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Vee
Member
02-23-2004
| Sunday, January 01, 2006 - 8:34 am
Omigosh, I have got to remind myself to get in here more often. Kimmo, the children are simply gorgeous. Rowan makes the most adorable present and he enjoyed sitting near Santa. Don't always see happy children at Santa's knee. And red is Ada's color! She looks like such a happy baby. Enbwife, love seeing Starr's photos above. I can't believe how fast she's grown. I do think she's starting a bit young with the objections to her birthday. Perhaps you could suggest that she hold off on that for at least another fifty years. 
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 12:36 pm
I am beginning to think about moving Sam over into the spare room to get him ready for new baby. It will be a bunch of change for him of course... big boy bed, new room, new things and eventually new baby. I will need advice soon about all these things and how each of you chose to deal with it. Right now what I'm wondering, is if anyone can tell me a good site to check out bedroom decorating ideas. I have found a few but most stuff is for girls. Appreciated!!!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:01 pm
Best thing is to do any changes sooner rather than later. That way, Sam can't "blame" the new baby for any changes he doesn't like. If he is in his new room and new bed he won't notice as much that the new baby is "kicking him out" of his room and his bed.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:05 pm
Two places that come to mind are http://interiordec.about.com/cs/kidsroomdecor/a/kids_boysthemes.htm and http://www.thecompanystore.com/dept.asp?dept%5Fid=5500
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:20 pm
Thanks Julieboo. I agree about sooner rather than later. I have about 5 months to go but would like this transition to happen in the next two months for just the reasons you suggested. I'm not really worried about how it's all going to pan out because really.....no matter what I will have to deal with it. My plan is to get the room done and ready and then when I start him in the big boy bed and room I will take a week off work to work out the wrinkles that may pop up. Right now he is such a great sleeper I am so afraid he will start to be a crier in the night and want attention. Another consideration is that he is upstairs, while our room is on the main level so I will have to actually gate him upstairs. I'm bound to have a pissed off child at some point. LOL!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:32 pm
Spit: since you and I are in the same boat, I opted get DD a new bed as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I then made her room extra special. I painted it and redecorated it etc. All, of course before new baby. But, then I let her be in on picking things out for the new baby and made sure it was alright that new baby could sleep in her crib. They both got new bedding that matches, so that's pretty neat, but they will be sharing a room. make all changes before baby, and ask Sam if he'd like to move from a baby room to a "big boy" room.
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:44 pm
Thanks for all the suggestions!! It's just funny to think that I'll be asking a 17 month old questions. Thankfully he communicates really well and is talking pretty good to although I don't believe he would know he's making a decision.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, January 06, 2006 - 1:45 pm
He'd get it eventually.
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Enbwife
Member
08-14-2000
| Saturday, January 07, 2006 - 8:16 am
We made a few mistakes with Nate, before Starr was born... we tried to potty train him 3 months before she came which went okay, but he never really got the whole "tell us you have to go" concept. When she arrived, he regressed and was back in diapers for another 6 months. We left him in his room, in his crib until after she was born. At around 2 months old, we moved Nate to his big boy bed, then he started having all kinds of issues, waking up, getting up, coming downstairs, etc. That was a nightmare!! Anyway, now that Starr is over 1, things have definitely settled down and Nate is a great sleeper and we have no "issues"... I think it's really a huge adjustment for all when a new person comes to live in your house. :-)
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Beckyann675
Member
01-06-2006
| Saturday, January 07, 2006 - 10:45 pm
Spitfire, it sounds like you and I are in similar situations. From what I gather, you have a 17-month-old and are due in about 5 months. I have a 20-month-old and am due next month. Right after Christmas, we moved Emily out of her room and into a room down the hall, just because her old room is right across the hall and that is where we prefer to put the baby. I figured I would go ahead and get her adjusted to the new room. We decided to keep her in her same crib, we just got new bedding to match her new room. I am just not sure when they are ready for a toddler bed. She still just seems too little for one. I just don't know how she would do. Anyway, best of luck to you with this pregnancy. I hope your last trimester goes better than mine, I am just soo ready to have this baby!!
