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Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 1:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
wow, i got butterflies in my stomach over the one where he was kissing your forehead!!!!!!
beautiful!!!

Buttercup
Member

07-16-2005

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 2:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Spygirl, you look absolutely stunning! The pictures truly capture your happiness. Congratulations!

Juju2bigdog
Member

10-27-2000

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 7:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Meggieprice, looks like ZachyD is going to follow in the family footsteps!! Tell him I thought his photo was beautiful.

I know what you mean, Twinks. Sniff. Spygirl's wedding was very special for all of us who were lucky enough to attend. And we had SO much fun acting mysterious with the other regular wedding guests, telling them we could tell them who we were, but then we would have to kill them.



Spygirl
Moderator

04-23-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 7:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks you guys for your kind comments.

Juju, Twinkie...it was wonderful to have you all there! My "other" friends and family are still in awe of how much fun you all had and the caring spirit that you brought to the event. As soon as I get my act together, I have a wonderful surprise to send out to all bazillion of you! It just may be a bit longer 'till I can get it all together.

Meggie, your photos are always stunning - keep sharing them with us!


Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 7:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh Spy those are gorgeous!!! Again I have to say your hair was just perfect. <sniff>

Juju2bigdog
Member

10-27-2000

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 10:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
And Mocha knows some hair!

Jbean
Member

01-05-2002

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 10:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
oh, those photos are gorgeous! i still say you are the most beautiful bride ever, and i've seen my share of weddings. lol. thanks for sharing those with us!

Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 11:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Those photos are great! Anyone have any suggestions for a quick wedding (even if we do plan to have a big wedding after he gets back, my mom says, what if you're pregnant by then?... ) For those of you who don't know, Jonathan is probably headed back to Iraq... Meaning he won't be here next July 22.. We'd get married before Iraq..

Twinkie
Member

09-24-2002

Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 2:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
July 22nd?? That was the date of my first wedding.....oh so many many years ago.

Secretsmile
Member

08-19-2002

Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 7:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Saxy, I can share my experience of a small informal wedding and what parts thrilled me and what parts I wished I'd paid more attention to.

Tim and I were married in my SIL's townhouse when we lived in Ft. Lauderdale. Not a bad thing.

We hurried the ceremony to coincide with spring break so more of our siblings could make it. That was a good thing.

My SIL took over the wedding preparations and I had no say in several things. At the time I thought it was a good thing, in hindsight, while it was generous of her to buy my bouquet and a small wedding cake, we didn't like the cake topper at all so we should have taken a more personal hand in it.

The ceremony it's self was nice and I wouldn't have changed a thing. I bought a tape of the wedding march and my father walked me down the "aisle" but I didn't double check that my SIL had a working stereo and so I walked in silence.

The reception was a matter of everyone hanging out at the pool and we had a wonderful time. All the food was provided by both our parents and was simple picnic type things that were easily picked up at a deli.

Many people brought their own cameras and we they all sent us copies if not the original. Years later we had several enlarged and they are beautiful to me.

The most expensive thing was what we spent on Tim's suit. My gown I found at a sidewalk sale of left over prom dresses and cost me $19.99. It was ivory rather than white, but had lace and was perfect for such an informal wedding. (These days prom gowns cost more than wedding dresses would cost back then! LOL)

Tim and I always planned to save our money and come home to have a real wedding. We married quickly because it was too expensive for us to each have apartments and his lease was going to be up and we wanted to save money and live together. We never got around to saving up for a real wedding, as time went by the kids started coming and money was better spent on them. I have always been sad not so much that we didn't have a bigger wedding but that I didn't have my extended family with me.

We only had about 20 people at our wedding and none of our grandparents. So my best advice to you is to make sure you are able to get all of the people who are important to you there for your big day.

Urgrace
Member

08-19-2000

Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 9:17 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Meggie and Zachy, those are wonderful pictures! Spygirl, looking at your candid pictures makes me remember the beauty that shone from your faces that day, and your photographer somehow captured it perfectly.

Small weddings also take a little time and planning and can be elegant as well as inexpensive, but having the right people attend is the most important aspect. Just use your other wedding plans and tweak them to fit the audience.

