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Jkm
Member
07-10-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 10:37 am
Daughter's friend won 2 tickets to a Concert with Good Charlotte, Simple Plan and Relient K -- Both girls are 15 -- would you let them go and be at the concert by themselves? They like Relient K -- mostly Christian alternative rock/modern rock band -- other groups are alternative as well. I don't have any idea of the type of crowd that follows these groups They have been to other concerts -but always with at least an adult chaparone. And they were family friendly except for maybe Toby Keith/Ted Nugent but with her dad. I can't go - work - other girls mom would sit outside in the parking lot - (I think tickets may be sold out can't buy them at ticket master anymore) I'm waivering -- too many things can happen - but have to trust them sometime Overprotective Mom vs training wheels to adulthood (trust, decision making skills,etc) Ugh!
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Halfunit
Moderator
09-02-2001
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 11:01 am
Jkm, you mention the other mom will be out in the parking lot, so is this more of allowing them inside the venue alone? FWIW, I have no children (although I was 15 once ), but I'd let them attend the concert without a chaperone - especially if they are being dropped off and picked up directly at the building.
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Danas15146
Member
03-31-2004
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 11:28 am
I would let them go as long as they were being picked up and dropped off directly in front of the building. Not familar with Simple Plan or Reliant K -- but I LOVE Good Charlotte -- I am so jealous .....
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Legalboxer
Member
11-17-2003
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 11:46 am
its all about respect and trust - i went to my first concert alone with a friend at 14 and it was in a packed arena (i'll admit it was New Kids on The Block but i only admit that since i was treating my friend for her 14th birthday) - yes we were dropped off and picked up by adults but i really think it makes a difference with kids to give them that freedom and when they think that you trust them that much, they tend to do the right thing - as long as you do trust her enough to let her go
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 12:45 pm
I would let mine go and my ds is 15. As long as an adult was driving and picking them up and they couldn't leave, I would let him go.
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Kady
Member
07-30-2000
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 12:56 pm
Unless she has given you some reason not to trust her, I would let her go.
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Maris
Member
03-28-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 1:23 pm
I have a son, and I guess living in NYC must make a difference because I wouldnt let him go. It isnt a matter of trust to me, I would not feel safe with him going. Then again in NYC, kids couldnt win concert tickets, you have to be 18.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 1:46 pm
it all depends on the concert, where it is located, etc. some of it, i'd say yes, some i'd say no. and so far, up until this last summer, my daughter and i went to concerts together. she hasn't wanted to go to anything new. i still wish i'd had ear plugs for n'sync back when she was 10. it wasn't the music was so loud, it was the screaming girls.
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Maris
Member
03-28-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 1:51 pm
I would suffer through a concert for the kid. No problem on that one. Heck if I could sit through Barney all those years ago, I could sit through anything I figure.
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 3:03 pm
I know how hard it is to be the heavy, but my kids didn't go to concerts without us or another child's parent until they were 18. Yup, it made them mad, yup, they got over it and yup, we still sometimes hear about what over protective parents we were.
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Schoolmarm
Member
02-18-2001
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 4:10 pm
I wouldn't..... Not a parent, but a teacher....I just wouldn't.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 4:13 pm
I went to my first concert when I was 13, my sister was 15 and we went together. It was in Sacramento. It was a multi band concert of the hip hop origin, but it wasn't unsafe. We kept to ourselves, listened to the music, didn't go anywhere without the other, and mom picked us up right outside afterword. I went to another concert when I was 15, but my mom was with me, then again at 16, and again at 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22. My last concert was Tim McGraw. I was eight months pregnant. Now, the alternative following can be a bit of a rougher crowd, but I have seen some good brawls at Brooks & Dunn, and I am pretty sure I got contact high at Kenny Chesney, but that all depends on where you are sitting. If you are right down front it is a little rougher, but the security is tighter. If you are in the back, you can get away with more, IMO. I say, let them go, don't let them dress provacatively, and make sure they have someone picking them up. Tell them they owe you and you may get some extra chores out of them before they go. Don't forget to tell them that you are entrusting them, and this is a test and yadda yadda, like my mom did to me. We were always good girls at the concerts. I have been to ssoooooooo many I forget.
