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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Wednesday, June 30, 2004 - 11:19 am
My best friend is 43 years old and has always wanted to have a child. She finally decided she did not want it to depend on her finding a mate. So she went to a fertility clinic and went through all the steps to make herself as fertile as can be and she (and I helped her) picked out a donor from a Sperm Bank and she was artificially inseminated. It worked the first time. She is now 3 months pregnant, and she had her test called CVA (it is done now instead of amnio), they say it is more conclusive and less invasive and dangerous. So, now we are waiting for the results and to find out the sex. I think and believe that the baby is fine and I am hoping she has a girl, but as long as it is healthy I am happy. I have no children, so I am living vicariously through this. LOL, I am very happy for her, she is brave. Luckily she has family to help her, she is a NYC police officer and she is retiring in 2 years.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Wednesday, June 30, 2004 - 11:30 am
Congrats to your friend Ginger! I am a single mother by choice too. Does your friend know about the national group? They have email support/discussion groups. It's really great that you're supporting her! http://mattes.home.pipeline.com/
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Wednesday, June 30, 2004 - 11:37 am
She is very brave. I can't imagine being alone at my age. That baby is very lucky. Hope the tests turn out ok!
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Ginger1218
Member
08-31-2001
| Wednesday, June 30, 2004 - 11:38 am
Brenda, that is such wonderful information. I called her and told her about it right away. Thank you so much. I am very proud of her, she made up her mind, and did not allow anybody to dissuade her, and believe me, people tried.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Wednesday, June 30, 2004 - 11:55 am
You're welcome Gina. You can also tell her NYC has a fairly large SMC (single mother by choice) population and local get togethers. She should be able to find some information and support if she desires. I never gave people the opportunity to dissuade me -- I was very pregnant and showing when I finally told my friends and coworkers. They all were very supportive and many friends were not surprised at all. They had all been wondering when I'd finally get around to it! I have a 2.5 year old daughter now and becoming a mom is the BEST thing I've ever done. It hasn't been as hard as they all say it would be and the joy has been 10 fold.
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