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Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 1:08 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yay!!!!!!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Good for you for standing up for yourself! Great news!!!!!

Max
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08-12-2000

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 1:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Awesome! Sounds like you have a good manager. :-)

Heyltslori
Member

09-15-2001

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 1:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
That's great news Essence!

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 2:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Way to go, Essence! Honesty won out. You handled yourself well, hon. I'm glad this is no longer burdening you! I hope the new job happens, too---and that your office is nowhere near this person.


Note: Essence said the reprimand was to be pulled from the file. If that were true, then I wouldn't have wanted a written communication in anyone's hands--esp in this woman's hands.

However, if the converse were true, I would certainly have put it in writing. Yes, as a CYA.


Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
If she had written the apology then when the reprimand was pulled so would the apology. And then it wouldn't matter if the woman had it or not.

Denecee
Member

09-05-2002

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 2:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yay, a happy ending!

Juju2bigdog
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10-27-2000

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 5:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
AND in the THIRD place, anybody who has met Essence can easily see that she is not a person who would threaten anybody. She has the sweetest, least intimidating voice in the world. Threaten??? Oh, puhleese.

Scootersmom
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08-10-2002

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 6:00 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Essence, I'm so happy that you have a good manager to back you up. Yay for you!
Good things come to good people :-)

Pamy
Member

01-02-2002

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 7:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
YAH Essence!!!

Ddr
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08-19-2001

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 7:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yah for Essence!!!

Whoami
Member

08-03-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 7:36 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
*sigh*

I just finished my pathetic Update for this month. I spent three hours on it, and still came up with a very short update.

I usually can't really sit down and focus on it until after Mom has gone to bed. Cause focusing just isn't in the cards when I might get torn away from the computer at a second's notice. That's why I rarely go into Chat, even though I'd love to visit there more often.

So, Mom went to bed at 4am, and I started typing up the Update. Just when I was wrapping it up and looking forward to going to bed.....she gets back up. And now she's decided to stay up. That means I don't get to go to bed at all. And she seems to be okay with it.

Ddr
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08-19-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 7:44 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
((Who))

Llkoolaid
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08-01-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 7:55 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
All I can say whoami is that you are a far far better woman than I am. (((Whoami))

Whoami
Member

08-03-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 8:06 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh I don't know about that Ll. I'm thinking some pretty mean thoughts right now.

Thanks for the hugs Ddr and Ll! I appreciate it!

Pamy
Member

01-02-2002

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 8:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
(((WHO))) and your update was great!!!!! Hope you can get some rest soon.

Vee
Member

02-23-2004

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 8:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I sympathize completely! My grandmother does this sort of thing all the time and it drives the entire family batty. She gets highly offended if someone suggests that it would be helpful if she would go to bed since that's what everyone else is doing. Guess it makes her feel like a child, but it is stressful to know that she is wandering around on her own. Grrrrrr!

Can you suggest that you need a few hours and that she looks as if she needs a few more, too? Firmly...very!

Whoami
Member

08-03-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 9:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Believe me, I've told her time and time again that I need my sleep. Its an ongoing battle that gets nowhere. And I tell her how sometimes I feel like I'm to the point of collapse cause I'm so tired. And all she can do is giggle, and sometimes snark at me that I do "go on and on," and that I'll "say anything just to try and make her do what I want her to do."

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 9:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
How about you sleep when she sleeps? I did that with my kids when they were infants. And when she's up do what you need to do.

Skootz
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07-23-2003

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 9:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
{{{{{{Who}}}}}} You certainly have your cross to bear with your mom. I think of you often when I see your posts in the wee hours etc. It must be very hard on you. You don't have an easy life that is forsure. hang in there

Vee
Member

02-23-2004

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 9:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Easier said than done, Mocha, to be sure!

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 9:48 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Of course. :-)

Whoami
Member

08-03-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 10:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I do try to sleep when she does. Problem is, the only time I get any "me" time is when she's in bed. But she can go to bed any time from 2am to 7am. And she can sleep till anywhere from 5pm to 9pm. Or, she likes to spring early days on me every once in a while too (like getting back up at 7am today). Sometimes she'll get up at 10am, or sometimes she'll get up when she hears me get up.

And we won't even get into the concept of trying to get my own body/brain relaxed enough to sleep when I'm finally able to go. With this messed up schedule, sometimes I just can't get to sleep when I finally hit the pillow.

It wreaks havoc on any "planning." Like, some of the shows I like that she doesn't, I'll tape. But I never know when I sit down to watch if she's going to ring for me, get up or whatever. Many's the time I start a show, have to stop it, take out the tape and get another one ready for things she likes to watch (when we have to tape one and watch another).

Dinners are almost impossible to plan. Like, if she decides she wants a roast. But she could crawl out of bed anytime between 10am and 9pm. And of course she wants breakfast first, and then dinner later "when she feels like it." So, when do I put the damn roast in the oven?

And then there's the times I need to go out to the store, pharmacy, etc. I can't comfortably leave her alone when she's up, unless I hide the booze. But even sober, she's pretty unstable on her feet, and could lose her balance and fall. So again, I have to do those things while she's in bed.

And then there's also the times when we plan something with one of my sisters, and we've all told her we need to get to bed early cause everyone is coming over early. Last Saturday, we did a get together for my birthday. Plan was that sis would be here around 2pm. Mom wanted to get up at 10 to get up and moving (she takes a LONG time to get moving), and get in a shower before they all showed up. For her to get up at 10, I need to set my own alarm for 9. So what does she do the "night" before? Goes to bed at 7am.

And to suggest a real schedule to her? HA! No freaking way. You see, I'm still "just" the child, and I have no right to tell her what to do (at least, in her eyes).

Sorry, I probably just sound like a whiner. I just need to vent once in a while.

Thanks for listening.

Mocha
Member

08-12-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 10:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Venting is always good. Is there some way you can get someone to stay with her for like 1 day a month or every other week so you can do stuff? (((Hugs)))

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Sunday, February 27, 2005 - 10:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Who, do you have respite care available where you live?