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Abby7
Member
07-17-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 8:07 pm
..double post eta: the brits name, "bulge" is so apropos. as a boomer, i've been fighting the battle of the bulge and i'm losing at the moment. (losing the battle, not losing pounds unfortunately).
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 8:30 pm
LOL Abby!!!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 8:32 pm
Well, crap, now y'all are going to make me go Google it. I was thinking 1964 was the end of the Boomers too. Unless Landi was kidding ... Welcome to the Boomers, Pamy. You know if you are a boomer and not an X, you are going to have to stop just getting things done and solving problems and start whining a LOT more. But, it also means you can hog off more of the world's resources and screw everybody else. Plus it should mean you got in on some of the sex, drugs and rock and roll before they cut it all off. And Mameblanche, this is not any one person's thread. Sometimes people get to thinking that way about threads they start, and it tends to get them in trouble in the end. I seem to even have some vague inkling that there might be something to that effect somewhere in the TVCH rules. Or maybe I just made that up.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 8:47 pm
Juju <--- senior boomer with a vague tinkling
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:01 pm
Newman, Did your male friend know you when you were going thru your divorce? Did he just sit there and trash your wife and take your side? Surely he must realize that there was fault on both sides. I think good friends can always see both sides, good and bad.....but sometimes it can be very touchy to get that point across. I'm sure that you could clearly see where he was at fault also....but it can be very hard for him to hear and believe. He is being very unreasonable to expect you to just sit there and agree with him. He doesn't want to hear the truth, does he?
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Jimmer
Moderator
08-30-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:10 pm
I also think that you have to be very careful when talking to someone about their Ex. First of all, you have to assume that there was something that the person liked about them that caused them to form a relationship with them in the first place. Then you have to consider the possibility of them getting back together. A friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend and proceeded to say bad things about her that were promptly reinforced by another friend. Guess what? The friend and girlfriend got back together and that put a damper on his relationship with the friends who had enthusiastically supported him when he broke up with her.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:13 pm
mamapors, i'm ready when you are! just name the time and the place, but please or please make the weather better!
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:13 pm
Jimmer, That is an excellent point. You should always remember that possiblity.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:14 pm
ROFL.. so many people fight it but BOOMER BOOMER BOOMER!!! Nyah!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:17 pm
Juju.. I did google it; that's where I got the info. I've known people born in '58 reject it.. And you are right.. the threads belong to the board.
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Abby7
Member
07-17-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:21 pm
boomer power! watch it, tvch x'ers....i may just have to start a MOVEMENT! and i'm not speaking of my bowels!
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:23 pm
Jimmer, that is something people really need to remember. Also while people don't want you taking an ex's side, many times it is ok for THEM to bash the ex but they really don't want you doing it too much.. sometimes.
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:27 pm
Seamonkey, I was just going to post something every similar to what you said. That happened to me and I learned my lesson real quick. Sometimes it is best to just keep your mouth shut and to let your friend vent.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:28 pm
LOL Juju...I think I am not a boomer cuz I missed out on all that free 60's love....It was the 80's before I did it
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Mamapors
Member
07-29-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:32 pm
Boy, I learned that lesson the hard way. When someone is bashing their ex, it is best not to give any input. I actually lost what I thought was a really good friend, because as she was bashing her ex, I agreed with everything she was saying, even adding some of the things I did not like about him. Well, they got back together, and she never forgave me for the things I said. Now, I just listen and nod. landi--Yes when the weather is better. We could meet half way for lunch, and maybe Lucy will join us.
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Abby7
Member
07-17-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:35 pm
well, then maybe you are a late boomer...we all know you weren't a late bloomer.. or were you? well, night all. sorry, if i upset anyone by going off topic.
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:40 pm
Mamapors, That really made me laugh. That's exactly the lesson I learned.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:52 pm
LOL Pamy! the 80's were the best time for this boomer! Wildest, anyhow.. (my divorce was in '79)
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 9:56 pm
LOL Abby, ya crack me up! Sea, the 80's rocked! I wish big 80's hair would come back, I have an old can of aqua net just waiting....
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:02 pm
Maybe this isn't the perfect title for MY thread <hahaha, couldn't resist> (and aren't you people supposed to be paying me money, each time you post in MY thread or even read in MY thread?) Umm, where was I? I like the Baby Boomer descriptor of the thread. People between the ages of 42-60 have a lot of commonality of experiences and problems and, of course, we have lots of free advice to give too. Springer, my friend IS different than me. He is kinder than I am. He is a very good listener. I listen, but I also want to fix things, want to put my two cents in, want to matter. Don't we really solve our own problems? And when people give you advice, aren't they really saying what THEY would do in that situation, not what YOU should do, or what would be best for YOU. My friend is struggling with his health. He has legitamate problems. One of the few things I remember from my Mom, from her sayings, was "if you don't have your health, you don't have anything." That is so true. As a friend I need to learn patience and even learn to put up with a little whining. I could provide some cheese, but that's not good for his diet. I just want to make sure he's on top of his situation, taking his meds, being assertive with his doctors, getting his questions answered. Remember when Jim Henson, of the Muppets, died at age 54, because he ignored an infection? What an embarassing way to die. I don't want that to happen to any of us.
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Wendo
Member
08-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:28 pm
Jim Henson thought he had a cold, not strep (that eventually led to bacteria pneumonia.) I'd hardly call that an embarassing way to die; more like a tragic way to die.
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:32 pm
Newman, Hope you're keeping a running tab. I must owe you a lot by now. You said: I just want to make sure he's on top of his situation, taking his meds, being assertive with his doctors, getting his questions answered. Your friend is very lucky. He couldn't ask for a better friend than you are. We should all be so lucky to have someone care that much about us. I thinks neighbors are also very important friends to have. It is important to have friends who are close to you in times of need. We kind of keep an eye on each others homes and property. They are really there in an emergency.....at least mine have been on several occasions. There are all kinds of friends in this world. I wouldn't lump them all together. There are best friends, work friends, neighborly friends, school buddies, internet friends, etc. We depend on them for different things. I don't think that it is bad to be labeled an internet friend.....they can always lend an ear and that is a very important kind of friend.......but rarely can they lend a hand. Our real friends are the ones we can really depend on.....like the kind of friend you are to him, Newman. Hope that makes sense and doesn't offend anyone.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:33 pm
Elvis, now THAT was embarrassing!
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:50 pm
Newman, You said: And when people give you advice, aren't they really saying what THEY would do in that situation, not what YOU should do, or what would be best for YOU. Yes, that is usually what we mean when we give advice.....it is what we would do in that situation. It may not be right for them but it is what we would do. Maybe it would help if we stressed that point when we feel the need to give advice. Maybe it wouldn't be as offensive that way.
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Oldtex
Member
03-06-2006
| Monday, March 13, 2006 - 10:57 pm
I'm learning something new here all the time...Seamonkey is too funny. Where were all you people 3 yrs ago, I certainly could have benefited from all of your "no advice and advice". But as they say, it's never too late. Newman, thank you for starting this thread!
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