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What do you do when they are teenagers?

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Landi
Member

07-29-2002

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 10:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
i still can't get over it, my little girl is getting all grown up. she'll be 15 on April 27th. she is starting to worry about what car she'll drive when she gets her learner's permit.

she has her very first valentine today, and got this nice young man something special. i'm no longer her valentine. no homemade hearts today with sloppy lace and crayon'd "i love you mommy" on it.

as i sit here and write this, tears are streaming down my face. proud of her for what a wonderful girl she is, intelligent, loving, kind, witty, playful, beautiful, joyful, child of angels, everyone's friend, my little pain in the ass, always keeps me on my toes, and always quick with a smile and a giggle.

and now my young lady, instead of my little girl. i knew this would come one day, just wasn't expecting it so soon.


Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 10:35 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
(((landi))) not looking forward to the day that I am no longer my ds' first love.

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 10:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm definately not the one to ask for this one.

Maris
Member

03-28-2002

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 10:47 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lol Mocha, My sons favorite phrase when I say something is "Oh My GOD" as if my request or comment is just something so unacceptable. I have officially become the alien

Mygetaway
Member

08-23-2000

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 1:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Run fast, run hard... LOL!! (or in my case roll...lol)

Rosie
Member

11-12-2003

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 2:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lol you guys.

Landi, these changes have come about only because of your daughter's age. She will go through so many changes in her life but you will always be very important to her.

Try to think of more fun times ahead like planning her college years, her graduation, her engagement, planning her wedding, welcoming more people into your life and who do you think she will run to when she finds out that you will be a grandma?

She will always need and love you Landi and since I am very old, (that means older than Juju2bigdog) let me tell you what a wonderful experience being a grandma is. You get to start all over again with that unconditional love for your grandchildren.

There is nothing like taking a grandchild to Disneyland or to see and feel the ocean and sand for the first time. Or, just holding that little hand in yours and going for a nice slow-paced walk.

I remember someone talking about their grandchild asking all kinds of questions and one of them was "what is that growing over there"? She just made up the answer that it was lettuce because she couldn't really see that far to be sure. Doesn't this sound like fun?

Of course, giving them ice cream while they are visiting you is fun too.

Hope this helps.

Landi
Member

07-29-2002

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 2:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
okay rosie, you made me cry again. i swear this is the most emotional valentine's day since 1988. (my first with my soon-to-be dh). and that one was a disaster with a melted ice cream cake.

Rosie
Member

11-12-2003

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 2:35 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I didn't mean to make you cry Landi.

Landi
Member

07-29-2002

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 2:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
rosie, none of my tears today are sad tears, just "rites of passage" tears. for eras come and gone, and looking to the future. i was just wondering how to cope today. and hoping that this thread would be a place for us who "haven't a friggen clue in the world" what to do with these new people in our lives. because they are no longer our "little ones". heck, holly is now a good two inches taller than me!

Juju2bigdog
Member

10-27-2000

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 5:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Juju2bigdog is innocent! But not that old.



You are so sweet, Landi. Good luck surviving the rocky shoals.

Denecee
Member

09-05-2002

Thursday, February 17, 2005 - 11:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Landi, I have been through the teenage thing several times. She will need you now as much as ever just for different things. She will need to hear your stories from when you were a teenager. I know my girls loved those stories and I loved my mom's stories.
One thing that is hard for some parents to give is validation to how their teens are feeling. Maybe because when we become adults, we learn that what we worried about as a teenager was nothing, but as that teenager is was major. Like the time my first crush broke up with me, I thought I was going to die and my dear mother hugged me and told me it would be ok. That's all I needed.
Please feel free to ask me anything about what you are going through. Hearing other people's experiences will help you even if it's not the way you handle a situation.


Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Thursday, February 17, 2005 - 10:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Landi, I know this Valentine's day was hard but one day soon, she will bring you this wonderful card that tells you just how much you mean to her. I swear it will happen. I've been blessed with a wonderful relationship with my kids and as they've gotten older, they realize just how much you've done for them and they let you know. I know how much you love her, I can tell by how you write about her, so I am sure that your relationship will blossom into a wonderful mother/daughter friendship.

Happymom
Member

01-20-2003

Saturday, February 19, 2005 - 9:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Landi, I know just how you feel. My girls are now 14, 11, and 8. How did this time go by so fast? I love them and how they are growing, but I miss them too. Thanks everyone for your kind words.

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, March 03, 2005 - 2:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Landi, I didn't think you were old enough to have a 15 year old. You must have had Children very young.

Landi
Member

07-29-2002

Thursday, March 03, 2005 - 3:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
i'm 42. and proud of it! thank you very much for the nice words!

Crzndeb
Member

07-26-2004

Friday, March 04, 2005 - 3:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Bless your heart, Landi. I went through this with 2 daughters. My oldest is 23 and getting married in Sept. She was easy. My baby is 20 and she wasn't so easy. I had, at one point, thought that the dreaded phone call would come. Luckily, my faith got me through and she weathered the storm. She is now thriving. But, the temptations are always out there and all we can do is just love them with all our might. Your daughter sounds like a jewel...Both you and she will do fine.

Jkm
Member

07-10-2002

Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 11:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Throw me in with you guys! Mine are newly 15 and nearly 13. Oldest is going to move in with my sister-in-law for the summer and play nanny to her 3 boys -- about an hour and a half away -- too far to go back and forth each day -- but home on weekends.

I'm having a really hard time with this -- but she has watched them many many times, cpr/first aid certified and with kids - very mature for her age. She'll be fine -- I won't -- she gets her learner's permit in about a month -- she starts high school in the fall -- this is a turning point summer for her.

Sherbabe
Member

07-28-2002

Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 12:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh, Landi. How I know how you feel. My son will be graduating high school on Saturday. From now on, they will be taking baby steps further and further away. Heartbreaking as it may seem, they need to break away. Not too worry, they will always need money. lol. There was a episode on that John Ritter show when one of his daughters was going off to a big dance w/ a boy. I believe his comment was "off you go". So true. Driving, up to this point, was by far the most nerve racking for me. Huge, Huge responsibility and all they see it as freedom. Fasten you seatbelt "no pun intended" on that huge step in her life. The homecoming dances, proms, dates w/ boys you don't know will surely follow. Only advice is to enjoy them every moment (as hard as that will be as they are teenagers) Time goes way too fast.