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The TVClubHouse: General Discussion ARCHIVES: 2006 Mar. ~ 2006 May: Baby Boomers, Living Alone, Changing Habits (ARCHIVES): Archive through May 05, 2006 users admin

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Jeep
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10-17-2001

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 10:51 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Thanks Zmom! That's a deal, Mocha!

Newman
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09-25-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 12:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Newman a private message Print Post    
See the positive. Landi, maybe that will be my thought of the week. I know I see some positives. Maybe I just need to see more, and cut out the negatives like talk radio (my addiction), or at least cut back.

Yesitsme, in your middle paragraph, you said something about trying to work out problems, not wanting to hook up with someone who would leave at the first sign of trouble. Something like that. Agree.

I remember trying to work things out with my Ex. We tried and tried and tried. Various therapists. Different suggestions. Many conversations and yelling matches in frozen parking lots, so the children wouldn't hear us yelling in the house.

There comes a time when you have to realize that things can't be fixed. You made a mistake. If you can't be happy in the relationship, how can your spouse be happy? And does THAT even matter? If you're not happy or even content, and it can't be fixed, why stay with it? Life is short. Why continue the misery?

Max, I love myself enough. (I'm sure there's double entendre in that sentence, but...)

Isn't loving yourself called narcicism? Doesn't that have a negative connotation? If you only love yourself, then there's something still something missing.

A soul mate...and ZMom, just because someone else says he's your soul mate, doesnt' make it true. You have to agree that it is so.

Remember in Jerry McGuire when Rene Z says, "You complete me." Or was that Tom Cruise? Hmmm...

I haven't seen Harold and Maude in a long long time.

I don't write when I'm happy. I suppose I could analyze that. That's generalizing. When I see an episode of GA or House, hmmm...then I usually write what I don't like...hmmmm...but not always. House had that good Jack Bauer line and Cameron gave a good zinger to Cuddy.

I think when I'm "negative" it's more directed at the thought that things could be better. It's the German perfectionist in me...


Kearie
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07-21-2005

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Yesterday I was talking to a friend about some mistakes I have made in the past...I loved her response to me.

"They weren't mistakes, they were learning experiences."

It was true when I thought about it. I didn't do the same thing again so I obviously learned and that's a good thing.

Funny how it took me out of my "poor me" thinking and changed my perspective on things.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
Someone said:

"Experience is a harsh teacher, she tests first and offers lessons later."

It is fantastic that you have learned from your mistakes Kearie. Unfortunately, it seems that many people are unable to do this and are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

Although learning from mistakes is often hard, the huge positive is that (unlike many) you have been able to do it.

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
Sometimes I wish I didn't have so much to learn. LOL I sure give myself lots of oppertunities to learn!!

Crzndeb
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07-26-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
Newman, things will only get better if you start letting go of your past. I don't think you can. You keep talking about the failure of your marriage over and over and over. If I were next to you, I'd slap you and say "GET OVER IT"..LOL!

I haven't posted in here because personnely it's a bit to intense for me. There's nothing wrong with that....some people are just intense. I'm not. Maybe I could start a Baby Boomer-Light thread for the happy, comical side of being a baby boomer.

Ok, backing out now...

Jeep
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10-17-2001

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Crzndeb, when you say the comical side of being a baby boomer are you talking about things like how my office has become a strip joint because of how fast I peel off the clothes when the hot flashes act up? Whew! It's just been really bad this week. Whew! Guess I should learn to pole dance????

Crzndeb
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07-26-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 1:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
Jeep, LOL! now that's what I'm talkin about...I'm on a lull right now with the flashes....Well, they do say pole dancing is good exercise. Remember when we could eat anything and everything we wanted and not gain a pound?

Jeep
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10-17-2001

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jeep a private message Print Post    
Yeah, but about 30 years ago!

Guess I better be off to the gym. Didn't have to do that 30 years ago either!

Crzndeb
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07-26-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
I was out dancing it off 6 nights a week 30 yrs ago. One night of dancing now would have me soaking in Epsom salts the next day. I just got tickets to go see INXS and I remember 30 yrs. ago when we had no Ticketmaster. I don't go to many concerts anymore because It p's me off to pay that Ticketmaster charge.