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Joely
Member
09-24-2005
| Sunday, January 08, 2006 - 12:52 am
Hey Spitfire! I have two boys that are 18 months apart... I agree with everyone, make any changes now so that they're not associated with being directly because of the new baby, but like enbwife said... regression is something that happens when a new baby arrives... you don't want to be waking up for both feedings throughout the night as well as putting Sam back in bed every few hours. Whatever works the few month before the baby is here... keep it! My first slept in a crib until he was 2 1/2, and my second only until he was 15 months! I moved my older son into a new room and kept his same crib, with the same bedding and added some big boy things and he loved it! JMHO 
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Enbwife
Member
08-14-2000
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 10:06 am
My strong advice is keep them in their crib for as long as possible. We had to move Nate to a bed because he was climbing out of his crib... but if they're happy, don't move them. My sis waited until her DD was almost 3 to do it and it was a non-issue.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 10:24 am
Beckyanne, I am also due next month. I have a 27 month old. She really never did well in her crib. We moved her to a toddler bed at about 15 months old. It worked out really well, then when I got pregnant, we bought her a twin sized bed that she is just so proud of. She tells me daily that it is alright with her if baby sister wants to sleep in her crib, and she doesn't need it. It's really cute. Potty training is slow going. She goes on the toilet every night before her bath and will not go anywhere but on the toilet if she is running around nekkid. Which she loves to do after her bath for about 20 minutes or so. When she is naked, she's completely potty trained, when she has a diaper or regular panties on, she just as soon prefer to go in them then to interrupt what she is doing. *sigh* Potty training is rough, but we are not pushing because of the new baby.
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Beckyann675
Member
01-06-2006
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 10:47 am
Escapee, Oh I agree about the potty training. We thought she was ready because she will tell us when she has a "poop" So we bought her a chair and she has gone in it a couple of times but when we let her run around naked, she will have accidents on the floor and it seems to surprise her so much when they happen like "Is that coming out of me??" So with the new baby coming we decided to postpone the potty training process.
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 12:20 pm
Thanks everyone for the advice. From what I gather everyone is recommending Sam continue on in his crib until he no longer wants it. Right now he loves the crib and has never even once tried to get out. When he wakes up he chats with himself for awhile, giggles, then will eventually call for me. Sometimes this whole process can last about 1 hour. He has never woke up and cried to get out and when I do go up to get him he usually lays back down when he sees me and we do the "good morning - how was your sleep - did you have good dreams" thing. All in all...he loves his crib. So as per suggestions I will think about not making him go in the big bed. I really want him to move over to the other room though so what does everyone think about moving him and the crib over into his new room with the big bed. It's already set up and waiting, I just have to decorate. By the way, it's a double bed, that's not to big to start out in is it? Guess I am going to have to find another crib if I decide to do this. Beckyann welcome to TVCH. What is your due date? So you know if it's a boy or girl? Any preferance? Have you checked out the rest of the clubhouse?
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 12:56 pm
Spit, can I ask more questions? Is the room he's in going to be the baby's room? Will you keep the baby in your room for a while when you first get home? Does he know the room with the big bed his? Can you afford to let him pick out things to decorate this new room? Then let him change the "crib room" by picking things out for the new baby? What if you have him help you move some of his stuff in this new room and continue to impress on him that it's his special room? Let him play in there with toys he's moved in there for a while each day? Put his clothes in there and that's where he goes to get dressed? In other words, transition him slowly. I guess I wonder if it would be easier if the room was empty for a time before moving him out and someone else in.
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 1:13 pm
Yes I would move him slowly and it would certainly be a bit before new baby comes so he is comfy in his new surroundings. I will keep baby in our room for about 1 to 2 months as we are on the main floor and the other rooms are upstairs. No he does not know that the other room will be his but with all these suggestions I think maybe I will start to bring some of his things over gradually so I can make a conversation out of it. As far as affording to have all these changes happen, well there are going to have to happen some time. I will get a new bedspread for the "big boy bed" and maybe a few other things to make it special for him but not a whole lot. I think I would let him keep all the crib bedding and maybe try borrow another from a friend for new babes. Maybe all these decisions will be for nothing and next week he starts to scream to get out of his crib. Doubt it though. LOL SS I like the idea about moving things over like clothes and having him get dressed in there. Never would have thought of that.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 09, 2006 - 2:06 pm
Spit, I know he's a bit young to make the decorating decisions, but how bout picking out a couple bedspreads and letting him choose which one he likes? Or paint colors if you choose to paint or pictures? Might help him to feel like its more his if he has some say in what goes in there. May I make a sugesstion to those of you getting ready for a second baby? Buy a toy for the baby to "give" to the new big brother/sister. Have them "give" it when the big bro/sis comes to visit in the hospital or if they don't get to the hospital as soon as you get home. I won't call it anything other than what it is, lol, a bribe! Baby wanted to get you something special. With baby showers and people bringing gifts for the new baby, plus everyone excited about the baby and wanting to come see and hold, it's easy for the older ones to feel left out, especially when the baby's getting all these gifts and they're not getting anything. I know you can't always make sure both get equal gifts or one isn't left out sometimes, they do have to learn that too, but with the new adjustments with a new baby in the family it seems to set things off on the right foot. LOL, Dakota "got" Caleb one of those big Buzz Lightyear dolls, the ones that had all the different sounds and stuff. Everytime someone would bring a present to her or come to visit her he'd trot that doll out and show what she'd given him. He was so danged proud of it, carried it everywhere and slept with it for a couple years. Even after gettin rid of a bunch of toys, thats the one thing he's kept all this time. It just stands on his dresser now, but he remembers thats what baby Dakota got him.
