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The TVClubHouse: General Discussions: 2004 May - July: Free Expressions (ARCHIVES): Boyfriend/Girlfriend from Hell...... users admin

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Rache
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05-20-2004

Friday, May 28, 2004 - 1:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We all have those exes that we love to hate...I'll share my horror stories, if you'll share yours.}}

Rache
Member

05-20-2004

Friday, May 28, 2004 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
In this thread, it's never your fault.}

Urgrace
Member

08-19-2000

Friday, May 28, 2004 - 2:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Not a horror story, just funny! My ex and his wife (who is a good friend of mine) is going to his school reunion this weekend. She says she is going to wear a nametag that says, "I'm not Grace" and he says he is going to wear a nametag that says,
"I'm with her -->
All my EX's live in Texas!"

The horror of this story is that they've been married since 1970.

Pamy
Member

01-02-2002

Friday, May 28, 2004 - 2:37 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
LOL Gracie!

Texasdeb
Member

05-23-2003

Sunday, May 30, 2004 - 2:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Well, thinking back on X's, (not going to even consider my X hubby in this one because he's a pretty good father to my 3 kids) the boyfriends have all had something negative about them:

The one I'm going to mention here was not an A$$hole. He was a very attentive person & basically had a heart of gold. So what was wrong with him???LOOSER, looser, looser. Yeh, things went pretty well while just dating so since he was living with his folks since his divorce & I had my own home, he moved in with me. He never offered to help out with any household expenses (which increased with the addition of him). He was much more of a pig than me. He liked to argue constantly with my 11 yr old daughter but my 4 yr old son loved him. Everyother weekend we would have his 7 yr old son who would totally take over my TV in the family room to play video games (yes, that's all he wanted to do & he would throw himself down on the floor & cause the worst scene if he wasn't allowed to do this). Well, boyfriend wrecked his car & couldn't afford to replace it. He had to be to work @ 7 am & I didn't have to be to my office until 9 am (I was a director so I could go in earlier - I just didn't have to). Well, I had to start getting up & getting myself & kids ready much earlier so that I could be carted off & dumped @ my office so boyfriend could take my car since he got off @ 3:30 & I didn't leave my office until around 6. This resulted in much more auto gas & of course it was all coming out of my pocket. The engine blew on my car (yes, when he was driving it) & I had to borrow the down pmt to get another car. While we were just dating, we had agreed that if I suggested going out some where I would foot the bill vise versa. Well, boyfriend stopped suggesting going out right after he moved in so I was picking up the tab for all of the entertainment too (even just calling in pizza or going out to eat). After a yr and 1/2 of this crap I was getting burnt out & sat this boyfriend down & told him that I needed him to start contributing money wise & suggested that he start giving me JUST $100 a month to help out. His reply was "I can go back & live at my Mom's for nothing, why would I want to pay you $100/month." I told him he had 1 week to do just that & that was all she wrote. I was so fed up with him at this point that any feelings I had once had were sooooo gone.

Justavice
Member

07-12-2003

Sunday, May 30, 2004 - 3:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Ok, I don't know if this pushes the boundaries of appropriateness, but how about the EX-boyfriend who taught me Gonnorhea (sp?) looks a lot like Strep throat, but will clear up in 12 hours with a great big shot in the butt.

Tishala
Member

08-01-2000

Sunday, May 30, 2004 - 5:20 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh my! Thats the BF from the lower levels of hell, vice.

Rache
Member

05-20-2004

Monday, May 31, 2004 - 9:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
That's bad..

My ex was the king of arguments. Didn't matter what it was. He tried to tell me what kind of music I was "Allowed" to listen to, what colors to wear (black was a no no) and what friends I could and couldn't hang out with on certain days (can you say "CONTROL FREAK) One day, while we were driving down the road ( I hadn't had my license, but about 1 month or so ) he started in on what I was wearing, which was a grey T shirt and blue jeans, saying he didn't approve, I got fed up and told him to shut up and that I was taking his a$$ home, he got angry and pulled the e brake on my car, in the middle of the High Way! We almost wrecked. Talk about an over possesive, controlling abusive Jerk. I have so many bad bad stories about this one. To this day, I can't even think about him without getting mad!

Justavice
Member

07-12-2003

Wednesday, June 02, 2004 - 6:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wow Rache. I don't think I'd trade the STD for the CONTROL FREAK. At least mine went away almost immediately...

