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Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Monday, July 25, 2005 - 11:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
Patience? Whats that? Lol.
What I find funny lately is my friends who either do not have children or who have just started out and have babies. They say "I bet things are so easy now for you" or "I bet your so happy now that she's getting older" HA! Little do they know that as a parent you make it through one stage and boom-before you can even breath a sigh of relief you are onto the next!

We are already starting today with this. DD asked me not too long ago if I would take her to the arcade today. I very calmly explained to her that today would not be a good day but that if she helped me out with the house and today that I wouldn't mind taking her and my nephew tomorrow. She immediately got huffy puffy and sad and actually even tried to cry! Theres the proof right there for me. Now she is being all moppy laying in her bed staring at the ceiling. Sheesh. Kids

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, July 25, 2005 - 11:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Yep, gotta love em.

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Monday, July 25, 2005 - 3:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Teachmichigan a private message Print Post    
Go for the Love and Logic books. They are fabulous and work for elementary age kids right up through the teenage years. They're not quite "tough love" -- but they specifically help parents set reasonable boundaries and carry out consistent consequences when needed.

And Silly -- hang on! She hasn't even hit the teen years!!! :-) I tell my HS kids that after watching them for 13 years, I'm just going to put my 10 yr. old in a bubble and let him out when he's old enough to support himself! LOL

Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 9:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
Thank you so much for all your input everyone. Now I need some more help! DH and I decided that the points/reward system would work best with dd. Here is a list of what we came up with so far. I just need help trying to figure out how to make it into a chart and how many points to put for each thing. We don't have a lot of money so some of these reward things may not seem like much to you all, but they would put us out if we had to do them every week (like the movies or arcade)
Okay-here goes

As far as daily chores that she has to do (but I still want to give her points for and she will get points taken away if even one is not completed)-
Make her bed
Read for a minimum of 30 minutes
pick up all of Buddy (our dog) toys
Rules regarding television-during summer
Allowed to watch a maximum of 1 1/2 hours of tv. Anything over will result in negative points per each half hour.
chores she can do to earn points
Vacuum hallway and her bedroom
Wipe baseboards
dust living room
fold towels
put her own laundry away
possible rewards
Rent a movie
go to movie theater
buy a magazine
buy a book
go to library
go to arcade
go bowling
ice cream/frozen yogurt
Go to paint pals
things that will get points taken away
sassy talk/bad attitude
not listening/doing what is asked
fighting with cousin (he lives with us half of the time)
leaving items anywhere in the house other than your room
not doing daily chores


phew...okay...really I could use a few more chores or things she can do for points too...any suggestions here would be great.

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 10:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
She's old enough to sort all of the laundry, heck she might be old enough to start helping to wash and dry it too if you trust her not to mix a red sock with all the whites, lol. My kids have been sorting laundry for years, and they get no stickers or allowance for it because the rule is if they find money sorting it they get to keep it. I let Caleb wash dishes on his own (I'm usually peeking over his shoulder to make sure he does a good job.) Dakota gets to rinse dishes. Both of them know how to wipe down the counters and sweep and mop. Since I usually mop daily it's not a big job and if they miss a few spots it's not a big deal. Same with vacuuming the living room. Both of them also help Darren with yard work (raking leaves, sweeping the driveway, and making sure all their toys are picked up.

LOL, reading this it looks like they have a ton of chores but that's not really how it is. Yard work is a Saturday or Sunday chore. The little chores: picking up their own toys, sorting laundry, putting their own away, feeding and watering the dog and keeping their rooms cleaned only take a few minutes a day. Cleaning up the kitchen, it's usually after breakfast or lunch that they do that (not after dinner when there's more dishes and more work to do) and picking up the living room are chores that they swap. Caleb cleans the kitchen one morning while Dakota does the living room and then the next day they swap. Usually they have about 30-45 minutes of work a day and they know if they get to it and just do it, it usually doesn't take that long.

