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Eeyoreslament
Member
07-20-2003
| Sunday, February 26, 2006 - 10:23 pm
I may be backwards, but if you shouldn't expect your guest to pay for dinner and booze at a wedding, they ESPECIALLY shouldn't have to pay to be in your wedding party. I would be honest. If they love you, they will know your situation already, and will either understand that you can't do the dress, but don't mind COMING as a guest in the audience, or, would love to support your family in the wedding party, but won't be able to afford the matching dress. I think those are two options that should not be taken offensively at all.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 3:26 am
Eeyore, you paid for your attendants clothing and expenses? WOW! you are way nicer than me!
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Graceunderfyre
Member
01-21-2004
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 11:40 am
We paid for my bridesmaid's outfits - I had them custom made in India - we also shopped around and made sure our guys didn't have to pay more than $50 because we were all college age and a little over. I just got word from the bride for the wedding in June (the cousin) and it turns out they want Jai to rent a tux that will cost $150 - is that insane or what? My family is not very happy with me. My mom has said she will cover the costs because thats how it works in the Indian family and she's going to charge it all. They just aren't getting it - I don't want to go into debt nor do I want someone else going into debt. . . should I just give in?
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 11:44 am
If mom wants to pay for it then I say let her.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 11:48 am
wow! I have never been in a wedding wear the bride paid for my clothes. I agree with Mocha, if your mom wants to pay, let her.
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Babyruth
Member
07-19-2001
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 12:03 pm
Think of giving in to their wishes (which seem important to them) as a gift from the heart to your mother and brother. And take lots of pics of your handsome lil Jai in his tux. 
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 1:23 pm
In this case, if your mom wants to pay for it, think of what she'll get.. the wonderful pictures of her kids and grandkid.. clearly worth it to her and I'd just let her do it too.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 6:01 pm
I think Grace is talking about two different weddings, right? The brother's wedding and the cousin's wedding?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 6:07 pm
I'm with the "let your mom pay if she wants to" group.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Monday, February 27, 2006 - 6:09 pm
Ah yes, Juju, you re so correct.. well for the other wedding, that sounds awfully expensive to me! Grace, does your mom propose to pay for Jai's tux in the cousin's wedding, too?
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Graceunderfyre
Member
01-21-2004
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:39 am
Well my brother said they put it into the budget to pay for a couple of the bridesmaids outfits knowing that some people couldn't do it - so I'm letting him pay for my dress because you know what, he's 10 years younger than me and I've paid for him for TONS of stuff and he's NEVER bought me anything except cheesy Christmas and birthday gifts As far as Jai, there are 2 weddings - one in FL for a cousin and then my brother's in CO. There will def. be lots of pics for all to see. . . My brother's wedding has a swing theme and he's wearing a white with black pinstripe suit and all the guys are wearing black with white and he wants the ring bearers to both wear pin stripes too. So I'm going to Burlington Coat Factory tomorrow because I'm sure I saw kids sized ones there. But if not, they've asked their mothers to sew suits for their grandsons (the bride and groom's nephews) with material they'll pay for. So that's going to work out The other wedding - my husband was very disgusted when I told him the cost of the tux. I believe it's that expensive because it's Tommy Hilfiger. . .anyway, he was going to tell off his cousin BUT I'd already had a convo with my mother in law and she said they would pay for the cost. I'm not sure how to take that one but since it's not my family, I'm not going to say anything to them.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 28, 2006 - 11:49 am
Uhh yay!!?? Can't wait for pics.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Wednesday, March 01, 2006 - 11:28 pm
Yes.. we will definitely want to see pics.
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Giddygrin
Member
06-27-2005
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 3:18 pm
I get more and more excited as the days go on. Especially, since we now have a solid date to get married. We've reserved the church and reception site. Now the fun starts! The young lady at the reception site we chose was SO cute. She was as excited as I was. I think that will make planning the event more fun for me. Apparently, she just got married as well. She is wonderful and they really bend over backward to help with everything. Not to mention they do all of this for very little money (comparatively speaking). I just can't wait for Devin to come home for good and get more involved in the process...To be honest, I think he had more fun than he was letting on.
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