Rache
Member

05-20-2004

Wednesday, June 02, 2004 - 8:33 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
What's worse than that is that 3 years after I broke up with him for CHEATING ON ME....with one of my so called "friends". He was so distraught (yeah right) that he tried to have his new girlfriend (AMAZON WOMAN)kick my A$$. How immature....

Yankee_in_ca
Member

08-01-2000

Wednesday, June 02, 2004 - 8:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I had an ex who stalked me for a while, and even broke into my new apartment and hid in the closets to watch me ... without me knowing. I found out afterwards when he was in a rage and started telling me about things he saw me do, and heard me say to other people. Oh, and he pulled a gun on me once. Needless to say, I got a restraining order.

Rache
Member

05-20-2004

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 1:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yikes!

Hermione69
Member

07-24-2002

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 1:55 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Dear heavens, Yankee, that sounds like my ex-husband to some extent. I am still terrified that he is going to track me down and show up on my doorstep one day and hurt me. He was the number one reason I uprooted myself from a place I had lived for 30 years. I had to get away from him because he wouldn't leave me alone. He raped me one night after we were divorced. And about 3 years after I left him, he was incarcerated for "taking indecent liberties with children." Now he has a file with the sex offenders registry and I can try to keep better tabs on him.

My luck hasn't changed much, although I don't think I have hooked up with any more pedophiles!! My sister told me a long time ago that when I am attracted to a man, I should run as fast as I can in the opposite direction. Sadly, that remains true to this day. But it will make for a heck of a book if I ever get around to writing it!! Bridget Jones wouldn't have anything on me!!

Yankee_in_ca
Member

08-01-2000

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 3:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hermione, it does sound like you and I could write a book. I'm sorry you had that experience.

Luckily, I think my luck changed with my current partner...and yours will too!

Costacat
Member

07-15-2000

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 5:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Not to be disrespectful to an entire profession or anything, but my "beau" last year was an attorney. EVERYTHING was a debate, and he ALWAYS had to be right. 'Nuff said!

Hippyt
Member

06-15-2001

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 5:45 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Geesh,these stories remind me of someone. I dated this condescending ass of a person for four,long long years. I'm just glad I never married him!
One night we were fighting about something,who knows what. He pushed me across the kitchen into a door and was coming across the room towards me in a rage. There was a six pack of sodas on the counter,which I picked up and slung in his face. He had to go to the emergency room and get stitches. That jerk never got physical with me again!
Finally,one night I just got fed up and told him to get out of my damn house and never come back.
He followed me around for a couple of weeks,until he realized I was serious.


Texasdeb
Member

05-23-2003

Thursday, June 03, 2004 - 6:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh - I could sure contribute to a "x's from he!!" book: I've been divorced for almost 17 yrs & I've hooked myself up with a few bad apples. I'm happy living now (for the last 9 yrs) with my manfriend from Heaven (he's not perfect but he isn't an off spring from the devil). I actually went to a women's shelter 2 different times (2 different guys) & stayed for a wk each time until I could figure out where I was going from that point. I just possibly will share with ya'll some of the horror (please realize that I have put this garbage behind me & moved on in positive ways). You folks are the greatest - sometimes we have to share even bad things about our pasts to become whole & this format sure provides a safe place to do this.

Hermione69 - thanks for sharing something so personal. I love your posts & know you are a great person (and not only because you may just love Clay Aiken more than me).

Texasdeb
Member

05-23-2003

Friday, June 11, 2004 - 8:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
"Men from HE!! that sent me to the women's shelter" I'll tell ya'll about the 1st one:
1) March 1992 - met this very handsome Italian guy, dated him maybe 5 times. He decided he owned me & he stalked me. He waited outside my home the Fri. b/4 Mem. Day wk/end & when I arrived, he attacked me. 1 front tooth was broken off at the gum line & the other front tooth was so damaged that I had to have it pulled. I was so in shock that I didn't do anything that night except contimplate. The next day I filed chgs & low & behold this jerk had a warrent in another state & got deported.



Hermione69
Member

07-24-2002

Sunday, June 13, 2004 - 4:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Scary, Texasdeb. I am so glad you were okay.

I was trying to think of something light-hearted and funny for this thread, but really, there isn't much funny about my dating history! I try to keep a sense of humor about it, but, yuck!

