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Mygetaway
| Tuesday, January 13, 2004 - 12:11 am
Melfie that really is a cool idea!! I'm really happy for you MsMoon and am enjoying reading all the posts with your and other's ideas..
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Sunrvrose
| Tuesday, January 13, 2004 - 1:53 am
Moondance, Best Wishes. All of your ideas sound just perfect. Planting a tree in honor of your marriage is an especially lovely idea and combining soils from areas of you and your fiancee's heritages is a wonderful idea. If you cannot find a native official, perhaps you could use a regular protestant to officiate and a non official native american to bless the ceremony and perform native rituals for you. I know that I don't often post, but whenever there is a post that involves you, it piques my interest, and it is always such a positive message that you send. Even in the midst of the fires, you were so calm, so focused and thinking of others. As I recall, your Cowboy proposed just after the fires. Seems like he found his priorities, just right. Best wishes again. And come to think of it, maybe a trip to Reno in May would be a nice extended honeymoon. So far, a few of us are planning to go to Reno May 15 weekend.
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Danzdol
| Tuesday, January 13, 2004 - 7:54 am
Moon congrats! Here are a couple of things that we did at our wedding that can maybe be adapted to yours...
We wrote our own ceremony after researching all over the place and focused on making it romantic/spiritual vs religious (he is Jewish I am catholic- too much religion ). We had a judge friend of the family marry us using what we wrote.
We did not say "until death do you apart". I feel that we are stuck with each other forever you know? Why should death separate us? How much scarier.........
The guests listened to Enya prior to the ceremony and my court entered with the Top Gun Anthem which is really great and not the usual songs used in weddings. I did use the traditional wedding song to enter.
Instead of giving our backs to our guests, we had the judge give his back to our guests and we faced everyone. What is the point of our guests going to the wedding and not seeing our facial reactions during the wedding? Usually you just see the back of the bride and groom.
Fortune cookies in each place setting prior to dinner.
Instead of a table number for the guests each table had the name of a romantic movie. We also did it by the kind of people that were sitting at each table. For example-For an older table we did "Somewhere in time" for a younger table we did" Titanic". Each card had a tiny picture of the movie poster and each table had the matching 5 x 7 movie poster.
We gave out home bakes chocolate chips cookies in brown paper bags at the very end. Yummy!
We finished the ceremony by making a big circle with the guests and danced to "What a wonderful world" while the guests did the bubbles. It looks beautiful on video!
We did the unity candles. My mom and his mom lit one each and we then took their 2 candles and joined them in the main one. (One was about to tip over so it was funny trying to keep it straight)
Since I am big on the dance music, we made sure the music was varied and by "styles". Dance, Salsa, Disco, Hip-Hop, Raggae, etc.
Instead of the usual eat first and dance later we immediately went into dance music after our introductions, the court, te parents and our dance. Then they served the salad followed by another set of music. Then they served dinner followed by another music set. This way everyone was constantly enjoying the party. I hate when we go to weddings and you sit there so long you get sleepy . By the time the music comes you would much rather go home so we put emphasis on having fun rather then sitting down and eating forever.
The last set of songs we took out maraccas, leis, hats, poms, whistles, noise makers and the host led dance games and guided the guest into doing silly moves. oops sorry this got so long!
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Mygetaway
| Tuesday, January 13, 2004 - 5:10 pm
Danzdol wrote: Instead of giving our backs to our guests, we had the judge give his back to our guests and we faced everyone. What is the point of our guests going to the wedding and not seeing our facial reactions during the wedding? Usually you just see the back of the bride and groom. I LOVE this and have always wondered why more people don't do it that way!!
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Twiggyish
| Tuesday, January 13, 2004 - 6:27 pm
Love your ideas Danzdol...too bad I didn't know you 23 years ago when planning my wedding. My tip to this whole wedding thread has to do with the bride's flowers and make-up. When I was being fitted for my wedding gown, I was told to make sure my flowers blended with my gown. They said many brides choose bright or large bouquets which will take the eye away from the bride. The flowers should compliment the bride and not be the focus. They also told me to wear light make-up and light lipstick (nothing bright) You want the focus to be on you and not on your make-up or flowers. I thought those were good tips and so I've passed them on through the years. =)
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Herckleperckle
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 12:43 am
Moondance, this is so exciting to follow! It is incredibly unselfish of you to let us all enjoy the fun and offer suggestions. I would love for you to post a picture of you with Cowboy in this thread--now, before the wedding, I mean! Could you do that?

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Strawberry
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 5:01 am
Moonie...sounds like the wedding plans are coming along nicely. You have some really cool ideas. I especially like the quilt from your Gramma. That's a really nice touch. Danzdol, your wedding sounds like it was tons of fun. Thanks for sharing. You used lots of great ideas at your wedding and I love the Top Gun Anthem. That's an awesome idea. You left me wanting to hear lots more about your wedding!
