that goes somewhere -- not just trying her on for size, taking a few rolls in the hay to scratch that itch, before he moves on to the next gal in line.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 10:28 am
You got some proof of this study?
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 10:31 am
Brenda...my thots exactly.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 10:58 am
Mocha, there have been a number of studies that show women have an increase in oxytocin (the 'bonding' hormone) with orgasm. Studies on animals show that blocking of oxytocin during sex inhibits bonding and increases the incidence of "affair-type" relationships. And giving oxytocin (even without sex) can cause those same critters to "fall in love" I imagine if you did a websearch on oxytocin and bonding and sex, you'd find a bunch of stuff. Of course, individuals are all different, so your mileage may vary!
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:10 am
So it's called oxytocin ... I've always called it "glow". 
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Jeep
Member
10-17-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:12 am
Chewpito, Amen to your post. Now is the time for me. I don't have any worries churning around in the back of my mind to complicate things......no ungrateful hubby, no kids and no sick parents. I am cool, calm and collected and ready (like Kearie) for some WOW! So, the next one better be able to understand when I tell him about the "target". Better yet, it'd be nice if he already knew about women and their targets and I didn't have to educate him! LOL Not sure I buy into that "scientific study", Brenda. Sounds like something from Star Trek.....don't let her tears touch you or you'll be hopelessly in love with her forever. Nahhh LOL Sorry, Dogdoc! In my fast reading, I missed your lol at the end. I'll pay more attention next time. Promise.
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:12 am
Love Potion #9 - oxytocin
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:12 am
Thanks Karuuna - I should have known I'd get the challenge. Amazon has dozens of books on brain chemistry. I'm sure you'll find all kinds of opinions (both pro and con). I've read articles about it ages ago, pre-child, when I had time to read. My friend who is a Psychiatrist and I have had long discussions about it and the books and articles she's read (while we were single and lamenting our struggles).
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:13 am
Ahh ok that oxy stuff sounds familiar. Bonding huh? Hmmm...
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Jeep
Member
10-17-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:14 am
Karuuna, if we could bottle that stuff, we'd be millionairs!
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Babyruth
Member
07-19-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:57 am
Well, it does come in vials. They give it to induce labor 
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:02 pm
Aaack!
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:09 pm
ROFL!
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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:21 pm
Karuuna, if you put that oxytocin thing in the fact or crap thread I vote crap. Oxytocin is used to induce labor. (Any other use is off label and subject to criminal prosecution. Ok, that is crap too).
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:31 pm
i thought it was pitocin that was given to induce labor. maybe we should ask escapee since she was just induced last week.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:32 pm
It's both.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 12:34 pm
Pitocin is the synthetic form of oxytocin.
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