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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:35 pm
Dana, my dd is a little short for her height. I have had good luck shopping at Kohl's and at The Gap in the plus sizes. Also WalMart has a great selection of non hootchie momma shorts and tops.
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Tess
Member
04-13-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:43 pm
Bite your tongue, bubbles!! ack!
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:45 pm
ththththt pthroblehthm wwwwth
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Danas15146
Member
03-31-2004
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:49 pm
Annie how old is your daughter? Samantha is only 4 -- do you think they would have stuff that would fit her? She is not really overweight - just a little thicker in the waste than those "skinny jeans" will allow for. Truthfully - very few of her friends fit in the pants they are selling at Target and Kmart right now.
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:57 pm
Try Walmart Danas. Sometimes you have to search for stuff there too that's appropriate for that age but I can usually find pants, shorts and skirts for Kota there that aren't bad. My niece is also a Walmart clothes kid and she's very dainty. I was over there last night and they've got the summer stuff out, I noticed lots of cutesy capri pants that weren't bad. Maybe I'll change my mind when she's older, but for now, I still say no to thongs for my fictional 13 year old. It just seems that kids grow up so fast these days, and I'm not going to do anything to hasten that. For now she can dress as a little girl and later as a young teenager. After that we may have to reevaluate what I find appropriate, but for now, nope.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:00 pm
Dana, she is 10 but has always been a little thick in the middle too. I had good luck with Target, lots of capris and long t-shirts. I thought the hootchie clothes were just in the bigger sizes, they are in the little ones too? sheesh!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:06 pm
Toddler size Annie. I've been complaining since Dakota was about 2 over some of the clothing choices out there for young girls. Too short skirts and shorts, shirts that leave the belly hanging out or a completely bare back, pants that hang too low. What's cute on a young teen girl isn't really cute on your 3 year old.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:10 pm
Too funny. I noticed when my dd went into the size 8 and up department (even though she was 6) how grown up the clothes looked. Even now, we look at the younger sizes and comment how cute they are. Now the big issue is the dress code for the middle school doesn't match what the @#$@#$@#$ retailers are selling!
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:15 pm
OH my! Thanks for all the advice, this thread has given me lots to think about, for sure! I'll never forget when ds#2 wanted to wear those long shorts, uh NO, he says "all the kids are wearing them" and I said, "Fine, I'll go to school and if all the boys are wearing them, then you can have a pair" He actually kissed and hugged me and said "thanks" dh says, we're in trouble!! LOL, yep I went to school, and sat outside at recess, and darn if he wasnt right!! From that moment till this, boys wear HUGE baggy clothes (and that hides things) and girls are all hung out! so dont get me started!! DD is all "girl" and its all about fashion, ds#1 doesnt understand how we produced a "Girly girl" and I am so greatful that the school has dress codes, because dd thinks halter tops etc are just fine (and my mom buys them for her!) Pick my battles indeed. Unfortunately for my kids, they live with a mom that was sexually abused, and I am an overprotective mom that watches the news... that knows predators come in all shapes and sizes, and dirty old men come in all sizes, shapes, sexes and ages. I do not tell my dd at 8 that the reason she cant wear halter tops and short shorts and thongs is because she may be abused, but its there, here in our society. (which is a whole different debatable topic, I am just saying where I am coming from!) BAck to me - yep I think when I wear thongs, I"m being "naughty"! LOL
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:28 pm
Baggy clothes I've never had a problem with especially because I wear baggy stuff too, except with this stupid new job. But I draw the line at boys wearing their pants hanging off their behinds.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 3:36 pm
My ds had a brain fart and bought a pair of shorts about 3 sizes to big so he has to wear his belt sinched really tight with them or else they drop down past his drawers.....told him no son of mine is going round with his drawers showing! LOL I just love when he has a golf tournament, he looks so nice in his collared shirt, and non baggy shorts! LOL
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Jmm
Member
08-16-2002
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 6:05 pm
At school when I see the boys with the sagging pants I pick up my stapler, open it up, walk up to them and ask, "Do you need help keeping your pants up?". It's amazing how fast those pants come up around the waist. 
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Teachmichigan
Member
07-22-2001
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:38 pm
LOL -- gotta' remember that one JMM! We have a couple of "habitual offenders" that drive me nuts! Stapler Goddess will be there next time! 
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Deesandy
Member
08-12-2003
| Monday, January 31, 2005 - 8:49 pm
A lot of the mom's here have a saying that the three b's must be covered at all times: Breasts Bellybutton Butt I think I would rather have my daughter wear a thong than a belly shirt and I do believe that it is all about compromise. Many of these girls who are not allowed to follow suit with their friends sneak the underwear into school and change there. I would much rather know what my kid is doing than to have her sneak because that only leads to more sneaking. As far as standing up to our peers and not following the crowd, we all know that it does matter A LOT and that it can make a child's life pure torture. Talking to them about why they are allowed to do some things we may not 100% approve of allows them to have some responsibility for their own lives.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 6:35 am
I'm so glad that I've taught my kids to not be a follower. And mine never know when I may show up at school to peep in on them so there wouldn't be any changing when they get there.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 6:44 am
Dee, we have the 3 B's in our high school too!
