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Saxywildcat
Member
05-30-2005
| Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 7:10 pm
I have one for ya'll... My hubby and I met through hotornot.com ! I partially blame my friend Aaron, who talked me into posting a photo in the first place. rofl!
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 7:11 pm
Since Saxy said it ... I'll admit I'm currently dating a wonderful man I met on eHarmony.
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Saxywildcat
Member
05-30-2005
| Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 7:17 pm
That's awesome, Vac!!! A buddy of my hubby's met his wife on yahoo personals I think. The girl and I are so much alike, it's awesome. We're all good friends and we'll all be living close to each other once both guys are out of the army. Andy and Jonathan are both set to be out soon. 
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Saturday, January 28, 2006 - 10:38 pm
Yes I got lucky too! YAH online daters!!!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Sunday, January 29, 2006 - 10:42 am
I've been lucky a few times. Oh wait maybe we're talking bout something different? 
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Sunday, January 29, 2006 - 2:36 pm
LOL!!
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Monday, January 30, 2006 - 12:33 pm
Before my divorce was final, I spent a couple of hours filling out the e-Harmony questionnaire just to see what was out there. At the beginning of the process, I indicated that I was separated. I received an immediate response that there were no matches. When I read the fine print, it said that you had to be "single." That's fine, but why couldn't they have said that at the beginning or at least when I had marked the "separated" box. I tried Match.com and was quite alarmed at some the matches I got on that one. My age preference was in the 45-55 area and most of the matches I got had to have been at least 70 and the rest were weirdos. I won't post my pic either, mainly because I am not in the least bit photogenic, but I found myself looking at only the matches that had pics. If I try it again, I will probably use e-Harmony. I just want someone that has a functioning brain and can support himself. It wouldn't hurt if he knew how to wear a cowboy hat, boots and Wranglers. He can wear a shirt if he has to.
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Monday, January 30, 2006 - 12:50 pm
Good for you Native Texan ... what a great attitude, especially after a divorce ... it must be very hard! I hadn't dated in 8 years when I went on eH and found the man I am currently dating. He may not be THE man for me, but it sure it fun to get my feet wet again!!! 
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Monday, January 30, 2006 - 1:06 pm
Vacanick, while sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone to cuddle (and I do mean just cuddle) up to, I don't think I'm anywhere near ready to date yet - I just wanted to see what was out there.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 8:51 am
Death points out risks of Web dating BY NICK SHIELDS AND LAURA BARNHARDT SUN REPORTERS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED FEBRUARY 9, 2006 In a case that highlights the potential dangers of popular Internet sites as a way for young people to meet, a biochemistry major at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County was charged yesterday with beating to death a woman while on a date arranged through MySpace.com, a Web site. The student, John Christopher Gaumer, led police to the woman's body in a wooded area near a ramp leading from Interstate 95 to the Beltway near Arbutus, authorities said. Gaumer, who is charged with first-degree murder, and the woman were on their first date when she was killed in late December, according to police. The two were arguing on the side of the highway exit ramp when Gaumer, 22, pushed the woman over a guardrail and beat her, according to police. The woman, Josie Phyllis Brown, 27, had been missing since Dec. 29. The two met on a social networking site that enables people to post pictures of themselves in online "profiles" that can be viewed by others. The popularity of such sites - others include Friendster.com and Facebook.com - has exploded in the past two years. But seeking romance through the Web can carry hazards that go beyond the risks of meeting someone in a bar or club. http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/local/baltimore_county/bal-te.md.co.body09feb09,1,7462196.story?coll=bal-home-headlines
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 9:15 am
It's a scary world out there. Some time ago I came across this; wish I'd remember where, may have been Kim Kommando, but I'm not sure: 10 tips to dating online safely Lots of people turn to the Internet to find love. After all, it seems much safer than meeting people in bars. The truth is, people can lie as well on the Internet as anywhere else. Still, you might want to give it a whirl. So here are 10 tips to get a better and safer experience when you date online. 1. Choose the right site. In general, dating sites do not screen their members. So look for a site that has thorough privacy policies to help protect you. Popular sites include Match.com (http://www.match.com), eHarmony (http://www.eharmony.com), Yahoo Personals (http://personals.yahoo.com) and True (http://www.true.com). The latter sets itself apart through screenings for criminal records and married applicants. 