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Saxywildcat
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05-30-2005

Tuesday, July 05, 2005 - 12:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Okay, here i am again.. A couple questions...
Flowers.. Real or Silk or both? I'd kind of like to go the both way, but I'm not sure if I can talk my fiance into that one. i think he wants all real..

I'm adopted. I've found my birth mom and been reunited with her for 3 1/2 years. Just this weekend, I met my birth father and his family. Has anyone dealt with stuff like this at a wedding and including people like that?

How many people have planned weddings from afar? I'll be doing it for a wedding in Kansas from South Carolina..

I think I should stop with the questions for now..

Oh, one more.. How long is to long for a song when lighting the unity candle?

Twinkie
Member

09-24-2002

Tuesday, July 05, 2005 - 12:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hi Saxy. I had both real and silk flowers. My bouquet was silk and the arrangement for the head table was silk and the rest were real. Oh, except for the bouquet I threw. That way I had 2 mementos to keep and so did whoever caught the little bouquet. By using mostly real flowers I cut down on the cost but still had something to keep.

Azriel
Member

08-01-2000

Tuesday, July 05, 2005 - 7:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Saxy, I planned my wedding from afar. I was in Singapore and the wedding was in the Netherlands. At the same time I planned a wedding party in the States for my family. It took a lot of long distance calls and e-mails, but with careful planning it all went smoothly.

On the song for the unity candle, I would not worry about the length of the song. Pick a song you love and then plan the ceremony of lighting the candle around the length of the song.

I went to one wedding where they had a very long song, but they just did everything slowly. The bride went to her parents and led them up to the candles and they lit her candle together. Then the groom got his parents and they lit his candle together. The parents sat back down and there was a dramatic pause where we just sat and watched those two candles burn and listened to the music for awhile, then towards the end of the song the bride and groom lit the unity candle.

Seamonkey
Member

09-07-2000

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 2:26 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
What I adored about Spy's wedding was at two times they had longish songs (sung by her brother) and Spy and Flyboy took those interludes to just be with each other and talk quietly and I can tell you that was not boring or taxing to any of the onlookers but just a precious look at two people, very much in love, just enjoying each other's company and taking in the moment. It was very nice that it wasn't rushed.

Twinkie
Member

09-24-2002

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 2:43 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Ooh, I liked that too, Sea. Very sweet moments.

Urgrace
Member

08-19-2000

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 8:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yes (Hanky anyone? sniff)

Saxy, get a wedding planner. It is well worth it.

Juju2bigdog
Member

10-27-2000

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 11:31 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Ditto, Seamonkey and Twinkie on Spygirl's wedding. A LOT of us here attended. It was a riot trying to explain to the "normal" folks at the wedding who we were without making Spygirl look like too much of a dork.

Jmm
Moderator

08-16-2002

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 11:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
LOL, You should have done what I did when her brother came over to our table to introduce himself. It was like, "Hi, I'm _____, Spygirl's brother and I don't believe I know you all." I told him, "Oh, we're the friends she doesn't talk about." I loved him - he just laughed and said, "Oh, the internet friends."

Darrellh
Member

07-21-2004

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 11:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Saxy, about the adoption part. Are both your adoptive parents alive? If so, have they also met your birth parents?

Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 3:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Let's see.. I've got a wedding planner book already. And I've gotten set up on theknot.com... So there's a LOT of info there. As far as the adoption part. Both of my adoptive parents are alive. they have met my birth mother, but since I only met my birth father this past weekend for the first time, they have not met him yet. they are very supportive of me wanting to get to know my birth parents. they completely know that they are my parents and I will never think of them any other way. Heck, they raised me! I know that I want my birth parents at the wedding. My birth mom is helping me out with invitations and getting a great deal on them. And her mom is going to make my veil. So.. Yeah, I dunno.

Darrellh
Member

07-21-2004

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 4:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
As long as your parents aren't overshadowed by the birth parents on anything, then I say, do what everyone feels comfortable with doing. Don't be afraid to ask, either.

Goddessatlaw
Member

07-19-2002

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 4:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Saxy, I'd seat the birth parents behind your parents (the adoptive ones) - have them seated by an usher right before your mother is led down the aisle. That way they'll have a place of honor without infringing on your mother's (and father's) big day. I'd certainly consult your mom about this, though - she's been dreaming of this day for you since the first time she held you in her arms, so I'd think her feelings would be paramount on the subject.

Twiggyish
Member

08-14-2000

Thursday, July 07, 2005 - 4:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
=) Love all these ideas! Congratulations you guys!

