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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 8:43 pm
Well, I went and had my hashbrown and eggs fix and it really hit the spot. Now I'm happy. A while back on this thread, we briefly talked about speed dating but nobody said much about it. Has anyone here tried that or known anyone who has tried it. A neighbor of mine just called me and said she was thinking about doing that again. I think she is getting a little desperate to find a man. She is 36 years old is getting somewhat depressed about her love life. She would love to have children too. Time is running out for her to do that, I guess. She tried speed dating once before and did start dating one of the guys but after two years he wouldn't or couldn't commit to marriage....so she finally gave up. I told her that I would ask my friends here what they had experienced.
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 9:25 pm
Sea, I thot it was SIB. (Self Injurous Behavior) Has it changed or are both correct? Springer...I sent you a PM.
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 9:45 pm
Kearie, Where can I find your PM to me? I have only seen them from emails and I don't see one in my mailbox.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 9:51 pm
Springer, my sister met her husband in an internet group discussing both of their daughters' softball teams. They were both married to other people at the time. My friends on the outside world no longer ask what the hell TVCH is. They know. Last year when the TVCH Road Crew traveled to the DFW area I had told my mom that I was meeting some people I had been talking to on the internet. She wasn't real enthused about it. When I came back and told her about the people I had met and how far some had traveled to get here and that everyone was going to a wedding and showed her gifts that I received, I could almost see the relief come across her face and she was really impressed. It was then I understood that of course after all the nightmare stories out there about people meeting on the internet, it wasn't that she wasn't enthused - she was worried. Now when I say "we were all talking today about...." she know I'm talking about TVCH and she's always interested in what's being discussed.
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Springer
Member
03-12-2004
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 10:04 pm
Native texan, I know what you mean about your mom being worried. There are so many horror stories about the internet. I think that reading and replying on a message board like this one is a lot safer though, don't you. I only live-chat with family and close friends on-line. From what I have read, there are just too many bad things happening to adults and kids from on-line chatting. It is a worry.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 10:17 pm
newman, i'm very much like mocha. the people on here are my friends. and some of them are very good friends. merrysea i learned lives in the next town over from me. we met for shopping. she's a real live human being who i call my friend. seamonkey has been to my home, fake kidnapped my cat, talked with my husband and spent more than one day with both me and my daughter. she is my friend. mocha is one of my friends, i have never met her, but she is a friend never the less. a friend is a friend is a friend. PERIOD. END OF STORY.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 10:35 pm
Kearie.. I'd never heard the term SIB or Self Injurious Behavior but it sounds like it is describing the same thing, pretty much. I've heard and read of or been to presentations about Self Inflicted many times but not in the last 5 years. I get 3,710,00 google hits on Self inflicted violence (570,00 on self-inflicted violence),709,000 on Self injurious behavior (245 with the hyphen.. so I'd say they all apply. ======== Friends. Yes.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Saturday, March 11, 2006 - 11:03 pm
Oh, I'm feeling it's time for another cyber hug:

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Dogdoc
Member
09-29-2001
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 4:26 am
It is hard to explain to myself, let alone others, how I feel about the people on this board. I have developed a true emotional relationship with some of them that is just as strong and inspiring as the friends I have in person. With others, I look forward to seeing what they have to say. I want to give a hug to the moderators because with them here I feel safe that each post will be worth reading. Thank you to all my friends here for sharing.
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Cndeariso
Member
06-28-2004
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 6:32 am
a friend to me is a friend regardless of their physical location. aren't you all my friends? that's the way i look at it. i know some of you better than others. but, that is true of any of my friends.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 7:03 am
awww, them I'm your friend, too, Cn! Sock Monkey...she's just naughty and doesn't always behave appropriately to her AF friends!
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 9:45 am
Trying hard to catch up on the archives. I want people to feel comfortable (talking to myself too) to go back to the archives and refer to a post there. A lot of times there is a flow on this site, where you feel you have to be in the moment, current, responding to what was just said. Should this thread be a chatroom experience (in the now) or a more reflective, thoughtful, slow message board? Can we do both? On March 11 archive at 9:52am NT...you were talking about modern kids, and how they might not respect their elders (like we were taught and mostly did). Young people ... they have attitude. It's promoted as a good thing. Don't be a doormat vs. Be Nice. Isn't that the battle, the struggle? Back when we were kids I think the mindset was that children should be seen and not heard. Be obedient. Respect your elders. Seamonkey, I like that phrase, "online community". That says it better I think. My online friends in my online communtiy... Merrysea, your 5:54pm post yesterday struck a chord. It echoes my problem. You were talking it over with your special friend, saying something like "maybe that's not how he meant it." See, if I said that to MY special friend, he would say, "You ALWAYS take her side." It's about feelings. He doesn't want me to propose other thoughts, other angles, my thoughts, what she might be thinking, etc. He's being honest. He just wants support. In fact I think he said he wouldn't mind if I trashed his ex-girlfriend. Would make him "feel" better. Of course he would never admit this. He wants to "feel" that I'm on his side. He doesn't want me to help fix the problem.