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Deesandy
Member
08-12-2003
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 6:47 am
Resortgirl & Secret, I am hoping to have the same kind of relationship with my daughter that you have with yours. My question is, how do you know where to draw the line between friendship and parenthood? My mom and I are very close now, but growing up we did not get along well.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 6:49 am
Re my above, Not that I'm saying anyone is teaching their kids to be followers.
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Bubbakitty
Member
01-29-2005
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 7:15 am
Not to get disgusting, but I was watching Oprah one day when the Judds were on. Ashley Judd commented that she would never wear a thong because they were unsanitary. My 13 year old step-daughter showed up this summer with thongs. I washed them once, then put the thongs in a baggy and told her I couldn't tell her what to wear at home, but I was not washing thongs - she could have them when she went home and if she needed more panties while here I'd buy her some. They didn't have to be granny panties, but no thongs. [and yes at least with her they proved a point about being unsanitary]. And it also lead to a lesson in hygiene with her and my 11 year old step-daughter. Let's just say their mom doesn't teach them things like that. When they came for Christmas the hygiene thing was better, and no thongs. Not saying they don't wear them at home [man how then 11 year old now 12 year old has changed and "Teened" up the past 6 months!" but at least they respect my wishes. Which leads me to a question. I'm not a mom, just a step mom and we don't get to see them much. The girls are 12 & 14. A conversation about how ugly maternity clothes were led me to say "a good reason not to have sex because you might have to wear these". This then led to a general discussion about why it's good to wait till sex. [pregnancy, diseases, emotional issues] This conversation was with the 14 year old, but the 12 year old came in and started asking questions too. This was a very comfortable conversation, and I don't think I crossed any lines, and as of right now I feel very comfortable that the girls [esp the 14 who is very developed, and like I said before dresses like a hooker back home] won't be pressured into sex any time soon. I relayed the entire conversation to my husband later that evening. He seemed shocked about their questions, and said I did right. But as I was talking to my sister in law, and she was saying how she dreaded her daughter turing 16 because she had to have the sex talk, I shared what I talked to our girls about. She seemed shocked, and told me I was definitely wrong in talking to them so young. Was I wrong?
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 7:24 am
Too young??? If they were asking the questions they were old enough for the answers..especially since they kept asking. Unless you were giving them instruction on how to do certain things, I can't imagine what she thought was wrong. I don't think this is a one time discussion either. I have been having it with my kids since they were little. I did wimp with my son and not completely answer his questions when he was younger and now he doesn't feel comfortable talking with me about sex, so I have worked hard to make sure I didn't do that with my dd. I joke that she knows more than my son! But this has been an ongoing discussion with elements added each year as she gets older.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 7:35 am
Definately not wrong. I've talked to my kids about sex when they were in single digits.
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Ddr
Member
08-19-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 7:54 am
Me too Mocha. Funny story. My brother had to have the talk with his two sons years ago when the oldest one started having questions. He decided to give them the talk together. After giving some information about exploring your sexuality, the youngest one looked at his father and asked "Can you die from it?"
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 7:55 am
LOL Ddr, and I would have said YES, so dont ever do it! LOL
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 8:03 am
rofl!!
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Secretsmile
Member
08-19-2002
| Tuesday, February 01, 2005 - 10:32 am
Deesandy, I'm going to blunt and honest in my answer to your question about how I managed to achieve such a close relationship with my kids, but I will add this disclaimer: I totally believe there is no recipe for raising kids, what worked well with my oldest didn't work at all for my youngest and then neither worked with my daughter. My children have turned out to be wonderful people, and none of them are "followers", they are well on their way to being successful in college and in their career choices. I don't take credit for any of this, I was blessed to have these individuals in my life. Ok, to the question of how I managed to be friends with my daughter, I don't know! LOL, I never set myself up as her friend, I even told her I wasn't her friend I was her mother, often over the years. Tim and I referred to our parenting style as a benign dictatorship. We did our best to be consistent without being inflexible, which in my opinion was the hardest thing, and I'm aware that we didn't always succeed. We tried to respect our kids and trust them. But we also set ourselves up to be involved in everything they did, from sitting through all sports practices and games, to music lessons, to becoming their scout leaders and Sunday school teachers and Youth Group leaders. I don't say it's the only way, I don't even advocate it, but for our family it felt right. I'm not sure if our kids were just easy people to raise, or if what we did stopped them from getting into trouble because they knew we were always around the corner. Maybe we are close because we have so many instances of the same experiences since we were together so much. Perhaps we are close because we are lucky enough to enjoy the same things. But one thing is sure, I didn't try to be their friend, I just tried to raise them with love and compassion and prayed they wouldn't hate me when it was over. They do assure me that we've done a good job and will make sure we have the top of the line nursing home, LOL!
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