Want some more reward ideas? You don't have to spend money on all of the rewards, or even most of them. Some of the kids rewards are things like going to the park or an extra movie/game night and they get to pick what we watch and play. One of the things the kids are starting to finally figure out is that when we have good days (they listen and behave well, do their chores and are polite to each other) they get to stay up late. If we have a bad day, they go to bed at 8:30 (this only works on weekends and during vacations, lol.)

Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Tuesday, July 26, 2005 - 10:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
She actually does sort her laundry for me, but I throw it in with ours. As for the yard work-we have a neighborhood gardening service here so I don't have to lift a finger out there thankfully (if I did it would all be dead!)

I would have her do the dishes but she wouldn't be able to put them away because our kitchen lay out is really odd (I hate puttin away the dishes because even I have to set them all on the counter and then close the dishwasher before I can put most of them away.

You've given me some good ideas though. i can add a few more things to the list!

Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
soooo....any ideas on points or how to make a chart out of this all? Anyone...anyone? Bueller....Bueller?


Sorry, as you can tell I have no imagination or thought process anymore since those darn doctors have drugged me up!

Landi
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07-29-2002

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Landi a private message Print Post    
omg! now i remember the email i was supposed to send! last night at about 10:30 i was sitting at the computer thinking to myself... "who was that i was supposed to send an email to???" and couldn't remember, so i went to bed. i just put a note in my palm so i won't forget.

Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
lol..thanks Landi!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Silly, I have a chart of chores I made up for the boys and me that I can send you a copy of. I think it's in word. I'm sending it to the email in your profile from my work addy.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
LOL Landi, thank god, someone else does that!

Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 1:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
thank you mocha!!

Skootz
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07-23-2003

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 6:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Skootz a private message Print Post    
Mocha...can I get a copy of that too please..my address is in my profile...thanks


Sillycalimomma
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11-13-2003

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 7:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Sillycalimomma a private message Print Post    
And thank you Landi! I knew I could count on my friends here at TVCH!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 7:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Mocha a private message Print Post    
Skootz I'll have to send it tomorrow, I'm not at my regular desk today and the file is on my puter's hard drive. Put a reminder in my folder for tomorrow though please.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 11:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    

Anyone ever have to deal with baby teeth that aren't loose and the adult teeth are coming in--but so far back that they aren't pushing the babies out?

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 11:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
yep!! with both kids.....had to go get them pulled. Tooth fairy pays extra for them too! LOL
He might try really wiggling it to see if he can get it started.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Boy Annie you are like my fairy godmother with all these answers! Though I was afraid the answer was gonna be that answer! Man, what a way to start off his relationship with the dentist! Pain from the start. CRAP! (Well he's actually been going to the dentist for regular checkups since he was three.) But still...

How did your kids handle it? (The pain, shots, etc...)

Wargod
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07-16-2001

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Wargod a private message Print Post    
Uh huh, once in a while you'll get lucky and the baby tooth eventually falls out but mostly it's having to get them pulled. We've gone through several with Caleb, and both Darren and I went through it as kids.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Wah! I already have a sick feeling in my stomach just thinking about me having to tell Ryan about it. How traumatic was it for the kid? And how many shots did they have to use?

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Texannie a private message Print Post    
nah...they will give him a really gas mask and he won't care a bit!!!

oh, my daughter had a cavity and i was preparing her for the shot ect and she got scared, the dentist asked why she was scared and she told him, he got furious with me said 'we dont give little kids shots anymore!!!!'

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Oh cool!!!! THANKS fgm!!

Skootz
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07-23-2003

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Skootz a private message Print Post    
my dd has to undergo a number of filings (6 years old) and they will be giving her "happy gas" NO freezing or needles for her.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 1:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Julieboo a private message Print Post    
Oh thank you Skootz!!! Makes me feel much better!

Not1worry
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07-30-2002

Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 1:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post Send Not1worry a private message Print Post    
My DD had her bottom teeth like that. The baby ones fell out on her own, but it was quite strange. The dentist told me not to worry about them, it was totally normal etc.

DS thought it was really cool. He kept saying, "She's like a shark!". You know how they have rows of teeth like that. Maybe you can try that at your house to make things more cool!