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Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Wednesday, February 09, 2005 - 5:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I didn't breastfeed either of mine. With Justin we waited until 5 or 6 months to introduce solids (I think the guidelines have something to do with food alergies -- the earlier they get solids the more likely they are to develop food alergies). Samantha started solids around four months -- she was definately hungry. She would just grab for everyone's food/utensil. We talked to her dr. first - and he said he thought she was ready.

I hear what Julie is saying, but to play devil's advocate, my mom watches my kids during the day and with certain things I feel like I am obligated to bend to her way since she is doing us a huge favor and I know she would not do anything to hurt either of my kids. But at times I feel like what I want is not being taken into consideration and it is not like a normal sitter that I could just say "Hey, these are my kids and I want it done my way."

Graceunderfyre
Member

01-21-2004

Wednesday, February 09, 2005 - 7:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Julie - I breastfed Jai until he was ready to try other things. I did put rice cereal in his bottle when he was like 3 or 4 months old (maybe even younger) a few times but I didn't feel like it made a difference in sleeping through the night and it was so much effort to pump and put a bottle together that I stopped doing that.

I know everyone has their opinions on how long to breastfeed and when to add other foods, but it's def. up to mom. Of course, I also think mom needs to listen to the caregiver and at least consider what you have to say. I wonder if you need to be more direct with her or talk to her DH about it.

Also, I'm not absolutely positive about this, but I seem to recall a friend's baby used to have super runny poops that leaked through all diapers because she was being fed TOO much. Her dad was the primary care giver and would stick the bottle in her mouth whenever she cried and it took us telling mom there was a problem that got the baby to a doctor for them to figure it out. I'm not saying that you may be giving Ella too much - I'm just wondering if maybe Ella needs to see a doc if the poops are uncontainable. It seems like at that age, they shouldn't be like that. Jai's poops were loose but they weren't always runny (more like cottage cheese or yogurt if you really want to know :-)) It does sound like she may have digestion issues and maybe the doctor does want her to have solids a little sooner. . . or maybe mom needs to be eating something different - I know when I ate tomatos it gave Jai a horrible stomach ache.

Kimmo
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05-02-2003

Thursday, February 10, 2005 - 1:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wow, a lot has happened in a week! Rowan seems to really like being the big brother. We all went to Ada's 2 week checkup (10 lbs, 13 oz and 21.25 inches now), and Rowan sat with her on the exam table and kept wanting to kiss her-- So cute. The doctor said I could hold off on solids till 6 months.

As for Ella's situation, I agree if her stools seem too loose that maybe the mom needs to change her diet or ask the ped if that could be the case, before starting cereal. I remember drinking a Coke one time and that caused diarrhea. What if the BMs meant Ella has digestive probs that cereal would just exacerbate?

Or, what is the lag time between the milk supply you're using and what the mom is currently producing? When I went back to work with Rowan I had built up a 2-month "backlog" but by 4-5 months was working with a 1-week backlog. Milk changes to fit baby's needs so maybe the supply (if on backlog) isn't in sync with what the baby now needs, and thus causes some problems.

If she has a big "backlog" then she might need to stop one of her daily pumping sessions to get supply in sync with baby's needs-- Or maybe you need to dump some older milk. I'd bet there is more info about this on the LaLeche League website-- But talking to mom/ped 1st seems best.

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Thursday, February 10, 2005 - 7:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks. She pretty much drinks what mom pumps the day before. So 90% of the milk is less than 24 hrs. old. Her mom can pump a lot! I thought I pumped a lot, but i would get maybe 6 oz. a day. 8 if I had a chance to pump twice. Ella's mom can easily pump 14 oz or more... Ella was just at the doc for her 4 mo. checkup. I don't think E has any digestive problems cuz she is a happy little clam all the time.

Grace, that is interesting about maybe too much milk. I will have to try and not feed her everytime she starts sqwaking and see if maybe she is not as hungry as I think. Maybe she really is getting too much milk.

My thought is to try the cereal and see if that helps, but mom does not seem interested in that. Oh well.

Kimmo, that is so sweet that Rowan wants to kiss Ada. Ryan did not want to go to school this morning cuz he wanted to stay home and play with Ella. Then he asked if she could have a sleepover! he is very cute with her.

Kimmo, where are some pictures of R&A?