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Midlifer
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 8:44 am
Congrats to you both, Moon! I'd like to see pics, too! My daughter just got married last April...it was lovely and dignified. But my younger daughter (the bride's sister/maid of honor) livened it up a bit by getting the bridesmaids to line up and moon the bride/groom as they were leaving the reception. She could do that for you for a price!

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Luvmyjrt
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 9:11 am
Congrats, Moom and Cowboy! I noticed you are looking for a way to include your departed father in your ceremony. I too, lost my father at 17. When I was married, my mother walked me down the aisle and when asked "Who gives this woman" she said "Her father and I do". I had no idea she had planned this............a very special and touching moment!
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Moondance
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 10:34 am
That's so great Luvmyjrt... I really like that! I am also going to carry a favorite pix I have of me in his lap as a kid in my bouquet. Danzol, what GREAT ideas ... thank you so much. I love the one with us facing the guests! Thank you so much. Twiggs I agree! Good advice on the flowers... I am going to wrap the flowers in my bouquet in twine and silk ribbon that matches my dress ... it is an antique tan-cream ... hard to explain the color of my dress. It is darker than ivory. Midlifer... I really don't have any good pix of Cowboy and I... he is also a bit shy. I am having a friend of mine do some black and whites of us in Feb so I will post one then, okay? also can I hire your daughter???LOL
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Moondance
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 10:36 am
Sunrvrose - I am going to take your advice and have a Native Elder Bless the Ceremony then be married by a Pastor. THANK you!
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Moondance
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 10:37 am
Still looking for a WEBCAM! Calling all geeks!!! (I am one too! 21%)
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Midlifer
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 11:02 am
Moon, my daugher would probably moon "Moon" for FREE! LOL She did that to me when I was moving her out of the dorm her Freshman year. She had a corner window, and there she was yelling at me to look up and showing her big moon in the window (I was outside, putting stuff in the car). I shouted back at her, "I diapered that butt! Do you think I'm impressed?"
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Llkoolaid
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 11:05 am
luvmyjrt, you made me cry.
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Luvmyjrt
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 11:25 am
I cried too, LL......but I certainly felt his presence 18 years ago on that day, and I still feel like the man I married is a Xerox copy of my father. Both absolutely wonderful men! I will never forget my mother doing that and the chills I got!
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Draheid
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 12:32 pm
First let me say Congratulations Moondance & Cowboy! I'm not really a geek but I play one on TVCH. If you haven't already selected the location for your ceremony, you might put 'webcam' on the criteria for selection. There are a number of facilities that offer the option of having the ceremony cyber-cast live. If that isn't feasible or you've already selected the place then there are a few things that need to be explored to determine if webcam is practical. Such as is there an internet connection available with sufficient speed to carry a webcam signal? If not, is wireless an option? If none of this makes sense, or you have other questions or answers to these, please let me know and I will try to help.
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Hippyt
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 1:05 pm
Moonie,if you're gonna do a unity candle,make sure they take your height into consideration. At my wedding,whoever set it up thought I was some kind of freakish giant. When we went to light it,I was tottering on my tip-toes trying to light the dang thing,and it took forever,cause I couldn't even see the wick!
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Texannie
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 1:52 pm
A really wonderful piece of advice that I was given seems kind of obvious, but I was glad it was given to me. (of course this was all before video so it may not be as important now! LOL) Take time to really LOOK at everything...look at your guests faces as you walk down the aisle, really look at Cowboy's face while ya'll are exchanging the vows. And most importantly, enjoy yourself!
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Midlifer
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 2:04 pm
Tex is sooooooo right. I missed so much at my own wedding, I was determined to observe every detail at my daughter's wedding in April. And I did just that. The photographer took a close-up picture of me watching my daughter dance with my husband (her daddy) because I was just so HAPPY that they could do that (I never got the chance because my dad had died before my wedding). I love that picture of me, just because it shows how I feel.
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Meme9
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 3:33 pm
Congrats Moon & Cowboy!!!!
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Moondance
| Wednesday, January 14, 2004 - 3:39 pm
LOL Hippy! Will do! Luvmyjrt, I feel my Dad too ... everyday! That is how I feel about Cowboy ... he is A LOT like my Dad too! Same hair, eyes, height. Both Mechanical Engineers, Boy Scout leaders, headstrong;) and just great guys
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Danzdol
| Thursday, January 15, 2004 - 7:13 am
Oh yeah one more thing, make sure you hold your bouquet down below/around your belly button. Noone told me and I held mine up in front of my chest and I look like a dork in some pictures as if I was carrying something very fragile. At least I laugh at it now!
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Jewels
| Thursday, January 15, 2004 - 8:54 am
I agree about remembering to hold your flowers down, somebody gave me that advice too. That is one of the things I always notice at weddings, brides hold their flowers to high when they walk down the aisle and then nobody can see the top of their dress! 
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Bandit
| Thursday, January 15, 2004 - 8:56 am
Those flowers get awfully heavy, so that shouldn't be too hard!
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Marej
| Thursday, January 15, 2004 - 1:26 pm
Best wishes to Moon & Cowboy!!!
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