Tishala
Member

08-01-2000

Monday, July 11, 2005 - 8:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
For anyone planning to get married soon: Food Network is looking for a bride and groom to do their second Food TV wedding. Last year it was really good--they had a Jewish groom from Philadelphia and a non-Jewish bride from the south and they did fusion recipes that represented the bride and groom. Really good stuff. They had recipes from all the Food Network biggies, including Giana De Laurentis, Barefoot Contessa, Paula Deen, Emeril, Tyler Florence, and some others. I think Giana [from Everyday Italian] hosted it, I think, and even took the bride for a manicure and pedicure and to get her hair done.

Anyhow, I thought it might be fun for somebody and I didn't know where to post it. I don't know what the timetable of the wedding is, so check the Food Network home page if you're interested.

Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 11:49 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Okay peeps, I am just curious about what folks have done for photographers. The original person we wanetd to ask doesn't do weddings anymore, the lady he suggested.. Well... We could spend over 1000 dollars on the itme and pictures. Is that the norm these days? My brother and mom have great digital cameras, but i don't know that we have anyone that could do pictures as nice as we'd want them...

On another note.. we have a reception hall reserved and have the videographer booked. I have *no* clue what the videographer is going to cost and I didn't ask. Altho, I would't be surprised if he's giving my dad a deal. I also found that I can get my invitations, thank yous, envelopes, reception cards and RSVP cards all over under 400. My birth mom is giving me that deal. Plus, I found out that if i get the dishes I like so far, Noritake colorwave, the place settings are only 40 bucks.. A lot less than the 70 a friend of mine has this summer.. And the nice iced tea glasses I like, 10 bucks, unlike the 25 my friend has too.. I like finding somewhat cheaper stuff.. LOL

Froggiegirl621
Member

02-14-2003

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 12:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
As of today it is 99 days until my wedding! I'm finally in double digits!!!

Saxy - regarding the photographer, I can only speak from my experience. I am spending $1200, and honestly I'm kind of thinking $1000 IS the norm these days. We are getting two photographers (it's a husband/wife team)for 7 hours, a minimum of 600 photos/proofs in a proof album, and we get to keep all our negatives. We also get to choose different types of film, different photo borders and different specialty lenses. Our photographers specialize in candid/photojounalistic style photos which is exactly what we wanted. I think photos are the one thing to splurge on if it's possible for you. Next to our reception, our photographers are our next biggest expense.

As far as invitations go, we just ordered ours on Tuesday night and everything (150 invites, envelopes, reception cards, rsvp's and envelopes, and program covers) was around $400 total. You can find really good deals on invites if you shop around.

Best of luck!


Pcakes2
Member

08-29-2001

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 1:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
$1000 is a great deal! And if you can find someone who will include the negatives, that's even better. From my experience, I can honestly say that your wedding pictures will be something you will treasure for years to come. The video, you will look at after the wedding...and make friends sit through when they come to visit, but after about 6 months...it sits on the shelf. I usually recommend that people spend a little more on their photographer and go "budget" on the videographer. (Sorry, I hope I don't offend any videographers out there)

Jimmer
Member

08-30-2000

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 2:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I agree that you are getting a fantastic deal on the photography! Of course, I'm biased but I also agree with Pcakes about the importance of the wedding pictures.

Pcakes2
Member

08-29-2001

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 2:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
A suggestion for anyone looking for inexpensive wedding favors...compilation CDs are a great thing. Select a 1/2 dozen songs that are special to you...one should be your first dance song, burn them onto CDs and create labels with a picture of you and the groom (usually the engagement photo is used), with the date. What's great about this is that friends or family members with cd burners can help out. You can buy a pack of 50 or 100 blank cds for practically nothing.

Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Friday, July 15, 2005 - 3:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I know that wedding photos are very dear and special. I just feel better that 1000 seems to be the norm. My brother also says you'll never find someone who will give you the negatives..
And well, Video is a big thing with my dad. He'll have no prob putting up whatever it takes for that. He's not having someone man his camera for this wedding because of what happened at my brother's wedding. The guy who ran the camera was talking during the wedding. And my dad wants it done professionally.. So yeah. But anywho..

Speaking of the CDs. Jonathan's mom had that idea and said that that is something that she would love to do for us. So that's in the bag. :-)

Meggieprice
Member

07-09-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 10:56 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Get a pro, for sure! Course I am biased, lol, as I am one. That is a great deal, but make sure you see complete weddings by the person and not just the "best of"- anyone can compile best of.

Some recent pix-one of mine

Meggieprice
Member

07-09-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 10:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
and one of Zachys!

Spygirl
Moderator

04-23-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 11:11 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I have some pictures from our wedding in February that I love and wanted to share...

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Spygirl
Moderator

04-23-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 11:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
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This is me and my cousin, who was also our wedding coordinator:
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One of my favorites...
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Twinkie
Member

09-24-2002

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 11:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
<snif, snif> Awwwww Spy those pics just take me right back to that day. You had the most beautiful wedding.