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 6:04 am
Wargod that is a great story and a great idea. I will have to keep my eyes open for the perfect thing from baby to Sam.
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Skootz
Member
07-23-2003
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 7:28 am
When I had my 2nd child I had a newborn doll and gave it to Julia so she had her own baby to look after. They were 20 months apart, Julia got her new room complete with a big girl bed and a crib..she was too young to be out of one at that time, so we just purchased another one second hand for her. So we were not just kicking her out of her room and making her be a big girl, when she partly wanted to be a baby still too.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 7:38 am
Way ahead of you Wargod. We bought DD a doll for the day her new sister is born. We are hiding it from her.
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Beckyann675
Member
01-06-2006
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 9:00 am
I love the idea of a gift from the baby. I will have to start looking for the perfect thing. This brings me to another question: I am not too sure yet what to do with Emily when we are in the hospital with the new baby. My parents and my husband's parents will both be in for the birth. My parents will stay at a hotel and his will probably stay at his brother's apartment. So I have a few options: I could let Emily stay at our home and his parents could stay at our house and I guess sleep in our bed while we are at the hospital (This is good for Emily cause she gets to stay at home but I am kinds uncomfortable with people staying at my house and sleeping in my bed while I am not there, even if they are my in-laws) My parents are like me and would feel weird staying in our house while we are gone. The second option is she could stay in the hotel room with my parents and the third option that I have thought of is my parents can just go back home the night Molly is born and take Emily with them (it's about an hour and a half away) and then they can bring her back when I am released. Any suggestions? Spitfire, thanks for the welcome! I have been lurking around the board for a couple of years now but have been so busy the past year I haven't been regular and then I forgot my password so I just created a new account. My due date is Feb. 15, but I will more than likely deliver before then. I have had high blood pressure and Gestational Diabetes with this pregnancy so I don't think they will let me go very long. We are having another girl, Molly Catherine, so I am hanging on to all the girl clothes and toys!
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 9:15 am
I am due the 17th, and no one thinks I will go that long. Here's hoping. We are also having another girl, Emma Lynn. I had a bunch of people in the room for the birth of our daughter, that isn't happening again. DH isn't spending the night in the hospital with you is he? He can take your daughter home with him for the night. That is our plan. While we are in the birth process, DH will be with me and maybe his mom or my mom. Someone will be watching DD during that time and once it's over and everyone is settled, DD will go home with DH and they will pick us up the next day at the hospital. During the birth, I am going to ask who would like to be in charge of DD while I am preoccupied.....someone always volunteers.
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Beckyann675
Member
01-06-2006
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 9:57 am
Well I am going to have a C-section. Had one with the first. I agree about having too many people in the birthing room though. When I was in labor, it seemed like people were just walking in and out and I was in so much pain, I didn't think logically enough to ask that people leave. Then when I didn't progress, the dr. told me I could keep going or they could just do a C-section. By that time I was just ready for it to be over. Anyway, because of the surgery, I will probably be in a little longer than you and I just figured DH would stay in the hospital room with me 'cause thats what we did with the first, but really, he doesn't have to be there. I know he would be a lot more comfortable at home instead of on a recliner in the hospital room and that would eliminate the problem of who will keep DD. I am sure you are like me and will have no shortage of volunteers to care for DD during the birth process. I know while I am in surgery she will be in good hands. BTW, love the name Emma Lynn. It's so pretty!
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Tuesday, January 10, 2006 - 10:26 am
Hey Beckyann I had both those things when I was carrying Sam. So far so good for me this time. At you at home or do you have to work? Love the names Emma and Molly. Skootz I have always really loved the name Julia to. Do you ever call her Jules? I am becoming more convinced everyday that Sam should stay in his crib until he's finished with it.
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