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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:08 pm
^5 Maris!
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Maris
Member
03-28-2002
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:10 pm
The way I see it, I am offering advice to someone regarding a problem with a third person. I am not sure I would get involved if Ll said her child was a compulsive liar and wasn't doing her schoolwork. I dont have the skillsets to advise someone whose child has what apparently are some real issues. I would probably just suggest she get counselling.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:14 pm
That's fair. I have just noticed that it seems like we are freer here with our advice to each other, and but when it comes to the 'real world' people have more of a hands off/don't get involved attitude.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:17 pm
Yep Texannie, because there's a degree of anonymty here. In the 'real world' I know alot of people who don't want you telling them how to raise their kids. And I'm one of them lol.
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Maris
Member
03-28-2002
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:18 pm
Me too Mocha, I imagine how I would feel if someone said they wanted to help me raise a well adjusted child like theirs. Someone would have to peel them off the pavement
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:20 pm
That is true. Just like some posters here ask for advice and some never do. The real world is more "real"--if that makes sense. I am more bold/honest here stating my opinions than I am in the real world.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:27 pm
Well, Maris, I would be insulted if someone said that too! LOL I guess my friends and I just have different relationships. (that kind of 'it takes a village' attitude)
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Maris
Member
03-28-2002
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:31 pm
True Texannie and I guess too I live in an urban area and am the parent of a boy. I dont understand girls which may also factor into how i would handle the matter. I have been friendly to soccer moms for many years but I just never stepped over that line of let's be friends. My son has very good friends but I dont socialize with the parents and have very little interactions with them other than making sure the kids get home when they need to or I talk to the parents to make sure that their kid really is allowed to go to that R movie with me. Some of these parents I have known for 8 years.
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Ladytex
Member
09-27-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 1:50 pm
I don't know exactly how to say this ... Girls have too much drama in their lives. They're friends today, enemies tomorrow, and friends again the next day. Stay out of it. If you don't, and they become friends again next week, there could be not so good feelings if the parents get involved. I've been on the receiving end too many times of my daughter coming home to tell me that so and so did this and I can't stand her anymore, she's nothing but a liar and then next week I see them sitting together at the softball game, so ...just my as the mother of a daughter. I listen, comfort, if necessary, and then move on.
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 2:05 pm
Lol Ladyt, the boys have gone thru the same thing.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 2:13 pm
Well, I have one of each..different dramas! LOL I live in a huge city, but a small neighbhorhood. It's nice. All of us parents are pretty good friends. Do all sort of social things together too. It's also really hard for the kids to screw up too badly cause someone is always watching.
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 2:31 pm
This is typical kids stuff. Samantha, without your interference, is going to have to learn how to get along with others, how to play nice, etc. Or she isn't going to have any friends. She is trying to force Hilary into submission and using her tenderness to do so. You have told Hilary that she DOES NOT have to be Samantha's friend, so let it rest at that. If they aren't friends then do you still have to drive her around? Nope. Let the other mother know that you will not be driving Samantha around any more as her and Hilary just can't get along. Samantha will either come around and learn to get along, or her and her mother have a long road ahead of them. Either way, it's not your problem. Offer your support and understanding and reassurance to your daughter. Let her know that it is alright to have a wide range of friends, and often friends do grow apart as time goes on and kids grow up. It's just life.
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Hippyt
Member
06-15-2001
| Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 2:52 pm
Well,I have absolutely nothing helpful to say on this subject. Hey LL! 
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Danas15146
Member
03-31-2004
| Wednesday, March 23, 2005 - 8:26 am
I would have to agree with Mocha & Maris on this one. I do have a few of the kids parents that I am also friends with that I would feel comfortable offering advice if asked - but for the most part I don't want to seem like I am "attacking" someone's child. LL I think you have done the best thing you can by letting Hilary know that she doesn't have to be friends with this girl if she is not being nice. Hopefully Samantha will learn that she is going to lose a lot of friends lying and hopefully her mom will see that there is a bigger issue going on and get the child some counseling. Good luck!
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Llkoolaid
Member
08-01-2001
| Wednesday, March 23, 2005 - 3:30 pm
Issue is resolved for now. The mom called me last night as I expected but what I didn't expect was what she had to say. Seems her daughter was upset and told her that she was mean to Hilary and that Hilary was mad at her and she didn't know how to fix it. She owned up to lying and had a good talk with her mom. Anyway to make a long story short we agreed to let the girls work it out on their own. They were talking on the phone today, lol.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, March 23, 2005 - 3:33 pm
Aw..how sweet. I hope the girls can work it out or at least end their friendship on a positive note. I wish my dd's bully would come to her senses like that!
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