Saxy, even if you are pregnant when the big wedding time comes, what does that matter. Just be sure and order in advance or have a dress made that accommodates your curves. They are very hard to find on the rack. (My dil found that out as we searched and searched from city to city!)

Tess
Member

04-13-2001

Monday, August 01, 2005 - 12:41 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Saxy, we had a small informal wedding in our home first and then were married in the church the following summer. I had 3 weeks to plan, get a license, a judge, arrangements for in-laws to travel along with a couple other relatives from around the country.

My best friend and I went shopping and found a pretty dress. Charlie wore a suit. We did have flowers for the table and I had a small bouquet and Charlie had a rose. We had the same best man and maid of honor that we would have at our church wedding. Including relatives, we had 11 guests. My father in law and I cooked dinner all day long and made a wonderful meal. The ceremony was short and sweet (mixture of civil and religious) and the dinner was very relaxing. Oh, we set up chairs in the living room and were married there.

Our friends and family took all the photos and it really was a happy, relaxed evening.

As far as the getting pregnant part, I made a decision to wait until after the formal church wedding to try to get pregnant and that did happen right away on our honeymoon. That's something only you and Jonathon can decide. I just knew that with my existing health problems, I couldn't handle a bigger wedding while pregnant. I also felt very strongly that I didn't want to be pregnant until I was married by our priest but again, that's a very personal choice.

Good luck to you. I know that you will make it beautiful no matter how small a wedding you have before Jonathon has to leave. As SS said, make sure you have the people who are very important to you. And make sure there are photographs even if they are snapshots. Keep things simple so you don't stress too much.

Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Monday, August 01, 2005 - 6:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I told my mother that we were not planning on havig kids for a couple to a few years. She understands that, but like most of us probably know, not all kids are planned. I guess my nephew was conceived on birth control.. You never know what may happen i guess.

Well, I sent Jonathan off to his training this morning. Even though i didn't want to cry, I did.. Go figure. LOL Now I gotta get outta his barracks room and drive home. I stayed a little longer to get some sleep. Thanks for the advice and I look forward to more!

Pcakes2
Member

08-29-2001

Monday, August 01, 2005 - 9:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
this is from one of many of my bookmarked weddings sites...

Ideas for the Ceremony & Reception

The Ceremony
Having a smaller wedding may cause you to look for some different things to incorporate into your service. Some suggestions given to me by people on newsgroups and other friends:

Instead of a processional, allow guests to mix and mingle before the service over wine and cheese. Give a toast to start the event, and then have everyone proceed to their places.

Give each member of your families a flower, and have them line the aisle. As the bride proceeds towards the altar, she takes each one and assembles her bouquet as she goes, symbolizing the contributions the family makes to this union.

Consider having your families & guests stand up for the entire service, at your side just as attendants would be in a larger wedding.

Have members of your family do the readings

Ask each of the guests to say a few words about the couple, or ask them to write a few things down ahead of time, and assemble them into a document for one person to read aloud.

Incorporate ethnic or family traditions that may have fallen by the wayside through the years. Contact older family members, or research wedding traditions via the web or the library.

Make your wedding program more substantial, more of a booklet and keepsake. Include messages to each of the guests and explanations of why you chose your flowers, readings, colors, music, etc. If your wedding is held in a unique place, give some information about it, too.

Be your own "ushers" when it comes to dismissing people after the service. Greet each guest as they leave the pew.

Encourage each guest to use an entire page of your guestbook to share comments, advice, or other messages. You'll have many more lines of space than you'll have guests, so put it to good use and get a nicer keepsake of your guests!

The Reception
Some of the more traditional reception activities may be less desirable with a smaller number of of guests, especially if they tend to do better with a "critical mass"of people (for example, dancing). Here are some ideas you might want to consider for your reception:


Instead of having a typical reception, have a "wedding supper" at a restaurant--as simple or as lavish as you prefer. Some restaurants will even print a special menu just for your event.

Consider renting a trolley or carriage or other interesting transportation for your guests.

Have your photographer take photos of all your guests, either in one large group photo or as couples, families, or other logical groups.

If the reception is in a historic home or museum, have a tour guide there to show guests the facility.

Instead of a band or dj, hire a string quartet, a harpist, or other unique musical performer. Have you ever heard dulcimer music? Lovely!