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 9:54 am
Springer If you didn't get it will you email me? My E-addy is in my profile.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 10:01 am
Newman, just a thought here about your friend. Sometimes, people can't see the "other side" until they feel like someone has seen their side. What I found when I'm in conflict with another person is that if you really work hard to understand what they are saying first, you have a better chance of getting heard later. The old St. Francis (and later Stephen Covey), let me seek first to understand, rather than to be understood. Of course, some people never get around to that second part, and if they aren't there, you have to just let it go.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 10:02 am
Re: young people being respectful. I don't find it so black and white. I think one can be respectful and still stand up for your own point of view. Be nice AND don't be a doormat. ETA: I saw an example of this at the Ranch just the other day. We hired a young horse trainer, she's early 20s; over a woman who's mid 50's and been training a lot longer. The older woman happened upon us in the arena when we were working with a horse that had been tripping, trying to evaluate what was wrong with him. We didn't ask her for her opinion. but she certainly offered it. I knew our new young trainer disagreed, because we had just been talking about what she thought the issue was. However, she listened quietly and respectfully as the older woman barged in with her attitude and opinion. She nodded occassionally and said "oh, okay, I see what you're saying" and eventually, "hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts." The older woman rather pressed her then, about what she was going to do, and at that point, the young trainer said thoughtfully "well, I hear what you are saying and you might be right. But I see something different here, and I think I'm going to try this other fix first and see what happens." She handled it respectfully, yet stuck to her guns when she disagreed.
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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 10:16 am
Gosh, Kar, it sounds like the older woman thought she had the right to "interview" the younger one. You certainly made the right choice! Re: young people being respectful When my friend's son, who was probably 16 or so at the time, was giving her such a hard time at home, she went to talk to her pastor. Her pastor said, "David is such a wonderful young man, so polite and kind to everyone." After she told him about the way he acted at home, the pastor said, "If you had to make a choice, where would you rather he be polite and kind...in public, or at home?" Not that we're given choices like that, but sometimes kids just like to try things at home that they wouldn't in public.
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Newman
Member
09-25-2004
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 10:21 am
Yesitsme, Just read yesterday's post of 9:43am. I want to help my friend, but I'm not being helpful if he's tuning me out! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. What I'm doing is NOT helping my friend. I agree with your "age cop out" comment. I should stop slinging that around, unless I'm more specific. Age is a factor in life. I'm definitely not as horny at 56 than I was at 26, for example. What is my goal? (I used to say that to my ex all the time...what is YOUR goal here). I want to be a good friend. Maybe just nodding and listening, not offering solutions or ways to fix things, is being a good friend in this case. I think I should concentrate on not giving unsolicited advise. Think of that before I open my pie hole. Just ask questions or make comments that help him get in touch with HIS feelings. Modeling behavior? Not sure what you meant there. I think this is true...that people give you advice about what THEY would do in a situation, or what would work for THEM, not for you or for what's best for YOU.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 11:22 am
Newman, I sent you a private message via the TVCH board a week or so ago. I am not sure if you received it but I was requesting your email address. Would you mind sending me your email address via the private message feature?
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 1:09 pm
Glenn, you can have mine.
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Glenn
Member
07-05-2003
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 1:22 pm
You know Pamy, there is something I wanted to talk to you about. Recently you made a post in a thread somewhere that was showing a picture of the new actor to take on the role of James Bond. I seem to recall your post said..........nice body for an old man........ Here you are, the one woman on the board that gives a lot of men hope that our dreams could come true.......and you see that guy as a old man with a nice body. I may have to join the priesthood now.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 1:43 pm
LOL...I don't remember saying that..I thought I said he reminded me of Jack Lalanne...nothing wrong with that...just not what I think Bond should look like... ...and Glenn you know how sexy I think you are!!! I don't throw my panties and sexy lingerie on just anyone's hotel bed!!!!
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Wendo
Member
08-07-2000
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 2:26 pm
WOW!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 2:35 pm
<shaking my head>
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Mamapors
Member
07-29-2004
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 2:39 pm
Which thread contains the details of the panties and lingerie throwing??? I missed it.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, March 12, 2006 - 2:41 pm
I think it's gone now Mama, it was the Long Beach trip.
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