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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 3:01 pm
Ryan, I am so sorry for the losses you are dealing with. I've always been sad to have never had the opportunity to get to know my own grandparents, so it really chokes me up when I hear of folks losing theirs. You are so right that people need to appreciate it while they can. Bless your heart for being so wise; and even if you don't have spiritual answers, you can be so grateful for the blessing they have been to for the time they were here.
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Halfunit
Moderator
09-02-2001
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 3:25 pm

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Jmm
Moderator
08-16-2002
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 4:49 pm
Ryan, I'm so sorry for your loss and all that you and your family are going through right now. Please know that if there is anything that we can do, we're only a click away. {{{{Ryan and family}}}}
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Babyruth
Member
07-19-2001
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 7:43 pm
((((Ryan and family))))
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 9:34 pm
I'm so sorry for your loss, Ryan.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Sunday, August 21, 2005 - 10:35 pm
{{{Ryan}}} Thanks for thinking to come update us. So sorry for your loss.
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Monday, August 22, 2005 - 6:48 am
(((Ryan))), I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
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Serenity
Member
06-28-2005
| Monday, August 22, 2005 - 9:03 am
Sorry to hear of your loss. 
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Kswheels
Member
06-30-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 12:26 am
This is a late update, most of you won't see it until morning. I called the nurse on the hospice floor at 1 AM central time. 11 PM Big Brother time. Resting comfortably. Making little noises, but otherwise... My parents' phone rang about 30 minutes later. I didn't worry. I'd just called. Well... My mom just came in at 2:15 AM. She has gone into a coma. Since I'm a late nighter anyway mom has told me to call again at 2:45, then 3:15, then 3:45....etc until I go to bed or dad heads to the hospital. Will update when I know something new.
And thanks again guys.
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 4:59 am
My heart is with you, Ryan. I know your heart is heavy, but I trust that you will find the strength to get through this difficult time. I am sure your parents are devastated and will never forget the part you play in helping them through their grief even while struggling with yours.
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 5:31 am
Awww Ryan, I'm so sorry you're going through this- especially so close together. It's hard enough to lose just one.
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Buttercup
Member
07-16-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 6:15 am
Ryan, I am so so sorry for the hard times you are going through 
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Wink
Member
10-06-2000
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 6:25 am
Ryan you are a great guy and I am betting your grandparents have always been very proud of you. Sending positive thoughts of comfort and caring for you and your family.
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Callasin
Member
06-21-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 7:32 am
Ryan I wish I knew something better to say than I'm sorry that would ease your pain a little. I am sure your presence and love were very comforting to your grandparents during these past days. I will be praying for you and your parents and sending positive thoughts your way.
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Jewels
Member
09-23-2000
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 8:06 am
I'm sorry, Ryan. I have been there...it isn't fun. It sounds like you are a great source of strength for your parents also. I will be thinking of you and your family.
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Cher
Member
08-18-2004
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 10:00 am
((((Ryan)))) ((((Family))))
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Retired
Member
07-11-2001
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 10:17 am
Sending prayers, Ryan. Hang in there.
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Kswheels
Member
06-30-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 12:22 pm
Update: She is talking....to people who aren't there. I had read that kidney failure can lead to dementia but I had hoped she would go before it got to that. My parents said she doesn't seem upset....Just kind of reliving her life, so I guess that's ok. Creepy maybe, but ok. Will update again when I hear something new.
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 1:04 pm
Ryan, my boyfriend's dad experienced kindney failure before he went...my mom (she's an ICU nurse) did say that it does cause dementia because of the chemicals in the body. At the same time though, they give enough drugs at that point where it's not painful and they actually are quite happy. Are you going to see her, or does she not live near you, or...? Take care, okay?
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Kswheels
Member
06-30-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 1:25 pm
I've been every day except today to see her. I'm just not sure I can handle seeing her like that. Thanks for the info. As for keeping her comfortable...I won't start. I'll just say that they had her on morphine and my aunt made them put her back on Lortabs because she was "outside her head" last night. Which...compared to today, she was downright coherent. Whatever. Hopefully the doctor talked some sense into her. Thanks guys. Ryan
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 1:42 pm
Well, Ryan, I don't know much about Lortabs, but I am familiar with morphine for pain (used during 3 surgeries and even if my last hospitalization last month). Really works--no pain at all. You do have wild, surrealistic dreams. But they weren't unhappy dreams. They were just wild.
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Kswheels
Member
06-30-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 1:46 pm
I'm familiar with both and you're right. But she is in her final hours. Does it matter at this point if she is a little out of it or even sleeping? I guess I just don't understand my aunt's complaint.
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 1:57 pm
Right. I agree with you. When my dh's mom died (under hospice care at home) and when his dad died in the hospital (a few years later) they were both given morphine. I think that is pretty typical. My maternal grandfather (who used to be a state cop many years ago) 'drove' his car (hands up, grasping an invisible steering wheel--motions and all) when he was on his deathbed in the hospital--also on morphine. But don't get into it with your aunt--if the Lortabs are as effective. Not worth the bad feelings that will come later over arguing about this decision. Now if the efficacy of the Lortabs is questionable--given your aunt's condition, that's another thing. (My dh and his siblings STILL have hard feelings over certain things that happened when their mom was so sick. So try to stay out of all that if you are satisfied she is adequately medicated.)
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 2:01 pm
How does your dad feel about all of this- or is it set up so the decisions about her are your aunt's? I'm thinking as long as she's comfortable- that's the most important thing.
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Kswheels
Member
06-30-2005
| Tuesday, August 23, 2005 - 2:27 pm
Haven't seen her today so not sure on comfort. Dad's reaction is kind of...whatever. He thinks she should be on the morphine but has bigger fish to fry, so to speak. Herckleperckle - Was death via kidney failure fairly peaceful? I mean at the very end.I've heard it is but just want to confirm.
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