Prepare a slide show of photos of each of you from childhood, adolescence, and on up through meeting one another. Include photos of each of you with your families and other special guests.. Photo shops and copy centers can make slides out of standard photographs (this can be expensive, so shop around for the best price). Renting or borrowing the equipment (projector and screen) is possible. Then show the slides during the reception, either with music (you can created a mixed tape beforehand) or with some clever narration. Some videography companies offer a similar service for creating videos from your still photos.

Whatever you do, take advantage of the smaller size to do some serious mixing and mingling. Too many couples say that they didn't get to spend enough time with their guests on their wedding day. You won't have this problem!




Wink
Member

10-06-2000

Monday, August 01, 2005 - 10:07 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Absolutely beautiful pictures Spygirl. You two are going to have some gorgeous young uns.

Spygirl
Moderator

04-23-2001

Monday, August 01, 2005 - 11:37 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thank you guys!

Wink, we tease our parents that they'll either be brilliantly beautiful or butt ugly...with no middle ground...and we lean toward the latter. For some reason, they don't like to hear that!


Saxywildcat
Member

05-30-2005

Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 4:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Okay, I know these aren't professional pics, but I thought I'd share a couple of me and my friends at our friend's wedding last night. I've known the bride since middle school, I've known her maid of honor, who will be mine, since preschool (we were 3 yrs old) and then the girl in the pink, I've known since middle school. We had to take a crazy one of course.. So, here's a couple of pictures!





Giddygrin
Member

06-27-2005

Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 9:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
While I was at work the other night, I got a message from SS..."Kay's called...You're ring is ready. You can pick it up tomorrow." I was so excited. I now have my wedding ring and I'm thrilled with how it came out. When I told Dev I picked it up he was so excited. He also pointed out that I have the rings, the dress, my tiara; now all I need is my groom to come home! (I will post some pics of the tiara etc. soon!)I agreed with that one! And he promised to deliver! There is a lot more to do, but we have time. He is right though...He is the most important part!

Giddygrin
Member

06-27-2005

Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 9:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    

This is my tiara!

Wargod
Moderator

07-16-2001

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 12:40 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wow, Giddy, that is a beautiful tiara! You're going to look like a princess! And if I recall correctly your wedding dress has the gold trim, so that will match perfectly!

Giddygrin
Member

06-27-2005

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 9:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wargod, With him in the blues I always say we'll look like the duke and duchess. LOL Yeah, it's all kinda regal. Thanks for the compliment. I'm so excited.

Yankee_in_ca
Member

08-01-2000

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 9:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Giddygrin, I just saw this, and I have to agree with Wargod -- your tiara is absolutely stunning!!! I can't wait to see it all come together.

Yankee_in_ca
Member

08-01-2000

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 9:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
And Saxy, you sure look like you girls were having a great time!

Froggiegirl621
Member

02-14-2003

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 9:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hello all! 73 days until the wedding and I need some help...

We're currently working on the program for the ceremony. I'd like to add a section at the end of the program to thank everyone for coming as well as thank our parents for all their help and support throughout our relationship as well as their help to make our day possible. I'd also like to add a little thank you to Steve's dad's former secretary at the church who is actually setting up and printing the programs - she's really going above and beyond.

I guess I just need some direction with the wording. I know what I want to say, I'm just not the best when it comes actually saying it (if that makes sense). If anyone has any suggestions, please post them here. I really appreciate it!

Also...I know I haven't been updating you all as far as wedding planning goes, but time has just been flying by and I'm always sooo busy. Every day I do at least SOMETHING wedding related. So as a quick way to update everyone, if you'd like to be updated, I'm posting the link to my bio on The Knot - a wedding website that I would be completely lost without! It's been a lifesaver!

http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.htm?profilename=Charlene%26Steven


Jewels
Member

09-23-2000

Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 9:52 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh, Froggie! I can't believe the big day is coming up so soon! Time has flown by!

Your profile is amazing! I can't wait to see pictures. I love the verse on your invitations, it brought tears to my eyes. Your cake is amazing, peanut butter and chocolate...my favorite! You are going to have a beautiful wedding and you will be a beautiful bride!

I love your colors and theme. You have thought of every little detail and the frog to give your fiance is so sweet!

It brings back memories from my wedding, especially since my anniversary is in just a couple weeks. Thanks so much for sharing!