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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 10:54 am
You do not sound awful just cuz you want a dog that is small and looks a certain way. (like a beagle). Nothing wrong with that at all...
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 12:08 pm
well, I just have to share this with you all since you have been active in my search for a family dog. I have bene in contact via email with a few different adoption sites and each requested as much information about our quest for a dog as possible. In each of my emails I outlined my own history with rescued animals, the fact that I am now a stay at home mom, the specs of our home (such as a HUGE backyard) and in complete honesty my daughters fear of large dogs (she was bitten by a small dog when she was a baby and ever since has been scared of large dogs-however NOT small ones) Each one of these places responded by saying they could not allow me to adopt an dog from them because of my daughters fears. I don't know what to do here. I know my daughter, and I think I am a very good mother. I obviously wouldn't be looking for a dog if I felt she couldn't deal with it(in fact she is the one that started this process by begging us for a Pug) and I would NEVER EVER intentionaly put her in harms way. I am hurt that these places would refuse us just for that reason. I know they are just trying to cover their own tracks, but still. I want to let some of my steam go before responding back....any ideas on a way to get around this?
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 12:25 pm
Silly let me tell ya--I know EXACTLY what you mean and what you are going thru. About 3 years ago, my son was 2 and a handful. I cannot tell you how frustrated I was cuz several groups did not want to adopt to us just cuz we had a two year old. I could write a lot (but I've already written a lot today!) about all the frustration. All I can say is keep looking. Maybe keep your dd's fears to yourself and just tell them you only want a small dog. (Though if you start off w/ a small puppy, I bet your dd would adapt as he/she grows larger) I thought we had the perfect family/housing. etc and was so surprised that we were turned down quite often. There are many shelters that have tough standards and many that have lower standards. it is just a matter of persistence. Don't let these shelters get ya down. I think you know my opinion of dog stores/breeders--well after getting frustrated, I actually considered going that route. But changed my mind after calming down a bit and searching a little more. Good luck!!!
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 12:30 pm
Thanks Julieboo. My blood isn't boiling anymore. I've settled down a bit Lesson learned here I suppose-honesty is not the always the best policy. I know they are just trying to put these animals into good permanent homes. I was just frustrated that their first response was a flat out no rather than discussing the issue more with me. Emails are not always the best form of communication in my opinion and words can be misconstrued. I am not giving up though. I am determined to find the right pal for us and I know it will not be found in one day!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 12:44 pm
Good for you silli! I was hurt and evenn downright pissed that i was denied. Here I thought i was doing a good thing and they'd be dying to get me to adopt... Oh well. They just get burned by people all the time. Even good sounding families sometimes let animals down for stupid reasons, so I think many shelters, etc get very picky. Please don't be hurt by them. I think you are being smart, taking your time and researching! Good luck and soon you will be so happy with your new dog! (And that dog is gonna be happy and lucky too!)
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Calamity
Member
10-18-2001
| Tuesday, August 24, 2004 - 1:03 pm
Sillycalimomma: Wishing you the best of luck in your doggy search! Julieboo: Thanks for the advice and kind words. I'm not looking for a perfect dog - just a friendly, playful one who likes cats, kids, and cars! I prefer mutts to purebreeds, bigger dogs to tiny ones, and while puppies are adorable, an adult would probably be better since I live alone and work during the day. My dog Alex, who passed away last year, came with me to work everyday. He was such a sweetheart. I dogsat for my neighbors last week - they have a Shih Tzu (his coat is trimmed though - only his tail and ears have long fur). He's so cute but so small it was like having a cat you have to take outside, lol.
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Lostintheglades
Member
07-10-2000
| Wednesday, August 25, 2004 - 3:19 am
I too was turned down to adopt a cat about 10 years ago. Because we rented? Even though our condo allowed pets, we had no dogs in the house at the time because they were both at the horse farm where my dh was training and teaching at the time. We had lost our cat during Andrew and had re-located here. I too was mad because my dd's were little at the time and really missing their cat. I ended up finding one in the paper, "free to good home". They are careful because they don't want the animal returned so maybe they were afraid we would be moving and unable to take the cat with us. This time it was just the opposite. Maybe because they had so many animals due to the hurricane they just wanted to place them. They asked if our dog and cats shots were current but didn't ask for any proof. (They are of course but still...) It took all of 5 minutes to walk out the door with our new puppy. Silly...I would withhold the information on your daughters fear. Get a puppy and they can grow and learn together. Cane is doing great btw...no accidents since Saturday but he still insists on being a lap dog. At 32 pounds now, he's not going to fit in the chair he's sleeping on right now in a few more months.
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Wednesday, August 25, 2004 - 6:32 am
Thanks Lost- I was pretty upset yesterday about it all. I see their reasoning for it, but what really upset me was their first reaction was a flat out no without further discussing it with me. I couldn't believe they would be so quick to turn down what I think is a great home for any dog. Other than the fact that I have a child (which really-at the age of 7 should that really matter as much....and as far as her fear of large dogs-that issues should be in the hands of her parents I think)We have a huge roomy home with a huge backyard. Someone is home almost 95% of the time and everyone in my family is an animal lover. I am sure that any dog that came to live with us would certainly live the pampered life-which a rescue dog deserves. Oh well-I'm over it now-can't you tell? These places only communicated with me via email so I think I will just give it some time and have DH do the next round-sneaky I know, but hey..... The search continues!
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 9:05 am
Well, I am going to go look at this little guy today. It will be a one hour drive, but he looks worth it maybe. He is a Beagle mix although they are not sure of what (they don't know the father) He was the only pup to make it though 5 were born. He's 12 weeks old and $100 since they did remove his dewclaws and give him his shots/dewormed. They live out on a farm so he has been an outside dog up to now too (probably has fleas!) I am in for it I suppose if I take him, I don't know, but we shall see-keep you all posted!