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Karuuna
Member
08-31-2000
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 4:36 pm
So many variables! It depends on how responsible you feel she is, what you know of the friend, the venue., etc. Some 15 year olds are incredibly mature, some are not strong enough yet to withstand peer pressure. If they have cell phones, promise never to leave each other's side, not go anywhere with anyone else, and the other mom is in the parking lot, they're probably pretty safe.
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 4:52 pm
Having gone to a few Christian rock concerts in my youth, I think it would be OK if the other mom is out in the parking lot. They tend to be a bit "tamer" than hip-hop concerts (as far as the pushing, shoving, etc. goes-- not the beat of the music!). My parents let me go unchaperoned at 15 -- even though I couldn't date until 16. Had a blast and realized how much respect I was being given. Had I screwed it up, I'd have never gone to another -- my dad would have made sure of it! Hope they have fun (and hope you fill us in later on how it went!). PS -- I'm was in Grand Rapids, MI -- so safety in general wasn't much of an issue. If it was NYC, I'd probably be more wary.
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 6:00 pm
good charlotte and simple plan are not christian rock groups while the relientk has been heading in new directions (this i got from my 15 year old daughter). holly says "she wouldn't ask me, knowing me (her mother), in the first place."
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 4:24 am
Another thought, I would look at the lyrics of the songs and the ratings and see if I approve.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 7:43 am
I agree with Karuuna about making them say they'll stick together at all times -- even bathroom trips. I went parentless to a concert for the first time at age 13 and it was fine. The parent pus off and picked us up. I think it's perfect that the parent will be there in the parking lot! 15 is awfully close to 16 and driving and new freedoms and independence. I think it's time to start learning about the responsibility that comes with independence. I'd let her go.
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Wapland
Member
08-01-2000
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 8:14 am
My son and his Dad went to a Metallica concert in November for his 16th birthday. My hubby came home and said they had a great time BUT would absolutely not ever have let him go without adult supervision. I realize Metallica is a certain type of band and music, however, he said the atmosphere at the concert was very "edgy". I trust my son, it is the atmosphere you can't control for a young person. I, as usual, am with Secretsmile. Just sharing this as one experience. Fondly Wappy
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Jkm
Member
07-10-2002
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 1:33 pm
Thanks for all the advise guys! We've been to the venue many times - hockey games, used to have basketball too, home shows, circus, On Ice shows - and a few regular concerts (Not for a while -- I can't justify the ticket prices!) It's a good sized venue - not the biggest in the state but still can pack a crowd. I'm still thinking it over....
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Jkm
Member
07-10-2002
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 1:34 pm
Ps -- they are newly 15 almost a year away from 16 -- (but she did start book for driver's ed this week -- permit this summer....)
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Rosie
Member
11-12-2003
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 1:42 pm
Maris, I had forgotten about those Barney concerts with the grands. Thank you for reminding me. Let her go Jkm.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 1:48 pm
Depends on the music and where it is. In this instance, I think it would be okay. When I was 13, my parents took me, two friends also 13 and my sister who was 9 to our first concert. They dropped us off and picked us up. The band: The Osmond Brothers
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 2:12 pm
oh my gosh, native! you're so lucky you didn't get picked up by those pot smoking, lsd dropping, long haired, hippie fiends that attend their concerts! hehehe!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 3:19 pm
Gosh, when I was a junior in high school (just barely 16) I went to an all day concert..Jesse Colling Young, Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young and the Allman Brothers....... all those people landi mentioned were there too!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 4:14 pm
i was 18 before i attended my first concert. i think it was queen. oakland coliseum. 1981. long long time ago.
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