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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 6:29 am
Wow Hermie, your Mom is really wise ... that is so true. Someone sent me something wonderful this morning. If she gives me permission I am going to share it here. I think others might find it inspirational too.
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 6:50 am
Yeah Hermione Yeah Gidget... take the time you need to heal... and you know you are a strong and wonderful person - {{{hugs}}} and love streaming your way!!!
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 6:55 am
Thank you Reader... every day the more I know the more likely that is to happen. I guess I am the type of person who has to be hit over the head with a 2x4 repeatedly sometimes.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 7:09 am
It turns out the inspirational piece I wanted to share is probably copyrighted. I will try to find a link or a way to contact the author for permission. If anyone is interested I will email it to you.
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Hermione69
Member
07-24-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 7:24 am
I'd like to read it. My email is in my profile. One last hug before I log off for awhile.... {{{GIDGET}}}
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 7:26 am
(((Hermie)))... I'll send it in a few minutes. I have 34 more minutes to goof off then it's dog and pony show time... gotta earn those bucks.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 7:48 am
Herm, I love your mom's advice!!! That is so incredibly true..now Gidget, pay attention! LOL
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Bandit
Member
07-29-2001
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 8:01 am
Glad you're feeling better this morning, Gidget.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 9:28 am
Thank you Bandit... your nickname comes with a built in smile... I always picture a yellow cartoon cat with a black mask when I see you post. No offense I hope. It is really a cute image to me.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 9:29 am
LOL Tex... I'm trying... I'm trying
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 4:32 pm
Hermione....we should start a club, the jilted, tilted, used, abused, better off, ex girlfriends club, or something to that extent. I'll bet we get a whole mess of members. That settles it, we are now co-presidents. Anyone else wanna join the Board of directors?
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Monkeyboy
Member
05-27-2001
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 4:47 pm
No boys allowed. Escapee?
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Escapee
Member
06-15-2004
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 4:48 pm
Sure, why not. we can call it the Jilted Exes.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 5:03 pm
LOL you guys. Hi Escapee. Hi Monkeyboy. Thank you for bringing some smiles to my pity party. Escapee I trust you will be setting up the official club thread? And I vote Monkeyboy invents the official handshake.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 5:04 pm
How about that? I think my good humor is coming back.
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Calamity
Member
10-18-2001
| Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - 5:25 pm
Yea Gidget! Hugs to you again!
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Bandit
Member
07-29-2001
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 9:45 am
quote:Thank you Bandit... your nickname comes with a built in smile... I always picture a yellow cartoon cat with a black mask when I see you post. No offense I hope. It is really a cute image to me.
No offense taken--I think it's great! And thanks, by the way. I'm glad I can make you smile.
And Bandit does too.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 11:05 am
Awwww.. she? he? is a beauty. I once shared my life with a cat with similar looks.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 12:57 pm
Sigh... I feel myself slipping back in to the dark. I was feeling so positive today and now I have to go find a place to cry again. This should not be affecting me so badly. I should be able to shake it off all things considered but I cant.
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Max
Member
08-12-2000
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 1:22 pm
{{{Gidget}}} I saw a gal on Oprah once who had been horribly disfigured from burns as a result of an accident when a drunk driver hit her. She had a rule: She lets herself cry whenever she feels the urge, but she only allows herself to cry for five minutes. After that, she looks at what the next thing is she needs to do for the day or the minute or whatever. Even though she faces a lifetime of surgery and pain and will never be anywhere close to "normal", she said she still recognizes that it could be worse and that others have burdens to bear as well. Anyway, the point is, let yourself cry but find something to distract you so you don't stay in that dark place. And, if it gets hard to find such a distraction, talk to your doctor or to a naturopath. There ARE medicines and herbal remedies that can help and there's no shame in taking them. I know lots of folks who have been through tough times and would have had a much harder time dealing with it all without the benefit of chemical (or herbal) assistance. It's just another tool, another helping hand that's there when you need. it.

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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 1:48 pm
I am just watching the clock waiting until I can leave work so I can go home and hibernate. I honestly cannot do anything else. Breathing is about the only task I can handle and if that was not automatic, even that would be a problem. I think everyone gets the blues or even downright depression now and then. I am particularly susceptible in the winter. And over the years I have adopted strategies that get me through. This time I am unable to use any of my strategies or self talk because everything keeps bringing me back to the same question. Why? Why would somebody mess with someone's life like that? The hurt is bigger than I can hope to express in words. I am getting divorced after 20 years. And my dh is being a bit of a child of unmarried parents about some things and even he has not affected me like this. I had no idea another person could be so toxic to my soul.
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Twiggyish
Member
08-14-2000
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 4:02 pm
((Gidget))
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 4:45 pm
Thank you Twiggs. I'm just on the emotional roller coaster from hell and they were all out of Dramamine.
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Vee
Member
02-23-2004
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 4:47 pm
Hi there, Gidget,...loved Max's advice...it's okay to cry. I read a book about grief once that suggested putting on the saddest music you could possibly find and just have at it. Yup, it is cleansing to cry...what isn't okay is to wallow because it keeps one stuck. Keep reading anything that inspires you and keep looking up. A new day is dawning and it's all for you!
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Weinermr
Member
08-18-2001
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 4:54 pm
{{{{{Gidget}}}}} There is no shame in crying. We all have to release the built up emotional pressures from time to time. Sometimes it's laughing hysterically, sometimes it's crying, sometimes a good loud long scream helps let things out. We're all here for you when you need to vent, or need a hug, or anything. Things will get better.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 5:05 pm
Thanks Vee. It is not the crying that concerns me. I have had a few hysterical bouts in my time. It is so frequently being at the edge of crying that is foreign to me. It is being so deeply affected by something I should be able to look at rationally for what it really was and shrug it off, that is worrying me. I know myself and I am worried. And unbelievably thankful for the support I am getting both here and privately. In fact thinking about that just helped me in a way. I need to keep looking at all the positive people in my life both online and off.
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Gidget
Member
07-28-2002
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 5:06 pm
Thank you Weinermr... your post made me tear up again but not in pain. I was overwhelmed by how many wonderful people there are in the world. I need to keep trying to turn my focus to them.
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Citruscitygal
Member
08-07-2003
| Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 6:22 pm
Hi Gidget, I left a message in your folder. If you want to respond, you can do it here, or in my folder, or my email is in my profile. I'm so sorry for your pain and unhappiness. ((((Gidget))))
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