Graceunderfyre
Member

01-21-2004

Thursday, February 10, 2005 - 12:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Julie you can try giving her water if she seems like she wants something in her mouth too :-)

Kimmo
Member

05-02-2003

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 11:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Julie, I have just been really bad about taking pictures lately-- Here is one (hopefully, since I'm still on DH's laptop) from the hospital... When Rowan first visited, DH elected to use the digital video camera and I am definitely not set up right now to edit the footage for photos! I think I need to get my PC into a shop or just buy a new one.

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 11:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hi all, I introduced cereal at 5 mths with Nate. Breastmilk is all they need in the first 4-6 mths. I dunno... hard situation.
Glad to hear Ada is doing well. We're finding it busy here with Nate so into the 2s and Starr eating and sleeping erratically. It's all good though.
Here's a photo of Starr at 8 wks old (2 wks ago).
starr

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 11:57 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
How cute is she!!!!

Herckleperckle
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11-20-2003

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 12:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Julieboo,

I exclusively breastfed my dd through 6 months of age, without introducing any solids. The reasons, (as I recall, anyway), were that the longer you breastfed:

1. the more you built up the child's antibodies, and

2. the less likely a child will develop allergies, and

3. The less likely a child would develop obesity problems later in life


Sorry, Julieboo, but as long as the mom is aware of the runny stools and is talking about them with her pediatrician, I think the mom calls the shots.

I did not breastfeed my firstborn (son), btw. But only because his congenital problems made it very difficult to do so.

Today, my two are adults.

My dd has no allergies. My son is allergic to almost everything.

My son and dd are rarely sick now --but both were 'ear' children, like their mom, and constantly suffered from ear infections from infancy onward.

Both are slim.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 12:58 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
What are you sorry about? I actually wasn't trying to call the shots.

Also I was not talking at all about stopping the breastmilk.

With my son, as soon as I stopped breastfeeding, he all of a sudden went into ear infections-coincidence? I don't know. But I sure loved breastfeeding. And it is so much cheaper and easier than a bottle!

Bottom line--I was just looking to see if there really is a benefit to not introducing cereal til 6 mos. Not cutting the breastmilk out at all, as you can mix the cereal with pumped breastmilk.


Danas15146
Member

03-31-2004

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 1:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lisa -- she is getting so big! What a beautiful little girl.

Herckleperckle
Member

11-20-2003

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 1:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
JB, that was just a figure of speech. I could see you weren't doing that at all! Wasn't trying to give that impression at all--sorry.

I will try to (without any real knowledge, though) be more responsive to your actual question: As long as the child is thriving, I think the child should remain on breastmilk alone thru 6 months of age.

It is my belief that a lot of moms start food earlier for reasons of convenience (having baby sleep thru the night) or because that's what their moms did--rather than for any valid medical reason.

ETA: Just spotted that darling pic of Starr! She is a real cutie!

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 1:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I started ds on cereal at 4 mos cuz that is what my pediatrician said. He also said it is a fallacy that cereal will help them sleep thru the night. But he did say breastmilk digests easier and faster, so on average, formula babies sleep thru the night longer.

Oh HP, you never need to be sorry! :-)

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 7:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Here's a tip that i talked about in the SuperNanny thread. It's for kids just about any age over the age of 2. It is a sticker chart. Here's a picture of the last one we used:

This is how I use it:
With my sticker charts, what I do is get a "reward" (or even a picture of the reward can do). Then I make a chart with however many squares I deem that reward is worth. (bigger the prize, the more squares.)

Now since I don't want him to think he will be rewarded every single time, he will only get a sticker randomly. But if I really want him to behave or do something, then I will specify that he'll get a sticker for that particular time.

It works great. And it is really nice cuz I can reward him for good behavior when I don't even request it. Let's say he puts his dishes in the sink (or whatever) without me even asking him to, then I'll tell him he gets a sticker for that good thing.

As a deterrent for bad behavior, I put a small circle on the bottom of the chart for bad behavior. Then he has to get an extra star (sticker) to cover that up before he can continue on...

Here is the last one we used. Before we made it I brought him to the store with me and made a big deal of making it. He got to choose the posterboard. The bottom stars are covering his "naughty circles" (I do not call them that. But I bet Jo-jo would!!!) He was working towards two prizes-the spiderman game and markers that you can draw on windows with.

Julieboo
Member

02-05-2002

Friday, February 11, 2005 - 7:38 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Many children love merely getting a sticker, so this chart kinda does double duty in rewarding.