Rache
Member

05-20-2004

Monday, June 14, 2004 - 4:24 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
**EX UPDATE***

A mutual friend told me the other day (I didn't ask, she volunteered) that he is 10,000 times worse to his now wife (the gf from the previous post) they have a child too, and that is what is sad. As much as I dislike her, no one should have to go through this form of abuse. It's mental emotional and physical. Who's to blame for these guy's behavior? Is it their mothers, society? Whoever it is, these guys need some serious help. Heres what bothers me. I have a fear that he or someone he knows will read these threads and know it is me. I am afraid something bad is going to happen to me still. It is terrible that after all this time, I still have the underlying doubt and fear. No one should make anyone else ever feel like this. I know some of you can relate.

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Thursday, June 17, 2004 - 2:04 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
It's a funny thing about this thread, so far we are only griping about men. I like that. I have a horrible ex, but the stories go into great lengths, and I could go on an on about him. He's a combo of all of the exes from above. He should be in solitary confinement. Yes folks, he's that bad.

Sisalou
Member

07-12-2002

Saturday, June 19, 2004 - 10:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Many moons ago I went out with a biker dude. We were at some biker rally and he needed to blow his nose so he just plugged up one nostril and snorted snot out the other nostril!! He just blew his nose on the ground and wiped his hand on his jeans. I am NOT kidding.

That was the end of that!

Sisalou
Member

07-12-2002

Saturday, June 19, 2004 - 6:57 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I just wanted everyone to know that I have never and will never blow my nose like that!

Resortgirl
Member

09-23-2000

Sunday, June 20, 2004 - 4:42 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Sisalou, That form of nose blowing is quite common in the rural areas of Minnesota! I can't remember what it's called off~hand, but it does have a name... I just call it GROSS!
snot

Bookworm
Member

12-18-2001

Sunday, June 20, 2004 - 5:18 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We call it a farmer's blow in Iowa.

Resortgirl
Member

09-23-2000

Sunday, June 20, 2004 - 5:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Bookie! I think that's IT!! The first time I saw it done was in the winter, in a barn. A potential boyfriend trying to impress me!! LOL!!

Sisalou
Member

07-12-2002

Sunday, June 20, 2004 - 2:31 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Resortgirl and Bookie, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I call it gross too. Needless to say the whole incident left me speechless and thats a rarity!

Buggles
Member

09-07-2002

Sunday, June 20, 2004 - 4:12 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wow... I can't compete with these stories .. I only dated for a couple of years, then met Mr Right

But I have a heap of male *friend* stories from hell My favorite was a very close married friend in law school, the most Clinton-esque guy of our class. His wife seemed cool enough about the friendship at first, but then clearly started growing very jealous & suspicious. She told him there was 'something about me' she didn't like that she 'couldn't put her finger on'...

The reality is that I had stymied a few subtle advances, and she SHOULD have been thanking me Anyway her paranoia & his anxiety escalated to a point where he turned the whole thing around & made it look over an email with our spouses like *I* was stalking him LOL. Telling me to go f*** off basically, just to get the wife off his back. And the best part is he assumed we would still be friends

I heard last year (7 yrs later??) they were getting divorced, and it was NOT amicable

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Friday, June 25, 2004 - 8:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'll give little tid bits of terror instead of going into the whole thing.

Aside from the head games.....he once kicked me so hard in the back, I couldn't walk. And he said, it served me right and that I should apologize to him for having to do that to me.


Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Friday, June 25, 2004 - 8:14 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We should put a book together.

Texasdeb
Member

05-23-2003

Friday, June 25, 2004 - 9:12 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yeah we should - & put a copy of it @ every women's shelter in the country so that mistreated women realize that they are for sure not alone.

Hermione69
Member

07-24-2002

Friday, June 25, 2004 - 10:02 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yep. It really me up inside to be in such a relationship. I know I will be red-dotted here, but is there any other word that really covers it? And I felt SO ALONE. Even my family and friends didn't know how bad it was. It's scary how much of the blame we tend to absorb instead of putting it where it belongs. Recovery can be so hard. Good for all of us for getting out and taking the steps to move on.

Escapee
Member

06-15-2004

Friday, June 25, 2004 - 10:24 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Yeah, and then you get, "Well why did you stay with him for so long?" or "Why didn't you tell us." or my personal favorite from a family member "I knew what he was like, but you wouldn't have listened to me if I told you."