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Twinkie
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09-24-2002

Monday, June 06, 2005 - 10:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I was raised to always call my elders sir, ma'am, Mr, Ms, and Mrs. I think it is a show of respect and it also teaches children a bit of manners. It certainly never hurt anyone. I think it is a great custom to continue.

Schoolmarm
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02-18-2001

Monday, June 06, 2005 - 10:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Well, I know that children in Mexico and Guatemala call their elder by their proper titles. At least I think that is what it was in Guatemala, as they were speaking a Maya (not MayaN) dialect. It was very clear in Spanish.

Tish...your spell checker must have changed Paulo Freire's name to Paula. LOL! We have lost a great educational philosopher with his death.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 8:34 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Interesting point Eeyore but you also have to remember that respectful titles were here wayy before there were super power countries.

On another note I don't let my kids call me by my first name. They say your highness. :-)

Landi
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07-29-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 9:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
i actually laughed out loud just then! thank you mocha!

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 9:30 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yw. :-)

Eeyoreslament
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07-20-2003

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 12:47 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
OMG Mocha! You are too funny!! The only time I called my mother anything over the top was when I wanted something. I'd say something like "How are you doing today, mother dearest" and she'd reply with a suspicious "What do you want from me?" LOL

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 1:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lol.

Graceunderfyre
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01-22-2004

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 2:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
lol Mocha - I would think "Supreme Being" would be more on par with your level. . .

My mom used to tell us to never call her Mother. She hated that.

Eeyore, I did wonder about oppression of some sort being a reason for feeling like you naturally need to put in a title, but just about every country has been oppressed at one time or another. And I'm haven't really studied Hispanic history but I don't think most Latino countries were colonized by the Bristish the way Asian and African countries were. At one time I wondered if it had something to do with being southern, because down south everyone says maam or sir. But then I wondered if that was because the places I'd been down south were also near Military bases.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 2:42 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Rofl I like that.

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 6:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Dylan has stopped calling me Mommy and I still want him to!!:-(

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 6:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Mocha -- are you sure we aren't long lost cousins? Some days my HS students say "Mrs.___" so many times I will actually stop them and say: I am no longer Mrs. ____. For the rest of the day, I will only answer to "Oh high and mighty one of great beauty" or "Oh powerful one"! Works every time -- they stop bugging me and we all get some relief from stressful times. (It's even funnier when they say "Oh high and mighty one" because I'm barely 5'2!)

FWIW -- I agree w/ using the titles. Ms. or Mr. first name seems like a logical compromise. My kids call me by my title (Mrs) and my first initial many times--and that's ok too. I only say something in one of two situations: 1) they use my first name in class. I calmly state that in school, proper etiquette requires the use of a title or 2) they use "miss." I just remind them "Mrs." and if it they use it again, I say after being married for 16 years, I've WORKED for that darn title! LOL

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 7:56 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Pamy, what does he call you?

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 7:59 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Princess

j/k he calls me Mom. Bill calls me Mama.

Abby7
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07-17-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 8:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I've always asked to be called by my first name. I think it comes from growing up during the whole hippie generation. Hey, at least I didn't change my name to Shining Star, Sunflower, etc. lol (oops, sorry to those who did....we won't talk about the fashion)

I, do love the southern thing (?), being called Miss "first name".

Signed,

Miss Abby (even tho' i'm not a miss, an abby (kathleen) or from the south...if the south has anything to do with it lol)

(pamy, check your folder)

Graceunderfyre
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01-22-2004

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 8:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Pamy I'm sorry to hear that :-( Jai stopped calling me mama and finally started calling me Mommy.

I don't mind Ms/Miss/Mrs - just as long as it's not plain Grace.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 8:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hey plain Grace, Ryan never went to the "mommy" phase. He still calls me "mama." I hope that never ends!

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 8:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
And at Jai's age, Ryan hadn't even called me mama. He was 28 months before he said mama.

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 9:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh, Pamy, that can be difficult, huh? Your little boy is growing up!

My Loupup (at age 26) calls me 'Mama Bear.' I love it! <Smile>

Graceunderfyre
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01-22-2004

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 4:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
How cute. . . well my older brother and I both call my mom "mommy" still to her face.

Julie - Jai said 2 or 3 full sentences yesterday in my presence and blew my socks off - well had I not been wearing sandals he would have.

Secretsmile
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08-19-2002

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 6:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Pamy, it's always a double edge sword when our kids make a right of passage such as not calling us mommy. I can share with you that there will be times in your lives when you will hear "mommy" again and they are all the more sweet since it will be said with more love and even awe than you ever heard when he was young.

eg.
My oldest son called from base last night, we are all impatient for his leave to start and he said, "I just can't wait to hug my mommy".

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 6:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Awww, that brought tears to my eyes, Secretsmile. What a good son.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 7:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lol Abby. Could be Teach lol. My boys usually call me ma and it's mommy when they want something. Some of their friends call me ma and mommy too. I must be feeding them too much.

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 7:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
ROTF!

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 7:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Mocha, enjoy the friends calling you ma and mommy. My grandchildren's friends call me grandma.

Rosie
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11-12-2003

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 8:05 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Grace, are the discussions over and decisions made?

Pamy
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01-02-2002

Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 8:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
aaahh SS, that made me cry!!! I have a feeling I will hear 'Mommy' when he wants something! LOL

Graceunderfyre
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01-22-2004

Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 6:04 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yes the discussions are over and the decisions made. Actually there have been a lot of changes over the last two weeks and now the majority of my staff is 17-19. There are still 3 of us old farts. Anyway, when I brought it up at training, everyone was pretty enthusiastic about it. I think that's the ticket, to get them while they are young and like the idea of having a title :-)

Mistysmoke
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08-10-2001

Saturday, July 09, 2005 - 7:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We have our son call people Mr/Miss/Mrs. First name. We have only had one person say "please just call me First Name", and she is a dear friend of ours. Of course at scout meetings (she was den mom) the Mrs. came back :-)