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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 9:50 am
My 6 yr. old went with my parents for the day. His 6 yr. old friend came over to see if he could play. When I told the friend that Ryan was not home, he told me he was going to another friend's house (Billy's--who is 8.) and to not tell Ryan cuz he didn't want Ryan to go to Billy's cuz Ryan is so annoying and Billy & he don't like to have Ryan over at Billy's. Now I know this kid is just 6. I didn't say anything to him (though the mama bear in me wanted to...) Is there anything I should have said to him?
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:10 am
He was probably just mad that Ryan wasn't at home waiting to play with him.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:17 am
Maybe, but I also wonder if his mom said try Ryan first and if Ryan isn't home, then try Billy. I am pretty sure Billy finds Andy just about as annoying as Ryan. The thing is that both Billy ad Andy have Playstation, Xbox and/or Gamecube. Ryan has none-just Vsmile, gameboy and a few of those plug and play games. (Andy has an older brother who is Billy's age). So my take is that A & B are "good" at the video games and Ryan is not. So they have little patience with him and want to watch/play with someone who is "good" at these games. Andy is 2 years younger than Billy and I bet Billy gets bored with Andy fairly quickly--unless the video games are involved.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:26 am
Well, sounds to me like Andy is'nt a very good friend, now is he. Maybe next time Andy wants to come over to play you tell him no because do you really want your son to play with someone who really doesn't want to play with him or with kids who get easily irritated with him and could possibly be mean to him? Andy will get his when his older brother and Billy don't want to play with Andy because he is "Just an annoying little kid" AFWIW.....a kid will always want to play with an older kid, it makes them feel older. Kids just can't grow up fast enough.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:40 am
I know that Andy is not that good of a friend, but unfortunately he is the only little boy that is close to our house. Even Billy's house is across the street, so if he goes there, I have to escort him. Ryan and Andy usually play pretty well together. And Ryan LOVES playing with Andy. There have been times when Andy has said some mean thing or another to Ryan. I even once told Andy's mom about it and she was right on it and reprimanded Andy. (I think he got grounded.) But I don't really think I should do that. Arrggh. Guess that is why I am asking your opinions... 6 is kind of old enough and then not old enough to talk to. Do I tell Andy, be nice to Ryan cuz Ryan likes him so much or do I tell the kid to bugger off??? Like yesterday, they were playing really nicely together in the yard. Then Andy comes in and complains that he is gonna go home cuz Ryan is copying him. Part of me wanted to tell Andy to go ahead and leave. But I knew that would upset Ryan. So I told Andy that Ryan copies him because he thinks he (Andy) is so cool and wants to be like him. Next thing I know Andy is being really nice to Ryan and teaching him a new swingset trick. So do I keep talking nice to Andy--almost trying to convince him to be nice to Ryan or do I try to avoid Andy? Arrgh. HELP you experienced moms!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:44 am
No don't try to convince Andy to be nice to your son. I would just stay out of it. When Andy comes over to play let them play, when Andy wants to leave for whatever reason let him leave. You do nothing.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:48 am
The devil in me says get Ryan an X Box and don't let Andy come over at all......
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:50 am
Actually Mocha, that is what most of me wants to do. The thing is that Ryan wants Andy and because there are not a lot of other playmate choices, I feel somewhat compelled to "take action" (to a lesser or higher degree) Boy, being a parent gets more complicated as you go along.... and as they get older you cannot protect them as much (nor should you protect them as much.) But boy, it sure makes your heart so vulnerable.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:51 am
That is another good point/question Escapee. Should I just get him a game system?
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:52 am
Nope don't take action. Stay out of it, or move somewhere else that has alot of children.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:57 am
Mocha, we moved here cuz there are a lot of kids here! There just don't happen to be a lot of little boys his age nearby! Guess we should have surveyed the neighborhoods before we moved here!!! He did have one boy his age that moved already!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 10:58 am
Well he can play with little girls or kids that are a few years older or younger. Does he go to the neighborhood school?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 11:05 am
Yeah, guess he'll have to. And no, he won't be gong to the neighborhood school til next school year. I know that will help a lot. Guess we'll just muddle through til next year. And once he is in school, he will be very busy and then next year hopefully he can find all the boys his age and he might even be old enough to go to their houses alone! Also I think I will send out a flyer to many houses around here advertising that my dh is going to host a wiffleball game for kids ages 4-8 at the ball field that is across the street... Hopefully that will attract some kids his age! Thanks for your input everyone! Any more input/ideas/suggestion is welcome!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 11:07 am
Oh that should be fun, I'd like to play myself lol. Oh another thing, maybe check with the rec center in your area and get him into sports. Where I am they've just started Football and Soccer and I believe the starting age is 5 or 6.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 11:10 am
Thanks Mocha!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 11:11 am
Anytime.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 2:06 pm
LISTEN TO MOCHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't say anything! Love the wiffle ball idea!!
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 2:10 pm

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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 2:49 pm
Julie, in my experience the mum is still steaming over any fight their little darling had, or some slight or pain one of his/her playmates had caused weeks if not months later, while said darling and playmate have long gone past whatever incident and are perfectly happy playing together again. Count me in the stay out of it category. Let the kids work it out/decide whether or not to spend time with eachother.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 3:14 pm
Lumbele, isn't that the truth! DD is the worst about coming in and telling me how horrible someone was to her, getting my mommy hackles all up and then next week playing with the same little brat..er..um..darling and giving me this 'sheesh what's your problem mom, she's my friend' look! LOL
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 3:26 pm
The "scary" thing is that so far, Ryan has no clue that Andy ever said anything negative about him. He hasn't been around when Andy said something or he wasn't paying close enough attention. I really don't look forward to the day when Andy (or any kid) says something that Ryan hears and processes... I just hope by that day that Ryan does have a few more friends. Or better yet, enough self esteem that it doesn't bother him (too much!) He is just such a happy go lucky kid who never has an ill word about anyone....
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 4:33 pm
...and that is exactly what is going to bring him lots of real friends when he gets out into the world more, Julie. But he'll also have to learn to deal with insensitive people sooner or later; that's just part of life, as much as we as mothers would like to protect them. Yep, Annie! Been there, too. LOL
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 6:33 pm
I think the hardest lesson for parents (ok..really just me!) is that we can't fight our children's battles for them. They just have to do it themselves (darn it!!)
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Lumbele
Member
07-12-2002
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 6:50 pm
The membership in *that* club is immense, Annie!
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Zachsmom
Member
07-13-2000
| Friday, August 12, 2005 - 9:33 pm
Well, I would have told Andy that I would not lie to my son and if my son asked, I would tell him exactly where Andy was. I would not buy my son a x-box, playstation or whatever is hot this year so kids would like my son better. I bought my son a game cube and he really has no interest in playing with it. He has the v-smile which he loves playing and he has computer games for his computer. Freddie Fish, Putt-Putt and Pajama Sam are his favorites and are games that he and I can play together. I would wait a couple of years for the x-box etc unless he is really good at them...otherwise by the time he does show in interest the one he has will be obsolete and just sitting there gathering dust. Does Ryan play with the game cube? There really are not any games for his age group, unless you let him play the games with the violence and heavy duty eye-hand co-ordination. Doesn't v-smile rock? Nemo comes out in Nov!
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