2. Use anonymity. Most services offer double-blind systems that hide e-mail addresses from messages. Take advantage of these systems. Be sure not to give away your e-mail address in your messages. And of course, don't reveal other identifying information early on. 3. Avoid using your primary e-mail address. Create an e-mail account that you use specifically for online dating. When you eventually start a true relationship, you can leave the e-mail account behind. And your previous dates won't have your primary e-mail address. 4. Insist on recent photos, and many of them. Some online daters forget to update their photos. So it doesn't hurt to ask for a "more recent" photo. In fact, ask for at least five different photos. That can make things difficult for anyone who's using old, false or doctored photos. 5. Take things slowly. Talk on the phone before you think about meeting in person. Remember, profiles and e-mails can be carefully constructed. You'll get a much better representation of the person over the phone. But guard your phone number. If your phone service includes a caller ID blocking feature, use it. Otherwise, you can resort to a public phone. Make yourself difficult to contact should you decide against meeting the person. If the conversation makes you uneasy, move on to other candidates. You don't have to justify your feelings or your decision. But be honest. 6. Meet in person only when you're ready. The decision to meet is a joint decision. You're not obligated to meet anyone if you feel uncomfortable. You have every right to take things at your own pace. It makes no difference how long you've been writing, talking or instant messaging. 7. When you meet, choose a public place. Restaurants, for example, are great. And set a time when others will be around. Tell a friend where you'll be going. Use your own transportation. Don't agree to have the other person pick you up. You should be able to arrive and leave by choice. 8. Be especially cautious about traveling. The prospect of a heavenly match might lead you to another city. Don't compromise your safety. Make your own hotel arrangements and keep them private. If you're flying, get a rental car. No one else should control where or when you can go. And, of course, make sure friends or family know your plans. 9. Watch for bad omens. Don't dismiss telltale signs that something's amiss. Be wary if: Your date does not match his or her description or photo. Don't be afraid to ask questions or leave the date. Your date's personality does not match his or her e-mails or phone conversations. Your date touches you inappropriately. If you're uncomfortable, be honest. If the behavior continues, consider moving on to other prospects. Your date makes demeaning comments. They could be a signs of underlying frustrations or prejudice. Be especially wary if the comments are gender-related or relate to you in some other way. 10. Trust yourself. If you feel uncomfortable or frightened, trust your feelings. Don't be embarrassed to leave. If that means excusing yourself and slipping away, do it. Don't jeopardize your safety for the sake of good manners. And one final note: Dont make loans or give money to someone you are dating online. Too many people are taken by these scams.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 9:31 am
I still say it's no scarier than picking up someone in a bar.
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Jimmer
Member
08-30-2000
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 9:44 am
Mocha, I was going to say that a lot of the above could apply to any type of dating.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 10:02 am

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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 10:27 am
You are both right, but for some reason some people, especially net newbies, don't seem to be as cautious on their computer in their home with giving out personal information as they are face-to-face with strangers.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 10:40 am
All this info certainly makes me want to jump right back into the dating fray. Not!!!!
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Vacanick
Member
07-12-2004
| Friday, February 10, 2006 - 11:45 am
When your ready Native Texan, you'll be interested in dating again. I didn't think I would either but here I am celebrating my first Valentines Day with the man I adore whom I met at eH. There are just as many "good" stories as there as "bad". 
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Riviere
Member
09-09-2000
| Thursday, February 16, 2006 - 8:36 pm
I'm more the current crop of 'old fogie' who met a man on a pre internet pc game in 1991. We did game together, chat, swapped brief emails and finally chatted on phone and sent snailmails. We knew almost all we needed to by the time we met in person a year later. Everyone, family and pals alike said, whaddya mean met via computers, that can't last! Guess that means when we married in 1993 we were ahead of our time? Seriously, the new internet meet market has flaws and danger. I was never seeking dates or even a marriage but many are these days. It's easy to hide behind a screen and invent yourself over and over in the scant decade the internet got popular? I'd say: take it slow... Unless you know this guy or gal from months of gaming and chatting and letters and calls and photos you are really just picking up someone at a local bar.
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