Enbwife
Member

08-14-2000

Sunday, February 13, 2005 - 11:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
What happened to Nanny 911?? I liked that better than Supernanny. We're doing the marble jar in our house with Nate. If he helps us clean up, uses the potty, has good sleep, etc. he gets a marble. When he reaches the line, he gets to choose a toy from the new toy box (all $ store items he chose himself). It seems to work for him. He couldn't care less about stickers but loves putting the marbles in the marble jar.

We've been having some real issues with Nate lately. I guess it's all related to Starr even though on the outside everything looks great. He loves her and hugs her but I guess he's acting out in other ways. He's been waking up at night and walking around the house... he's peeing his pants... we're just about at our wits end. We know it's all a control issue, so we're no longer going in his room when he calls us (we were going in about 10 times a night which just reinforced the waking), and he's back in diapers. Sad and disappointing but we know if we take away the control issue it will get better and already has. I guess I was expecting too much thinking the arrival of the baby had not affected him at all. Hopefully we're on our way back to sanity in our house again... :-)

Lancecrossfire
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07-13-2000

Sunday, February 13, 2005 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I hope so too Lisa--I bet he will come around and get back to his old routine. I hope Starr is doing well--and I hope you and Neil are doing well too. I'm betting both of you are quite busy these days!

Vee
Member

02-23-2004

Sunday, February 13, 2005 - 6:26 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Starr is so adorable and I see that she still has her grin intact! Hope that Nate's "control" issues resolve themselves soon. All firstborns suffer the same fate, eh?

Danas15146
Member

03-31-2004

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 6:00 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lisa - I'm sure Nate will get back to normal soon. It is such a big adjustment. I can remember finding Justin under the table with one of Samantha's pacifers after she was born (he had given his up a few months before that). Good luck & I am sure things will be back to normal very soon.

Skootz
Member

07-23-2003

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 6:10 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Sounds like Nate just needs some real "Nate" time. I am sure you already do this, but set aside some of the day just for him. Baby cries, baby get attention, baby poops or pees, baby gets attention by a diaper changing. Been there Lisa, just takes a bit to get over the hump.

Enbwife
Member

08-14-2000

Monday, February 14, 2005 - 1:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
You're all right. I need to make more time for him with just me, no baby around. I'll make more of an effort to give him his bath or put him to bed and leave Starr with Neil rather than bringing her along. It's funny - since we put him in pull-ups, he's asked to go to the potty 4 times in 2 days. Before, he might ask once a week if we were lucky. We would have to take him and strongly encourage him every couple of hours. I'm SO glad we don't have to do that right now. Too stressful!!

Skootz
Member

07-23-2003

Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 6:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I got my dd's hearing tested today and it was fine. They also did a CAP test (central audio processing test) this test tells how the information that the child hears is processed in her brain..well not too good results came from this test.

They used back ground noise etc. to do this and if there are 2 people talking at once and she is to listen to the person talking on her right side, she only can hear 50% of what is being said...90-100% is normal. On her left side she got 0% - 70% is normal. SO it was really disappointing how bad it was.

She is to have her right ear to the teacher and be at the front of class (she already is there) and have no one on her right and a quiet person to her left.

I was told that she has a CAP Deficit or Selective Attention Deficit, which I guess means she cannot hear 2 things at once. They are going to do some FM Evaluation at the end of March and some other test. If the levels from above don't improve they will have the teacher amplified and speakers throughout the room so she will be able to hear only the teacher..

Does anyone have any knowledge or experience with this? I was trying to research it on the net and the only thing it keeps coming back to is ADD etc. and she does not have that.

Thanks.

Sewmommy
Member

07-06-2004

Wednesday, February 16, 2005 - 6:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hey Skootz, while I don't have experience with exactly what you are going through I can somewhat relate. After several years of frustration dd 8 was recently diagnosed with adhd, inattentive type. Its frustrating to say the least but I hope you can get some positive results soon.
I went to Google and searched CAPD, there are quite a few websites listed. This on was on top
http://pages.cthome.net/cbristol/capd.html
(I hope that works)
Hang in there

Skootz
Member

07-23-2003

Thursday, February 17, 2005 - 4:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks Sewmommy, I knew there must be another way to search it and there had to be information on the net about it. I never thought of looking up CAPD or by using the word disorder.


Enbwife
Member

08-14-2000

Monday, February 28, 2005 - 1:23 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I took Nate swimming this morning, just the 2 of us and it was sooo nice. I miss doing that stuff with him. He told me he had to pee while we were there too (huge!!!).

How's life with 2 Kimmo? Are you adjusting ok? Starr is 3 months old tomorrow!!! So sad to see her grow so fast. :-(