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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 9:47 am
He is tooo cute!!!! GO get him!
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Spygirl
Moderator
04-23-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 10:24 am
Awwww!! How adorable! Best of luck!
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Herckleperckle
Member
11-20-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 10:45 am
I love him! Wishing you the best, Silly, with your new family member!
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Hippyt
Member
06-15-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 10:50 am
Oh,he's adorable!
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Bandit
Member
07-29-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 11:36 am
I agree--that has to be the cutest face I have ever seen! Hope you come home with him!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 1:10 pm
Did you get him? Why did his littermates not make it? Did their vet say he is healthy? And most importantly, what is his name?
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Lostintheglades
Member
07-10-2000
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 2:55 pm
OMG Silly!!! I'd have picked that little guy up in a heart beat. Look at that kissable little face!
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 3:07 pm
We got him! I just couldn't resist. Just got back from a quick check up from the vet and everything seems to be in shape! The people who owned him were an older couple actually in their 70's that lived on a farm. The mother was aloud to roam free and they had no idea she had the puppies until they went searching for her after not seeing her for 3 days. I guess that has something to do with the others not making it. He was a fighter I guess. He is the cutest thing, but just wimpers wimpers wimpers. Hopefully that won't last too long. We don't have a name yet-although dd wants to name him Buddy. Gotta get back to puppy proofing the home! Catch up here later (I hope) Yay! I am a dog owner again!
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 3:18 pm
How did you find out about him? Buddy is a great name for a little dog! He is soo cute! Congrats!
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 5:44 pm
Julieboo-My dad had been talking about my issues with adopting the other day at work and a lady he worked with knew about the couple. They were just going to keep him actually, but she convinced them that I could give him a better home than a life on a farm where he would hardly be cared for. They were actually trying to get me to take the mother too, but I just can't right now-maybe once we get through the adjustment of this little guy. It's weird how things just fall into place like that sometimes....
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 5:45 pm
Here are two new pictures of "Buddy!"

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Hippyt
Member
06-15-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 5:50 pm
Oh my goodness! How precious!
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Tess
Member
04-13-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 6:01 pm
Awwww, that has to be one of the cutest pups I've ever seen. JujuBuddy. What a great name for a pup!
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Sillycalimomma
Member
11-13-2003
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 6:14 pm
Thanks guys! We still don't really know what he is mixed with. The vet thought maybe a JRT because he is very small for being 12 weeks. His hair is kind of long in some places too. He is just too cute-although he hasn't really stopped wimpering since we got him. Hopefully it will not take him long to readjust to us and living indoors. I thought I was ready for this, but now I see I may just be in a little over my head! He needs his nails clipped for one and I am terrified of it! I don't want to hurt him...oh well-gotta run-puppy stuff!
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 9:01 pm
JujuBuddy is just about the cutest dawg ever!

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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Thursday, August 26, 2004 - 9:10 pm
What a cutie pie!
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