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
The thing I can't figure out is how guys like The Rolling Stones or Rod Stewart still perform the way they do? They must have done some hard living over the years and yet they are still going at it.

Cndeariso
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06-28-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Cndeariso a private message Print Post    
ahhhh, jimmer, it's better living through chemistry.

Crzndeb
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07-26-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
Jimmer, or it's a lot of Red Bull

Baby
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01-08-2006

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Crzndeb,

I think that is a great idea about starting a new thread! The way I look at it, there is enough negative things going on in this world. Many days, I would like to just concentrate on the happy, fun, silly, positive, rewarding things in life. It sure makes it easier to deal all of the negatives going on around me!

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
LOL - I'm sure the Rolling Stones and Rod are full of chemistry and Red Bull!!! (among other things!).

With respect to starting a new thread, the thing is that threads tend to take on a life of their own. The way to make a thread more positive is to post positive fun things, if that is what interests you and that is what you want to see. That is kind of what we've been doing here for the last few posts.

Crzndeb
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07-26-2004

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Crzndeb a private message Print Post    
Amen, Baby!

Oh, and Jimmer, about Rod and Mick...they may be able to get out there and perform, but they look oooooooollllllddddd. I could pass for one of their daughters...LOL!

Jimmer
Moderator

08-30-2000

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
They are looking a little worn!

LOL – That reminds me of watching Brian Wilson (formerly of the Beach Boys) perform at some concert for the Queen of England a few years ago. Brian looked so out of it that my wife and I were laughing so hard that we were crying. Sounds mean but you had to see it. Besides, Brian was enjoying himself!

Rabbit
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08-12-2001

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rabbit a private message Print Post    
But why change a thread that is one of the most popular threads on the board because it might not be your cup of tea? Couldn't you just not read it?

The board has hundreds of other threads and you can always start a new one.

I seldom read this thread as it doesn't apply to me but I am thrilled that it is here offering discussion that is different than the scores of mostly fun, happy and silly threads we already have in abundance here.

Baby
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01-08-2006

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 2:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Baby a private message Print Post    
Oh Jimmer,

That is soooo naughty of you! How shameful! Sounds like you and your wife were enjoying yourselves, too! (Just kidding about the naughty and shameful stuff!)

I am sure Brian was totally enjoying himself! After all of these years I think it is neat to see him still be able to get a "high" by performing!!!

Chewpito
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01-04-2004

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Oh I wouldnt change this thread, Im a bit like Newman that I may write mostly when im down more then up, thats mostly because when things are good and im busy and happy, Im not sitting here staring at this screen--looking for comfort in other peoples life's "good and bad". If someone is happy or making jokes or has a fun story, It lifts me up....You people are good for that. When Im feeling down and I see that Im not alone..we all have are problems..than I feel safe in the fact that im not alone...I learn from others good times and bad....somtimes I laugh out loud here and somtimes I worry about someone that has touched me thru thier written words....we are more than our posts and we do many things away from this computer.. this is my place for comfort and smiles..... Dont change a thing...

Jimmer
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08-30-2000

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 4:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Jimmer a private message Print Post    
I'm not advocating changing this thread. All I am saying is that general threads on relatively vague topics tend to become what people want them to be.

It's hard to get people to be positive (or negative) all the time. It's like trying to sit someone down and saying to them:

"Now you're going to have fun dagnabit!!! Or else!"

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 4:49 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
I said something like that to Chessy about getting well, but she didn't listen, dagnabbit!!!

Mameblanche
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08-24-2002

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 4:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mameblanche a private message Print Post    
Just weighing in here... this thread has morphed more times than any other thread here. I like to pop in just to see the direction its veered off in for the day. GRIN. I also like the fact that several discussions go on here simultaneously. That's cool too.

Kearie
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07-21-2005

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 5:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Kearie a private message Print Post    
I usually have a discussion with myself. I'm good at that. Do that at home too.

Rabbit
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08-12-2001

Friday, May 05, 2006 - 5:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Rabbit a private message Print Post    
So you are not advocating organized thread hijacking eh. Okay, but I got my pink eyes on you now Jimmer.

And you'll like it or else!!! dayem shifty jibber jabber talkin' varmit.