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Texannie
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07-16-2001

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 4:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I saw that too Julie! LOL
I agree, don't push it. Kids do it when they are ready and there isn't really anything you can do to push it. What happens is you end up being trained and not the child....do you need to potty, let's go potty, ready to potty, oh, looks like you need to go potty....

Happymom
Member

01-20-2003

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 9:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Escapee, I tend to agree that they just will do it when they are ready. One tip I have though is that sometimes they want to but are afraid. This happened with my oldest daughter. (She wouldn't sit on a potty on the ground though, we tried several brands too.) So, we got a seat that fit over our seat to make the hole very small and for the first mo. she sat backwards up there!

She was only 13 mo. when this started. I had no clue what to do! She was very verbal and it was her desire to go on the potty. She could really tell when she had to go too. This was for #2 only, she always went in the potty for that but not to pee. (When she was 13 mo., she couldn't even tell that she was peeing! She was surprised for a long time that it would come out of her sometimes when she was sitting up there. She wondered what the noise was!) That didn't happen until she was 2 1/2. She also worked very well with the reward system when she was close to 2 1/2 so potty training her was easy. We even used pull ups as a reward. She did always wear cloth diapers so it was a very different feeling for her to get out of wet cloth diapers. I think she did continue to wear pull ups at night for quite awhile. She would never wake up due to a wet bed. So, the good thing was that she was going #2 in the potty at a very early age. But this did make for a very long time of potty training esp. if you consider the at night wetting.

Daughters 2 and 3 were still in diapers on their 3rd birthdays. Everyone is different. (I know 2 boys who were still in diapers at their 4th birthdays, and were not using the potty ever for anything. Their moms were really frustrated. But those two boys just wouldn't.) Anyway, my younger two daughters did not care about getting rewarded for going potty. They were both very verbal at young ages like their oldest sister. They just had to do it when they were ready. They were both going #2 in the potty before then, though. They both wore disposable diapers. Maybe it made a difference, maybe not. My middle daughter never wet the bed ever. Even before she was out of diapers, she always woke up in the morning with a dry diaper. My youngest still had a few accidents while she was 6 at night.

Good luck with potty training. There are loads of tips out there!

Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 9:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My middle daughter simply refused to use the "potty". I had no clue why and was very worried. My doctor gave me same advise as was given here... He said she won't be wearing diapers to kindergarten so not to worry.

Then one day I caught her sitting on the "big" potty...all by herself. I think it just came down to the fact that she wanted to use the big potty, and didn't like the looks or feeling of the little potty.

I can relate tho... I'm kinda paticular about where I go too. If I walk into a public rest room and it's not "right"... I won't go either..LOL

Escapee
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06-15-2004

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 1:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Well, we don't have a potty chair, but a seat that fits on the big toilet. She wants to do it so badly. She get's all excited when she goes, and asks for wipe, please. She always tells me Potty after she has gone in her pants. I just want to know what to do to get her to tell me when she has to go.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 1:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
You could always try a sticker chart. Tell her she gets a sticker every time she pees or poops in the toilet. Then tell her when she gets 10 (or whatever number you choose) that she gets a special toy or ??? It helps to have that toy right there for her to see what she will earn.

Sticker charts work very well with us!

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 2:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oooh I like that. She likes stickers. I hope she'll understand. Remember, she is just barely 21 months old.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 2:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Well maybe start with a reward after 3 stickers. And the stickers alone do work too! Good luck! She does sound advanced for her age, so maybe she will "get it" right off.

Karuuna
Member

08-31-2000

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 2:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Escapee, Just a note... little ones don't have a very long time frame between when they feel the need and when they actually 'go' - often it's just seconds, or one second if that! :-)

So if it were me, I would try noticing her normal schedule of "going" and then asking her around that period of time "do you wanna go potty?", and then asking again every 10-15 minutes or so after until she goes. If she says no, accept that and move on. If she says yes, let her try.

Hope that helps!



Kep421
Member

08-11-2001

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 2:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Ah....the miracle of stickers... I remember them well... how the Barbie stickers were for the really really really big stuff!! So much more important than the stars and hearts!

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 2:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
The problem is that I work all day. I know, it's hard, but it's either that or no house and car.

My mom watches her during the day, and I don't know what kind of consistancy there is.

Karuuna
Member

08-31-2000

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 3:03 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Escapee, I think it's okay if you just do it in the evenings when you are with her, if you'd feel comfortable trying that. It's going to take some time for her to get the hang of it anyway, and you could do some practicing with her weekends and evenings, as long as she stays interested and excited about it.

After she learns with you, she may very well start asking grandma, or if you want to, you can visit with your mom and let her know what you're doing and see if she'd like to try.

You know best how to navigate all that, since it's your family, just thought I'd throw some ideas out for ya. :-)



Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 3:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I bought a "potty seat" for gramma's house today. I asked her to try it out for me. DD couldn't wait to use it. She kept telling me my turn my turn, untill I put her up there (she has a step stool so she can do it herself) and lo and behold, she went.

Karuuna
Member

08-31-2000

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 4:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yay! Next step, you have to have a potty party to celebrate!

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, April 14, 2005 - 4:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We always clap and cheer and make a big deal out of it.

Prisonerno6
Member

08-31-2002

Thursday, April 21, 2005 - 12:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
My favorite was a friend who used to give his son a mini tootsie roll every time he pooped in the toilet.

Talk about visual feedback...